Can't get it up?

stillnoturday · 2014-05-11T05:10:48+00:00

It's pretty common I think you are thinking about it too much and not focusing on the moment. Instead of think about your dick, think about how hot the girl is the way she is moving. Foreplay do what you need to do, but honestly I think this is a mental thing that you can get over pretty quickly.

[deleted] · 2014-05-11T15:09:08+00:00

I once lost a perfect erection in seconds. From the time perspective, I am grateful. Trust your gut. If your dick does not want to bone her, maybe he has reasons. Don't berate yourself, find wisdom in the way you react.

wakethfkupneo · 2014-05-11T16:24:53+00:00

Porn? Fapping?

If yes then www.yourbrainonporn.com.

Also /r/NoFap

Douchet · 2014-05-11T20:42:00+00:00

Excerpt from sex god method:

Don't just try harder to get an erection or prevent ejaculation. The harder you try to get an erection, the more it will elude you. If you get frustrated or panicky, you've just lost all your Immersion in the sexual encounter. You're no longer enjoying the experience, and you've lost any hope of getting an erection. Instead, continue with foreplay until you are ready. You can eat her out or finger her in the meantime. Some physical techniques to use to help you achieve an erection:

Eat her out, and while you're doing that rub your dick with lube until you are hard.

Rub your dick on her pussy (Only for girls who you no longer use condoms with)

Have her give you a blowjob.

If this isn't working - give yourself a break from physical stimulation, and try again later.

LS_D · 2014-05-11T06:21:39+00:00

yeah bro ,, your mind got in the way ,, happens to many of us first time ... next time will be much better ,, you wont be as worried

vandaalen · 2014-05-11T07:00:00+00:00

Happened to me before. Even when being with professionals. There's nothing to worry about. It's just your conciousness and your overthinking.

The harder I tried, the more frustrated I became.

That's the problem. Don't think of it as a competition. Try to enjoy the moment of intimacy, maybe even focus more on giving her pleasure for the beginning. Licking her out like it's the last pot of honey you will ever get in your life always did the trick for me when I was younger since I got really turned on by getting her off and it rewarded me with some of the best blowjobs in life.

It's not meant to work in this direction, but you have plenty of time to become the best dominant alpha fucker in your area after you got used to it. Take it step by step.

Personally I also cannot deal with distraction like TV or something like that.

If you haven't read it yet, google for the PDF of "The Sex God Method".

Oh. And don't forget that this is one of the rare occasions, where she will hamster that something is wrong with her and not with you.

HF

Phaint · 2014-05-11T13:15:58+00:00

It helps to actually be attracted to the woman and not just pursuing her because sex unless you're supremely horny.

Also, lifting and it's testosterone increase.

If I have a semi I'll usually just flip it on her and tell her to blow me until I'm rock hard again.

If you're really feeling stressed to perform for whatever reason you can just picture her hot friends or go on their facebooks on your phone while doggy style.

itsmsbetty · 2014-05-12T00:42:53+00:00

This is common as fuck. Seriously. Don't think you're weird.. or different. It happened to me, it happens to A LOT of people (just look at this thread). Nothing to worry about, getting hard to a real person and getting hard to porn is a completely different thing. It took me a while for my body and mind to adjust and for me to get used to how I react to a female. Once I did, I could basically get hard and soft at will.

What you don't want to do, if this happens again, is completely shut down and show that you're embarrassed. If it happens, then laugh it off (internally or externally depending on the situation) and focus on other parts. Taste her pussy, kiss her legs, rub her tits, whatever man. Sex is about having fun, not fulfilling some predetermined goal of putting your penis in her vagina.

RiseAboveIt · 2014-05-12T11:52:23+00:00

Stop watching porn and stop fapping.

Title	Can't get it up?
Author	taatbuoot
Upvotes	2
Comments	9
Date	May 11, 2014 4:45 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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