Does being even moderately introverted/reserved automatically place you in the "beta" category? what's good 'introverted game'?

KylarSovari · 2016-09-02T14:44:04+00:00

There is this misconception that "introverts" are quiet, shy, reserved, etc; and that introvert = beta. Let me respectfully correct that misconception.

Introversion relates to where you draw your energy and recuperation from. Introverts draw their energy from within; are internally motivated; and they need to rest up by being alone.

Extroverts draw their energy from others or activity; are externally motivated; and recharge by interacting with other people.

There can be chatty, outgoing introverts and reserved, awkward extroverts.

What you need to do is practice. Practice being around new people and in unfamiliar situations. Practice talking to people. "Game" everyone. Talk to men and women, all the time.

And don't put yourself in a box. "Oh, this is just the way I am, there's nothing I can do about it, and it's never going to change." Ditch that thinking right now. You can get better at new social situations through practice.

SoRedSuchAlpha · 2016-09-02T19:06:39+00:00

Avoid asking questions like "is this alpha" or "is this beta?" Instead focus on asking whether or not your actions were congruent with your goals.

blackedoutfast · 2016-09-02T21:06:40+00:00

Becoming a loud obnoxious extroverted Chad is probably the most effective way to improve your game. It works so much better than quietly sitting in the corner pretending to be James Bond. And it's something you can start doing TONIGHT.

If you want to get ripped, it might take years of work. If you want to get rich, it might take years of work. If you want social status, it might take years of work.

But if you want to become a loud extroverted center of attention, you just have to start doing it. It might take years of practice before you can act like that automatically without any fear or anxiety, but it's not you need to take classes to learn how to act like a typical Chad bro.

Learn to enjoy the adrenaline rush that comes from facing your fears. And once you start doing it and getting positive reinforcement from people enjoying the show, it will get easier and easier.

I used to be the typical shy quiet introvert guy but I forced myself to be more extroverted and amping up that energy. Now I'm basically addicted to being the center of attention.

heartwotroleyou · 2016-09-02T21:36:42+00:00

Do extroverts get more attention, sure they do. Here's the thing though, have you ever seen an introvert that was healthy (physically and mentally), confident and successful? That kind of person can sit in the corner all by themselves with half the women in the room eyeing him. There is a vibe or energy that's given off that cannot be faked. If you have that, you don't even have to try. They will come to you.

So if you're an introvert, I wouldn't make becoming an extrovert your primary objective. Sure that might help but, work on becoming more confident and successful first and everything else will fall into place

Title	Does being even moderately introverted/reserved automatically place you in the "beta" category? what's good 'introverted game'?
Author	RedHatStocker
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Comments	11
Date	September 2, 2016 1:47 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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