Sup dudes, I have a question for you guys, maybe you got some feedback for me.My - now ex - gf broke up with me (we have dated for almost two years).

The last months we were dating I felt like things were gonna end so I started to reactive a few old plates and get new ones. In that moment, being dating gave me an extra confidence with those plates, like the pre selection stuff we talk about.

After we broke up, I felt like I was no valuable. But in an external way, because in the internal way I know I'm a cool dude who can get a few girls, Also I lift every day (I got a noticeable cut body) and I'm about to get my engineer degree next year. But the external way tells me that if someone left you, It's because you're crap. (The concept I have about myself is fucking me up)

Now I found myself very lazy about going out with girls and stuff, even when I still have a "happy" life, I feel like I lost something. For example, one of my plates is mad at me because I "can't" go out with her (actually I dont want to, even when this girl is hot as fuck, I feel like I don't connect with her); and the other plate is an old one, nothing new to me, I'm not motivated about her neither.

  • Have you guys experimented something like that? Like, lack of motivation to go out with girls after breaking up?

It's like in a unconscious way, I'm comparing those girls with my ex. I don't have oneitis with her because she's kinda toxic, my life im more relaxed now, but I think I compare those girls about the connection we had. (in sex and in general)

Thanks dudes.