I'm 20 years old and even before I was born my dad was a gambler, had a gambling problem ever since hes been introduced to it which was around 20 something years ago. Hes basically changed my mum due to all the stress hes laid on our family over the past 20 years and it's one of the reasons why it's hard for me to just live with my family because everything just seems so f*cked up.

Last week for the first time in my 20 years hes took all my savings which i've saved up in cash in one of my drawers which really made me so f*cking pissed off, and basically gambled it all away.

My mum scolds him weekly and he just learnt to ignore her and pretend to listen but just pisses away his money. Shes always threatened to divorce but its never happened and I think I'd rather not have him as a father figure than to have one at all.

Ever since I was a kid he's always "promised" me things and it just never happened. Things like my helping him do stuff and him saying I'll buy you a new ____. It never happened. Just constant lies and all this bullshit, saying he'll pick me up from school and he'd arrive 1 hour late due to him staying in the casino and not realizing how much time has passed.

So basically, I've always wanted to make a thread on TRP but it just never got this bad. What set me off was when I ignored him when he picked me up at like 3 am in the morning, a 10 minute walk from my house but I was just too tired to walk back. I wasn't expecting him to be the one picking me up and obviously him taking my money a day ago just really made me want to bash him. So he asks me a question and I just ignore him not saying anything, hes used to it.

When we get inside he asks me another one and I don't respond. He raises his voice and I raise mine telling him why would I want to speak to him if he took my money. He loses frame and says he'll pay me back which is what they all say.

2 minutes later I go towards his room and tell him "Why do you think that whenever you come home from work, I always ignore you and that we hardly talk?", he says stop and just closes his door while looking all frustrated and angry.

Earlier on today he tries to add me on facebook, instant block.

I've also grown to treat alot of people like crap due to growing up in this environment its like a coping mechanism. Scolded by my mum during high school for not studying properly which is all she harassed me with ever since primary all the way up till high school, I go to university now and it's not as bad but I do still live at home because university is only a 30-40minute drive away.

I really don't know how to sort my life out.

Any advice would be good.