Long story short, my girlfriend has been distant, less affectionate and went from being a slut to being nothing short of a vanilla pudding, rarely asks for sex and doesn’t suck my dick so much anymore.

I started applying some soft dread, I joined the gym, got some new clothes, became less responsive to her messages and just generally started to pull back a bit. I throw in the odd comment about “this chick from the gym” and often when she messages me on WhatsApp I just sit there online without replying.

So tonight she tells me this “I feel like you could just slip away at any moment” and was suspicious of my shaving rash I had on my neck. I also decided to slap some aftershave on and she made a comment about that.

Question is, how far is too far? How long do I need to push this for? I’m obviously a noob and don’t want to give her the impression I’m cheating but I do want her to feel like I can slip away and for her to actually reverse her bad behavior and be more her, the her I fell in love with. Any tips?

I will admit, it’s hard, I’m used to being there for her all the time but I know it’s doing nothing but destroying my relationship.