I have a plate in Chicago which is about 3 hours away. She was very fun for 3-4 years, I'd go to that city for a concert with 4-5 buds, we'd spend about 3 nights in hotel rooms, clubbing, drinks by the pool, she'd bring tons of friends for my buds . She'd drive us to all sorts of good venues, and she'd end up in my bed every night. Quality situation because its always nice having a tour guide when you're in another city and she was a solid HB8.

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Anyway after a couple of years of fun she wanted to move in with me, wanted to leave chicago and become my GF or more, I said no. She now has a bf (she was previously in a bad LTR and I was a good distraction), and she "doesnt want to do that anymore". Last time I went to Chicago, another gang of girls came with us for a concert, a new plate in there is about an HB7 so I just didn't message her. She was sort of hurt because she misses partying with "us". To be honest, if I didn;t have other plates along for the ride, I might of invited her over to see if we really were platonic, I have doubts she could resist me, but even platonically she's a good time.

The new plate girls now want to "do it again in March". So I have a few options:

  1. Go with my buds and invite the new plates out with us, theyre a sure bet anway and ignore the old plate (she'll find out though which may cement my plate loss of her).
  2. Find away to see both sets of girls, maybe have them see eachother and compete over me.

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I am obviously thinking of goin with option 1, I just wonder if #2 could work or if I am losing something by going with the flow. I guess if she is not overtly asking when I am coming down or when she can come up, I should just be thankful I generated new plates.

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Also she still messages once a week. But its never sexual or like it used to be. She refuses to give me an indicator of interest, or compliment or anything like we used to be.... Should I just ban her or keep investing very minimal effort like I currently am.

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