Are psychologists useless?

Extang0 · 2019-10-24T18:36:29+00:00

no, but you need to find the right one for you

PhaedrusHunt · 2019-10-24T19:58:05+00:00

Yeah I tell you what.

Let me give you some quick CliffsNotes first.

I was married to a borderline for 11 years. I've never heard of the red Bill or men's rights or the manosphere at that point.

It was a difficult decision to leave her but I didn't know what I was dealing with yet because I had no exit strategy I just left.

She hadn't gone thermonuclear yet.

When she realized I was actually truly gone she switched and lawyered up. Screwed me up royally.

We had two houses. I was living in our rent house, she stayed with the kids. Things were going well, I was dating, but I rebounded hard for this one girl. We had a good thing going and it moved really fast.

Then all at once: Ex files restraining order against me Ex alleges physical abuse of her and the kids Restraining orders are for both houses, both my kids schools, but I miss that detail about the second house. Bitch lied and said she lived in both residences. She shows up to the house that I've been staying at, calls the cops, and I'm arrested for violation of protective order. When I get out, I'm homeless, my focus for my last semester of grad school is non existent so I'm about to flunk out, I can't access any of my possessions, I've got just an old truck. Two months before I had two houses with a value of damn near a million, owned outright. I don't know when or if I'll ever see my kids again. And this rebound chick just ghosts. It was all so fucking much.

I've been through some stuff. My cousin/best friend died when we were kids, my other best friend at 19, my sister committed suicide at 21, but this shit was tougher than any of it.

I went for the first time in my life for a vouluntary counseling session, the university basically provided an emergency session, I was clearly coming apart at the seams.

I had caught hell from everybody for The Break-Up. My family my ex my kids most of my friends all of it.

The counselor was actually a gay Latino man from South America. He was the first person in so long that made me feel like I wasn't insane. He listened and believed how violent and awful my ex was.

I'm not gonna say it saved my life but my god it pulled me from a dark place.

That said not all counselors are created equal.

bare_et_spoergsmaal · 2019-10-24T19:19:59+00:00

Depends on which one you get. I had one that helped me IMMENSELY. Like it was a night and day difference.

maljo24 · 2019-10-24T21:14:19+00:00

Very helpful.

FitFinancier · 2019-10-25T06:18:46+00:00

Nobody can comment usefully without knowing the specifics of your particular situation. Short answer, no.

2ndcunuck · 2019-10-24T18:27:34+00:00

Yes. 95% are. Don’t bother, a psychologist will just put a band aid on a deep wound. Most are brainwashed and will offer beta, feel good advice, that will ultimately accomplish nothing. Man must search for his own solutions, because only you can find them and its paramount to your growth. Good luck.

Title	Are psychologists useless?
Author	SowReap
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Date	October 24, 2019 6:20 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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