Met a hot 19 y/o 8/10 who had a relatively low n count who grew up in the countryside and only moved to my city 3 months ago.

Met her on tinder 2 months ago, started plating her, saw she had many orbiters on Instagram (probably from tinder) but I mentioned nothing of it and tbh didn’t really care that much as I wasn’t invested.

After a month of dating/hanging out she cried after sex and said she’s scared I’m going to hurt her because I’ve got many girls following me/liking my pictures on Instagram. I replied jokingly and told her “yeaa I have many girls but you’re my no.1” with a smirk and I also said “but remember you have many guys too ;)”.. she responded seriously and said yes but she hasn’t met them, only talked on DM a few times and the person she really likes is me.

Another month passed and we got a bit closer and the topic came up again on text. She said “you have many girls.. I don’t know if we can talk anymore” I replied saying many girls want me, but I only want her. (I said what she wanted to hear but my actions still show that I’ve got options)

We both agreed that we’ll stop using tinder.. not delete the app, but just stop talking to people on there. I committed to this although I still talked to girls who were following me on my Instagram.

Anyway I checked tinder a week later and searched her name in my matches, saw she’d changed her pictures and her bio.. meaning she’s still active on tinder and talking to guys.

I text her “sorry you lied we can’t talk anymore” and then she sent me messages saying “I didn’t lie I told you I still have tinder” (this was gaslighting because the issue was not having tinder, but using tinder.. she knows that but tried to manipulate the context to avoid responsibility.. red flag)

I said yes you did lie. Then she said “okay if you think like that.. upto you.” Then she blocked me on everything obviously because I caught her out.

She text me an hour later saying “I’m sorry I used tinder. It’s because I’m not sure about you and I think we can’t be in a relationship, that’s why I did that.”

Did I make the right decision to ghost her? Or did I push her to use tinder by not being open enough for her? I believe she does actually like me a lot but she seems insecure and maybe that’s why she looked for attention from other guys? Because she doesn’t feel good enough for me and I wasn’t focusing on her so she wanted to get options to protect herself?

She allwaysss complained about being fat.. even though she’s not fat. Red flag?

Was this my fuck up for not playing it right or was it a done deal from the start?