First experience with cheating

Gynocentric · 2016-03-09T07:38:00+00:00

Ask her to smell your finger.

fnordsnord · 2016-03-09T14:58:49+00:00

Only you can decide if you are the kind of guy who grabs strange when he has the opportunity. If you are, understand that it's pretty common. Even some of the most ethical of men will accept sex when it's offered. The way they work around it is to make sure they're not in situations where it's gonna be offered.

If you have an exclusive LTR, the reason you feel guilty is because you've said you're going to do one thing, and you've done another. This says that you value your word and are uncomfortable breaking it.

I will say this: if they are both in the same social circle, it's likely going to come back around to her. Women can NOT keep their mouths shut about ANYTHING. If you DO decide to make out with or plow some strange, do it out of town.

cazzah123 · 2016-03-09T06:03:34+00:00

Just keep going like nothing happened. The way I see it is that the opportunity that just arose for you will do the same for your girlfriend, but multiple times a day.

She might be cheating, she might not, but if your not going to get caught why the hell not.

But thats me, I'm going through a very bitter stage with woman where I think I should just take what I want and forget about how it will make them feel.

TopTRP · 2016-03-09T14:22:03+00:00

I feel a sense of laden guilt - not full on guilt

It's because you know cheating is "wrong" but you also know sexual exclusivity from a man is not the most important thing in a relationship for a woman.

A woman cares much more about the status and value you add to her life than whether or not your cock is hers and hers alone.

rpvp · 2016-03-09T15:32:17+00:00

Alright well your options are to confess to your girl or not.

If you confess to your girl, it will look weak. She will subconsciously, if not consciously, wonder why the fuck you are telling her. It will make you look like a little bitch. Girl's don't want white knights of honor. They want the bad boy. Worse than that, she will basically have another reason to justify cheating on you in the future.

If you don't confess, then you'll always have a little bit of guilt in your stomach. You'll be worried she will find out down the road. Here is the thing about girls finding out you cheated on them though: They will get mad, they will pout, they will cry. It's all really one huge shit test though. Girl's don't get jealous of guys hooking up with other girls in the same way we do. Men like to feel a sense of ownership over their woman, so when they cheat, it feels like betrayal and she is no longer yours. Women will view cheating as food for their insecurity. They'll wonder what the other girl has that she doesn't. If it is public knowledge you cheated on her, she will be 10x more upset because her reputation is in danger. Honestly though, if she finds out about it down the road and the whole world doesn't know about it, then she will throw a fit and forgive you pretty quickly. Women want to cage the free bird and she will see it as a challenge. She will also see it as proof of your pre selection and that you have other options.

Zealous_One · 2016-03-09T20:25:13+00:00

Well at least you experienced it, if it tastes too bitter for you, you'll know you better not do it in the future. If you know you can handle it, I'd say keep up.

oldredder · 2016-03-10T06:28:54+00:00

You did do something wrong so of course you should feel bad about it.

It's not cheating if the girls know you're not committed, just sex for fun. So that's the way to be.

Title	First experience with cheating
Author	rpvp
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Comments	10
Date	March 9, 2016 5:47 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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