Can someone elaborate on the differenece between emotional tampon and”being a rock”

SirKolbath · 2018-10-07T12:53:35+00:00

You are a rock and own your own shit when things are going to hell in your life. You don’t complain and you don’t bitch. She sees this calm demeanor and it makes her panties moist.

You are an emotional tampon when your girl is constantly complaining to you about what Suzi at the office said and Jenny posted on Instagram. This is a form of validation that women will use. “Does he care about me enough to listen to my bullshit? Yay! I have value!“

ZeroSixNiner · 2018-10-07T14:14:29+00:00

The easiest way to tell? You're fucking her.

Being her rock is being unmoved by what she says and just letting her say it. Stoicism helps here. As emotional creatures, women need to vent and it's okay, as long as she's still taking your dick. This is more applicable to LTRs, though. Spend enough time with someone and eventually she's going to start dumping her emotional bullshit on you. If you feel like you need to handle it, here's what you do: Nothing. Let her get her shit off her chest if she must, but don't be the guy with the answer to all her problems. She's not really looking for that any way. Once she's done, you fuck her.

The emotional tampon is the guy who will listen to her shit, validate her at every turn, assure her that "That's not right!" or "You're so much better than that!" and other self esteem boosters that help clear her head so she can then go fuck Chad. He's one of her girlfriends who will listen to her every word and offer that soothing shoulder to cry on resting all his hopes and dreams on being the nurturing, caring gentle soul that she'll be so grateful to that she'll open her legs and beckon him inside.

If your association with the girl (I hesitate to use "relationship" at this point) kicks off with the latter, you're the tampon and you're never going to fuck her. If it's the former, you need to manage it in such a way that you'll continue to fuck her.

Title	Can someone elaborate on the differenece between emotional tampon and”being a rock”
Author	idkimsmart
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	October 7, 2018 12:50 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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