Fear

JayViceroy · 2015-01-28T12:04:50+00:00

This is hands down the best advice you will get:

The reason you cannot approach women is because you have some level of social anxiety. You are not constantly interacting with people everyday. You are not putting yourself out there initiating conversations.

Do this for an entire week: talk to every single person you can. The 90 year old clerk at the grocery store, the fat guy stuffing his face at the hot dog stand by your work, the dudes in your locker room at the gym. Become more social to EVERYone that you can. At the end of the week you will notice your approach anxiety has decreased significantly. Remember she's just as nervous as you are, probably moreso. Oh, and girls are goofy as fuck, take them off that pedestal amigo.

Rush-into-the-fray · 2015-01-28T14:30:15+00:00

Here's a cheat. Go to malls, stores or perfume counters where the sales girls approach you. This will get you used to being face to face with random pretty girls. When you get comfortable with that, start trying to turn the conversation from a sales experience to open ended questions. "I have a date tonight, where is your favorite place to go on a date". Pick up is easy, but getting over that hurdle isn't.

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jsalathe · 2015-01-28T09:32:51+00:00

Confidence helps you overcome fear and a better self leads to confidence. You are putting the cart before the horse by trying to be confident before improving yourself. When you are rich, buff and stylish you won't be as intimidated in social situations.

Also, sometimes you just may be "off". If that is the case, be forgiving and try again next time.

oldredder · 2015-01-28T13:51:56+00:00

Fear is not to be loved. It's to be erased. Once it's gone for good everything is easier. Fear's proper purpose is to force your reflexes to save your life from imminent danger. Nothing else.

Johnny10toes · 2015-01-28T19:29:12+00:00

What are they going to do? Eat you? Say mean things?

Rejection is better than regret.

I read a book at the end of last year, a book on psychopathy but that's not important, where the author said guys he knew would make a game out of being rejected. Rejection was the goal. He stated that they got over their fear by treating the rejection as a success.

Now that doesn't mean to go out and just ask "hey you want to fuck?" Even that will work, there is a video on YouTube where a guy goes up to 100 women in Las Vegas and asks them if they'll have sex with him. If I remember correctly he got 6 yes and 94 no.

Don't forget, there is nothing special about them. Hell there is nothing special about you either. Nothing special about any of the guys on here or anywhere. Except for me. I'm the special one. Catch my drift? We are all just flesh and bone. A bunch chemicals firing off stuff in our brains and we call it attraction. She's not attracted to you? Who gives a shit? With millions of women out there...

Now you can get to a point where a lot of women are attracted to you. You have be the guy though. Your body. Your speak. Your action. Your body language. Your vibe. Good news is that most of this you can change. All of it to some degree.

First though get your head straight.

asd1100 · 2015-01-28T10:34:07+00:00

No, you are looking for /r/seduction, the red pill is not symptomatic medicine.

Your fears and insecurities are the issue. Being unable to joke around with some random chicks is just a symptom.

Achieve shit, become someone that is proud of himself. Push yourself voluntarily into uncomfortable situations and prove to your brain that you won't die.

Title	Fear
Author	krustytheclown2
Upvotes	2
Comments	13
Date	January 28, 2015 5:56 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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