I was talking to FWB (in person) about the next time we’re seeing each other. She wants to go to this new breakfast joint in the city centre on Friday morning so I pushed for her to come round Thursday night.

I asked her if “she still wants to go” and she says “yes” but wanted to “let me know closer to the time” about whether she was coming over to mine or I was going over to hers - the last 3 times I’ve gone over to hers and she said “she felt bad” that it’s always me going over to hers but I said “I don’t care” and it’s a non issue. I push her for a definitive answer so I can “get on with my shit” and she deliberated and was thinking out loud about either coming to mine or hers. The reason I pushed her for a definitive answer is because I felt that her “letting me know” is me stepping into her frame.

My question: is me pushing her for a definitive answer rather than accepting her “I’ll let you know” me stepping into her frame? If so, how should I move forward to regain frame? She said “I put her on the spot” and thought I was getting annoyed at her not being decisive but I pushed the “I’m not bothered about where, I just wanna plan ahead” sort of thing.