Hello, long time lurker, after a LTR 2 year break up (very cliche, I know) I have finally gotten an account and seek to become an active member of this community.

One thing I am having trouble is finding a balance during game. From my understanding of TRP escalation is vital, however also from my understanding woman seek validation and by not giving them it they will want you more. However I can't seem to figure out how to escalate, or use game on a girl, without seeming to give them validation. I am really confused by that. Is it just a matter of finding a balance?

Right now I am going to the gym every day, I have a strict routine which I'm following, my main priorities are getting ripped like a beast, and in effect really boost my confidence. I am learning a bit of game, but I will fully focus on it when I have achieved my first goal. However I have a potential plate on my hands and it would be nice to start from somewhere.