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Best defense is a good offense. Choose good candidates for LTRs. Continually improve yourself. Trust but verify with gf's.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 03:36 PM
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Studies show women are able to smell genetic compatibility through pheromones. Or she's just weird...
/r/askTRP13/03/17 03:32 PM
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No best way. Just find a way to talk to them.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 03:29 PM
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About as long as it takes to choke on a cock.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 07:01 AM
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Move on.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 06:59 AM
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Have you fucked anyone else since?
/r/askTRP13/03/17 06:59 AM
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Love = Respect for women.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 06:55 AM
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Start your own company.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 06:54 AM
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Books are free at the library.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 06:50 AM
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Learn to spell.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 06:47 AM
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Mating dance.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 06:46 AM
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Why are talking slower and being high energy important?
/r/askTRP13/03/17 06:46 AM
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Put yourself in difficult situations with no option but to persevere.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 06:42 AM
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Every day is a little better than the last when you meditate. Don't worry about thinking. There's no right way to meditate.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 06:41 AM
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Every guy blows in 10 seconds the first time, so don't worry about that. I did too. Then we did it many more times after that and once I got used to it I lasted much longer. It sucks that this girl made a big deal out of that but there will be plenty of others. If you remain non-plussed about it likely she'll adopt your frame and treat it as nbd. So, next time don't make a big deal out of it. Then try for round 2...or 3... and 4.
/r/askTRP16/09/16 09:23 PM
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Social Status, dominance, and game are all more important than appearance when it comes down to it. Appearance might get you a date on tinder but it rarely closes the deal.
/r/askTRP16/09/16 09:21 PM
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I believe a lot of this is instinctive and operates on the subconscious level. That's why women can't really understand why they're attracted to certain types of guys and are terrible at actually giving advice for how to attract a woman. This is why we say, "watch what they do, not what they say."
/r/askTRP16/09/16 09:19 PM
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Mindfulness and increased exposure or "exposure therapy" are helpful tools for dealing with SA. But, if it's more pathological as in it's a legit anxiety disorder or rooted in some trauma then those tools might not be quite enough. Any idea what might be at the root of it?
/r/askTRP16/09/16 09:16 PM
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I then suggest she can stay the night and we kiss for a bit. She then hits me with this; "I bet you do this with all the girls, bringing them back here like this" No need to be so obvious about "staying the night." Just lead her to the bedroom and let it "happen." What you ran into was ASD (Anti-Slut Defense) by being too forthright with your intentions. STFU probably would have been the safest although agree and amplify or amused mastery could have worked as well. You entered her frame when you…
/r/askTRP16/09/16 09:11 PM
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Probably hard to pull off unless you're a sociopath. You probably have better luck just working on the basics. Lift, confidence, dress, etc.
/r/askTRP16/09/16 09:06 PM
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Why is it so controversial to suggest that performance disparity will also show up in competitive working fields? Because that would be the truth. And the truth goes against the feminist propaganda. It's all about power. The facts are only important insofar as they support whatever politics are taking place.
/r/TheRedPill16/09/16 08:34 PM
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All the personality disorders are scary shit. BPD, NPD and APD are all on the spectrum. And yes, it is some scary shit. Try growing up with it. ;) It's a small miracle it didn't completely destroy me.
/r/askTRP15/09/16 05:53 AM
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Borderline Personality Disorder. Well, any of the personality disorders for that matter. This article is worth a read on the absolute hell that is "lucifer's daughter." https://illimitablemen.com/2014/02/17/lucifers-daughter/ She will break you. Don't even think for a second you are strong enough to hold frame to a woman like this. Unless you yourself are a sociopath you just haven't got the skills and her manipulation has been practiced her whole life and has been honed to the level of instinct…
/r/askTRP14/09/16 01:30 PM
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Give it a few years. Many of them will be unhappily married or in a sexless relationship with their gfs and not know why. While you will be dating hotties and having the time of your life. At least among the men you'll probably be treated more with envy and disbelief.
/r/TheRedPill14/09/16 01:26 PM
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Reassurance. They just want to know that you love them and that you're not going anywhere.
/r/askTRP14/09/16 01:19 PM
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No problem. Good luck my friend.
/r/askTRP13/09/16 12:23 AM
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Well, meta in a TRP lens, although he does get into meta in a more general sense. Especially in the comments there is an interesting discussion. A good place to start for a basic understanding of meta would be the wikipedia article on metaphysics: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Metaphysics Personally I love talking about this kind of stuff, but it's a bit esoteric and not for everyone. Ping me if you have more Qs.
/r/askTRP13/09/16 12:20 AM
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48 laws is great.
/r/askTRP13/09/16 12:16 AM
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Agreed. In the larger scheme of things we're not hard-wired to live this way either. Eventually every man wants to settle down with the right woman. They are a dying breed in today's day and age. There comes a time in every Alpha's life when it's more trouble than it's worth to keep plates spinning and he's looking for more from a woman and out of life.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/16 06:12 PM
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This post on TRP main written by /u/GayLubeOil sums it up better than I can here: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4xyn9v/gaylubeoil_fills_you_with_his_esoteric_wisdom/
/r/askTRP12/09/16 06:02 PM
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The wisdom in The Matrix is that it calls into question the totality of reality not just the masculine aspect that is found here on TRP. If you're interested in a more metaphysical understanding of existence, reality, etc and for a more complete unplugging experience then The Matrix is a great way to start. If you don't really give a shit about all of that and just want to bang bitches then The Matrix might be a little more meta than is practical for you.
/r/askTRP12/09/16 05:45 PM
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In a word, stoicism.
/r/askTRP12/09/16 05:42 PM
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Other's seem to be treating this as a shit-test. It may very well be a shit-test. However, this could be a comfort test disguised as her not so subtle effort to assert some control over you. You see women who realize they have a high value man after a while need to put the hooks in for fear of losing you. They will manipulate and wear you down to make you more predictable so they can keep tabs on your whereabouts and know that no other girls are getting your valuable attention. What they don't r…
/r/askTRP12/09/16 05:36 PM
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Party girls make shitty LTRs. Full stop. Next if you know what's good for you.
/r/askTRP12/09/16 05:29 PM
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OP is better than Chad Roommate. OP bangs HB9. Who is Chad banging? His own head to the wall, that's who. OP didn't say if roomate had a harem of plates or not. Also, it's quite possible roomate is the AMOG. But I agree a lot of it is mindset.
/r/askTRP12/09/16 05:28 PM
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Also from the midwest...you should try Arkansas or Mississippi. It could be worse. Also, up here in the colder regions a fatty can provide warmth in those cold winter months so you shouldn't write them off completely; they do have some redeaming qualities! (jk)
/r/TheRedPill12/09/16 05:24 PM
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What gets me is that in the current socio-political climate merely stating the obvious that obesity is a health concern is body-shaming. You don't even need to go so far as to name call, etc. However, this trend cannot possibly sustain itself. There must be a point at which the fatties literally eat themselves to death and thus remove themselves from the reproductive pool. We just haven't reached it yet, but it's coming.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/16 05:20 PM
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You should consider posting this to TRP. I love the part about facing (literally) your fears and feeding them. There is a similar practice in Toltec Shamanism in making your fear your ally. Rather than conquering him this strikes me as making him your ally. This is the warrior's path. Couldn't have said it better myself.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/09/16 05:15 PM
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If the lesbian girls without dicks who I've seen pull straight girls right out from under a bunch of average dudes are any indication you don't even need a dick to attract and keep a woman. Woman aren't hardwired like men are and attraction for them is not entirely physical or even sexual. Have enough of the other things that give them gina tingles and your dick problems are irrelevant. For example, confidence, ability to lead, being dominant, and having social status.
/r/askTRP12/09/16 04:30 PM
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Your answer is right in front of you. You describe yourself as 'average', 'somewhat in shape', but you describe him as 'lots of interesting hobbies', 'incredible shape', and 'stoic.' In short, be more like him. You should be grateful you have a real life example to learn from. Pay attention, and try to model your behavior after his. Get in shape, work on your physical presentation, get some hobbies, and develop a stoic mindset. The stoic mindset will help you not care about him or what she does.…
/r/askTRP12/09/16 04:05 PM
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While I've known that the massage technique works wonders...but this seems like overkill. She's already agreed to come over to "netflix and chill." She know's what's up. Chances are you can just make out and transition to the bedroom if not start in the bedroom and just go straight to the deed 30 minutes into whatever romantic comedy you don't give a shit about.
/r/askTRP12/09/16 03:55 PM
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It's not rocket science. Just don't wait to long to go in for the kiss. She's coming over for 'netflix and chill.' She knows what's up.
/r/askTRP12/09/16 03:53 PM
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This isn't a viable strategy if you're trying to LTR a plate; or even keep a plate spinning for that matter. Too many failed comfort tests and any high value girl will look elsewhere eventually.
/r/askTRP12/09/16 03:50 PM
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It depends on whether you want to LTR this plate or not. While treating it as a shit-test will work in the short term, in the long term the plate will fall without some comfort. To me this reads as a comfort test.
/r/askTRP12/09/16 03:48 PM
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This post strikes me as a little bit of a humble-brag.... But, the reality is most of us are walking around with a case of Imposter Syndrome in our everyday lives whether it's career, work, skills, talent, or other. It's hard not to be overly self-critical and compare yourself to others. I come from a background in music and if you take two people one with crazy talent but who's shy and retiring and another with average skills but who is more audacious than their talent calls for, the audacious …
/r/askTRP12/09/16 03:43 PM
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Also known as the poor musician/artist's way to get laid for under $20. Out of necessity I've used this technique many times to get laid by bitches. Literally couldn't afford to wine and dine bitches so I had them over for dinner. I would instruct them on how to help me prepare the food I was making. Nothing like leading in the kitchen to judo throw the female hamster into blissful submission. Lovely post as always.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/16 03:18 PM
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I disagree. Men have let this happen and there has been a steady shift in socio-political power from patriarchal to a feminist agenda. Step one is we stop blaming our problems on feminism and start taking action to stem the tide. It's really up to us. You think the feminist elite are just going to give it back to us?
/r/askTRP04/09/16 02:49 AM
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Imagine if the roles were reversed and it was a bunch of guys talking about a female actress. All of a sudden you're a bunch of mysogynistic shitlords who are body-shaming on otherwise exceptionally talented and beautiful woman.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/16 02:45 AM
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"Sorry to hear about your cat." Acknowledge her feelings. Then change the subject. Any more than that and all of a sudden you're an emotional tampon; instant friend-zone.
/r/askTRP04/09/16 02:42 AM
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Couple times a month isn't manipulative, if it was all the time then maybe. Failed comfort tests are a surefire way to break a relationship.
/r/askTRP04/09/16 02:39 AM
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this.
/r/askTRP04/09/16 02:38 AM
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Seems good enough to me. I wouldn't be surprised if she pulls the plug soon though. Can't keep a plate spinning for ever. Always, at some point they want more and when you're unwilling to give it, they next themselves. It sounds like she's nearly there.
/r/askTRP04/09/16 02:37 AM
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Women won't have an incentive to cheat if they are in a relationship with an Alpha. I've been in several LTRs with no evidence of cheating. Regular sex, and I chose when it ended for my own reasons. You don't need to be the apex alpha you just need to be the alpha of your relationship. If your SMV is high enough, you're confident, lead, and fuck like a caveman you won't have to worry about cheating. This is a relatively low bar to achieve compared to trying to be an apex alpha. You have to remem…
/r/askTRP04/09/16 02:33 AM
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Women fill the container they're given. Stealing this. Only 10 minutes? I'm impressed. Most women I know can't get ready in 20. Way to take charge.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/16 02:15 AM
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Having none other than my own experience to go on I think after 2-3 cocks things start to steeply decline. For best results LTR a virgin but they are comparatively rare. The girls I've dated who had < 3 cocks in them seemed to fall harder and seem less damaged. Also, there's the 1,000 cock stare. Again, just my experience, but I feel like I can see this a mile away after becoming aware of it. I've even had friends who I've seen transition from young, light in their eyes, nubile kind of looking t…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/16 02:06 AM
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I think when you're the piece on the side it's like you get her naughty side in all it's glory. No reason to save face, she's already got mr. beta as her backup. This gives license to her baser desires. In one case for me the girl was using me as revenge to get back at her then fiancee who had cheated on her. Best sex I ever had. She was a bad bad girl...
/r/askTRP04/09/16 01:57 AM
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I worked a job with a group of Eastern European college kids a while back here in the US on J-1 visas. I agree the women from Eastern Europe are pretty traditional and the guys are RP as fuck. Traditional gender roles everywhere. That's where it's at. About the only time I felt like I was part of a legit brotherhood was when I was hanging out with those guys. Miss that man. It's hard to find in this day and age. RP bros or gals. I'm from the US, the dating scene is pretty fucked here. An RPW is …
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 12:58 PM
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Lol, only if she's dating a CIA operative...highly unlikely.
/r/askTRP03/09/16 12:53 PM
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Can confirm. All of my hottest lays were with 'taken' women. The real Q is are the good girls teachable? ... might could want an LTR someday. Gettin' sick of chasin' bitches 24/7
/r/askTRP03/09/16 12:52 PM
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Wow. This blew me away. Not at all what I would have expected. Your friend must have really owed you one too btw. This really puts the current dating market in perspective. The crazy part is in regular relationships you pay for it one way or another. Reading this begs the question, are you really getting your money's worth? Or if you could attach a dollar sign to your time/energy is it worth it? And to think so many hapless guys stay in sexless marriages and for what? Her telling about her wealt…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 11:31 AM
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Haven't heard the connection between bonding with their kids and postpartum depression being related to riding the CC. But I wouldn't be surprised. However, I imagine it might be a little more complicated than that. Most women tend to love their kids unconditionally. Still doesn't change the fact that some mothers especially single mothers don't have a good track record of making sound decision.s But yes the SJW's have done quite a number on spinning the "facts" to their agenda. To the point tha…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 10:43 AM
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Dated a BPD chick for a little while. Mother was NPD. Grew up abused. I think it counts. Have you? You're not wrong however. I think psychopaths are the exception to this rule.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 10:38 AM
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The higher they are the harder they fall. It's not pretty. It's too bad too because often they haven't a clue what hit them. I've seen a friend or two go through this first hand.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 07:37 AM
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Not with that attitude you won't. RPW is that way ------->. It sounds like you've been brainwashed into thinking that all the things that attract you to a man should attract men to you but it doesn't work like that at all. I can guarantee your level of education has nothing to do with whether or not men will approach you or go out with you. Additionally, I am better with children and animals than the people I am comparing myself to, I keep my place in order and I can actually cook. Wow, humble m…
/r/askTRP03/09/16 07:29 AM
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Wow, you've obviously done your homework. Like you I'm self-taught and have also suffered injuries. If you can't afford a coach my best advice would be to seek out and befriend a grizzled gym veteran who seems to have earned their stripes. Try to work out with them and soak up what knowledge advice you can.
/r/askTRP03/09/16 07:14 AM
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Generally you're post is good but I disagree with the premise that oneitis can't be gotten over. It sounds like you're still seeking external validation rather than internal validation. She was the benchmark you measured yourself by rather than ones of your own creation. But by the end of your post you realized this and I think you're on the right track. This is just a step in unplugging and we're all on different parts of the continuum. Once you realize bitches are all the same, even the drop d…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 07:10 AM
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For me the best results I've had is meeting women through people already in my network. Like finding a job or landing a client it works better if someone has warmed them up by vetting and speaking to your credentials/character. Nothing communicates pre-selection and value like a good network. This is the long-game vs. short game (i.e. cold approaching or online-dating). While it's more work up-front it pays back dividends in the long-term. That said. I think unless you're in the top 10% physical…
/r/askTRP03/09/16 06:59 AM
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Did you forget to text/call her the next day saying you enjoyed yourself? Girls will often LMR harder or say shit like this if you fail to do this. One term for it is "buyer's remorse." She'll think you're only interest in sex and this is a basic comfort test.
/r/askTRP03/09/16 06:46 AM
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Actually it's ASD. Anti-Slut Defense. u/Toddbaker6 has the right idea, it's to say she doesn't normally do that. If she "happens" to fall onto is dick miraculously a second time she has plausible deniability.
/r/askTRP03/09/16 06:44 AM
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I'm willing to bet that's when she realizes she's in love. This is true only if the chick hasn't had too many cocks in her. Otherwise in my experience they only start to feel in love once they realize they're about to lose you, if then. This could be after they've fucked you for a while and shit-tested you to the point of almost leaving. All of a sudden you're about ready to walk away and all of a sudden they profess they're love for you. This has happened to me a few times now. It's only the on…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 05:41 AM
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I tried OKc for a while and you have to realize that the women on there are getting so many messages, likes etc that they know they don't have to put in any effort to get attention. That said, why are you wasting your time having silly convos? If you're interested in fucking, cut to the chase and ask her out. You'll weed out the validation seeking hoes that are plentiful on there. It's a cesspool of women who have no intention of leaving the house to meet you but will gladly soak up the validati…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 05:36 AM
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Bitches within the close circle of friends is tricky. If it goes sideways you're reputation is at stake. While I've fucked girls in the close circle it has came back to bite me in the ass on occasion. I'm a little more cautious/discreet now about how I handle plates from the inner circle. Also, a case can be made for girls who aren't good plate prospects being helpful to have around for wing-woman and pre-selection purposes. The best wingman you can have is actually an attractive woman friend wh…
/r/askTRP03/09/16 05:30 AM
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Nice post. In terms of the Do Nots I disagree slightly with 1. While I agree texting too much comes off as needy and desperate, most of the guys that come here are in need of some serious reform. The less they say the less chance there is of them fucking up their chances. That said, I think the consensus is 2/3 of whatever she gives you you give her in return. If you overdo it you come off as beta. I'm not a big fan of texting so the logistics only most of the time works for me. But I came of ag…
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 05:20 AM
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Well, yes for sure. Crazy is on a continuum. The broken ones will ghost you as soon as you show some beta. They cant handle it. Weeds 'em out if you're vetting for LTR. Otherwise, same rules apply.
/r/TheRedPill03/09/16 05:07 AM
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Alpha-widow as defined by a woman.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 10:13 PM
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It's been said that if you want to weed out the crazy just be nice to them after you fuck 'em. The crazy will show up as soon as you show a little beta.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 10:11 PM
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This is the most realistic reason here. She's old and used up and needs a new audience. Too much bitching and moaning about feminist bullshit to realize the true power grabs being made.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/16 10:03 PM
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Never had this happen. I consider myself to have fairly decent social skills so I doubt I would put my foot in my mouth so bad that It'd warrant this kind of behavior. Don't be a asshat and you'll have nothing to fear. I suppose there's the slim chance that some crazy bitch will just lose it for no reason and do this, but in that case, any retaliation will likely get you in more trouble than it's worth. You're best bet is to de-escelate and get away from the situation.
/r/askTRP30/08/16 01:02 AM
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The only reason I would is if I suspected her of cheating. I've never really had any reason to suspect this with any of my LTRs so I haven't seen reason to. Is your LTR giving you some red flags? If not, don't worry about it. If she catches you you'll have damage control to do.
/r/askTRP30/08/16 12:58 AM
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I used to be this way so I can relate. The instinctive drive is real. I even fell for a plate once while spinning 3 other plates. All of a sudden I was pretty jealous and protective which surprised me because up until that point I didn't really care what my plates did when they weren't fucking me. One thing I've realized is you have to look to the origins of your jealousy within yourself. Ask yourself why do I feel threatened by this? Lots of things pop up like, I'm afraid the other guy is more …
/r/askTRP30/08/16 12:55 AM
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You're not responsible for her feelings. She's conflicted because her biology is telling her she shouldn't be having sex without commitment but society tells her otherwise. If not you she'll be fucking some other dude. You're not saving her from anything by making her decisions for her. What she really wants is to fuck you but not have you fucking anybody else while she gets to keep her options open and drop you for the next best thing that comes along as soon as it's convenient for her. Does th…
/r/askTRP30/08/16 12:45 AM
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Focus on self-improvement and hanging out with the guys. Realizing that the pain is temporary is helpful. Focus on being better than you were during/before the relationship.
/r/askTRP20/08/16 12:55 AM
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How did you get your dad to start living the TRP lifestyle? I grew up with the same and after my Dad threw me under the bus several times to appease my Mom I told them both to fuck off and kept my distance. My Dad seems like a lost cause, but maybe not?
/r/TheRedPill31/07/16 11:11 PM
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I can completely relate. I'm pretty sure my mother had Narcissistic Personality Disorder and was emotionally and psychologically abusive to boot. I have no great advice. I'm still struggling to right this ship.
/r/TheRedPill31/07/16 10:58 PM
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Way too much banter. You have her attention, now ask her out.
/r/askTRP31/07/16 06:43 AM
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If divorce is on the table consult a lawyer. Don't give your wife any more reason to divorce rape you than necessary. Right now you seem to be thinking with your dick. You need to use your head. There's the very real possibility you could come out of this losing your shirt or worse. Any woman who will cheat on their boyfriend or is with a guy that is married is not LTR material. You mistress is plate material at best. Don't marry her. That's a terrible idea. While not great, if your current posi…
/r/askTRP29/07/16 01:59 AM
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Reading "The Power of Habit" is a good place to start. Focus on one or two cornerstone habits to start with. My recommendation is lifting. The rest tend to fall into place like dominos once you've ingrained a few cornerstone habits. 90 days is how long it takes to develop a new habit. If you're consistent for 90 days you've successfully created a new habit.
/r/askTRP29/07/16 01:50 AM
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Start by taking care of yourself. You need to know through and through that when SHTF you can at least rely on yourself. This takes time. Work on developing habits and skills that prove this to yourself. Everyone else is just icing on the cake if they find themselves in your life at any particular moment. While nice to have, you won't feel so desperately in need. My first gut reaction is to say, meditate. Mindfulness is the only way to really let go. Start with just a few minutes a day if it's h…
/r/askTRP29/07/16 01:46 AM
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Unless your intentionally giving the wrong impression to get laid, you're doing nothing wrong. That's just residual programming. You're de-programming. It's normal. Nothing to worry about. Carry on.
/r/askTRP29/07/16 01:38 AM
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Is this a recent development? It sounds like you've let your SMV drop and she's not feeling it as much anymore. Withdraw affection and work on yourself. Read up on Dread game from the sidebar.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 11:19 PM
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Get your shit straightened out. Minimal texting with the plate while you do. Give her a few days off to miss you.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 11:15 PM
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Nice work.
/r/ThankTRP28/07/16 11:13 PM
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I'm confused...your asking for a friend? If they already had plans and she just changed them like that, then yes, he shouldn't put up with that.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 11:10 PM
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Practice. Work on posture, project from the diaphragm. Remind yourself to breath. Record yourself talking.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 11:08 PM
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Still stings, but I forget about it much quicker. The more you approach the less you care. Took me a year or two, but I wasn't consistent. YMMV
/r/askTRP28/07/16 11:07 PM
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Lol. Shit post. Very few women are self-aware enough to know that.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 11:05 PM
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Her place? Your car? A secluded place in the woods? I've fucked in the woods by the lake before on a first date. Where there's a will there's a way. Or you know...just go home rub one out, and plan better for date # 2.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 11:03 PM
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Do you want to go dancing?
/r/askTRP28/07/16 11:01 PM
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Forget about this girl. Go no contact for a while. She's no good for your self-esteem at this point. Focus on improving yourself. No girl is worth losing your shit over. It will be tough, but man up and soldier on. Focus on your studies and a hobby or two. Work towards putting yourself in a good position for your future by preparing yourself mind and body. Women at the age you're at are a black hole time/energy wise. You can do better later and it will only get easier as you get older if you wor…
/r/askTRP28/07/16 11:00 PM
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You care way too much what other people think to be Alphatm. We all have our inner alpha just waiting to be released. Few of us have the drive, balls, gumption to realize our full potential. You're not special in this regard. I think you have a little bit of special snowflake syndrome going on here. To make all the pussy's in the room desire your cock you have to be the man of the hour. Charisma, status, and social proof through the roof is the only way. Think rock-star, actor, celebrity. Your r…
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:54 PM
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Stop paying for dates. 50/50. In a sense, you were quickly becoming beta-bux, but you broke contact, and so it would seem that's not true anymore. All women want to be sluts. If you don't fuck her, likely someone else will. Just be prepared to break her heart after you do. Virgin's catch the feels like nobody else. Can you handle that? If in doubt, better to leave her alone.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:49 PM
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Fuck her brains out.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:46 PM
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Focus on yourself first. Most nice guys are too stuck and don't want help, they are black holes for your time/energy. When you reach non-niceguy nirvana, you can come back and help those in need if you so choose.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:44 PM
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If you're not orbiting, it's fine. Best wing-men I've ever had were women. I think a healthy balance is best. Don't expect women to care about your problems or support you when you're down and out though. That's what bros are for.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:42 PM
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Fat is lost in the kitchen. Your first step there should be to start tracking your food intake and research fat loss. Intermittent fasting, Slow Carb Diet, or the guys over at /r/fitness might have something to say about it. Which friends? Guy friends, girl friends? Friends whose opinions you trust, or beta boys who are just jealous?
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:40 PM
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FIRST RULE OF FRIENDSHIP IS: DO NOT SHARE DEEP PERSONAL PROBLEMS I disagree. This is what good guy friends are for. With women, mostly yes, keep your deeper issues to yourself, they are incapable of offering support or caring. But your brothers in arms are the guys you open up to. Nobody likes a wet blanket but even us guys need comradery.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:35 PM
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It depends on context, for example were her hands full already? However, you're probably right, it sounds like she's testing you. How about "I don't date 'princesses,' just so you know." or "I don't do high-maintenance." or amused mastery with "maybe I should just take the purse away if you can't carry it yourself?"
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:30 PM
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You've developed a reputation as a fuck-boy. This isn't necessarily a bad thing but you're going to get shit-tested harder and encounter more LMR. The only solution I've found is persistence and having abundance. Abundance allows you to IDGAF which releases the pressure on this particular one and takes away the one card they're holding, i.e. sex. Persistence because now women who know your reputation are going to make you wait so that they can feel like "I'm not a slut for sleeping with this guy…
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:26 PM
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Develop a personal mission. Have something in your life that you care about more than getting laid. Improvement, confidence, all that will be difficult to find if you don't have an over-arching value system to guide your decisions and actions. When you figure out what this is for you, make it priority #1. Rejection will seem less significant in comparison to your life goals.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:22 PM
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My personal advice is if you don't lift already to start lifting. I believe this is the cornerstone habit that will allow everything else to fall into place like dominos. This has been my experience at least. I resisted lifting for quite a while after finding TRP. I should have done it first. Those months were a waste of time. Give it at least 3 months of regular gym going. The difference is night and day.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:16 PM
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There were no plans to mangle. You handled it fine. If you want to see her, ask her direct when she's free.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:14 PM
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It sounds like you LTR'd a party girl. Those types of girls make poor LTR material. Keep fishing. Plenty of fish out there.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:10 PM
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Not all calories are equal is the consensus from what I've read. You should do your own research however. I'm no expert. /r/fitness might have better advice.
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:07 PM
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A woman crying is my kryptonite. However, I've learned when to react and how to react, for the most part. If the crying is strictly manipulative like a child throwing a tantrum to get what they want, withdraw affection. If you reward such behavior it will set an untenable precedent for you. Withdraw affection. Leave if you have to. Sometimes it's not about you. Don't try to solve their problem for them. That's not what they want. Say as little as possible. Comfort physically until it subsides. B…
/r/askTRP28/07/16 10:01 PM
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You can only save yourself.
/r/askTRP24/07/16 10:47 PM
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Only you can really decide what your goals should be. Not really a lot of hand-holding to be had around here. That said, I believe you always learn a lot more from failure. Action trumps planning/preparedness. By all means approach, and continue to improve in other areas as well.
/r/askTRP24/07/16 10:46 PM
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I wrote this one a while back... https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/344392/am_i_a_beta_faggot_an_asktrp_faq/
/r/askTRP24/07/16 10:30 PM
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Lol, no problem.
/r/askTRP24/07/16 02:40 AM
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I might have to give it a try sometime. Good to know.
/r/askTRP24/07/16 02:40 AM
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I'm not an expert on fitness, but most of what I read speaks to less is more. My personal experience has born this out as well. In my younger days I was chronically over-trained and sometimes injured. Beyond a certain point training more will hurt your gains not help them. If you're strictly trying to bulk, check out The Four Hour Body by Tim Ferriss, in particular the chapter "From Geek to Freak." I was able to put on 10 pounds of muscle maintaining around 10-12% bf on the protocol in 6 weeks, …
/r/askTRP23/07/16 11:31 PM
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Depends. Some people are freaks of nature and can recover on 2 or even 3 a day workouts. But, that's not most of us. Do you track your workouts? Do you have a workout plan/strategy that you follow? What are your goals? Track your workouts and you'll start noticing patterns in your progress. Over-training can lead to plateaus and burnout. In my experience and the older I get, progress is made in recovery not by working out. Less is usually more in this case. A lot of people think they need to wor…
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:37 PM
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Change yourself. Go ask /r/redpillwomen.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:33 PM
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Lifting enhances pretty much every area of my life. Go lift and find out for yourself.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:31 PM
1

Attention whores. Better at girl game. Take your pick.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:30 PM
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Q.E.D.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:27 PM
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AWALT. It's not in any woman's best interest to be honest about their n-count. That's just not how they're wired. Base your decision on her "real" n-count. If it's high, she's not LTR material.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:25 PM
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Stop reading TRP. Apply willful ignorance. Don't learn from your mistakes. Become an unrealistic optimist. When you see something that doesn't agree with your reality do everything you can do ignore, stuff it, and/or make it disappear. Don't hang around people who challenge your assumptions, only hang around with people who prop up your own convictions, or who are otherwise "yes men." Live under a rock. Learn to stick your head in the sand. Become a hermit.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:23 PM
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It's ironic to me you needed all of this to answer this question.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:18 PM
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The answer is in the question. By speaking less and saying more.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:18 PM
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You learn a hell of a lot more from failure than you do from not trying. Yes absolutely it's worth the risk of coming off as all-of-the-above in order to gain experience. This applies to just about any skill and other arena's such as business, learning to play an instrument, martial arts, the engineering design process, etc. The only way to fuck it up is to not reflect on failure and not change your approach. I've had women tell me that was the worst attempt at pick-up they've every experienced.…
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:11 PM
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What are your so-called issues? While there is some value to monk mode and getting your shit together before dating, it's also a form of procrastination or rationalization to escape rejection. Learn not to fear rejection by confronting that which you most fear. Get rejected a lot. It's the only way to desensitize yourself. Shamelessly hit on girls until it's no longer as scary as it seems right now. Also, it's not as long and uphill a battle as it would first seem. I think you've defeated yourse…
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:07 PM
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Women are the weaker sex physically and thus have to resort to other means to stay out of harms way. This includes emotional and psychological intelligence and manipulation. Men can rely on brawn. This is the way of most of the animal kingdom. The only way to decode is to ignore most of what they say and instead watch what they do. Read body language. If you take what they say too literally you get lost in the smoke-screen.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 09:03 PM
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RSDtyler spent 10+ years mastering game and did little else with his life. There's no real shortcuts here unless you want to put in the time learning game, but you'll still come up short once you realize after the honeymoon phase of the relationship it takes more than that for things to last. PUA style game is the short game and doesn't lead to long-term fulfillment. You'll tire of spinning plates eventually. The long game is building a network and developing a reputation in the types of social …
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:58 PM
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Willpower is a finite quantity. Stack the game in your favor with strategy and tactics. The Slow Carb Diet is simple and effective. No calorie counting or "dieting." Just a more effective menu leveraging science and behavior change. I have 5+ years of experience with this. It works. Once you've mastered this, you can upgrade to harder levels.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:53 PM
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Lol, well now you know that shit doesn't work long-term. Lesson learned the hard way.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:47 PM
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I disagree. My favorite lube is coconut oil. But to each there own. Regardless, apply the lube liberally and go slow.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:43 PM
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You're still angry. I know I am sometimes. You're resentful. It'll only get in the way of your goals. It's a game. Accept that this is the world we live in. The feminists have won the verbal debate before it's already begun. Solution: don't enter the verbal debate. You will lose every-time in one way or another. Let your actions speak for themselves. Feminists like all women will be attracted to the man of action regardless of his beliefs. Don't fight on their turf. Ignore the debate as ultimate…
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:41 PM
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Girl game is strong with this one. You probably come off as a player or someone who is overly confident/cocky. Sprinkle in a little comfort once in a while to unlock the pearly gates of poon. Also, push/pull. Withdraw affection when she resists. Escalate when she initiates closeness. Rinse/repeat.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:35 PM
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Getting lean: Stronglifts 5x5 and the Slow Carb Diet. Simple and effective. Getting mean: an abusive mother, and lots of hard knocks. Or how I grew up and learned the subtle art of not giving a fuck.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:30 PM
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In my experience the opposite happens. What they do, not what they say...and all that. You're actually in a good place. They're all thinking about having sex with you. All you need to provide is plausible deniability and establish a reputation of not talking about the girls you sleep with to other girls. For girls reputation is everything.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:28 PM
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Where there's smoke, there's usually fire. My question is, why aren't you invited? Is she going out of her way to not have you along when she hangs out on this guys boat? Seems fishy (pun intended).
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:22 PM
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Escaped BPD and Narcissistic Mother. Like you I was wrecked after the BPD girl. Fell hopelessly in love. She was an absolute fox in the bedroom. Mindblowing. Transcendental. The relationship ultimately reminded me too much of my abusive childhood and I reached a point where I knew I had to get out in order to save myself. I'm only a year and half out from that relationship. I haven't met anybody that comes close to what I felt with her. But, I'm sure there are more amazing experiences and people…
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:13 PM
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I happen to really like prostate stimulation. It's not what you do, but how you do it that establishes whether or not you have a dominant frame. I've played around with this with a few partners (no pegging, however...that to me seems too much like being dominated.) and there was no question I was still the alpha. If a girl is submissive to you she will want to please you. If that includes prostate stimulation so be it.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 08:03 PM
1

Fish-oil and vitamin D. Shown to increase the production of testosterone, especially alongside butter from grass-fed cows.
/r/askTRP01/07/16 02:21 AM
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Taming_of_the_Shrew
/r/askTRP01/07/16 02:18 AM
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I have a set of core values. Those are the things that are non-negotiable. The things that are left over when you subtract everything else. Purpose however is overrated. You don't find it, it finds you. Think about what's non-negotiable for you. Use that as a lens to set goals. Work on yourself and your goals. Your purpose will take care of itself.
/r/askTRP09/06/16 03:12 AM
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Doing your part to thwart thermodynamics I see!
/r/askTRP09/06/16 03:07 AM
1

How's your sleep? You sound burned out and sometimes over-training can zap motivation. A week isn't going to make or break your gains in the gym.
/r/askTRP07/06/16 11:49 PM
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Thanks.
/r/askTRP02/06/16 02:40 PM
1

Wherever You Go There You Are - Jon Kabat-Zinn Radical Acceptance - Tara Brach Haven't read any Sam Harris but I dig the talks he's given.
/r/askTRP29/05/16 10:24 PM
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Doing trumps planning, methodology or prep in just about everything. This holds true for business, learning new skills, and gaming women. You learn far more if you get out and try something than if you just sit at home preparing and planning. Before you know it that could end up being your whole life. Carpe Diem. Don't "think," "DO!"
/r/TheRedPill22/05/16 06:34 PM
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I think you're right, I probably could have been better at passing comfort tests. Thanks for the feedback.
/r/askTRP14/05/16 06:32 AM
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"Models" by Mark Manson, and "The Rules of The Game" by Neil Strauss
/r/askTRP09/05/16 03:36 AM
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"The Rules of The Game" (also by Strauss) has a good progression for getting comfortable with cold approaches. I also really like "Models" by Mark Manson. Start by saying "hi" to strangers, and work up to cold approaching women in mixed sets from there.
/r/askTRP08/05/16 07:07 PM
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Set goals first, read books after if necessary. Right now you're shooting from the hip. Give us more information about where you want to be and we can be more helpful.
/r/askTRP08/05/16 02:00 PM
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Great summary of this book. I have to continually remind myself of this stuff and let go of my pride. Influencing others is not about getting to say what you think or feel but about listening to others.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/16 01:54 PM
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Easier to get into the flow in all walks of life. Generally calmer and more focused. Meditate everyday for at least 10 minutes, right after my morning piss.
/r/askTRP07/05/16 03:16 AM
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"You have no excuses." True. You have to play the hand you're dealt. Nobody has it all.
/r/TheRedPill01/05/16 06:03 PM
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I'm not disgusted. Just find it difficult to collaborate.
/r/askTRP25/04/16 03:17 AM
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Yes, this seems to work socially. Work-wise requires more.
/r/askTRP25/04/16 03:17 AM
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Not mad. Find it difficult to work together. Never get a straight answer; resentment on their end; can't receive criticism, etc.
/r/askTRP25/04/16 03:15 AM
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The best book I've read on the subject is "The Four Hour Work Week" by Tim Ferriss.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 06:41 PM
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No I mean lifting. I used to be an endurance athlete too. Any good endurance program will also incorporate strength training.
/r/askTRP14/04/16 11:49 PM
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I would say more to the point women are attracted to dominance. You don't need looks, money or status if you're dominant. Although likely those things will come your way in time.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 04:11 AM
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If you don't lift you won't get it. Lifting really is the cornerstone to developing the TRP mindset.
/r/askTRP12/04/16 04:08 AM
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The method the FBI trains its agents to use to build quick rapport (not that different from gaming women...): http://www.bakadesuyo.com/2014/10/how-to-get-people-to-like-you/ I've used meetup.com to great success in the entrepreneurship realm but I imagine it could be fruitful in building a network of friends. Maybe try going to some meetups.
/r/askTRP04/04/16 08:17 PM
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There's no right way to do monk mode. In all things action trumps planning. If you must plan, plan just enough to know your immediate next step, then take action. I'm not saying having a plan isn't important but quite often we let it forestall taking any action. The TRP mindset is really about taking control of your own life. I'm sure there will be lots of good advice here but what's most important is you make a choice, any choice, it doesn't have to be right or perfect, and then start moving in…
/r/askTRP04/04/16 04:44 PM
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Existential narcissism. The only way I've found out of that one is to stop giving a fuck and just start choosing to do and get what you want out of life. Happiness is an illusion and ephemeral. You will be happy from time to time but only in contrast to other feelings. Being in "Flow-state" is a little more too the point and that can be optimized for (hacked). You can choose to not exist (i.e. suicide), I don't give a fuck. Or you can choose to have some kind of impact while you're here. It's re…
/r/askTRP30/03/16 04:54 PM
1

Fuck tinder. Delete it from your phone and game IRL. Problem solved.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 04:38 PM
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This means she's flirting with guys or at the very least choosing not to disuade them when them when they hit on her and buy her drinks. Honestly she sounds like kind of a party girl...not LTR material. Assuming your SMV is high enough you can tell her she needs to quit this behavior or show her the door. Otherwise, demote or next. This chick doesn't sound like she's worth it long-term and this is unacceptable behavior in a LTR in my opinion.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 04:36 PM
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I've tried polyphasic. It was difficult for me to fit in my afternoon nap after lunch at the workplace. That said, the only way to stay awake was to try to stay busy. Probably the most productive two weeks of my life. If you work from home or have the luxury of setting your own hours it can be a great tool. Have you checked out stevepavlina.com he writes about his experience doing it as a long-term experiment. Steve said it didn't interfere with his workout routine, but studies show sleep is an …
/r/askTRP30/03/16 04:31 PM
1

What kind of help do you need? Web-developer here. I might be interested in helping with the site if you need something coded/designed.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/16 04:26 PM
1

Thanks for posting this. The timing is perfect for me actually as I finally decided to take the plunge and start researching a market for some kind of product I can sell online with the goal to get something launched in the next week or two. This jives with a lot of already read about selling.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/16 04:20 PM
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Every day. Sometimes twice a day. Sit with my back straight on a pillow for 15-20 minutes.
/r/askTRP30/03/16 03:11 AM
1

No problem. Best of luck.
/r/askTRP26/03/16 05:36 PM
1

Whatever strikes your fancy.
/r/askTRP26/03/16 05:35 PM
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Replace that habit with something else. Every time the clock does this, drop down and do 20 push-ups.
/r/askTRP26/03/16 04:23 PM
1

As others have touched on the area that seems like needs the most improvement is "game." Forget about online dating, if you can't pull in person out in the wild then you don't understand yet how it works. As far as meeting an RPW girl who's LTR material I think the same rules that apply to business apply here. Network. How's your social life?
/r/askTRP26/03/16 04:16 PM
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I was raised by a narcissistic mother and I'm not sure you can really have a 'relationship' with someone with full blown NPD. Everything is completely one-sided and all about them. I guess it depends on how bad she is. If she's anything like mine she was abusive. If that's the case then you don't owe her anything and you're better off going Low or No-contact. Set firm boundaries. If she doesn't respect them, be prepared to walk away.
/r/askTRP26/03/16 03:03 PM
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Fuck tinder. Delete that shit. Be a man and go out into the real world and hit on women just like your every other man before shitty dating apps.
/r/askTRP26/03/16 06:40 AM
0

Do you even lift bro?
/r/askTRP26/03/16 06:37 AM
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How many times per week are you lifting? I'd be surprised if you're really plateauing after only 4 weeks. You really shouldn't need to add any other lifts initially to see a lot of improvement for a beginner. Read this guide: http://rippedbody.jp/the-big-3-routine/
/r/askTRP26/03/16 06:37 AM
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Men no longer know how to be men. Hence why we're here on TRP.
/r/askTRP26/03/16 06:25 AM
3

Read "The $100 Startup" and "The Four Hour Work Week" Plenty of ideas and strategies for starting a business with a few hundred bucks.
/r/askTRP26/03/16 06:21 AM
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My hunch is that if your lifts are stalled and you're not gaining weight that you aren't eating enough. Also cardio + 5xweek in the gym might be interfering with your recovery. You might need to reduce frequency to allow your body to recover between workouts. Also if you're doing some kind of linear progression i.e. 5x5 each week that you've reached a plateau for that progression and that you need to try a different routine to keep making progress. For me this site has been really helpful: http:…
/r/askTRP26/03/16 06:14 AM
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Check out "The Power of Habit" You have to replace the habit with something else that fills the { trigger -> behavior -> reward } loop by figuring out what triggers you and what reward you're getting. Other's say use willpower, but studies show just replacing the "behavior" is a much more effective strategy because both the "trigger" and "reward" are already pretty hardwired into your brain. Use what little willpower you have to merely insert a new behavior into the system.
/r/askTRP25/03/16 08:14 PM
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It's a scam. You can only do well by shitting on those below you. If you're near the bottom you're out of luck. Ultimately it is based on faulty economic principles. Put all of that hard work into starting a real business. Even if you fail, you might learn something.
/r/askTRP25/03/16 08:09 PM
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You failed a comfort test by treating it like a shit-test. She was just testing to make sure that you really "cared" about her. Whether or not your fucking other women isn't as important as her being able to feel like you're able to "be there for her." Honestly she sounds a little too unstable to be plate material. Crying all night? You might have dodged a bullet with this one. However, if you want to see how far you can take this then you just have to give her "hope that there's a chance." She …
/r/askTRP25/03/16 08:00 PM
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"Sweetheart, I don't do high maintenance." With a girl like that it's even more important to set firm boundaries and stand your ground or else she will eat you for lunch. It sounds like she's got a lot of practice manipulating men. Don't tolerate her being upset anymore. When she's upset and takes it out on you withdraw your attention and affection. Only reward good behavior from now on. If she's being a whiny brat then treat her like one. She can only respect you if you do this and women love m…
/r/askTRP25/03/16 07:48 PM
1

There's a fine line between teasing and mocking. Teasing in a good-natured way establishes dominance without harm. If you're already confident in who you are you shouldn't need to mock others to get your rocks off. I'd take a hard look at why you enjoy doing this. Is it because you enjoy putting others down so that you can feel superior? If so, this is just another disguise for insecurity. The confident man can tout the strengths of others while feeling secure in who they are. That said, there a…
/r/askTRP25/03/16 07:42 PM
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Are you tracking your lifts and your nutrition? What about sleep? Are you stressed all the time? Is there a particular lifting plan you're following or are you just making it up as you go along? There could be any number of reasons why you've plateaued but without any data or more specifics it's near impossible to say. What are your fitness goals? Sub 15% bodyfat or getting stronger? For experienced lifters it's difficult to continue to progress in lifts during a cut. Cutting before bulking is g…
/r/askTRP25/03/16 07:05 PM
2

All girls want the Alpha to be exclusive to them. What they won't tell you is they'll settle for being one of many in the harem of an Alpha rather than be exclusive with some loser beta. Be careful not to give them any unreasonable expectations or set precedents you can't maintain. Don't make them feel like a slut or out them publicly. Don't feel like you have to respond to every communication, or give them their every desire. Do what pleases you.
/r/askTRP25/03/16 06:58 PM
1

Definitely LMR. Push/Pull to overcome.
/r/askTRP25/03/16 06:54 PM
2

Focus on improving yourself and achieving your goals long-term. Only time will help heal the feeling of loss but if you can prove to yourself that you can be better without that person in your life it will help.
/r/askTRP23/03/16 11:32 PM
1

"The First 20 Hours: How to Learn Anything Fast"
/r/askTRP23/03/16 11:30 PM
1

No. Given your awareness about TRP if you strive to embody the principles of a TRP life there's no reason why you shouldn't surpass the level of sexual prowess of all the beta chumps still left out there.
/r/askTRP20/03/16 02:39 PM
0

All it takes is 2-3 mins to talk up the barista at the local coffee shop...
/r/askTRP20/03/16 02:36 PM
2

Welcome to the "real world."
/r/ThankTRP20/03/16 02:32 PM
3

First rule of fight club....
/r/askTRP18/03/16 06:15 PM
1

Morning Routine: Bulletproof Coffee & Reading Meditate Leave the house Whatever else I have going on that day...work, workout, etc. Eating: Slow-Carb Diet: 2-3 meals within an 8 hour window "Cheat-day" 1x per week Workout: Stronglifts 5x5 2-3x per week HIIT 1x per week
/r/askTRP17/03/16 06:22 PM
2

A-fuckin-men brother!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/16 11:18 PM
1

I've always seemed to get more attention from women when I've been pretty trim. You don't necessarily need to have huge muscles if you appear trim and in-shape. This could also correlate to the fact that I also felt more confident and alive because I was maintaining an active lifestyle. There's a reason why lifting is so important. Physiologically it's the easiest way to stimulate fat loss, increase testosterone, and improve your physique in the shortest amount of time.
/r/askTRP16/03/16 08:39 PM
2

Nice FR. It's true a lot of guys give up too soon. Even if you don't close the chances of you learning a lot more are great if you persist until an obvious rejection. Also, if you're still on the path to Alpha it's going to be a bit more work to lay. Not everyone can be Brad Pitt right away.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/16 08:35 PM
2

No problem. Stay frosty.
/r/ThankTRP16/03/16 08:28 PM
1

Ditch tinder and all online dating. Tinder is like doing all of your lifting at the gym half-assed on the machines (I'm probably being generous....) when you should be lifting heavy in the free-weight section. Tinder is for pussies who don't know how to get laid any other way. If you want to understand how to get women in the real world you have to interact with them in the real world, just like If you want functional strength you have to move around heavy shit without any mechanical assistance.…
/r/askTRP11/03/16 05:19 PM
1

Who are you?
/r/askTRP11/03/16 01:36 AM
1

Confidence and status will always trump looks. If I were you my priorities would be getting in shape and moving out of the rents. Nothing screams "I can't take care of myself, therefore I definitely can't protect/provide for you" like living at the rents.
/r/askTRP11/03/16 01:21 AM
5

Was this a shit test? Yes What is a good reply to this? You did fine. You passed.
/r/askTRP11/03/16 01:13 AM
3

Women are all the same. Lifting really is the cornerstone of not only looking the part but developing the mindset. Stoicism.
/r/askTRP11/03/16 01:09 AM
2

How many times are you going to ask the same question?
/r/askTRP11/03/16 01:05 AM
4

A&A. Maintain frame. Good posture, look them in the eye, speak in a commanding voice. If you let it show that they've gotten to you then you've lost frame and they've won. If they're teasing you, tease them back. If it's completely a lost cause, make your exit.
/r/askTRP11/03/16 01:04 AM
1

No. All the same rules apply. If you're Alpha she'll get the tingles. Doesn't matter how many dudes she's fucking.
/r/askTRP11/03/16 01:00 AM
2

Lift. Meditate. The stages of the pill are like the stages of grief. You're in the anger phase sounds like.
/r/askTRP11/03/16 12:58 AM
2

Feminists. Impossible to reason with...wait all women are impossible to reason with. I'm a man therefore I'm evil and responsible for whatever privilege is bestowed upon me because I have a dick. Give me a break.
/r/askTRP11/03/16 12:56 AM
2

If they are small things similar to shit tests then over-reacting will only do more to undermine your credibility. Swat them away like you would an annoying fly. They deserve no more of your attention. If however you believe there is actual dirt on you that could be used to undermine your position you have more work to do.
/r/askTRP10/03/16 02:43 AM
1

What's your goal here? Do you just want to passive aggressive behavior to stop or do you want more than that? If you really don't give a fuck then it's probably not worth the effort. The passive aggressive behavior is typical since it's their only defense usually. However if you want more than that you can eventually win their respect and loyalty but you have to ingratiate yourself with them. That's a bit more work. "The 48 Laws of Power" might be a good place to start. You have to befriend them…
/r/askTRP05/03/16 06:57 PM
1

Reframe the situation. You feel depressed because you feel powerless. Instead use the rejection as feedback and realize that if you are proactive every rejection is a learning experience that is one step closer to being successful.
/r/askTRP05/03/16 06:29 PM
1

"The Power of Habit" explains not only the mechanism behind this but how to do exactly what you're asking.
/r/askTRP05/03/16 06:23 PM
10

Absolutely loved this book. Pure gold for anyone seeking mastery in something. Nice synopsis.
/r/TheRedPill04/03/16 03:28 PM
1

Hey thanks, I'll take a look.
/r/TheRedPill04/03/16 03:18 PM
2

Suicidal thoughts are nothing to take lightly. I've coped with depression on and off for years myself so I can relate. If you're suicidal this article was one thing that really helped me pull myself out of the despair I was feeling: http://fourhourworkweek.com/2015/05/06/how-to-commit-suicide/ If you're having suicidal thoughts consider calling the hotline in the article above. In addition to that, this book (a short read) was to date the most helpful thing I've tried: "The Depression Cure." The…
/r/askTRP03/03/16 07:41 PM
92

Practical, pragmatic advice is all too infrequent here on TRP. Thanks for the helpful post. I've read about techniques like this before. Where did you get this from? Is there a book or article that this comes from?
/r/TheRedPill03/03/16 07:35 PM
1

Former bartender here. My first job was as a barback/wait-assist. My best advice is once you learn the ropes is to learn to anticipate the needs of the bartenders. Your goal is they don't have to ask you to do anything (although sometimes that's impossible).
/r/askTRP03/03/16 05:37 PM
3

The reality is there will always be others who from the outside appear to have things you don't or have done things you didn't have a chance to. However, you don't know what that person gave up to get where they are and all that that person has went through. The best you can do is to run your own race, against yourself. I can relate to how you felt but the only solution is to learn from your mistakes and take concrete steps towards your goals. Comparing yourself to others is always a losing batt…
/r/askTRP03/03/16 05:22 PM
2

Just remember every rejection is one step closer to success.
/r/askTRP02/03/16 08:04 PM
1

Currently working as a self-taught developer. Studied music in college but dropped out once I realized a degree was going to saddle me with debt and not offer much in terms of financial compensation. Since then have held various jobs, worked for myself both as a contractor and musician. If you can hustle, network, and learn how to sell yourself (gumption and work eithic are the only pre-reqs here) you can definitely make it. But this path is definitely not for the faint of heart. School is defin…
/r/askTRP02/03/16 02:08 AM
1

"The Four Hour Workweek"
/r/askTRP01/03/16 07:15 PM
1

Try giving the "The Depression Cure" a read. I've suffered from depression on and off for years. This has worked pretty well for me so far although it's too early to tell definitively.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 07:14 PM
4

You have your work cut out for you if you LTR the extremely religious type. Work on having other options and you won't be so concerned about whether or not this one texts you back. You're overreacting here. As others have said, calm down, and give it a few days.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 07:09 PM
9

Stuck my dick in crazy and it did not end well. Realized she treated me exactly how my Mom did growing up. Got depressed, found TRP shortly thereafter.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 04:21 PM
0

It's possible she's a high functioning sociopath. Either that or she grew up in a household that supported her being this way. You're only recourse if you want to continue dating this girl (but why would you?) is to have a rock-solid frame. Tease her mercilessly to lower her self-esteem around you. Take charge as much as possible, when she does something you don't like, pull away immediately and withdraw attention. Go dark triad and wear her out so that she lacks the energy to stand up to you. D…
/r/askTRP01/03/16 02:14 AM
1

Google NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP) and/or read "The 48 Laws of Power."
/r/askTRP01/03/16 02:07 AM
1

Give "The Red Queen" a read.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 02:06 AM
1

Perfectly normal. You haven't given her a chance to "miss" you. Let her text you first or if a week roles by ping her to gauge level of interest.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 02:03 AM
1

Asking for permission to grab a condom is akin to asking permission to fuck her. You're almost always going to get shot down. If you must speak, say what you're doing "I'm going to grab a condom" and proceed as if you already have the go-ahead. Leave it up to her to put the brakes on if she's not ready.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 02:01 AM
1

If it works, why not? Personally I'd be more likely to try to game them and see if I can become part of the group. Or daygame some girls only to use them as a vehicle for entry to clubs.
/r/askTRP01/03/16 01:57 AM
1

Getting your macros right as far as your nutrition goes will minimize losses. Novices can do both put on muscle and lose fat, but gains are reduced on a caloric deficit. There's no getting around that. That said it's best to go for a cut before a bulk since it's easier to keep the fat off once you've reset your metabolism. My favorite guide is based on intermittent fasting: http://rippedbody.jp/leangains-intermittent-fasting-guide-how-to-do-it-by-yourself/
/r/askTRP29/02/16 07:31 PM
1

You're stuck because you don't feel like you have any other prospects. Stop interacting with this girl except for occasionally. She's plate material at best. Work on yourself and getting your life back on track. That should be your number one focus right now. You'll feel a lot better once you do and your game will improve.
/r/askTRP29/02/16 07:27 PM
1

It's my belief that unless you understand and can game in real-life any type of dating app won't learn you the ropes. If you haven't successfully gamed in real life, drop the apps for a while and focus on that. That said, I really liked this guide: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2noh59/gatsbys_tinder_game/
/r/askTRP29/02/16 07:15 PM
-1

Respectfully disagree. Unless they were dating and if he blew his chance like it sounds like he did, then it was open season. This sounds like beta rationalization to me.
/r/askTRP29/02/16 07:11 PM
1

No sharing. Way too messy. Most of my bros don't really support the "plating" lifestyle anyways...
/r/askTRP29/02/16 07:08 PM
1

In what context?
/r/askTRP29/02/16 07:04 PM
1

This mostly applies to when people in your life make requests of you. I think coming out of being a "Nice Guy" it's important to recalibrate after being a people pleaser for so long. This was just my way of doing it. Based partially on this blog post if your interested: https://sivers.org/hellyeah After recalibrating you can be a little less black and white about it.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 11:02 PM
7

My number one takeaway was learning to say "No" to everything that wasn't a "Hell Yes!" Before that I had been saying "yes" to way to much and would always find myself in over my head. Much stress and burn-out ensued not to mention weak beta fallout.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 10:47 PM
1

I agree with others, the feeling is common and a result of natural instinctive drives. From personal experience I'd say limit "dates" to 1xwk to manage expectations and not fall into the trap of being "too available" unless you decide you want an LTR with this girl...YMMV. Realize the feelings are temporary and learning to counteract them with self-discipline is a good quality to exercise.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 10:43 PM
1

Have a compelling reason. If she balks at coming to yours but is still receptive do something out, escalate and transition to your place. Personally I like to have them over for dinner or to show something I'm working on.
/r/askTRP28/02/16 12:54 AM
1

If your buying the drinks on the first date, don't, or at least trade rounds. I agree with /u/thiasus, it sounds like you're deflating sexual tension somehow. It also sounds like the canceling documentary night is your basic ASD (anti-slut defense). The fact that she suggests an alternative is good sign that she's still interested but documentary night is too similar to the "netflix and chill" euphemism and you're not giving her plausible deniability. Also, to my ears, documentary night sounds l…
/r/askTRP27/02/16 06:58 PM
1

Most if not all women want to be dominated physically so this isn't out of the ordinary. Unfortunately, rape victims make poor LTR material. Been there, several times over. Plate at best. You can't save her.
/r/askTRP27/02/16 06:38 PM
3

pay attention to what she does, not what she says' Exactly. This is good, you're the asshole that she wants to fuck not the creepy asshole who was hitting on her at the gym. Also, yes, best not shit where you eat unless your job doesn't matter to you.
/r/askTRP27/02/16 06:33 PM
0

"Sorry was daddy mean to you? How about we go out for an ice-cream, would that make you feel better?"
/r/askTRP27/02/16 06:30 PM
2

For those who don't know or haven't experienced it yet NPD/BPD is no joke. I grew up with an NPD Mother and it fucked me up pretty good. Glad you got out and that you're back on track. Lessons learned I guess. Fuck what this johnnight douche says. BPD/NPD can tear down any except the most stalwart confidence man. I will say though your bullet points miss I think the one crucial takeaway here which is "don't stick your dick in crazy." I don't care how confident or alpha you think you are women li…
/r/ThankTRP27/02/16 06:21 PM
1

So? What's that got to do with you?
/r/askTRP26/02/16 08:22 PM
1

Your seeing red lights when you should be seeing yellow. Proceed with caution. AWALT, branch-swinging, and all that. Chances are many of the women your talking about are available to Chad.
/r/askTRP26/02/16 08:18 PM
1

Agreed. Especially for the novice doing 5x5s of the Big-3 (deadlift, squat, bench) 3x week is simple and effective. Here's an article on the same for further reading if anyone is curious: http://rippedbody.jp/the-big-3-routine/ There's a reason why these are the 3 main lifts in powerlifting and the litmus test for strength.
/r/TheRedPill26/02/16 08:15 PM
2

Work smarter not harder. Read "How to Become a Straight A Student". Also, this post is a good read if you want a taste of what's possible if you go for broke: http://www.stevepavlina.com/articles/do-it-now.htm
/r/askTRP26/02/16 06:36 PM
1

You'd be surprised what you can accomplish if you stop paying lip-service to whatever you feel is getting in the way. Most often those things are just road blocks you're giving yourself to legitimize whatever fears you have about getting into things. Kino escalation is about push pull but since most guys don't escalate nearly enough the short answer is you should probably always go for the kiss and sooner rather than later. Paradoxically you're more likely to kiss-close in the middle of the date…
/r/askTRP26/02/16 06:29 PM
1

It's fine. Just dole out a little bit of reassurance. "I only have eyes for you baby" and then just let the handy dose of passive dread work it's magic.
/r/askTRP26/02/16 06:16 PM
3

Anti-Slut Defense
/r/askTRP25/02/16 11:21 PM
6

That's just ASD. We're human, everyone wants to have sex unless you're a potato.
/r/askTRP25/02/16 11:20 PM
1

Decide what you want to do then lead things in that direction.
/r/askTRP25/02/16 11:17 PM
1

Thanks for this. I recently learned that my Mother fits the criteria for someone with NPD. It's helpful to at least become more educated on the subject. I hadn't considered that beating them at their own game maybe the only way to "deal" with them.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/16 11:16 PM
1

There will always be people better than you at something. We each have to run our own race and we run it against ourselves. You could focus on one thing and try to be the best but you will have a very narrow focus. Also, deciding what is acceptable to be proficient in vs. reaching mastery is often a helpful distinction to make. Do you really want to reach top 1% mastery in something or is top 5% acceptable? Often it's far easier (and a better use of time/energy) to focus on becoming 'world-class…
/r/askTRP25/02/16 09:38 PM
2

Sex isn't all it's cracked up to be once you've gotten it out of your system. I think the fallacy is to expect that it will be fulfilling like it was in your adolescent teenage fantasies. If you let it women will just get in the way of what is really important to you. You're experiencing the kind of post goal/achievement let-down that is common in lots of arenas. It wasn't how you imagined it would be. What you're learning is the wisdom that it's never quite how you imagined it would be once you…
/r/askTRP25/02/16 01:50 AM
1

Women are attracted to charisma and power more than height/size or any physical attributes. I say this as an average 5' 7" man. As a point of reference Tom Cruise is shorter than me and do you think he has any trouble slaying pussy? Granted, he's got the looks, I'll give him that. Your problem isn't your height or the size of your dick. The above mentioned charisma and power are things that can be learned/gained. The only thing holding you back is your attitude.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:43 PM
2

One thing I'm noticing is most if not all of your goals are external in that you want what gives the outward appearance of success or power if you will. This type of motivation will only get you so far. The kind of motivation that can drive a man past all reasonable fatigue or hardship is intrinsic. It sounds like you've tried and succeeded at working towards what society tells you is success and you've found that it's hallow. Congratulations, most people never get there in one lifetime and you'…
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:39 PM
1

Zen isn't anything in particular. It's whatever you make it and nothing at all. In terms of a TRP frame of reference Zen is true outcome independence and IDGAF if you will. Personally I love Alan Watt's "The Way of Zen." It's a good primer if you're interested in it.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:28 PM
1

Over eager, came on too strong. Or...she was one of those attention/validation tinder-sluts. Also, always meet in out somewhere. What if she was a crazy bitch? Any respectable guy will vet girls before bangin' them. Don't go for meeting at yours/theirs right away it comes off as desperate or worse.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:23 PM
1

Burn out and probably over-training. Go easy on the training for a couple weeks and take at least one full day off a week. See how you feel.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:20 PM
1

"Why...are you interested? Because if you are, maybe we can set something up..."
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:17 PM
1

No escorts here. Never willing to pay for sex myself. But nothing against those who do.
/r/askTRP24/02/16 09:14 PM
1

I'm quiet and introverted too. Others make good points without higher smv no matter which way you slice it you're going to have trouble. That said it is possible in my experience to be the mysterious type. I'm probably what would be described as a sigma. I no doubt could be alpha if that was my bag but it's just not worth the effort for me most of the time. I have other priorities in my life. I would say what it boils down to is how you carry yourself. Be a man who carries himself with confidenc…
/r/askTRP21/02/16 06:54 PM
5

That's usually a soft "no." The litmus test is how would she react if Brad Pitt was asking? Probably rearrange her schedule so she could fall on his cock at the earliest opportunity. The other possibility is this is a frame test of sorts. If you hold frame it may turn her around, but this is rare in my experience. I think the only way to respond to this is probably something short without being butt hurt about it. "K" or "cool" or even no response. Always give less than she gives you. Remember, …
/r/askTRP21/02/16 06:44 PM
1

Personally I give 3 strikes, but it seems according to trp that's being generous. However, I can recount plenty of times where I succeeded after strike 1. The important thing I think is to set limits so that you're not a pushover. Many girls are flaky. Sometimes giving them multiple swings at bat works in your favor.
/r/askTRP21/02/16 06:39 PM
40

Party girls don't make good LTRs. Demote or next. (The brevity is appreciated)
/r/askTRP21/02/16 05:49 PM
2

Nice to see some actual science here for a change. Thanks for the post.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/16 05:48 PM
1

Not true at all. Looks are only a small piece of the puzzle. Charisma (aka social skills) are way more important when getting girls. Lasik maybe if you can afford it but I wouldn't go so far as to do cosmetic surgery. You're still looking for external validation with that and doubtful it will solve your problem. Women will see right through it.
/r/askTRP09/02/16 06:31 PM
2

I just sit and focus on my breath. I probably do some type of zazen or mindfulness type meditation. Everyone has a hyperactive mind...don't try so hard to rid your mind of thoughts, just let them pass through.
/r/askTRP09/02/16 06:28 PM
1

It's not about the phone number or texting. You make or break the interaction on the in-person interaction. The number is like putting a "book-mark" in things. You're probably right, you might seem over-invested or come on too strong initially. Usually you can tell if you're on the right track if she offers to give you her number. That said, a fair amount are going to flake. It's partially a numbers game.
/r/askTRP09/02/16 06:24 PM
0

"You can lead a horse to water but you can't make 'em drink."
/r/askTRP09/02/16 06:20 PM
2

Everything changed for me after I read "The Rules of The Game" and "Models: How to Attract Women Through Honesty." Attraction is a skill that can be broken down and worked on in concrete steps just like setting career goals or fitness goals. For some guys, just applying TRPs main tenets such as lift, career, etc isn't enough. If I had to take a stab at it your social skills need work. It's the same as anything else. Analyze, plan, execute, review, repeat.
/r/askTRP09/02/16 06:19 PM
2

For what it's worth I just read "The Bulletproof Diet." It's in the same vein as paleo, etc. From a nutritional standpoint I'd give it a read. I'm kind of blown away myself by it. https://www.bulletproofexec.com/
/r/askTRP09/02/16 06:09 PM
2

Right on man. Glad to hear TRP was the wake-up call you needed. Stay frosty.
/r/ThankTRP09/02/16 06:06 PM
1

I'm going to go with natural instinct. To this day, tears are my kryptonite and I've become one jaded bastard over the years. She sounds nuts. I think you dodged a bullet getting out when you did. Live and learn.
/r/askTRP09/02/16 05:12 PM
2

If you're thinking there's some magical hollywood "one" out there for you to lose your virginity to, let me remind you that...AWALT.
/r/askTRP07/02/16 01:44 PM
1

Can't force the issue. Did you get her number at least? If so, call her up and pick it up where you left off.
/r/askTRP07/02/16 01:39 PM
2

AWALT.
/r/askTRP07/02/16 01:37 PM
1

Basically she doesn't respect you as much as this guru. Personally I'd nope the fuck out of this one but if you choose to try to salvage your only chance of success is to somehow regain her respect while convincing her this cult worship shit ain't right.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/02/16 01:26 PM
2

I've been there. I refuse to believe that depression is a "chronic-illness" as posited by mainstream medicine. Read "The Depression Cure" for a sane analysis of where this really stems from and how to combat it with simple effective protocols.
/r/askTRP07/02/16 01:17 PM
5

Even my sister shit-tests me...is she real or imaginary?
/r/askTRP05/02/16 04:39 AM
1

"It's not you it's me...I'm not ready for a serious long-term thing." Have unbreakable plans after so you have an excuse to leave once you make sure she has a friend or family member she can call and so you don't do break up sex (just no...worst idea ever)
/r/askTRP05/02/16 04:31 AM
2

I'm pretty simple. Bike rides, concerts, walks, drinks or coffee. The magic is in the interaction.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 11:07 PM
2

I think you already know what is best for you. You're just looking to us to validate whatever decision you've already made. You won't find any of that here. Do whatever the fuck you want. Whatever anybody else thinks be damned.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 11:04 PM
1

This is just another side of deep-seated insecurity. Alpha's are naturally magnanimous and rather than try to steal the limelight make those around them look and feel good about themselves while earning their respect. This in turn makes you look better without having to show-off or brag. You need to slow down. You are going to wear yourself out. Rather than look for external validation decide what you want for your own reasons and don't let anybody touch it with a ten foot pole. What is importan…
/r/askTRP04/02/16 11:01 PM
1

What is your natural tendency? Anything not authentic will just come off as try-hard or worse.
/r/askTRP04/02/16 10:54 PM
2

No need to raise your voice to convey anger, disappointment, disapproval, etc. In fact never lose control of your emotions, or they will rule you. Always be in control of your emotions. Convey emotions in any way that works for you but never lose control. If you're having trouble with confrontation start small and practice saying "no." Unless it's a "hell yes," it's a "no." Don't offer explenations and don't say "sorry." Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" for more helpful advice.
/r/askTRP07/01/16 06:18 PM
1

One make out session doesn't equal relationship. If you don't want to text her and meeting up with her is a too much of a comittment then just call her. She's either regretting the decision or playing the comittment card and wondering where you are at with the "relationship." Tell her you like her but you want to see where things go. She needs to prove she's relationship material.
/r/askTRP07/01/16 06:13 PM
1

That you can solve problems in the bedroom by talking them to death.
/r/askTRP27/11/15 07:55 PM
1

No problem. If you feel like delving deeper: "The Power of Habit" and "The Four Hour Body." Good luck.
/r/askTRP27/11/15 06:18 AM
2

The way I see it is it's more about trust. If you can't trust your guy friends to not go behind your back, they aren't your friends. Had a guy friend do this to me. We're no longer friends. I imagine I'm better for it. Only bad news and drama wherever he goes.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 06:33 PM
2

I'm not that thirsty because my dick is getting wet on the regular. You need to spin some more plates. It doesn't matter how you spin this, if you fuck your friend's girl that makes you a shitty friend. Gents: this is how a beta thinks. They think that sex is worth losing a guy friend over because they're so desperate to get laid.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 06:27 PM
1

I agree with others. You made the right move and she was testing you for commitment. If you're interested in seeing where this goes you can re-engage and talk. She'll most likely be receptive from her reaction. Don't give away your whole hand by offering commitment.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 05:53 PM
1

Nice user name. No logic. Just mindless triggering of reward pathways in the brain.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 05:39 PM
2

2 steps forward 1 step back. Progress isn't linear. Same for all of us. Double down on resolve and come back winning.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/15 05:38 PM
1

Realize that most women want whatever you want.
/r/askTRP26/11/15 05:28 PM
1

Prevent any deterrents through planning and by dealing with them in advance. Tired after work...go in the am, etc. Focus on building the habits and routines that allow for success. Start by putting on your gym clothes. Realize it takes 3 mo. of consistency to create a new complex habit like working out. Hire a trainer if you can afford it. Try to find a workout buddy. Sign up a for a race or competitive event to create a real life goal to work towards not just some amorphous idea of "getting in …
/r/askTRP26/11/15 05:27 PM
2

Love this. Simple and useful. We all know AWALT and Blue Pill, etc...yet another example gives little of value. This post however is more of what we need here.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/15 05:21 PM
1

She's a plate at best. Too much of a partier to be worth the trouble.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 05:12 PM
11

Open your eyes. Sex is happening everywhere between unmarried people. Even in cultures like yours. It's just that nobody talks about it. You're going to have to work harder to over come a girl's defenses but I guarantee you that AWALT. Isolate and escalate.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 05:11 PM
1

"The Four Hour Body"
/r/askTRP24/11/15 05:01 PM
1

It is a shit-test. If you answer then you fall into her frame. Often on a first date girls will say to me, "Tell me something about yourself." I usually pressure flip with something like "Well, what do you want to know?...if you want to get to know me you're going to have to be more specific..."
/r/askTRP24/11/15 05:00 PM
2

Don't commit. If she sticks around great. If not, plenty of other fish.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 04:57 PM
4

Yes. Fuck other girls on the side.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 04:54 PM
1

A-fuckin'-men.
/r/askTRP24/11/15 04:52 PM
1

First realize that underneath everything there is nothing...
/r/askTRP22/11/15 02:48 AM
1

Exactly.
/r/askTRP22/11/15 02:46 AM
1

I think this is your answer. You're getting numbers but not able to convert. Break down what you're doing that's working and try to work on the areas that are not working. Every rejection is one step closer to success. Keep approaching.
/r/askTRP22/11/15 02:45 AM
1

That's all there is.
/r/askTRP22/11/15 02:42 AM
1

tl;dr AWALT
/r/askTRP22/11/15 02:35 AM
1

Watch what she does not what she says. Shields are up but kino/escalation could get you the pussy. A girl telling you she can't fuck you is a sure sign she's thinking about it.
/r/askTRP21/11/15 12:24 AM
6

Don't react. She's seeking attention and you're giving her exactly what she wants. Stop playing into her hand. Does she clean up after herself and pay her bills on-time? If not, either leave or kick her out.
/r/askTRP21/11/15 12:02 AM
27

How many red flags do you need?
/r/askTRP20/11/15 11:57 PM
1

Sit.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 05:45 PM
1

"The Rules of The Game" by Neil Strauss. Great for nailing down how to approach and attract. Use TRP for developing your inner-game.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 05:45 PM
1

Have known a few who like to be slapped around in the bedroom...
/r/askTRP20/11/15 05:42 PM
1

I was in a similar situation pre-TRP. Pretty sure I was fulfilling the role of emotional bf without the sex. Quite possibly she's doing something akin to mate guarding you in some fashion so she won't lose her token male friend. I had to distance myself from that person because I was trying to get with women and she was ruining my mojo. I'd recommend the same for you. Either that or you have to gain the upper hand in the relationship and be the more dominant party.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 05:36 PM
1

Read up on business. Get out there and meet entrepreneurs in the field you're interested in. Flesh out an idea and start giving people your 'elevator pitch' at (meetups)[meetup.com] etc. Work at a startup or for a startup as a contractor. Business is all about people skills. Once you have an idea find out who you need to make that happen and then convince them there would be nothing better in the world than to work with you.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 05:33 PM
2

About the only thing you can do is not try to change him and be more submissive. Despite his beta behavior act like he's in charge. Tell him he's sexy. Be coy and feminine. Build up his confidence and work on your appearance and charm.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 05:28 PM
3

Nice to see an open minded woman posting a relevant FR on here. Yes, AWALT. Sometimes it has to be right in front of our face before we finally believe it.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/15 05:23 PM
1

Way to go on holding frame...but, why is this girl your gf? I'll next a plate for giving me less shit than this. Plenty of girls out there who don't do what you describe.
/r/TheRedPill20/11/15 05:17 PM
2

Usually love it.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 05:09 PM
1

Work on yourself. Insert yourself back into the dating pool when you're ready.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 05:08 PM
2

Red flag.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 05:05 PM
2

I hear a lot about your fears of losing this person if you don't get married. The only reason to get married should be for all that you might gain from it. It sounds like you don't have abundance mentality and understand that if she wasn't there, there are literally millions of other women out there who are available. From what you say it sounds like you have everything you could want in a relationship already. If it's not broke, why fix it? It sounds like you're very comfortable in your current…
/r/askTRP17/11/15 07:21 PM
1

Lose your ego.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 08:05 AM
1

Assume she's still available and proceed. Unless he's a friend then she's off limits.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 07:45 AM
1

It sounds like she's you're only plate and you quite obviously don't have an abundance mentality. Whatever you do don't LTR this girl. She doesn't at all sound like LTR material. Only heart-ache and self-loathing lie in that direction. Work on spinning more plates.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 07:06 AM
3

After all of the positive signals you were getting I'm honestly surprised she rejected the kiss-close. One thing I've picked up is that it's actually easier to kiss close mid-date. For some reason it's less likely to run into any kind of LMR. One of my favorite moves is to suggest a walk after drinks/coffee. Hand holding, lots of kino and then find a secluded park bench somewhere scenic and boom make-out. If she won't take your hand or elbow and let you lead that's a pretty good sign she's not g…
/r/askTRP13/11/15 06:44 AM
1

"The Depression Cure" and a good therapist.
/r/askTRP09/11/15 09:54 PM
2

Sorry for not following up sooner. Stop apologizing. Erase the word "sorry" from your vocabulary for a while and after that only use when it is really called for. "It is one thing to talk of bulls, it is another to be in the bullring." - Spanish proverb Good proverb. Sounds like no. 3 and 4 are your sticking points. Working on cold approaches and finding a mentor will work wonders. As a musician and sometimes music teacher I know exactly what you're talking about. I've also experienced first han…
/r/askTRP09/11/15 09:31 PM
1

Yeah pretty dick move. What would you do if a plate stood you up and didn't let you know?
/r/askTRP07/11/15 08:04 PM
2

This is a good FR. It's easier to offer advice when the information is specific with examples. I think you have the techniques of the game down or at least the knowledge, that much is obvious. Physically if you're not already in the top 10-20% it sounds like you're on your way. Your text game sounds solid. In person interaction is pretty complicated and difficult to read the dynamic just from a description. My hunch though is that you didn't trip all her switches. You might not have been dominan…
/r/askTRP07/11/15 07:54 PM
1

Not my cup of tea but hey if you're getting girls into bed to have sex with you on the regular who am I to judge? Couple things I've heard is that regular porn use can lead to fetishes or tendencies you wouldn't naturally have. If you use porn quitting that may turn things around. Also, I hear a lot about Sex God Method but haven't read it myself.
/r/askTRP07/11/15 07:36 PM
0

Paleo is based on a large body of scientific study. What makes you say that it makes no sense at all?
/r/askTRP07/11/15 07:32 PM
1

Two different kinds of muscle growth happen. I'm fuzzy on the specifics but from what I've read and understand (someone correct me if I'm wrong...) there are two types of muscular gain, myofribrillar (lean muscle mass) and sarcoplasmic (increased glycogen storage). My understanding is that carbs tends to promote the second type of muscular gain. I don't know enough to give you more specific advice than that. If I were you I would research what the body physique experts recommend. Paleo is a good…
/r/askTRP07/11/15 07:29 PM
1

Act like you care. Only those who play the game can win. Read the 48 Laws of Power.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 05:11 PM
1

Ice queens are used to getting hit on all the time. Something about your approach isn't working. Write up a more specific asktrp FR style and we'll see if we can help. It's never their fault, always something about your approach you can improve. But yes, I've been rejected hard lots of times but not by any type of woman in particular. Hard rejections are how you earn your stripes.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 05:08 PM
2

Befriend people who have a lot of friends. Befriend a dj and or invite musicians and their instruments. Learn to bartend. Best party ever was New Years Eve. I had a dj. Made creative drinks all night using what people brought with mixers I bought or made myself (former bartender). Lots of ice. It was epic. Read the 48 Laws of Power if you need help figuring out how this is done.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 05:02 PM
0

Always leave them better than you found them. Do this and you have no regrets.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 04:57 PM
1

I am a jerk.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 04:56 PM
1

Sexual harassment allegation with a co-worker is no joke. This is a case where it's better to just smooth over ruffled feathers. Apologize, admit fault, and say it was a poor attempt at sarcastic wit or something. Then move on and don't bring it up again. Putting the moves on co-workers is playing with fire.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 04:54 PM
3

You raised her ASD. Of course she is going to say something about not being a slut. If she's not willing to pay bus fair to come see you then she's not that interested. Probably soft-next this one...sounds like your chances of banging this chick are low.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 04:47 PM
3

More than likely you should have manned up and carried the bag. Pussy pass maybe...this isn't a shit test in my book.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 04:42 PM
1

Totally makes sense. It's amazing when you actually hand a woman the reins how perplexed and ill at ease they are with them. Equality is a joke.
/r/TheRedPill26/10/15 04:07 PM
1

Met a girl at the coffee shop last week. I don't have time to go out to bars/clubs to meet women these days. Easier in my opinion than the night scene.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 04:01 PM
1

If you're targeted in your approach you should be able to see results in 6 mo. or less if starting from a beginner. But like the game Othello says on the box "a minute to learn a lifetime to master."
/r/askTRP26/10/15 03:55 PM
1

Why are you meeting at your place the first date? Bitches be crazy. At least meet somewhere nearby then transition.
/r/askTRP23/10/15 06:50 PM
1

In at least one case, you're sticking your dick in crazy. Taking pills after the first date because you won't offer commitment is seriously nuts. You need to vet your plates better or take precautions and be prepared to deal with fallout if you insist on getting your dick wet. My other theory is that you're somehow giving them false expectations. Hard to say for sure without being there myself, but I'd take a hard look at what expectations you might be communicating.
/r/askTRP23/10/15 06:48 PM
1

"Wherever You Go There You Are" by Jon Kabat-Zinn
/r/askTRP23/10/15 06:43 PM
1

Flirt first. The number is an afterthought.
/r/askTRP23/10/15 06:26 PM
0

Kettlebells. 15 minutes two times a week. One of the most high intensity strength workouts there is according to studies.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 04:25 PM
1

This. Abundance mentality. Don't waste time on mediocre sex unless that's all you have. Work on other leads.
/r/askTRP17/10/15 06:21 PM
1

You don't need fancy explanations. Went no alcohol for a whole year myself and regularly do smaller alcohol fasts to cleanse and reset. Just say "I'm not drinking right now." No more explanation needed. What's more important is that you're confident in the choice you made and about why you are doing it. I used to go to parties/bars/whathaveyou all the time when I wasn't drinking and really nobody gives a shit. It's not a big deal.
/r/askTRP17/10/15 06:15 PM
1

Just text her to set up another date. Don't worry about keeping the flame alive. Either she's into you or she's not. Nothing you can do texting wise will change that at this point.
/r/askTRP17/10/15 06:11 PM
1

Not married myself but follow this sub because it's not full of younger angry guys. It sounds like you're doing everything by the book. It's possible you let your emotions get the better of you but also you made your intentions clear and from what you wrote it sounds like you didn't act butthurt about it. You just stated what you wanted and what was acceptable to you and what wasn't. While I think generally most deadbedrooms are due to something else, there is the rare individual who is asexual …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/15 06:09 PM
3

Also, not married, but 100% agree. This is bad sign IMO. Even in LTRs I've been in if I was disappointed or mad and layed some dread like that guaranteed she would have trouble sleeping and be apologetic.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/15 06:03 PM
2

Not necessarily a shit test IMO...you're smv probably just isn't high enough for her to think about branch swinging or she's the rare girl that's already dating an Alpha. Your game needs work, but keep at it and you'll get there. Glad you found TRP rather than depression and pills.
/r/ThankTRP15/10/15 01:08 PM
1

Everything in a man's life is work. Work hard on improving yourself and slaying pussy will become easier as women just lay down before you. I've been there though...you have to go on shitty dates, waste time, and put in effort to get sex. Learning to lead things efficiently and effortlessly to the bedrooms is the art you have to practice to get good at it. Having time to work on your self-improvement and hobbies is a trade-off between having time for sex and not having it. Granted, sex shouldn't…
/r/askTRP13/10/15 01:31 PM
1

Moving out is step no. 1. Your anger is more than likely at you're feeling powerless in the situation and you're directing it at your Dad. I'm sure he's a beta and it's annoying but there are a shit-ton of betas running around. Hell, these are most of my friends. Lead, be self-assured, take care of yourself and what one beta does won't feel like it has any effect on you.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 01:23 PM
1

"Don't worry, I won't let anything happen to you."
/r/askTRP13/10/15 01:20 PM
1

You didn't make your intentions clear enough from the get-go. She had already put you in the 'friend zone' before you exchanged numbers.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 01:18 PM
0

Watch closely. Females have their own way of communicating and every female in the room knows what they're all saying without even a word needing to be spoken. Most definitely if a girl is giving you IOIs the other women in the room notice.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 01:15 PM
0

No idea. Personally I think RSD Tyler is probably a sociopath and I think he has managed to perfect the techniques involved in picking up women. PUA was part of my process in discovering TRP and I think it is a well trodden path. But, PUA is all technique and to achieve something of real substance eventually you have to let that go or you will get stuck in a sex-fueled, meaningless, validation seeking loop of debauchery and self-loathing.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 01:12 PM
1

This is the only way to do it.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 01:00 PM
0

So. Many. Paragraphs... But, it just happens to be mostly fluff.
/r/TheRedPill11/10/15 06:43 PM
2

Fuck. I just lost a lot of the respect I had for Neil Strauss...
/r/TheRedPill11/10/15 06:42 PM
1

Just ask her out. "Are you free tue or wed night for drinks/coffee/ping-pong?"
/r/askTRP10/10/15 06:50 PM
4

Nice FR and way to go breaking the dry spell. It's amazing how "I can't have sex with you" and "You're an asshole" are the two things that mean you most certainly are getting laid. I used to try not to seem like an asshole now I know that it's just code for something else...
/r/TheRedPill10/10/15 06:46 PM
-7

Also, the girls never look like they do in porn...
/r/askTRP10/10/15 06:18 PM
3

Got rid of my smartphone and plan. Disabled facebook. Disabled dating sites. Removed time wasters from my bookmarks bar. Go at least one day a week without screens of any kind. Obviously have yet to block reddit...
/r/askTRP10/10/15 04:11 AM
1

I've gotten that question a few times. Most plates want what all women want, the alpha who only has eyes for them. The reality is though that although they might not be happy with the situation they'd rather date/fuck the alpha with a harem than be with a loser beta. If you're spinning plates you're going to get shit-tested more and should be prepared. What you said is perfectly fine. If anything it communicates high value and will likely make her feel like she has to work for you. This is actua…
/r/askTRP09/10/15 07:52 PM
1

So basically you're free mon-tue next week? If it were me I would probably text her one of those nights (but not before!) "are you free later?" or something like that, if she declines without offering an alternative, soft next. She's probably lost interest or is fucking somebody else.
/r/askTRP09/10/15 07:40 PM
9

A girl wouldn't bat an eye at having several guys that were interested in them come to the same party, why should you care? I once had multiple women I was dating come to my birthday party...talk about an smv boost. Women will compete for your attention if they perceive you are valued by other women. This can only work in your favor. Play your cards right and...menage a trois...
/r/askTRP09/10/15 07:33 PM
1

What do you want to do?
/r/askTRP09/10/15 06:57 PM
1

Be a leader among men. At least in my part of the world most men and women are dyed in the wool feminists...learn to get along and trickle RP truths in plain-speak. You'll be surprised how many people understand intuitively what you're saying and agree with you. Being afraid to mingle with people who don't see things the way you do is lending too much credibility to their frame. Find some RP friends to hang with too.
/r/askTRP09/10/15 06:55 PM
1

Usually I set-up a day or day/time and then text the day of to set a location. Easy enough to ping her the day of with something like: "Let's meet at 'such and such', see you at 7p..."
/r/askTRP09/10/15 06:49 PM
1

Bloody hell, what is the world coming to?
/r/TheRedPill09/10/15 06:35 PM
4

The concept of 'frame' wasn't introduced until other's started analyzing why his protege 'Styles' was so successful. Mystery had 'frame' but only because he had good technique, not because it was natural for him.
/r/askTRP09/10/15 06:32 PM
4

Physique is not as important as dominance. Decide what aesthetic you're going for or what athletic activities you're interested in pursuing and let you're body type be dictated by that. She's more concerned with what you're doing with the body than in how it looks.
/r/askTRP09/10/15 06:25 PM
1

I also have a three strike rule. Good policy IMO. I think the important part is that you have a limit for yourself for what is tolerable and that you stand by it.
/r/askTRP09/10/15 06:21 PM
2

I'd say the best primer on most of this stuff without knowing your background is "Models" by Mark Manson or the sidebar material. Models will get you up an running if dating is your goal rather quickly.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 08:57 PM
4

What you saw was probably pua done badly. That or any lame approach is a turn off. Done really well, you probably wouldn't even realize someone was running game on you. Or you wouldn't care...
/r/TheRedPill05/10/15 08:42 PM
2

Great FR. Most of the concepts are well-known to me but I always love reading a solid post about another's technique.
/r/TheRedPill05/10/15 08:36 PM
2

A lot of us have the pill shoved down our throats willing or not. It's a rude awakening. Take the pill or don't. There's no "feel like" about it. There's also no right way to do it. The sidebar is a great place to start. Read it and lurk for a while.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 08:27 PM
1

I used to train at a kettlebell gym. The instructor was a hardcore competitive lifter until he fucked up his lower back. The only thing that worked to rehabilitate him and keep him more or less pain free and on his feet is kettlebells. The guy is fuckin' ripped at 40 something. Look into Kettlebells and the Functional Movement Screen. Make sure you start light with weight and work on mastering technique before upping weight. Study with someone who has the RKC certification.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 06:01 PM
2

You don't cut by adding cardio. Burning fat happens in the kitchen. Source: http://rippedbody.jp/everything-cardio/
/r/askTRP02/10/15 05:53 PM
2

"Do you have a trash bag?" I fuckin' love this.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/15 05:49 PM
2

Read this book: http://thedepressioncurebook.com/ Everything is in there. Start with taking fish oil and vitamin D daily. That's the easiest to change and build momentum with.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:32 PM
1

It's possible she's a lesbian. That might explain the kissing etc.
/r/askTRP30/09/15 03:29 PM
1

I find texting annoying...sometimes I just make a fucking phone call. Girls have responded well to this since it's so out of the usual. They may have a few guys texting them but when you call you stand out.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 08:37 PM
2

Seconded on all accounts.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 08:34 PM
1

This is my number one go-to in this regard, it's simple and easy to implement esp for the beginner: http://rippedbody.jp/leangains-intermittent-fasting-guide-how-to-do-it-by-yourself/
/r/askTRP29/09/15 05:52 PM
1

The stopping after 10 seconds is odd. It's possible that the way she was raised has made her really afraid of sex and anything sexual. I've met religious girls like this. If she's a virgin and that's the case you may have a long road ahead of you to escalate to sex. A little dread seems to be like magic when it comes to getting what you want. Soft-next and if she initiates contact have her meet you at yours where there's no doubt about what's up. If she gives you lot's of LMR ignore her and do s…
/r/askTRP29/09/15 05:49 PM
1

Usually I just do drinks somewhere where I can transition to something more interesting if the date is going well. If it's a no go then I can bail after about an hour and won't have to suffer through dinner or a movie. In your case drinks might be coffee.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 05:38 PM
1

Just text her the day of to confirm (if she doesn't text you first...it's a good sign if she does) and have a backup plan if she flakes. Trying to keep the fire going via text over a week has never worked for me.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 05:26 PM
1

I disagree. All this has ever gotten me is nothing. It's safe to just wait a week and then text to set something up. If she's interested she'll be even more interested now that she hasn't heard from you in a week because you're too busy having a life.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 05:25 PM
2

Have you fucked yet?
/r/askTRP26/09/15 12:57 AM
2

You weren't a doormat and you didn't get stuck in her orbit both good strategies. I think where maybe you could have improved is by not asking directly for a date. You engaged the ASD because she has a bf. It seems from her texts that she was showing interest (although could just be trying to use the pussy-pass for validation and getting shit from you) and maybe if you "hang out, totally platonic of course..." and escalated she might have been receptive. Since she's you're neighbor this could ba…
/r/askTRP23/09/15 01:12 PM
3

Why not? With your experience befriend some younger guys and show them the ropes. You'll get invited to parties. Just act like Matthew Mcconaughay in Dazed and Confused. "I just keep gettin' older and they just keep stayin' the same age."
/r/askTRP20/09/15 09:09 PM
1

I don't say a lot by nature. It's always worked well for me. Power usually goes to the person who not only speaks first but says the least.
/r/askTRP20/09/15 09:06 PM
1

48 Laws of Power right here.
/r/askTRP20/09/15 09:06 PM
2

I've done this: Set goals --> think I'm superman and try to take on the world--> Get overwhelmed/something goes wrong --> burn-out and crash --> Get depressed --> Rinse repeat. It's important to build positive habits and add them slowly to your routines. Start with the highest leverage habits first. For me that's simple things like making the bed every day, meditating upon waking, taking supplements and eating right, getting enough sleep, strength training, and getting at least 30min of sunlight…
/r/TheRedPill20/09/15 09:04 PM
2

Government work sounds serious. Could affect your career long-term. Play with fire and be prepared to get burned. Not for the faint of heart.
/r/askTRP20/09/15 06:54 PM
1

I've had pretty good luck in coffee shops and through friends.
/r/askTRP20/09/15 06:38 PM
1

You might be burnt out. Switching it up could definitely be the antidote. There are ways to train strength in conjunction with sport specific activities if you're wanting to do something else for a while. Check out "The Four Hour Body" by Tim Ferriss
/r/askTRP20/09/15 06:37 PM
-1

Good girls are far and few between. Strengthen your social networks and find communities of people with the values you're looking for. Make sure you're exuding the type of energy you are trying to attract. If you live in the US seriously consider moving to another country like eastern europe for example.
/r/askTRP20/09/15 06:35 PM
1

That response is fine. "You're pretty cool" might also fit the bill. Agreed, you need to fuck her already. If you're having trouble with that, maybe a topic for another post.
/r/askTRP20/09/15 06:30 PM
6

Stop. Look her dead in the eyes. Linger there for a bit. Then pull her to you and kiss her hard. Then continue doing whatever you were doing.
/r/askTRP20/09/15 06:27 PM
2

If you're going to plate her I don't see a downside other than she might be crazy. Set firm boundaries and be ready to walk away. Probably best to fuck her at her place if you think she's not completely sane.
/r/askTRP20/09/15 06:22 PM
2

Stop caring so much what other people think.
/r/askTRP20/09/15 12:21 AM
1

Drink ionized water?
/r/askTRP20/09/15 12:19 AM
4

Dated a co-worker and got burned pretty bad. This was pre-TRP. Would not recommend.
/r/askTRP20/09/15 12:19 AM
1

The first step to non-betahood is learning my favorite word. It only takes two letters and is really easy to remember. This word is "no." Practice saying it anytime you don't want to do something or somebody wants something from you you don't want to give. Learn to value your time and energy and practice this word. Read No More Mr. Nice Guy.
/r/askTRP19/09/15 09:14 PM
1

I would have gone to the party.
/r/askTRP19/09/15 08:10 PM
3

This one made me laugh. Lot's of lube? Get her nice and relaxed and push it in slowly? Never had this problem exactly...
/r/askTRP19/09/15 06:02 PM
1

There is no 'self.' Be whoever you want.
/r/askTRP19/09/15 06:00 PM
1

I agree, this shit is hard to watch. I have a few guy friends in similar situations. I see how it affects their whole life and everyone around them. I've hinted at the fact that there's another way...but the 'learned helplessness' is already pretty entrenched. The thing is the harpy bitch sometimes doesn't happen over night but after years of being a beta the woman just can't cope with the hamster spinning out of control with no firm leadership and goes all bitchy. I've seen pretty RP women get …
/r/TheRedPill19/09/15 05:54 PM
1

Not uncommon for those addicted to porn. Try quitting porn. r/pornfree. Also, could just be you're not that attracted to her or the sex is lacking. Some girls really do it for me and others not so much.
/r/askTRP18/09/15 09:38 PM
3

"I know."
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/15 08:12 PM
2

What you are doing is ruminating. The antidote to ruminative thoughts is to replace them with something else. The easiest way to do this is when you notice that you are having them to do something that will fully engage your attention. Working out is a good option provided you can focus completely on the task. Hanging out with friends and other people (who aren't toxic) is another one. Don't bring up the ex though or get stuck in a negative conversation. Fucking other women and meditating can he…
/r/askTRP18/09/15 08:08 PM
1

Personally I don't make special trips to ask a girl out. If I don't go for it the first time around it's a lesson to me to never hesitate. Orchestrating "running into her" seems low value to me. Quite honestly most weeks these days I wouldn't have time in my schedule to do that anyways. You missed your chance. Next time this happens just go for it. Let this be your lesson.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 08:16 PM
1

Sounds like a solid plan.
/r/askTRP06/09/15 03:24 PM
2

I totally agree with you about some of the wuwu nature of therapy...depending on the practitioner. Science based reasoning is always more compelling to me as well.
/r/askTRP06/09/15 02:47 AM
1

No problem. Keep fighting the good fight. It might be worth looking into meditation if you're trying to do monk mode. "Wherever You go There You Are," "Radical Acceptance" and "The Way of Zen" are good titles in that genre.
/r/askTRP06/09/15 02:44 AM
1

Don't stick your dick in crazy. Run.
/r/askTRP06/09/15 01:15 AM
-1

Tell her to go pour you a scotch, no ice. Enjoy.
/r/askTRP06/09/15 01:10 AM
1

Almost always the best approaches I've made convo flowed naturally, time flew by, and the number was an afterthought. If she volunteers to give you her number that's usually a good sign. Never ask for the number. "This was fun, we should hang out again sometime....you know this weekend some friends of mine and I are going truffle hunting and you strike me as an exceptional pig wrangler."
/r/askTRP06/09/15 12:38 AM
1

"You know I usually try not to date the people who are responsible for making me look good...but in your case I might be willing to make an exception."
/r/askTRP06/09/15 12:36 AM
1

What's her N-count? Have you gf'd a hoe or alpha widow? Maybe he's insurance policy, maybe more...if you're definitely her alpha and she's a good girl she wouldn't be in touch with this guy.
/r/askTRP06/09/15 12:31 AM
2

Source for the studies? This was suggested to me by my therapist and seems to be working so far. You really can't work through your feelings until you've accepted them. The risk of suppressing them is that they start to come out sideways which is probably what OP is experiencing. I agree that meditation and mindfulness is also very helpful.
/r/askTRP06/09/15 12:26 AM
1

It's really not about the phone #. Make a connection that's solid and you can leave with plans already made or have the feeling that hanging out again soon is not only possible but inevitable. The # is just a way to facilitate logistics. It's not about the #.
/r/askTRP06/09/15 12:22 AM
1

Get a job. Move out. Buy a kettlebell and a pull-up bar. You don't need fancy weights and shit to get a high quality w/o. Why are you still living at home at 21? Just fix shit without asking. Take action now and apologize later if necessary (like a man though). Work smarter not harder. Lead by example. She's your Mom and she may never be able to follow your lead because she always will see you as her son. When you are taking charge of your own life and of those in your social circle she may see …
/r/askTRP06/09/15 12:17 AM
1

Lift. Get some 1x4s and break them martial arts style. Punching bag. Also, have had some explosive bouts of rage (never at a person, just walls and such). Therapy is good but you need to schedule a regular appointment to hit or break some shit and rage in a way that's going to be safe for all involved. Lifting will help. Archery is great. Breaks some boards and/or get a punching bag. Schedule time to let out the rage.
/r/askTRP06/09/15 12:01 AM
0

Unless you've both been tested, have seen the results in writing, and know absolutely she's faithful.... Wrap that shit up! It's not worth the risk. Yes, you do need to go see a doctor. If you are sexually active and have multiple partners and aren't absolutely sure you're partner isn't sleeping around go get tested on the regular. Mark your territory by cumming on her face for fucks sake. Or pee in her mouth if she's into that sort of thing. Bloody hell.
/r/askTRP05/09/15 11:57 PM
2

Try not to think about your breathing. You're thinking about your breathing now aren't you? Try to breath naturally. Are you allowing yourself to breath naturally or are you focused on your breathing? See what I'm getting at here? The art of non-attachment isn't trying to let go of something or not to do something. Accept your thoughts for what they are. Bring awareness to them without judgement. Just because you have them doesn't mean that you have to act on them. This is one technique. Don't w…
/r/askTRP05/09/15 11:51 PM
-3

It's pretty hard to be angry when you have a plate on her knees begging you to fuck her face with your cock and cum on her tits.
/r/askTRP05/09/15 11:40 PM
1

Yes. The problem isn't the bars it's your attitude. Try writing writing a list of both positive true statements about going to bars and negative true statements. Award the positive statements 3 points and negative statements 1 point. Tally your results.
/r/askTRP05/09/15 11:34 PM
2

Totally. That's just the summary. The book is great.
/r/askTRP03/09/15 05:21 PM
8

You're mission doesn't have to be all enveloping and finding one's purpose is something of a fools errand. Becoming too attached to finding it or having it is like metaphysical oneitis. Rather continue to focus on your goals, career, and self-improvement. Meditate daily. You're mission, purpose, passion, or whatever you want to call it will become clear in time. It might take several years for this to become clear. Read So Good They Can't Ignore You for more on why the "Passion Hypothesis" is bu…
/r/askTRP03/09/15 03:29 PM
1

Every morning I meditate. After I make a cup of coffee and read for about 30min. Right now I'm reading "Before Happiness" by Shawn Achor. It's practical science based strategies for adjusting your mindset and leading a happier more fulfilled life. None of that wuwu new-age bullshit.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/15 04:23 PM
1

I definitely don't think the market is saturated yet. A lot of women still haven't encountered or don't know about pick-up.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/15 04:10 PM
2

Actually, OP is right on the money. Most of the list is text book PU either Mystery Method or Neil Strauss, and it does work.
/r/TheRedPill02/09/15 04:06 PM
3

Buddhism certainly recognizes desire/want and those feelings will always come. Observing and bringing awareness to the fact that they are happening without judgement will allow them to flow through you much more easily. Also yes as u/feminazis... says you gf'd a hoe. Downgrade to plate status or if you can't handle that break it off. You can't really do Monk Mode with a gf in my opinion.
/r/askTRP30/08/15 12:42 AM
2

If longevity of the plate is what you're going for anything more than seeing each other once a week leads a girl to feelz and she'll usually start looking for more commitment a month or two into things. Even with less frequency than this...it still might happen. No hard and fast rules apply here IMO.
/r/askTRP30/08/15 12:37 AM
2

My rule is if the girl doesn't communicate and is over 15 min late I bounce (or stay if I've already started chatting up someone else). However, if she is communicative and apologetic I will show my disappointment in some way (you did that via the text which is good). If she was an entitled princess about it I'd say you made the right move, but she wasn't. Lot's of girls are piss poor at managing their time. That's why they need a guy who can lead. You coach and then if it becomes a pattern you …
/r/askTRP30/08/15 12:06 AM
1

Get "The Four Hour Body" by Tim Ferriss. Lot's of ways you could go about this but if you have an active job and are trying to maintain cardiovascular fitness, less is more. Pavel Tsatsouline (fitness expert to special forces and kettlebell guru) recommends doing the 'Big 3' core lifts (Bench, Squat, Dead-lift) 3x times a week doing 2-3 reps and 3-5 sets for a total of around 10 reps on each lift. Rest 5 minutes between sets. Always leave 1-2 reps in the bank. You can't be too sore to focus on a…
/r/askTRP29/08/15 06:19 PM
1

Don't grind. You're trying to hard. Eliminate that which does not serve you.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 06:12 PM
2

There are multiple realities. Choose the best one. There is no point. Get over it or wither and die. Life is a game. You have to play to win. If you choose the dying option, just make sure to write me into your will. ;)
/r/askTRP29/08/15 06:07 PM
1

Kissing is improvisatory. Things that she does that you like, do back to her. Pay attention to what she responds to and do those things from time to time. If you just follow these last two things over time you will learn all that you ever need to know. Things to try: Go hot and heavy and then pull back randomly to increase the tension. Grab her by the back of the neck, hold her face with one hand, or grab a handful of hair near the roots in the back and squeeze. Women love the last one.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 06:00 PM
1

Models is great. I found "The Rules of The Game" by Neil Strauss to be helpful. Basically the next evolution of Mystery Method.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 05:43 PM
3

Models is great. I found "The Rules of The Game" by Neil Strauss to be helpful. Basically the next evolution of Mystery Method.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 05:43 PM
2

Those techniques sound like stuff from the 48 Laws of Power. I'd give that a read if I were you.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 05:37 PM
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This is pretty much straight out of the 48 laws of power. Don't tip your hand unless it suits you. Don't draw attention to your work, just deliver. Make it seem effortless except when you need to show vulnerability to engender trust.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/15 05:35 PM
2

Guys have suggested dread, but reading this, you may be above her SMV but when coming back from beta-hood you have to be unequivocally higher in SMV which means more work for you. This is probably why the bj buddy dread isn't working how you thought it would. I'd say if you're looking for what to focus on next this is your area. Where you're at physically. Lifting and fashion.
/r/askTRP29/08/15 04:09 PM
1

The Depression Cure I was depressed off and on for years and recently found a good therapist and read this book. Still working my way back to baseline atm but the protocols in the book are simple to implement and start to work immediately.
/r/askTRP27/08/15 01:30 AM
4

I disagree. A lot of women are just poor at planning and executing. That's why they need a man in their life to run a tight ship. If after a couple times you make your expectations known then...
/r/askTRP27/08/15 01:19 AM
1

I have a few post wall women in my circle of friends. It's amazing to see the ones who are unattached it's like all of a sudden collectively they have dog fever. I don't need a man. I have a dog who loves me. Or a cat. They all get cats and dogs. It's like once you see them go to the animal shelter it's over. They might as well throw in the towel.
/r/TheRedPill26/08/15 06:55 PM
1

Not married but having guy friends to get out have a drink with, discuss women problems, etc. is helpful. If you don't have that, maybe you could use a few guy friends to kick it with when you just need to have a break. Breaks are good.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/15 06:44 PM
1

I think Mark Manson has approached the issue but I don't think his book is a complete treatment of inner-game. I guess that's why I read TRP. I could never get into the scripted routines part of it. Instead I used PUA stuff to get over approach anxiety and present confidently.
/r/askTRP25/08/15 06:15 PM
1

This is what I hear, but I have yet to use tinder.
/r/askTRP25/08/15 06:12 PM
9

Sigma's are confident introverts. No problems going out and getting what they want and are confident/charismatic but chose not to be leaders in social situations unless it serves their needs/desires/purpose.
/r/askTRP25/08/15 12:10 AM
9

Friends. As a rule I've stayed away from dating sites/apps. Before I found TRP I learned game and did the whole PUA thing. I had some success in the bars, out on the town, etc but once I learned how to make my intentions known and learned how to escalate it was always through my friends network that I've done the best. It's important to have guy friends but having a lot of women friends helps too as long as your not their beta orbiter. The best wingman is a woman who will talk you up or open oth…
/r/askTRP25/08/15 12:04 AM
1

I fuckin' love this. Just hilarious. So much truth here. Bill Burr is great.
/r/TheRedPill23/08/15 06:39 PM
9

Her hamster has gone pro.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/15 11:21 PM
9

I just heard this the other day "If you think, gosh why is everyone such an asshole?" You're the asshole. Situational translation: "Gosh why don't any of the attractive men want to marry me?" You're not the catch you think you are.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/15 11:20 PM
1

You might be right. I don't claim to be an expert on the matter or women's orgasms. Someday though...;)
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/15 11:06 PM
2

Holy shit. That is a lot to take in. I'm going to save this and work through it as I have time. Thank you for such a thorough response. I assume you are doing better these days? Although not clinically diagnosed by a professional my self diagnosis using the Burns Depression Checklist from "Feeling Good" by David Burns puts me in the Severely Depressed category. To describe my symptoms basically if you were to look at the checklist linked above and answer 3 or 4 for most of the Qs excepting the o…
/r/askTRP16/08/15 10:54 PM
4

This and plates eventually fall. Nothing you can do about it except spin more plates.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 02:45 PM
1

I think you're right that the obsession with masturbation is probably unhealthy and that it isn't a substitute for sex. I think for any person with a healthy relationship to sex whether or not they masturbate is probably inconsequential. However, for those with hang-ups or who don't know and understand their own bodies it can bridge the gap from anxiety and the inability to orgasm to having satisfying sex and orgasms.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/08/15 01:23 PM
1

I agree with you on the anti-depressant front and am well aware that it's little more than big pharma and good business for them. I've never taken meds for psych related issues and will always refuse them. I don't believe they are a viable form of therapy. The studies show that they are marginally more effective than placebos, have long and short term side-effects, and many other non-pill forms of therapy are shown to be much more effective. Why would you say to never trust a female therapist?
/r/askTRP16/08/15 01:21 PM
1

Sure there are always exceptions. And I'm by no means an expert on the matter. Maybe she doesn't need to masturbate 'cuz you're givin' it to her so well? ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/15 09:55 PM
6

It's not uncommon for women who have come from conservative or religious backgrounds where sex and masturbation were considered sinful to have hang-ups when it comes to sex. Women who have trouble orgasming tend to be psychologically blocked and it's often recommended they become comfortable masturbating to get acquainted with their own bodies likes/dislikes and overcome psychological barries. I've come across this in reading and I've dated women who couldn't orgasm or had great difficulty orgas…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/15 05:54 PM
6

Inherent would suggest that the fear is instinctive but in my opinion it is more likely learned behavior.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 04:00 PM
4

This, and I'd also be curious to hear if OPs wife masturbates on her own. Anecdotal...but in my experience the girls I've dated who didn't masturbate had sexual hang-ups and generally weren't as adept in the bedroom.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/15 11:11 AM
1

Right on. Not drinking is like having a super power when it comes to more stamina and staying sharp compared to everyone else. Use it to your advantage. Win the respect of the men and you'll attract the women.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 04:27 AM
2

Downloaded the book. I look forward to taking a look at it over the weekend. I'll keep the videos in mind. Thanks again.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 01:41 AM
2

This is rich coming from LeMachina...
/r/MarriedRedPill15/08/15 01:39 AM
2

Awesome. I'll check that out. Thanks.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 01:24 AM
2

The best source I've found is "Models" by Mark Manson: http://markmanson.net/books/models
/r/askTRP15/08/15 01:13 AM
1

First you must love yourself. When you do it won't matter who says what when.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 01:09 AM
1

It's never too late. If you take care of yourself physically from what I read on here your smv skyrockets because most 40 yo men have let themselves go. No reason why you can't be spinning plates with the best of them for the next decade at least. A guy friend of mine is in his 50s and we went out drinking and he had a young cute 20 something girl positively drooling over him. I honestly was stunned. Age and experience counts for something, use it to your advantage. Don't pine after the one that…
/r/askTRP14/08/15 11:52 PM
1

It's a mind fuck right? one-itis of the gods Exactly. My guy friends and I discuss this at length and we have no answers.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 11:46 PM
1

Not an alcoholic per se but I did give up alcohol for a year as a New Years resolution. I made a point of not changing my habits socially or otherwise except for the not drinking part. Friend wants to meet for drinks? Great, see you there. Party? Great, I drink water or bring my own NA beverage. Offered a drink? "I'm not drinking right now, thanks." Simple, and most people don't press it. Some are curious and I would elaborate simply "I'm not drinking for health reasons" or "New Years Resolution…
/r/askTRP14/08/15 11:37 PM
1

Yep. I was sober for a year. It's habit now to order a soda water w/lime and no ice if I'm not drinking.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 11:32 PM
1

If it was easy everybody would've done it already.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 11:18 PM
3

Girls cry for any number of reasons. While this is a possibility I think it would be a mistake to jump to conclusions.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 11:13 PM
2

I've had a few LTRs where the girl was great...sweet, adored me, submissive, definitely wife material for somebody...but for me at least the chemistry just wasn't there. In the end I realized it was better to let her go rather than give her false hope that I would eventually commit to something like marriage. Then I've had the other side of the coin. The girl who cheated on her fiance with me who's sexual prowess was in a word: magical, the girl with an LDR that was supposedly "open" who could d…
/r/askTRP14/08/15 11:07 PM
1

Haha, awesome. Can't wait.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/15 10:48 PM
2

I'm familiar with /r/raisedbynarcissists. Yeah, I get what you're saying. Nope, can't get sucked in. Too much at stake. Thanks.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 10:47 PM
1

I would rank kino above flirting in terms of escalating to sex. I would be willing to bet you're not escalating physically on the date. You can be a consummate flirt but even then the guy who supercharges the tingles with kino escalation will win out every time.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 09:56 PM
2

Fools speak when silence better suites the situation. Beautiful.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/15 09:30 PM
1

You know, I actually just started reading it. I'm on chapter 3. You're the third person whose recommended it to me. Must be good. I'll be sure to do the exercises. Thanks!
/r/askTRP14/08/15 09:10 PM
2

Good post. While I'm not military the lack of male bonding outlets is laughable these days. I'd love to hear more of your thoughts about what male bonding has done for you and what your experience in the military was like. Maybe another post?
/r/TheRedPill14/08/15 09:07 PM
3

You need the perfect posterior protocol from "The Four Hour Body" by Tim Ferriss. Here's a link to the protocol albeit not from the book itself: http://www.4hourlife.com/2013/03/02/how-to-build-the-perfect-posterior-and-forge-a-superhuman-ass/
/r/askTRP14/08/15 06:25 PM
1

Do you ever really know?
/r/askTRP13/05/15 05:57 AM
1

Sarcasm much?
/r/askTRP13/05/15 05:56 AM
1

While I agree with you if you're doing things they've never done before, pushing their boundaries you probably set the new high water mark.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 07:00 PM
1

You're absolutely right. It's not complicated at all.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/15 06:36 PM
0

Agreed. This is complete horseshit. OP, doesnt know what the fuck he's talking about.
/r/askTRP07/05/15 06:35 PM
3

I agree completely. Our culture is fucked in terms of finding a RP woman to LTR. Gotta hunt elsewhere I guess or accept what is.
/r/askTRP06/05/15 07:54 AM
1

You already handled the shit-test. Your response was perfect.
/r/askTRP06/05/15 07:01 AM
3

This is sound advice and a general structure for any date really. Multiple venues/activities creates a psychological form of time dilation which will build rapport faster than the multiple seperate dates it might take otherwise. However, if she's sending you pictures you have to be careful because she might be an attention/validation hoe. She'll probably shit-test you harder in person or flake completely on the date. Either that, or she's already DTF in which case you should just go for the bang…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 06:59 AM
19

Yeah I feel bad. Several women have told me I've given them the best orgasms of their lives and the best sex of their lives. In some cases we were in LTRs. For whatever reason I wasn't able to commit. I guess part of me was looking for the elusive unicorn. I only found TRP a few months ago and since then haven't had any LTRs. The criteria has changed for who would qualify. A good friend of mine is surely an Alpha-Widow post wall and you can tell the hamster is in overdrive trying to convince her…
/r/askTRP06/05/15 06:47 AM
1

They're probably BPD. You need to have a rock-solid frame and give some comfort never expecting anything in return. Can't fix 'em so why even try? This article explains pretty well how to go about it.
/r/askTRP06/05/15 12:11 AM
1

It totally works.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/15 12:06 AM
3

My main plate from end of last year. She was the catalyst to me finding TRP.
/r/askTRP06/05/15 12:04 AM
1

I've never met a woman that knows what she wants.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/15 11:49 PM
6

"I hate you and I never want to see you ever again!" <throws shit at me, and slams the door in my face>
/r/askTRP05/05/15 11:47 PM
2

This is sound advice OP. My Dad was you in the situation and my grandmother like your Mom. He was beta and folded like japanese origami and my Mom never respected him after that. Cue shitty marriage and a whole host of other problems not to mention my Mom having an affair. Yes he's still with her and lets her walk all over him like a rug. At the very least you need to give your Mom a stern talking to about what your expectations for her are and set some firm boundaries. Let her know there are co…
/r/askTRP05/05/15 08:57 PM
1

If you have nothing better to do you could agree to meet up with her and her friends and game whatever's in sight. Personally if I was interested in meeting up one-on-one I would have just said so after she asked if she should get some friends together. Hidden contracts and not being direct about what you want is beta behavior. Another play you could have made is "I've got some friends I want to see too...how about I'll text you later if I'm free and maybe we'll drop by." You can gauge her level…
/r/askTRP05/05/15 08:42 PM
2

Agreed. Text back "ok, no problem" or something similar go NC for a few days and see if she engages.
/r/askTRP05/05/15 08:19 PM
1

You're right to see this as a red flag. Maybe meet for drinks nearby and then transition to your place if she seems legit.
/r/askTRP05/05/15 08:14 PM
1

Chapters 6 & 7: Polygamy and the Nature of Men Monogamy and the Nature of Women are probably a good place to start. I don't have time right now to put together direct quotes but if I have time I'll see if I can put something together and post it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/15 08:13 PM
1

Way too direct too early with the "I want to fuck you." and continuing to be pushy. Nothing dries up a pussy faster than a guy who is pushy about sex. You might luck out with a particularly trashy girl...but they're well...trashy. Girls want to be swept off their feet. You need to lead physically and escalate physically while being subtle verbally. Until you get her warmed up, being direct verbally about what you want with sex is going to backfire every time. She's immature so she sticks it out …
/r/askTRP05/05/15 08:03 PM
2

I think you're on the right track with ignore and escalate. She's already looking for commitment so this one might not spin for too long.
/r/askTRP05/05/15 07:54 PM
1

"The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature" by Matt Ridley
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/15 07:45 PM
2

I don't know if a therapist is going to help you approach girls. Might be helpful in other arenas I don't know. Somehow you have to break through your approach anxiety. You're going to get rejected, that's just the nature of the game. I've been rejected so many times and some women have literally told me "that's the worst pick-up line I've ever heard" or worse "you're an asshole and so is your friend." Every rejection is one step closer to a successful interaction. Also, it's not always about yo…
/r/askTRP05/05/15 04:57 AM
3

You obviously missed my comment on one of your posts. Where did I indicate that I was judging women for being promiscuous? I have no judgement, I just wouldn't choose to enter into an LTR with a promiscuous woman. It's just not a good idea. I don't see how my choice to not LTR a promiscuous woman automatically = I'm shaming her? I explained how the difference in the sexes is due to our differing biological imperatives. These differences can be seen in various forms throughout the animal kingdom.…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/15 04:48 AM
1

Terrible. Your buddy is a lost cause. Work on yourself and when your slaying pussy left and right he might perk up and wonder how you're so successful.
/r/askTRP05/05/15 04:41 AM
17

You can't go directly for sex or you'll raise the ASD. Several months? You're an orbiter. She's using you for validation and you've been giving it to her for free. Try to get her to meet one on one and if she turns you down, soft-next.
/r/askTRP05/05/15 04:39 AM
2

You could have some chicken? Or just text her like it's nbd because it is nbd.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 09:47 PM
3

But I masturbate everyday...
/r/askTRP04/05/15 09:45 PM
1

Wait and see if she texts back otherwise go NC. She's probably just looking for attention and you may have come on too strong with "clear your schedule." With her bf in the picture she needs lots of plausible deniability.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 09:43 PM
3

Holy shit. I think I commented on your askTRP. Way to unplug man. Yeah she definitely isn't worth pining over.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/15 08:56 PM
4

If you're the token male in a group of women it instantly ups your SMV as long as you're the AMOG. Play your cards right and they will all be drooling over you and you can have your pick of the litter or any of the other hot babes in the bar for that matter. This group is going to look like insane pre-selection to any woman looking on from a distance. Go in guns a blazin' and view it as a learning experience. What have you got to lose?
/r/askTRP04/05/15 08:18 PM
1

I've been there too. LTRd a few girls who were branch swingers. Probably best to at the outset plate a girl whose a branch-swinger and make her work to earn your commitment.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 08:12 PM
2

The other girls are always watching. You can't burn one and not burn them all. Use the girl with a bf as a pivot to game other woman and as social pre-selection.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 06:38 PM
2

I understand if your personal code of ethics doesn't allow for gaming women with bfs, however, a girl with a bf doesn't automatically = not available. Several women I've dated were women I met when they had SOs. Yeah they threw the bf defense early on but somehow we kept talking and ended up exchanging info anyways. Some cheated and some magically let me know they no longer had a SO at some point in the future. In some cases they set me up with friends of theirs or their single sister. It pays t…
/r/askTRP04/05/15 06:30 PM
5

Validation whore and ASD. Directly pursue a meetup after little chit-chat to weed out women who are only interested in attention. Even if the woman is looking for sex you can't come at it head on or she will think you're only interested in sex. Always meet in a public place (what woman in their right mind would allow a man to meet her at her house anyways? Red flag right there if she does) and escalate from there.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 06:12 PM
1

Do you regret your past casual sex experiences? No regrets. Has your promiscuous sexual past made you unsuitable for a relationship? If not, why? Unsuitable for what kind of relationship? Everything from one-night-stand to full blow marriage and everything in-between can be considered a "relationship" of some form. If a woman had a sexual past similar to yours would she be unsuitable for a relationship? Even if she did it for her own sexual gratification and not for attention or validation? If s…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 06:03 PM
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100% agree. r/seddit for tinder stuff. TRP is more for general principles. It goes beyond the ins and outs of play by play analysis.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 07:50 AM
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No. It's 100% your fault if your gf cheats on you. If you're gf cheats it's your fault for making her an LTR and a blatant criticism of you're dominance in the situation. You're only recourse is to accept full responsibility and take action to improve your station. His actions certainly are a blessing in disguise allowing you to see the error of your ways. Giving him or anybody else any fault in the matter robs you of your own power and you'll be doomed to perpetual beta-hood otherwise.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 07:47 AM
2

OP, can you give us some examples or quotes of the posts and language that you find "extremist and hateful?" Despite the fact that TRP flies in the face of contemporary society, the basic philosophies have been in practice for thousands of years prior to modern western culture and the rise of feminism. The crazy part is that whether most people are willing to admit it or not, TRP works. In terms of financial, social, and sexual success TRP far more effective than modern western ideologies and fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 07:42 AM
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I think women are solopsistic in terms of their behavior and that it is an instinctive drive. I do think women can overcome to some degree this drive with reason and awareness but it doesn't come naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/15 07:25 AM
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Sounds like you're getting there. She strung you along. You can most definitely do better than that. Good luck with everything.
/r/askTRP04/05/15 07:18 AM
1

You're welcome. I hope what I've written helps you with your sister. It's a delicate balance. Therapy is hit or miss, I think it depends to a large degree on whether their is a genuine connection with the therapist or not. She definitely needs somebody like you by her side, esp. if things are bad between her and your mother. Good luck.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/15 07:16 AM
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Hypergamous. Solopsistic. Emotional more than rational.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/15 11:44 PM
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If there was no legally binding marriage then there's no divorce. I would approach the 'religious divorce' as a diplomatic move if you wish to do damage control for your familial ties. If you DGAF then they have no real power over you and you can just refuse to participate this superficial dog and pony show. They're going to try to change your mind. Just stick to your guns. Simple sentences like "We're just not compatible." Don't place blame on anybody. Don't let it devolve into emotional mud-sl…
/r/askTRP03/05/15 11:34 PM
1

AWALT. Fuck sluts, LTR RPW. Develop a strong frame mentally, physically, and socially.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/15 11:30 PM
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I've had sex in a car parked on a side street after dark. I live in a fairly big city too.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 10:40 PM
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This is great, thanks for sharing. Not a lot of posts that address achieving the RP mindset. We need more of this and less re-hashing of RP theory by the recently unplugged.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/15 10:11 PM
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I've totally been in your shoes. Girls with beta bfs complain to me about how he's such a pushover and pretty soon we're fucking like rabbits. I've been somewhat appalled by the level of resentment these women feel and they do very little to hide their disgust. Kind of paints a not so rosy picture of women. At first I was surprised but now I understand AWALT. I won't deny there are some decent women out there who don't bad mouth. But the ones who have no filters surprise me sometimes. Most guys …
/r/TheRedPill03/05/15 10:00 PM
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No problem. You think? Don't think, do. The show has already begun, where've you been?
/r/askTRP03/05/15 09:54 PM
2

I second meditation.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 09:51 PM
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This is interesting because despite your best efforts and if everything you say is true, you should be turning the corner. But you're still stuck. This goes beyond just doing the things TRP says to do. Clearly that isn't working for you. Somehow you need to learn to let go. Your past doesn't exist. Nothing exists except for what's in this moment. Anything could happen to completely change the course of your life in an instant so you can't really even be too attached to your future, as predictabl…
/r/askTRP03/05/15 09:48 PM
1

Girls love walks. I've found transitioning to some walk around a romantic spot after coffee/drinks is pure gold in terms of increasing buying temperature and kiss-closing. After it's either back to my place or somewhere nearby for food. Any other activity you like to do on your own is fair game as well.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 09:34 PM
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Since you're a recent convert...nobody would fault you for sitting this one out. However, going, despite the emotions you know you will be feeling is a powerful move. It shows yourself you can do the shit you want regardless. Men aren't emotionless robots, but we do learn to act despite them sometimes. If you want to go to the party, go, hang out with your friends. Be civil to her but nothing more. If you have some game, try to game other women at the party. Keep up the TRP stuff and this will b…
/r/askTRP03/05/15 09:31 PM
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It's ok to have problems just don't be a whiny bitch about it. There's a difference between someone who's looking for pity/validation/attention and someone who's just being transparent. You shouldn't need her reassurance and should act like you have a handle on the issue. Not having problems is unrealistic. Agree 100% with stoicism.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 09:28 PM
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Life is too short. I'm about ready to pack up and move and start my life somewhere else. Just because, fuck-it, I'm tired of being here and it's not where I want to be anyways. Being able to walk away, at any time, for any reason is true outcome independence. You can't just have it in one area of your life. It applies across the board.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/05/15 09:20 PM
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Nice work. You got the date and it went well. Pat yourself on the back for that. Teasing is good. You lead her to another destination which is a strong move. She texted you IOIs after the date. All good stuff. It sounds like you don't have a ton of dating experience and having the moves takes time to learn. Yeah you didn't get the kiss-close and you probably could have but chock it up to learning experience. It may seem counter-intuitive but you're more likely to succeed and it's likely to have …
/r/askTRP03/05/15 09:09 PM
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Didn't read the whole thing...wall of text. cisMale is going through the anger phase and from what I can tell is still somewhat new to TRP. Hate is an un-productive emotion. Men who've become fully unplugged have no reason to hate women. We take responsibility for where we are at and chose to act accordingly. Hating another person or another gender or having strong feelings one way or the other is letting them rob us of our frame. If shit that I don't like happens in my life I look for where I c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/15 08:57 PM
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Ironically if you say what she says "I'm not usually like this, I like to get to know a person first, I like to take things slow...yadda yadda" has a way of disabling the hamster. Especially if you say it first. If that doesn't work then do push pull with a "freeze out." If she gives hard LMR, say "Ok, that's fine." turn on the lights, start checking email or whatever, she'll probably shit-test you somehow or ask what's wrong and you say "I'm into it when the other person is into it, I'm turned …
/r/askTRP03/05/15 08:49 PM
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I saw your other post. This girl is shit-testing you and the cheating thing is a red-flag. She's not gf material IMO. You need to demote or next.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 08:42 PM
1

Yep. Don't be an emotional tampon. Drinks and escalate.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 08:40 PM
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Discovered r/seddit and followed a posters history to TRP. Recently escaped toxic relationship and was primed for unplugging.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 08:39 PM
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"When all this goes to shit in 7 years, I'm here for you bro."
/r/askTRP03/05/15 08:36 PM
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Yes. I fucked a virgin in a park near a lake at night. Sounds creepy but we went swimming at night and made out a bunch. Fucking in the woods was the logical next step. If the only place that's acceptable to fuck is your place, then I fear for the propagation of our species. You're making road-blocks where there are none. Sure, bring her to her place, or the car, or the woods, or wherever. Just... fuck-it. What am I saying...you need to ask her out first. Bring condoms and make it happen.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 08:32 PM
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Yes. Yes. Yes. It's whatever I want it to look like.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 08:22 PM
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She sounds like she's pretty far to the left on the introverted scale. I'm like that (nearly 100% according to every myers-briggs test I've taken) but I also am more than comfortable socializing (when I choose to) and love to date (one-on-one is my jam) so in that sense we're different. If she's anything like me, she's going to resent it if she feels at any way like you are judging her for her behavior, that there's anything wrong with how she's living her life, and if in any way you think that …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 08:05 PM
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/r/MarriedRedPill If I was the guy cheating I wouldn't feel obligated to tell the husband unless he was a friend. But then I wouldn't be cheating with a friend's wife. If a guy was reasonable and not homicidal and I had no reason to fear for my well-being or hers and they asked me point blank if I was sleeping with his wife, I would tell the truth. That's a lot of "ifs" but if those conditions were met a guy has a right to know IMO. Probably best though to exhaust all of your other options befor…
/r/askTRP03/05/15 05:59 PM
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Remember that bit about "don't stick your dick in crazy?" Yeah, don't do that.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 04:39 PM
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Shit-test! "What are you a princess?" "Let me get this straight, you need me to get up from (doing what I was doing) go over there, and get your phone for you?" "Do I look like a servant to you?"
/r/seduction03/05/15 03:52 PM
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Women are like nature, they abhor a vacuum. Most women need a guy giving them attention to validate themselves (filling the void). Other guy is beta or dumps her and you're probably AF so she comes running back. No vacuum.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 02:43 AM
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Here's the thing. People judge but at the end of the day, nobody gives a fuck about you. People are too consumed by their own lives to give you a second thought. Why should you give a fuck about what they think? Yes, the guy in the picture is more than fine. Game, confidence, and social status is way more important than looks.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 02:39 AM
1

Were you drunk?
/r/askTRP03/05/15 02:34 AM
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None of this is real. You're in the matrix. Relax.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 02:33 AM
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It sounds like she could be depressed. Or somehow despite the high paying job she started to view you as beta at some point and stopped putting out and started shit-testing you. You've already seperated. Not a lot you can salvage if she's not receptive. Hard next and quit with the handouts. Work on your game and spin some plates.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 02:27 AM
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Stop worrying about how you are perceived. You're self-conscious. If you're comfortable, people will be comfortable. Also the guy in the picture is not that bad. If you look like him with a little game and confidence you should be fine.
/r/askTRP03/05/15 02:20 AM
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Transcendental meditation.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 09:01 PM
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You were in a philosophy class..."Time and distance are all relative sweetheart. See you at (place) at (time), or do you want to miss out on possibly the best time of your life?"
/r/askTRP02/05/15 09:00 PM
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In what context? Could be either a shit-test or she isn't interested. If you don't know handle as a shit test. Escalate and if she turns you down hard, you have your answer. Next.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 08:38 PM
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This.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 08:34 PM
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She's either waiting for you to make the move, is busy, or she's not interested. Assume interest and text to make plans. "Free later for ______?" (insert activity).
/r/askTRP02/05/15 08:31 PM
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As long as it takes.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/15 09:34 AM
1

Either this, or you're dating a girl with BPD and it will never go away. You're doomed to ride the roller coaster.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 09:07 AM
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Who's downvoting fnord? Everything he says on this sub is solid.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 09:04 AM
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Fuck, where are all the women in this thread? OP, take what these "men" say with a grain of salt until you get some female perspectives. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that maybe the men you are dating are giving away their commitment too easily and are therefore unworthy of your respect. It doesn't matter if they're Alpha in all other regards. You may not be able to respect a man who doesn't make you work for it. Find a true Alpha who isn't afraid to let you go and makes you work for his…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/15 09:01 AM
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Or maybe all of the men she's dated up to this point give away commitment too easily and aren't worthy of her respect.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/15 08:57 AM
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Alpha is a state of mind. Trying to appear alpha is a mistake. Any woman worth her salt can see through it a mile away. There's a difference between being a jerk and IDGAF. Women want IDGAF. Good luck.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 08:49 AM
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I agree with you. The extent to which it is described on TRP is probably an exaggeration. However, it's certainly greater than most people not exposed to TRP typically think. The net result is that the truth about what is actually happening comes out and thus the veil is lifted. The Cock Carousel is a real phenomena. I've met and slept with these women both pre and post wall. It's all fun and games until somebody gets hurt. Irreparabel damage is done psychologically and I think unfortunately it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/15 08:46 AM
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What do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/15 08:41 AM
1

It depends 100% on what that dick is attached to.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 01:18 AM
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"No worries, touch base when you're done with finals."
/r/askTRP02/05/15 01:14 AM
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Your gf shouldn't be able to overpower you. Dump her ass and hit the gym.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 12:03 AM
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Be more aloof.
/r/askTRP02/05/15 12:01 AM
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I'm not completely sure and there's no proof. I'm not a woman so I have no idea how it feels for a woman. What I can say for sure is that men and women's behavior in regards to how they express "love" is different. Without some sort of universal definition it's pretty hard to say for sure one way or the other about anything as regards to "love."
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/15 11:50 PM
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More like 40. I've got too many things I want to do to settle down anytime soon. Just turned 30. But yeah, spinning plates is going to get old eventually and I'm going to want a more stable/comfortable living situation. Some kind of LTR is a logical step with the right lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/15 11:27 PM
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Well, as someone who's been "that guy," you know the one that you cheat on your bf, fiance, husband with? I can say that there is indeed a level of unspoken promiscuity going on that I doubt these women ever told anybody about, even their close friends. Women who you would think are upstanding and have integrity even are willing to rationalize a fling in whatever way is convenient. I'm not speaking from a place of having not gotten laid but from having gotten laid and been the bad boy that women…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/15 11:15 PM
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I think you make some valid points. Narcissism definitely works for men in terms of dating success. Both sides are pursuing their instinctual drives in terms of a mating strategy and high value men and women are both going to exercise their highest value options. The love women feel is different but not non-existent from the type of love men feel. Both sides are pursuing their evolutionary best course of action. Men and women both cheat but for different reasons. A lot of TRP is men who are unpl…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/15 10:58 PM
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The pill is a fuckin' horse of a pill man. You could try swallowing it but you might choke. Wouldn't want to risk that. So I recommend you get yourself some fuckin' astroglide, slather that shit all over that sucker and stick it right up your asshole. There ya go, that's how you take the mutherfuckin' pill.
/r/askTRP01/05/15 10:41 PM
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I don't think true RPers shame hypergamy, it's probably the BP recently unplugged guys going through the anger phase you're hearing over on TRP. Nothing wrong with hypergamy, it's just the way of things.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/15 10:32 PM
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The road to manhood is never easy no matter when you start. Can't move backwards only forwards.
/r/askTRP01/05/15 08:24 PM
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I'm just going to leave this here
/r/askTRP01/05/15 07:51 PM
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The real kicker is when you start to ask yourself "does my gf even exist?" That will mess with your head for a while...
/r/askTRP01/05/15 07:12 PM
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Propose right there on the spot. She's obviously the one.
/r/askTRP01/05/15 07:08 PM
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I think the jury is out on this. Some dating 'experts' Roosh, Mark Manson, pay for dates while others suggest the opposite and the wallet has to be earned. I think this one thing in and of itself isn't going to make or break the interaction. I will tell you though, girls will adjust their game depending on if they see you as a potential provider or not. It's going to be harder to escalate to f-close if you display wealth and provisioning. Once you start seeming like husband material she's going …
/r/askTRP01/05/15 05:15 AM
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No problem.
/r/askTRP01/05/15 05:07 AM
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There are many different books and schools of thought on this. My favorite of the ones that I've read is "Models" by Mark Manson. It's more of a holistic approach but is true game vs. external game which only gets you so far. If that's what you want, head over to seddit.
/r/askTRP01/05/15 12:51 AM
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I would steer you towards reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and stoicism. My favorite book on stoicism is "The Obstacle is The Way." Side note: having a strong frame is a mindset. It's something that doesn't change over night but develops over time. Learn to be assertive and ask for what you want, and say what you don't want. Learn to channel your emotions. There are so many ways to do this and it is a lifelong project IMO. Good luck.
/r/askTRP01/05/15 12:48 AM
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No offense but it's pretty irresponsible to not insist on using a condom if you know your FWB could be sleeping with other people. Actually unless you have a monogamous LTR you should always use a condom. No need to make a big deal about it with your FWB but I would insist on condom usage from now on (you know...for safety) and get yourself tested STAT! See if he's willing to get himself tested too is also a good idea. If he's not willing to use a condom with you then stop sleeping with him. No …
/r/askTRP01/05/15 12:39 AM
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I've encountered this before. It's something of a shit-test. If you answer then you're in her frame doing as she asks. I usually flip the script..."What do you want to know? Ask me a question." Or I deflect and change the subject. Over chat, It's way too much to type out. I'd probably say something like "Too much to say here, how about you buy me a drink first and I'll let you pick my brain?"
/r/askTRP30/04/15 09:43 PM
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Quit smoking pot. Learn game and approach women. Spin some plates. When you find one who has an n-count of n=<1, doesn't shit-test too much, is cute, submissive, devoted, and not crazy. Lock her down.
/r/askTRP30/04/15 09:33 PM
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Boo hoo, some asshold disrespected your girl with words? You weren't even there and you're hearing this second hand? It's not worth getting in a fight over. Tell her to stay away from the asshole. What are you doing in a LDR anyways? Is she your unicorn?
/r/askTRP30/04/15 09:31 PM
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Oof. 50? I think my cutoff for cougars is 40 and if and only if they have kept themselves in good shape and if they make the first moves (they have to do the work, not me). But I just turned 30 so she maybe in your age range, I have no idea. If you're leaving that job, sure, go ahead game her. All the same rules apply AWALT. It sounds like she's already giving you the green light so just ask her out.
/r/askTRP30/04/15 09:26 PM
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You can't make people want to hang out with you so insisting is probably not the way to go. My guess is you aren't presenting yourself as someone who has enough value to make people want to be around you. Work on being a man of value.
/r/askTRP30/04/15 09:01 PM
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Trolling feminazis is pretty beta. Why waste your time? You can't change them. Accept this is how it is. Fuck her or leave her for the rest of us. The same rules apply to getting in her panties AWALT.
/r/askTRP30/04/15 08:59 PM
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I've never had the sheets problem. Once fucked 3 plates in the same 24 hour period without time to change the sheets or shower in-between. I swear it's like they can smell the pheromones and it throws their lizard brain into overdrive. It's not about the sheets, you're right, it's about her getting outed as slut. Always be more than gracious in how you talk about women to other women and you'll have the trust to spin plates in the same social circle. I disagree. Allow plates to see you with othe…
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 08:46 PM
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I think it's common for guys to think going for the bang on the first date is a notch in the belt and viewed as a success but this is the wrong frame. Nothing dries up a pussy faster than making it too obvious you only care about the bang. It's smart and shows good frame control not to let the inevitable late night and fatigue the next day affect your work and daily routines. The takeaway game works well to to enhance attraction if you get her sufficiently warmed up the first time around. Well d…
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 08:40 PM
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I'm in a similar boat. Not necessarily burned bridges so much but had to next a few people whose bullshit I didn't have time for and I'm an introvert to boot. Picking up friends is like picking up women. You make an approach and open and leverage a small conversation into hanging out or whatever if they seem promising. With guys it's safe to open with a compliment if they have a cool watch or whatever to start a convo. You can literally find people anywhere you are. I start small talk conversati…
/r/askTRP30/04/15 08:32 PM
2

The surest way to find problems is to try to solve them.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 08:25 PM
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This is how it should be done. I especially like how you started small and realized overnight transformation of habits is impossible. You have to start small and once foundational habits are formed the rest follows like dominos. I think this is where many people trip up, lose hope, and quit. Building new habits takes time and dedication. You had a lot to overcome. A lot more than I ever have. I find myself wondering if I was in your shoes if I would have had the same determination. Guys watch ou…
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 08:14 PM
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No problem.
/r/askTRP30/04/15 07:52 PM
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Awesome post. Well written. Be worth a shit and prepared to walk away and the rest will follow.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/15 09:38 PM
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You should write this up as an FR. Nicely done.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/15 09:36 PM
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Big red flag right here. You can either domote or next. No need to make a big production out of it seeking closure. Either tell her your ending it and why or not, it's up to you.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 08:14 PM
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I think your analysis and treatment of the situation is correct. Good job. Hard or soft-next this one depending on your wishes. Don't put up with that shit.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/15 08:06 PM
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Or very easy NSA sex if you play it right. Women with kids who are horny don't have time to fuck around. They come when you call and fuck you ad don't ask for a lot.
/r/TheRedPill29/04/15 08:05 PM
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Apologize. Try not to break 'em for us mmk? Save that shit for the bedroom.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 08:03 PM
1

What is this now? I'm guessing you don't understand what beta is. Women will friendzone you or move on if you go beta and leave them. You're probably misappropriating dread game and your natural smv is making women chase you. But, honestly, I feel like you're trolling or humblebragging here. You should probably educate yourself more via the sidebar and stop wasting our time.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 07:59 PM
2

Man, no offense, but I've tried to watch Tyler. Just can't stand the guy. He doesn't seem real, sociopathic. I'm always surprised by how many people use his stuff.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 07:49 PM
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Models by Mark Manson. Wish I'd read this first. Also, "The Rules of The Game" by Neil Strauss is pretty good. You have to mix reading with doing and getting feedback. Try some stuff and write up some FRs to get feedback.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 07:48 PM
2

Dated a plate briefly who had kids and was lactating at the time. It was never a fetish of mine but her breasts were hot and sucking from the was surprisingly erotic. She enjoyed it too. This is awesome. Good job.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/15 07:44 PM
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Yep.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 06:18 PM
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Will her hot friends be there too? If not, then nope. Why would you help someone you hardly know? You should be too busy having a life to help someone like that. It communicates low value.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 06:17 PM
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sounds a little needy could try, "ok, no problem. good luck." or just "ok, no problem." Typically girls who are interested will reschedule. This could be a flake. Hard to say. See if she re-engages.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 06:14 PM
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Good question...I think I'm about to nope outta here soon tho.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 06:11 PM
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The thing with ploly/open relationships is it is much easier for the woman to get some. It's common problem if you venture over to r/polyamory. A guy has to put in the work to increase smv but a girl pretty much just has to spread her legs. You could see if she's willing to help you approach women. The best wingman is a woman who is into you. Instant pre-selection and all that.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 06:05 PM
1

That was my aim. Glad to hear it connected.
/r/askTRP29/04/15 06:02 PM
1

I used to be in "Open Relationships." This was my pre-TRP days so basically plate spinning with PC spin. (side note: the open relationship is a strong frame for spinning plates and disabling the female comittment hamster with PC spin. It's like using the hamster to out hamster the female hamster. Simply awesome.) But then she comes back and is totally unchanged, gives me a lot of love and sex, her behaviour is unchanged. I don't know how is she able to do this, but she does it, and does it reall…
/r/askTRP28/04/15 08:00 PM
1

Man, this is beta thinking. What has OP got to lose? She can come and go as she pleases. He's not responsible for her feelings or actions.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 07:43 PM
2

"I'm fine. Busy. Talk later."
/r/askTRP28/04/15 07:37 PM
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OPs not leading her on. He made it clear they were just friends and she's orbiting herself. Do you think women care when they do the same to men? No, they don't give a shit and they know how the guy feels. They can always tell.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 07:30 PM
3

What's wrong with free lunch? Seems pretty harmless to me.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 07:28 PM
2

True Machavelian right here.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 07:26 PM
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Should be good now.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 07:06 PM
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Formatting updated. I think MODs need to sticky right?
/r/askTRP28/04/15 07:02 PM
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One of the first steps to becoming unplugged is owning your shit and taking initiative in changing it. Unfortunately a lot of guys won't make it off the starting line until they realize that.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 07:00 PM
2

Right??
/r/askTRP28/04/15 06:52 PM
1

Thanks, I like that one too.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 06:51 PM
1

Agreed. Hopefully we can stem the tide a bit here.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 06:51 PM
2

Would be nice.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 06:49 PM
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That's what FAQs are for. Thanks man.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 06:48 PM
1

Thanks.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 06:47 PM
2

I'm a little OCD about formatting but it's getting there.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 06:47 PM
1

Thank you. Law of parsimony in all things. Thanks for the tutorial. Only had time to skim through but look forward to digging into it more as I have time.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 06:46 PM
2

I think you're right. I'll edit a few out. Thanks. Definitely not homophobic. /r/altTRP is on the sidebar for a reason.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 06:24 PM
1

Only you can really know your gf. She definitely should have told you but if everything else she says is true then it could very well be she has a stalker on her hands and was trying to not involve you because she was ashamed. If she agreed to all of your other demands and actively works to regain your respect it sounds like she still could be LTR material. She should at the very least though block his number and if he's a creep get a restraining order. I never say this, but it seems like this c…
/r/askTRP28/04/15 03:40 AM
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Sorry, I know the formatting sucks...reddit formating is the bane of my existence. We'll come back and improve it, but need a break atm.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 03:29 AM
1

I don't know what to tell you. It sounds like you're on the right track then. If you're not able to close after the approach then your game needs work. You need to figure out what your personal sticking points are and work on those.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 01:30 AM
1

Where I'm from the women love the man bun. I have one and some women fuckin' love it. Go for it if it's what you want. It won't make or break your game by itself.
/r/askTRP28/04/15 12:16 AM
1

You're hung up on the objective. It's not about the number but about the interaction. There's no way to know how to talk to women or anybody for that matter. You just do and you learn by doing. Phone numbers, relationships, friends all follow from the interaction. It seems like you are basing your self worth completely on external validation. You feel like a pussy because you are constantly looking to others to validate you. You need to quit that shit and start looking within yourself for valida…
/r/askTRP28/04/15 12:10 AM
2

No idea. In my experience you can't force-feed anyone who isn't ready for the red-pill. Just keep doing what you're doing introducing RP ideas into convo without using RP terminology and set a good example. My Dad is BP as fuck. Nothing but divorce could save my parents marriage at this point.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 11:33 PM
1

Models by Mark Manson, not explicitly about intimacy but discusses vulnerability as a key component of attracting women.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 11:29 PM
2

Ok you have her on the line it's time to reel 'er in.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 11:27 PM
1

Op, this.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 09:10 PM
1

Here we have it. Another example of AWALT. Honestly, how many examples do we need? /u/melovecoco are you taking notes??
/r/askTRP27/04/15 09:08 PM
3

I think this is how the deadbedroom scenario in a LTR starts. The typical approach to this is to workout and work on yourself to make sure your smv is high enough to employ dread game and then execute the stages of dread: 12 stages of dread If your smv is already higher than hers than just start with dread. You can't negotiate attraction.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 09:04 PM
1

Almost always the attraction is built on the first meeting. If they don't text you back or flake chances are you didn't build attraction enough in person. Also, you maybe texting too much. Text for logistics only. If they aren't receptive. Next.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 07:46 PM
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/r/askTRP27/04/15 07:43 PM
2

Agreed. She reminds me of one of my exes. Constant validation and suicide threats. I think you sir might have a case of the BPD girl. Advice: Run. If you insist in being with her, at least be informed. Here. Thank me later.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 07:40 PM
1

They don't seem like huge red flags to me. It depends though what you're going for. Very traditional gender roles? I agree with what others say, watch what she does not what she says. Generally does she let you take the lead and not shit-test too much? How are her relationships outside of the relationship? Is she LTR minded and guarded of her sex?
/r/askTRP27/04/15 07:34 PM
1

Ok. I'll see if she's game to meet at my place and escalate from there. 1 hour seems like an acceptable investment of time to judge receptivity.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 07:18 PM
1

No worries. Not even enough energy to seriously game. Definitely not going to orbit.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 07:16 PM
-4

Ok, I concede. She's a prospect. Do you just want to argue this one point...or don't you have any useful advice regarding my situation?
/r/askTRP27/04/15 04:23 PM
2

Normally I would say red-flag but if she's not responding to them and just deleting them it's possible she's getting messages from an ex she's not at all receptive to. Everything else you wrote makes her sound like a keeper so I would do a little more digging to see if she's actually responding to the messages first before you go nuclear.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 04:17 PM
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Mincing words. A prospect is a #-close IMO. A date is a plate whether or not you f-close.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 04:10 PM
2

This is some funny shit. If she didn't hear you or didn't make a big deal about it what's the problem? I had a plate once who I slept with and I ran into her at her work the next day and called her the wrong name. She knew I was a player and never returned any of my calls/texts after that and avoided me whenever I went in there again (grocery store). The funnies thing is I've never dated anybody with the name I mistakenly called her. Don't sweat it. More girls out there if you fuck up.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 02:56 PM
1

Another vote for Models. "The Game" is entertaining and insightful...also a cautionary tale.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 02:50 PM
2

I'm an INFP so I get where you are coming from. /u/abdada's suggestion to approach as much as possible works for some but isn't my favorite method. It certainly overcomes approach anxiety, a common problem. I think more progress is made from understanding the process of attraction and learning from mistakes. Lot's of good advice here but the one book I wish I'd read earlier is "Models" by Mark Manson. It would be helpful to breakdown what exactly you're approach is like. Are you direct? What do …
/r/askTRP27/04/15 02:47 PM
1

Dude, I can't give you any advice. I still have no idea what you're trying to say. Sounds like you've decided to next her. No real recipe for covering your ass other than the usual.
/r/askTRP27/04/15 02:31 PM
1

Source??
/r/askTRP27/04/15 02:27 PM
5

Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy."
/r/askTRP26/04/15 11:10 PM
1

We're losing him! Charge paddles! Clear! [Thud] We got him! We got him. Ok guys, whew that was close. (Op, you are feeling the pain of coming unplugged. This pain you feel is good. It means you're almost there. )
/r/askTRP26/04/15 11:06 PM
5

Or he's a candidate for MGTOW.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 10:57 PM
8

My thoughts exactly.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 10:49 PM
2

Rookie mistake.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 10:48 PM
8

WTf? Where are you getting this information?
/r/askTRP26/04/15 10:03 PM
2

Has she hit the wall already? I wouldn't be surprised if she has. I'm sure post wall woman with money can use that to get with the young hot stud that makes them feel 'young again.' It's not that uncommon from what I've heard.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 09:42 PM
7

I have good luck in coffee shops. I usually chat up the baristas and strike up conversations with girls who give me IOIs. Gyms are tough and generally considered a no-fly zone for gaming. Difficulty level: Hard-mode. Work is a definite no-fly zone.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 09:36 PM
1

Tits or GTFO. Yeah I looked in your history.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 09:08 PM
1

Good luck man. I'd be planning my exit strategy if I were you.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:57 PM
1

The most complete set of permutations of terms I've seen yet.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:48 PM
1

Diagnosis: Oneitis Treatment: Next. Work on self. Spin Plates.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/15 05:41 PM
1

Fix formatting. Can't read.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:40 PM
1

She's not your project anymore. You had your chance to shape her while she was with you. Best for both of you to move on. You don't have the stomach to keep her as a plate because you care too much.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:39 PM
1

Was she like this before the abortion or only after?
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:34 PM
1

You're dealing with someone who's bipolar and probably BPD (look it up). These type of people aren't generally long-term material but if you must, read this article. I just got out of a relationship with a girl like this. Wasn't pretty. Danger Will Robinson.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:32 PM
1

I have a 2x/wk max for plates usually just 1x/wk. Too easy for things to progress to feelz and more likely to blow up.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:26 PM
1

Tell her you'd like to see other people. She probably will break up with you, but she also will probably come running back in a week or two and want to fuck you. Keep fucking her as long as you can and now you have a plate. The real question is do you have the stomach to keep her as a plate once you've had her as your gf? You really have to get over the oneitis for this to work or you're back to square one.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:24 PM
1

This isn't a shit-test. Fuck, not ev ry thing that comes out of a woman's mouth is a shit-test.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:17 PM
2

Found the blue pill.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:14 PM
1

Lolz
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:10 PM
1

I like to slide into DMs like I slide into home plate knowwhatImsayin'? You gotta agree and amplify that shit and go for the gold like you're a gangsta which of course you are 'cuz home slice, that's just how it be yo! Make sure you DMV her while you give her those frosty tingles with some phisyQ. Don't forget to tap that cutty and make us brothers proud feelme? Coo...<fist bump, head nod>
/r/askTRP26/04/15 05:07 PM
1

You know how they say moving in with your friends is never a good idea? Well it's true. Have done it multiple times. I'd caution you against moving in with him.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 04:28 PM
3

Last year is a long-time ago and she wasn't interested in you then. Hard to say how interested she is now since you only had a 5min interaction. I would just say something like "Glad I ran into you the other day, let's get coffee/drinks soon and catch up." If she's receptive, set up a date and escalate from there.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 04:11 PM
1

Women are by and large attention and validation seeking machines. She's already got you as an orbiter ("friend"). It would be surprisingly difficult for you to mess this up. You're now like a stable electron in her orbital field. It would take a significant jump in energy to knock you out of her field. You haven't messed anything up yet and are making mountains out of molehills. Just treat her like you normally would. "We work well together, we should do something regularly next semester." is a …
/r/askTRP26/04/15 04:01 PM
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I dont give two fucks about this chick, i just want to know where i can improve. not bothered if she doesnt text me back You're full of shit OP. You obviously care if she texts you back. But ok...I'll bite. Everything up until its not nice midatlantic32... was a shit-test. You actually handled yourself pretty well up until the part quoted. me: Despite its size, it still fits your face! Then you took it too far. When she texts you back (she will) set up a date. Don't pussy foot around.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 03:50 PM
1

What are we talking here standards-wise? Banging something <=5? Or >5? Until you have more experience I'd say anything >=5 (5 and above) is on the menu until you have more experience. Basically this is anything that passes the boner test.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 03:37 PM
2

Sounds like your SMV has improved and she's starting to take notice. No harm in going for the plate IMO. Sounds though like she's not LTR material.
/r/askTRP26/04/15 03:31 PM
2

This reminds me of this bit of Bill Burr's comedy set Bill Burr is pretty RP. Love his shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/04/15 12:31 AM
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Same here. This is my rule. If you're part of my tribe your girl is safe with me. Otherwise beware!
/r/TheRedPill25/04/15 02:54 AM
1

How much do you need your job? If your job isn't that important to you that you need to worry about things going south. The fuck it. Bang the livin' shit out of her.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 02:17 AM
1

The darkness is strong in this one. Might as well go for broke.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 02:16 AM
2

Yep. OP, this is it.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 02:10 AM
1

Wow. You read books. Good for you. You obviously know everything so why don't you explain to us how this is supposed to work? I'll bet you can just talk your way into the panties of every hot girl you see walking down the street can't you?
/r/askTRP25/04/15 02:06 AM
2

You have oneitis. If she's asking you need to be a man about it and state your intentions. Lying or veiling the truth is blue pill behavior. Tell her like it is. It's her choice to stay or go. Learn to spin plates and develop abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 02:01 AM
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What is happening here? OP, from what I could gather from your vagueness (honestly your post is hard to understand) it sounds like you've already made up your mind and are just looking for affirmation. If that's the case you're in the wrong sub. Work on your communication.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 01:54 AM
0

It's a shit-test. Girls like cocky/confident/arrogant men even if they won't admit it. The more confident you are the more they will shit-test. Just keep doing what you're doing.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 01:48 AM
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Lone wolf introvert here. Strike up conversation with people. Compliments are always good for an opening. Also, no need to always be interacting with someone. Try to NGAF what other people think and just stand there like you belong. Nobody will question you. I always have better luck when I go out to bars alone when it comes to pulling chicks. Good luck.
/r/askTRP25/04/15 01:36 AM
1

No problem. Good luck.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 04:02 PM
2

If your fapping daily and watching porn it's time to quit that shit. It's probably just nerves or you thought about it too much. Accumulated stress such as insomnia can totally be a culprit. I've had this happen to me even with a plate I was comfortable with and usually didn't have any problems. Stress can be a huge boner killer if it gets out of control. If you think you might have problems try keeping some lube handy and either have her help get you hard or get yourself hard and then fuck. Or …
/r/askTRP24/04/15 03:59 PM
2

OP, you're spending way too much of your time in your head worrying about what she thinks. You did a good job hiding it though and she obviously likes you. Somehow you managed to actually respond decently via text and your IDGAF instincts are good. She flaked but offered an alternative so that means she's still interested but you're no Brad fucking Pitt. Just chill the fuck out and when you see her in class sit by her and act normal. Set up a date for Tue. Don't text her again unless she texts y…
/r/askTRP24/04/15 03:52 PM
3

Thank god. Some fuckin' truth up in here. I too have noticed the trend. This can't get enough upvotes. Somebody gild this motherfucker.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/15 07:12 AM
1

No man. If she's attractive escalate and lead physically. Some women are just shy.
/r/TheRedPill24/04/15 06:46 AM
1

This is a good little askTRP. I like that it was short and to the point with clear formatting. Too often I'm reading these walls of text with way too much information. Here's my two cents: You could go as far as having some stories to tell that you've thought out or written out in advance that demonstrate higher value or elicit certain reactions (i.e. seduction). Or accept that it's going to be awkward until you get some experience under your belt. Flirting is all about body language. Realize th…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/15 06:44 AM
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Case by case basis, but generally if she's willing to cheat it's her morals not mine that are compromised. I'm not the one doing the cheating and I'm not responsible for her choices in life. In the big scheme of things it's hard to see morality or ethics as black and white. I'm probably doing them both a favor in the long run. Either she stays happy and is more willing to put up with Mr. BB or it accelerates the process of separation. Either can be argued to be a positive outcome. I am but a ser…
/r/askTRP24/04/15 06:33 AM
2

This hasn't been my experience. Typically the hotter the woman is the more likely she is to shit-test me or blow me off. Women who are definitely not hot sometimes throw themselves at and are generally easier to game.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 06:23 AM
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I fuckin' love Ayn Rand. The Fountainhead is one of the most powerful pieces of liturature that I've ever read. Dude if you're in the midst of unplugging and are fuckin' angry just do you man. You gotta re - cal i brate the system, comprende? As long as you're not physically hurting anybody just do whatever the fuck you want. I remember when I was in that phaze. My favorite word was "no." Always ask yourself. Do I want this? If the answer is hell yes, say yes. If it's a maybe, say no. If it's a …
/r/askTRP24/04/15 06:06 AM
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I heard about a similar situation on a different show some time ago. Similar results. Eventually the producers caved and picked a couple men to intervene and help the women out with their camp because they were simply not capable of surviving. Also, I'll never forget a story a guy friend of mine told me a while back about his then girlfriend who was a hardcore feminist and gender studies major. They're out camping. Two couples. My friend says hey gals why don't you set up camp while me and other…
/r/TheRedPill24/04/15 05:54 AM
1

Fellow cyclist here. Some ladies love the rock hard thighs, ass and svelt torso. Pure gold where I'm from where there's an active cycling community. My SMV was high in that community because I used to be a bike mechanic as well. Nothing wrong with this. This sub and the basic tenets aren't the only recipe for success. What's more important is you are doing what you want to do and are the take charge type of guy. I'm sure Lance Armstrong is still slaying sum pussie. Non-issue if you have the othe…
/r/askTRP24/04/15 02:19 AM
0

She wants to 'broaden her horizons.' She's probably not thinking about cheating but the fact that she doesn't want you with her says she finds herself wondering. Remember AWALT. If she was really into you she wouldn't be able to fathom not being around you for more than a week. I'd do what /u/myrpaccount recommends.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 01:19 AM
1

RP is a mindset. Lifting and all of that can only get you part of the way. Although I won't deny it's confidence building effects. You sound stuck, overwhelmed, and unmotivated. I've totally been there. It's hard but you really have to pull yourself up by your bootstraps. Nobody is going to do it for you. I think this is one of the big lessons of becoming unplugged. Being a man is taking action and realizing that the world really doesn't give a shit about you. You need to build some positive mom…
/r/askTRP24/04/15 01:11 AM
2

Naw, I think he's already been doing that. He needs to start ramping it up and make some approaches.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 01:04 AM
1

Yep. Seduction is external game while Redpill is inner game. Inner game is true Alpha mentality and lifestyle. Seduction is just clever routines and acting and will only get you so far.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 01:02 AM
1

Don't lie to your parents. Just tell the truth. Time to grow up and start making decisions for yourself. Personally I think the Navy Seals are badass. If you can't tell your parents to shove it you're probably not Seal material. You think any of those guys gave a fuck about what their parents or friends thought before deciding to be a martial badass? Hoorah soldier.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 12:53 AM
1

Yeah dude. More deets.
/r/askTRP24/04/15 12:45 AM
1

The attraction is built during the in-person interactions not over text. There are too many ways to degrade an interaction over text so generally for the inexperienced players its better to just text for logistics or only if she texts you first. It sounds like she dug you. Chances are she will text you in the interim. Either way don't worry.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 11:35 PM
1

Often women will still give you their number even if they have a boyfriend if there's enough plausible deniability in the interaction. The hottest girls are rarely single so you often have to compete with whomever they're dating.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 11:27 PM
2

With the first girl did you stick around and talk some more after getting the number? If not, stick around and fluff a bit more so she doesn't get 'buyers remorse' and think you were just after her number. Otherwise, no problems there. You approached and number closed. Nice work. With the second you made your intentions too obvious and she raised her defences. Women are used to getting hit on so indirect openers tend to work better. I'm not a fan of scripted openers but open with something indir…
/r/askTRP23/04/15 11:25 PM
1

In these situations I always use what I call the Tim Ferriss "Hey I think you're really cute (gorgeous, hot) and I'd be kicking myself if I left here today and didn't at least ask you out." It's a hail mary, especially at the gym which is pretty much a no-fly zone. But you said she was a stunner and here you are kicking yourself for not making a move. I've closed a few times with this line.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 11:14 PM
1

"I'm a spy, I work for the CIA"
/r/askTRP23/04/15 10:53 PM
1

If they aren't your patient you can always cite 'plausible deniability.' You didn't know.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 10:52 PM
1

I hear where you are coming from. I was raised similarly and also love playing the part of the gentlemen. I think you have to understand how the TRP male female/dynamic works. She has to feel like she's earning what you give her and that you're her man. Get what I'm saying? As long as you're in charge you won't run into too many problems. Think Cary Grant in the movies. He's one smooth motherfucker and a perfect gentleman but he had the hotties of hollywood hanging off of his cock. Judy Garland …
/r/askTRP23/04/15 10:39 PM
1

Deflecting shit-tests is a mindset. There are no sequence of things to say like practicing lines from a script that will help you. You really have to have the confidence to NGAF. The best way to negate a shit-test often is not by saying anything at all.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 10:31 PM
1

Man, just lay it out for her. Either make her come to yours or say "If you want to see me we have to make plans in advance." It sounds like your doing the covert contract thing here (Nice Guy) where you are passive aggressively not available on a moments notice expecting her to just read your mind but getting butt hurt when she doesn't. Treat women like children. Lay it out for her plain and simple. "Here's how it's going to go sweetheart. You're going to figure out when your available and let m…
/r/askTRP23/04/15 10:28 PM
2

You're only chance of getting out of the friendzone with this chick is to next her. Why would you continue to hang around someone you have feelings for but who's never going to see you as anything more than just a friend? You need some guy friends. Read No More Mr. Nice Guy. Right now everything from your post up until when you told her "no" is textbook blue pill (nice guy).
/r/askTRP23/04/15 10:15 PM
2

I'm always amazed by these posts. Being physically masculine, while helpful, is only a small piece of it. Neil Strauss is a shrimp and yet he was at his prime considered one of the best PUAs in the world. What you have here is a serious 'limiting belief.' It's all in your head. Work on yourself and your game. There are plenty of examples of men with inferior genetics crushing the competition. Another good example I can think of off of the top of my head, Theodore Roosevelt.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 10:08 PM
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OP it's your job to handle logistics. You know your gf best but I would encourage you to ask yourself was planning a particularly romantic date on the night of a big exam she had really the best choice? Your gf sounds like she has a good track record and one slip up doesn't necessarily deserve punishment. This doesn't look like a shit-test to me. Yeah she probably should have called or texted but she did apologize and didn't just flake on you overall. My guess is she was sleep-deprived, stressed…
/r/askTRP23/04/15 10:00 PM
1

Nope.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 06:32 PM
1

As a general rule, if the girls are on tinder they are looking for ONSs, the relationship stuff is essentially ASD. Yep. Also check out Gatsby's Tinder Game The key is to secure a number or date early in the interaction. If you're spending a lot of time messaging you risk the girl being a validation whore who's just looking for attention.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 06:30 PM
1

NP. I've waited too and blew many opportunities. It's always better to just make the approach right away unless it is someone you know without a doubt you will be able to see again and run long-term game on. That girl yesterday wanted you to approach her. Your problem was you thought too much about what to say. Unless you're going to use scripted openers (not my thing). Just start a conversation about something. I usually open with "Hi." No need to avoid her work like the plague if it's someplac…
/r/askTRP23/04/15 06:02 PM
1

/r/marriedredpill Is your wife having sex with you or are you in a dead bedroom scenario? I'm not in a LTR so my solution is to game women outside of work.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 05:56 PM
1

NP. Good luck man.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 05:53 PM
1

Sounds like you've got some things figured out. Yeah, hang around after you get the number so she doesn't get 'buyers remorse' and think you were only interested in the number.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 05:51 PM
1

Np.
/r/askTRP23/04/15 05:46 PM
2

Oh man. This isn't an example of AWALT. OP, you need to work on your social skills. She probably just thought you were a weirdo or an asshole which you were. Basically your whole post comes off as really immature.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/15 05:36 PM
1

Not sure where you're getting this stuff. PUA definitely allows for compliments (have to be earned/deserved not supplicating behavior) and I've never read anywhere you shouldn't hold doors open for girls. TRP is more about the mindset of being an Alpha rather than just acting like one. TRP is inner game.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 05:05 PM
1

No surprise there. Man, keep her on the back burner. Never know when she might be in your neck of the woods...knowwhatImsayin?
/r/TheRedPill22/04/15 04:59 PM
1

I think this is a non-issue. Ask her about it or not. It's up to you. Doesn't seem like it should be a big deal. It probably doesn't mean anything OP.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 04:35 PM
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/r/marriedredpill
/r/askTRP22/04/15 04:31 PM
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Giving girls your number is a hail mary. They never call. I hate to say it but those numbers you gave out? They don't mean anything. There is the rare exception but my guess is your game needs work so no. Work on your game and next time don't ask for the number or give yours. At the most say "...this was fun, let's hang out again sometime, how can we do that?" If she's interested she'll give you her number. You have oneitis over the girl who you keep showing up at her work week after week. I adm…
/r/askTRP22/04/15 04:24 PM
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Unmarried guy here. Somehow I stumbled onto this sub from TRP. I think there are a lot of lessons here about having successful LTRs. I've learned a lot from what I've read here. This should definitely be on the TRP sidebar in my opinion. You guys are playing the relationship game on hard-mode. Lots of lessons here I think would be of value.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/15 04:01 PM
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If you're thinking "How can I get her to...(anything)" you're in the wrong frame of mind. Women are like sand. The harder you try to grasp the more quickly they slip through your fingers. Work on yourself and make yourself a priority. If you care about a woman validating herself to you you already care too much.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 03:54 PM
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Read "Models" by Mark Manson. Apply.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 03:50 PM
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Have you read the sidebar? Your post makes me feel like even if you have you didn't understand any of it.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 03:48 PM
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Congratulations.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 03:41 PM
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A sample size of two is not really statistically representative. I think you hit the nail on the head here. Don't worry about the sex for now. Continue working on yourself. See what happens after you've fucked a handful of women and then if you're still having problems write a nice little FR for trp.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 03:37 PM
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Tobacco shops. Where I'm from we have them where you can smoke inside. Cigars pipes and what not. I sometimes go there with my guy friends and smoke.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 07:57 AM
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Hmmm...not sure what to tell you then. Do you desire sex in general or is that also something where you feel like you could 'take it or leave it?' If it is in fact the case that you desire sex in general but just aren't having very good sex then I think a few things might be going on. You're not experienced enough with sex to know what you really like, your partners haven't been very good at sex up until this point, or both. The solution to both of those is just to have more sex with more women …
/r/askTRP22/04/15 07:52 AM
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I think there's something to be said for growing up in an RP type culture. It's just basic statistics. Most western women are riding the CC when they're young and 'liberated feminists.' This makes them bad candidates for a LTR and decreases their value. In other countries there's less of this going on. Of course you should always be improving and if you're stuck here by all means do everything within your power. Who knows, maybe unicorns do exist?
/r/TheRedPill22/04/15 07:45 AM
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Seconded.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 07:36 AM
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Agreed. Maybe you need a vacation. It sounds like you're burnt out. Take some R&R man. After you do that I noticed you didn't list a hobby. You need a hobby, something you do that's just for you, outside of work/gf obligations. Acting will only get you so far. Don't worry about your gf. Just worry about yourself for now. Don't change everything all at once. Too overwhelming. Pick one thing you want to change and figure out what next step you can take tomorrow and do that.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/15 07:30 AM
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I agree with others have said. Right idea about valuing yourself but you took too hard of a line. Also, I've realized through much experience that women are almost chronically at least 15 minutes late to ev ery thing. I just budget for this at least initially with someone. It's just to be expected. AWALT. Only way to change this is to make your expectations known after respect has been earned.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 07:11 AM
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Spin so many plates outside of work that your dick is consistently so sated that any more sex would be a chore. You need the "I just got laid" eyes instead of the "I haven't been laid in forever" eyes. Dating women at work is playing with fire. Most consider it a bad idea. Personally I've done it a few times. Didn't lead to any serious consequences but then again I lucked out and those jobs were easily replaceable. If you want to play with fire, by all means, just be ready to get burned and own …
/r/askTRP22/04/15 07:04 AM
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You are overthinking this. Set your priorities for what you want to happen and schedule your dates accordingly. Asking Tinder girl over to your place before meeting is a hail marry. It's a big red flag if she's willing to meet a man at his place before meeting him. It means she's crazy or at the very least makes terrible choices. Your best bet is to meet her somewhere public that is easy to transition to your place if you want to go for the bang.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 06:58 AM
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Texting a couple times a week and calling seems excessive. Texting her or calling once in a while is probably fine but make sure you're not putting more into the interaction than she is.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 06:52 AM
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Not sure. My close rates with day game aren't the best but once in a while one will turn into something. Tonight for example I had a girl I opened at the coffee shop turn into an impromptu date. It's been a few months since that's happened and I've definitely number closed a few times. I've heard 10% f-close rates with mPUAs is typically the best anybody can do. Not sure how accurate this is but the number is generally agreed upon. How does the interaction usually go? Are you typically leaving r…
/r/askTRP22/04/15 06:43 AM
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I think the "never miss twice" is a pretty good rule. Read a good article that a talks about it here.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 06:36 AM
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Yes. That's the spirit. No expectations. Guaranteed you will get further if you don't make those two things the goal.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 06:32 AM
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This is a pretty good article over an heartiste and set of graphs that illustrates at what age range men typically find women attractive. On average men find women most attractive in their early twenties. While women's perception of attractiveness changes as they age. I think hitting the wall is when women start to notice their sexual power is waning. This is different for different women. Agreed, some women if they take care of themselves physically and didn't party too hard or get too much sun…
/r/askTRP22/04/15 06:28 AM
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All of this is just hamstering. The correct response was "Sir, yes sir!" Now quit being a fucking pussy and go talk to some chicks! You have your orders. You are dismissed soldier.
/r/askTRP22/04/15 01:09 AM
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Dude, what the fuck happened?!?! I totally gave you all the moves you needed on that post yesterday and you didn't do anything?!?! And now you're here asking the same shit again. If you're here asking the same shit again I'm going to come over there give you a swift kick in the ass. Man the fuck up and go talk to her! It doesn't matter what you say. There are no correct moves. There's only do or do not. You miss every chance you never take. Just fucking get off of your sorry ass and have a fucki…
/r/askTRP22/04/15 12:10 AM
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Never live with your friends. I've done this several times and it was a mistake every time. It's easier to negotiate a good roomate relationship with someone you're not as close with. Just be straight with your friend that you don't think it's a good idea. If he's a reasonable human being he'll understand even if he doesn't like it.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 11:59 PM
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It's quite possible that although she's ridden the CC you have set the new high point for her and are more Alpha to her at least than all of the other guys. I feel like I've been that guy with several women myself. Not meaning to brag but I've been a lot of women's firsts in the bedroom with stuff and have raised the bar for them as far as I could tell. My problem used to be getting them into the bedroom but never not knowing what to do once I got them there. If this is the positing you're in OP…
/r/askTRP21/04/15 11:53 PM
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/u/XXXmormon this needs to be a TRP post of it's own. Good stuff.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 11:41 PM
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I feel you OP. I've dealt with depression on and off for years now. I'm pretty RP these days but it always comes creeping back from time to time. I had a plate who was my main plate last year completely bail on me when I had a meltdown in front of her. We were good friends and had been dating/fucking for about 6mo. at this point. She was pretty into me too. I totally lost frame and went beta one night, tears, existential crisis, it was pretty pathetic, and the next week we were old news. Plate d…
/r/TheRedPill21/04/15 11:35 PM
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I haven't read sex god method but it sounds like you might need to read it again. Learn to dominate and fuck like a champ and guaranteed you'll have women coming back to jump on your dick over and over again. They say on here that we should just use women for our pleasure and not worry about theirs. I think that's good conditioning for the beta whose only worried about the girls pleasure. But truly sexing a woman in the most amazing ways possible is an art form and is like dancing where you lead…
/r/askTRP21/04/15 11:22 PM
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I think the majority of guys are too afraid to escalate physically. I think it takes a lot of balls to be overly touchy feely for guys who are still killing the inner beta. I'm right there with you, but learning to escalate is the shortcut to banging on the first date. It short-circuits the female brain and gets them viewing you as a physical/sexual being. Guys who are overly handsy always get the girls. Girls are sensual creatures. Learn to be comfortable touching to emphasize points in convers…
/r/askTRP21/04/15 11:11 PM
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Seconded. OP, gaining for the naturally high metabalism guys is about eating way more than you're comfortable with. Also, there's a chapter in "The Four Hour Body" about making rapid muscular gains called "Geek to Freek." Basically eat a shit-ton of protein and do 5x5s at the gym 2-3x/wk.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 11:06 PM
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We're here to help you but it only works if you have an open mind. You asked your question now learn how to listen. We're not going to hold your hand. If you want that you can saunter over to r/relationships
/r/askTRP21/04/15 11:00 PM
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Yep OP. At the most make her a plate but never again your gf. I think though even the plate status is playing with fire. Not for the faint of heart.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 10:55 PM
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I think the logical next step for some is to read up on stoicism. Check out this article: stoicism. And a really good book on stoicism and how to apply: "The Obstacle Is The Way"
/r/askTRP21/04/15 10:53 PM
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I think killing the beta is about mindset. You're on the right track with everything you're doing already. I'd say just keep doing what you're doing and if you stick with the program you should be fine. The RP mentality will become second nature with time. I think Monk Mode is a double edged sword. For some it's good to learn not to need validation from women. For others it's a cop-out because they're too afraid to approach and risk rejection. Decide which one you are and act accordingly. But if…
/r/askTRP21/04/15 10:46 PM
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Sound advice. Make her work for your provisioning. Don't bail just because she asked if everything else is going well.
/r/askTRP21/04/15 10:30 PM
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Great book on game IMO. I read it a few months ago and wish I had read it a long time ago. It's a pretty good primer on TRP style game.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 11:59 PM
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It doesn't matter if I'm in a group of guys or solo, if you were attractive and giving me IOIs I'd probably make an approach but I'm not most guys and neither are most of the guys on this sub. Chances are the younger guys are self-conscious and worried about being ridiculed/judged by their friends.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 11:54 PM
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Cool man. Thanks. I'll have to check that out. Agreed virgins are no guarantee. All the same strategies apply.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 10:00 PM
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If you have no interest in settling down why are you in a LTR? It sounds like she's hitting the wall and is looking for Mr. Dad. Also, why LTR a girl who's ridden the CC like a champ? Triple digits is a HUGE red flag. It's up to you how forthright you want to be. If it were me..."Sorry toots, I'm not interested in having kids or getting married anytime soon, you need to decide if that works for you..." Then let her decide. You don't care because 'abundance mentality.' No way to avoid the shit-st…
/r/askTRP20/04/15 09:41 PM
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It sounds like you're decently experienced but perhaps you didn't escalate enough in other ways during the date? Touching her in various ways and leading physically during the date. You could try flipping the script "I'm really not that easy and I don't normally get really physical with girls right away. I like to get to know people before I get physical with them." "You better stop looking at me like you want to get in my pants. I'm not a slut." I've had good luck with this.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 09:15 PM
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Moral compunction aside. Cheating on your spouse is a perfectly valid sexual strategy. /u/BluePillProfessor has a good point. With a dead bedroom, what can she really expect you to do? History shows that marriage was a largely political institution and only in some cases developed into a primarily monogamous society. By and large though men frequently exchanged favors for sex outside of marriages. Man has a long history of mistresses and sexual infidelity. I might suggest reading "The Red Queen"…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/04/15 08:53 PM
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Seconded. It's really about what you want OP. If you're content spinning plates and don't want an LTR then do that. If you're ready for an LTR and tired of spinning plates then do that. It sounds though like you're are getting attached to this girl and you're asking us if there's a way you can have your cake and eat it too. In most cases no but there are exceptions. A RPW isn't going to settle for plate status forever and is eventually going to want a LTR. Exceptions to the rule: Option 1: Turn …
/r/askTRP20/04/15 08:35 PM
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Hard to say if she's referring to you or not. Unless you can tell she's a psycho proceed with caution. If she's giving you major red flags, Next!
/r/askTRP20/04/15 08:20 PM
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Agreed, not everyone needs a study. Personally what I found compelling about TRP is that it agrees with evolutionary theory. Quite a bit of TRP sexual strategy stems from "The Red Queen." You can trace back the origins of Mystery style game back to this seminal work as well.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 08:01 PM
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Respectfully I disagree. Quite a bit of TRP theory is founded on evolutionary theory which is founded on sound scientific studies and evidence. We're biological creatures with instinctual drives. Unplugging is realizing that despite what we believe, or were taught, or even what makes reasonable sense people behave in ways that go beyond these things and are actually typical to us as a species and primarily instinctual. Without this sort of credible underpinning we don't have a way to sift throug…
/r/askTRP20/04/15 07:53 PM
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I posted in askTRP about this to get more information. Here are the results: post This TRP post offers pretty convincing evidence and was one of the replies to my post: post
/r/askTRP20/04/15 07:47 PM
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This is what I was looking for. Thank you! My curiosity now is what is the cause biologically of this phenomenon? We have a neurobiological understanding of pair bonding. However, without a PHD in neuroscience can't really pursue this hypothesis on my own.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 07:40 PM
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Yes, anecdotal evidence supports this theory. My curiosity is if science has caught up to provide evidence for why this is the case. The underpinnings of TRP are based largely on evolutionary theory and our species sexual strategies which come from sound scientific sources. I'm curious if there are studies to support this particular tenet of TRP theory.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 07:35 PM
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From my own observations yes, I can see this. I'm interested if science is somehow able to back up this claim. My theory is that the neurochemicals and neuropathways related to pair bonding are affected by 'overuse.'
/r/askTRP20/04/15 07:33 PM
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http://socialpathology.blogspot.com.au/2010/09/sexual-partner-divorce-risk.html Study showed women with higher partner counts before marriage where more likely to get divorced. Although I couldn't find any evidence that there is a neurochemical basis for this. I think though if you re-read what you just wrote, we're actually making the same point, just in different ways.
/r/askTRP20/04/15 01:03 AM
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No, actually this is pretty standard TRP theory. Go read more of the sidebar. You're using anecdotal evidence to support your claim while there's scientific evidence to support mine.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 10:50 PM
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This OP.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 10:02 PM
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I can relate. You know what me and my siblings used to call my dad growing up? "Mr. Safety Man." Yep, that's right. The world and everything in it is a pretty dangerous place. My father was pretty beta bux. Let's my Mom walk all over him, order him around like a servant, and belittle him to this day. A lot of other fucked up shit happened over the years in my family. I hardly ever talk to them anymore except on holidays. I think your best bet is to try to get as much as you can out of this sub, …
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 09:44 PM
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You can't force-feed anybody the red pill. You have to want to unplug or have a paradigm shifting realization. Nobody can do that for you. The only thing OP can do is hope and pray.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 09:40 PM
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There is scientific evidence that a woman's ability to pair bond is diminished in direct correlation with how many partners she's had. There's no such evidence for Men. (Not sure of the source on this...) Basically, women can't bond emotionally with future lovers if they've ridden the CC for too long. Men don't lost the ability to bond.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 09:29 PM
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Most attractive women will already have plans for weekends and so should you, it presents yourself as higher value. Week nights are less threatening because they're lower expectation also. This isn't a hard and fast rule IMO.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 09:26 PM
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Yeah, that's fine. Leaving before her is a stronger move since it makes it seem like you have more important things to do which will demonstrate higher value. You can just go somewhere else and study right?
/r/askTRP19/04/15 09:21 PM
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If I were you I would pack up my stuff as if I'm going to leave, then re-engage her in conversation. After a few minutes throw this in, "...hey, I've gotta run but I'd love to continue this interaction with you, how can we do that?" nine times out of ten if she's interested she'll say, here's my number. If she gives you her number, chat with her a bit more so that she doesn't get buyers remorse and think you were only interested in getting her phone number. After a few minutes say something like…
/r/askTRP19/04/15 09:15 PM
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You're letting approach anxiety get the better of you and over-thinking things. My best opener to date? "Hi." You can say nearly anything if you say it with the right presence/body language. Just talk to her. Try not to psych yourself out. Let your personality do the attracting for you. Don't worry about the number. It's not about the number. It's about the interaction. The number is a like a bookmark in the interaction saving your place for when you can pick it up again. Not knowing what to do …
/r/askTRP19/04/15 09:05 PM
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Something's up OP. Sounds like she was probably testing the waters somewhere else and decided it wasn't as good as she thought it was. If she didn't have anything to hide she would have been up front about where she was. I'd be on the look-out for her to branch swing. Some light dread might help restore the balance.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 08:56 PM
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You run the risk of showing too much interest IMO. Less is more. It's always better to escalate sexually in person. If you don't already have a sense of what to say you risk putting your foot in your mouth over text. Sounds like she's DTF though OP by already setting a sexual tone, swing for the fences on Fri.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 08:50 PM
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Check out Gatsby's Tinder Game
/r/askTRP19/04/15 08:46 PM
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I agree. Riding the CC damages the ability to pair-bond. However, you can set the bar higher if you're the most Alpha guy she's been with. Unfortunate for those that follow, but not your problem. Someone had to apha-widow a hoe. Why can't that guy be you?
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 08:32 PM
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Specific examples? Hard to tell what might be going on based on what you've described.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:06 PM
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Which one of them is Hawaiian?
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:03 PM
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Appropriate user name.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 02:46 PM
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I'm busy. You're going to have to cook you're own food. Help her with the bags. Physical superiority = physical dominance = alpha. Use dread. However, this only works if you have sufficient smv. Raise your smv first, then dread to get sex. Stop cleaning the apartment. Just pick up after yourself as if she was your roomate. Lift. Every day ask yourself. "What do I want?" Do/get those things.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 02:32 PM
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If you're going to visit her at work bring another girl(s) with you or a group including some girls. Otherwise just set something up for when she's not at work.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 02:27 PM
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Fitting user name. Eye for an eye?
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 02:18 PM
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Sounds like a good plan. Good luck.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 02:11 PM
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Lol. Never had a girl request pissing. Not my thing either. Used to have trouble with the slapping...overly physically dominant, but getting over-it.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 04:49 AM
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Lift. Spin Plates. Next. Bro shake...wut?
/r/askTRP19/04/15 04:46 AM
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If you need help wiping the shitstain out of your panties, then I will just tell you to stop shitting your pants and don't bother me next time. Priceless.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 04:42 AM
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This is totally my plan. Going to go traveling for an extended period of time abroad and find me a girl where their culture isn't completely fucked.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 04:36 AM
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shove your girls face in the toilet while fucking her up the ass. Have not tried this. Just gonna file this away for later...
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 04:35 AM
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This is why you gotta push their boundaries. Create the new highlight reel. "Sex God Method." Do things they've never done before!
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 04:33 AM
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Either that or you gotta be better than the rest! But even then..."I just keep gettin' older and they just stay the same age!"
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 04:29 AM
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Abstinence? Gay sex? ;-)
/r/askTRP19/04/15 04:25 AM
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I wouldn't ignore todays text. Text her what you quoted earlier. The rule of thumb is to not text her more than she's texting you. E.g. don't initiate texting as often and in an approximate 2 to her 3 ratio of texting verbosity/# of texts. Most will say, just text to set up logistics which is fine too.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 04:10 AM
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Probably will get some good advice here but you might consider going over to r/sex and see what they have to say about this. If you get into the erotic-asphyxiation stuff that can be pretty dangerous. Best to educate yourself first IMO.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 04:05 AM
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Just text her when you're ready to make plans with her. Most girls won't bring up making plans. Making plans is the domain of men. Whether it's today or a couple days from now I don't think it's going to matter much. She showed enough interest by texting you today how your day was.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 04:02 AM
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Movies are generally not recommended esp. on first date. Personally I do drinks/coffee or some kind of activity like a bike-ride. Then I try to transition to something else like going for a walk, then maybe dinner or back to my place for another "activity." If you transition to more different activities a sense of time dilation will take place where you're date will feel like you've spent more time together than you actually have. This makes it easier to escalate quicker. You can read more about…
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:48 AM
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Read "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and apply.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:43 AM
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"eehh its going, been busy studying for my board exam next week" Is a fine response. Show's you have a life and are doing things for you. I know this sub is all about banging the girl as soon as humanly possible...maybe I'm a bit more of a Don Juan but I kind of enjoy the art of seduction and stretching things out a bit sometimes. Why rush things? Not fucking on the first date doesn't always equal failure. Tell her your busy until after your exams but try to schedule something for after.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:39 AM
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Me: What you doing today? Let's do something before I go home. Her: I'm about to help [friend] with math. I work at 5 gotta leave at like 4:30. I would have went NC after this text. If she really wanted to see you she would have offered an alternative or perhaps texted you later. You seemed too eager after this point and I think probably lost some Alpha points with her. When in doubt think: I'm a high value male. What would a high value male do in this situation? Would a high value male continue…
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:27 AM
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You need to read this: Introverts Guide
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:20 AM
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Agreed. Not everything that comes out of a womans mouth is a shit-test. (although that would simplify things significantly if it were the case!)
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:17 AM
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I'd leave things open ended to be mysterious and try to set-up a date sooner rather than later.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:15 AM
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I think you're asking the wrong question. Being perceived as a player is a good thing. Actually girls will shit-test you harder which is what you're running into and probably give you more LMR to prove to themselves 'they're not like all the other girls.' Just amused mastery or something and escalate as usual. In theory nobody likes a player but in practice they really really do. AWALT.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:10 AM
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OP it sounds like she's a bit flakey and you maybe didn't escalate and demonstrate enough Alpha on the first date to make her soak her panties. But you're still in the game, typically a girl won't offer to reschedule or continue texting if they aren't interested. I'd go cold for a few days to apply some light dread and then hit her up and try to schedule a date #2. Edit: looks like I'm late to the party. Curious to see how this plays out OP. Update?
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:05 AM
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Yes this is true he's no Brad Pitt in her eyes. However, sometimes you have to play the game to get the girl decide she's into you if you don't empirically have that kind of social proof. So far she's into him but not enough to prioritize him over family and work obligations. Girls at that age are notoriously flaky. Since she is always offering to reschedule and continues to show interest by texting etc. I think OP still has a stake in the game.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 03:00 AM
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Most men are betas these days. Personally I only next my beta guy friends if they are unhealthy or particularly negative to be around. Turn yourself into a RPer and you'll become the AMOG. This translates into social proof which will get you laid. RP men are hard to find but I hear gyms or martial arts as /u/MetalliMunk says are good places to try to befriend Alpha guys.
/r/askTRP19/04/15 02:54 AM
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It sounds like the guy she's dating is pretty beta and the fact that she didn't tell him about you says she was initially interested in branch swinging or at least a taste of the strange. It's counter-intuitive but you actually get further with women if you take the side of the bf and even point out ways you are similar to them. At the party just be aloof but don't avoid her entirely which will seem petty or not confident. You may get a second chance with her but it's unlikely. You'll have to se…
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 02:45 AM
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I also have a rule not spent more than 10 bucks on a first date. Good rule. I'll never forget how on my first date with my ex I only had about $20 to my name...lol. Took her out for ice-cream and went dutch. Just goes to show you don't need to be rolling in the dough if you have sufficient game.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 01:10 AM
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I think this is a good rule for a more experienced guy but if you are inexperienced how are you going to learn anything if you next a girl after just one date? I think for guys still tightening up their game letting things play out a little longer can lead to many valuable learning experiences you wouldn't get otherwise.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 01:04 AM
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Yep. Too many times I tried to date "good christian girls," in my BP days becoming continually frustrated. If the girl doesn't put out after 3 or 4 encounters chances are she's probably not going to.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 01:02 AM
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So the general consensus on here which I won't dispute is to next, whether that's hard next or soft next, a girl who friend-zoned you. However in terms of the soft-next, there is a recourse that doesn't involve just giving up completely. It requires a fair bit of game and is a decent amount of work to pull off, but possible, in my experience. There's this video of how to do it that explains better: Friendzone Destroyer. There's a lot of info which I won't bother getting into here. I've done this…
/r/askTRP19/04/15 12:54 AM
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I think she was either going to fuck you or was just trying to recruit a orbiter. Yep. Initially she was interested but you probably didn't escalate enough or display enough alpha qualities the first couple dates to entice her to branch swing (if indeed she's seeing someone else, sometimes they will just say that). It also did sound quite butthurt. Yep. You killed any chance you had to bang her in the future by being rude. "Call me when you realize how much he sucks compared to me" comes off as …
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 12:44 AM
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OP, this is more appropriate posted in /r/askTRP. Don't dilute the TRP forum with questions about game, how to apply trp, or what to do in specific situation here.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 12:34 AM
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I've been developing a theory lately that the crazy volatile ones are perhaps also the ones that are just on the extreme side of what we know as 'woman.' This explains a lot of why the hot nymphos are the crazy ones. To date all of the most mind-blowing sex I've had has been with the hottest craziest girls. Girls I would never consider having a LTR with. Thing is this was before TRP. They shittested me hard and usually I maintained frame but there were definitely times when they wore me down. Ev…
/r/TheRedPill19/04/15 12:07 AM
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Never wash plates. Spin them. They will wash themselves! Dirty, filthy, platesies! ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/15 11:54 PM
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I agree with you OP. My LTRs in the past I had loyal, loving, gfs who wouldn't think of cheating on me. I was definitely Alpha enough for those relationships and in the end it was me doing the breaking up every time. However, I think especially in the west and as women age they become damaged goods. They ride the CC for too long and you really can't trust them because they can't pair-bond and likely have adopted some feminazi mindset to hamster away their dissatisfaction with their lot in life. …
/r/TheRedPill18/04/15 11:42 PM
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How old are you OP? Low testosterone is a real thing. Fortunately there are solutions and I don't just mean 'roids. Although, it appears from you post that your issue is most likely psychological. Do as /u/fnordsnord recommends and HARD NEXT.
/r/askTRP18/04/15 11:35 PM
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Her friending you on FB the very next day is a huge IOI in my opinion. Personally I feel like more often than not the trail goes cold quickly unless you made a really solid first impression. Even then, it's harder to close the longer you let things drag on. I would pursue option 1. if I were you. It sounds like you encountered her ASD and didn't have sufficient game to overcome. I always have an 'excuse' to have the girl to my place or hers. For example "I've been working on this new piece (I pl…
/r/askTRP18/04/15 11:21 PM
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You have to win his trust and respect before he's going to listen to you if you don't already have those two things already. I'd focus on that, which could take considerable time. This isn't something you will likely be able to solve with one conversation.
/r/askTRP18/04/15 11:01 PM
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It is not your job to be his dad. True but given that there is a dearth of RP men around these days, having an RP role model can hardly be a bad thing. Thinking in terms of a larger scope isn't it a man's duty as a leader to take care of one's tribe? This can certainly extend to cousins. Also, if we as men who are unplugged are going to stem the tide of feminism and blue-pillerism we need to extend our generosity to those around us when we can.
/r/askTRP18/04/15 10:58 PM
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Sometimes you have to set boundaries with your guy friends too. Yelling at them might not be the best approach though. Idealy you set your expectations before it get's to the point where you need to blow up. So yes and no, you did the right thing by eventually setting boundaries but probably not soon enough.
/r/askTRP18/04/15 10:18 PM
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If it was as simple as just 'playing the right key' don't you think guys would have figured it out a long time ago? It's not that simple. That's why we're all here on askTRP comparing notes. Read up on the sidebar and go out and approach some women. Write up a FR so we can give you more constructive feedback.
/r/askTRP18/04/15 10:13 PM
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Why get married? Unless you're interested in having kids anytime soon I would hold out for marriage. That's giving up your commitment and your last scrap of power in the relationship. She's quickly approaching the wall and if she doesn't realize it consciously she realizes it at least subconsciously. 7mo. isn't long enough to see all of someones negative personality traits and things could change quickly after you tie the knot if you're not consistently on top of your game. Let me ask you this, …
/r/askTRP18/04/15 10:04 PM
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It's a non-issue. Not true. Devout christian girls can be a tough nut to crack, but then again they're a rarity where I'm from. Depends on the beliefs/strength of faith of the girl. In my experience more trouble than they're worth. If I were you OP I would escalate and set a limit to how many attempts you're willing to make to fuck before you "next" and pursue other plates.
/r/askTRP18/04/15 09:37 PM
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Troll!
/r/askTRP18/04/15 03:28 AM
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As someone who also enjoys prostate stimulation I'm going to weigh in here. I agree the big black dildo part and if your girl were to wear a strapon and fuck you with it that might be too emasculating for her to continue to perceive you as alpha. But if you're alpha in other aspects of the relationship and are dominant in the bedroom then I don't see why this should make much difference. Most women like to please their man if he's an Alpha. As long as she see's this as her pleasing you then I th…
/r/askTRP18/04/15 02:23 AM
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Don't stick your dick in crazy. Fuck, by why does it feel so good doe?
/r/TheRedPill18/04/15 01:52 AM
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Get yourself some nice business cards. Get the hoe to roll down her window. Then casually toss your business card in the window. Wink at her and give her a nice creepy smile and say "Call me." Similar for the hoe walking down the street.
/r/askTRP18/04/15 01:36 AM
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Pretty much every plate goes over the shoulder at some point as I carry them to the bedroom. Works like a charm every time.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/15 11:47 PM
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EC is that ephedrine and caffeine?
/r/askTRP17/04/15 11:42 PM
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The Slow Carb Diet is pretty effective. I've used this for several years.
/r/askTRP17/04/15 11:39 PM
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Read the sidebar. Women aren't interested in casual sex the same way men are because from an evolutionary perspective women have so much more to lose while men have more to gain.
/r/askTRP17/04/15 11:11 PM
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Just read up on Lucifer's Daughter. That's some scary shit. Similar to BPD. My mom was similar but not a complete psychopath as described in the link.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 02:36 AM
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Agreed. Grew up with a beta dad and cheating Mom (not the half of it). My Dad should have left her when he found out. They'd both be better off IMO and it would have been less hellacious for us kids in the long run.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 02:28 AM
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I think if she did the cute girl game thing on you, that's evidence she still views you as her captain. Squeeling corroborates this. I say it's a tie 1/2-1/2. If you bent her over and fucked her on the new bed right after then you both win. "Sometimes you have to lose the battle to win the war." Am I right?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 02:18 AM
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/u/HannahFree, could be your husband is low on testosterone which is why he's not as horny...but you could try to get him to do this supplement protocol: sex machine protocol.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 02:00 AM
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Could be that your testosterone levels are low which is why you're not as horny. There is however a supplement protocol to alleviate this I've found: sex machine protocol. The short-term protocol is pretty fun if you're planning a particularly animal fuck session.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/15 01:53 AM
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Love this. This is exactly what they need.
/r/TheRedPill17/04/15 01:01 AM
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5/7 days a week lifting seems like a lot to me. I'd be worried about overtraining (or not training hard enough the days you do lift). If you're relatively new to lifting I'd focus on the core lifts outlined in this guide www.rippedbody.jp and not worry too much about the arm size discrepency. Consider backing off to a 3x/wk lifting schedule until you're sufficiently trained/experienced to not risk injury.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/15 10:39 PM
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Wrist weights while fapping?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/04/15 10:35 PM
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"It's a two way street sweetheart, if you wanted to talk to me why didn't you say something?"
/r/askTRP16/04/15 10:32 PM
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No actually, I got that.
/r/askTRP16/04/15 10:28 PM
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Right, or make it as little work for yourself as possible. "I'd love to Kim, but I'm really busy right now, why don't you drop by my place though, 10pm work for you?" Although OP did say she was crazy, stalker, wait in the bushes, crazy. So maybe more trouble than it's worth.
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 10:17 PM
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Didn't really start to work on my confidence until I was 28 (now 30). You're never to young to start IMO.
/r/askTRP16/04/15 10:07 PM
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How was the sex that night OP?
/r/TheRedPill16/04/15 09:52 PM
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Be careful with this one. Girls who are LTR material wouldn't be in such close contact with an ex and be potentially staying with them. Demote her to plate status and spin other plates would be my advice.
/r/askTRP16/04/15 09:34 PM
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It sounds like she doesn't have a choice in leaving to do coursework for her program. How is that taking you for granted? I get it though, waiting a month or so for sex is frustrating. This raises the question, is this really what you want? Gf or the opportunity to fuck other girls?
/r/askTRP16/04/15 09:24 PM
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I disagree. I think where you work, how much you care about your job, and the sanity (if it can be judged) of the girl are all factors. I used to work in restaurants and everybody is fucking like rabbits in the service industry. You're not going to get fired, possibly make work life awkward for a while, if you fuck a co-worker. Management isn't going to fire you because chances are they're doing it too! If you're in a more serious role in a career you'd like to stay in then maybe the consequence…
/r/askTRP15/04/15 10:51 PM
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Agreed. Start some light dread.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 10:42 PM
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I think you should only use dread if you need to, e.g. she's shit-testing you, dead bedroom, or you have reason to believe she's preparing to branch swing. It sounds like your SMV is high enough and there's already enough implied dread to keep her loyal. No need to go too heavy or it could potentially back-fire.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 10:36 PM
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She was testing you for commitment. It's pretty typical for a plate to do that a few months in. Somehow you showed her enough that she thinks there's at least a chance so she wants you back. It's up to you if you want to keep going or next her. I think though she's going to keep testing (probably harder the next time) you until you either break up with her or she realizes you're not willing to commit.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 10:30 PM
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I think it's more about how you say what you say than it is about what you say. I've tried explaining this stuff to some of the women I've dated and I just get that look from them that says "I'm really not sure what you're trying to say but I like listening to you talk, so I'm just going to sit here and do that." Some women get it though. I've met a couple christian women who already have the RPW mentality and are actively looking for a "captain" like guy if they haven't found one already. I cou…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 10:21 PM
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It's posts like this that keep me coming back to MRP even though I'm not in a LTR. Making decisions well is the hallmark of a good leader and this post is a well written break down of what that entails not just in relationships but in life.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/04/15 10:03 PM
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Shit test...maybe. I think sometimes on this sub, everything is a shit test. Most women just blab about whatever is on their mind and it's not always a shit test.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 09:17 PM
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Why not just say what you really think? "I don't know...he seems pretty cool to me" then change the subject. Don't let her dwell on it with you or you'll become her emotional tampon.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 09:14 PM
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Some girls are just not going to sleep with you within the first few hours. It sounds like you were getting plenty of IOIs during the two encounters. When a girl says they're not going to sleep with you it's a good sign. It means they're thinking about it, but they don't want you to think they're a slut. It's the obligatory "I'm not a slut" (even though I really am... AWALT). Read up on LMR and how to overcome. Don't make getting sex the goal...paradoxically this will get you there far easier.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 09:09 PM
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I disagree: kissing during the date is fine and helpful to escalate IMO.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 09:05 PM
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OP, what goal are you trying to achieve with your lifting? Physique? Strength? Strength/Endurance? Define the goal and then research the most effective way to get there.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 09:01 PM
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OP, you shouldn't be raw doggin' her. Wrap that shit up unless you want to put yourself at risk for a STI let alone an unwanted pregnancy. All other things being equal. Why next her if you still enjoy fucking her and she's not giving you any trouble? Just wrap that shit up. Be safe.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:57 PM
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Yes to the whey protein. I think though in general it's more important if your lifting regularly to make sure you have your diet under control. This site is worth checking out: www.rippedbody.jp
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:51 PM
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You have to realize that online dating is different for women than for men. A HB8 is going to have a lot of interest from men; you're not special. If she doesn't go on a date with you there are plenty of other guys waiting in the wings. That said, don't get butt hurt about the fact that she flaked on you. The fact that she offered to reschedule is a good sign. Personally I'd say "let's touch base early next week then." and then follow up the following week and if she's receptive try to make a da…
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:45 PM
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You've made height a limiting belief. Women are interested in a strong confident man. Women are much less concerned with genetics than men are when it comes to attraction.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:34 PM
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More led than controlled. Control is an illusion and yes, a losing battle. I think you figured it out. Life is a never ending chess game. Alpha is hard. Otherwise everybody'd be doing it. If you're constantly being shit-tested you're doing something wrong.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:29 PM
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Define "love." Then I'll tell you whether or not a man can "love."
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:25 PM
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You're thinking about it to much. You want to talk to her? Just go talk her. It sounds like you haven't done enough approaches to feel comfortable approaching in any situation. Work on your approaches. I think don't say "hey, I'm not looking for anything serious..." because what /u/AlphaAsfAQ says. If you can flirt in a bar you can flirt in a classroom. You're psyching yourself out.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:19 PM
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I guess it's up to you then. It sounds like you're making yourself too available to her if you want to keep her hungry for your cock.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:09 PM
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In terms of game I wish I had read "Models: Attract Women Through Honesty" years ago. Other than the side-bar I think this is a good place to start. Read the book and start applying it's teachings. It's pretty typical for a girl to just not respond if they're not interested. Next.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 08:04 PM
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That's up to you. The fact that it's a LDR in and of itself doesn't make it toxic.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 07:59 PM
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How do you not have time to fuck her although she was with you the whole weekend? Fuck, I'd be upset too if I were her and you couldn't carve out 15 minutes of your schedule to fuck me and I'm right there the whole goddamn time. For her sake, I recommend you next. Sounds like you're a waste of her time.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 07:47 PM
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I think texting a command before you've established a dominant frame is a mistake (it's pretty hard to establish a dominant frame texting IMO). Also, having no awareness of her situation (maybe she's not free at 14:00?) doesn't exactly scream leadership qualities. Typically I use declarative statements phrased as a question. E.g. "Coffee tomorrow at 2pm?" Simple and to the point. Using commands like yours will only work after you've already established a dominant frame which you probably haven't…
/r/askTRP15/04/15 04:01 AM
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This is your answer OP.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 03:54 AM
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RPW women don't seem to exist in my life. If I met one she would definitely be a unicorn and I'd be interested in dating her possibly having a LTR. I think where their strategy might be unrealistic is in that they require too much commitment too early on in the relationship. The prevailing viewpoint is that "once a plate, always a plate." However, I think with me the only way to achieve gf status possibly wife status would be to graduate from top plate status by having a lot of girl game and pro…
/r/askTRP15/04/15 03:44 AM
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It's a hard pill to swallow but I think you've probably been the beta provider in her mind since before you were married. The other guy is the Alpha. Her behavior is her way of keeping you in the relationship at all costs. It sounds like she's pretty fucked up and not good marriage material. If I were you I'd look into finding a good divorce attorney and start planning your escape. If you're not willing to do this you're going to have to work hard to adopt a more TRP mindset and increase your SM…
/r/askTRP15/04/15 03:24 AM
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I think this is your typical LMR scenario. If she doesn't give you what you want you have to take away what she wants, attention and validation. Go cold but don't act mad. If you're making out in the dark and she resists your advances get up and turn on the lights and start checking your email or doing something else and maybe say "when a girl says no I just automatically go into a different 'mode' nothing personal." When she starts touching you, cuddling, tries to kiss you or whatever (she most…
/r/askTRP15/04/15 03:13 AM
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I've made a habit of telling the entitled ones I date that I have a cat and she's a princess and I don't have any more room for entitled princesses in my life. When they start acting like a princess I just remind them of my cat...the only woman (she's female) who's been there for me so long. I fuckin' love that cat. Yeah...all the women I fuck rank lower than my cat. Fucks with their heads.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 02:58 AM
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Agreed. Some plates have even told me this is worse than anger. They hate it.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 02:54 AM
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Agreed. Some plates have even told me this is worse than anger. They hate it.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 02:53 AM
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This.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 02:49 AM
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Sounds like the unintended dread is working for you but I think you probably failed a comfort test here. Also, saying you'd cheat on your gf if she denies you sex is overly manipulative in my opinion. Typically this is when you apply dread and that's implied (except as an ultimatum/last resort when it becomes overtly stated). Cheating is a beta behavior. You either demote/next and fuck other plates or apply dread. Men honor their agreements. That's what differentiates us from women. Otherwise yo…
/r/askTRP15/04/15 02:33 AM
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Sounds like confidence is an issue for you. Locking your ex out and being verbally abusive are signs that you let external circumstances dictate your internal frame. Learning to manage your emotions and remain detached from external forces is the lesson here and you're path to turning your "dark past" to your advantage. Redirect your emotions into actions that will have desirable outcomes for you. Women is just one arena this is effective in.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 02:13 AM
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No.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 01:59 AM
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What are you trying to do with this girl? Usually I reserve the next day treatment for the LTR or maaaybe my main plate once in a blue moon. You're making yourself too available and you should have other more important things to do anyways. When was the last time you lifted?
/r/askTRP15/04/15 01:54 AM
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Eating less combined with intermittent fasting and strength training has been shown to be effective in burning fat while maintaining muscle mass as much as possible. You're going to lose some muscle along with fat but if you do it right, you can minimize this. This website www.rippedbody.jp is what I've been using and offers a relatively simple, effective approach for the laymen.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 01:44 AM
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Stop caring.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 01:35 AM
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Didn't have the patience to read your wall of text. The general consensus on TRP that is backed up by science is a low n-count means she's better able to emotionally connect (pair-bond). Women aren't men and thus don't require the same thinking as men do. You're thinking about this from a man's perspective.
/r/askTRP15/04/15 01:18 AM
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For me it's helpful to try to examine where the jealousy feelings are coming from and work on those. Typically when I'm jealous it's because I'm fearful or insecure in some way. Once I pin-point what that is for me I work on turning it around. Abundance mentality and spinning other plates helps too. Also, check your frequency. How often are you seeing this chick? Personally once things approach the 2x/wk mark the feelz (on either end) start to get in the way of things. 1x/wk or less for a plate …
/r/askTRP15/04/15 12:54 AM
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Some girls are just flaky. Can't be bothered to learn how to use a calendar and make plans. I think nexting after one failed attempt could be premature in some cases. Also, if you come off as a player some girls make you work for it just to make sure you're interested (and they're a special snowflake/not like other girls). Personally I have a 3 strikes and you're out rule. I re-initiate maybe a week or so later and act as if nothing happened. If she flakes a second time I make an ultimatum and s…
/r/askTRP15/04/15 12:02 AM
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You were right to let her go after she started falling for you. Don't want to ruin her. Either go full beta as /u/vandaalen recommends and/or go no contact as much as possible. With a girl like that you're just playing with temptation if you try to hang out as 'friends.' Spin other plates.
/r/askTRP14/04/15 11:52 PM
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