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This one really hits home for me rn, and I'm sure a lot of others too. Great post man.
/r/TheRedPill12/11/21 08:29 PM
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Yeah princess is a no no. Avoid “special” nicknames if you don’t want them to fall in love lol. I personally go w “sexy” or “cutie” to satisfy the “pull” part of “push-pull” and seems to work well while communicating sexual intent as opposed to “you’re gf material”. Keep the dynamics casual, text for logistics, etc. Be genuine too - super key. It’s more attractive and makes it easier to sieve through the ones that don’t match your same intent. Girls will let you know pretty quick your intent and…
/r/TheRedPill14/10/21 09:20 PM
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Set better boundaries early on, subtly communicating that you’re someone who likes to have “fun”. Do that by casually weaving into convo what so and so girl was saying the other day then mention another girl, etc. Also, don’t be romantic in your language. Treat her as a friend and keep it strictly sexual. Don’t beat yourself up bc it’s not always you; sometimes the girl is looking for a bf and you fit the image for her. Also, bi girls are easier to work with. She may be open enough when you ask …
/r/TheRedPill14/10/21 08:51 PM
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it's just immaturity on his part. don't take it personally. i wouldn't say that's a reason to break ties. pussy is pussy.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 05:30 PM
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bro i fuck my girl on her period with 0 fucks given it's not a big deal lol. just don't take him out w you anymore.
/r/askTRP11/06/21 05:17 PM
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Get the hint bro...she wasn't interested in you. She wasn't disrespectful either.
/r/askTRP03/04/21 08:15 PM
0

You'd be surprised.
/r/askTRP10/02/21 04:12 PM
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Careful not to come across as arrogant; it's a huge red flag. Humility is key.
/r/askTRP10/02/21 04:01 AM
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Be genuine, ask meaningful questions, listen carefully to the interviewer (showcase emotional intelligence), showcase leadership. Think what may be important traits in a candidate that would make a company want to invest in you. Remember it costs time and money to train (and an added pain if you require sponsorship as a non-citizen in the US). A good recruiter looks at you not just for your talent, knowledge, connections and experience, but also for your confidence, emotional intelligence, judge…
/r/askTRP10/02/21 03:32 AM
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No shame in rejection. Happens to the best of us.
/r/askTRP05/02/21 05:13 PM
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The flipside to this...if you're very successful at building the tension, you'll feel how much she wants you to kiss her. Tease her a bit. It'll make her want to skip kissing and go for the full kill.
/r/askTRP05/02/21 05:12 PM
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0 emotional intelligence and 0 self-awareness. How's that for her rating
/r/askTRP02/02/21 08:44 PM
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You dont matter to others. Only talk about yourself when they ask and even then keep it tight. This signals that you dont need/want their approval, signaling confidence. It's great to share about yourself as it relates to the other person, however. Relating to others builds connection and trust, which are the cornerstones of any relationship. Your frame in general has to be that you dont care what other people do. This is pretty key. However, putting your foot down for a friend is something you …
/r/TheRedPill02/02/21 06:14 PM
6

Why not have your girl point one out and you cold approach and reel her back in? This is what I'd be doing pre-COVID.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/21 07:28 PM
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Take liquid melatonin 10-15min before you go to bed. Should help immensely with your sleep problems. Never make excuses and don't expect sympathy from others. People have a limit for empathy/sympathy. If it's chronic depression related like I used to have, try practicing gratitude for what you have. Count your blessings everyday. Life is awesome if you allow yourself to see it that way.
/r/askTRP01/02/21 05:46 PM
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Think of it like praying. If you pray to God all day for a Ferrari but aren't doing anything to make it happen, are you gonna get that Ferrari? Fat chance it's a no. You gotta go out and get it. Now the way you go out and get it is up to you. In this world, there are hunters and gatherers. You can hunt with laser focus purpose or gather the scraps that come your way. That said, it's your life. Do what you want. Don't worry about what other people think is "alpha" or "normal" or what TRP neckbear…
/r/askTRP18/01/21 08:09 PM
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Try #2, and if it doesn't improve, tell HR so they can hold her feet to the fire. She'll either do better or self-destruct.
/r/askTRP18/01/21 04:05 PM
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Bro what are these comments lol. Without anymore detail, it's hard to say where she stands. But it sounds like a comfort test - so apply some comfort - not just a, "thanks for letting me know and feel free to talk more about it" lol. You're her bf, not customer service support.
/r/askTRP17/01/21 08:56 AM
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If she has masculine traits, same reason you'd be friends with a dude. Otherwise, it would be a hard pass unless she brings value in a meaningful way proportional to the value you bring her.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 01:16 AM
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Fame is overrated (and shallow/flimsy). Build influence by advancing in your career, gaining respect through your consistent actions/character. You can do the same through a hobby or through social circles. Being friendly, exhibiting leadership, hosting parties, etc. will help on this end. Be the person that understands the pain points of others and delivers solutions. This is the basic principle of business development, which is the avenue companies take to build influence in the market, get wo…
/r/askTRP08/10/20 01:51 PM
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Happened to me before. Ignoring is your best play. One step further, I'd take out my phone and show my girl some funny memes while they watch in resentment. Get her to laugh and focus on you. Keeps her in your world - reinforces that strangers are insignificant.
/r/askTRP07/10/20 11:53 AM
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Highly recommend The Natural by RSD Max and any of Julien Blanc's specials (Pimp, etc.). Recommend reading The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida. Beyond that, just practice cold approach. I recommend a 30-day challenge to really get you out of your comfort zone and experience various different types of women.
/r/askTRP30/09/20 07:59 PM
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Use that time after work to challenge yourself - select some things you want to improve on in your life, read up and watch vids, then execute. Do it one thing at a time. Hold yourself accountable. Something fun and challenging I can recommend to accelerate the process is to do a 30-day challenge, i.e. 2 days on 1 off workout challenge for 30 days, cold approach everyday for 30-days, cook 1 new meal each day for 30 days, diet challenge for 30 days, reading, etc.
/r/askTRP14/09/20 11:21 AM
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Never long distance. Rip the bandaid off as soon as you break up with any LTR by deleting from all social media. Delete #, no contact. As far as you're concerned, the girl you knew is dead to you, so it's time to mourn and move on.
/r/askTRP11/09/20 10:50 AM
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This is a shit post. Pretty funny though lol
/r/askTRP05/09/20 08:32 AM
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Not even close to the extent I'm referring to. He's just going through a small slump.
/r/askTRP02/09/20 11:16 AM
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Why would he give up his career to join the military dude? Usually that's the move for people looking for free college tuition, come from a military family, want a career in military or have no direction in life and want a kick in the ass. Not a smart move at his stage in life.
/r/askTRP02/09/20 11:02 AM
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I'm 29, STEM major + MBA, salary of $100k+, own my own apartment. 6'4, 195 @12% BF Great. Basically as I've reached this point I feel lately like my life is laid out before me and I can just continue as is day in day out. After some introspection I feel as though I'm missing the motivation or passion to build upon myself lately. This is normal for people who aren't challenged or busy enough. Pick up a new hobby like DJing, live streaming/making YouTube vids (you could give advice to other men, f…
/r/askTRP02/09/20 10:57 AM
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The strongest negotiating position is being willing to walk away and mean it. She blinked first. He told her what’s up and maintained frame. She has a choice and she owns it, knowing full well he may never LTR her. He can take his time.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 01:16 PM
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Bro....lol.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 12:57 PM
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I don’t see any major red flags here. Fairly textbook stuff. OP needs some time, and that’s cool. An advantage here is that he’s set a precedence for vetting her out and can take his time.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 12:15 PM
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Agree with this dude. One thing to add...don't close yourself entirely from an LTR w her. She is LTR material, according to you. Keep the door cracked open, but don't dangle it like bait. Stay totally honest as you have been.
/r/askTRP31/08/20 10:25 AM
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Set a strong value on your time. Live that by identifying what you must have and what are dealbreakers. Be realistic and understand that no girl will perfectly be what you want her to be. Experience more girls. Cold approach (do a 30-day challenge if you want to speed up your learning process and confidence gain). Have fun, and make it your goal in every human interaction to add value in some way. Always be having fun (by yourself or with others). Don't take yourself too seriously. Take what peo…
/r/askTRP18/08/20 08:05 PM
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It sounds like you have thin skin, and your friends knew that, which is why the kept it from you. They knew if they told you that you would also have a negative reaction bc they knew you liked her. You sound like you’re in high school. Let life take its course, lick your wounds and move forward. Take this as an opportunity to learn about yourself and become more self aware.
/r/askTRP31/07/20 01:13 PM
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If this affected you in anyway, you have a lot of growing up to do. Move on, get out of your own head and make a point to experience more in life.
/r/askTRP31/07/20 01:09 PM
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Why? Ego and lack of self-awareness, media influence, social welfare programs, instant gratification, technology, lack of self-confidence, lack of emotional intelligence, etc. How to avoid it? You can't. Most people are this way, including yourself to some degree (but you may not realize it). You can find like-minded people out there if you maintain a positive outlook on people and life in general; having a strong frame and prioritizing self-awareness/self-improvement will attract them.
/r/askTRP29/07/20 01:43 PM
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It's likely generational. Our parents' generation held a "fix it yourself" and "hard work earns the bills" attitudes. In particular, men of the household have historically been bread winners. But now, hours are ridiculous to the point that men aren't present to raise their kids - it's the mothers that do. Mothers with a feminist, PC narrative (equipped by media) whispering in their sons' and daughters' ears. Not enough dominant father figures to model after and balance that out.
/r/askTRP29/07/20 11:18 AM
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You communicated that you're secure and wanted to have fun that night, and that - if she didn't want to be part of it, you'll create the fun with someone else. This is exactly what I would have done in this situation. Never compromise what's fundamental to you, especially respect. Never allow yourself to be taken hostage by anybody. And also important is to always have fun and not let someone else dictate that for you!
/r/askTRP23/07/20 01:50 PM
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Ya dude, ignoring is the way to go. It's so effective. I've had duos and trios of dudes tryna interrupt my set many times. I completely ignore like they're not even there and keep my set's focus on me and what I'm showing her. She sees you are confident in that way. It turns her on like crazy. I actually LOVE it when someone tries to interrupt my set, because it's an opportunity to build attraction And if she's for the streets and is about the bullshit, you just ignore HER and exit the set. Most…
/r/TheRedPill23/07/20 11:09 AM
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Ever heard of Cleopatra? You think those dudes she thirst trapped were RP? Men been simpin.
/r/askTRP23/07/20 11:04 AM
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I personally love to play around with what kind of outlandish excuse can I use that she goes with. The greater her interest level, the less it needs to sound interesting.
/r/askTRP21/07/20 06:07 PM
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Man, I feel you. I've been through so many depressive episodes, feels like a struggle just to crack a smile. It happens man. You go through highs in life, then you go through your lows. Happens to everybody. You just gotta power through it. One thing you can always depend on is this: Whatever happens to me, I'll be just fine. It always rings true. It may feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, whether it's feeling inadequate or that everyone hates you. Guess what? Everybody's wor…
/r/askTRP17/07/20 04:49 PM
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This is a huge one. Aside from making you feel more fulfilled/less invested in one person, it also sets you up for your own branch swing.
/r/askTRP16/07/20 12:23 PM
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Last Tango in Paris The Departed The Godfather (I, II and III) Goldeneye Bonus -- TV Series: True Detective (Season 1), Breaking Bad (see transformation of BP to RP), Game of Thrones, Mad Men (Don Draper)
/r/askTRP15/07/20 12:58 PM
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Last Tango in Paris The Departed The Godfather (I, II and III) Goldeneye Bonus -- TV Series: True Detective (Season 1), Breaking Bad (see transformation of BP to RP), Game of Thrones, Mad Men (Don Draper)
/r/askTRP14/07/20 02:01 PM
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I have a gf, so that will not be an issue. But seriously, how does the 5-day fast work? Literally no food intake for 5 days, just water? Or is it Ramadan style?
/r/askTRP09/07/20 04:20 PM
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Bang skanks, never date them. Be dominant, and employ strong character. The “good guys” you’re referring are not good; they’re just pussies with weak boundaries that rationalize their behavior by playing the victim card.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/20 01:51 PM
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I didn't think it was until one of my coworkers revealed to me that he cold approaches and reads TRP. Mind was blown.
/r/askTRP16/06/20 11:20 AM
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You are beating yourself up for your own circumstances, and all that does is make you feel like you're not enough. Be more forgiving of yourself, and realize there is no gain in beating yourself up. Change what you can. Read to become smarter, work hard, work out to get in shape, work on game, don't put too much value to us here on RedPill or how "beta" you are. Accept the things you can't change, but put real efforts if you want to change for the better.
/r/askTRP11/06/20 01:45 PM
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Stick to your guns with the hard next unless she comes correct.
/r/askTRP10/06/20 03:00 PM
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If your frame dictates that it isn't weird to approach (confidence), then it won't be weird. So long as you're not being socially uncalibrated or approaching with a needy or "I want something from you" mindset, you should be good.
/r/askTRP09/06/20 02:32 PM
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Do what you want to do. But just remember, you'll regret it later for not taking full advantage of your time and place in life rn. Keep sniping so you can improve yourself for later, when relationships become practical. In college, I would say relationships are NOT the way to go.
/r/askTRP04/06/20 10:39 AM
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Drinks or coffee are good ones. Make sure it's close to pull spot. Anywhere free is good too. I'll take em to the park, a nice furniture store like Restoration Hardware or the Container Store (if you're in the states). They're unique, free, easy to bounce from at any time and most importantly fun. The bonus is you get to test if the girl has an entitled attitude (i.e. doesn't do free dates). Most guys would go all out on first date, dinner, movies, etc.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 11:16 AM
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Great advice thank you.
/r/askTRP21/05/20 02:02 AM
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Not a bad option.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 11:09 PM
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Why didn’t I think of that? Brilliant
/r/askTRP20/05/20 11:04 PM
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Another useless comment 👎🏼
/r/askTRP20/05/20 10:38 PM
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Kid you’re toxic. That’s not welcome here.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 10:28 PM
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And yet you’re the one who’s triggered. Take a deep breath bud.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 10:14 PM
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Take your own advice. Sounds like you’re butthurt bud. No need to get in your feelings.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 09:58 PM
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This guy
/r/askTRP20/05/20 09:44 PM
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3 paragraphs of mindless regurgitation? Yikes no thx
/r/askTRP20/05/20 09:43 PM
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You’re right. What would you advise on the next move? Withdrawing attention for a week as punishment feels like my best play at this point.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 09:14 PM
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ReAD tHe SiDeBaR. Not looking for stupid responses like this bud, try again.
/r/askTRP20/05/20 09:07 PM
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I like that Gucci bar. Pettiness wreaks of insecurity though, and it means you're still reacting to her bullshit. You gotta set hard boundaries early, before she pulls anything. If she's texting other guys in front of you, its bc YOUR boundaries are loose. Set boundaries in conversation. Show her that you have boundaries that are not to be fucked with. Show her through your actions why she has more to lose than you. Show her that you have options. After that, you're just cruising dread game.
/r/TheRedPill19/05/20 12:54 AM
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I got news for you buddy: guys do the same thing. My current LTR lost her mother a year and a half ago, and while her mom was on her deathbed, her ex broke up w her. It's more about being with a person with healthy principles as opposed to being with someone selfish/toxic. Sorry for your loss bro.
/r/askTRP13/05/20 01:25 PM
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To your point regarding who comes to TRP, y'all are missing an important demographic that perhaps you didn't consider. I think a lot of us have father figures, let alone masculine father figures, and it is not always the case that masculine father figures will produce masculine sons. The "boss" father is an excellent example. If you compare the sons of bosses to their fathers, they often tend to be beta af, and this is because those masculine fathers were too busy on their careers to raise their…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/20 07:47 PM
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Key thing is avoid getting in your feelings (reacting). You don't have to respond verbally, you can just respond with your cool, calm body language like you're in his head and you understand why he would want to bring you down. You can also be playful in your response. If someone insults you, use some aspects from game (AA, pressure flip, etc.). If you're caught off guard, have a default response ready, like "I love you too bro". You communicate that nothing he says will bring you down and its a…
/r/askTRP05/05/20 07:41 PM
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Bro, literally had this talk with my dad (in his 60s), and he semi-agreed. This is coming from the biggest boss I know who always encouraged me to get married. In my late 20s and have no desire for marriage. Just seems like a bad deal. Our tastes change with time, you get bored of your partner, and if shit doesn't go right or you realize fundamental differences, you're just stuck with this tight financial seatbelt. No thanks.
/r/askTRP05/05/20 10:42 AM
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I have a 3-flake rule that's worked pretty well for me. First flake, benefit of the doubt. Second flake, soft next. 3 flakes = hard next. It's crazy what it does to some of them too. I still get girls hitting me up from over a year of no contact (not that you want to give them another shot).
/r/askTRP01/05/20 10:50 AM
2

Great post, just fix your attitude. There is no benefit from jealousy.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/20 05:09 PM
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Listen, show him TRP and game, get him laid, encourage him to get a job and his own place. Encourage him to workout. It sounds like he's got a victim mindset, which is more of a sign of immaturity and lack of self-awareness. I was depressed in college and had these issues but wised up quite a bit once I started applying self-awareness, my career and challenging myself.
/r/askTRP30/04/20 05:02 PM
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2nd this. Bonus: her hamster gets rabies.
/r/askTRP28/04/20 02:35 PM
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Just be genuine. Idk how old you are, but I can almost guarantee that you may change your mind about marriage with time, whether it's with this girl or someone else. That said, personally, I am approaching 30 and still not keen on the idea, but I can see that possibly changing within a few years. Similar situation as you, been dating my LTR for over a year. Vetted her as a plate for 6 months before I LTR'd her. She's got qualities that would be suited for marriage/motherhood. But she is young an…
/r/askTRP27/04/20 11:14 AM
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But she must be low SMV if she's scarcity? Not always. I have known high SMV girls to feel scarce. Remember, there are endless supplies of thirsty dudes out there, and very few of them can be cool. If all she wants is a cool guy, she may not fw the thirsties. And she'll do anything for that cool guy.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 11:05 AM
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Can be a great thing esp if she doesn't have a whole lot of experience. But you gotta test her actions over a period of time.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 11:02 AM
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"Treat every gun as if it's loaded" Applies to anyone of any gender.
/r/askTRP21/04/20 07:54 PM
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I have. Too many acronyms in this bitch.
/r/askTRP14/04/20 02:11 PM
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I don’t think that’s a threat I face. But you’re right.
/r/askTRP14/04/20 11:10 AM
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Lol
/r/askTRP14/04/20 11:07 AM
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DBE?
/r/askTRP14/04/20 11:06 AM
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Ya you’re right. It’s time.
/r/askTRP14/04/20 11:06 AM
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Fair
/r/askTRP14/04/20 11:03 AM
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Lol you right
/r/askTRP14/04/20 11:03 AM
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If it’s almost impossible for you, then you’re not doing it right. That said, I’d keep it going anyway. You came face to face with her ex who is feeling the burn, so it’s understandable why you feel bad. Flip the perspective. Consider it a blessing for him that he can take this opportunity to learn to become more of a man and move on to better matches. From the sounds of it, this is a classic AWALT situation. If you stop fucking this girl, you’re just wasting good pussy.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/20 04:27 PM
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It was certainly off-color on her end, but you took it personally as disrespect while it does not appear to have been her intent. Some good AA and humor from you would have been a better response.
/r/askTRP10/04/20 01:49 PM
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Keep your head up, it's just a bump in the road. Look for a new job immediately, and knock on every door possible. In the interview, ask the leadership what assurances they can make that they will retain you and not furlough/lay off. On the issue of confidence, nobody but yourself is responsible for your mental well-being and self-esteem. Seems like this event triggered this realization, not that it just came up out of nowhere. So work on it. Hard times make us harder. Just keep going with the a…
/r/askTRP06/04/20 12:06 PM
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Netflix Party Chrome extension
/r/askTRP18/03/20 10:50 AM
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Lot of opportunity here actually. Dating apps are about to be lit. Also neighbor game. Fuck like it’s the end of the world.
/r/askTRP18/03/20 12:31 AM
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Anywhere, everywhere, any time of day. Professional events, grocery stores, mall, on the street, bars, coffee shops...everywhere.
/r/askTRP17/03/20 06:17 PM
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Am a 9/10 looks wise. But, the main reason is confidence. Let me explain. Before I learned RP concepts and started cold approaching, I was having few successes and not with the quality of women I envisioned for myself. A lot of rejections, needy mindset, poor game and lack of confidence contributed to this. I could not lead because I did not have strong sense of reality. After I started cold approaching, everything changed. I became much more confident and played to win. My game got much better …
/r/askTRP17/03/20 05:47 PM
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Get a sense of his current plate, get him to commit to a reasonable day/time to have his work ready by (get buy-in), set the expectations (be very clear) and follow-up regularly (but not too often; do NOT micro-manage). It is not your job to remind him, but following up is a way to hold his feet to the fire. Example of following up: Hey just want to follow-up regarding the upcoming deadline. How's it coming along? Do you have any questions on it? This way, you subtley remind him, hold his feet t…
/r/askTRP13/03/20 12:30 PM
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Calm down bruh.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 08:12 PM
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You lost frame. And you think getting in a physical or verbal pissing match with anyone makes you hard? The correct response would have been to ignore from the beginning, which communicates that he poses no threat, that your conscience is clear and you know the guy is just busting your chops.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 02:47 PM
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Keep healthy-minded people around you and distance yourself from toxic people. Develop self-awareness and a strong reality.
/r/askTRP05/03/20 02:41 PM
1

The point is to direct the conversation to your liking. If you're not comfortable talking about sports, guide the convo to something you do like talking about. Strong eye contact. Read her body language. Be genuine. Kino. Cold read. All are interesting and draw up attraction.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 07:46 PM
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This is one take on it that has potential. Another is she may just be low self-esteem but high SD. She may be extremely fearful of rejection and would rather wait for the initiative to come from you as a way of feeling accepted/wanted without risking rejection.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 07:40 PM
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Either get over it or hop employers.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 07:33 PM
1

One of my best friends got set up by a woman to be robbed and killed. So now my views of women are so fucked. If it was a man, would you say the same? Men have done that probably moreso than women. Is it possible all men/women are like that? How can I change my entire outlook and be a happy guy. Create a strong reality. Realize what your priorities in life are, develop short term and long term goals, come up with a game plan to achieve them, have a solid 'why' and don't compromise them for anyon…
/r/askTRP04/03/20 07:30 PM
2

Withdrawing attention and soft nexting are your best options if she crossed a boundary that you communicated in the past or disrespected you (i.e. tantrum, yelling, flaking, etc.). If it's a dealbreaker or there have been too many repeat offenses, hard next and don't look back.
/r/askTRP04/03/20 07:23 PM
2

This is the only answer. Read the sidebar to help internalize and update your perspective. Everyone learns at a different pace. Took me a year or so after obsessive reading, dating and cold approach to "get it".
/r/askTRP04/03/20 07:20 PM
4

Ignore, let her re-initiate.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 06:03 PM
3

Men value physical. Women value attention. You're giving her free attention without the physical part by doing long distance. It still stands. Next.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 06:02 PM
3

Then if she presses one more time, "I don't kiss and tell"
/r/askTRP03/03/20 05:59 PM
6

I would have nexted her when she took that job. She did not look at you as a priority then, did she? So why would you make her your priority now? You even gave her a second chance, and she still insists she has no reason to be in your town. NEXT.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 05:47 PM
1

Know your value (and your product's/service's worth), know what you want and always be willing to walk away if your client's value doesn't align with your value. If it's a service, NEVER reduce rates for the client. You can offer to reduce scope or provide scope options, but NEVER reduce rates to satisfy a client's needs.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 05:43 PM
1

Try it out. But have strong boundaries. Keep your efforts to a minimum, expect nothing to come from it and be very clear about your intentions. Communicate subtly that you are not looking for a LTR with her.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 05:36 PM
3

Yes. And those aren't plates dude. Read up.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 01:40 PM
1

She's trying to bait you. I wouldn't respond. She invested once, she will likely invest again. Her hamster is going, "why didn't he answer or message me about it"
/r/askTRP03/03/20 01:06 PM
1

Low confidence, not assertive enough, lack of boundaries, needy, not providing value, lack of leadership
/r/askTRP03/03/20 01:02 PM
2

I am now considered attractive and have a 'no fucks given' attitude, securing hook ups at clubs or kisses. Lol you are missing the point young Padawan. The way you deal with anyone interrupting your set is you IGNORE them and continue talking as if they're not there, no matter what.
/r/askTRP03/03/20 12:03 PM
1

Well then you’ve missed the point of game my friend. Remember, women communicate covertly, while men overtly. If you want to win and influence people, you gotta calibrate, with man or woman.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 10:56 PM
0

For being socially uncalibrated and reading her incorrectly, yes he does. A man should never be afraid of admitting he’s wrong.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 10:38 PM
0

it serves no purpose Comfort.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 10:30 PM
-2

It’s all about frame dude. You’d be applying comfort she’s looking for. If she takes it that way and tries to manipulate, then it’s your prerogative to next her.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 10:28 PM
4

Haha yup.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 10:00 PM
4

This is too long and incoherent to read. Suggest trimming it down. Also, throw out that thesaurus you used to write this.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 09:55 PM
18

The best way of leading your equals (or greater) is by example.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 09:53 PM
10

I don’t know if there’s a correlation because I don’t typically go for tall girls. But i wouldn’t be opposed to it. If you’re worried that your dick is too small, just do the finger test before. 2 fingers, you’re good. 3 or more, hard next the bitch.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 09:49 PM
1

Lol
/r/askTRP02/03/20 09:25 PM
-5

Ya just apologize for being uncalibrated and offer her again to listen without judgement. Be mature about it.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 09:24 PM
7

She wants to open up (be vulnerable with you), and you respond without empathy in an uncalibrated manner. You read her incorrectly. That broke trust.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 09:12 PM
2

You'll naturally gravitate away from platonic friendships with women, but that doesn't mean you won't have any female friends. I only have one real female friend I talk to once a week (SMV 7). If anything though, she's always had an interest in me. I wouldn't date her.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 09:09 PM
1

It worked for me bud.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 09:01 PM
4

You're being too hard on yourself. You sound like me a few years ago. Identify what you would like to work on: Career Love life Assertiveness Tenacity Healthy life habits Then think about what you can do to do better in those. Take baby steps. Remember, it's not all-or-nothing. For example, start by reducing the amount you smoke to only night time (when you have no responsibilities), then reduce to weekends only then once every 2 weeks, and so on.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 05:14 PM
2

Would have been more effective if you had a goal in mind, but sounds like you were wishy-washy about the whole thing. Start by getting logistics. Build the attraction (eye contact, kino, teasing, cold read, leading). Lead hard and change environments (build comfort). Compliance tests to gage her interest then close. You could send low effort snap pic, something interesting or funny. If she responds, great. If not, move on.
/r/askTRP02/03/20 04:54 PM
2

"So is this why you asked me to dinner tonight?" I jokingly responded with, "Yep, it all went according to plan perfectly." No response. Good AA use there. Then I said something along the lines of, "You were the one who jumped all over me." She then switched the subject. Now you're reacting to her because she didn't respond to you. You otherwise would have passed the ST if you kept your mouth shut. Btw, you're not a jerk. Pass the ST, continue being genuine, and you'll be fine. GG on the lay
/r/askTRP28/02/20 07:50 PM
1

For day game, girls are usually at that place with an objective and possibly before another obligation. The one rule to remember is DON'T get in their way, i.e. if she's walking somewhere and you want to talk to her, don't stop her to talk. Walk with her and talk. Also, calibrate yourself. If you're in line somewhere, it's cool because she has a way out if she's uncomfortable. Don't trap her. Day game is usually better in an open environment where she feels safe and can bounce at anytime. RSD Ma…
/r/askTRP28/02/20 07:44 PM
1

You gotta own who you are with pride. If someone makes fun of you for having a big nose, tell em, "If I told you it's my most attractive quality, then I'd be Pinocchio." with a grin. You get instant respect with a sprinkle of giggles to top it off. This is how you deal with ST; everyone ST, not just girls.
/r/askTRP28/02/20 07:29 PM
1

You’re not leading hard, and it’s turning her off. You’re also giving her too much free attention. She likely nexted you.
/r/askTRP28/02/20 07:22 PM
1

"Hey btw I'm going to/gonna do ABC on XYZday, you should come join me if you're free."
/r/askTRP28/02/20 07:19 PM
1

You're presenting a challenge, which is not commonly found in most guys (they love earning the attention). As long as you're not taking advantage/being toxic, you shouldn't feel guilty.
/r/askTRP28/02/20 03:29 PM
3

Super direct game only works in very niche situations (i.e. strong polarity/tension, high SD women).
/r/askTRP28/02/20 03:26 PM
1

Apply a bit more comfort than you would a plate, listen to her needs and satisfy them. Establish boundaries and have consequences when she crosses them or your needs are not met. Communicate openly. Positive reinforcement for behaviors you like and when she does them. Withdraw attention when she does something you don't like. Check her when she asks you for more than she gives.
/r/askTRP28/02/20 01:54 PM
19

Imagine what your life will be like if you continue down this path when you're in your 40s-50s+. Do you want to be miserable and weak?
/r/askTRP28/02/20 01:48 PM
1

Nobody said it was lol
/r/askTRP28/02/20 02:31 AM
1

If cold approach was part of your lifestyle it’d definitely be a major consideration
/r/askTRP28/02/20 01:25 AM
3

Unless you're a hardcore business hustler gonna-be-a-CEO-one-day kinda guy, I would say the best businesses to get into are the ones in highest demand with the longest runway. Think professional careers, long-withstanding throughout history (which I am sure you can appreciate). Some examples: Engineering (Civil, Mechanical, Biomedical, Industrial, Chemical, etc.), Medicine, Finance, Accounting, Law, etc. Overall, once you pay your dues, you're basically set for life. I highly recommend Civil Eng…
/r/askTRP27/02/20 08:31 PM
1

Just hit her up when your logistics are better.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 07:04 PM
6

LA traffic is the worst. Miami's is pretty bad too. NYC is walkable at least. Had some good times in Manhattan for the week I was there. From a cold approach standpoint, NYC is a goldmine. F closed twice in 12 hrs while I was there (one a daygame pull the other at bar/nightclub). All things being equal, I'd either go NYC or Miami.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 06:23 PM
1

If she initiates a meet up on her own, tell her what you told us. Or keep her on the backburner as another guy here mentioned. No big deal either way. You don't owe her anything.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 06:19 PM
1

Also how much time do you take before you start making out/undressing? Feel it out. Watch the body language (playing with her, strong eye contact, lots of smiling and giggling, etc.), Kino (look for positive, neutral or negative response) and use compliance tests.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 06:15 PM
10

Her lifestyle is not yours to have a say. You either accept her or you don't. But you will never win a battle with the parents. That said, you're only 2 months in talking about having her move in and get her to detach from her parents? My advice is take a step back my friend.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 05:47 PM
1

Go out and cold approach. You build game by building reference experiences and trying out sidebar material. Takes awhile for most as it takes time to internalize.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 05:37 PM
3

Maybe she's got someone else now and knows you're gone. Maybe your d game was wack. Maybe she's just not interested anymore and has nothing else to say to you. A lot of possibilities, but there isn't a whole lot of evidence you provided that points to your conclusion.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 03:31 PM
1

You did your part. Soft next. Watch her squirm for your attention, or maybe it dies out. But I wouldn't waste my time further. Always make sure you're the one steering the ship.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 02:11 PM
1

You're taking it personally, but it's not personal. You recognized it didn't go that well. Guess what? She did too. Except, she was the one to realize she didn't want to waste hers and someone else's time further. That's actually a great thing. Otherwise, she could have confused you, lead you on, etc. Understand that it is not a failure on your part. It is an incompatibility. It's not ALL about how alpha you are.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 01:59 PM
3

Do you seem like you make a lot of money? What is her financial background? Does she give off crazy vibes? These need to be answered before we can help you.
/r/askTRP27/02/20 01:21 PM
-2

You mean like a small dick? Not a big deal dude. Not to troll, but you’re Asian, so girls expect it. Make sure you know how to make a girl cum, and you’ll be set.
/r/askTRP25/02/20 06:58 PM
4

Everyone has gone through the similar shit Remember this.
/r/askTRP25/02/20 06:50 PM
1

I want to see if I’m ready for the next step and start dating/hooking up, vetting for potential replacements. Sounds like you feel that you are. Go for it. You don't need our permission.
/r/askTRP25/02/20 06:47 PM
12

Set your boundary. Tell her you don't like it and that you'll be the one to set that pace as you please.
/r/askTRP25/02/20 06:44 PM
2

All I do is lie to my friends about various ONS I have because I don't want to look like the one kid who doesn't get laid, when in reality I only have an n-count of 2. I have some news for you: they already know you're lying. I'm attending one of the biggest party schools in the nation, and yet barely go to any parties because I don't know anyone who's into that kind of scene. Get yourself out there. Go to lib/class and chat people up. One by one. Join a cultural org. This is how I made friends …
/r/askTRP25/02/20 06:41 PM
3

Could be a good opportunity to give her comfort tbh. But follow your gut.
/r/askTRP25/02/20 02:36 PM
12

You have a good problem to have, unlock most guys; you got the dread game on lock, but the comfort is lacking. She's seeking comfort. If you keep pushing with no pull in sight, she's gonna bounce fast. Apply more comfort. Take her out spontaneously, wherever you like. Go somewhere like McDonalds to get inside her head a little more. See how she reacts.
/r/askTRP25/02/20 02:20 PM
4

Why are you negotiating? lol Either you make the decision to end it or she's gonna lead you on (likely not maliciously, mind you). It sounds like she has a branch-swing option she wants to test and wants to hedge her bets without feeling like she's loose.
/r/askTRP25/02/20 02:07 PM
9

AA, pressure flip, ignore, etc., just like you'd do for a ST. By doing this, you disarm him and let your girl know he doesn't even register on the radar.
/r/askTRP25/02/20 02:03 PM
2

I asked her if “she still wants to go” and she says “yes” but wanted to “let me know closer to the time” You're not leading. Bad. Try this instead: let her know that you're gonna do something on a day/time and she can join you if she likes (I wouldn't compliance test since she's lukewarm) she said “she felt bad” that it’s always me going over to hers but I said “I don’t care” and it’s a non issue. She feels bad bc she knows you don't have boundaries. She knows she can misbehave and get away with…
/r/askTRP25/02/20 01:55 PM
1

Slight feminist vibes, no big deal. Just make sure you keep an eye on it. Get her back to towing the line. Make sure you pepper her real nice with compliance tests after these occurrences, then hit her with the positive reinforcement for the KO. Goodluck bud.
/r/askTRP24/02/20 08:17 PM
2

Personally, sticking to my gender would work best for me. That doesn't mean I'd turn away a golden goose if I found one. I have tried a couple of therapists, one male and one female. Both seemed to act in their own interest by running down the clock, but that doesn't mean there aren't any solid therapists out there. If it's a priority to you, keep trying. And stop worrying so much about whether or not you are holding frame. It's good to calibrate but don't fall in the trap of manufacturing your …
/r/askTRP19/02/20 01:29 PM
2

Go for Civil Engineering degree and take a Geotech/Construction job after that. You'll start calling the shots and making much more money, with the added bonus of a head-start since you have some experience in construction. Just realize you'll have to pay your dues first 3 years working in the field, but the pay will still be much better.
/r/askTRP11/02/20 02:24 AM
7

It also helps to be 33, the dating pool gets bigger as you get older, who the F wants to date a 18/19/20 year old. I do and am. Better to shape and mould them to your liking instead of getting handed someone else's leftovers.
/r/askTRP02/02/20 02:07 PM
5

So many possibilities. But the biggest one I see is that you ended the convo. She sent you this genuine (value) message and all you said is “nice” lol.
/r/askTRP13/01/20 05:14 PM
2

Read, "The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari".
/r/askTRP10/01/20 02:12 AM
1

Ya sure, but it's not all or nothing as many folks on this sub suggest. It is necessary for most to have variance. Expansion (growth) and contraction (relax). Like everything in life, too much of something isn't good, i.e. working too hard for too long / expanding your reach without end can and will burn you out. Make it a priority, be intellectually honest with yourself, do it for you. Take the pressure off of yourself and trust the process that you will eventually achieve your realistic goals …
/r/TheRedPill08/01/20 09:01 PM
2

You forget an important thing. "4. She gets to see you in action leading hard." The club/bar/concert/music festival is a chaotic place. You navigating her through it and remaining calm is proof to her that she can depend on you not to break under pressure (i.e. maintain frame). It is massively attractive, especially when you provide the fun, which is the most valuable currency in that environment.
/r/askTRP08/01/20 01:50 PM
3

A red flag in of itself. The irony.
/r/askTRP08/01/20 01:41 PM
1

I see your point. Humility is more of a by-product of being authentic and truly placing priority on yourself over others in all facets of life. Definitely an interesting view. Saved your comment.
/r/askTRP07/01/20 08:01 PM
1

This is an excellent perspective. I too have found that counting my blessings has made me feel more humble and open, let alone content with my current circumstances. Thank you
/r/askTRP07/01/20 06:54 PM
2

This is a very interesting perspective. I would say I’m a bit more on the aggressive, competitive side. My weakness is my ego, as I tend to allow myself to get sucked into the high of winning and fragment reality as a result. I also tend to underestimate some people, and I find that to be weak in of itself as my ability to read others becomes diminished. When you are humble, you have implicitly experienced bloody noses from this climb but now know better to recognize the mistake before it repeat…
/r/askTRP07/01/20 06:52 PM
1

I’m good on #2, but I need to get back to doing more of the first. Thank you for the reminder.
/r/askTRP07/01/20 06:42 PM
1

Ayahuasca gave me a massive boost in humility, if only temporary. But it dissipated over time. It is my experience that tells me humility is something you have to work on everyday and cannot be practically sustained through simply tripping. You must be active, not passive.
/r/askTRP07/01/20 06:41 PM
1

In business, as elsewhere in life (such as the poker table), it is exceedingly powerful to be underestimated. People will never know what you’re thinking.
/r/askTRP07/01/20 06:39 PM
7

Preach.
/r/askTRP07/01/20 03:37 PM
2

In my experience, it's a great way to cut. But I wouldn't work out while fasting. Working out 30 min to an hr after a meal works well for me.
/r/askTRP03/01/20 04:53 PM
1

Lmk how it goes. Gl dude.
/r/askTRP03/01/20 04:33 PM
2

Arabs/Persians are everywhere dude. There are also Masjids everywhere, and that would be a decent starting point. Build a social circle with Middle Eastern people, and you will get in touch with the community there. Other good places to look are actual Middle Eastern restaurants. You will find folks there. Otherwise, I promise you dude, there are girls outside of Middle Eastern culture that share your same sentiment about drinking/partying if you make that apparent from the beginning. There are …
/r/askTRP03/01/20 03:49 PM
2

Social circles (especially if you're from Bilad Al-Sham) and get involved at Arab institutions/events (facebook)/cultural associations or Masjids. Minder is also an option. You didn't state where you live, but if you live in the States in a decently populated city, it shouldn't be hard to find. Moving abroad isn't necessary. Source: also Middle Eastern
/r/askTRP03/01/20 03:31 PM
2

You need more experience to internalize the teachings. In the meantime, keep yourself busy, push hard to better yourself, set realistic goals and follow through. Build new productive habits one at a time. Also highly recommend cold approach to speed up your experience.
/r/askTRP03/01/20 03:25 PM
4

Plate only. Girls that young need the experience, and the value you can bring with YOUR experience as an older guy is what she's looking for. That's a big reason she's seeking FWB from the jump.
/r/askTRP03/01/20 03:19 PM
0

But one thing I have been doing in my life recently. I have been trying to work on my relationships. Not with just girls but people in general. What aspects have you been working on recently to improve your relationships with people in general?
/r/askTRP02/01/20 07:39 PM
1

You right. At least too much of it anyway.
/r/askTRP02/01/20 07:31 PM
2

I can see that, but I believe you can be successful and also have successful friends.
/r/askTRP02/01/20 07:31 PM
1

Your standards are too higher but your status isn’t. Where in my post gave you this impression? Fuck bitches, get money. So far doing both very well.
/r/askTRP02/01/20 07:28 PM
2

1) Naw, This is just you being a dick. Is it though? Every time we hang, all we do is catch up. Like, "how are you, how's so-and-so, what have you been up to," etc. They're all pretty difficult to get ahold of and get something planned bc it's usually 1 or 2 people planning it out. It all feels corny to me and kinda waste of time, even though I've had amazing times with these people in high school. 2) Isolation from your social circle and spending that time with your LTR is problematic. As I sta…
/r/askTRP02/01/20 07:25 PM
4

Listen to what suits your vibe at the moment. When angry, I'll listen to metal. Sad - listen to sad music, etc. Usually matching my vibe with the music I listen to makes me feel better personally.
/r/askTRP02/01/20 02:14 PM
1

Most of em are lying. I remember I did too. Focus on bettering yourself. Remain in your frame. Don't worry what other people are doing. You'll get there bud.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 09:48 PM
5

Chat w other girls. Brush it off.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 09:37 PM
7

Cold approach often. Make friends everywhere, expand your social circle. Stay away from leadership roles in orgs - waste of time and you’ll regret it later. Join culture orgs. Great for meeting girls of a certain background. I.e. Middle eastern, Latin, African American, Caribbean, French cultural associations. Greek life isn’t a bad option to start out. But cut it off before Junior year. Dues get expensive and you already made all the connections you need by that point. Keep several good dealers…
/r/askTRP23/12/19 08:53 PM
8

Go talk to one, you'll experience it for yourself.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 08:19 PM
1

Read the sidebar my friend. It answers this for you.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 08:18 PM
2

pretty sure it does. I have noticeably more allergies when I shave vs. no-shave.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 07:54 PM
3

Always be in control of your environment and the vibe.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 07:53 PM
1

Up your dread game. Other than that, people are gonna do what they want to do. If it happens, learn to vet your LTR better next time. But don't let it jaundice your view on handling LTRs. You gotta trust, and checking her phone is never that. It's toxic af and communicates that you have a very fragile ego.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 07:03 PM
7

depends, what material is your chain
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:56 PM
1

I have a chiseled chin/face but still choose the beard way of life. I'm a hairy man, so it's my nature. I also enjoy that it functions as a filter for allergens.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:48 PM
2

You break up with her. If she begs to work it out, tell her you can't give her commitment like you used to before. If she doesn't, move on and get a real plate.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:45 PM
5

While I cannot relate to your circumstances, I remember examples of folks I observed that do. I remember one dude I met in college. Below average, overweight even. His gf was a solid 9. I couldn't believe it, so I got curious. I started talking to the dude trying to figure out what it is that got him that girl. He was confident AND humble. Humility is so rare, but an essential ingredient for true confidence. So don't model yourself after dudes that pretend to have it all. Everyone sees through i…
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:36 PM
2

Sounds like you need to step your dread game up. Focus on that. If she feels comfortable disrespecting you, it means she thinks you would never leave her/don't have better options.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:29 PM
1

If you admire their qualities, stay close to them. Be humble. Learn from them. Do as the lions do if you want to be a king.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:26 PM
0

Invest in yourself. Negative thoughts come from not loving yourself. Self-investment is the greatest display of self-love, and self-love = positive thoughts/feelings.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:24 PM
1

Create polarity by exemplifying your boundaries during first impressions. You make strong first impressions by having strong frame, being genuine/uninhibited and having strong boundaries. This generates a curiosity/mystery that'll keep her thinking about you after.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:21 PM
2

If you let fear prevent you from becoming better, you'll stay the same. What's the whole point of TRP? To become the best man you can be. Be a warrior. Don't worry what people think of you. Run towards discomfort, not away from it. The rewards will show themselves in the form of exponential growth. Be humble to the idea that you're not perfect, nobody expects you to be and nobody is.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:15 PM
13

Just takes time and experience to internalize the TRP principles. You're young, so you prob haven't had that many oneitis situations to learn your lesson yet. You'll get there. That said, I would focus on ONS, FWB, spinning plates. You're in college dude, no need for LTR. College is amazing practice grounds.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:09 PM
6

This right here. OP - what you got is a great girl. This is a "grass is greener" situation. If you feel like you can do better, move on. If you're not ready yet, learn to appreciate her more.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:03 PM
8

She wants commitment, which you threw a "no way" vibe for. Never look back at exes. They are exes for a good reason. Be a man of conviction. Move on.
/r/askTRP23/12/19 06:00 PM
1

When something like that happens, game other girls for self-amusement or leave. Hard next either way and never look back. Or, if you can manage the oneitis and advanced enough, demote to plate and continue fucking other girls. She's not LTR material.
/r/askTRP15/12/19 12:02 AM
3

Hit all the muscle groups twice a week, don't injure yourself. Eating clean is a plus but what matters most is meeting your macros imo. But depends on your goals. You got a trainer, so you must have some fitness goal in mind. I'd keep your regiment up until you've finished your training with that person. But to answer your question , I think it's a great growth mindset you got. Just be careful not to burn yourself out. Happened to me before.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 04:02 PM
1

Oh gotcha. And damn how’d the seed get through?
/r/askTRP26/11/19 03:32 PM
0

Lol she’s on birth control and my pullout game is strong. I don’t see that in my crystal ball.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 03:27 PM
1

This is gold. I just realized I’m still uncomfortable with providing comfort, and this gives me something to chew on. I also realize I haven’t been switching it up. It’s mostly her coming over 3 times a week and her begging me to take her out once in awhile. Thanks for the perspective and tips bro.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 03:11 PM
1

This is my usual approach, and it’s been very effective. But it seems to only serve as a bandaid. The problems resurface eventually.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 02:27 PM
2

You’re very perceptive. Yes I have been failing comfort tests, and yes the relationship may be going somewhat stale. What tips would you give me to spice it up and keep up the roller coaster? What can I do to better pass comfort tests?
/r/askTRP26/11/19 02:26 PM
1

Mostly chases hard, but sometimes I can feel she’s distant or unhappy.
/r/askTRP26/11/19 02:19 PM
1

but your line about “keeping her around until spring” suggests you don’t have any long term goals for this girl, so then why bother? I've never been in an LTR this long before. There's more for me to discover/learn. I also cba to go out and game in cold weather. Also, it takes two to fight so are you fighting or, as you say, withdrawing attention? It's more like she's talking to me about something that's upsetting her, she's crying and being emotional about it while I'm just calm. I withdraw att…
/r/askTRP26/11/19 01:57 PM
1

Great. Now, draw a stick figure of her then tell her when you’re done (pretend for like 5 min). Direct her movements and poses - establish the dominance frame under the guise of self amusement and apply compliance tests. Make each compliance test more sexual. By the end, make her beg to see it. When she finally sees it, it’ll be very clear to her of your intentions. She’s either dtf or she’s not.
/r/askTRP25/11/19 07:05 PM
2

For one, she’s been trying to start fights with me for awhile now and I’m tired of it. She’s been unusually emotional, and many factors come into play here. Her mom passed away last year, she’s in college taking 18 credit hrs this semester, she’s been having issues with acne breakouts which she has been struggling to treat since June, she’s in a foreign country and her immigration status, along with her family’s, is a looming issue. The sex has been good and every time we see each other, so that…
/r/askTRP19/11/19 03:48 PM
2

If she ends things with you bc of that, she ain't it. Submissive, loyal and appreciative girls don't do that. You may want to screen for those qualities better if that's what you're looking for. You want LTRs (or plates) to feel effortless. You are not their clown to entertain them all the time. Everyone gets in moods/slumps. I am especially notorious for that when I'm hungry, tired or just feeling down in general. My LTR is always understanding and supportive, just as I am with her in her darke…
/r/askTRP14/11/19 05:41 PM
13

Agree, to some extent. Looks fade with time. If she has a nice face and the rest is decent, that should be good enough. At that point, it's really about the qualities. Questions you should be asking: Is she loyal? Is she submissive? Would she be a good wife/mother of my kids? What are her in-laws/family like? Is she compatible with the future I envision for myself?
/r/askTRP13/11/19 06:52 PM
0

Be yourself. If this is your first, you're bound to make mistakes - which is a good thing. This is how you learn. Trust the process.
/r/askTRP08/11/19 09:54 PM
1

Weird flex but ok. Never shit where you eat, and don’t come here asking for advice if you haven’t even gone deep inside yet. Cmon bro. You got work to do.
/r/askTRP08/11/19 09:46 PM
1

She's the jealous type, which is a red flag. That said, you can establish that boundary now, sure. But down the line, this is going to come up again. Get to the root of the issue. Tell her "jealousy is unattractive to me". She either gets the message and sets herself straight or she doesn't.
/r/askTRP08/11/19 09:38 PM
2

Bro that's not your girl. If you believe that, you're delusional. None of those so called "[red flags]" are actual red flags. The real red flag is you reacting to all this and not having a handle on your LTR. Hard next, read sidebar, do more approaches and work on your frame.
/r/askTRP08/11/19 09:24 PM
6

Nah never that. But funny enough, We were in bed, and I was reading replies to a post last night, and she got curious and asked what I was doing. Told her I was giving dating advice and read the post with some replies out. She giggled and said guys are such animals. This was after she cried her eyes out on the phone because of the "scars" I gave her from the past and "always chasing me". Held frame ofc. Next thing I know, she's back at my place deep throating my cock and happy as ever.
/r/askTRP08/11/19 09:13 PM
3

Hard next.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 06:27 PM
2

Agree. Too many folks in the anger phase here. But it's a necessary step before enlightenment. Let it be. More power to us.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 06:09 PM
6

Focus on building a strong frame. You'll probably keep having experiences like this in the process, but you'll learn eventually and become tougher than nails.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 06:07 PM
6

You need to build attraction, I personally don’t put up with this shit in the slightest because building attraction when a girl is this disinterested is just not worth my time and effort. I can do it, I just don’t fuckin want to. Same. Too many options that would be more appreciative and just all-around better than to up the ante with low quality girls such as in OP's post.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 03:16 PM
1

This.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 03:13 PM
1

If you're worried, then chances are she is. Hard next and buck up for the next go-around.
/r/askTRP07/11/19 03:11 PM
2

Perfect example of someone misusing TRP. If you overthink everything you say and every move you make, you're gonna fail. Just be genuine and remember the principles. No one's perfect, and no girl expects you to be. Even the most alpha of us do beta stuff sometimes and that's cool. Have standards, qualify girls better and walk away if it's too much trouble. Btw, she's playing games with you because your actions aren't aligning with your words. You're flip-flopping and don't know what you want. Ge…
/r/askTRP07/11/19 03:09 PM
7

“Let’s cuddle and talk about our feelings”
/r/askTRP06/11/19 09:07 PM
1

Nose piercings or extra piercings of any kind and tattoos are examples of risky behavior. I'd say she's likely open to it.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 09:03 PM
3

This af. No leading whatsoever. Got a hunch the D game was bad too.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 08:55 PM
1

I just double texted a girl hey its me Distractingyou! we met that one time on the cafeteria. Wow. You did warn us in the title. Never double text. "Distractingyou". That's all you gotta say. EDIT: didn't realize you cold DM'ed her on IG. Thought this was gonna be after a cold approach # close lol. I remember i sat on a chair and suddenly you started talking to me, i suppose because i was sarcastic and handsome. Idk if this is the right instagram profile if not oops. Yikes. Stalkerish, needy, we…
/r/askTRP06/11/19 08:48 PM
1

Sure dude
/r/askTRP06/11/19 05:14 PM
7

A month isn't very long. I would keep her as plate and assume it won't work out over that time. Had a similar experience earlier this year. Went on a work trip for a month, came back for a week then went back for another month. No.1 plate stood by. She was totally in my frame, dreaded like crazy. Was getting my fix with a new local plate on weekends. When I got back for a week, she was wrapped around my finger then attempted to end things bc I wasn't LTRing her. I was like cool np. Next morning …
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:55 PM
1

This. You gotta make moves. Always be closing (or try to). In order for that to happen, you gotta have a pull location. Been there before, difficult when you're both living at home, esp if parents aren't cool w it. The car and some public spots can be decent pull locations.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:40 PM
1

Best advice I can give you is try things out. First, figure out what you are trying to achieve (looks wise; strengths vs. aesthetics). Figure out what muscle group you want to train, and look up exercises to hit that muscle. Generally, free weights > machines. But some machines are a must or super effiecient (i.e. rows, MTS chest inclines, lat pulldowns). IG is great for inspiration on exercise tips and body types. Some good ones: @coacheugeneteo , @mindful_movement_pt_nj , @kevindlo On YT for b…
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:35 PM
1

She gone man. She gone.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:25 PM
4

Don’t do it alone. If they are just friends, hang out with them with your LTR. No reason to be alone with women in today’s society unless you are intimate. This. Even better if you include guy friends. Start a social circle.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:24 PM
4

Seems like you haven't been communicating your boundaries effectively. Tell her what you like and don't like. Pepper them in convos here and there. Also, you shouldn't be complaining about your life to her, that's what girls do. One more thing. You need to get her to invest more, and it sounds like you don't have a firm grip on your frame to begin with. Her behavior doesn't sound submissive to me, so that's either a red flag (how she is naturally) or a response to your weak frame. But I'd say wo…
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:20 PM
1

Nah it adds to it if you do it right. Just don't post so much. Key is to give a glimpse into your reality, not the whole damn picture so to speak.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:04 PM
1

You mean a dictionary..lol. Stamina is necessary to have but is only a small part of what makes it good. But my assessment could be wrong, you didn't provide a whole lot of detail. Maybe she got something better bud.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:03 PM
1

If she's a soft next or lukewarm, it can do wonders.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 03:00 PM
1

Not good form to talk about other dudes. If I were you, I’d isolate by taking her to a column to lean on with her facing you and away from the band. But ya don’t listen to the words. Always bring her in your frame. Also, if she thinks you’re too easy, your push game needs work. You’d also be better off getting her to qualify herself to you and get her to invest.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 02:58 PM
1

I recently started hooking up with my n[ei]ghbor last month. First mistake right there. she got home from Vacation and I asked her to come over, she did, couldnt get a boner for whatever reason. We made out and cuddled for a few hours and she left. She ignored my message and I haven't heard from her since. Edit: for more context, when I text her Im usually initiating our next meet. Also she had done this once before and after 5 days she ended up reaching out. But now this is the second time and …
/r/askTRP06/11/19 02:51 PM
1

Interesting strategy, but I feel like that's a lot of work for low yield cold DMing. You'd get a lot more bang for your buck cold approaching. # and IG close, gain passive attraction through your stories/posts.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 02:47 PM
10

If it’s true, fucking own it. If it’s not true, agree and amplify w girls and guys. Should roll off your shoulders bud.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 02:40 PM
3

Get a girl talking about her life, her fantasies and such, and create a space for her to be able to express her desires. So if you let them express their natural sexuality, the rewards will be great. In my experience, this has been the main driving point. She seldom feels understood, but when she find someone she can be comfortable with (expressing herself via her mind and body), she'll treat you like a king.
/r/askTRP06/11/19 02:33 PM
13

That's a pretty average and easy ST to pass. She wants attention/investment from you but wants to make sure you're cool first, so she's trying to get you to qualify yourself to her (which you obv never do). Flip the script. Personally, I'd go with the bratty little sister frame here, "Aww you're such a little cutie. It's okay, I already like you. You don't have to try so hard :p"
/r/askTRP06/11/19 02:03 PM
17

Soft next is basically putting a girl on the back burner. Going cold, not initiating contact, responding later than you would normally, placing her as a backup in case more deserving girls are tied up. Hard next is completely losing contact never to speak to a bitch again. Especially done with exes as a rule.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 11:09 PM
1

Short answer: bc they’re not getting pussy and frustrated.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 08:21 PM
52

The more you experience shit like this, the more it doesn’t faze you. You’re on the right track.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 07:50 PM
194

Excellent job at recognizing red flags. Pull the plug. She ain't it. You have oneitis, so I would say don't even bother trying to plate. Hard next.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 07:29 PM
1

Tell your parents the facts and explain how are you going to change your attitude/behavior to bring your grades back up. Lose the victim mentality. I know it sucks, but the sooner you accept the consequences, the sooner you can get back on your feet to start crushing it again. You got this boss.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 07:25 PM
4

Write the letter. Request a meeting with the chief or deputy. Explain the facts. Ask if an officer could accompany you in reacquiring personal items and mediate to some extent. The goal here is to come across as a cool guy and that a mistake has been made. Avoid contact with ex-LTR bc she seems to be letting this all happen and may actually be enjoying this brand of attention.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 07:11 PM
5

Free attention w/o doing anything for it is boring. Either you got nexted or you're about to be. Forget bout her and talk to others. Text for logistics unless she's a LTR.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 06:59 PM
1

Now we're getting deeper. Was forced to hang out with the team today and this happened. Since you're asking, my advice would be to reframe. If you feel like you're being forced to do something, you are not in charge of your own reality. Instead, you may look at it as an opportunity to learn how your team mates tick and maybe even make lasting connections. This would lend itself nicely to career advancement, which should always be your goal. Always have an end in mind. So no, i couldn't have read…
/r/askTRP05/11/19 06:21 PM
1

Understood. Could you not have contained them by saying something different? Always read your audience. If you want to lead the herd, you gotta learn to communicate effectively with them.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 05:58 PM
1

The comment: he/she wants more people to talk in English so he/she can boast her accent. What end were you trying to achieve by saying that? If I were to guess, it would probably be that you were trying to bring that person down due to subconsciously not liking yourself. If you want to be emotionally intelligent and socially calibrated (which sounds like you do since you're asking this), it's important to be self-aware first.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 05:47 PM
1

But I need advice on how to deal with this desire. You can do a couple of things. One is, don't be so hard on yourself. Relax and trust that there is nothing wrong with you, and that eventually you will find someone worthy of your time. Two is, just delve into it. Go out - whether alone or with your buds - and cold approach. Make it your goal to approach at least 3 times in the night. Mentally prepare yourself for rejection. ALWAYS be genuine with women, and try not to use "lines". You'll be sur…
/r/askTRP05/11/19 05:40 PM
1

Cold turkey.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 05:33 PM
4

You did good, and you know what you could have done better.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 05:25 PM
1

Some girls don’t find it natural to moan. Even the most feminine girls. For example, my current LTR sounds like she’s a whimpering dog approaching death every time we fuck, but I can easily make her cum in 30 seconds and she’ll start shaking. Some girls are SUPER vocal, and I’ll be honest I love that way better.
/r/askTRP05/11/19 03:45 PM
4

If it’s a ONS, sometimes you just don’t know. It’s also more challenging to make a ONS cum bc you simply don’t know what she likes/doesn’t like. Some girls get off mostly to penetration, others mostly to clit stimulation. Some like a mix of the two. Just depends. I also find it’s not all about the dick game. You gotta spice it up with some choking, slapping and hair pulling. Move her around a lot and switch positions. Don’t be afraid to be aggressive but also gentle in certain moments; you don’t…
/r/askTRP05/11/19 03:41 PM
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Seems like most people don’t like their own voice. I’ve noticed my voice gets deeper after cold showers, long work hours, spending time in the sun, after hard workouts and going deep inside. I recall Julien Blanc had some good advice for that also: Concentrate on speaking from your core/stomach. I find that helpful during client/office presentations or when I want to get a group’s attention.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 07:32 PM
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With each flake, get colder. Set a limit in your own mind. If the number of flakes reaches your limit, hard next; she's wasting your time at that point. Some girls just like to test the waters and receive free attention from guys they're lukewarm about.
/r/askTRP04/11/19 07:26 PM
2

It stems from the caveman days. If you'd knowingly or unknowingly pull some other caveman's girl within the tribe, it's game over for you if he's recognized as "more alpha". So now we've inherited the survivalist adaptation (fear, anxiety). We simply have not had enough time to evolve biologically from that. Ego is certainly a factor here, as it is protectionist by nature. And to answer your question, yes I have. Meditation is great for your overall health and translates into your mindset/behavi…
/r/askTRP01/11/19 07:56 PM
1

It helps a lot. Although, if you have a hobby/interest like fashion, it can be difficult to know when there's a new drop as SM is becoming the main platform for that. Personally, that's mainly what I use it for. From a PU perspective though, it's another place to build passive attraction. In an LTR rn, so I don't post much / cold DM anymore, but I def will be again whenever it's over.
/r/askTRP01/11/19 07:23 PM
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I think she may know that I like her as I’m often staring her direction in the store. Creepy. I don’t think she knew that I recogni[z]ed her. Yes she did. It's creepy and needy when you stare. Don't stare. Girls are very sensitive to it and can feel you staring. Recalibrate your body language.
/r/askTRP01/11/19 06:54 PM
1

Some cheese but I wouldn't change a thing. Would have been nice if I discovered TRP and PU around that time. Might've enhanced my experience idk.
/r/askTRP01/11/19 05:38 PM
1

Sounds like you’re closet gay and this is your way of peaking out the closet. Go for it dude, dw what others think. If you’re just desperate for pussy, then I’d say don’t do it. You’ll fuck up your orientation and become hella confused.
/r/askTRP01/11/19 05:32 PM
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Classic case of distrust. Your actions didn't align with your words. Giving all that validation was the mistake. She baited you and made you think it was a comfort test. Her interest wasn't all that high to begin with, prob bc she saw right through your FB colors. Soft next is the move.
/r/askTRP01/11/19 02:07 PM
3

Hard next.
/r/askTRP01/11/19 02:01 PM
0

Depends on where I'm going. Everything's gotta be fitted (except my caps). Suits as well - gotta drape your body right. Suit brands I go for: BOSS, Ted Baker, Tom Ford, Hart Schaffner Marx (sometimes), Ralph Lauren (sometimes) Got a custom tux, a gamut of suits, sports coats, ties, bow ties, dress shirts, monk straps/oxfords, etc for all the dress-up events, conferences and client meetings. Overcoat for winter. Nordstrom and Johnston & Murphey are my go-to's for these. Winter/Fall are where fash…
/r/askTRP31/10/19 07:26 PM
2

Give yourself time and allow yourself to make mistakes. Experience breeds confidence, confidence breeds success. The point is not to compete with other men. Compete with yourself, and don't concern yourself with how someone else is doing. In sets, if some dude comes in, ignore him. Similar concept. You create your own reality and who you choose to bring into it.
/r/askTRP31/10/19 01:14 PM
7

She’s been drunk calling me lately. Red flag. Sounds like she's an alcoholic. Well tonight her ex boyfriend of 7 Fucking years Red flag. MASSIVE baggage there. Dude was suave as fuck and I really liked the guy. He even bought me a shot (just me) at one point. You don't stand a chance. I totally let this dude be the alpha at the table and was basically being a fanboy to him all night. When she told me my heart literally dropped bc I knew the damage I’ve done by painting myself in this light. You …
/r/askTRP31/10/19 10:59 AM
3

Upon discovering that society was running a worldwide scheme of feminist agendas & lies lol, it ain't all that bro. Reframe. Because during this phase, sure, I've become better looking & more introspective, but I did it at the expense of my social skills. Been there, but that's college dude. It's not all that Blue Mountain State makes it out to be. Sure, some folks have those experiences, but many are not ready for that. I went monk mode before knowing what monk mode was, and that was because my…
/r/TheRedPill31/10/19 10:44 AM
2

Have you tried aborting? Also work on your pull out game, never nut inside unless you know for sure she’s on BC and take regularly.
/r/askTRP30/10/19 03:20 PM
14

Threatening is like a bark with no teeth to it. It stems from insecurity. Girls pick up on this. Dries up the pussy real fast. Dread silently goes for the jugular. It comes from a place of abundance. Girls sense this. Makes the pussy wet. Actions speak louder than words.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/19 11:16 PM
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Firmly and unapologetically state what you can and can’t live with. Extra points for covert communication (bc this is how girls communicate). You can use statements like, “I don’t date girls who act like xyz” or “I don’t like girls who are xyz”. Then, to get them to qualify themselves to you and act according to what you look for, you may say “you’re not like that are you?” If she likes you enough and it doesn’t go against her values, she will qualify herself to you. Next her otherwise.
/r/TheRedPill25/10/19 05:41 PM
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Great post. Would like to expand on some of your points. Some thoughts: Setting strong boundaries is key, while reminding them every now and then is paramount. The strongest negotiating position is willing to walk away and mean it. The key is to create the frame that it is healthy and necessary for both people to set and maintain strong boundaries. Always have in the front of your mind what your dealbreakers are. Never threaten, but do dread. Never get too comfortable thinking you found a good o…
/r/TheRedPill25/10/19 02:35 PM
3

Coming from a genuine, humble place where you are being vulnerable and 100% outcome independent - people will want to be around you.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 10:29 AM
6

Do you. Friends come and go, so don't sweat it. Sometimes you gotta next em just like girls. Especially the toxic ones, which tend to sneak up on you.
/r/askTRP25/10/19 10:26 AM
3

Here, here to our fine lady, Karma, my absolute bottom bitch.
/r/askTRP22/10/19 10:13 AM
1

If he's your friend, then why you even thinking about it...
/r/askTRP17/10/19 08:54 PM
6

Next time you're in conversation, bring it up casually. Tell her you and the upper termers are gonna party it up after the exam and she should come with if she's free. Laser eye contact as you're saying it. Although subtle and commonly spoken, "Do you wanna..." is inherently needy. The example I gave you doubles as a statement and a compliance test. If she flakes and doesn't request another time, soft next.
/r/askTRP17/10/19 08:40 PM
2

Nah you were correct. That guy doesn't know what he's talking about.
/r/askTRP17/10/19 08:21 PM
2

When standing, it means she's gonna keep standing right there and has no plans to move. So, no, you're wrong there bud.
/r/askTRP17/10/19 08:20 PM
3

Surprised I haven't seen any comments yet that she might be ready to branch swing. They don't suggest breaks unless there's another prospect they're working on.
/r/askTRP17/10/19 04:25 PM
12

This is a really interesting topic. It sounds to me like the guy in your story was trying to add value by motivating you (almost like a coach) - which indicates he wanted to add value. Adding value is a form of investment. People don't invest in each other unless they admire/respect the other person. Teachers can have a mutual respect for their pupils; it is not mutually exclusive.
/r/TheRedPill17/10/19 01:34 PM
2

Lmao I feel for you bro, feel the same way sometimes. Just take it easy. I've found cold showers and meditation help cool the jets. Trust yourself enough that you'll hold it down. Keep up that naturally flirty frame - works well as dread. Dread is your best friend. Treat her right, and don't snoop. If you do, she'll lose respect for you (esp bc you're not respecting her; you'd be setting the precedent). Know that if it happens, even if everything's gucci, it's out of your control. And a W for wa…
/r/askTRP16/10/19 08:21 PM
2

Give the benefit of the doubt. Been in your shoes before, and it always turns out bad if you accuse someone, either way. If your gut tells you something is wrong and you gotta get to the bottom of it, you can get more info from asking seemingly benign questions. Just don't lose your cool.
/r/askTRP16/10/19 04:19 PM
1

I asked about her course etc, Try not to ask questions except for learning logistics. we were talking and then her friend and another guy came and I thought Id leave as she started talking to them and I felt suddenly invisible. Not enough interest developed - could be for a lot of reasons. You were probably noticeably uncalibrated bc her body language looked so bad to her friends they prob came over to save her. For the more advanced, this would be a missed opportunity to gain passive attraction…
/r/askTRP16/10/19 03:40 PM
2

What are you like 50? Sounds like you're coming across creepy. Also, be genuine. Never use lines.
/r/askTRP16/10/19 01:32 PM
1

A lot of this lacks context. Speaking over people, correcting, etc. are only "power moves" in niche situations. In the case of Trump, it's only a power move bc his purpose is to achieve more media attention. The most sensational or "rudest" politician/celebrity exhibiting socially brash behavior wins bc they get the most media attention. Same thing applies to Kanye.
/r/TheRedPill16/10/19 01:24 PM
1

You're confusing confidence with arrogance. Confidence is self-belief that you can handle a challenge, based on experience/knowledge. Arrogance is when you think you can handle something but do not have the past experience/knowledge to back up your self-belief and thus fail. Arrogance is, believe it or not, a product of low self-esteem. Arrogance comes out of the wash eventually. In the context of PU, it might help in closing a ONS or plate for a short-while, but would ultimately fail to experie…
/r/askTRP15/10/19 08:37 PM
7

Setting a date for a week later? Lol, be ready for her to flake. If not, laser eye contact and kino. Learn her logistics. Push/pull. Lead hard (physically take her hand and move around the room to another spot / bounce to new location altogether). Maintain frame.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 08:27 PM
3

Super oneitis dude. You're also still using excuses. She's not yours to lose. Go for it anyway for the reference experience.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 08:22 PM
2

Listen, then change the subject.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 07:49 PM
2

NEXT AF
/r/askTRP15/10/19 07:47 PM
4

Don't do it until she's your gf. You'll know when (if) you're ready. Took me 6 months to turn my plate into current LTR. My assessment is she's so appreciative and humble to be w me bc of it. EDIT: Also, I wouldn't LTR in college unless it's open. This is the time to experience all kinds of plates.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 06:37 PM
8

Dump her. Screen the next one for phone habits.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 06:33 PM
3

Gotta fuck the odd wildebeast every now and then. Ugly girls hit different.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 06:31 PM
12

You could literally have no friends and do well with girls. It's more about cultivating self-esteem. Read up on the "lone wolf". I think there might even be some sidebar material on it also. Some people do better with independence and heavily value their alone time (like myself). But I think it's still important for your overall happiness to cultivate a healthy support system at the least, whether it be close friends or family.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 06:25 PM
2

Good for you bro. Those are experiences worthy of a man finding his path. One thing to keep in mind...that "lost" feeling you're going through...a lot of people feel that way in their early-to-mid-twenties. You'll grow out of that eventually and pretty soon. Keep hustling, keep an open mind and work on your social skills. Read and internalize. Cold approach will help also. The gains are super inspiring too. Keep it up.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 06:20 PM
2

Dude, that's just the auto-response for every female getting approached. Sometimes it's true, but generally it's safe to assume it's not.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 02:44 PM
6

It’s possible and worth it. You’ll go through many girls before you find one worthwhile. But don’t be so hard on yourself. That’s not a bitch you want a LTR with.
/r/askTRP15/10/19 02:41 PM
1

Like with presentations, story telling is massively engaging, when done right. Laser eye contact is arguably THE most defining aspect of charisma. Of course, to be truly charismatic, you must be friendly, genuine and radiate positive energy. Identifying these traits and comparing them to your own is a start. Try some things out. If you’re having trouble with inspiration, I recommend Charisma On Command’s YouTube channel. He’s pretty charismatic and brings good real life examples.
/r/askTRP14/10/19 04:25 PM
4

Real life practice. Charisma is when you capture the attention of your audience. If you're speaking in a group, share eye contact with each individual and hold for a few seconds. Use your hands when you speak. Be animated/excited when you speak. Don’t be a stiff dick motherfucker.
/r/askTRP14/10/19 02:47 PM
1

Could be he's going through something (i.e. depression) and feels pressured/bad about flaking. He may feel like he's not ready yet. If I were you, I would reach out to see how he's doing every now and then. Don't request a hangout, just listen. Hint it every now and again that you miss the hangouts and would like to hang. Without knowing his personality, maybe when he's ready, he'll take the initiative.
/r/askTRP14/10/19 02:32 PM
3

This. Not your job to mate guard.
/r/askTRP14/10/19 02:27 PM
7

At a bar. Subtle difference I know.
/r/askTRP12/10/19 12:33 AM
7

Did a 30 day challenge cold approaching every single day/night for 30 days. Alcohol gets expensive. Had to drink water. That’s how I found this one out lol.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 10:47 PM
1

Does it matter? You trying to marry her? LOL
/r/askTRP11/10/19 08:12 PM
3

You let her infer it through her observation of your words and actions.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 08:11 PM
2

Ignore/delete if I see something like that on social media.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 08:03 PM
1

I don't think she wanted it, else she would have brought something up to make it sound like she wanted some AF attention. She's already proven to be about the BS, and nothing tells me that would change. Hard next. I wouldn't block her though cuz you never know.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 08:00 PM
3

NOPE. Actually, it can be a good opportunity to create passive attraction if asked. Bonus points if you're drinking water.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 07:18 PM
6

As opposed to being wet? Sorry but you’re gonna need to push my buttons a little more for that ;) - flip the script; gets her into your frame. Keep this frame and getting her to qualify herself to you after this one. Oh you didn’t get it? FBI must be intercepting my messages again. - funny and rationalizes for her hamster; sucks her into your frame and creates tension Huh? Who said that? (Pretend she’s suddenly a ghost and you can’t see her) - this is AA
/r/askTRP11/10/19 05:01 PM
2

Agree and amplify.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 04:48 PM
4

Nothing dries up a pussy faster than a paragraph.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 04:46 PM
4

They happen often spontaneously. Frame is what keeps you straight in the moment. This really isn't going to help much. Just read up on them (Google test encyclopedia - pretty sure it's in sidebar too) and work on frame.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 04:44 PM
2

If it requires a degree, go to school first. Look at job listings and do research on the various markets within NA to see if there's a high demand for people with that degree. Assess if it's something you like, talk to people in that industry, ask professors at a uni, etc. If that's not your gig, how about something else. For example, if you wanted to become a Techno DJ, then you may want to move to Montreal, make friends at Stereo/Stereo Bar, etc. Seek out the opportunities is the moral here. Y…
/r/askTRP11/10/19 03:45 PM
1

Well, here's the thing. If she actually needed to work, which sounds like she does if she's staying at a hotel (prob there on worktrip), then she needs to have enough sleep to perform in the morning. Never expect her to choose you over her priority. Not gonna happen 9 times out of 10. That said, it could also be LMR. In that case, I recommend RSD Max or Julien Blanc's videos on that. Basically, make an excuse for her to invite you in - like asking to use her bathroom or charge your phone. Someti…
/r/askTRP11/10/19 02:39 PM
2

You did good, except for focusing on one girl. You need to be moving onto new ones and promote/demote based on responses. Actions speak louder than words; never take a girl's words as gospel. She was likely telling the truth in that moment, but then her emotions changed. Could be everything but you as the reason.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 02:30 PM
2

Think deeply on how you think you would go about executing your goals. Then do it. You are procrastinating. BTW, be smart with money. Switch out the dodge charger goal with something of appreciating value instead. The charger, or better, will come on its own. Never make money your focus in life.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 02:25 PM
0

Nope. Nothing wrong with checking social media every now and then. The smart man uses that to his advantage as another medium to game. Get off the high horse.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 02:11 PM
2

My GF is one of those "has a lot of guy friends" Red flag. They're guys she grew up with, guys that are actual friends and know her family, guys that I met and I can tell they're good people and I trust them. We have boundaries anyways like she can't hang out alone with them drinking late into the night or any of that crap. She doesn't overstep her boundaries (that I know of). However, I have caught her in a couple of small white lies (red flag) which she usually admits to and apologizes for it.…
/r/askTRP11/10/19 01:33 PM
3

I don't.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 01:10 PM
2

It sounds like you're not being congruent with who you are, i.e. not being genuine and afraid to be vulnerable. You are inherently approaching with the "I want something from you" mindset - change this. Instead, approach with the "giving value" and "self-amusement" mindsets. Your actions will follow. At that point you just learn to calibrate better. At that point you shrug off rejections. I would also recommend opening a new set directly after a rejection so you don't marinate in it.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 12:59 PM
1

Learn to toughen up and get rid of the victim mindset.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 12:52 PM
5

I know one like this. She's deeply insecure and has a never-ending itch for male attention but knows no one in their right mind would date her. Her social conditioning needs vs. her primal needs are all twisted up. That bragging behavior is also coupled with complaining. She's a super basic sorority girl. She lives walking distance from my apartment. Had a ride on the ol' town bike, but the last time we met, I could hear my thoughts saying, "No snatch is worth enduring this talk." I promised mys…
/r/askTRP11/10/19 12:41 PM
14

Yup, basic. This is why screening with purpose is so important. The moment a girl acts like that, I walk away or ignore if I need to stay for a different reason. My time is precious, and I refuse to give it up like candy to someone I have no interest in besides looks.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 12:27 PM
3

LTR someone better and younger. You'll look back laughing.
/r/askTRP11/10/19 12:23 PM
1

The only issue with this is that there's a chance that she might have changed "for real" because of your boundaries / direction, but the chance of her changing her behaviour through your guidance is, in my opinion, smaller than the information she gains to use against you by your given boundaries. Use against you? Why do you care? What I'm saying is that - if you clearly state your boundaries, she now has information to use against you. If she knows you don't like her doing x and y, she might st…
/r/askTRP10/10/19 08:52 PM
1

Thank you for the constructive criticism.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 02:16 PM
1

I just throw on some white noise on my headphones, lay down starfish and meditate on my bed for 15 to 45min depending on the day.
/r/askTRP10/10/19 02:15 PM
3

I have been lifting for 8 months, I am benching 200 x 8 x 3, squatting just shy of 400 and generally in pretty good shape. I am 5'10, 170. This is awesome. Keep it up. Since girls see my face they often don't give me a chance to dance with them at parties because it is so ugly. This sounds like an excuse. Focus on what you CAN control. If your nose knocks you down a few points, then up your SMV in other ways - be on your purpose, titanium-grade frame, cold approach, set mechanics (push/pull, soc…
/r/askTRP09/10/19 08:33 PM
2

And yet you still consider her opinion. Take my advice, or don't. Whatever.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 07:43 PM
2

My mother does not like her for whatever reason. I told her that she cant decide my relationships. She told me that she will accept her if we get married. I just wanted to mention this as another thing to consider.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 07:32 PM
7

Dude you're not her first bf if she's 34 lol. Also, part of Pakistani culture (and that part of the world in general) is for parents, particularly moms, to be status-oriented towards her children as they are her "badge of honor". When her child is acting dishonorable by not dating within her culture, at LEAST she would hope that you would be honorable by marrying the girl as opposed to dating (which is considered Haram [sin] in Islam). But more than likely, she's not concerned with Islam as much…
/r/askTRP09/10/19 07:13 PM
1

Never kiss just for the sake of the progression. Kissing is reserved for releasing built up sexual tension. It should (generally) serve no other function outside of that. Kissing won’t get you laid.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 06:58 PM
1

LOL. Super uncallibrated on your part. They were either messing with you or super creeped out.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 03:41 PM
5

Conversation is the easy part. Take any part of what the person said last and expand on it. Example: A: What's your favorite color? B: Blue A: I love blue. I think most people do, even the ones who claim they don't. B: Why's that? A: The same reason as the weather we all love, sunny blue skies. B: Interesting but I prefer rainy weather. A: You don't seem sad though. B: I just find it relaxing. A: Speaking of relaxing, just had a massage the other day for the first time and it was amazing. B: No …
/r/askTRP09/10/19 03:35 PM
1

Doesn't have to be all or nothing. But if you feel like this is what you have to do, then go for it. While you're at it, you need to be developing a strong reality and strong boundaries.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 01:28 PM
1

Just need to mature a bit and have more experiences in group settings. Relax, take the pressure off. It'll come with time. Remember that no one is perfect. If you say something un-calibrated in a group setting or even one-on-one, the only person who will remember it is you. Everyone's focused on themselves. If it's not important to you to improve, then avoid groups when you can.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 01:14 PM
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Hard to say. You didn't provide a whole lot of details. Must-haves and deal-breakers are something you should be coming up with. For example, for an LTR, must-haves for me are submissive, feminine, loyal and confident. Deal-breakers for me are entitled attitude, high maintenance, basic/uncultured, unintelligent, uneducated, no career/not career-minded, close-minded, egotistical, poor sense of humor or thin skin. Once you identify what you want and don't want, you screen her for certain behaviors…
/r/askTRP09/10/19 01:08 PM
1

It's okay to be myself but being myself means not connecting with 80% of people. Not in a elitist way, but in a "I don't function similarly" way. For context, I'm INTP. It's rare where I can connect with someone and we flow from me just being myself. Could be that you're not being socially calibrated and self-aware in social situations. For example, someone will just be like "yo". Seriously, yo? Take that yo and shove it up your ass. Give me something to work with. Most people either don't know …
/r/askTRP09/10/19 01:00 PM
35

You'll attract all sorts of girls. If you're looking for LTR material, then you need to be screening them for must-haves and deal-breakers.
/r/askTRP09/10/19 12:43 PM
6

Varies by style. Personally, I state my preference (if she’s interested, she’ll qualify herself to you and adhere to your preference if it’s within her capabilities) and ask non-pointed questions to get inside her head (getting a sense of who she is, calibrating her sense of character, figuring out whether or not she’s a chode magnet, how she was raised, etc.). I also state the consequences for crossing boundaries so there is no ambiguity. Certain behaviors to look for that should stand out as r…
/r/askTRP08/10/19 10:15 PM
11

“Trust is so fucking blue pill.” And here I thought trust was a basic requirement for all human relationships 🤔
/r/askTRP08/10/19 09:56 PM
7

Lukewarm interest for one reason or another. Could be another guy in the picture. Could be guilt. Could be whatever emotion she's feeling at the time that isn't in your favor. Could be lack of compatibility. Could be you're not her type. Use this as a reference experience and try different things out, but don't worry so much about the reason. Understand that you'll get lots of rejections. You can only control your behavior. Never chase.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 08:50 PM
0

Nope not a test. If anything, it's a good thing.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 08:26 PM
1

Pick a professional degree: medicine, engineering, accounting, finance, law. Some of these (like engineering, accounting and finance) take just as much time to complete as any other 4-year degree but may be more academically challenging. Pay is also higher on average. Job security is also greater in these fields (particularly engineering). As a close alternative, instead of CM, go for Civil Engineering.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 08:19 PM
2

Absolutely not. Under no circumstances.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 08:09 PM
3

Depends. How much of her stuff is at your place?
/r/askTRP08/10/19 08:01 PM
4

You just gotta practice. Make it a game. Create thoughts like you're telling her something. Be self-aware. Use social skills. Don't be creepy.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 07:59 PM
3

"Great idea babe. I love when you do things to better yourself and please me."
/r/askTRP08/10/19 07:52 PM
39

Okay so I've been spinning plates pretty successfully in the past 3 months. Had 3 good lays as well as a ton of dates/interest. Bro that's not spinning plates lol. What if I just settled down with her and got a head start on making a family? Am I being brainwashed? 1 month of knowing her and you're already thinking of starting a family with her? Lol dude you got major oneitis. Take a step back and think. Never LTR a girl w baggage.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 07:38 PM
1

Tinder matches = looks, good quality photos, etc. Shallow features that create just enough passive attraction. IRL = confidence, body language (communication), personality/vibe. Deeper features that create more passive attraction. Work on that IRL swag.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 07:27 PM
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First, checking her phone is a big mistake. It's toxic and does not promote trust. How can you expect her to not break trust when you're doing it on the regular? Second, you need to be screening hard for loyalty and setting hard boundaries early on. Make sure those boundaries are repeated over time so it's not forgotten. I.e. no talking to exes. Third, as hard as it is, you need to keep your word and be done with this one. Going back will only diminish her respect for you and she may come back a…
/r/askTRP08/10/19 07:21 PM
8

This. Also, be very clear about boundaries early on. And remind her every now and then.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 07:03 PM
5

Teasing = push. Ignoring (speech/body language) = push. Being contrary = push. Hug/high five (or any type of kino) = pull. More positive attention = pull. Laser eye contact = pull. Responding well to something she said that you like = pull. Push/pull is a great way to keep her guessing, create a spectrum of emotional responses (builds attraction) and amplifies masculine/feminine polarity (attraction). It's essential.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 06:58 PM
1

Sounds like you don't know what to do with yourself. My guess is you're young and have a lot of time on your hands - probably high school, maybe college. Make yourself busy. Set goals for yourself, read non-fiction, work on fitness, go out, socialize, take cold showers, meditate, etc. You won't waste time with these thoughts anymore.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 06:45 PM
1

Why allow yourself to catch feels for a girl w baggage? In a sea of options, you gotta choose someone that brings you down from the jump? Be smart. Stay away from baggage dude.
/r/askTRP08/10/19 06:14 PM
1

I agree with Corey to some extent. But in this situation, he has already attempted and failed to get her schedule. Thus, she failed his compliance test. Twice. This is more of a last ditch effort suggestion.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 08:13 PM
1

Go out more and solo game instead of sitting at home. Relax. Don't be so hard on yourself. Read, meditate, cold showers, etc. Keep active and your mind sharp. Develop goals you can work towards.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 06:58 PM
2

Discipline. Motivation doesn't last.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 06:51 PM
3

Especially bc she's sending you a love letter via e-mail in 2019 /u/gopack1919.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 06:30 PM
44

Wings are great if they're competent, kind (not selfish, team player), and if the set you're trying to open has a difficult friend. Remember, if her friend doesn't like you or isn't distracted with someone else, it won't go anywhere. I would not game with a newbie wing unless he's open-minded and wants to learn. Steer clear of arrogant/selfish wings.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 06:23 PM
52

Why fail tests? Pass them anyway. At the least, you show him how it's done. Try shotgun approach. Randomly point out someone and tell him to open a set every now and then. He needs to get his confidence and wits up. BTW, unless your wing has solid game, I wouldn't wing. Solo is better in this case, but I get you're trying to be a bro.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 06:10 PM
1

Unless she's very interested, she will not make that first move. The mistake you made is telling her to text you her schedule. First, that's a big ask of someone you just met; you're getting into personal details of her life, and she doesn't know you're cool yet. Second, you're making the process more difficult than it should be. This is why you must take the lead and make it simple. Since you don't know her schedule, this is what I would do: Make a plan for the weekend. Text her that you're gon…
/r/askTRP07/10/19 06:06 PM
3

Used to do this nearly every girl without fail. Sharing way too much (early or especially without being asked) takes out any mystery = lower attraction. It also communicates that you have weak boundaries and that she doesn't have to do anything to earn your attention.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/19 05:58 PM
2

He fucks her better. Stronger boundaries. Owns her mind better. Don’t underestimate old guys. Experience breeds confidence, confidence breeds success.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 12:47 PM
1

I know I’m late to the party, but I can relate to OP’s sentiment. I also second your comment. In an LTR rn with a Middle Eastern girl - submissive, wants to please me, easy to be with, no bullshit. She knows I’m high value, so she does anything I ask her to do and goes above and beyond to please me. And because I’m honorable and appreciate her, I don’t take advantage. I will also please her, above and beyond the bedroom. In my experience, it’s also key to learn the girl’s sexual blueprint ASAP. …
/r/askTRP07/10/19 12:32 PM
1

Already recommended she see a physician.
/r/askTRP05/10/19 07:45 PM
2

Ya bro fuck that noise
/r/askTRP05/10/19 06:49 PM
2

I know better not to do that. Just would hate it to be a habit and annoy me to the point of avoidance entirely. Trying to figure out how I can tactfully contain the situation if my suspicions indeed turn out to be true.
/r/askTRP05/10/19 06:43 PM
5

Literally everywhere. Day game is great in particular. Busy walking cities/college campuses are highly recommended. Bars/clubs are decent but can be very hit or miss.
/r/askTRP30/09/19 06:38 PM
2

I recommend solo travel to an unfamiliar 3rd world country. Peru is a great one. Ayahuasca retreat in the Amazon rainforest for 10 days, accessed from Iquitos, Peru. I could recommend one for you. Exceedingly challenging experience, and you feel like you've received 100 years of therapy after the fact.
/r/askTRP30/09/19 05:57 PM
2

I don't think it has a whole lot of influence from a plate/ONS perspective. It does come into play for LTRs, though, and this is because she would need to appease her social circle (which includes family). Even still, if you're RP enough and hit her blueprint, it won't matter much in most cases.
/r/askTRP30/09/19 05:39 PM
2

Flip the script. Self-amusement.
/r/askTRP30/09/19 04:33 PM
10

RSD Max and Julien were my go-to when starting out. They have a TON of great content that speaks to TRP principles without saying “women bad”. Taught me a lot about having the “giving value” mindset instead of the “taking value” mindset. Abundance vs scarcity, etc.
/r/askTRP29/09/19 04:24 PM
2

Your circumstances are rough man, I won’t lie to you. But there are things within your control that can make your life different/better. First, it’s important to identify what your priorities are. What’s important to you? Second, visualize how you would like your future to turn out. Is it practical? Do you think it’s within your control? Third, consider what it would take to achieve your goals. Break your goals down into smaller goals. You want a woman in your life right? Identify who that woman…
/r/askTRP29/09/19 04:03 PM
3

Be honest. Say to her what you said here. She may be willing to be in an open relationship - especially with that honesty and the fact that she's down for tres-sum.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 08:14 PM
1

First, I would not be cool with her calling me that. Think...would you like to be called that in front of your friends for example? Not cool. Second, I would double down and leave her on read. Her hamster will go crazy and cause her to chase harder and harder. Don't set the precedent that you're so easy to woo back over to her table. You built a ton of rapport. Instill dread.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 08:10 PM
1

Set strong boundaries. Establish how you like/don't like for her to behave (where it affects you) - i.e. I don't like when she's late. Establish reward/punishment system. If she's late, withdraw attention to make it clear that you won't tolerate it. When she does something you like, reward her with attention and vocalize that you like that so she repeats that behavior. Same thing applies to the bedroom. Pay attention to distant behavior. If she's distant and trying to please you, it's a comfort …
/r/askTRP26/09/19 07:41 PM
2

You don't need to drink to enjoy yourself while going out. No need for group pics. Point of your posts is to showcase your personality and give a small snapshot into your life. You can have terrible photo game but get great reactions if your caption game is solid. Stories are better for this. Create mystery by not oversharing. Generally, 1-2 stories every 2-3 days is the most you should be doing. Post a photo with you in it once every 6 months at the minimum. Avoid mirror pics, regular selfies, …
/r/askTRP26/09/19 07:02 PM
1

Yup, hard next. Work on your IG game. No chodey stuff.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 06:36 PM
1

Nope not weird. Your IG photos should already be doing the work for you to gain sufficient passive attraction. If not, work on your IG photo/caption/story game. You didn't close. She left you on seen bud.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 06:34 PM
5

Text game needs serious work. For starters: Avoid asking questions as much as possible. Keep texts short(er than hers). Too chatty. Should close sooner. Don't be a tryhard/too friendly/nice. Assert meetup. THEN assert # close if she doesn't already send it to you after she agrees to meetup. The one okay thing you did though is you teased her and created a potential inside joke by calling her "granny". Do more of that, but in person.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 06:28 PM
2

Pick one and stick with it. I recommend USA. Time to start making money, build your career, save up, buy a place, invest.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 06:19 PM
4

Yes. And don't go back.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 04:51 PM
5

I realized the quality of and success with women was not where I wanted to be. I read a lot. Internalized. Did a RSD bootcamp and the 30-day challenge following. Tested a lot of TRP theory (this is how you internalize). Purposely made BP mistakes and saw how each time that would unfold into failure. I realized that most of TRP (but not everything) is solid and practical. Now, I'm in an LTR of 7 months. I run the show. Girls regularly hmu. Frame is solid. I have confidence that I can get any woma…
/r/askTRP26/09/19 04:41 PM
1

Sure. But remember, she will like you for you, not for some line. Trick is to be genuine without filters. This is how you give the most value. Game is understanding masculine-feminine polarity, identifying that unique polarity between you and the girl and leading the interaction (with a steady hand) with a purpose in mind to achieve your desired result. Be ready to walk away at any time. Work on your confidence, and develop a rock-solid frame. Best way to do that is get more experience. I recomm…
/r/askTRP26/09/19 04:17 PM
2

You're in the early 20's "lost" phase. Some call it a quarter-life crisis. We all go through it. And it's a GOOD thing. It means you have fire in your belly and expect more for yourself. Mine was pretty bad and resulted in severe depression but ultimately got me to wise up and challenged me to become strong, wise and cool. You are beating yourself up. You are expecting yourself to be better than you are right now. You are placing high expectations of yourself on your shoulders than you may be ab…
/r/askTRP26/09/19 04:02 PM
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As long as you take your test consistently, stay fit and somewhat socially active, then yes - abundance will be your problem. If you're a homebody, gave up on your fitness many moons ago, isolate yourself and watch TV all day with no mental stimulation - you'll prob be lonely.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 03:51 PM
1

Nice bro. You're ahead of the game. Tbh, extra-curriculars help but are generally not the deciding factor unless you're aiming for Ivy League schools or of similar high tier. Source: graduated 3 years ago from decent school. Have friends who went Ivy League.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 03:44 PM
1

Work on yourself first. Internalize the learnings here. Go out, develop your social circle and date other girls. She will very likely mean nothing to you later and you'll laugh at yourself for ever having oneitis. Trust yourself and relax mentally. One step at a time. No pressure.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 02:37 PM
1

Thanks bro.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 02:33 PM
2

Self-employment isn't for everyone. Sometimes taking a chance on path (career/company) can spark a passion you didn't know you had. Be pragmatic and practical. Nothing wrong with a 9-5 as long as you feel the growth.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 02:22 PM
7

Recognize the red flags and proceed with caution.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 02:20 PM
2

Just own it. Laugh it off. Use it to your advantage. Consider it a blessing. Tell a funny story about it - for bonus points, make it a super ridiculous one. If you can do all this, it'll be great for game.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 02:17 PM
2

Nope. Just wanted to hear y'all's take on this. Been crushing it since day 1, but the comfort tests are coming on strong rn. Just trying to make sure I don't make fatal mistakes, like everyone else on here.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 02:15 PM
2

Tbh I hit on both hot girls and less attractive girls. Less attractive girls are more likely to work harder for your attention, lower maintenance, have less ego, more submissive, etc. Less attractive girls are less likely to show their crazy colors. Hot girls tend to be entitled, arrogant, high maintenance, more drama, less loyal, more games. Hot girls are great as plate material. But for an LTR or marriage type joint, I’d recommend screening values/character more than looks. If she’s got looks …
/r/askTRP26/09/19 01:09 PM
12

“The more you do, the more you feel like doing.” Well said.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 10:13 PM
67

Read or listen to audio books with substantive info related to topics of interest, career, etc. Basically non-fiction. Wake up early in the morning, plan your day and begin with some productive behaviors (reading, working out, meditation, practicing a hobby, etc.). Workout seriously and consistently. That means having a workout schedule you can stick by. Read/learn from others who have achieved a body that inspires you. Nutrition. Eat healthy. Maintain eating discipline. No processed foods. No s…
/r/askTRP25/09/19 08:43 PM
3

Extra attention and the rose were your mistakes. Frame is great though. Too early to tell if she’s checking out. But my read is she’s an attention whore that’s shit testing you. She’s getting dick elsewhere so she’s chillin, but low key gonna chase you hard as soon as her other dude breaks. This is a game of who blinks first. Stay the course. Soft next while adding another plate. You done good OP.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 08:22 PM
1

Kindly point out how I disagreed with him.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 07:45 PM
2

Idk dude I think it’s really all about frame. I’ve always favored logic over emotions with this girl. I think there’s a balance, as some folks here have referred to- which I’m looking for. I don’t think it has to result in me becoming beta-ized, so long as I’m in control, have a clear purpose and know what I’m doing. It doesn’t have to be black and white. I want to believe that I don’t have to be forever cold in order to “dance with the devil”.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 07:43 PM
1

This is what I was speaking to. I’ve established the “nice jerk” but can be too cold at times - in particular, not showing how I feel. I fuck her really well, and she thanks me for it regularly. When I take her out (which doesn’t happen too often), she loves it. I naturally flirt with girls I interact with in front of her and she teases me about how the girls flirt back (never gets jealous in a toxic way). She knows I’m a catch. She knows some of my past with game and that I have no problem gett…
/r/askTRP25/09/19 07:33 PM
0

Nah that’s okay. You’re the rudest awakening I can take rn.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 07:09 PM
0

I’m sorry Mr. Thundercock, you’re right
/r/askTRP25/09/19 07:03 PM
1

I'm in the exact same shoes as /u/brunomrr. Let's go deeper, because I think the point you make is really key. How far should you swing the pendulum back once you've applied the comfort she's been appealing for? When do you draw the line? How much comfort should you apply before you return back to your (cold) par?
/r/TheRedPill25/09/19 06:22 PM
4

10-4.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 05:53 PM
-4

I don’t think it’s that serious tbh.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 05:52 PM
1

This is one thing I’ve done really well from the beginning. However, one boundary I’ve set is that I don’t like when girls are late. Lately, I haven’t held her feet to the fire on this. Definitely need to continue to keep this in perspective. Thanks man.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 05:51 PM
1

Good stuff, thanks bro.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 05:47 PM
2

To give her nuggets for her good behavior. Made her my gf because I felt it was the right thing to do. She invested a lot up until that point, so I felt it was a worthy reward. It was also something I wanted to do for the sake of the experience. Just being a great girl. Sticking around while I was away. Being attentive. Literally doing anything I tell her to do without protest. Busting my nuts on command. No red flags. The list goes on.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 05:44 PM
1

Great compromise, thanks dude.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 05:35 PM
1

Can you cite a specific example? I did that but it all seems to be PU stuff, not LTRs.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 05:16 PM
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bro do you need a hug
/r/askTRP25/09/19 04:55 PM
1

Any material recommendations for comfort tests? Thanks man.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 04:51 PM
1

Good advice. Thank you.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 04:50 PM
1

Really difficult to give you advice without knowing your financial circumstances. I’m gonna take a leap and assume you’re strapped for cash, since you have a roommate you don’t know. That said, I’d speak with the owner/management to see about switching to another unit if you don’t believe it’s tenable with this dude. On top of that, if I were you, I’d set hard boundaries with this dude. Develop a personal contract with him in writing (reasonable, with warnings/hard consequences and in-line with …
/r/askTRP25/09/19 02:31 PM
1

Literally this. Also applies to PU when some dude tries to take over your set. Just ignore. Girl will love you for it.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 06:42 PM
4

Hindsight 20/20. Just take it easy man. Here's the frame: "We're all human, we all make mistakes. I'm no exception to this rule. I've learned, and I forgive myself for this mistake. I deserve to be with this girl. I understand if she has doubts. She is free to leave me at anytime. I will be okay in the end no matter what."
/r/askTRP24/09/19 06:29 PM
2

Practice social approach (guys and girls). This may help with PU approach. It takes discipline. I recommend doing a 30-day Challenge if you have difficulty staying motivated. Journal your approaches (I recommend selfie video journals to capture your whole vibe and see how far you've come).
/r/askTRP24/09/19 06:18 PM
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People naturally gravitate towards something that is perceived to be in high demand and low supply, because it is perceived as valuable. In this sense, value is retained and can only appreciate. It's why people spend big $$$ on limited release shoes, artwork, cars, etc. So when she sees you ignoring her when countless other dudes are always super attentive, nice and always try to impress her, she searches for the answer. Of course, to her, the only answer is you have so much more value than the …
/r/askTRP24/09/19 06:10 PM
1

Be natural.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 03:06 PM
2

Compatibility, or lack thereof.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 02:42 PM
1

Since you're talking about feelings, I'm assuming your mind is thinking in the direction of LTRs. Let's make one thing clear. You will never be able to change someone. Ever. And you don't want to. I see a lot of guys talking about PU strategy in a very general sense, which may be counterproductive for a lot of you just getting started. In particular, LTR strategy is totally different than ONS or FWB strategy. Also, it's not all about strategy, or how perfect you are, or how on your priorities yo…
/r/askTRP24/09/19 02:21 PM
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Disagree. It says to people you lack self-awareness and trying too hard to look like a club lord.
/r/askTRP28/06/19 10:18 AM
5

Actually some selfies are good if done right. Gotta be a dope pic though, not some mirror or car selfie lol.
/r/askTRP28/06/19 10:05 AM
2

Do it, but eat Taco Bell beforehand. Make sure it's runny.
/r/askTRP28/06/19 09:59 AM
4

You could make the argument that good looks are also considered in the lizard brain, but I wouldn't say it's the main thing that matters; qualities conducive to survival are.
/r/askTRP12/04/19 01:17 PM
1

You can't change the past. You don't get to choose your parents or how you were raised. Becoming an adult means identifying your past, how you were raised, what you are and what you ultimately want to be. Like everyone else as an adult, it is up to YOU and YOU ALONE to educate and redefine yourself. That said, take responsibility for everything. Be kind and forgiving towards your dad for not knowing any better. He was probably young and trying to figure it out himself, except he didn't have a ma…
/r/askTRP12/04/19 12:51 PM
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Very true. The things that sound good on paper (good job, makes good money, cultured, educated, good-looking) help on the social conditioning side but not the archaic "lizard brain" side. It helps getting your foot in the door, but if you act like a chode, you'll see your way out pretty quick. We all grow up thinking the quintessential Chad is the one with the above listed qualities. When in fact, it's confidence and ability to maintain a steady hand even in high pressure situations that stokes …
/r/askTRP12/04/19 12:28 PM
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Your post begs a discussion on the female ego dynamic in relationships. It's really interesting to observe a girl's self-image when she's single versus when she's in an LTR. To your point, girls seem to have this delusional self-inflated image of themselves, especially once they've "achieved" marriage. Even worse when she has kids. It's a weird phenomenon when a girl gets married, becomes a jobless housewife with no career goals and starts to judge everyone around her - as if to rationalize her …
/r/TheRedPill11/04/19 12:30 PM
1

Holy shit. Honestly haven’t heard of a lot of these. This is really good inspiration, thanks man.
/r/askTRP09/04/19 10:42 PM
1

This is the type of OG advice this forum needs. Thanks for sharing. Any tips on deciding to try what you think would add value to your life or further develop your personality? I'm 27, and most hobbies people get into seem to be so generic and boring at surface.
/r/askTRP09/04/19 04:51 PM
1

Why didn't your doc give you the medicine to treat it? I had symptoms but wasn't formally diagnosed at my university clinic. Got a single pill I took, and symptoms were gone the next day. I don't remember the name of it, but it's used to cure chlamydia and gonorrhea.
/r/askTRP09/04/19 04:27 PM
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Agreed. And one step further, if you're very secure in yourself, you'll naturally gravitate towards AA, pressure flips, ignoring (all about body language here), etc. That said, we all have moments of weakness. There are phases in my life when I remember I had rock-solid frame. Other times, skin as thin as rice paper. Your identity (beliefs) and confidence (feeling secure) are mostly about recent achievements and how you've been spending your time recently. Perspectives from past achievements fad…
/r/askTRP09/04/19 04:20 PM
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This is a really interesting topic. I started using it frequently both in the plate/LTR dynamic and on girls I'm gaming, and it does do wonders like you said. It's a nice way to spice up your game, especially by showing sexual interest in an innocent way (plausible deniability). Good post OP.
/r/TheRedPill09/04/19 03:16 PM
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All I heard from this reply is that you hate yourself.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 08:06 PM
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Silently walk in, close the door behind you. Put a bale of chew in your mouth, silently walk back out onto your porch and take a seat on your rocking chair. Hock a nice loogie, purposely miss your spitoon, and land one right on her face like you would a big load of semen from across the room. Bonus points if you get it in her eyes and drips into her mouth.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 05:59 PM
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I got a couple of people like that in my life. We were super tight, but eventually people grow apart. And that's okay. I still have love for them, but I just don't fw them anymore for the reasons you mentioned. Just let it be. You made the right decision. Don't second-guess yourself.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 01:31 PM
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Move on man. It's not salvageable. The line of respect was crossed, and there's no recovering from that. She made the decision to throw it away, for one reason or another. You have one good choice: Walk away, learn from your mistakes, work on yourself. Maybe go monk mode for a little while. Then, when you feel ready, get yourself out there and date some new girls. But consider this bitch dead and gone.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 01:28 PM
1

I wouldn't next. Feel her out some more and follow your gut. You only went on one date. If your gut tells you she's truly crazy after 1 or 2 more dates, then next her. But I would be careful about revealing details like your apartment gate code, where you keep the spare key, names of family/friends/exes, etc. until you feel a level of comfort that she's not gonna go Rambo on you if you disengage.
/r/askTRP08/04/19 12:33 PM
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I disagree. Not all Tinder chicks follow the "fast" stereotype. I think there are a lot of women out there that seek out dating apps for various reasons. Yes, some just wanna fuck. Some want a relationship. Some are broken and trying to find themselves. Some want more experience. And some are genuinely playing the numbers to find someone they can establish a genuine connection with. On that note, if you have a strong frame, go ahead and commit if you think she's worth committing to. But make sur…
/r/askTRP08/04/19 12:28 PM
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Drop a line or two via text. Then listen to your gut on her interest level. That said, chances are her interest level is lukewarm at best, especially because you haven't gotten sexual with her yet. You can try to game her via text, but I think it's pointless. My advice to you is this: either treat it as an experiment to get a reference experience, or move on. Otherwise, you're spending way too much time & energy thinking about some random girl's motives.
/r/askTRP25/03/19 08:00 PM
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To them, it was a quick, anonymous romantic fling that they get to not feel slutty about. Also, why do you care? Do you wanna fuck yourself over that bad to catch feels and keep a long distance fling going that'll eventually die out (i.e. she branch swings)? Is it just to make your own ego feel better? It's important to answer these questions for yourself if you want to understand better and know how to proceed in future situations like those.
/r/askTRP25/03/19 07:45 PM
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Post a gif of you walking with your face covered/blurred out. That would be the best way for us to settle this for you.
/r/askTRP25/03/19 02:33 PM
4

Lmao totally using this line
/r/askTRP23/03/19 12:02 PM
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I mean, I genuinely like the girl without feeling/acting oneitis. She checks all the “must haves” boxes and no real major red flags so far. My intention is honestly to see where it goes. I feel like it takes away the flavor to put a label on it, especially so quick. Haven’t tested her enough yet, and I think it would be a weak move on my end to make her my gf just to go deep inside. Plus, I think sex is an important test to see if the relationship will work. This girl has only had one other bf, …
/r/askTRP22/03/19 02:12 PM
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I like it. Thanks.
/r/askTRP22/03/19 01:16 PM
1

I mean I'm good with it tbh. Abundance mentality is strong. But I'm too busy to spin several plates at once. You think I should take the initiative next time and broach the subject again, letting her know she's now my gf?
/r/askTRP22/03/19 11:05 AM
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Great post dude. Really hits home. I did this for awhile, and it always kept me in goal-winning mode. I felt strong, thick-skinned, confident and had built momentum one goal at a time. The feeling of accomplishment I got from this sticks in my head. I think it's also important not to beat yourself up for being in a contraction phase, but you would do well not to let it go on for too long. Time is precious, and you can't get it back. Measure your expansion and contraction phases.
/r/TheRedPill20/03/19 08:51 PM
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Set up plates or speak your mind and give an ultimatum. You’re letting her walk all over you bro. If you have the mental strength and discipline to do the first option with the mentality that you’re focusing on your happiness (not the toxic alternative of her being the focus), then you’d be in good shape. If you decide to go with option 2, be prepared for a pretty bad reaction from her. This is mostly because you didn’t set precedence by putting your foot down from the get-go.
/r/askTRP14/03/19 06:48 PM
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All I read from this is that you’re playing victim and blaming your wife when in reality you were being a big flappy pussy. Like bro, you reward her at every point that she misbehaved, you didn’t take control of the situation with her coworker crush (like why would you find it acceptable to wait on her in the car after you just caught her meeting up with the guy?) and getting mad/butthurt at her responses to your behavior instead of manning the fuck up. Summary: you’re a fucking pussy. No woman …
/r/askTRP14/03/19 06:34 PM
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Agree with this guy. Hanging back and waiting for girls to say hi first is the ultimate chode behavior at the party. Most guys are doing that. It says you're too much of a pussy to put yourself out there to make the first move; hence, OP is afraid to lead and rationalizing it by using a false equivalence.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/19 11:08 AM
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As someone who acted "too cool" in the past - as in, not chasing at all and putting in minimal effort - I can say that strategy does not work. The girl will think you have no interest (that she has no chance) and move on. Even worse, when I'd pick up on the girl mimicking my behavior and responding in kind, I began to show a little more (which is also very wrong, because now that would be rewarding her behavior and acting out of neediness). What I've learned since I became genuinely busy in life…
/r/TheRedPill13/03/19 10:59 AM
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Wait, so after your very first date, she slept with another dude at a party she went to while you were traveling. And you consider that cheating?
/r/TheRedPill09/03/19 02:04 PM
1

Those are limiting beliefs. Feeling sorry for yourself will not change your situation nor will it get sympathy/respect from others. If you want to change, which I think you do, effect it by taking massive action. No excuses. Your value comes from your uniqueness. If you want to improve on that, it will take efforts.
/r/askTRP01/03/19 07:57 PM
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As long as it doesn't come from a place of neediness, you're fine. Don't worry so much about your moves on a micro-level. Think about the big picture, but don't think too hard about it. Be natural. That said, if she doesn't like you for that, then fuck her. Move on. Self-worth>every girl.
/r/askTRP01/03/19 07:44 PM
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She was hoping you'd be a good candidate to replace her ex. I guarantee you she was talking to at least one other guy and maybe even her ex. Either way, a girl on the rebound should either be a blessing or trigger a red flag. If you're looking for a plate, it's a blessing. Red flag is if you're considering her for LTR. I don't think it's fucked up that she ended things in person. In fact, I think that was the right thing to do and took some courage. The fact is you're butthurt, and that's cool. …
/r/askTRP27/02/19 02:15 PM
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You're getting mired down into the details when you should be looking at it from 30,000 feet up. Girls are all about excuses. Watch the actions and test the possibilities. How convenient she says this about her ex and wants to take things slow. That sounds to me like an excuse to string you along until a better option enters her life. You're looking at this movie watching as some magic opportunity to turn things around. You can try, but unless you completely change the dynamics and tempo on her,…
/r/askTRP26/02/19 10:04 PM
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This confirms for me that you're inexperienced. And that's cool. Let me break it down for you. She is keeping you around until either someone better comes along or with chance you might step your game up. She's unsure about you because, on one hand, you check some boxes for her social conditioning side. On the other, she isn't feeling like you're meeting her archaic needs by not arousing her. The problem here is you're looking to her to "let you do something". That's a neediness mentality, and s…
/r/askTRP26/02/19 09:41 PM
1

Dude, you've been "seeing" this girl for a month and you just made the move to kiss her a few days ago? It sounds like you got some shyness going on yourself. And it sounds like you are half a step away from being friend-zoned if that's not already the case. If you're trying to gage her interest in you, look at IOIs (touching her hair, bambee eyes, reciprocating touch, laughing at your dumb jokes, standing/sitting close to you, etc.). If you're not seeing any IOIs and progress is slow, but you'r…
/r/askTRP26/02/19 09:26 PM
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"Great, I can keep you company while your friend isn't around. What are you doing Thursday?"
/r/askTRP26/02/19 09:11 PM
1

Not a bad idea actually. Just make sure the dildo is about your size. There’s something called the boyfriend dick or whatever that you can buy from sex shops that you can easily sculpt in the size and shape of your penis. That way it’ll be like she’s practicing on you while you’re not around.
/r/askTRP26/02/19 03:47 PM
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Just be genuine. I think the TRP reading material and game principles have a lot of merit to them and provide some solid perspective, but making your every move an overthought strategy is not being you. Your value comes from your uniqueness. Never forget that. Having said that, I think you made the right move here. Continue focusing on building comfort, and you should be in good shape. She definitely likes you and sounds like you got a good girl for LTR.
/r/askTRP26/02/19 01:40 PM
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I can’t speak on what would be the best action, but what I would do in that case is respond with a smile, “If that’s what you think then you should go ahead and find yourself a more secure guy.” And leave it at that. What that communicates is that a) ironically you’re secure with yourself, your conscience is clear and that you have a strong reality, and b) you’re willing to walk away which means she has no power over you. Remember, you can never control a girl, and you don’t want to. Leave her t…
/r/askTRP23/02/19 04:25 PM
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Know your value. For me, it was very difficult at first because it felt forced and seemed egotistical. But the more girls you experience, the more you can recognize qualities you don’t like and establish dealbreakers. It becomes less about them and more about you. This is part of having strong boundaries.
/r/askTRP23/02/19 02:03 PM
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You should've put your foot down as soon as she started shit-testing you by sending those screenshots. The fact that you kept sending her messages after that was an indication to her that you weren't man enough to put your foot down. Not only that, she was also being rewarded for that behavior. So she lost respect for you and branch-swinged. Truth is, she nexted you before you even had the chance to. It sucks, but consider this a good reference experience and you'll know how to handle it better …
/r/askTRP22/02/19 09:12 PM
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3 dates, no balls deep action yet, and you already developed feelings? Sounds like you got some tunnel vision going. It sounds like you're inexperienced and haven't developed strong boundaries yet. Why involve yourself with someone that has baggage like that? Go date/fuck other girls man. It'll be good for you.
/r/askTRP22/02/19 01:29 PM
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I'ma break it down for you man. Keep note of the red flags. This girl fucked 30-40 guys by 18? That should trigger a red flag. This girl gets around a lot, likely is fucking other dudes and might even be an outbreak monkey. Another thing to keep in mind is that, while you may givin it to her good, you're not special. There will always be another guy that can give it to her better. And she will leave your ass as soon as that dude comes along. Her genital hygeine ain't the best. That's another red…
/r/askTRP20/02/19 03:10 PM
2

Does talking shit to strangers online make you feel better about the gaping hole in your soul?
/r/askTRP16/02/19 01:34 PM
2

Google search “RSD 30 day challenge”. It’s pretty simple, you just gotta make a point to go out everyday and dedicate time to cold approach girls. Posting on game forums help (I did mine on RSD Nation forums).
/r/askTRP16/02/19 01:33 PM
3

You want my dick size and social security number too?
/r/askTRP16/02/19 06:53 AM
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Massive area with every equipment you can imagine, all kinds of squash and b-ball courts, super clean and stocked bathrooms with dry and wet saunas, inside Olympic style pools with hot tubs, outdoor area with pools, excellent networking (since mostly professionals and pro athletes go there) and top notch group workout classes. It’s like a damn resort in that bitch.
/r/askTRP16/02/19 12:02 AM
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Been there done that bud and very happy with my decision. I’m sharing what works for me. If that works for you then good shit 👌🏼
/r/askTRP15/02/19 11:44 PM
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Word. I spend 6 days out of the week at the gym and take it pretty seriously, so having that comfortable gym experience makes it worth it for me. I’m not saying you can’t make gains on $31 membership. I am saying that if you want to get serious about it (and have trouble getting serious because of reasons I mentioned), invest in a gym that motivates you to go. But doesn’t matter what I think. Do whatever the fuck you wanna do.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 11:38 PM
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I mean I definitely agree that it’s generally not worth it. Definitely was tailored to naive beginners, the service was pretty unprofessional, and I wouldn’t do it again. But I made the decision, paid for it and didn’t look back. I came in with an open mind and took it very seriously. Cold approach opened a new world for me. But ya definitely agree it’s like a muscle you gotta work. I also think if you do something like a 30 day challenge, your “muscle memory” comes back if you’ve been out of th…
/r/askTRP15/02/19 10:34 PM
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Apartment (no roommate and good parking): Game changer. Before this, I had to pull to my car, her place or my parents' house late at night. Now, I control my environment and can feel comfort to bring back whoever I want, whenever I want. Gym membership: No chump change mfka shit. If you want to make serious gains, you gotta be willing to invest seriously in a good gym. Personally, I go to LifeTime and pay the Diamond price ($140/month). It's 5 min. away, has all the equipment I want and never ha…
/r/askTRP15/02/19 09:44 PM
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Just don't be a chump change mfka and avoid places like Great Clips, Fantastic Sam's, etc. Best barbers are non-chains. Figure out what's important to you. Personally, one nearby work where I can schedule appointments works best for me. If you don't like a particular barber, thank them for their service and let them know that it isn't working out. Ask if there's someone else there that does a similar style often and well.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 09:33 PM
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That was a classic shit test. Shit test does not equal disrespect. Because y'all were in bed and she hadn't given it up yet, I'd call that an LMR shit test. You failed because you reacted instead of laughing it off or putting her in her place without ego/emotions overcoming you. I'd say this one's a dealbreaker. She gone man. Move on.
/r/askTRP15/02/19 02:20 PM
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Being social and using small talk is an inherent part of every social interaction to feel each other out before creating a connection. A good conversationalist picks up on cues, body language and the words of the other person to tie into the next topic and talk about something that interests both parties. This is bad advice man. You're trying to lead people into autism territory with this. If anyone likes this idea, it's because they are asocial and want to rationalize their behavior.
/r/askTRP12/02/19 12:12 PM
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Well how about creating an authentic, meaningful connection? I feel like this is the golden nugget everyone here is ignoring. Nothing gets a girl more turned on than a good connection. It's a big part of good sex too.
/r/askTRP07/02/19 11:10 AM
0

I hear this a lot here, but I don’t buy that. It’s a limiting belief. How can any man have a healthy monogamous relationship or marriage with that mindset?
/r/askTRP02/02/19 02:24 PM
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Pointers: Take out your earbuds/headphones so you can open yourself to conversation and be aware of your environment Be fun, light-hearted, engaging and empathetic (with everyone) Smile more Be patient. You know she works there, so build rapport with her first few times to get a conversation flow going and feel her out. This creates comfort for both of you and "breaks the ice". Then y'all can seemlessly hang out outside of that setting feeling comfortable that you'll have something in common and…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/19 06:54 PM
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Awesome post, probably the best I've seen on TRP. What's unique about your post, OP, is that we can feel the humility in your words, which is something very rarely seen in this community (but should be something we all employ). You're emotionally intelligent in self-awareness and cold-reading our generations also. We need more quality posts like this. One thing I'll add is that we may want to consider what works for our individual personalities. For example, my blueprint is that I never backdown…
/r/TheRedPill01/02/19 12:10 PM
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Gonna give this a real shot next go around. Thanks boss.
/r/askTRP31/01/19 06:57 PM
1

You're right. And I've learned recently that, if your gut is telling you something is wrong, there is. How do you know when to cut your losses and disengage though? If her interest starts to dwindle (and you feel it), do you try and work things out or just say "fuck it" and cut her off?
/r/askTRP31/01/19 03:30 PM
2

dance in a circle with 8 guys, maybe 2 girls who have no intention of doing anything with these 8 guys, never socialise with anybody else there, absolutely NO concept of game, I'm talking zero. The girl could be grinding on them and they wouldn't be wiser. Yup, sounds familiar lmao. Before you say, it's the wrong people, I've done it now with about maybe 20-30 different people all together and the script is always the same. Still sounds like you're going out with the wrong people. It's super wac…
/r/askTRP31/01/19 03:19 PM
2

In theory that sounds great for single dudes. What about a guy in a monogamous relationship?
/r/askTRP31/01/19 03:09 PM
2

I like this frame. And I think both of these frames should work in harmony, because they're two different perspectives that aren't necessarily wrong and balance each other out. However, a word of caution: let's be careful with the mantras we choose to adopt. They're not "one size fits all", nor are they going to provide us value if all we have is tunnel vision for that one perspective -- otherwise we get sucked into hopelessness/insecure thought patterns on one side and toxic ego/narcissism on t…
/r/TheRedPill08/01/19 01:50 PM
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Nice dude - pimping heavy! One more thing -- How do you tame your ego and not allow yourself to get complacent? For example, in your situation, you're banging a girl on the regular - but you also still go out on the regular and clearly still hold a focus on game. What keeps you going?
/r/TheRedPill04/01/19 05:25 PM
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Awesome stuff and can definitely attest to social momentum. Once you let yourself slip back into the comfort zone, it becomes more difficult to overcome the inertia. I'm in a down-phase right now, so this helps me remember to start small. Question for you. Honestly, what is your status in game right now? (how many girls are you talking to, banging on the regular, girlfriends, etc.)
/r/TheRedPill04/01/19 04:58 PM
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Agreed. These are limiting beliefs. Social media is a tool. Use it or don't - just don't bitch about it. Also, no one gives a fuck about who watches their stories lol. Y'all spend wayyyy too much time thinking about this trivial shit. (btw @ OP, bought followers don't count and make you look like a tool)
/r/TheRedPill21/12/18 04:33 PM
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My approach to IG is quite different. I don't use it to direct cold approach via DMs. I use it to keep in touch with my network, get inspired, be in touch with trends, be entertained by memes and most importantly...to gain/maintain passive attraction. Stories and posts are phenomenal ways to express yourself, display your personality and show how cool of a guy you are (and what it would be like to hangout with you). See, the idea here is that, your value is predicated upon the last emotion you l…
/r/TheRedPill13/12/18 01:43 PM
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I know RSD Max talks a lot about it, so I’m sure you could search his videos for his take on displaying high value. I recommend good, high quality pics. Funny, short, no try hard captions. Pics of you not looking at the camera (makes it feel more natural, establishes high social value because someone else is taking the pic, establishes “oops” frame). Stories — videos are most effective, fun/funny content is king. Pics of something fun you’re doing is cool too. Just be sure to do it right. Be sel…
/r/TheRedPill10/12/18 01:33 PM
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Really great to hear about your successes in your journey :) I agree with most everything you said except your point on social media being a waste of time. It is if you don’t know what you’re doing, but it’s massively effective in establishing comfort and passive attraction. Posting pics and stories that show that you’re on your purpose, working hard and living life in a fun, carefree way gets girls thinking about what a cool guy you are and gives them an idea of what it would be like to hangout…
/r/TheRedPill09/12/18 04:40 PM
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Honestly, sick post bro. And good for you. The way you handled it was very mature. For better or for worse, situations like this aren't cut-and-dry. There are so many ways it could have gone, so don't beat yourself up over it, no matter the outcome. And never discount the idea of "randomness". One suggestion I have is to screen very early on for OLTR. If she's bisexual, that's a plus. You can even involve her in threesomes (or more). The more you can involve her, the more buy-in and comfort she'…
/r/TheRedPill26/11/18 06:13 PM
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Sometimes I'll show a girl something cool or funny that I saw on Reddit/IG (start with statement of empathy). Cold-reading is a good one too. Otherwise, if I'm not in-state or I'm in my head or don't know what to say, I'll just be honest with how I feel or that I'm in my head. Being genuine is huge (and is value in of itself), and girls love it. Just make sure you change the subject and offer more value if you go that route.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/18 04:27 PM
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Nice post dude. This resonates with me a lot, as I go out alone pretty often. When I was completing the 30-day challenge (going out every single night), I had to force myself to go out mostly on my own. I found more success on my own than I did with my friends (wings). Unless you have an awesome wing who understands the mechanics of game or is just naturally gifted and shares good chemistry with you, the wing will likely just weigh you down. I find that it gives me a huge advantage actually to g…
/r/TheRedPill26/11/18 04:18 PM
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+1 for field reports, even better if it's on active PUA forums like RSDNation. I did this during my 30-day Challenge, and it helped me see the trends of my mistakes during cold approach game. I also recommend expanding your horizon beyond cold approach - text game, Tinder game, Instagram game (so fucking huge). BIG emphasis on IG game because it can give you so much passive attraction without ever even having met the girl. Or say you cold approach and IG close. She sees your stories chronicling …
/r/seduction16/11/18 07:56 PM
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Well, sounds like you have a scarcity mindset. You focus on one girl. While the girl has an abundance mentality, she's more aloof and can drop convos with a guy anytime she wants without feeling any type of way. Especially when you're in the super early stages of an interaction (Tinder, not even a number close), you would do better to move on dude. I know how it is, and I'm not gonna pretend I don't have a scarcity mindset at times. It sucks. But the way you move forward is to talk to a bunch of…
/r/seduction16/11/18 07:13 PM
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That’s the point I’m trying to make. Thank you.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 08:39 PM
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That’s part of my point. Thank you.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 07:56 PM
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Looks like I hit a nerve. Conversation over.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 07:03 PM
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My point is there’s a balance between a man’s purpose and his relationships with women. Being good with women doesn’t necessarily mean you’re more alpha than Elon Musk.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 06:59 PM
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I presume you think of yourself as an alpha - And as you are judging from the convenience of your keyboard, can you honestly say you’ve contributed more to society (or your purpose as a whole) than him?
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 06:38 PM
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Elon is far from a beta, and calling him one while also blaming women is beta af. The guy is a legend for having the balls to stick it to governments and the largest and most renown multi-national companies (energy and automobile industries) with long tenures, with all the odds against his favor. If that wasn’t enough - he made it his mission to colonize Mars, which was crazy up until he started making huge advancements in rockets and making profits. I would venture to say that the reason he may…
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 05:18 PM
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Pay extra caution to avoiding falling in the trap of close-mindedness.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/18 02:10 PM
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I know I’m late in this, but I had to read this again and let it set in before I comment. I like what you said about easily getting influenced by addictions/instant gratification if you don’t have firm goals in life. I think we generally have an idea of what our priorities in life are, which really ties into fundamental values and goals — both being drivers of your behavior. Where a lot of us fall short is clearly identifying what those are and what must be done to satisfy those requirements. Th…
/r/TheRedPill30/04/18 02:54 PM
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