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Constant shit testing.

123undeuxtrois123 · 2018-03-19T14:10:01+00:00

What does it mean if a girl doesn't stop shit testing?...

123undeuxtrois123

March 19, 2018

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Title	Constant shit testing.
Author	123undeuxtrois123
Upvotes	3
Comments	12
Date	March 19, 2018 2:10 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/85jqcu/constant_shit_testing/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/constant-shit-testing.126048 https://theredarchive.com/post/126048

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[–]123undeuxtrois123 1 points1 points1 points 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

[–]3chazthundergut1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

^ okay so what's the problem?

You need to make sure you have the correct tone and approach. Your mindset is: "This is fun. It is fun to have a little playful back-and-forth with chicks."

You aren't getting upset, emotionally invested, or needy for attention or approval. You are being friendly, but in a playful way.

When girls shit test you, they are flirting.

You think a chick just goes up to a random guy she doesn't like and tells him she wouldn't say hello to him? Of course not. She says it to a guy she might be into, but she wants to make sure he's not an emotional, needy little bitch.

So she goes up to him and pokes him and see how he reacts. Does he get all offended? Do his panties get twisted in a knot? Does his ego get bruised? Or does he smile because he's a high-value man, grounded in his own reality, and unshakeable by the likes of some silly little girl?

So keep it up. Keep passing the shit tests. Enjoy them. Flirt. Tease. Play. Get her laughing. Take nothing seriously. Take nothing personally. Just have fun with it.

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[–]3chazthundergut1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Well, if you failed the test then she might have said it because she felt bad for you.

But that depends on you and how you reacted. You say you "laughed" and said "I bet you would say hi to me" ... to me, that sounds like a "pass," but it can be hard to tell because context, body language, and nonverbal communication have a major impact. Also you were definitely too reactive; next time, just give her a wink. You always want to be less invested than her. You always want to give the impression that you care less about whatever it is than she does. That her comments hardly register for you, and certainly don't affect you.

If you came across like you were flabbergasted or butthurt by her comment, then you failed and she may have just been trying to assuage your hurt feelings. But I hope that is not the case.