Flaking

Metalgear222 · 2016-11-28T14:35:10+00:00

Flaking once or twice can actually build interest. But I wouldn't say do it continuously or the iron might grow cold. Also, if a girl flakes on you, never initiate contact with her first. Wait as long as you need to for her to reach out to reschedule.

awayofthought · 2016-11-28T19:20:00+00:00

I like some of the comments on this but I never flake. If you don't want to be flaked on, do not flake on others.

If you need to flake, text her and let her know.

chooseaburner · 2016-11-28T19:54:02+00:00

I wouldn't flake, even with a plate. If I say I'm going to show up, I'm showing up.

If you feel like flaking will draw out whether or not she's into you, you got much more base line problems going on here. If you feel like your commitments with Sally Saturday and Selena Sunday are making you sacrifice too much of your own time you need to stop making those plans with Sally and Selena.

And yeah, if it's the platiest of plates I'd have to ask why you're even doing anything with her if you think nothing of flaking on her. Bad fruit gets cut from the tree.

aurelius_shrugs · 2016-11-28T20:37:50+00:00

Who cares how it makes you look. I double and triple book because women are flakey assholes. They have options. I have options.

Be the man with options.

Igaunija · 2016-11-28T14:34:33+00:00

An article on it, for reference http://www.returnofkings.com/72229/4-reasons-you-need-to-flake-on-women-once-in-a-while

MattyAnon · 2016-11-28T21:36:30+00:00

You should be unafraid to flake but not do it intentionally.

It's probably not worth it with a woman you don't know (more chance of pissing her off than increasing interest), but you'll have to do it sometimes if you get inundated with options.

You should occasionally cancel at short notice with a woman you see regularly. She needs some amount of emotional angst to fully trigger her attraction.

Title	Flaking
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Upvotes	6
Comments	11
Date	November 28, 2016 2:08 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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