Arguements.

SirKolbath · 2017-12-24T22:41:04+00:00

When you argue with someone. Not just a girl. How do you avoid confessions and apologies.

First, by refusing to argue. Arguing is entering their frame. Walk away.

Last night a girl-friend- of mine who I had not spoken to for a few days started arguing with me about not caring. "You haven't cared over the past few days" to which I said "I never said that"

Your biggest fuckup was being her emotional tampon to begin with. “Women have girlfriends and they have boyfriends. If you’re not fucking her, you’re her girlfriend.” -Rollo Tomassi

That led me down the path of confession. I had used A&A earlier in the conversation but she was genuinely mad and it wasn't helping.

Then I’d have just ended the conversation. Women are not rational. You can see how this became your ‘fault’.

She ended up convincing me that I had done something wrong when I had done shit all wrong. I did not think explaining my actions would get me anywhere so I didn't.

Never explain. And you need to ghost this woman if she has that kind of power over you; she made you forget everything you’ve read and practiced in one conversation.

How in situations like this do you keep yourself out of their frame?

I don’t argue or discuss anything with a woman. If one starts flinging accusations at me like this one did to you, I tell them, “I will not talk to you under these circumstances. You may call me in one week if you decide to speak calmly and rationally. If not, you may lose my number.” Then I ghost them for a week.

Bear in mind that this is for women I have invested in. If it’s some ditzy bitch I barely know and haven’t even fucked yet, they just get a hard next.

skullsquarecompasses · 2017-12-24T22:43:28+00:00

The way I see it, unless I know for a fact I've really fucked up, I don't see why I need to explain myself to someone else. Having the ability to not care so much about the outcome of the argument helps with this. Just remain calm - if you get angry, you lose. If she's being overly needy, I would straight up tell her not to be. If she continues, why should I spend time with someone that's no fun? There are millions of girls out there.

Title	Arguements.
Author	jimmybob123thrawy
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Date	December 24, 2017 10:26 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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