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Women want someone who is strong and resilient. Opening up about weaknesses reveals flaws in your strength and resilience. I would avoid going into personal issues too much, especially early on. If you're in a committed LTR, the way you express your issues is key. If you express them in a way that shows you feel helpless and weak/easily disturbed by them, that's not good. If you present them in a way with the firm belief that you'll handle the issues and your actions speak the same, that's a bet…
/r/askTRP10/01/18 11:29 AM
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if you're on desktop, it's the column on the far right of the screen. If you're on the app, it's under community info
/r/askTRP27/12/17 09:09 PM
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Read the sidebar, but more importantly, get out there and build the life you want. Make sure to lift, eat clean, dress well, and spin a number of plates. The more you spin plates, the more the sidebar will make sense to you.
/r/askTRP27/12/17 08:49 PM
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If you had a friend or little brother who came to you with the same problem, what would you say to him?
/r/askTRP27/12/17 08:52 AM
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What doesn't sound good on paper, or in practise, is shitting where you eat. Read the sidebar.
/r/askTRP27/12/17 08:51 AM
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Why are you so risk-averse? What's the worst that could happen?
/r/askTRP27/12/17 08:38 AM
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Everyone says don't shit where they eat or whatever. For good reason. I don't really agree with this. In my earlier years I hooked up with several coworkers and never had a problem come from it. Good for you. However, the plural of anecdote is not evidence. There are far, far, far more stories of people being fucked over by shitting where they eat as opposed to stories where it worked out fine. If you want to go for it, nothings stopping you. Except common sense. A lot of these dead end jobs are…
/r/askTRP27/12/17 08:37 AM
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To me, the same words can either be example of amused mastery or sarcasm - it's who is saying them and how. Sarcasm to me sounds weak and childish. I guess you could say defensive, and critical in some cases. It comes across as though what the person said bothers you. Amused mastery to me sounds like you're being playful, non-critical. What the person said does not bother you at all and you're playing with it. That's my take on it
/r/askTRP27/12/17 02:37 AM
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Yes; it's hard to change people, but you can definitely change who you hang around with.
/r/askTRP25/12/17 05:31 AM
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The way I see it, unless I know for a fact I've really fucked up, I don't see why I need to explain myself to someone else. Having the ability to not care so much about the outcome of the argument helps with this. Just remain calm - if you get angry, you lose. If she's being overly needy, I would straight up tell her not to be. If she continues, why should I spend time with someone that's no fun? There are millions of girls out there.
/r/askTRP24/12/17 10:43 PM
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Alpha Beta dichotomy, to distinguish every male into the two is categories is too simplistic. But remember that these are relative to a woman; they are not set in stone. You can be alpha in a number of contexts, but beta (or less alpha) in others. Also how it views women is a bit asinine & malicious, I feel written by men who have been hurt by women largely because of their own mistakes and still accuse women of being manipulators, bitches and etc. Yeah I've noticed a similar trend after the Inc…
/r/askTRP24/12/17 10:39 PM
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I can’t help thinking these next few days would be less shit if I had a meaningful relationship with a female. Yes, you can help thinking this. You should be focussed on building an amazing life for yourself. Your life should be so amazing that no matter what day it is, you're having fun. You could spend the day doing something you enjoy - working on a project, practising something, exercising.
/r/askTRP24/12/17 09:08 PM
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Cut them off, and work on your social skills. Pick up an active social hobby. Combat sports are great for this, such as BJJ, Muay Thai, Boxing, and you'll (usually) meet very down-to-earth, no-bullshit kind of people.
/r/askTRP24/12/17 05:08 AM
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Advice on how to continue this without fucking it up? Make sure you never break frame/show neediness, and always be ready to walk away at a moment's notice. LTR is TRP on hard mode, and it doesn't get easier over time. Even the biggest, strongest, most alpha dudes can fuck up by being too needy/breaking frame. As in another reply, also keep your options open. You don't need to openly flaunt this in front of your partner, but it will help you remember that you are a high SMV man and you can easil…
/r/askTRP24/12/17 03:36 AM
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It's a fair point, and to an extent I agree. When I say that they say "right now", it's to highlight how quickly the woman's perception of the man can change. One day, he's the amazing rock star alpha. But, after he's broken frame, suddenly he's "always been needy", and she "never really loved him". This is hamstering. From my own experience, the difference between this and guys is that guys in LTRs generally get caught by surprise by this sudden change, as we don't usually experience the same f…
/r/askTRP24/12/17 02:50 AM
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I would agree, except that's against human nature. When you upgrade from a low-tier car to a mid-tier car, we all know that mid-tier cars have their own set of weaknesses too. Overall, however, there is an improvement. Of course, it can be debated whether or not there will be an overall improvement in the case of hypergamy, but the way they think doesn't focus on that. The newer, higher status man appears to be more in control, has a stronger frame, higher SMV. So he looks like a better option.
/r/askTRP24/12/17 02:35 AM
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You don't want to hear don't shit where you eat. But that's what you need to hear. Just don't do it.
/r/askTRP24/12/17 02:09 AM
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You're right, in a sense. But that is contrary to their nature. Flaws indeed can be fixed, but there is such an abundance of other guys that why should she stick around? If you keep judging from a male perspective, then women do seem shallow, callous and conniving. But, as I said, we have fundamentally different natures. Keep reading the sidebar, especially terms such as AWALT and hamstering. These will shed more light on this topic.
/r/askTRP23/12/17 10:00 PM
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A better analogy would be they're trying to find the best fortress. Imagine you are staying in a fortress, and you suddenly discover a fatal flaw in it - a weak foundation, tunnel underneath, hole in the wall, things of that nature that cannot be easily repaired. You would most likely abandon the fort and find a stronger one. It's a generalisation, but it's more or less what's happening. This fatal flaw is analogous to a guy losing frame. A guy's frame should always be rock-solid. Once you show …
/r/askTRP23/12/17 09:47 PM
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Fair enough, sounds like you've got the right idea!
/r/askTRP23/12/17 09:41 PM
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Read the sidebar. You seem to be in the anger phase right now, which is a good step. Men and women have completely different worldviews that are ingrained in us. How men view loyalty is very different to women. I'm not saying one is necessarily better or worse, but we are fundamentally different. It makes no sense, in my mind, to judge a woman by a man's standards, and vice-versa. The best advice I usually give guys, and is often repeated around here, is that when a girl expresses an emotion, it…
/r/askTRP23/12/17 09:38 PM
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I would recommend reading the sidebar. This reeks of BP mentality. You, and only you, should be the source of your own contentment and happiness. If it disturbs you that you've never had a girlfriend, to me that means you're too focussed on how others perceive you. I don't have other options. Yes, you do. You always do. You have the option to ghost her and find another girl. Go hit the gym, eat well, dress well, and read the sidebar. Especially "There's this one girl...".
/r/askTRP23/12/17 09:09 PM
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"All of them" Never give a straight number to this question.
/r/askTRP23/12/17 11:07 AM
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I know the rule: never put your dick in crazy. You're right. So, in the words of Paulie from Goodfellas: don't do it. just don't do it.
/r/askTRP23/12/17 06:13 AM
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Read the sidebar "There's this one girl...". Classic case of oneitis. Work on improving yourself, and remember there are plenty of other girls out there.
/r/askTRP23/12/17 06:04 AM
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Growing up I am what you call the "natural alpha." Shyness and not being able to make eye-contact aren't traits of a "natural alpha", but all right For people who really are natural alphas, yes, the way to deal with shit tests espoused by TRP may seem a bit calculated and over-the-top. That being said, I can understand why - a lot of guys who come to TRP have little to no idea what shit tests are or how to deal with them. So, they need to take baby steps in the beginning to learn how to identify…
/r/askTRP23/12/17 05:53 AM
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I go to the gym, or go train Muay Thai/BJJ. I'm lucky my gym offers both. I also am a member of a number of fraternal societies (Freemasons, Shriners etc) so that helps keep me busy and hanging out with other guys. As you said, I would cut out the video games. I would even stop browsing YouTube so much; use that time to learn a new skill. If you're going to use YouTube to learn said skill, make sure you're practising, and not just watching.
/r/askTRP21/12/17 11:15 PM
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I wouldn't focus on that girl - I wouldn't mess around with someone who lives with you, especially in a college environment. You seem way too fixated on what's going on with this girl. I would focus on your studies, and pick up other girls at parties and such.
/r/askTRP21/12/17 10:43 AM
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Haha righto.
/r/askTRP20/12/17 11:04 PM
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Personally, I wouldn't go with a martial art to increase SMV. Do it because it's something you love and genuinely have a passion for. I would speak to people who've done Kendo and other martial arts - in any martial art, you've got to ask yourself what you're training for. Boxing also requires you to work on all of those attributes, and is generally more applicable to actual confrontations. That being said, holding a sword is pretty cool. It's really up to you and what you feel is best for yours…
/r/askTRP20/12/17 12:19 PM
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no worries, good luck with it!
/r/askTRP20/12/17 12:06 PM
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The main reason comes down to randori - pressure testing. I did a bit of JJJ, and while the techniques are arguably "deadlier", they were not pressure-tested near as much as in Judo or BJJ. If you can apply a throw/submission on someone who is resisting as hard as they can, you know you can do it. Since you've got the Judo background, I would really recommend BJJ. Find a school that teaches more self-defence oriented BJJ and you'll love it. Rolling is great fun and you get to go 100% and feel wh…
/r/askTRP20/12/17 12:00 PM
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I would go with more practical martial arts, such as Muay Thai, Boxing, Wrestling or old school BJJ. Fencing is all right, but doesn't translate well to actual sword fights given the point system. I've not really trained Kendo, but how often are you going to use an actual sword? If by Jujitsu you mean the Japanese variant, learn Brazilian Jiu Jitsu instead, or Judo.
/r/askTRP20/12/17 11:49 AM
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I would say that perhaps they originate in the same school of thought, but are vastly different. MGTOW was mainly a rejection of modern women altogether, usually for people that hadn't really tried TRP or properly understood/applied the concepts of TRP. I don't really buy into MGTOW guys "getting sick of women". To me, MGTOW has always been a bit closer to Incel, and indeed since the closure of that sub it has more overtly skewed that way. I know I'll get downvoted for comparing MGTOW to Incel, …
/r/askTRP20/12/17 07:56 AM
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Go out and learn new skills then. Some hobbies you could take up are: Fighting sports (BJJ, Muay Thai, Boxing) A craft of some kind (woodworking, blacksmithing, leatherworking) Take online courses/courses at a local college to help you learn a new skill. Hit the gym hard. Pick up a social hobby to get you out, preferably with other guys. Talk to more girls. Read the sidebar. I would also recommend reading No More Mr Nice Guy, and also Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. These two books alone will ch…
/r/askTRP19/12/17 11:12 AM
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Read the sidebar. Don't shit where you eat. Even if you don't work in the same physical location, don't underestimate the ability for a coworker to fuck your shit up. Read 1 and 2 again every day.
/r/askTRP19/12/17 05:34 AM
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Only if the friend really knows what they're doing; PT is expensive, but seeing a doctor/physio to fix up issues caused by poor form is even more expensive. Pick a friend who really knows what they're doing and it should be fine.
/r/askTRP18/12/17 02:42 AM
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Read the sidebar. Getting back together with an ex is almost always a bad idea.
/r/askTRP18/12/17 02:35 AM
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You handled it all right. When girls say stuff like that, I like to agree and amplify. Any sign of insecurity or defensiveness on your part is going to kill attraction.
/r/askTRP11/12/17 06:57 AM
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The way to peace, in my view, is to learn to stop being angry at nature. We don't get angry with lions for doing lion things. This hate, I imagine, stems from a worldview you have about how things ought to be, and since it doesn't match, you have anger. It's perfectly normal. I would recommend reading up a lot on Stoicism - this has helped me beyond anything else in TRP. Learn not to get angry over things you cannot control, such as people's nature. Keep working on yourself as you already are, a…
/r/askTRP11/12/17 06:54 AM
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I recommend writing down on paper exactly why it bothers you. This is tough, but articulating why it bothers you will help you solve it. From what I can see, and based on your username, it is self confidence. I recommend reading the sidebar and start working on yourself.
/r/askTRP11/12/17 02:54 AM
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What about her having sex in the past bothers you? Are you worried she is comparing? Do you not feel special? In any case, it seems like you have self-confidence issues more than anything else.
/r/askTRP11/12/17 02:39 AM
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This. OP, you're clearly overcommitting. This screams that you don't have options and are worried about losing contact with this girl. Not much else kills attraction faster than this.
/r/askTRP10/12/17 10:16 PM
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It sounds like this entire time you've been in her frame, and seem to be loving every moment of it. Best of luck to you.
/r/askTRP10/12/17 12:07 PM
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Judging from your past posts, you've not really read/internalized anything at all in the subreddit. Moreover, you took a good opportunity to solidify your frame and have a happier marriage by getting into shape (hence her telling you she doesn't like muscular guys), and you fucked up. Why were you so angry? Why can't you control your mouth? Losing your shit shoes that you have not mastered some pretty damn simple basics. If you get so angry that you would lie just to hurt her, it shows that you …
/r/askTRP10/12/17 11:47 AM
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Similar to what others have said, pick up a fighting sport such as Muay Thai, Boxing or BJJ. There's nothing like getting hit/choked, and being able to deliver the same punishment, that will toughen up your frame. On top of that, make sure you eat healthy and lift, so your body looks amazing. This will eliminate a lot of self-consciousness that can kill self-confidence. I would also recommend reading up on Stoicism, as this will help you not give a fuck.
/r/askTRP10/12/17 11:35 AM
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Read "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius. It will help you realise that a lot of things we get upset over actually should have no power over us whatsoever. On top of that, I would recommend working out. Get the blood flowing; it will help clear your mind. Also, when you've calmed down a bit, see which girls you can hit up. Nothing like getting over someone than by fucking someone else.
/r/askTRP09/12/17 11:16 PM
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Welcome to TRP. Don't worry, now's the time for you to build a rock-solid foundation that will be with you for the rest of your life - yourself. Why would you want to be blindly in love? Why place your happiness into the hands of others? Once you work on your life and build a happy life for yourself, no one will be able to hurt you. I really recommend reading up on Stoicism; grab a copy of "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius, or download it off the net. Such a great book about changing your mind an…
/r/askTRP09/12/17 11:13 PM
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Stop watching porn. It's junk food for your mind. Read the side bar. I know you've had a hissy fit about that, but it will really help you if you get your head out of your ass. Go out and fuck some girls. Stop watching porn. Seriously, just stop it.
/r/askTRP09/12/17 11:10 PM
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Never give a definite number to this. It's better to say something like "Today?" "This week?", or pressure flip by asking "Why are you so keen to know?".
/r/askTRP09/12/17 11:06 PM
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You're probably over-committing, or they don't find you attractive. Can't really give much more based on what you've written.
/r/askTRP08/12/17 09:36 PM
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Move out (if possible). If that's not possible, evaluate the situation. Sure, you could try to get revenge somehow, but if you live under their roof, you can't really do all that much. Getting chucked out of home before you're ready will really set you back. If the punishment is overly unfair, talk to them about it. Negotiate with them. I can't really give a lot of advice on the situation as I don't know what you're being punished for, how old you are, etc.
/r/askTRP08/12/17 03:19 AM
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It really does make for some heavy reading, keep reading through!
/r/askTRP01/12/17 08:29 AM
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I would agree in part, however, I don't think recognising hypergamy is the same as criticizing it. Men and women operate under completely different paradigms. The guys criticizing hypergamy are those who are most likely still in the anger phase. We don't get angry at lions for doing lion stuff. Our natures are fundamentally different. In regards to leaving a woman for someone hotter + younger, that isn't as common as the reverse. To me, TRP is about becoming entirely independent and the best ver…
/r/askTRP01/12/17 08:23 AM
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I like to respond with "at this point I'm more of a coach". Saw that on one of the threads about shit tests and absolutely love it. If I don't use that one, I like to use something else like "I didn't want to be a player, but all these girls just throw themselves at me!" Or some such. Usually gets a good laugh and I'm in.
/r/askTRP25/11/17 06:02 PM
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That's true; if someone is childish enough to act like that, though, straight up ignoring them is better. Or just laughing it off and saying "righto buddy" or words to that effect
/r/askTRP25/11/17 05:24 PM
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Agree and amplify. Laughter/humour is a great way to show you really don't care. Or you can pressure flip, but that can come off wrong if not done well.
/r/askTRP25/11/17 05:16 PM
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Pick up a martial art or combat sport like Muay Thai, boxing, or BJJ. Getting beat up on a regular basis helps you keep things in perspective, and after training consistently every week for years you'll be someone no one really wants to fuck with anyway. Combine this with a decent lifting program, and make it a habit to read "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius.
/r/askTRP23/11/17 11:10 AM
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You're probably putting her on a pedestal. Just got for It, man. If she invites you in, you're well in there. What are you afraid of?
/r/askTRP23/11/17 11:03 AM
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OP, read this comment every morning and every night. This has just about everything you need. Excellent comment!
/r/askTRP20/11/17 11:11 AM
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Arrange to meet up and do something fun. If she turns you down, then she's really not interested and move on. If she accepts, go for it. Don't be used as a free meal ticket, though.
/r/askTRP13/11/17 08:40 AM
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Sure, that's a good question. I've found that active hobbies (boxing, MMA, woodworking, etc) positively affect game like this: they keep you busy, which helps in that you can convincingly tell a woman you're busy, which they love to hear. If you're good at your chosen hobby, that can demonstrate value. If your hobby is of the martial kind, that helps keep you fit and with an unbreakable frame - if you're used to getting beat up in training, then shit tests are nothing by comparison. Women typica…
/r/askTRP12/11/17 08:57 PM
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That's something you need to work out for yourself. Ask yourself in all seriousness why you need this attention, and what would happen if you got none. Put things into perspective that way. Kill the neediness by going out a lot more and hanging out with others, nd try to use complimentary humour - that puts the spotlight on others in a good way, and shows it's all right to share attention. Don't go too far with it, though, as it'll come off as kissing ass.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 11:31 AM
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Before losing a lot of weight (came down from around 125kg to around 100kg now) I used to punch up quite a lot. Strong frame, dressing appropriately for my weight, and interesting hobbies helped out so much. Strong frame in that girls would give me shit for being fat, to which I would respond is awesome because it's great for keeping me warm in winter, or I was secretly training to be a sumo. I always dressed well, making sure to wear nice shirts, trousers and shoes. This alone can take your app…
/r/askTRP12/11/17 11:29 AM
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Not necessarily; some of those things can make you a really interestint and fun person to be around, hence more attractive. If you are needy for acceptance, though, that will shine through and kill any chance of you getting laid. Humour, dressing well and the rest are only as convincing as your conviction.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 11:19 AM
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Learn to riff with them, ask questions to get better at boxing (puts them in a mentor mindset), and most importantly train your ass off. It'll come with time. If you know of any local fights coming up, organise a group to go together to watch - bonus if it's someone from your gym going to fight. Whenever your teammates go fight, make sure you're there to support. All of these will help you build rapport.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 11:08 AM
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Getting into hobbies that men are typically into is a great start. Woodworking, boxing, blacksmithing, fishing, or men's organisations such as Freemasonry. There you'll find like-minded men and plenty of good male role models, provided you use your best judgment.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 10:49 AM
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Questions really belong in asktrp But as we are here already: Read the sidebar every night like it's the Bible. Lift/exercise. Make sure you eat right. Start building your social circle. Get an interesting hobby, preferably something active to help you keep fit. Approach often, and try to learn from mistakes. Try to put a positive spin on things, and work on getting an unshakeable frame. Don't get stuck reading TRP all day at the expense of doing the aforementioned.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/17 10:43 AM
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It's a shame they removed r/incels as this post is right up that alley.
/r/MGTOW12/11/17 10:30 AM
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This seems more Incel than MGTOW.
/r/MGTOW12/11/17 10:28 AM
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When you grow up your whole life being taught one thing, only to find out that it is essentially wrong + designed to keep you in the Matrix, that can make a person quite angry. Then there comes lack of understanding; newbies holding women to the same standards as men. This is a problem in that we all know there are differences between the sexes, so trying to judge a woman based on what a man ought to do is just going to leave a person disgruntled. Once they move past the anger phase they should …
/r/askTRP12/11/17 02:40 AM
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BP conditioning would want you to feel bad about being a sexual guy. Guys are supposed to be sexual; the human species would stop if we weren't. The fact that you're doubting yourself about this seems to be a form of self punishment. Embrace it instead, man.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 01:39 AM
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Thinking of sex is not a bad thing. You could argue from a biological perspective it is perhaps the most important thing for men. Punishing yourself for these thoughts is BP thinking. From what you've posted, it seems that you have trouble approaching. I would work on that, instead. Thinking about sex is completely normal.
/r/askTRP12/11/17 01:32 AM
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Yeah that's the way to go about it. Setting clear boundaries and enforcing them are key steps to any good relationship, whether it's social, dating, work etc. Good stuff
/r/askTRP10/11/17 05:43 AM
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Tell him straightforward to return it. Be direct and clear in your expectations. You don't have to be rude, but don't put up with any shit either. If he cannot return it straight away, get him to say in his own words when he will return it and hold him to that. If he doesn't, well then you know not to trust him.
/r/askTRP10/11/17 05:37 AM
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Fair point, didn't know that
/r/askTRP09/11/17 06:09 AM
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Jumping straight to the kiss can be hit or miss, mostly miss if there's no prior kino. That being said, if a girl is really really into you it shouldn't be a problem. How did you respond when she said she had to see someone else? I think that part is key here as well. Pull to her place may have worked, but if she wasn't digging you by the end it could have come across as creepy or needy. All good man, try again with another one
/r/askTRP09/11/17 06:08 AM
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Offering to pay for the dinner may have been a bad idea; I would have just said "sorry, something came up". Makes you look busy and show her that she's really not super important to you. What were you talking about in the convo? Was it light and playful? Or were you trying to get into serious conversation? Did you use any kino, or just jump straight to the kiss? Did you pass her shit tests? I imagine her saying she needs to meet someone was a shit test to see how you would react. She probably fo…
/r/askTRP09/11/17 05:53 AM
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I have been trying to convince him about all the wonderful life outcomes that come with swallowing the rp Preaching TRP isn't a good idea. You can't feed TRP to someone, they must ingest it for themselves. Also, the women defending the girl in this situation seem pretty justified - why would A try to reprimand the girl? What business is it of his? If the girl was your buddy's LTR/wife I would understand. It seems like he was trying to stick his nose somewhere it didn't belong, coming across as c…
/r/TheRedPill09/11/17 04:04 AM
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Why are you messaging so much? Save messaging for logistics/organising when/where to meet up. Messaging a lot to talk about stuff is what her girlfriends are for. Read the sidebar and try to ingest as much of it as possible before trying to carry on.
/r/TheRedPill09/11/17 03:06 AM
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