Do i need a change in attitude?

MattyAnon · 2019-11-05T17:36:41+00:00

Later, the person came to me to tell me that it offended them and they wouldn't appreciate it. I just replied with a "Got it" and carried on with my work.

Shit test passed.

This whole "I'm offended" shit needs to be headed off immediately with indifference, as you did.

What's bothering me is if something so small can trigger someone, I'm better off staying away from them cause I might pass more comments and would end up offending them more.

Basically yes: avoid the shy and the weak and the politically correct.

I'd like to know how you would approach this and whether I do need a change in attitude?

Haha no, I think you got this. Don't let the deranged Marxist PC brigade drag you down into their pit of mediocrity.

KillaJewels · 2019-11-05T17:47:24+00:00

The comment: he/she wants more people to talk in English so he/she can boast her accent.

What end were you trying to achieve by saying that? If I were to guess, it would probably be that you were trying to bring that person down due to subconsciously not liking yourself.

If you want to be emotionally intelligent and socially calibrated (which sounds like you do since you're asking this), it's important to be self-aware first.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-11-05T17:51:07+00:00

I've been told that I'm arrogant, mean, and don't care about people which I'm pretty sure I am because I make sure I say stuff out there without having it sugar coated.

Emotional vomiting isn't a virtue. Consider what you have to say well, before you say it. Speak less and take more actions.

It didn't really matter when people brought it up because I know that's who I am.

"That's just who I am, an emotional vomiter."

"That's just who I am, a teenager for whom the concepts of saying the right things at the right time, and saying little and acting much are foreign concepts."

You'll have to get over the teenage entitlement sooner or later when a failure to be diplomatic at the wrong time, costs you a job.

You're free to say what you like. You're not free from the consequences of using speech like a fire hose.

Those consequences are coming home to roost, it seems.

Anyways, today I made a comment about someone trying to boast about their accent and it wasn't a very offensive one in my opinion.

This made you sound like a hypercompetitive little bitch.

Scarcity Mentality. This says you feel a need to criticize people for any little difference when you feel cognitive dissonance.

This kind of Hypercompetitive crap has got to go. Your job environment isn't some kind of sports tournament.

What's bothering me is if something so small can trigger someone,

Namely someone's accent can trigger you to feel like you need to get competitive and trigger you to become a little bitch who can't STFU.

yoloswagobey · 2019-11-05T17:07:51+00:00

Nah ur good g

Title	Do i need a change in attitude?
Author	aliezsid
Upvotes	1
Comments	10
Date	November 5, 2019 5:05 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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