Feel like a total failure.

bravo6isgoingdark · 2021-02-03T02:08:44+00:00

When everything goes wrong join the army.

Best decision of my life.

constipulouspoon · 2021-02-03T03:33:14+00:00

I made it like halfway down your post and had to stop reading because I can't stand obsessive negativity. People who succeed constantly in life create positive feedback loops. They ooze positivity and create a cycle of winning, self-affirmation, and confidence. People like you do the opposite. You tell yourself you suck and you're a failure over and over again. "All I do is lose. I'm a failure. I failed at this. I suck at this. I just can't win." Then you fail. Then you ooze negativity. Your mental fortitude just gets weaker and weaker and you decrease your chances of success constantly over time.

You need to change your perspective. I don't care if you're the biggest loser on the planet and you were literally cursed by God to be a complete fuck-up at everything you do your entire life. The two options are to hit 40 years old and still be complaining about it, or to decide to do something about it. Earlier in human history if you failed once you just fucking died. You're blessed to live in a time where you can fuck up over and over again and learn from your mistakes and improve.

Stop comparing yourself to other people, especially in the gym. More people than you would expect are on steroids, even normal looking dudes. Most of the time when people don't see results in the gym it's because they are not being completely honest about how hard they are working / their diet / etc. But at the same time I wouldn't be surprised if this horrendously negative outlook on life you've developed is altering your perspective of everything, including other people and how they look compared to you. Body dysmorphia is a real thing.

It all starts with perspective. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday. You will find that you can start winning a lot more than you thought you could. It's not that hard to be a better version of who you were yesterday. It sounds so simple but you need to change your mindset. It doesn't matter if you're cursed or not. You sink or swim.

Natural_Singer · 2021-02-03T02:27:23+00:00

I was u to a T. Things turned around when instead of putting to onus entirely on myself, I paid someone to guide me. Tutors, personal trainers, etc. would pay them to a point where I was self sufficient

Mikewat590 · 2021-02-03T09:41:51+00:00

Stop crying about losing and do something about it. Find the prettiest girl you know and ask her out, to her face. She may reject you and that’s ok. In 10 minutes ask the next girl for her number and to meet up and get coffee. Simple as that and you’ll be on your way to better confidence. Myself, I don’t use dating apps for women and score all the damn time. It’s not that hard, keep hitting the gym and realize that what you’re doing there simply isn’t hitting it as hard as you think it is. And never, never, never, compare yourself to some steroidal, genetically gifted dude. Because you’re not that person and that’s ok, you will get there. As far as the winning at life, make that shit happen. I’m 42 and just got accepted to a Physician Assistant program. Had kids and raised them while being in the medical field. Always wanted this and I went after it for 7 years and got it on my first application round. That skill you have is probably not what you think it may be. Those other may have many more skills you’re not aware of. So keep grinding and remember it’s never to late to try something else!!!!!

drugsbeatsex · 2021-02-03T12:56:41+00:00

Find someone to look up to. Jason Capital is a pretty good guy for me because he’s red pilled and knowledgeable on almost everything

Title	Feel like a total failure.
Author	helllyesss
Upvotes	3
Comments	13
Date	February 3, 2021 2:02 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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