ExGf orbit question

1NV0K3R · 2015-10-21T16:50:07+00:00

Typical case is for them to get some sense of closure ie. "we broke up and I am doing better/he is doing ok so I won't feel bad"

Hence, the general advice is for no contact what so ever unless you happen to run into her on the street, then you just be polite, give a nod and a "hello" and go about your way.

The only time you strictly engage an ex with any other intent is if she has been showing signs of wanting the Old Faithful.

BudapestPUA · 2015-10-21T16:51:43+00:00

Yeah orbit. Or something else.

Either way there is no reason to find out. Don't respond.

backOnd · 2015-10-21T22:13:41+00:00

Anytime an ex girlfriend tries to spark conversation and hang out after NoContact while currently having a boyfriend is her trying to bring you into orbit?

No. But she will not hesitate to allow you to put yourself in her orbit. Since she is your ex, she can never be relationship material again. She can, at most, be a plate. As long as she doesn't give you necessary drama. You need to establish the frame from the start with a statement like "Oh you must be missing my dick" or something along that line and see how she responds. If it is playful or serious in a manner like "Whatever, you just miss this pussy", then it's all good and she is down to fuck. Now, if she responds with "Ummm no. Was just wanting a friend to talk to", then ghost on her ass until she realizes that she does want your dick.

fnordsnord · 2015-10-21T19:57:53+00:00

Usually, the woman is the dumper and the man is the dumpee. And he's the dumpee because she's found a guy who gives her better tingles.

But the dumpee hasn't done anything WRONG. There's not ANYTHING objectively wrong with him. He's good looking (enough), has (enough) money, and his good (enough) in bed. But she's found something "better" (more attractive).

And dumping a perfectly adequate guy for someone "better" is a selfish-bitch thing to do.

If she can either a) convert you into a "friend," OR b) provoke you into being a jerk, it validates her decision to dump you. Either way, it validates that she "made the right decision for both of you."

I deny women this kind of closure. She was a selfish bitch. Why should I help her feel like she's NOT a selfish bitch.

Title	ExGf orbit question
Author	backOnd
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	October 21, 2015 4:42 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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