So my former oneitis has been trying to rope me back in with all the attention and validation she’s seeking from me, I try to not waste my time and minimise my interactions with her but I sometimes end up hanging out with her friends which makes me spend time with her but even then I try to not pay attention to her

So she’s been messaging me lately about random stuff and I try to not give in and be an orbiter and provide validation

So after a few messages exchanged, I asked her to come to my place, she replied but ignored that question

So now I’ve got closure and my answer, she doesn’t want to fuck me, she just wants my attention and the sense of validation, self esteem and ego boost she can get from me which she expects me to provide for her, so I will cut my losses

The reason why I make this post is in the back of my mind, I have a small doubt about whether I should’ve just escalated in person with her on a night out clubbing but I didn’t get that opportunity last time due to circumstances out of my control. Which is why I just asked her to come to my place through text instead

I read somewhere in TRP material that if it’s not a “fuck yeah, then it’s a fuck no” or “the medium is the message”, in that if she isn’t up for it right away, there is no point trying again?

Have I got my solid concrete answers to the question of whether she wants to fuck me or was I wrong for not creating physical attraction and escalation instead?

Note: Keep in mind she has been stringing me along for months before when I was all beta blue pill and played the “patient” waiting game, what ended up happening was her going to some guys house after clubbing and rejecting me instead