Hi,

So, me and my girlfriend of 5 months broke up yesterday. It was a sad, emotional, and confusing break up (mostly on her end, I didn't cry), but let me start from the beginning...

My girlfriend went to the Dominican Republic to see her family for vacation. She stayed at home for a week, went to Costa Rica with her dad for 2 weeks, and then she went back to DR. We both planned a trip for me to head out there last week (the flights were a birthday gift from her). We had an amazing time while I was over there. Her family threw 2 parties for her sisters birthdays, we went to the beach, and we went to some awesome cheap hotels for a little bit of sexy time. I came home on Tuesday, and then Wednesday afternoon is when the fight started.

So she started talking about how she does so much for people and receives so little back. At first it seemed like she was pissed off about someone else, but she was really talking about me. She said i'm super inattentive even though i'm super affectionate, she said that she needs more attention, and she started bringing up problems from the past. We went back and forth for about a day and then she would started up again (I shouldn't have argued).

She then calls me Thursday afternoon saying, "Ever since we started going out I promised you I would be very sincere with you. I was wrong for telling you to change for me, you're amazing just the way you are. The honest truth is that i'm not happy right now. The fact that I feel this way right now is a sign that things aren't going to well. It's simply unfair to think of you as someone different than you are and I apologize for that."

Ofcourse, this all hit me like a ton of bricks. I tried to make light of the situation on the phone but the whole thing was just bothering me. I tried to reason with her telling her that we can figure it out together, but she was too reluctant. We stopped speaking for the rest of the day...

The next day was her flight back home. She called me that morning saying hi and how she just wanted to "hear my voice". She said she wanted to see me when she arrived tonight. I told her I promised to hang with some friend but I can head to her house afterwards. Later on that night I saw her. The girl I saw was not my girlfriend, this girl didn't have make up on and she was slightly overweight. My girlfriend is always on point but tonight she looked devastated and sad.

My girlfriend HATES leaving her family and I believe that's what was making her the most sad. But then we sat on her couch and I see her getting ready to cry. I asked, "are you ok?" She then started balling out crying. She was talking about how she misses her family and then she told me the same thing she told me on Thursday. She said she felt like an emotional wreak and felt horrible dragging me down. She said she spoke to her mom and sister about how she was feeling and they told her it's unjust to drag me down while she's feeling the way she has. I told her I want to try and work through it and she told me it's something she needs to figure out on her own. Afterwards, we kissed and made up (sort of) and we went to bed. The sex that night just didn't feel the same, it wasn't the same sex we had a week ago, and that really hurt.

The next morning, I just laid there in bed. While she looked at me asking, "whats on your mind, what are you thinking?" I just said, "nothing...". My girlfriend is the type to kiss me to death in bed and this morning she just laid there looking hurt and confused. This is the moment when I finally got the hint, I really can't fix this...

I told her, i'm going home. She said, "why?..." (getting ready to cry again). I said, "this isn't right, you're not ok, and there's nothing I can do". I then said, "let me go get your house keys so I can give them to you..." (I have a copy). She said, "I don't want you to hate me (while she sat there crying)". I said, "I don't, I'll keep the line open. If you ever change your mind or want to hang out let me know, but we cannot be friends". She said, "Listen, I know this isn't easy for neither one of us but if you ever decide to block me which you have all right to do. I will still do everything in my power to get in contact with you". I said, "Ok, goodbye". Gave her a hug and I was on my way.

That was that. I gave her the space she wanted. It was hurtful and hard to do, but at the end I think I handled it maturely. I really loved this girl and we had a beautiful relationship with one another.

I feel really bad. I really loved this girl, but I will do my best to move on like i'll never see her again. Anyway you can break this down for me, I would really appreciate it. Thanks.