I have social anxiety and am still a virgin in my 20s. Last year my friend introduced me to the rave scene and I started going out to clubs and shows. Girls would often approach me and give clear IOIs, whether I was alone or with friends. I was clueless back then, so I wasted a lot of opportunities. Unfortunately my experiences have gradually gotten worse over time and I can't figure out why. Maybe you guys can help me? I'll give you some examples from this weekend:

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  • I noticed a lot of girls avoiding eye contact and moving away from me, whether I was dancing or sitting down to rest. One girl was in such a rush that she left her wallet and phone behind. So I helped myself.
  • Other girls would dance near me and purposely position themselves in my line of sight if I looked away. I played it safe and sure enough some other guy would join them within a few minutes.
  • The female bartenders were really rude to me (kept giving blank stares and being unresponsive). One tried to rip me off so I made a scene. She was nice after that.
  • 2 girls started conversations with me, until their boyfriends showed up and started mean mugging.
  • 3 different girls asked me if I was selling coke (I wasn't).
  • An older woman (late 20s or early 30s) kept locking eyes and showing up wherever I went. This happened 3 times before she smiled and said "hey." I just nodded and relocated again. I caught her staring at me by the bar one more time but I was too scared to talk. Sadly this was the only good experience I had. There seems to be a recent trend of older/fatter women approaching me.
  • I ended up dancing near a group of rowdy sluts who were putting on a show for everyone. One of them asked me if I had coke and added "we need to find you some." Another one had me chug some vodka and winced after I did it. And finally, one of them looked at me and imitated my drunk expression and the way I was dancing. I laughed it off but it actually made me angry. By the end of the night I felt like killing someone.

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Any theories on what the hell is going on? Am I just ugly now?