I'm a long time lurker of TRP, and my life has improved drastically as a result. I lift regularly, money and job is going well, and I've made huge improvements in cold approaching and gaming women. I had pretty much made up my mind that I, at 38 years old, will most likely be a bachelor for the rest of my life. I believe AWALT. I believe in hypergamy.

But recently I started seeing a girl. I had no intention of getting myself to a place where I'm considering actually dating her, but here I am. She is semi long distance (about 90 miles). Red flags include drinking a little heavy (I'm sober), and she lives with a male roommate. This guy bought her flowers once and she set him straight that they will never date, and was immediately friend zoned. But they are friends and they frequently drink together at home.

She recently attempted to have "the talk" and I told her flat out that while I do like her, there is no way I would consider dating someone 90 miles away who drinks late at night with her male roommate. She has insisted that there is nothing going on with this guy, and I believe her. I met him, and he's as beta as they come. I've shown zero insecurity, but have been clear that this is a situation that I can't tolerate with someone I would be dating. I know what can happen when people drink. She responded by saying that if we were to date, she wouldn't drink with him out of consideration for me. She also already had plans to move to my area before we even met. So she understands (I made it very clear) that we are not together until some things change, and that I am free to talk to, flirt with, and have sex with other girls until that happens.

My buddy is disappointed that he's potentially losing his wingman, and his advice is to make sure I stay alpha AF if we do end up dating. But based on what I've shared here, I just want to know if the RP community feels like I need a swift kick in the balls, or is this just part of the red pill journey. I know some of you are into monogamy. I do like this girl and see potential as long as she seriously considers what I've told her. I'm just afraid I've got some brain chemistry blinding me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.