Went out to a gig with a plate, and she happened to know the lead singer in the band. The guy is a 5'6" (tops) skinny manlet who would genuinely surprise me if he could bench an empty bar. He's not physically attractive at all... BUT the guy has an amazing voice, and gets asked to sing at gigs all the time; hence the "situational alpha".

The guy approaches my plate, hugs her, and whispers something in her ear. She tries to disengange a couple of times, and he keeps here there for a couple of seconds. When he leaves, she tells me this guy is always hitting on her, and he just told her how "he'll be delighted the rest of the gig because he can see how beautiful she looks" or something like that. Some creepy shit coming from anyone else, but he's the main guy here and she doesn't really look disgusted by what just happened. My plate also mentions how she was uncomfortable because of the extended hug and me being there, and wanting to introduce me... I just shrug it off.

During the interlude, singer dude goes around asking people what they think, and my plate starts saying some stupid shit to get the guy's attention. She introduces me and he immediately goes for the dominant handshake and makes a dumb joke about "hey I'm the guy on stage". My plate laughs at his stupid joke. Fuck.

We end up crashing at my place, fuck the next morning, and then sleep some more. She gets a call from this guy and talks to him for like 5 mins right next to me, then hangs up and tells me the guy wanted her opinion and she felt honored by it (she's a manager for a couple of other bands). I joke that he may have just wanted to hit on her some more. She asks if I'm jealous, I reply with a "pff bitch, please" and leave it there.

My question: looks like singer dude and my plate run in the same circles. This bitch has asked me like 3 times if I'm jealous of the guy, either seeking validation from me, or because I've failed to make it clear that this dumb drama shit won't fly with me. How can I approach telling her to stop trying to get a reaction from me about this jealousy shit? Also, is it possible to disqualify singer dude or should I not even bother? I'd like to keep this plate in rotation, since she's been really good so far (submissive, sexual and feminine).

Thanks.