Can’t get my shit together, please help

PickUpScientist · 2019-10-26T19:39:13+00:00

there's lots of feel good advice people can put here, but typically people don't get properly motivated until life kicks the shit out of them enough times. the important thing is that you know where to go and what to do once this happens, and don't have to sit around scratching your head for a decade like i did.

WinterRice · 2019-10-26T14:58:03+00:00

Hey man I was born in a similar position albeit probably less wealthy, but comfortable. I had to go through the gutters before I could really shape myself into a man (still growing everyday).

I partied a bit too hard early on and it set me back, parents cut me off and I had to work to pay for my education. I changed my major and went through depression, self-doubt, hell I thought I wasn't good enough to achieve anything except the bare minimum. Taught me more than anything else ever has and I'm thankful for that. I know things could be worse but I needed a kick in the ass.

If you're comfortable financially and always feel like you have a plan B it can be hard to create that grit for yourself.

You say you have your "why," but I would suggest doing a lot of self-reflection of why you're in university and set short-term and long-term goals. If you truly had a "why" you would work nonstop to reach it.

I want to be the first in my family to finish at a top uni and get a solid career in finance (achieved 1/2). I think about my future son and the lessons I want to teach him and pass down a career to him. It gets me off my ass everyday.

It's basic advice but you need to start there. If your goals are lofty you'll hold yourself to a higher standard and will realize the extra work required to accomplish what you want to do. It's hard but don't think about your parents, think about what you're trying to achieve and how you can get there. Create discipline in the meantime in other walks of life (daily routine, gym consistently, etc.)

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-10-26T22:10:29+00:00

Procrastinating?

Lol, no. You've just been taking your father's shitty advice after all this time: that you'll never be good enough for some reason. So why not act the part?

Sounds like you're just doing what he coached you to do- Doubt yourself and hesitate.

He did this for any number of reasons, but really, I think he was the kind of guy who just enjoyed pissing in other people's morning coffee and trying to take the wind out of other people's sails. Why, because he had late-stage Scarcity Mentality.

Stop pissing in your own coffee.

Johndingus111 · 2019-10-26T15:15:24+00:00

Quit being a good boy and be a stone cold emotionless mofo, like a biker or a excon type.

Vypered · 2019-10-26T10:06:37+00:00

Are you lifting heavy weights 3+ times per week? How much of the sidebar have you read?

Title	Can’t get my shit together, please help
Author	CSauceHockey
Upvotes	7
Comments	11
Date	October 26, 2019 8:02 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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