Bang now or later?

ShotgunTRP · 2018-12-04T04:24:10+00:00

Go for the close ASAP don’t fuck around over multiple dates. If it hasn’t happened by the third you’re doing it wrong.

Kamiwari727 · 2018-12-04T07:19:39+00:00

I do it on the second or third date.

Doing it on the first date means that you will have to be with her for at least a few hours, buying many rounds, consuming a lot of energy. Even after all that, she may not fuck you, and now you wasted it all.

Plus, even if she does fuck you, she may get Buyers Remorse, and next you afterwards, because she is a "lady" and doesn't fuck on the first date. It's called post-rationalization. It's an ego preserving mechanism.

On the first date, you have a quick drink/coffee with her in a normal bar, kino her, talk about sex, fun stuff, and after an hour or hour and half, you part your ways.

Then for the second date you go for the kill.

If she seems very shy, go to another bar, close to your home. Escalate there and move her to your place.

If she seems ready after the first date (especially if she seems enthusiastic and texts you first, and does so constantly), then arrange the second date to be at your place from the start.

Talk for a bit at your place, then escalate.

Good luck!

pnzndltn · 2018-12-04T07:05:36+00:00

I always close on the first date since I started. I screen hard for DTF girls and eliminate time wasters. Always coffee, except for the occasional one-off like we can only meet real late, then a drink or two.

But 99% of the time, it's coffee, heavy flirting or work sex into the conversation based on earlier messages. Then I go in for the close and ask them (in a tone of assumption) if they want to leave. They say yes, and then we go.

It really doesn't have to be more complicated than that. I've learned my lesson and I will never contact a girl for a second date. A girl knows full well on a first meetup if she wants to fuck you or not. Anything more is unnecessary and a waste of time.

btrpb · 2018-12-04T10:42:24+00:00

Got a pretty even spread across 1, 2, 3rd. I never see them again if it's the first. If it's the third it's usually because there is a better connection and we are building a bond and there might be something a bit more long term in it. Never go on a 4th date.

Title	Bang now or later?
Author	pre-death
Upvotes	5
Comments	4
Date	December 4, 2018 2:27 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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