Hi AskTRP,

I am a hs student (junior to be spesific, 17) and have a fine social circle, but the problem is I don't have a best friend. I have a lot of "friends", a few "close" ones including a few girls but no best friends, like, whom I spend the most of my time with and he is the same.

Which comes down to, there are people who I really like as a friend but they don't see me as their best friends and so I can't spesifically point a person as my best friend. But all of these people have their own best friends, which makes me their alternative or 2nd option at best.

At this point I don't see anyone becoming like my brother, so no best friends for me I guess, only close-ish ones.

The problem is when it's break or like anything like that, they are the ones who are talking together. As I said before I'm like the alternative to them so they always talk together (my close friends and their best friends) when there's time. They come to me rarely, and probably only when their best friends aren't present etc.

I want to do my own thing, but there aren't many options.

I can read a book or play/read with phone. But at some point, it's lonely very lonely and nearly alone, really. Surely I can go and talk to them but I don't want them since it's a bit weird sometimes.

My question is;

1) How to attract people to come talk to me, instead their other friends?

2) How to spend "alone" time wisely?

I know this sounds like a very "teenager" problem and probably it is, but still please help me. That'd be great. Btw if any typos, I am not native sorry.

Thanks.