Hey all. I just found TRP, and after spending all evening reading up on things, it's fairly reasonable to say I'm undergoing a renaissance of my manhood I lost a while ago.

Anyways, to the point: I'm surrounded by betas. My father, whom I love dearly, is a beta. My mom just hounds the guy. My brother is involved a relationship where he's beyond beta - what would that be? Gamma? I mean, this guy basically goes broke over this one girl to get his dick wet. Sadly, after reading some stuff on here, i've realized I've been beta with my girl, and I'm hoping she hasn't done things behind my back I'm unaware of. Her father is beta, and my girl and her mother feed off of each other, empowering the one to strike at their respective man verbally.

There's a lot about my girl I enjoy, but the childish outbursts - referred to here as Shit Tests - always get me. Clearly, i'm falling for them. I think it's hard that I have no role model to go off of for how to be alpha. It seemed like the acceptable think to give into the shit test, as doing otherwise meant I was a jerk, child, etc.

I need some tips on how to fight this shit. There are some things i'm particularly concerned with/interested in:

First, is stuff relating to sex. My girl always holds sex over my head - I don't get laid because she's "not in the mood," I've "let myself go," (I've gained ten pounds over the years, but she complains if i'm busy working out) or we do it and she only wants things certain ways. Do I abstain from sex until she wants it? Sometimes when I think I get the alpha in me going again, she craves it like no other, but other times I might as well be a monk in a monastery.

Second, I think that often when I act alpha or close to alpha, she throws the shit fits and makes me question myself. Let me give an example - she throws a fit if I'm "too loud" in front of others. Maybe I'm playing basketball with friends and family, and I celebrate that I just made a good shot. Or I start loudly singing a song I like. No, I'm embarrassing. She, on the other hand, might do some weird ass song dance routine, but if I tell her to cut it out, she says I'm a jerk (or something along those lines). And her mother will support her, which in her mind means she wins.

So, how do I fight this predominance of the subservient beta male? I like this girl a lot, we've been together for a while, but I think some things need to change or things won't work out.

EDIT: Words.