Does being straight forward with girls turn them away?

btrpb · 2019-02-04T09:56:40+00:00

Had a tinder date on Friday night. Here's how some of the conversations went:

Her, "I like getting a back rub. Me, "with oil?" Her, looks at me. Me, "do you like sex dirty? Sensual?" Her, "fuck it. I love all of it. Sensual, dirty, I fucking love sex"

Her, "I have a five date rule before sex" Me, "three and I'm out of here" Her reaction; grabs me and makes out with me.

Her, "I like the way your kiss" Me, "I want all of you. Everything" Her reaction; groaning.

Packed her in a taxi, and arranged for the second date with implied sex.

No. Being straight forward with girls does not turn them away. However, you have got to calibrate, escalating the flirting. But I was making out with this girl within half hour of meeting her, by being direct and making my intentions clear.

MGRaiden97 · 2019-02-04T12:05:23+00:00

Girls like it best when you don't speak directly. They like the mind games

itiswr1tten · 2019-02-04T15:29:01+00:00

Girls love when the man is direct after he's established attraction.

Don't confuse "direct" with "overt communication at inappropriate times". Saying you want to fuck an hour into the date is a turn off. Saying you want her body while you're making out in your car is a turn on.

Capiche?

INNASKILLZ2K18 · 2019-02-04T13:55:01+00:00

It depends when you're being direct.

Don't do it in the beginning. It usually fucks everything. Women have been conditioned to never be direct about sex, so they've learnt to speak indirectly. Flirting, innuendo.

Also, you make yourself look needy and thirsty, which is NOT high value. You also give away all your cards. She knows she can have you like that *clicks fingers*. That's boring, no chase and no mystery.

Normally just flirt and use innuendo. If you get good and flirting and 'implying' a sexual frame, you'll get good at reading if she's into it.

You can tell when you can be direct, when the conversation is geared towards it.

Attraction must be established first.

FereallyRed · 2019-02-04T19:54:13+00:00

Women are covert communicators.

Way wrong approach.

My buddy does this, but he calls it the 3% rule.

As in... 3% of the time, it works everytime.

Play stupid games to win stupid prizes.

Sidebar is your homework.

Rosace_89 · 2019-02-04T10:28:34+00:00

need to build some rapport/comfort first

then, if you catched some IOIs, being direct shows confidence, that you know what you want, obliterate the possibility for mind game, give you back a straight answer

Title	Does being straight forward with girls turn them away?
Author	Burner01234
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Date	February 4, 2019 9:16 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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