Hello people! Quick background: I turn to you now because I feel conflicted. All my life I've never been popular with women. People mostly call my face interesting but I've always been working out and had a good sense of witty humor.

I recently arrived in Japan and I'm suddenly pretty much the buffest guy I know. When traveling alone you can also kinda build things anew so people in my vicinity looks at me like a confident and disciplined kinda guy because I've been working a lot on my own opinions and values.

When in the club here I can usually just show up on the dancefloor and some girl just suddenly sticks to me like I had the attraction of a big planet. I'm really hyped and it gives me energy but all my will to get with a girl drains. Somehow I thought attracting girls and chasing them would be just the same but if I haven't done any chasing my will to escalate is just gone.

This cause me to often chase girls that aren't that into me while shunning the easy lay-ups.

Would love to hear any thoughts about this and will gladly answer any questions.