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Followup to text exchange question

FunkDaddy011

February 1, 2017

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Title	Followup to text exchange question
Author	FunkDaddy011
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	February 1, 2017 3:01 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/5rd0xl/followup_to_text_exchange_question/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/followup-to-text-exchange-question.81735 https://theredarchive.com/post/81735

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[–]Auphor_Phaksache1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

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[–]GameOfLife770 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Here's what you do (take my advice with a grain of salt, cause wtf do i really know).

She's told you straight up she's free on weekends, and likes to spend this time with people she enjoys being around (you..possibly..). You need to get her to commit to this weekend, so you better think of something you'd both enjoy doing to entice her.

If you want to solidify it, be an "alpha man", call her right now and set it up for Saturday, she must be free sometime. Most girls just laz around Saturday's anyways, and make plans for the nighty night time. Day date, or dinner date, pick your poison.

If you want to be a "beta bitch man", you text back with an action plan. Or, you take her dress shopping Thursday, and enjoy dat.

also...don't text a girl telling her you're "letting her buy you a drink on Thurs"...you're lucky she's actually interested in you, otherwise most would blow you off Mr. Cool Guy.

[–]Gucci_sauce_0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]GameOfLife770 points1 point2 points 9 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

otherwise

"You need to get her to commit to this weekend, so you better think of something you'd both enjoy doing to entice her."

I said this because he does need her to commit, for his own peace of mind. I mean he's on a reddit forum asking how to ask a girl out. He's framed it like he doesn't know if she's really interested in him or not. But the truth is, he wants to know how to get her one-on-one.

Let's take the time to break his conversation down to English.

Guy: "I decided to open this girl because what the hell" English: "I like this girl so I re-approached through text"

M:Firing anyone this week ? (Inside joke from previous convos) H: Not yet! Still having problems from the last one! What are you up to? ... any world travelling this week? (Another inside joke )

Guy: "I want to show her we have chemistry. I will attempt to make her smile." Her: "You made me smile. I'm interested in you." Also her when she asks about your week via inside joke: "I hope he's busy this week world travelling" Right here she is telling you she's busy this week, you're just too slow to pick up what she's laying down.

M: going to the moon this week M: nah, no world travelling. Just a little here and there and then letting you buy me a drink on thur Guy: "I'll try for another funny" "Damn that sucked, let me back peddle, and try and close at the same time". I cringed a little, but you will learn with time and experience.

Bonus Suggestion: "no world travel. going to show a friend the moon this week, pack your bags. we leave Thursday :)"

H: well that is so sweet of you! Buuuut Thur is the only night I have time to shop for my dress to event M: Ok Her: "Ok, I pick up what you're alluding to, but Thursday doesn't work for me" Guy: "I think it's alpha to tell a girl "ok", and not go after what I really want"

H: Weekends work better for me while I'm in school Her: "This idiot, I gotta break it down for him". And this is why you were grey zoned, because now she feels like she's leading. All because you think "ok" is some "alpha" reply, and you are worried about fucking shit up wit dis bitch.

Pro tip: I've never used OK in my fucking life, unless it's to confirm a fucking plan. Like seriously, grow a set, go after the things you want in life.

Honestly, I picture you working for me, and I say "this is how we're going to handle this, we will do X, X and then X, got it?" and you say "ok". And I walk away thinking "this fucking idiot doesn't get it, he has no confidence, who the fuck only says 'ok'? ".

I mean, I just told him I wasn't free Thursday, I showed him I'm interested by cracking jokes back at him. I even asked him what he's up to to show I'm interested, why the fuck did he just type "ok".

Her: Maybe he doesn't care about me. Maybe he's not confident in how I feel about him. Riddle me this, why the fuck would you want her thinking like this? It's idiots that say "don't ask her out twice, or suggest a new plan more than once etc" that will never get it. She's either interested, or she's not.

The winning response is to value her effort, and continue to make her have positive thoughts.

I told my most recent ex I loved her, the first night I met her. Like at least 5-6 times that night. We got tipsy at a private event, and both her friends were interested in taking me home that night too. I remember her one friend literally pulling me aside and straight up said "pick one of us, you're pissing us off, just pick one and stick with her". I pretended to pick her, but deep down she knew she wasn't who I truly wanted.

The one I wanted, followed me out, she knew. I let it be known, without ever saying a word. I was going to drive us home, she took my keys and ran away along a canal heading towards the city. I loved her for doing this, I have bad habits. We grabbed a cab to my spot, and went straight to the bedroom. I was just moving in, so condoms were packed in my closet. I was too lazy to look, even though she begged. We didn't fuck that night. I don't think she'd ever experienced a guy saying yes, but not right now. The control ate her alive. So bad she woke me up early in the morning, asked which closet they were in then went digging. You know she wasn't returning empty handed.

I continued the "i love you" joke for the rest of our relationship, and will probably keep it going forever. Maybe one day I'll mean it, who knows with this one. It's the polar opposite of your "ok" logic, and the whole "be the prize".

Whoever reads this, please don't take this story as something you can pull off, because you can't. You don't have my confidence, looks or charisma. This was the only woman I've ever done this with; it was circumstantial.

To your point, there is no "wrong sub". I'm just a guy who believes he knows how to talk to people. There's no "red pill" "blue pill" distinct line. Quit living in fantasy land. There's no magic text that will open up a womans glory hole. There's interest, and playing off of it to benefit your interests.

You read some shit online, and think "be the prize". I'll give it to your straight, we all think we're special in our own little way. Every fucking person you see. Yes, we all believe we're a prize, no matter how socially awkward, or Justin Bieber you are. You ever walk through a crowded mall?

You look around, maybe you think "those people look cool" "look at those hotties having fun, did she just look this way?". Or maybe, "wow look at that guy, glad I'm not him". We judge, we think we're a prize. The beauty is, we all just like being valued. So start valuing people now, and quit thinking you're some prize a woman must win in order to value you. Value her, she will value you. Respect her, she will respect you. Apply this to all people - write it down.

You're in fucking fantasy land if you think a woman's sitting there hamstering the thought "damn this guy is fucking amazing, he's just the best at everything, omg he's such a prize, I don't want to lose him ever, how do i keep him". No, fuck no. We value ourselves more than others. What she thinks is, "this guy knows me, he makes me feel comfortable, safe/secure, trusted, wanted/needed, and is a good compliment to my social life (you make her laugh, get along with friends/fam)". She's first, you're last. So by true definition, you're no prize, you're just a compliment to her, and that's all you'll ever be. Accept it. Own it. And use it to your advantage.

True men know the power of opening a woman's synapse. As cliche as it sounds - connecting her brain to her heart, her heart to her soul, her soul to her body. That's a man who knows women.

So remember, only one things certain in this life, I'm a better catch than you'll ever be. I'm sure that makes you tick if you really think about it. Your chest might get puffy, eyes watery, your brain will try to rationalize with "logic" that it can't be true. But bro, it is, and that's life.

We do the best we can, with the hand we're dealt.

To be fair, I got lucky in the sense I recognized who I was when I was young. Not having a father in the pic all that much, turns you into a man real quick. I'm a "work-horse". It's my DNA to just GO. I don't stop.

That doesn't mean I work 7am - 11pm everyday, get no sleep, chase money/women/sex/toys/w.e. It simply means I consistently focus on personal development, everyday, since I was like 10.

You follow this, and things you want will come to you easily.

When you're happy with walking in your shoes, just being that guy, you will attract others. People fall in love with the feels of being valued and respected. By understanding yourself, you will know what motivates those apart of your life.

Women fucking crave being valued. Some might say "women love attention", or "that ho ova there wants so much attention". Where attention is just the feeling someone gets when they feel recognized, important, respected, almost like a prize. You want to use prize analogy? Make HER feel like the fucking prize. I mean she must dress nice, smell good, she puts on her fancy make-up, never fart near you, and prance around like she's something special. Value her.

Next time you see a woman who loves attention and shoes, let it be known, and give her some. Walk up to her and say "damn girl, dem shoes you got on are so frickin' cute, how bout I try 'em on for size". Then just don't say shit, just listen, I mean truly fucking listen to her response Her reply alone will give you enough info to segment her personality.

I hope to God the OP picked up the phone, called her (evidently this would make her the prize), and locked it down for this weekend. Or keep playing this grey zone text game you've mastered.