Dealing with escalation anxiety?

bluemoviebaz · 2018-06-16T11:06:04+00:00

I have saved this post from a previous thread!

You’re scared of your own masculinity and fear that it is going to offend her. Stop this train of thought.

Women want to have sex with men and commit to men because of their masculinity. Masculinity is sexual and the desire to have sex is inherent to it. You need to stop fearing your own sexual expression.

Wrath_of_Trump · 2018-06-16T18:45:03+00:00

Stop being hard on yourself. I used to do this all the time, even when I was getting farther than I did the previous time, I would still beat myself up because I wanted quick results. Everytime you don't go as far as you want with a woman, it is not a failure. It is you getting some muscle memory. You are storing VALUABLE information in your mental bank. You just need to practice. You have to get comfortable with yourself and being in the position to escalate. It isn't going to come in 1 or 2 tries, it could take a handful, but you'll build on that experience and move your starting point all the way up to the point where you're escalating right from the open. One thing that I read a few times but never actually did was make sure that if I'm sitting with a woman, that she sits next to me and not across from me. I didn't really "get" this until being in that position many times and started to self-correct out of necessity. Starting to think in terms of getting her aroused, and getting comfortable acting on it - casually. That only comes from experience. Experience is the antidote to anxiety.

I used to always hook a random girl in and I would drag her around all night, she gives me "the eyes" and heavy kino but I created a mental wall that made it difficult for me to push it past that, it had nothing to do with them. It was just a fear of being perceived as too "forward", it is self-induced. The secret is that women want you to be forward, and being forward requires practice. It's a shift in perception and really the value you see in yourself. You can read & read & read on field reports and theory but the best way is to just keep plugging away at it, get comfortable getting to that level with women over and over again, and just like lifting weight, you'll eventually feel ready to add another few pounds to the bar. You're also going to have to learn*** to stop being hard on yourself and start viewing your interactions as free-flowing experiences that ONLY add to your value, not take away.

mynekmybakmykittykat · 2018-06-16T12:20:19+00:00

Dude I can guarantee you this one. If a woman is single. she is simply looking for a man to make the right moves on her and start pounding her vagene. She gets horny just like you and me, and if she's hanging out with you, it means she's allowing you to audition. So go ahead and perform.

DiggerClam · 2018-06-16T13:29:04+00:00

This is a really easy one and Chris from Goodlookingloser.com gets it spot on.

DON'T TRY AND BE SMOOTH

Your anxiety stems from trying to remember the 'smooth moves' you've read on PUA forums, YouTube vids and movies - you're afraid that if you don't pull them off exactly, she'll think you're a loser. DON'T BE SMOOTH AND DON'T WAIT FOR THE 'PERFECT TIME'.

Girls love audacity, not smoothness

trtanon · 2018-06-16T11:41:04+00:00

Watch a ton of youtube videos on escalating. Take what you like from each and put together a game plan. Mystery has old videos demonstrating how to do kino and takeaways from a quick search just now. He knows his shit. Learn some routines. Strawberry fields and rings on fingers for example sexualize the conversation and help a lot.

Title	Dealing with escalation anxiety?
Author	thesmithofwords
Upvotes	2
Comments	9
Date	June 16, 2018 10:56 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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