I’ve been going out quite frequently alone to the beach (beachclubs), and I (very infrequently) see girls alone - but when I do, I wonder what would be the best way to approach them.
Like for example last month I was at a beach club and there were 2 girls together sitting by their sunbeds in front of the pool and coming for a quick swim every now and then. My sunbed was far so I was just hanging my arms by the edge of the pool and chilling there most of the time (they were right in front of me like 5-10 feet away). I had one of them in mind so I waited for the moment she was solo without her friend and approached her, but she rejected me saying she “didn’t speak English” in a thick Russian accent lol. I basically just slowly walked up to her as she was going back to her sunbed and told her something like “hey how are u, I saw you over there with your friend and didn’t wanna bother you”.
Anyway that was my first time cold approaching, it was fine and I didn’t mind or care or anything, but I’ve been trying to do more cold approaches but I haven’t had the opportunity. Like a few days ago some girl happened to be sitting on the sunbed next to me, alone. But she had her earphones in and she wasn’t really open for conversation. But she would also go for a dip every once in a while and seemed bored. Then a few hours later I notice a big fat dude come and talk to her, completely different race also just for context, (but props to him he’s confident, description is just for context), so I figured they had met/talked at the pool, something along the lines of let’s hang out later I guess. 1 minute convo Then he left, and she stayed for like 1 more hour alone then she left.
But yea anyway, I’m kinda introverted but I don’t mind doing this I kinda like the challenge/rush/etc. , not the awkward type. But I’m not too “smooth” if that makes sense, so it comes off a certain way especially for the type of girls I like they tend to be extroverted/hot etc. so they expect a similar type of guy. Like 2 days ago I also saw one potential girl walking alone by the beach, kinda further from the music/beachclub, but I couldn’t set the right setting to approach
Anyway, any tips / openers / advice ? Etc..
And one last thing, idk why but I feel like being alone makes me feel more introverted, like if I were with a friend and we had a challenge to try and do as many cold approaches, I would suddenly not care (or not care as much), i guess it’s just something subconscious I can’t control too well. Even enjoying myself with the music and shit around, I kinda find it hard to do when alone as opposed to going with others. Plus I sometimes notice girls show interest by glancing and doing certain things but that kinda puts more pressure on me because of the expectation to approach and so I don’t lol. I kinda rather go for the ones where I have a “no Fucks given” mentality and expect to fail but pull it off ?
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