Summary:

Met Post Wall HB 9 off of Match.com, did ok with a few minor stumbles. Looking for constructive criticism to help improve frame & game.

Body:

Me: I'm a 49yo white male, realistically about a 6 or 7 looks, 5'10" and 202lbs. Not a total fatty (think short line backer type build), but a series of martial arts injuries and two serious car accidents left me laid up for a while, and at my worst I hit 254lbs about 5 years ago. I've been seriously dieting (since July) and hitting the gym 6x a week for about 2x months now. My trainer is a monster and wants me to drop another 17lbs of body fat before we move to bulking.

TRP'ing for 3 months now, never really a social beta (I'm a military firearms trainer), long time martial artist and all around scrapper. Certainly have gotten laid more than my fair share, but I was totally clueless about how women actually operate until I found TRP.

Girl: 41, from Romania, serious eastern European genes, size two, beautiful face, awesome body. Moved here in 2007, married a local dude, divorced 3 years later, so single for 5 years or so. Showed decent interest on match, got her number, and we texted a bit. Mostly about languages and martial arts. I played the Corey Wayne card of never texting her unless she texted me first. Played it mostly aloof and not overly invested. On Monday I set a date, but because of our schedules, tonight (Friday) was the only night we both had open. I had to teach Tuesday night, she had Karate Wednesday and I had a previous opera date for Thursday. I normally don't do Fri/Sat first dates. It looks like you have nothing better going on.

Date: I'm old school in that I like dinner dates because I like good independent restaurants and I get to write them off on my taxes. We didn't text much today as she was working and I was doing a series of phone interviews for a project. After hitting the gym I get a "Are we still on for 7 at Generic Indian Place?" shit test. I simply reply with "I'm a man of my word.".

She was at the restaurant at 7pm sharp, I was sitting outside and made a relaxed entry a few moments later. I do the gentlemanly thing, hold the door, take her coat. I avoided and overt compliments (Blackdragon's method) and we had dinner at the buffet because she'd never had Indian food and wanted to try a little of everything. Couple of bad points, I choose this particular place because the food is outstanding. The downside is that it was packed and very noisy, I'd never gone there on a Friday night. Bad on me.

Kino was sparse, a little hand holding to admire her manicure and jewelry. She gave a few IOIs, mostly hair flipping and laughter. I kept her talking 80% to my 20% and only really stumbled once when she brought up her ex-husband while we were talking about dogs and I flippantly made a joke that went over her head because of the language barrier but I could tell she didn't find it very funny based on her body language shift. I also slipped in my body language a bit, having to lean forward constantly to hear over the din. I think it came across as over eager.

Interesting side note, the couple at the table next door had a HB6 at my 2 o'clock with a Chad (Tall, Tatt'd, but obviously clueless). She started target glancing me as a side effect of me having an HB9, you could tell it piqued her curiousity. Pre-selection in motion. The great thing about being a coach is that you're pre-programmed to see movements all around you. So that level of observation of my date and his was interesting to watch.

After an hour, the waiter was pushing us to turn the table. She excused herself to go to the bathroom (I think the Indian food was richer than she had anticipated). While she was gone I paid the bill and when she got back, she seemed disappointed that she wasn't able to contribute. I dismissed her objections easily.

Afterwards, she wanted to see my dog (he travels with me everywhere) and so we went to my car and she petted him for a few seconds. I tried for a venue change to 'take him for a walk in the park' but she declined, stating that she had a Karate tournament tomorrow and wanted to be in bed by 10pm. I felt it was a BS excuse since it was only 8pm and she lives about 20 minutes away, so we had plenty of time. But its also 28° here tonight and she was obviously cold with only a sweater.

I walked her back to her car, we had a big full body hug (not one of those awkward online-dating side hugs), and then I hesitated for a moment and then decided for a kclose, not a full bore, tongue down the throat one, but a nice gentle kiss on the lips, which she seemed happy to give.

So, I'm getting some mixed messages from her, that I'm on her romantic ladder, but probably not very high, maybe the 50% mark or so.

Anyhow, now begins the waiting game, I'm not oneitis'ing over her, but I'm going to wait for her to contact me later, and if not, keep on keeping on, trying to develop an abundance mentality.

Lessons:

-Lesson One: No more dinner dates, and especially not on weekend nights. Too noisy

-Lesson Two: Pre-selection is a powerful tool!

-Lesson Three: Shit or get off the pot, either leave it at a warm hug (Blackdragon method) or go for the Kclose strongly (Corey Wayne method). Don't hesitate between options. This is a direct result of Hicks law and not being decisive enough.

-Lesson 4: I know, I see it all the time, people coming to me and trying to hard to show what they know. I KNOW you don't master something in one day. But part of me fell into the hubris trap of thinking I had the TRP method down, but still screwed up.

tl;dr: Had a dinner date with a HB9, did ok in some areas, screwed some others up. Learning.