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I asked her if we could speak over the phone just once so I could hear her voice, she said she wants to "get used to me first." She's a man.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 09:23 PM
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Clean your fucking place and play less games, make it a rare occurrence. Be more productive, yes. She shouldn't have to tell you that shit. You should simply be doing it, already. Be someone she is proud of and inspired by. Lead. Sex is the woman's bargaining tool and you shouldn't be surprised that your failure to lead is causing her to start that bullshit.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 08:35 PM
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If you feel you must formally break it off, make it about you and your needs - not about her short comings. Otherwise, just do a hard next - go no contact.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 08:24 PM
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Yes, it will challenge her and challenge you, to plate an ex. In my experience, it is better to start fresh with new women, avoiding the baggage and drama.
/r/askTRP10/12/15 08:22 PM
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God damn, you fucking nailed it. Thanks!
/r/askTRP10/12/15 12:43 PM
1

Indeed. She generally stays up-to-date on her entire scroll, rapidly firing off likes.
/r/askTRP09/12/15 09:38 PM
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I don't like it either and have considered NEXTING due MY being this way.
/r/askTRP09/12/15 09:35 PM
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Context is key here. He doesn't post selfies or groups. A couple are of him welding, but otherwise they are abstract, landscapes, cityscapes or animals. An example of something I would consider boring is a welded, functional piece of metal or his sister. It is a bit concerning that you would think she would keep in touch with a ONS like this. Is your concern is that I would think this or that she is doing it? When was the last time your face was posted to her Instagram page? She doesn't post sel…
/r/askTRP09/12/15 09:29 PM
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Needy Alpha is a archetype. Extremely fair assessment.
/r/askTRP09/12/15 08:45 PM
1

Yes, but it's weak.
/r/askTRP09/12/15 02:47 PM
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She didn't offer an alternative time. That is girl speak for, "I'm not interested." You made a mistake by being vague. When suggesting a date, be specific and enticing ...offer something fun, with a specific time and place. Soft next - do not initiate contact. If she contacts you, set up something fun.
/r/askTRP09/12/15 02:45 PM
2

Text her with a purpose - invite her to join you.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 08:34 PM
1

What I meant was, was I the one in power in the situation? You set the terms, she followed. I'm not sure why you're confused about who is the leader. Any other questions?
/r/askTRP08/12/15 06:11 PM
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Just stop asking questions. Make jokes, statements and demands.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 05:42 PM
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Forget labeling everything alpha and beta. Just know, you set your terms and she accepted them ...call it what you want. They all (think they) want commitment, they all ask for it.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 05:39 PM
2

A playful decline, then redirect to setting up the date. Keep in mind, women who are overly sexual through technology are either men or (maybe) women who are hoping you're even more aggressive than they are.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 03:54 PM
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Don't sext or send nudes until AFTER you've hooked up with the woman. You satisfied her needs through text and she's done. Next.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 03:44 PM
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In short, be attractive and aggressive.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 03:42 PM
2

Don't sleep with your flatmate. In the future, only ever live with straight men or a woman you intend to marry within the first year of living together. Keep it platonic with your flatmate. Talk to other women.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 02:41 PM
2

She initiated and you weakly responded. Next time, be more bold.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 02:38 PM
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Me: Text me at [my number]. I know you want to. This is why you tell her to give you her number, don't ask ...anything. You give her too much control, making requests like this.
/r/askTRP08/12/15 02:36 PM
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I think most people are competing with others. Many of them do so on credit. That too big house, that flashy car, the boat ...the bank owns them all. I have a nice place and a nice car, but I also save and/or invest 30% of my income ...because I'm competing with myself.
/r/askTRP07/12/15 02:24 PM
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She filed for divorce because of my TRP What does this even mean? I want to close - if anything, to 'win' against this Chad So strange, trying to prove something to him.
/r/askTRP07/12/15 02:17 PM
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Community service, charity, social groups/clubs/meetups...
/r/askTRP07/12/15 02:10 PM
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Yea, for a plate, you don't entertain any bullshit. You laugh EVERYTHING off. As you upgrade plates to LTRs, you have to gradually take more serious their concerns ...or they bail.
/r/askTRP06/12/15 06:45 AM
2

guy: i already dont respect you so what does it matter? No, the message is "I don't want to talk about serious bullshit, I want to joke around." It's not about putting her down, it's about maximizing fun.
/r/askTRP05/12/15 08:17 PM
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Foolish and bizarre.
/r/askTRP05/12/15 08:14 PM
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Abandoning the kids is kind of a moot point Also, this is bullshit. Children need their father.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 04:33 PM
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she brings up that she also doesn't want to have sex for a while. Act like she never said that.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 04:26 PM
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Ignore.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 04:24 PM
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do they actually think they have a shot with me? You matched with her. So, yea, she thinks you're interested.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 04:24 PM
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I smell spite. I don't. This appears to be a simple, solid confirmation. Does anyone have any advice that had helped them run bar booth game? Have fun and be hands-y.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 04:21 PM
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Be funny.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 02:43 PM
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it isn't right for a son to see Keep your son and your dating life COMPLETELY separate. He doesn't need to know any overt details about your dating life. Children are very receptive, they pick up on everything. When he starts dating, you make yourself available to answer questions.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 02:07 PM
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Hard next - never talk to her again, completely disconnect and continue to work on yourself.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 02:02 PM
0

Your body is reacting to the break in your extreme calorie deficiency by storing (what it has determined to be) the excess of calories. If you drop down to your (too low) deficiency or even maintain your current (more reasonable) deficiency, it will come off ...in time.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 02:01 PM
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I know I can't just dive right into sexual innuendo right now. At the same time, I don't want to waste a fun night with friends on a mere chance that this girl is finally willing to fuck again. How you play this is ALL about what you want. You just want to spin this girl, so you have to be suggestive, at least. Just tell her to come over and bring a bottle of wine. You have to edge toward offending her, again ...because really, the way you treated her last is exactly why she is coming back.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 01:57 PM
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its like you want to protect her innocence or something like that. Not at all. She is already making out, intensely and talking about sex. She is clearly interested in escalating because OP is ALREADY making the right moves. I'm telling him not to rush her, because he doesn't need to. If he maintains WHAT HE IS ALREADY DOING to get/keep her excited, she will convince herself to move forward.
/r/askTRP04/12/15 01:49 PM
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I don't want her texting her ex before and she's flat out told me no Sounds like you two are not well matched for each other.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 09:33 PM
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A rock, as in consistent ...as in, outcome independent.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 09:31 PM
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She told me specifically she doesn't want to have sex or even do anything sexual for a long time... What confuses me is... She's young. She's horny. She's scared. If your goal is to just get laid, you'd be better off finding different girl. If you genuinely like this girl, just be patient. Don't beg or demand sex. Use your attention as reward/punishment. She does something you like, give attention. She does something you don't like, reduce attention. Continue working to improve yourself, don't f…
/r/askTRP03/12/15 09:22 PM
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A woman who refuses to give up her number is either not interested or is confused about what she really wants. A woman who is interested and wants to meet, quickly gives up her number as a necessary risk at attaining her goal - a date. There are too many available women to waste time trying to help any one of them figure out what the fuck they want.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 09:12 PM
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Day game is about talking to women, anywhere and everywhere. If you go to a place that is classically thought of as a place to meet women (bars, clubs, the beach, etc.), you will find the women to be more on-guard. The advantage of day gaming everywhere is that it is not expected, the woman's guard is down. They are more open to conversation, because there is no sexual pretension - they don't immediately assume you are TRYING to hit on them.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 09:05 PM
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I matched with a girl ...How do I play this so I dont get fucked Um, you're jumping really far ahead of yourself ...AND with a very pessimistic attitude. Tindersluts just want to have fun. The world is not out to get you.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 08:59 PM
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Assuming the girl's precaution is safety related... Which is safer? ...a text conversation or in-person conversation?
/r/askTRP03/12/15 08:55 PM
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"If we're going to meet up, then I would get your number anyway. I just don't want to set it up through this (Tinder). If not, then that's cool. I'd like to meet you, but I don't want to waste anybody's time." Arguing is not the way to go.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 07:22 PM
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What advice would you all have for a guy in my position? Don't participate in LDRs. -OR- Learn to deal with your fears and anxiety, in a way that will never be known to her.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 07:20 PM
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I would not respond and continue with messaging other women. She killed the progression, so it's on her to restart it. If you're desperate, go ahead and set up the date via Tinder. She's taken a bit of control of the conversation, which leaves me feeling odd about it all. Lightly make fun of her silly requirements, but continue on with your (apparent) shared goal of meeting face to face. "I won't give you my number, but I'll meet you." ...no logic.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 07:06 PM
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a recent breakup ...I didn't even get to have sex with her Does not compute - if you're not having sex, what sort of relationship did you imagine you had. What did she imagine you had? Are you in high school? I've been on TRP for a year I'm surprised. You've made some entry-level mistakes. Re-read the entire sidebar, at least once.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 06:57 PM
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But sorry, I have to deny you That's a very clear rejection. Take a hint. She doesn't like you.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 05:45 PM
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TRP is not a set of strict rules to be followed. It is a way of thinking, an approach to life. Some guys, yes, will never get married. Others, will. There is no right or wrong choice when it comes to YOUR personal decisions. Regarding marriage, the only question TRP poses is, "What are the benefits?" The answer is up to the individual.
/r/askTRP03/12/15 02:54 PM
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If you make massive amounts more money than her AND you want her to join you on adventures far above her pay-grade, than it is very reasonable for you to offer to cover a larger percentage of the cost. Otherwise, plan for cheaper events that are within her price range.
/r/askTRP02/12/15 07:33 PM
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I prefer they stay over and pound it out (again) in the morning, before making coffee, taking a shower and sending them on their way. However, yes, this makes all women... jump to LTR talks much sooner
/r/askTRP02/12/15 04:33 PM
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This fed her anxiety, kept her from trusting me You openly dating other women does feed her competition anxiety, which is good. You want them competing for you when spinning plates and also, they need to know you have options even when you're committed in a LTR. Her lack of trust is due to your being vague or deceptive. She wouldn't have trust issues if you were honest from the start. when I did mess up, it was too easy to tell herself she knew it all along You're a little vague, then. I'm not s…
/r/askTRP02/12/15 04:29 PM
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All the drama and hurt feelings could've been avoided if you were honest about the fact that you were seeing other women. You don't have to be overt about it, or a dick, but she should know (or have a very strong sense) that she is not the only woman you are seeing.
/r/askTRP02/12/15 03:58 PM
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Break up and never initiate contact with her. Spin plates. She contacts you, saying something like, "I don't want to lose you from my life." Set the new terms of the plate relationship. Most women will not agree to casually date a man with whom they have previously been exclusive. It happens, but it is never as simple as telling a LTR that you want to see other people.
/r/askTRP01/12/15 06:13 PM
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Nothing wrong with a next day "had fun" message, but tie it to setting up the next encounter "...let's plan to do it again, later next week." ...have a reason for texting, beyond trying to make her smile.
/r/askTRP01/12/15 06:04 PM
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I don't want to be stuck If the dinner goes shitty, tell her you're only paying half. If it goes well, tell her you'll get this one and she'll get the next one. Or, still split it. You should never feel obligated to pay 100%. "Stuck" is all in your imagination. Don't want to pay ...don't. Don't want to continue the date ...don't.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 05:20 PM
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6:30 is a fine time for a coffee date, although I prefer alcohol. Get there, get a feel for the vibe... if all goes well, move to a 2nd location, perhaps dinner, perhaps cocktail, perhaps bedroom. What's your a aversion to dinner? Anyway, depending on your client relationship, dating her friend's daughter is likely a Don't Shit Where You Eat scenario. You are likely putting your client relationship at risk.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 04:02 PM
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an online community Stop participating in it.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 03:19 PM
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What do you want to do with your life? ...no one can answer that, but you. Set some short-term and long-term goals, then work hard. As you achieve various levels of success, you will feel better and better.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 03:17 PM
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It's feel pretty shitty being 2nd in line (of priorities). Get out of line.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 03:15 PM
1

Intense exercise, cognitive therapy and low dosage of xanax ...try those, in that order.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 02:04 PM
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Do not commit to any woman, until your mid-to-late 30s.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 01:56 PM
1

I'm not dead, yet.
/r/askTRP20/11/15 01:55 PM
1

An investment in a high quality (expensive) lawyer now will save you countless thousands of dollars in the future.
/r/askTRP19/11/15 07:42 PM
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we started chatting Stop negotiating sex, talking about what is or isn't going to happen on the date. Just focus on setting up a date for the vague purposes of "fun." What fun includes is all about escalation. If she is having fun, feels safe and attractive/attracted then she will hook up with you ...just like she did with the other guy. Her words about what is/isn't going to happen on the date are meaningless, as are your's. Just go have fun, escalate and see what happens. TLDR: Talk less, do m…
/r/askTRP19/11/15 07:39 PM
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My biggest piece of advice is to think of your STBX as your legal adversary. Anything and everything can and will be used against you. The same is true for her. At least until the divorce is signed by the judge, do not discuss feelings, coulda' woulda' shoulda's ...do not have sex, do not sleep in the same bed. As amicable as you two may (or may not) be, she is no longer your partner. She is not your friend. She is your legal opponent. Deciding to divorce is an emotional, personal decision. Once…
/r/becomeaman19/11/15 06:16 PM
2

Google Cognitive Therapy in your area. Hire a professional.
/r/askTRP18/11/15 05:12 PM
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They all have crazy asshole friends. That's true. If she sides with you, she would likely think less of this guy, moving forward.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 07:08 PM
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Google timeline is a Google Maps app that tracks your location 24/7. You don't have the burden of proof. Her friend does. I wouldn't offer this up, but may consider sharing that info if requested.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 07:07 PM
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It happens. Upon further thought, be cautious in how you proceed. Do not reward her in anyway for these accusations. Do not offer to commit. In fact, she loses points for being untrusting and accusatory ...for having asshole friends. If you do resolve this, demand the guy apologize and that she remove him from her circle of friends. He has essentially set up a him or me scenario, that you have to see through.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 03:39 PM
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Be calm and honest, let her decide who is telling the truth. I'm not sure there is anything else you can do.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 03:33 PM
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monk mode I'm not in monk mode, not in the least.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 03:21 PM
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I want to better the community Right. How about starting a mass suicide movement
/r/askTRP16/11/15 02:55 PM
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Your personal goals. If you don't have any, make some. ...health, finance, vacation, relationships, mountain tops, free falls, paintings, book reviews, music awards, movie posters ...what do YOU want? If you just want to bitch and moan, do it somewhere else.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 02:34 PM
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Unlucky, I suppose. Keep at it.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 02:23 PM
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If you didn't care AND you are attracted to them, you would game them. If you didn't care AND you saw another dude winning them over, you would find amusement in observing his success. If you didn't care, if you felt 100% confident in yourself, if you had outcome independence ...you would smile through all the non-sense each of us experiences every single day. You would be happy, not disgusted. Basically, relax ...it's not all so serious.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 02:13 PM
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she is always with her friends, and they just make it awkward. You're scared and you make it awkward. If you know you are the prize, they will all be excited by you approaching them. If you are cool, confident and exciting, they will all tingle with joy. I thinking of doing a FB message This is weak.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 01:40 PM
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I'm convinced that those tears were 100% real though. Of course they are real. She is sad for HERSELF. She doesn't want to be lonely. She doesn't want to try to find another man. She doesn't want to put the effort in. She thought she had you locked in. She was wrong and now she's sad about that. She not crying for you ...she's crying for herself.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 01:30 PM
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am I weird for just not giving a fuck You clearly give tons of fucks.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 01:25 PM
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You don't know until you talk to her. A look is (at least) an opportunity to say, "Hi."
/r/askTRP16/11/15 01:23 PM
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The only thing you're lacking is confidence and outcome independence. Both come through trial and error. Get out there, give it your best shot and stop giving a fuck about failure.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 01:22 PM
1

She's a dude. It's called catfishing, google it. Only send pics, after you've had sex with her.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 01:20 PM
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Self made man We are makers of our own reality, no matter how shitty you've made your own personal reality. Stop your mental masturbation, stop blaming others and get to work.
/r/askTRP16/11/15 01:17 PM
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Don't try this now It's likely the exact wording of his messages, where the problem arose. I mean, he must've said something really cringe worthy. He should've been more bold in person, setting up the date at the high point of their interactions.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 07:56 PM
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You get them laughing a couple times through whatever app, then get the number. Once you get the number, you set up the date.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 07:53 PM
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No one cares if I do or don't have a tattoo, but I'm a creative...it's basically expected I have tats. In nearly every other field, tattoos are going to be perceived as negative. If you get one, get one you can easily cover with a dress shirt.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 07:07 PM
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Because he didn't want confrontation and took the easy way out. This looks weak and beta in her eyes. Yes
/r/askTRP13/11/15 03:34 PM
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You assume much about what I mean by being honest. I'm not talking about spilling your guts and getting into details. I'm talking about expressing limited availability for any one girl, expressing enjoyment for dating (in general) and coy deflections when she asks direct questions about other women. Being honest about the fact (or implying) that you are actively dating other women feeds into the woman's competitive nature. You are the prize. Lying brings drama, such as OP is experiencing.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 03:10 PM
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When they flake, you are looking for her to suggest an alternate time/place. This is a good sign that she is honestly unable to make it, while still being interested. should i ask her why she can't make it today No, that is none of your business. She would offer it up, if it was. agree for tomorrow? Only if you're available. Depending on the existing dynamic, it may be better to communicate (lie about) your own limited availability.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 03:04 PM
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I would also be interested in getting to know in what way the 48 laws of power I'm sure you would find the book interesting. You're not off-base. It's just that your post reads as an exploration of ideas, rather than statements of fact. playing the corporate field is something most people do at first in order to gain some experience and some basic capital Indeed, a key concept is knowing your place in the structure of a team and making the most of it, while you continue to learn. We can see corp…
/r/askTRP13/11/15 02:59 PM
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Your tears are pathetic, not your height.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 02:38 PM
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Me: but you didn't drive enough to see me, huh? :( Instead of this very weak/begging sentence, you should've employed silence. You made clear your terms, it's for her to decide to join you or not. if you want to see me at all tonight, then sorry to break it to ya, but you'll be coming here. This is what you earn yourself by expressing weakness. She dominated you.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 02:14 PM
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I agree it's lame for her to be texting/calling other dudes, while with you. It's rude. I assume you don't do that to her, either. When you suggested she leave, you should've meant it. Next time, don't get upset, just make your expectations clear and/or show her the door.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 02:11 PM
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a study date This is boring as fuck. No girl gets excited about ...STUDYING!!! Do something actually fun with girls you're interested in. "getting coffee if I want to." This is a positive reschedule. She doesn't want to study with you, she wants an intimate moment. Your next text should be specific date logistics. If you're old enough, meet her for a cocktail, escalate and get her back to your place.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 02:07 PM
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I thought it would be a little weird to kino her This was your mistake. Escalation is the only way you can truly gauge interest. The fact that she is inexperience is a positive, not something you should shy away from. Set up the date, sooner rather than later. Be more bold.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 02:04 PM
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This reads as sloppy and aggressive. Throwing folks under the bus, shirking responsibility, blatant manipulative behavior ...none of which is going to win you any favors down the road, long-term. Alternatively, imagine you happen to actually love what you do, have a passion for your work and want yourself (and your team) to perform at your best. Anyway, you're going to have a hard time philosophically topping The 48 Laws of Power.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 02:01 PM
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48 Laws of Power is an excellent manual for navigating the politics of life, including within the office environment.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 01:57 PM
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This can be avoided if you are honest about seeing other women, from day 1.
/r/askTRP13/11/15 01:55 PM
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I don't give a shit. I make my own social reality by associating with whomever I choose. People on tv or tumblr can talk and talk and talk, all they want. Cheaters can cheat. Fatties can fat. Whatever. Do you.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 06:05 PM
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I did this early on in the relationship. The work never ends. She's not unique in needing this. All women need to know that you have options, that they can be replaced if they fail you. As soon as they think they have you locked it, that is when the problems begin.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 05:05 PM
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She's engaged in our conversation. She laughs, she smiles. She compliments my appearance, personality or conversation. She touches my hand, inspects my arm (tattoos) and she leans her leg or body into mine. Most importantly, she moves into MY touches. Positive responses to physical touch are the only indicators I really care to take note of. She flips her hair and bites her lip? ...nearly meaningless.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 04:58 PM
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Because you don't know what you're doing. You're stumbling through it all. Mistakes are fine, if you learn from them and apply them to FUTURE opportunities. Don't keep beating a dead horse by continue to game this girl. You failed. Learn and move on.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 04:31 PM
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I read your entire post and comments. I'm just trying to amplify her mood and then trick her into saying yes, she'll come over to my room for another movie.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 04:29 PM
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I'm thick and juicy. You're disgusting. I just want to see if I have it in me to flip her switch. You don't.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 03:20 PM
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Whiskey dick is real. WTF is wrong with you? Everything you're saying is coming off as very socially awkward and neckbeard-y. Slow yourself down. Stop focusing on this one girl. Relax and just have fun. Stop trying to "trick" women.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 03:18 PM
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I didn't mean you're post is asking too many questions. I meant, you are asking women too many questions. Good god, you're thick. Yo, you've spent more than 4mins writing this bullshit here, boss.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 03:14 PM
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asked her if I could make love to her Never do this again. It's just so stupid. So very stupid. In fact, fuck the rest of your post. Your problem is you are asking too many questions, too many stupid questions. Make your personal goal to never ask a girl another question. Only make statements. This singular change will make a world of difference on your life.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 03:05 PM
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I respond: You don't care... Everything you did was beta as fuck. If you wanted to fuck her, you should've immediately assumed the Amused Mastery stance, made fun of her and set up a date.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 02:59 PM
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i initiated discussion about relationships in order to clench my goal of getting a LTR with her The man should never initiate conversations about increases to relationship commitment. If the girl doesn't suggest it, she isn't interested. Yes, you should not have drank so much. Yes, she had planned to have sex with you that night. Yes, because you failed her, she has reframed you as a friend. After an epic failure, such as this, your best bet is to never initiate contact with her. Improve yoursel…
/r/askTRP12/11/15 02:57 PM
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For a little perspective, I've been with my LTR for 7 months. We have sex multiple times, every day we see each other. She does whatever insane sexual shit I can dream up and begs for more. She and I both have intense responsibilities and professional pressures. Sex is our outlet, something we share and makes our relationship whole. However, all women are capable of doing what your woman is doing. This first time a woman attempts to deny sex, you deny her attention. That is the key. Your attenti…
/r/askTRP12/11/15 02:51 PM
1

Talking about sex before actually having sex? ...this dramatically reduces the likelihood of sex actually happening. Talk less, do more.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 02:39 PM
2

Remove YOURSELF from that environment. Only ever roommate with straight men or a woman you intend to marry within the year.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 02:28 PM
6

She only asks because sometimes it works. Learn to say, "No." ...and don't go shopping with her.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 02:17 PM
2

I never confirm dates. I go have fun and invite people to join me. If they show, great. If not, still great. I've only ever had one girl (ever) flake on me. IMO, seeking confirmation is a sign of insecurity. Women often contact me to confirm and that is the dynamic I want, them unsure.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 02:15 PM
5

You are cementing yourself into a friendship, not a sexual relationship. You are talking too much, caring too much about her circumstances. It's not for you to judge if she has a boyfriend or not, except that you know a girl who is casual about her relationships isn't LTR material. If you want to fuck this girl, just go for it. She seems interested. But, for goodness sake, stop talking about her relationships. If you want to be friends, you're on the right path.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 02:11 PM
1

I was stupid and asked several female friends for advice. That IS stupid. The average woman gives horrible dating advice, based on how they dream relationships should work ...not reality.
/r/askTRP12/11/15 02:04 PM
8

I snapped This was a mistake and for the sake of a peaceful living experience, you should apologize for HOW the truth came out. However, don't apologize for the valid issues you brought up, whatever they may be. "I'm sorry for losing control. However, the issues I brought up remain issues that need to be resolved."
/r/askTRP11/11/15 06:43 PM
1

Or, maybe they are just happy. Who gives a shit? Offer a simple, "Cool, congrats" and then redirect to a topic you actually give a shit about.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 06:05 PM
1

Based on your update (whining at her), you've likely crushed all chances of her coming back. The thing to do when a girl gives you any unpleasant news is to give zero fucks and put your attention elsewhere.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 06:02 PM
2

if someone asks there usually kind of shocked, and get impressed You're still bragging, here. Your finances are NO ONE else's business. Period.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 05:48 PM
1

The man never suggests an increase to commitment. That is the woman's role. If she isn't suggesting it, she isn't interested. How to establish a LTR properly: you date her and others, she stops dating others, she get jealous of your attention, she makes sure you know she isn't seeing anyone else, she insists you stop seeing others and THEN you (finally) agree to commit, but with clear and specific conditions to what that means.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 05:46 PM
-2

Cuddle AFTER sex, only.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 05:41 PM
1

Sex is the defining physical component of a healthy relationship. It isn't a reward you give or receive. It isn't something to be rewarded - unless she does something above and beyond, in the bedroom. Sex is the base standard. If you're not fucking, you're not in a relationship, IMO. Your focused attention on her is the only reward, your only currency of value.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 05:35 PM
2

You likely could've had a longer relationship by NOT committing to her. Keep dating other women and subtly force her to compete for your attention. It's the "I am the prize" mentality.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 05:30 PM
3

Her drama isn't worth consideration. Move on.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 03:02 PM
10

my daughter You should be making your daughter a major priority in your life. Right now, you are failing in your responsibilities. Your daughter needs her father. Communicate with the mother ONLY about logistics and the child's needs. Do not talk about feelings. Do not get back together.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 02:59 PM
2

Two months before getting dumped she told me she was definitely moving but wanted to do long distance. It was over, at this point. Then one night she came over and said she "was confused" and "didn't know what to do." This is another dude's influence. For future reference... 23 year old girl...has been with multiple NBA and NFL players This is NOT a girl you commit to.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 02:57 PM
8

shocked, too direct, forceful and didn't appreciate what I did And you have questions??? Leave her alone.
/r/askTRP11/11/15 02:53 PM
5

Take care to be humane, for the sake of your own self-respect. Damaging people (including women who cheated on you) will damage yourself, as well. Work to be a source of positivity ...if you give a shit, at all.
/r/askTRP10/11/15 04:30 PM
10

She is insecure and lacks self-respect. You are taking advantage of that. You've effectively plated a slut.
/r/askTRP10/11/15 02:05 PM
1

Ha, no.
/r/askTRP09/11/15 06:52 PM
0

Don't worry about it. Focus on setting up a date.
/r/askTRP09/11/15 03:42 PM
9

Change nothing about yourself. She's into you and part of the reason why is that you aren't available. For her, it's frustratingly attractive.
/r/askTRP09/11/15 03:41 PM
1

Give without expecting anything in return. Cherish those who do the same.
/r/askTRP09/11/15 03:39 PM
3

The reality is the most girls never fuck their friends. It's possible, but difficult to make the conversion and (a key reason why is) it will likely (because most relationships don't work out) ruin your friendship.
/r/askTRP09/11/15 01:48 PM
3

how can I help him? Make YOURSELF a source of joy for him ...make him proud.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 07:43 PM
2

She's recently exited a long relationship and blew you in public, on the first date - pure plate material.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 07:42 PM
2

I don't associate with disrespectful people, period.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 05:38 PM
2

You're too young to be in a committed relationship. You're absolutely foolish to commit to a LDR. When she moves to your city, that's when you date (for a while) and then consider exclusivity, reluctantly. Unicorns DO NOT exist.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 05:35 PM
5

Some very strong and powerful men (and women) are very much into being dominated behind closed doors. If you're tough as fuck outside the bedroom, you shouldn't have a problem. I would guess it to be rather hard to find a switch fem, though. The female dom's I've encountered have all been alpha types, always. Still, not my bag. I dominate, always.
/r/askTRP06/11/15 03:45 PM
1

I have a permit, but never carry. I don't feel a need, even in this big ass city.
/r/askTRP05/11/15 09:24 PM
2

You're the biggest size queen I've ever encountered! Post after post after post, all over Reddit and who knows where else!
/r/askTRP05/11/15 09:23 PM
30

It's a red flag, but not a deal breaker on it's own.
/r/askTRP05/11/15 05:40 PM
5

TRP: You lead, she follows. now I want to spend it with my best friends and her. Make it happen, use your words.
/r/askTRP05/11/15 03:16 PM
2

Recently added to my list of red flags: travels for work.
/r/askTRP05/11/15 02:31 PM
1

I push escalation as far as it will go, starting small and slow. Kclose always, if I have any intention (whatsoever) of continuing. If I don't kiss the girl, I've decided to hard next.
/r/askTRP05/11/15 02:20 PM
10

I know I can't change who people are Accept him for who he is or move on with your life.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 07:56 PM
3

She insisted that she only wanted to be friends. She's young and stumbling through what it means to be in a relationship. So, when she insisted and you confirmed that she only wanted to be friends, you should've taken it to heart, then ...instead of setting up the friend date.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 06:04 PM
1

2-3 plates is manageable, for me ...anymore and I feel overwhelmed, as well.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 02:16 PM
1

Just a mental thing for me. Vengeance is for the weak. Let it go.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 01:55 PM
2

The right woman is out there. This is a fantasy, there is no ONE woman. There are many women, many scenarios and many opportunities. It's anti rp to have a genuine human connection? Yes, get close, elevate trust, get vulnerable, but always be conscious about what is really happening. Look at her actions, your actions and understand meaning. Before you meet a girl, there are limits to what you will accept in any relationship and the challenge is to not allow your emotions to cloud your judgement.…
/r/askTRP04/11/15 01:49 PM
1

I strongly disagree with that bit of advice, the "what are you looking for" line.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 01:39 PM
1

Better openers? It is far better to make fun of something in their pic, say something totally random or simply say hello, followed by something amusing. This opener is far too serious and ignorant of why EVERYONE is on these site - to hook up, either plates or LTRs. You won't (or you shouldn't try to) figure out which they're are into until you've met in person.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 01:38 PM
0

It's definitely borderline, but fun is fun.
/r/askTRP04/11/15 01:36 PM
8

Moderation, in all things, is key, IMO. Watch the movie, love the movie, dress up for Comic Con, sure ...why not. Just don't build a SW/ST shrine in your house.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 09:11 PM
9

doubt it'll go anywhere. Me, too. hey i was wondering If you would wanna... Nope. Instead, "I'm going to grab a coffee. Come with me." this isnt gonna be a fake is it haha? Insecurity is not attractive. I'll be sure to send you a witty text though Okay? ...don't talk about what you're going to do, just do it.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 09:10 PM
2

When shit like that comes up, I make exaggerated jokes about how she's a child or I'm an old man.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 09:06 PM
9

Fuck other women.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 07:34 PM
2

Well, you made a horrible decision in living with a woman and then a shitty woman, at that. You should treat her like a non-sexual being.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 07:32 PM
1

Assume a frame of cool, calm and supreme confidence in your innocence and communicate that you need their assistance in protecting yourself from her. Do not become emotional or defensive. Speak with a lawyer.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 07:28 PM
3

Stupid question, don't ask it.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 07:26 PM
1

"Let me know when you're available, I'll set something up."
/r/askTRP03/11/15 07:22 PM
2

No, no. Own it, "I need this." ...not, "I don't trust you to control this." It's about what you need, not about whether or not you trust her ...make it about your personal health and minimizing risks.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 07:20 PM
5

"I like to use condoms."
/r/askTRP03/11/15 03:43 PM
1

I think we all struggle with beta tendencies. However, I personally credit it to environmental conditioning, rather than our base nature. I firmly believe our base instinct is alpha.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 03:27 PM
1

My point is that you can't figure out what a girl really wants by talking via Tinder or text. You have to talk and touch, in person. All their profiles say, "No hookups," but damn near all of them hookup.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 03:09 PM
1

I don't wanna waste my time with LTR seekers What time is wasted? ...when they start to pressure LTR, you drop them. It's all fun, until then.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 02:52 PM
11

Never give control of birth control to the woman. Also, I love my daughter.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 02:48 PM
1

force ourselves to fight our natural beta sides Wat? Stop complaining, focus on work.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 02:47 PM
1

The shittiest of shit posts. Congrats.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 02:46 PM
2

Hello.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 02:45 PM
4

You want her desperate for your attention. Keep doing what you're doing and hint towards catching up when she's within arm's reach.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 02:45 PM
6

Everyone is there to hookup. The more you mention it, the less it will happen. Assume they are easy and charge ahead.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 02:42 PM
1

Don't speak with them.
/r/askTRP03/11/15 02:37 PM
3

She doesn't like you like that. She (most likely) never will. Never contact her again or be an honest, platonic friend.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 09:42 PM
2

Asking a woman to join you in a group event isn't direct about your interest nor it is as exciting as being asked out on a date. Be more bold. "Meet me for drinks at PLACE and TIME." Get her out alone.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 09:39 PM
1

The girl - you've met her husband and kid, there is no sexual history, you hug - right? ...sounds like a friend.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 09:34 PM
9

College parties and clubs are poor choice for approaching, regardless of age. Generally, everyone's guard is up, because the sexual tension is elevated. The thing to do is approach where it isn't expected ...on the street, in a store, at a gas pump ...anywhere and everywhere. Be conscious of your environment and make the most of it.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 09:31 PM
1

Why do you care what they think about your life?
/r/askTRP02/11/15 09:27 PM
1

Women don't fuck their friends. Approach OTHER women.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 09:25 PM
1

Just cut the bullshit and tell them to meet you somewhere for drinks.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 09:23 PM
1

9.435624% ...exactly.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 07:07 PM
2

There is no way around the fact that he is going to feel rejected, hurt and abandoned. That is divorce. But, if you really want out, what other option is there? ...stick with him so he only suffers in your shitty relationship, forever trying to fix what you don't want to fix. A quick death (to the marriage) is much better than a long, slow drag ...yes.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 07:06 PM
4

I am assuming this is her way of saying we're done. Definitely. Forget her.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 07:02 PM
1

You can text to set up dates after you've already established yourself with her. OP says he's trying to set up a 2nd date.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 07:00 PM
1

Never said you were wrong, it's simply a cultural change. Millennials text. Face to face will always be the best option.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 06:58 PM
0

As a parent, I can assure you, they do not and have not told you everything. My point is, don't idolize other people's relationships. Deal with your own personal reality.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 06:56 PM
1

Fucking excuses. If you want out, figure it out. You don't need his permission to live your own fucking life.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 06:54 PM
1

If you invite a girl somewhere via text, you either won't get an answer, will get a vague non-committal answer (while she polls her other options), or you'll get an answer about 5 minutes before the event telling you she'll be about 45 minutes late. This has not my experience, at all. Face to face is best (of course), but the vast majority of the time I set up dates via text. When a woman's into you, she responds to your texts nearly instantly Exactly true. Your odds are better in person, but in…
/r/askTRP02/11/15 06:53 PM
1

"We are over. I want a divorce." ...don't explain.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 06:30 PM
1

Don't be so butthurt about it. Plates are low value. Avoid the text conversation and focus on setting up the next meeting.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 06:29 PM
5

I am indian Look, you're just going to have to be the best you can be and enjoy what opportunities do come to you. Lofty goals are a good way to improve, though. Get ripped, dress well and make people laugh.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 06:28 PM
0

a conservative, Asian background Within which, appearances can be a literal life or death situation. Don't assume your parents have a Disneyland marriage. It may be very different behind closed doors.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 06:25 PM
1

If you're dating girls in their 20s and early 30s, you're going to be texting more than you're calling. It's not so difficult.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 06:23 PM
1

I've had the procedure. Get the it done ONLY if you never want to have kids. They are next to impossible to get "undone." You would still want to use condoms, unless you want to get sick.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 06:21 PM
1

The only place you fucked up was in her asking about your number count and Tinder usage ...you need to be vague, but boastful - A&A. Women want a man who is desired. You are the prize, after all.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 06:15 PM
1

You don't overtly shut down their emotional shit, you just don't participate. You telling her to not "get any ideas," is (even though it's a rejection) entering her frame, letting her affect you. In the future, let plates say whatever they want - you don't and shouldn't say anything ...unless you want to turn her off.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 02:55 PM
2

You're a terrified little man, threatening randoms. Give up the seat to tired, old, disabled and pregnant people.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 02:50 PM
1

Personally, having children is not reason enough to stay together. Your kids will have a better perspective on quality relationships if you are both happy. No sane person is happy when committed to a cheater.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 02:49 PM
4

well, there's that.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 02:46 PM
2

If you think about the grossness of sex, you're not going to get very far. I mean, it's all pretty gross - shit is just another bodily fluid.
/r/askTRP02/11/15 02:24 PM
1

So, you get the idea. There is no magic bullet to make it happen for you, every single time - aside from high SMV and high quality sex.
/r/askTRP28/10/15 03:11 PM
1

They never come. General input earns you a general reply: Be a better man.
/r/askTRP28/10/15 01:10 PM
6

Always an exception to the rule.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 08:14 PM
0

Of course! Who are you arguing with? ...not me.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 06:52 PM
4

I'm not so sure if spinning plates is the best means of finding a relationship worthy girl in the future. You date. You fuck. You relate. You become vulnerable. You trust. You commit. What alternatives do you imagine? I know none.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 06:36 PM
1

What's the confusion? You had a successful ONS. Now, you set up another. Still confused? Invite her over.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 06:32 PM
0

You have no idea what you are talking about. Okay, do what works for you. I know, based on my personal experience, a woman who cums like she never has before keeps coming back for more, begging for more. YMMV
/r/askTRP27/10/15 06:30 PM
1

She realizes, perhaps better than you do, that long distance relationships do not work. She sees the end in sight. ...unless I misunderstand your future plans.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 06:28 PM
3

Pay for it. Search for cognitive therapy in your area.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 04:52 PM
2

A plate is a girl you can count on for repeated ONS. "Friday 8pm, my place. Bring a bottle of wine and leave your panties at home." You're welcome.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 04:49 PM
2

Google "Plate Theory" ...spin plates, avoid FWB - all the sex, none of the drama.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 04:46 PM
1

This is likely why she is no longer interested, he was a selfish lay.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 04:45 PM
15

If your relationship doesn't start with intense sexuality, it will never be sexually intense. You can't negotiate passion.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 04:43 PM
4

I was watching TV at my plate's house Your problem is you don't know how to spin plates.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 02:55 PM
4

You'll notice here, questions are asked and then answered. We don't seek out people to help. People ask for help, if and when they are ready. All other efforts are fruitless. Let your friend be himself, let him know you're available as a friend ...and that is it.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 01:58 PM
3

You need to practice a long-game, in a marriage. Escalate way before bedtime - be playful, outcome independent, confident, touch her, pass a shit test or two, pass a comfort test or two. If you think you can ignore her all day, then sprawl out in bed and get your dick wet, you're wrong.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 01:56 PM
2

Me:" No, it's okay you watch your show" She's right, you are mad ...like a little baby bitch. Do not marry this woman. Not because she is any worse than any other woman, but simply because YOU have already failed her. You are not in the right mindset for marriage. You have totally destroyed any frame you may have ever had in this relationship. Marriage will not fix it, it will ruin you and her.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 01:32 PM
1

We live together This is your primary problem. Only ever move in with a girl you plan to marry within the year. You are over committed to the girl, she knows you are on lock and she can do whatever the fuck she wants. 1 Priority: GTFO
/r/askTRP27/10/15 01:22 PM
1

You are too young to commit. Focus on educating your dumb, child brain - that includes experiences with many, many women.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 01:15 PM
1

I would guess, based on your limited post, that the fact that you passively initiated an increase in commitment (move in) with the understanding that the relationship is coming to an end (moving away) has made her reevaluate the entire relationship, as it stands today. You made a confusing proposition. She doesn't know what to think about moving in with you, but she does know the relationship is coming to an end. Naturally, she feels like shit about all of it. Moving forward, stop talking about …
/r/askTRP27/10/15 01:10 PM
1

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/r/askTRP27/10/15 12:56 PM
2

It sounds dead to me. Neither of you are really into the other person - the vibe builds or fails because of the participants. Absolutely, if you're actually into a girl, you need to be assertive, domineering and fun ...you weren't. It communicates a clear message to the girl, that she isn't worth the effort. She reacts in kind - bored. Move on to another girl. can I somehow apologize over text No, never. Fuck no. Why would you???
/r/askTRP27/10/15 12:55 PM
1

Confidence comes with outcome independence. Cold approach works best when you're just "in the zone" or not really trying. Strike up a conversation, not with the goal of getting a number/laid ...you strike up conversation because why the fuck not - I'm here, you're here and we're social people. "Hi."
/r/askTRP27/10/15 12:52 PM
2

It's a personal decision. For whatever reason, you're floating away. It happens.
/r/askTRP27/10/15 12:45 PM
2

Should I just fucking ignore her or act like it didn't affect me? Yep.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 08:13 PM
5

She is an asshole. Stop pretending she is ever going to fuck you and cut contact. Block her number, unfriend her. Don't say, "Hi." Seriously, what is so hard about it?
/r/askTRP26/10/15 08:13 PM
2

She began, "I don't know you're justttt kind of" Nice. You're way too fucking nice. Even in how you speak about this girl, that you think she's LTR worthy. Get a proper date in. Get your dick in a handful of times. Then, then wonder about her LTR worthiness.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 08:09 PM
1

Perhaps she feels too much dread then ...it's a fine balance.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 08:04 PM
1

It's not that she HAS cheated or even that she is consciously considering it, the issue is that her focus is starting to drift away from you. That's why you're uneasy. You didn't need to snoop on her phone to know that either. Step up your self-improvement, step up your sex and be cool/confident.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 05:46 PM
1

says she doesn't want a relationship, say I don't either. We stop This just as easily could've ended with "We bang." Overall, she has been a ton of work and you have solidly fallen into orbit. Sex is not likely. Start over with new women.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 05:19 PM
4

You are racist, and stupid. Color is meaningless. Your obsession will be broken as soon as you spend any amount of intimate time with a white woman. They are ALL the same, pick a color.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 05:16 PM
2

There has got to be some rational thought about women's sexuality. You're her second partner, get over it. My only concern in her story is her lack of self-control when it comes to drinking. I would be conscious of being a recurring theme.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 05:13 PM
1

Generally, on first dates you're going to need to expect to pay or be a dick about it with some percentage of women. If you want to keep your costs down, pick cheap activities. When the bill comes, take note of if she assumes it's dutch or offers to pay. Accept her offer (or suggest she get the next tab, on date 2) and add points for her as a LTR candidate. If she doesn't even offer, consider her less for a LTR candidate.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 05:09 PM
1

Do you stand by your decision? ...if so, than fuck what ANYONE thinks about it.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 04:31 PM
12

She's 22. God damn! She's been busy.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 04:30 PM
3

You expressed a massive amount of insecurity. It is extremely unattractive, to the point that you have eliminated all chances you had with those women.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 04:27 PM
1

It just sounds like you might have rushed the experience once you got her to your place. I should have saved the making out and heavy touching for when we got back to my place No, escalate early is the right move. She was into it, you just need to focus on dealing with last minute resistance.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 01:16 PM
1

Just take note of how she acts when the bill comes. Does she offer to pay or split? ...if yes, her value at a LTR candidate increases.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 01:08 PM
2

Focus your conversations on fun topics and playfully make fun of her responses. There is a ton of information on the internet about speaking with women. Try google. I ask if I'm getting a first date kiss and get rejected. Never ask. You should be able to sense the vibe, like she's smiling and laughing - having a good time. That is when you go for the kiss. Never ask.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 01:03 PM
1

Your profession adds to your SMV. Just because they know you make money doesn't mean you have to give them any.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 12:58 PM
-2

There is a pretty big difference between a 19yr old girl who has had sex with a few partners and an actual slut.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 12:56 PM
3

The other thing to know is that if your gf is looking to cheat, or is cheating on you, it's because you aren't giving her the same tingles you did when you first hooked up. Fix that shit and liven up your relationship so that she forgets about orbiter dick. How you do that is up to you. Quoted for emphasis.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 12:53 PM
4

I acted like IDGAF Continue with this.
/r/askTRP26/10/15 12:52 PM
1

People fucking stare, and not in a good way. Sucks you feel this way, but I understand. Perhaps through challenging yourself in this way you will be happily surprised to find that most folks (myself included) are looking at you with respect and appreciation. Or not.
/r/askTRP23/10/15 04:44 PM
1

it's the act of doing it in uniform But, what does that mean? ...feels unprofessional or what?
/r/askTRP23/10/15 01:05 PM
1

Most guys are beta and accept the orbiter role, participating in one-sided "friendships," in the hopes of maybe ...just maybe ...they'll get back together. It is the epitome of a lack of abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP23/10/15 01:04 PM
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I was wearing a military uniform, didn't want to do it in uniform. Stupid, but I just feel awkward or like a tool wearing this and approaching girls, thus I never have. This is completely backwards thinking. Women's attraction to men in uniform is beyond cliche ...use it to your advantage.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 06:36 PM
2

My ex wants me back, I just want the sex. Don't tell her overtly that she is a plate. Just invite her over, have sex and move on. Don't talk about emotional, social shit. Be very superficial, dismissive and heartless ...focus on sex. As others have said, it's more difficult than it appears on paper. Largely, it's not worth the effort.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 04:02 PM
2

Have a goal in contacting her. I suggest setting up a date, not having a text conversation.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 04:01 PM
1

I insist my LTRs cut all contact with orbiters as part of exclusivity negotiations. She broaches the subject, you present your concerns. "I like what we're currently doing, but exclusivity is an interesting idea. I'm not comfortable with ______." These are your terms. If she wants exclusivity, that what she will have to accept. If not, she can stay a plate.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 01:59 PM
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While it may seem like a woman in an open relationship is JUST looking to fuck outside her primary relationship, my experience has been that they are wholly unsatisfied with their beta partner - not only in how the beta fucks, but also in their passive mindset. The problem (I've seen) is that these women continue to seek out beta partners, hoping a harem of betas will fill in for the lack of leadership. Talking to these women feels like a job interview - not fun, at all. They tend to not like th…
/r/askTRP22/10/15 01:48 PM
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You know her better than I do, but she doesn't seem like she is upset enough to warrant any attention on your part. I would ignore, unless she brings it up again. If she does, you still maintain a dismissive attitude. "I was hungry. You weren't available. I ate by myself."
/r/askTRP22/10/15 01:35 PM
7

(he is very RP) No, he's not. RP wouldn't accept physical violence. RP wouldn't entertain her arguments. RP wouldn't tell you that stupid feedback.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 01:27 PM
2

Vulnerability is difficult. It's risky. Rationalize your distrust - be conscious about what is happening and make decisions based on fact.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 01:24 PM
2

It's an open. Make an inappropriate/funny/sexual comment.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 01:20 PM
1

Your frame with a girl is established the moment you meet her. If you start as a friend and want something more, you're going to have to dig yourself out of a hole. Can it be done? Sure, but it is rarely worth the time and energy. It is much easier to start alpha and stay alpha.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 01:19 PM
2

Stop thinking in absolutes. These are just nuggets of wisdom which may or may not apply to a specific scenario. Always try to see the others point in an argument So that you can improve your own position. Always apologise if you are wrong Strive to never be wrong. Assume that every person you meet is superior in someway I don't subscribe to this. Instead, I ignore competition - it doesn't exist. I always do my best. Give loads of compliments to everyone you meet This is very circumstantial. With…
/r/askTRP22/10/15 01:14 PM
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we hear that couples try for kids for few months This generally relates to women in their 30s and up. Young women are much more fertile. Everyone agrees that condoms suck, but momentary pleasure isn't worth a lifetime commitment.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 01:10 PM
5

You're at square 1. Study the sidebar, then come back for specific advice.
/r/askTRP22/10/15 01:07 PM
2

Would small claims court have the ability to get the replacement in my possession? It will win you a check to cash.
/r/askTRP21/10/15 09:06 PM
3

The more you talk, the less you fuck. Don't waste time trying to get to know a girl through your computer. Set up one-on-one time, talk and touch, then.
/r/askTRP21/10/15 09:03 PM
3

"I don't give on the first date" "Me either." ...proceed with moving toward bed. I didn't know whether I fucked up at this point, so I just backed off and said "Ok, I'll be on my way then", she seemed to looked at me in awe, and started laughing "Next time". She went for the kiss again, and I went on my way. You did fuck it up, but she's right - there is next time. There is tons of info in TRP on dealing with LMR.
/r/askTRP21/10/15 09:01 PM
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Not a question of whether she'll fuck me. Question is how long do I wait or just walk 'cause it's long. I do agree she's set the table on her terms. The fact that you believe it is all that matters. You've touched on exactly how you go about flipping it. It has all been on her terms. Now, it's time for you to establish your terms. You do this by withdrawing emotionally, by becoming less available and less interested. She will work to keep your interest. When she starts to get frustrated, you set…
/r/askTRP21/10/15 08:49 PM
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She's not ready. This is bullshit. She knew she was (or wasn't) going to fuck you within 10 seconds of meeting you. she has only been with 1 guy her whole life I highly doubt this. Do you believe it? I'm concerned about the lack of sex after 5-6 months but she's a quality person. What are your goals with this woman? I suspect you want to be with a woman who actually desires you. Realize she is ALREADY negotiating sex, using it as a carrot on a stick to get what she wants. You will only EVER have…
/r/askTRP21/10/15 08:36 PM
2

what are you looking for on here? I know a TRP regular is advocating this line, but I hate it. You both know why she is on Tinder and (more importantly) why she is messaging you first. It's clear she wants to hook up, ASAP. Personally, I JUST go for the number in this scenario.
/r/askTRP21/10/15 06:55 PM
1

She's supposedly a "plate" and his SMV is lower than yours. You shouldn't feel threatened, at all. Ignore.
/r/askTRP21/10/15 06:51 PM
1

Just slowly fade away, eventually stopping all communications for "no reason."
/r/askTRP21/10/15 06:47 PM
1

Men are responsible for maintaining an illusion of control. Exactly true. Women don't... I don't care for some of TRP's generalization. They go a bit too far, IMO. However, I appreciate the message of AWALT, as a tool to identify red flags in LTR candidates. I'm not really sure you can share those experiences. There is a certain degree of foolishness, in taking the risk of making yourself vulnerable to another person. It's scary, too. But, to be an optimist and seek out the best in other people …
/r/askTRP21/10/15 06:40 PM
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He doesn't love her in the right way, fuck her right, provide enough, then she'll leave, cheat or check out. That's right, relationships are work. Hard work. However, the more you internalize TRP, the more you live it instinctually, the easier it gets. I think we all struggle with the fantasy of equality - that the love we feel for a woman is (or should be) enough. It is not. And I don't believe it ever was. Forever, men have been the providers ...not just financially, but in all ways. Now that …
/r/askTRP20/10/15 06:32 PM
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Don't get hung up on the labels. SMV is sexual marketplace value - emphasis on VALUE. The ability to provide financial stability is valuable - an Alpha/leadership trait. Again, just because you have financial value doesn't mean a plate or LTR is going to actually have access to that value. I make 3x more money than my LTR (she doesn't know that, exactly), but we split everything 50/50. The idea (alone) of my financial stability makes her FEEL more secure, and adds to my SMV.
/r/askTRP20/10/15 02:19 PM
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She feels like she doesn't need to impress or please you, now that you're locked into a LTR. Two weeks is a very short timeline for this to happen, though. Honestly, I would go hard - break up, saying you need a more sexually stimulating relationship. Don't negotiate, don't argue. Just say you're done and don't respond to any calls or texts for a few days - no matter what. If she is still begging you to come back 4-5 days later, you call her up and "reluctantly" set the new terms for your relati…
/r/askTRP20/10/15 01:18 PM
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The trade off is you become less emotionally available, but more sexually dominating. You reward good behavior with intense sex. You punish bad behavior with withdrawn attention. You don't withdraw without cause or fail to dominate in bed, otherwise she says... she feels like the "organic friendship" is deteriorating between us Don't fuck up.
/r/askTRP20/10/15 01:09 PM
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Plate her if you want, but know that plates are JUST for fucking. All the friend shit you do has to go away or else you will be FWB, soon there after feelings will get hurt. Or, you will embrace your oneitis and LTR a low quality candidate, again. Really, since you are new to TRP, it's best you either keep her as strictly platonic or cut all contact. Spinning plates isn't easy, particularly with a girl you have history with.
/r/askTRP20/10/15 01:05 PM
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If you want it to stop, agree & amplify. It will make her realize how dumb she is being and she will eventually stop.
/r/askTRP20/10/15 01:01 PM
1

It's a SMV bonus.
/r/askTRP20/10/15 03:26 AM
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ill turn my new house into a vagina factory Def go with this. Best.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 08:03 PM
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LOL ...and you're advice... be rude to her Either it turns her on or creates needless drama. You're a fool.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 08:01 PM
1

recent sexual assault claims in my campus Don't live a life based on fear. I was waiting for any advance she would make You'll be waiting a lifetime. All women want to be dominated by confident men. did not think her coming to my room alone at 2AM was a sign she wanted me Foolish.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 07:56 PM
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normal normal Your money is none of her fucking business. She is not a quality LTR. We live together now and I'm worried that if I get her pregnant or any other 'next level shit' happens that I'm being taken for a ride. You have identified your biggest problem. Only ever live with a woman you intend to marry within the first year. we argued that because my wages Again, your money is none of her business. All expenses are 50/50 and she needs to pay back the debt, by a specific deadline. Move out.…
/r/askTRP19/10/15 07:53 PM
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She came over and we talked for a whole hour about life So, basically, you puss'd out. The only problem is you second guessed yourself. You invited her over to fuck. She came over to fuck. But... all this time I was expecting to start fucking at anytime A man leads, not the woman. It is on you to make it happen.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 07:47 PM
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No, you don't comfort/encourage this shit. You listen, you understand and then you fuck, hard. If she is too upset for sex, you tell her you're going to leave. She'll get upset. "I'm not mad, but it seems like you need some space." She'll go through it one more time and then you fuck her or GTFO.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 07:43 PM
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Was that a good response I don't know, maybe depending on how silly the conversation was leading up to it. Still, it smells a bit like a negotiation, like "if you give me your number, I'll impress you." Don't pussyfoot around - if you want to set up a date, set up a fucking date. You can drop the silly shit when it's time to get serious. I tried it with some of them, didn't work. It's a numbers game. For every girl you match with, only a percentage are actually going to ever really be interested…
/r/askTRP19/10/15 07:35 PM
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suggest we hang out so she can show me around since I'm kinda new here Well, that sounds very passive and boring. No one wants to be your tour guide, certainly not a Tinder slut. It's an easy "next" for them. How about you actually suggest something specific and fun to do - you know, like a leader might do. "let's grab a drink, sometime soon. give me your number and we'll set it up"
/r/askTRP19/10/15 06:14 PM
1

Call him, "Susan, I mean Suzy. My bad."
/r/askTRP19/10/15 05:49 PM
1

Unless you're trying to fuck the sister, nothing she says or does matters. Ignore.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 05:41 PM
1

The mental trick you have to play (on yourself) is to treat 7-10s like you treat 6s. They aren't anything special or different, except in appearances.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 05:38 PM
2

escalation over text What is this? Escalation (in TRP terms) is physical touch. It seems either be bold and have them put off a beat or be generic and have them not respond. The sweet spot is somewhere in the middle, obviously. Go with silly, sexual humor.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 05:33 PM
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Believe what they do, not what they say. Tinder is well-known as a casual dating app. If a girl's friends, co-workers or family see her on there, they are going to think she is a slut. "No hookups" is basic anti-slut defense (ASD). 95% of people are there to fuck, 5% don't know/understand what Tinder is all about.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 04:49 PM
1

You either believe her or you don't, that is the end of this thread. If you believe her, forget it. If you don't, end it.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 04:46 PM
1

And you don't believe her.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 04:11 PM
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Tinder is about sex, regardless of your location. Make them laugh with something silly and flirtatious, get the number, set up the date near a bed and fuck. Don't try to get to know them through the app.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 03:37 PM
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Love is a real feeling, yes. You will feel it again. However, this time you will also know that that feeling is purely conditional. Your eyes will be open to the fact that feelings come and feelings go. Enjoy it for what it is, while it exists. Then, when it comes to an end, let it. Don't fight with her or yourself to hold onto something that can't be held. Continue to enjoy that loving experience for what it was, while you move on with your life.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 03:32 PM
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Don't be so timid about what you want. You give her half an answer, letting her float, not knowing the reality of your relationship. With plates, you should use their competitive instincts to your advantage with agree & amplify. she asked if i have sex with other girls while she is away This should've been responded to in a way that is vague, but ridiculously affirmative. "I've got'em lined up out the door." The reality is she is struggling with the fact that she has little to no control over yo…
/r/askTRP19/10/15 03:29 PM
3

Just because they know you make money doesn't mean they are going to get a taste of it.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 03:20 PM
1

There is always touching and flirting Keep in mind, this is also a part of orbiting.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 03:17 PM
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She sounds like a shitty friend, a shittier plate and a nightmare LTR. However, she's perfect for orbiting and losing all your self-respect.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 02:32 PM
1

There are a whole lot of excuses in this post, mostly due to you thinking these women are somehow better than they are.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 01:38 PM
1

Take the insult of completely disregarding you for what it is, insulting. Just because she has a pussy doesn't mean she can treat you like shit. Easy, laughable hard next. She is not worthy of you.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 01:36 PM
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She is never going to fuck you. NEVER.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 01:33 PM
1

for personal reasons I WILL NOT bring women back to my place The only problem was the hotel suggestion. It makes them feel like whores - save it for established plates. Unless a new girl has a place to take you, take them to your place. What's the big deal about your place?
/r/askTRP19/10/15 01:26 PM
1

Yes, you are fucking it up. Women love sex, apparently more than you do.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 01:24 PM
5

This is unacceptable, particularly for a LDR. Hard next. Date women within a 20min drive of you, only.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 01:22 PM
1

She needs therapy, but also you're role is to not give a shit about the emotional bullshit. Listen, reiterate what you hear and then fuck the shit out of her. If she keeps it up, tell her you're going to leave. She'll ask if you're mad, but you say, "I'm not mad, it just seems like you could use some space." Again, she will cry and then, you fuck the shit out of her or go.
/r/askTRP19/10/15 01:18 PM
3

Again with your dick obsession?! You're gonna get yourself banned.
/r/askTRP18/10/15 03:08 PM
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When I text her in a week I wouldn't initiate any communications with her. Do a soft next - wait for her to contact you (with a positive attitude) and set up a fuck session.
/r/askTRP18/10/15 03:05 PM
3

Instead of setting fire to all your money, send it to me.
/r/askTRP18/10/15 03:01 PM
1

Just keep reading. Your beer/kiss thing was lame. It was a transaction and it was completed. If you wanted it to lead to something more, you have to make a transition of some kind.
/r/askTRP18/10/15 12:33 AM
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Then, when she gets there, tell her to wait a second so you can ask us how to greet her.
/r/askTRP18/10/15 12:29 AM
2

Just let it go. LDRs are extremely hard to maintain and you've totally failed at it. She's not as great as you would like to imagine and she is over your bullshit, that's for sure ...dating a lazy, drug addict. Fun.
/r/askTRP18/10/15 12:27 AM
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This is pure oneitis. Yea, now, you're ready to "plate" this girl. Except, you don't really know what a plate is or how to go about it ...you don't even realize that you've missed your chance. You are solidly framed in her mind as a friend. As soon as you try to reframe the relationship (into whatever you imagine a plate to be) she is going to reject you. Leave this girl as a friend, learn of practice of Plate Theory with other women.
/r/askTRP18/10/15 12:20 AM
1

She drinks?! She dances?! She talks to men?! How, fucking, dare she?!!!
/r/askTRP18/10/15 12:15 AM
1

Didn't close or anything like that, just said goodnight. This is the only mistake you made. I'm thinking soft next This is correct.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 09:03 PM
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Within the span of two weeks you've fallen in love, and then back out of love. You are deep in the blue pill fantasy world and your standards are way too low. Keep reading TRP. Focus on goals that don't involve women. Stop seeking their validation. Grow up.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 08:57 PM
1

Overt communication is rarely the way to go. Sexual humor and physical touch get the message across.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 05:39 PM
1

A proper chef makes panties wet.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 05:37 PM
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Listen, a plate is a girl you are actively fucking. Plates are fucktoys and THAT IS IT. They are not workout buddies. This was the fifth time we had a chance to fuck and didn't go all the way, she has blown me though. Something always seems to interrupt. 5th time in 10 months??? You have never fucked this girl?! She is not a plate, she is your friend. All this talking bullshit you were doing - trying to gain verbal sexual consent / negotiating sex WILL NEVER WORK. You want me to believe she's bl…
/r/askTRP16/10/15 05:33 PM
1

I care.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 05:24 PM
2

I thought I was being bold by inviting her back to my buddies. No, bold would be inviting her somewhere where it is just you and her, like your place or a bar, even. "I want to focus on you, girl." A place with friends is safe.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 05:22 PM
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The only problem with what you said is that you left it open ended. Do you want to see this girl? If yes, than you have to reschedule your meet up. I can't make it, tonight. I gotta help my sister. Let's reschedule for TIME and PLACE. Nothing you said expressed any interest in spending time with her. It was just a plan ol' cancel. She's left thinking you're done, regardless of why you are done.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 04:38 PM
1

You are being way too passive. Embrace your inner pervert and be more bold.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 04:35 PM
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Tell her to line it up, if you are into it. Don't express any hesitation, but don't be over-eager, either. Competition (among women) is good, encourage it.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 04:27 PM
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Attractive athletic guy Yea, I mean boil down her sentence and she's ONLY saying she thinks you're sexy. She is thirsty, man ...go get it!
/r/askTRP16/10/15 03:59 PM
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It honestly doesn't sound like she is doing anything abnormal. All women enjoy being flirted with, what matters is how they deal with it - seems like she didn't escalate it. However, it may also be an indication that she may be bored with you. Make sex more dominating and keep reading here. Bigger picture, you should NOT be living with her. This was a huge mistake. You never move in with a girl you don't plan to marry within a year. I would move out. Which, in turn, would end your relationship.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 03:03 PM
4

Duel income families are the standard for more than 30 years, now. My opinion on reality? ...deal with it.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 02:56 PM
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Girls who message first are hungry for dick. Don't read too much into what she types, be positive and make the conversation funny/sexual. Get the number and set up the date, near a bed. She is NOT being critical of you or CS. She's trying to flirt.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 02:54 PM
0

Eat a dick.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 02:51 PM
1

Well, leaving out details isn't going to win you great advice.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 01:43 PM
0

(she was sitting on my bed with me) and was giving me those "fuck me" eyes all the time. That WAS your opportunity and you missed it.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 01:14 PM
3

So, the choice is ugly & rich or rich & ugly? /shitpost
/r/askTRP16/10/15 01:07 PM
1

It sounds like you just need to practice participating in engaging conversations. Strike up conversations with people who just happen to be around you, have fun with it.
/r/askTRP16/10/15 01:06 PM
1

tried to explain that I thought she was really pretty and didn't want to mess up after I got her number. So I got help from reddit. God damn, man. Of course she doesn't want to hear how you're insecure, intimidated and need help from strangers on the internet. She (and all women) want a confident man, above all else. You basically just told her, "I am the exact opposite of everything you want in a man, please forgive me." Gross. Never attempt to talk to her, again.
/r/seduction16/10/15 12:48 PM
5

I don't know shit about haircuts and stuff and need some advice Go to a professional or do whatever the fuck you want, you stupid fuck.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 08:30 PM
2

Go to a proper hair salon and tell them you want a nice, trendy haircut ...let them to do whatever they want.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 07:58 PM
0

There's no way to properly groom a man who's 60 lbs overweight. That's a ridiculous statement. Lose weight, of course, but proper hygiene, hair and fashion style has value.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 07:57 PM
5

wow
/r/askTRP15/10/15 07:56 PM
1

Blunt and upfront is going to fail you more often than not, over text or in-person ...unless you're seducing MILFs over 40 or literal whores, of course. "Nextflix and chill" is not a game or code. It's a basic (and old) joke within the casual dating scene. If you were currently actively dating women in their 20s, you would be well aware of it. You would also be more concerned with and practiced in text game. But, you're not and that is totally fine. However, you most certainly should not be givi…
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:34 PM
2

38, you?
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:10 PM
4

Not maybe. Definitely. I've already posted a better response to her initial text, above. no worries, just trying to have fun. hit me up if you change your mind.
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:05 PM
8

You are really bad at this.
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:39 PM
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Haha wow She rolled her eyes so hard at this response. It was the wrong move. First of all, it was way too wordy. Second, it was cynical and sexually obvious. It would've been better to take a dismissive route, like... no worries, just trying to have fun. hit me up if you change your mind.
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:06 PM
2

I'm telling you, they ALL are disgusted by it.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 03:36 PM
2

Stop eyeballing people, freak.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 03:33 PM
1

It's all about priorities. Your kid needs you. Your health, your financial well-being and your child are now your top three priorities, in that order. Ignore all negativity with your baby momma. Don't participate in arguments, don't talk about feelings, don't have an opinion on anything she says/does ...she is not a friend, she is a co-parent. Just focus on logistics and the kid's well-being.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 03:29 PM
1

Kissed her and touched her butt There are many physical steps (kino) that will increase the sexiness of the entire date experience and make kissing more well received.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 03:20 PM
2

I haven't talked to in a while. Your post is really vague. It's important for us to understand the established frame. By what you say here, she has you framed as a non-sexual friend. She played along with the date idea, gave it a shot, but largely she was underwhelmed with the entire experience and would like to keep you around for honest friendship, but more likely emotional validation ...orbiting. If you bother to continue trying, I would amp up the boldness to the point that you very well mig…
/r/askTRP15/10/15 03:16 PM
2

OP sums it up at the bottom, in Lessons Learned.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 03:12 PM
1

So, if you bitch and whine a little, maybe all these other positives make up for it. But know for a fact, women want men to be non-emotional, at all times. While they will express temporary support for you, they are actually disgusted by your emotions.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 03:08 PM
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Yea, what the fuck is so hard about not answering your fucking phone? Block her number, bitch.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 01:37 PM
4

Anyone can spin plates. Really, all we're talking about is non-exclusive dating ...which is how all romantic relationships begin. As long as your SMV is above the girl's, they will spin and spin and spin. It is at the point where the girl demands exclusivity that the true test (for the man) comes into play. If you want to continue spinning plates, you have to be willing to let plates drop by refusing exclusivity.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 01:34 PM
2

Don't commit to any woman until your late 20s and you'll be fine. Focus on your goals, which should not include a LTR.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 01:30 PM
2

Just stop communicating with her. No one likes being dumped, expect drama if you say anything.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 01:29 PM
1

I'm doubting myself. As soon as you start doubting yourself, that's the exact moment opportunity begins to fade. She puts herself out there for your emotional and physical validation. As soon as you shy away from the physical and stroke her ego, she compartmentalizes you outside her sexuality - you become a beta orbiter. You MUST strike while the iron is hot.
/r/askTRP15/10/15 01:24 PM
1

she's desperatly looking for a provider Oh, believe that, for sure. However, whores think they can fuck their way into quality relationships. Anyway, the more you write about how you spend time together, the less it sounds like she is actually interested in you sexually. While you think there is some sexual chemistry, you are actually just orbiting.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 09:18 PM
4

I am talking like a pussy here Correct. I can't help it. Fuck you.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 09:08 PM
1

Coffee, mall, park, your house, her house ...anything. "Let's hang out." ...keep it casual, don't call it a date.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 09:07 PM
1

She is not an 8, but MILFs love to fuck. If she went through the trouble of getting a babysitter, during the week, than she is likely hoping to get laid. Just stop second guessing yourself and have fun.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 09:05 PM
2

Tell her "I'm not comfortable with my girlfriend hanging out with other dudes." Maybe she can handle that requirement, maybe she can't.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 09:02 PM
3

Just realize women love sex, just as much as you do.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 08:50 PM
1

He's not your boyfriend, why do you care?
/r/askTRP14/10/15 08:48 PM
1

Indeed, a bunch of dudes here do like coffee dates. I prefer alcohol.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 08:38 PM
3

No man. No one is looking forward to studying. Study with friends. Do exciting shit with women.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 06:54 PM
1

You are obsessed with big dicks.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 04:49 PM
6

DSWYE applies to professional, career-oriented environments. Fuck all the college girls, after you do your homework.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 04:47 PM
2

Read up on "amused mastery" and focus on enjoying life as it comes. Hint: this chick is not your ex-wife.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 04:44 PM
1

Stop thinking about the size of dicks, including your own.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 04:41 PM
1

You advertised that you have a big dick and then you're surprised that she is disappointed?! ...as I said in another of your posts, you're an idiot.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 04:38 PM
4

please advise You're an idiot. Stop being an idiot.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 04:35 PM
2

She was being playful, trying to have fun. "Wow. You just thru out a deal breaker. Too bad." Is it so hard for you to just not take shit so seriously? A better response... Fuck! I might be late, going to have to pick up something to cover my junk in public.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 04:32 PM
4

This is nonsense, which you whole-heartedly believe. No one here can help you.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 04:28 PM
6

You watch too much porn and so YOU are obsessed with big dicks. Women with big pussies seek out big dicks, sure. But, even they don't value cock size over all the other emotional bullshit women value. An average sized dick (5-6") is most certainly NOT a deal breaker for the vast majority of women, because guess what ...the average vagina is a perfect match for the average cock.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 02:33 PM
3

Exactly, theorizing about what her words mean is a waste of time. Just have fun with her.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 02:30 PM
1

She's not your servant, there to validate you with affection.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 01:49 PM
1

It's about eliminating negative influences from your life. Maybe it's because I'm old, but I don't have any time for the negative. Liars and manipulators, no thanks. Do as you like.
/r/askTRP14/10/15 01:47 PM
0

Stop seeking external validation. She likes you plenty. Now, go make yourself a better man and stop giving a shit if some teenage girl blew you a kiss or not.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 08:35 PM
2

Trust in the fact that you are young and just beginning a very long life. Whatever bad shit you think is happening now will become more and more meaningless as you continue to learn about and experience the world. The only answer is hard work. Focus on achieving short-term and long-term goals. Forget could've, should've and would've.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 08:32 PM
3

You can only ever reasonably expect to date at or below your SMV, so no ...a 2 will never get with an 8. It's important to have realistic expectations about what you can pull. Still, a 1 isn't going to throw herself at a 2 that is failing at being a 2.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 08:26 PM
1

I'm not going to tell you want "honesty" means to you. Trust in your relationship, talk to him and stop talking to his family.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 07:54 PM
3

I'm back in town, come over.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 07:51 PM
5

You are so obsessed with every little detail and clearly can't wrap your head around it all. So, I'll just give you some high-level advice, which you should apply throughout. Stop worrying about it. Care less. She's just a girl. Enjoy your time with her. If she breaks up with you, fine. If not, stop doing so much shit for her. Stop obsessing over her. Women come and go - let them. Also, use condoms, idiot.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 07:48 PM
1

Any advice aside from dumping him as a friend? Nope.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 07:37 PM
2

Conflict is exciting.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 07:37 PM
5

Basically - "do things for yourself and they will come" only applies to the top guys. This is false, but whatever. Do what you want.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 07:36 PM
1

Focus your energy on open, honest and direct communications with YOUR HUSBAND. Let him deal with HIS family, just as you should be responsible for dealing with YOUR family.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 07:35 PM
1

It sounds like whatever you are doing isn't sexual enough. Friends touch and look each other in the eye, too. A sexual relationship is dirtier than that. Don't "vocalize your intent" in an overt way, but you should make it obvious you are into her, sexually. Inappropriate humor is key, IMO.
/r/askTRP13/10/15 06:01 PM
1

No contact hard next. This is the ONLY option.
/r/askTRP12/10/15 04:23 PM
3

Tailored clothes.
/r/askTRP08/10/15 10:51 PM
3

WTF are you even worrying yourself about? ...small talk? Look at you, communicating with mortals. What will the gods think?!
/r/askTRP08/10/15 07:47 PM
1

yea, but you lock it in, in the conversation. "See you at the Local, at 7" ...instead of "lets do it" Then, she confirms "sounds good!" and you have a solid plan together.
/r/askTRP08/10/15 07:43 PM
3

Just show up when you said you would. That is what grown ups do and expect of each other.
/r/askTRP08/10/15 07:41 PM
2

just show up at the venue I never confirm and have only been stood up once in 20+ years. I expect people to do as they say they will. By and large, they do. Anyway, if she doesn't show, you are more than capable of pregaming at a bar and then heading to your party. A confirmation message is a very clear sign of a lack of confidence, IMO. Typically, women can't help but seek confirmation anyway. me: lets do it Next time, be more specific. "see you at PLACE at TIME" ...your last little "7" was wei…
/r/askTRP08/10/15 07:06 PM
2

This is stupid.
/r/askTRP08/10/15 07:02 PM
3

Too tired to fuck? Boo!!! I'm giving up on you, too.
/r/askTRP08/10/15 06:22 PM
1

its worked a couple times I go for the hug immediately and continuing touching throughout the night. ...has worked far more than just a couple times. YMMV
/r/askTRP08/10/15 05:47 PM
3

Face tattoo, we're all doing it.
/r/askTRP08/10/15 05:42 PM
1

I don't normally escalate at the table or bar. Good lord... I think bars were invented for escalation. Touch her!
/r/askTRP08/10/15 05:40 PM
2

Are you worried she is going to fuck her tv?
/r/askTRP08/10/15 05:35 PM
1

As a teenager it is almost impossible to spin plates Come on, man. You simply lack confidence. Forget this girl and talk to all the other ones.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 08:45 PM
2

3 "Mother, I need your help. Traveling 2 hours every day is a affecting my ability to succeed in my studies. I need to move to a place closer to school so that I can refocus my energy on my studies. I will fail without your support in this." Do not argue the details of why its affecting you and how you can solve those little problems, focus on the distance and any other big reasons why you need to move. Don't make it personal, don't try to comfort her sad feelings about it. It is a matter of fac…
/r/askTRP06/10/15 08:41 PM
2

Keep it positive, but dismissive. "no worries. hit me up whenever you want to have fun" ...never talk about what that means. Whenever you're together, continue having fun and escalating.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 08:35 PM
6

What bothers me is that white people hate Indians. Untrue. Racists hate other races.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 08:32 PM
1

When she says something negative about her weight, cooly agree with her. "It's true." "I see it, too." "You should work on it." Or, simply nod in agreement. It's going to piss her off, but this is a serious problem, for you.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 08:30 PM
1

And also fucking. Thanks, /u/laere
/r/askTRP06/10/15 07:46 PM
1

Me: What're you looking for This is a stupid question. She's on Tinder for sex. Everyone is on Tinder for sex. Skip the bullshit. You're setting yourself up for disappointment.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:53 PM
1

This is stupid. Instead of giving a second thought to purposefully showing up late, invest time into becoming a more charming person.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:48 PM
1

just set up the date. you can catch up, then.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:42 PM
1

move on to another woman
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:40 PM
1

"No."
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:30 PM
2

Exercise, working, cooking, hiking, camping, traveling, eating good food, drinking, art, music, movies and fucking and fucking and fucking.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:28 PM
1

I would lean more towards being less friendly and more business-minded with this TEMPORARY ROOMMATE.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:25 PM
3

already asked her out, maybe ill see what other girls have to offer and ask her out again later What does this mean, you already asked her out and will ask her out again? Did she agree to go out this first time you asked?
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:22 PM
2

then this dude who followed me everywhere said if he could come "No, she and I need to talk about something." ...then as you walk away with her, "Now, we need something serious to talk about. Tell me your thoughts on [insert something silly and/or sexual]."
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:21 PM
11

Realize she isn't special and that her opinion of you doesn't matter. Focus your attention on self improvement and be open to other opportunities. If she comes back around, fine ...but forget her, for now.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:16 PM
1

This is all a bunch of bullshit.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:15 PM
3

She is no longer a potential LTR. You should demote her plate status. Start focusing more so on other women.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:14 PM
2

I've been talking to this really hot girl on tinder. I'm surprised we have so much to talk about. This is a bigger problem than your height. Save the conversations for the date - use your phone strictly to set up dates.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:11 PM
1

Hey thanks for spotting me at the club, can I get you back with some coffee tomorrow? "thanks for spotting me at the club, let me buy you a drink Wed or Thurs at PLACE and TIME"
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:08 PM
1

I prefer alcohol.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:04 PM
1

Improv classes can be helpful for learning to be bold and entertaining.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 06:02 PM
1

I asked her if she could keep me updated about the situation. We exchanged numbers. Your initial frame was platonic. You have to set a sexual tone from the beginning. I was planning to take you to cinema or something. we could have fun but anyway. see you tomorrow. This is weak as fuck, very passive. Do you even want to go out with this chick, because it sounds like you couldn't give a shit. We were hanging and socializing and shit at a students clubs headquarters. You guys are friends. Stop ask…
/r/askTRP06/10/15 04:56 PM
7

men start getting soft around 35, and it only gets worse Hey doc, your research is bullshit. How should wives handle it? Honest & vulnerable communication.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 04:51 PM
15

You really can't compete with celebrity. You can't compete with her family's status. You must act like those things are meaningless, to you ...you are above them, but not looking down on them. They are what they are and that is fine ...you just don't care. In all other ways, you must excel, if you want to have any kind of chance.
/r/askTRP06/10/15 04:47 PM
2

The real question to me is why not leave if it's inappropriate? Why? Because she knows you won't leave her.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 11:24 PM
1

potential plate situation This is so far off from a plate scenario. Please goggle and study, "Plate Theory" ...you're doing it wrong.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 11:22 PM
1

It's more about dominant and submissive roles than it is about gender.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 11:16 PM
3

I feel guilty It's perfectly acceptable for you to have conditions for your continued relationship. She knows what she is doing is bullshit and she doesn't care. I think it's the company she keeps that makes her do this. Wake up. This is a choice she is making for herself. No one is making her do anything.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 11:15 PM
1

Right. You never introduce a new girl to your social circle until you have an established relationship - platonic, plate or LTR. All people (women and men) need to earn the privilege of meeting your friends and family.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 08:28 PM
2

It is a misconception that divorce courts have a gender bias. The truth is that the person making more money gets fucked in divorce court. It just so happens that men typically make more money than women.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 07:26 PM
1

You don't mix friends and plates. Plates are just for fucking.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 07:22 PM
1

It's not so much that I have made a calculated effort in instill dread. Passive dread may be more accurate - I'm 8 years older, an established professional, responsible father and women are drawn to me - She's younger, establishing her career and just getting a taste of adulthood, I'd say. I represent very serious shit and handle it with apparent ease, but handle it decisively. She has never dated anyone like me, in so many ways, but particularly in how I lead our relationship. My sense is that …
/r/askTRP05/10/15 07:14 PM
2

Yea, I get it. I didn't come here seeking advice on how to fix someone else, certainly not women. I proudly admit I am flawed and welcome insight into ways I can improve
/r/askTRP05/10/15 06:37 PM
1

Another respondent suggested my previous reactions with these women may have appeared angry or bitter, or perhaps I may have instilled too much dread. I don't hold a grudge, however I am very decisive and resolute. I can imagine I may have expressed too much dread, particularly with my current LTR.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 05:24 PM
2

♂
/r/askTRP05/10/15 05:14 PM
3

afraid of your reactions Indeed! I suppose I'm looking for balance. I haven't gotten angry or bitter with my current LTR, but I may have dread her too hard. Thanks so much for your response.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 05:13 PM
2

Correct.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 05:09 PM
1

OP has said so himself this is a recurring theme in his relationships. Sorry for the confusion. Fighting is not the recurring theme and indeed why I was vague about my post. I am open to reasonable debate, even arguing - I will not participate in yelling matches. The recurring theme is the reaction, that they withhold the truth. Other responders seemed to pick up on my meaning, but thanks for the response.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 05:08 PM
1

some women will perceive you as so high in value that you would never understand it when they have a problem/issue. This is on point. Thanks.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 05:06 PM
1

I didn't say anything remotely like this.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 05:05 PM
1

Inspiring openness involves being a little open yourself. Thanks, and I agree.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 05:05 PM
8

First things first, fix or end your marriage. Then, realize this new girl isn't anything special. You're looking for an escape and that's all she represents. It's not reality.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 02:33 PM
1

I updated my previous response to you. Deceit would stem (in that example) from the fact that she would withhold discussing her issues because she feared I would leave the conversation. I would know something is up, she would slowly let it out and then we would move on. I would find it frustrating that she doesn't trust me or herself.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 02:17 PM
2

I honestly don't think so. An example from a previous relationship being my unwillingness to participate in arguments. As soon as yelling starts, I make it clear that I will leave and then do so. Soon there after, I ended the relationship.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 02:10 PM
1

Afro standards What do you mean???
/r/askTRP05/10/15 01:58 PM
3

Generally, you're looking for her to suggest an alternate time whenever a girl rejects you. The trouble is, your "date" idea is super casual ...it can be interpreted as anything other than intimate. Be more bold about what you actually want to do with her.
/r/askTRP05/10/15 01:23 PM
3

Give up, don't try anything. Everything is hopeless.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 08:03 PM
2

This whole post is negative. All your ideas are an acceptance of failure, an acceptance of social pressures to get married and a compromise on what you actually want, as an individual. Plainly, arranged marriage is a stupid idea, while any marriage is a pretty bad idea. Don't get married because you think that is what you are SUPPOSED to do. Get married ONLY if you find a woman worthy of your life-long commitment. Even then, think twice about what benefits you think come with that legal agreemen…
/r/askTRP02/10/15 08:01 PM
1

if you look at the psychology Give me a break, professor. You know what the fuck I'm talking about. Read my whole post and recognize OP is going to have to fight through a shitload of failure before he finds any success.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 06:57 PM
1

Replace all this do-nothing with doing something productive - working out, healthy cooking, reading, making art, building something...
/r/askTRP02/10/15 06:02 PM
4

I think you handled it well with clearly declining the request, following through with going to the bar and not guarding the purses. A better tone to express through all of this is amusement - act like what she said was a ridiculous joke, rather than an insult. Leaving was fine, too and your frame must have been fairly solid since she submitted verbally and physically. Again, next time, laugh your way through it all. You are above this bullshit and so, it's not so serious.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 05:59 PM
1

how to convince him By asking this question, you are headed down a path of manipulation. Instead, focus on enjoying the time you DO spend together. Don't worry about the future and what could be. It's a meaningless fantasy. Enjoy what is right in front of you, while it is in front of you. If it disappears, so be it. If it intensifies, enjoy it still. Also, you're very young. You have a lifetime of experiences to enjoy. To commit at 19 would be a waste of your youth, IMO.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 05:51 PM
2

Confidence comes from failure. With practice, you learn failure is meaningless. From every experience, there is an opportunity to learn. This is the path to success.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 05:40 PM
1

Do what you want, but there is no need to pay for it. Really, it just sounds like you lack confidence. Fire up Tinder. All those women are hungry for dick. Just keep practicing there until you get a few plates spinning.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 02:22 PM
13

is this very common? Extremely common, at all levels.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 02:17 PM
2

Don't participate in this mental masturbation. She is attempting to negotiate commitment out of you. Your reaction is an attempt to negotiate sex out of her. It's a trap. Use less words, be crude, direct, critical and dismissive. Either she submits and enters your frame, or you are done. To do anything else is to be her bitch - you will forever be begging for sex. "I agree a strong emotional connection is critical in a healthy relationship, but so is intense and frequent fucking. Good luck!" And…
/r/askTRP02/10/15 02:10 PM
1

a lot of restaurants in the poorer parts of town do not have any ...money.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 01:59 PM
1

we aren't exclusive ...she's not happy about me going to dance classes Who gives a shit about her opinion? You're not exclusive and she lives far away. She is fucking other dudes and you SHOULD BE fucking other women. How you spend your free time is none of her business. She sounds like an asshole and you sound like a pussy. Marry her.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 01:55 PM
1

She doesn't want to fuck you. She only wants friendship. She is going to continue to reject you. You will feel much better about yourself if you stop talking to her. Never talk to her again. Talk to other women.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 01:50 PM
2

You should be able to talk to your boss about your struggle. Don't do it in a way that is accusatory or embarrassing for the woman. Just express, "I understand I may have made a mistake, but she still seems really upset with me. I'd like to have a more positive working relationship with her. I could really use your advice."
/r/askTRP02/10/15 01:47 PM
1

If my LTR purposefully disrespects me, I'll drop her like she's nothing. I'm chill, I'm laid back and I don't give a fuck ...but I also have clear, serious expectations for those that want to be a part of my life.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 01:38 PM
1

I'm totally tired of the way she treats me. No respect at all. I'll divorce her. This is a pretty good option for me. Focus on these statements. You made them. Believe them. Don't allow yourself to daydream anything you wrote after them. None of it matters.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 01:28 PM
5

No. Talk to other women, forget this one.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 01:24 PM
5

I know the last time I tried having sex with a girl, about a few months ago I was getting heavy ED issues, and couldn't really get it up. This is exactly why you should prioritize eliminating porn from your life. making me put sex and women on a pedestal. Sex with women is a worthy interest. You're just swinging hard from porn obsession to a real world obsession - you're in recovery, essentially. In time, you'll relax on all that shit ...particularly once you are regularly fucking women.
/r/askTRP02/10/15 01:23 PM
1

Why couldn't I find the balls... You failed simply because you haven't practiced enough. You're scared of what might happen, bad and good. The unknown is scary. With practice, as I suggested, you will learn that failure is meaningless. The more you practice, the more you will fail. The more you fail, the less failure hurts. The less it hurts, the less you're scared. When you aren't scared and are able to simply enjoy every moment for what it is, that is exactly when you will find success. Outcom…
/r/askTRP02/10/15 12:49 PM
1

An external threat attacking a female member of my group. It's very situational, I'll give you that. I'm not anyone's savior, except for my children and my exclusive woman - as long as she didn't start the shit. If a chick in "my" group pulls a fight, that's her problem. If she is 100% innocent and being attacked, I'll separate them and exit the building. Really, my point is you (and the group) should be looking for the exit, not justice at any level. You don't hang around aggressive, crazy peop…
/r/askTRP02/10/15 12:42 PM
1

for all I know she could've met Chad earlier that day ha, that right there is pure insecurity.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 07:21 PM
1

There is nothing more disrespectful a partner can do than cheat on you. She shit in your hat and put it on your head ...and you haven't blocked her number, yet?
/r/askTRP01/10/15 07:05 PM
1

False. I am confident enough to expect people to show up when they say they will and I'm also confident enough to know I am going to have a good time with or without this one chick. Confirming a date expresses pure insecurity.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:56 PM
1

5 days of no contact made them forget you This has never been my experience. If they want to meet you, they never forget.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:56 PM
1

As others have said, you are messaging/talking way too much. Tinder: Make them laugh, get the number, set up the date and fuck.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:54 PM
3

Or develop an attractive personality.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:49 PM
1

I feel like normal men don't go through the self-struggle that I feel on a daily basis. We all deal with this to an extent, some more so than others. To be a man is to be responsible. Imagine the pressure you feel, plus a mortgage, plus unemployed wife, plus two kids, plus getting laid off, plus a failed business, plus, plus, plus, plus... The only thing to do is to work smart and work hard. Don't expect other men to want to hear about your brand of bullshit and don't expect any woman to underst…
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:46 PM
2

always push for escalation This is key. A kiss isn't over eager is she has been responding to increased levels of escalation throughout the night. Touch hands, arms, legs, back, neck, stomach, thigh and all else, leading up TO THE KISS. If she's cool with all that, the kiss is simply confirmation.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:41 PM
3

You need to sacrifice whatever friendship you think you have and make it perfectly clear that you want to fuck her. She is going to reject you and you're going to hate her, but that is what you need to hear. Girls do not fuck their friends and it is 100% your fault for making her believe you were her friend.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:18 PM
2

Always (at least) kiss on the first date. Always. I only ever not kiss a woman I am NOT interested in ...and that is exactly how they take it, and your date took it. You don't have to fuck on the first date, but you need to be absolutely clear that you are interested in fucking her. my attempt to schedule a followup has been ignored for 2 days Sorry, it's over. Soft next.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:14 PM
3

Ideally, you would find a woman to whom you actually want to commit. Children are, in fact, a greater commitment than any woman. If you can't handle a woman, you can't handle children. Also, even if you don't marry the woman, you will forever be tied to (committed, at some level) to having the children's mother in your life ...forever. Basically and obviously, there is no escaping the involvement of a woman in your fathering experience.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:09 PM
1

ha!
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:01 PM
2

Exactly. You are the prize, apply some polish and make her chase after you ...or move on, if she doesn't.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 06:00 PM
2

i feel like that conveys lower value Not having time or interest in chatting via your phone is an expression of higher value. "I'm not really into texting, let's talk in person." otherwise i was golden, i thought No. Imagine you had made the rude comment in person, or heard her age comment in person ...you would've been able to defect or correct the conversation with a smirk, eyeroll or laugh. Text is a losing game for an infinite number of reasons ...but mostly in that you can't touch her, esca…
/r/askTRP01/10/15 05:36 PM
1

VasillyZaitzev is mistaken. Hard next is not the proper response. This girl hasn't done anything wrong and might come back around. The soft next is proper. If she contacts you, you simply focus on setting up a fuck session and nothing else.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:57 PM
1

Personally, I would laugh and agree & amplify. However, you are not me. All you can do is keep improving yourself and don't worry about what anyone else thinks or says.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:53 PM
-1

over me getting between her and another girl Mind your own fucking business. She swung ... I blocked ... she swung again ... I snap punched Fine. I stand there Remove yourself from the scene, immediately.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:49 PM
2

Eject. Obviously the sex declined This is a horribly ignorant, beta mentality. Sex can and should remain intense and constant throughout your entire relationship. Demand it of your future women. This one is a lost cause. we are happy together and the time seemed right so I popped the question Wait ...you're happy not getting laid? No, you are not happy in this relationship. You are in denial about your needs and only serving her interests. Be a fucking man, stand up for yourself and GTFO!
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:44 PM
1

Stop overthinking everything. Just enjoy the day and continue practicing your approaches.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:35 PM
2

It sounds like you need to be more aggressive. All women on Tinder want to fuck. Get to it! Especially the ones that initiate conversation, they will fuck instantly.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:32 PM
4

Your whole approach is stupid. Don't ask why they are on Tinder. They are on Tinder to fuck. That is the only reason anyone is on Tinder, idiot. But, anyway, don't ask any questions ...only make statements. Tinder: Make them laugh, get the number, set up the date and fuck.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:25 PM
1

All things in moderation. It's great to be stoic in the proper scenario. It's also great to be ridiculous in another scenario. If you can't let loose and have fun, fine. Just don't blame others for finding you dull.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:23 PM
1

If your goal is purely sex, you need to be subtly (or overtly, depending on your history with her) communicating that before inviting her to stay with you. It should be a central theme for her trip, setting her expectations. If you two haven't been flirting as of yet, you are setting yourself up for disappointment - she is likely just using your time and location as a travel experience.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:19 PM
4

You don't have to lie, but you should certainly be vague. First of all, it is none of her business. Second, you want her to get the impression that you are desired by other women, that you have rejected other women. Women live for competition with other women, in winning men. You are the prize and she needs to know that, regardless if your aim is LTR or plate.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:15 PM
4

It's more about communicating approachability. You are confident and aware, looking at people because you are social. You're not trying to eye fuck or dominate anyone.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:12 PM
3

It just feels alot harder to converse and interact with people. Obviously, the answer is to practice talking to people.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:10 PM
3

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-k9vZMmk0HPk/U0EmQrKKrHI/AAAAAAAAQIM/iniBHTfK7XE/s1600/neckbeard-trilby.jpg
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:08 PM
10

I prefer going to clubs/bars/shows with friends, and meeting women as a sidebar to that good time. Generally, women's defenses are high in that environment because everyone goes there with hooking up on the mind. You'll get better responses with day game - talking to women where they aren't expecting a pickup - grocery store, etc.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:04 PM
2

None of your response matters. The texts that YOU SEND should be focused on getting together, not learning more about each other.
/r/askTRP01/10/15 02:00 PM
2

My favorite response to any negativity is "no worries" followed by deafening silence. You are above the bullshit and move on instantly.
/r/askTRP30/09/15 05:44 PM
0

The problem isn't that your family is racist. The problem is that you are projecting why too much into a fast food worker. You haven't even asked this bitch out, yet and you're already thinking about how it's going to go down introducing her to your 91yr old grandpa?! Get a fucking grip.
/r/askTRP30/09/15 02:55 PM
1

She's not as great as you imagine. She's not thinking about you, at all. There are much better women out there. Go talk to them. Remember, you are the prize.
/r/askTRP30/09/15 02:51 PM
1

It all boils down to the fact that you felt like she was better than you. If you want a good relationship with a woman, you are going to have to place a higher value on yourself than what you assign to the woman. You are the prize, not her. Your very first sentence illustrates the problem, precisely. Here is the story I was with her for almost a year and in the whole time she would not accept the title of girlfriend. A man with options, with abundance mentality, that man does not want to be comm…
/r/askTRP30/09/15 02:48 PM
1

Your aggressive approach is the way to go, demanding she take you out. However, you lack confidence - which is communicated through the use of emoji and "lol jk." Say something bold and then shut the fuck up. Let her sit with it and await her response. You're so nervous, you don't give her time to respond before you soften your statements. Anyway, don't do this shit over company IM. This is legal documentation she can use to claim harassment. The best approach is face to face and with boldness. …
/r/askTRP30/09/15 02:41 PM
1

that is what I do with the upset clients Stop apologizing to people, including clients.
/r/askTRP30/09/15 02:37 PM
2

Whatever you do, the absolute key is to not give a shit - act like it never happened and move forward with extreme confidence.
/r/askTRP30/09/15 02:34 PM
1

If you are not sexual with a woman, from the get, it is nearly impossible to transition into a sexual relationship with that same woman. They decide if they are EVER going to fuck you within the first moments of meeting you. If you introduce yourself as a platonic friend, that is exactly where you will remain. Women do not fuck their friends. The bigger question you should ask yourself is why do you desire female friends? I have a few, but they are my male friends' committed partners or my forme…
/r/askTRP30/09/15 02:25 PM
1

we hooked up and talked about each other If only you hadn't talked about your relationship, the labels, the future and all that stupid shit, you would still be with her. Fantasizing about this sort of shit is extremely weak. Next time (this one is dead), never talk about what "could be" in your relationships. Focus on the now. If she asks about the future, say, "I don't know. I really enjoy whatever it is we're doing, right now." and leave it at that. Let the woman dream about marriage, children…
/r/askTRP30/09/15 02:04 PM
1

Only apologize for shit you are actually sorry for, which should be extremely rare. "Yes, she is hot." She thinks and talks about other hot people, too. "Yes, the moistness of your panties is important to me." She wants wet panties. This bitch has you turned upside down, thinking your extremely normal and acceptable behavior is anything but. Fuck this chick. She blocked you? ...good! Move on with your life.
/r/askTRP30/09/15 01:59 PM
2

The point of getting the number is to use it to set up a date. Don't try to get to know her via your phone. In fact, when you get the number you do a soft setup, "Let's grab a drink some time. Give me your number." Then, when you text, it is strictly about setting up the drink.
/r/askTRP30/09/15 01:44 PM
1

Along with all the other advice here, next time just focus on setting up dates where you can talk and touch. Texting is not the place to get to know each other.
/r/askTRP30/09/15 01:36 PM
9

You need to understand exactly what a plate is, primarily that they DO NOT LAST. Google and study, "Plate Theory." You need outcome independence. Let her drop.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 06:52 PM
2

It's all about escalation. Fingers, tongue, then cock ...plus lots of lube. Go slow and get her excited for it.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 06:50 PM
12

What would yo guys do in this stupid situation? Care less.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 06:47 PM
2

I don't know what to tell you, man. Use your words. If you are upfront about being single and having a kid, I'm not sure where the confusion is coming from. Perhaps these women are just stupid - assuming you're actually married and lying is borderline retarded behavior.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 03:50 PM
5

This is insanity. A happy, healthy, responsible man is the woman's unicorn. Being a great, proud dad makes panties (ALL PANTIES) moist. You need to change YOUR opinion of parenthood. Wake up to reality. I'm divorced, 38 and have 2 young daughters. I talk about them constantly and am absolutely swim in it. The women I date ranging from 21-42 years old. Some find it interesting to date a single dad for the first time, others absolutely seek it out. Never once has it been a negative. Then again, I …
/r/askTRP29/09/15 03:26 PM
3

it feels a bit weird Pay attention to this gut feeling. If ever a moment does feel positive, that is the scenario you escalate.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 03:24 PM
2

You think she is ever going to forgive you for cheating on her? Never. And she shouldn't. There is nothing more disrespectful you can do in an exclusive relationship. If she does forgive you, there is something extremely wrong with her own self-worth. Hold yourself to a higher standard. Hold your women to a higher standard.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 03:20 PM
1

I don't initiate contact, but generally they can't wait that long without contacting me. When they do contact you, they just want to know the date is still on and you're excited. Keep it short and simple.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 03:14 PM
1

Ignore your fear of failure, be outcome independent and enjoy life, as it comes to you.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 03:06 PM
1

You fucked up the relationship and it ended, as it should've. It will never be the same as it was. NEVER. On top of that, you begged her to come back to you ...that puts her in the dominate, decision-maker role. You will forever be at her mercy. Get out, now and never look back.
/r/askTRP29/09/15 03:03 PM
1

Same here.
/r/askTRP25/09/15 01:56 PM
1

I ask what happened to her whats app Irrelevant. Just move forward like nothing negative ever happens with a plate. It's all sunshine and rainbows, until you're done with each other. This is a butthurt question, "What happened?" Boo-hoo!
/r/askTRP18/09/15 05:55 PM
3

So, men are the superior sex. This is made up and stupid. Two things can be different and also not be judged as better or worse than the other.
/r/askTRP18/09/15 05:54 PM
3

Yea, just be cool about it - your sentence works fine. An alternative is to sit at the bar and pay for each of your own drinks as they come, in cash - don't open a tab.
/r/askTRP18/09/15 05:51 PM
1

Nest cam seems pretty awesome.
/r/askTRP18/09/15 02:17 AM
18

I asked her if she was in a relationship Irrelevant question, shouldn't have been asked.
/r/askTRP17/09/15 07:11 PM
3

This is not reality. This is virtual dating. Stop yourself.
/r/askTRP17/09/15 03:50 PM
1

Downplay labeling any activity as a date, "...just looking to have fun. No worries" and drop communication. She will come back, most likely.
/r/askTRP17/09/15 03:42 PM
1

I guess if you read it as a hard restriction, I could see that. Personally, I just think of it as a guideline, a median target and apply a +/- of 4 years. My experience dating younger than that is fun, but comical in application. Also, I don't give any consideration into what others think is creepy and would never suggest this as a method of avoiding other people's judgement. Fuck them if they have an opinion.
/r/askTRP17/09/15 01:53 PM
1

Wat?
/r/askTRP16/09/15 02:00 PM
1

ME: If you go, we are done because I do not want a gf who goes out dancing at 2 am with her single friends. HER: Of course I am going to go. Your first sentence was beta-as-fuck. This ultimatum was fine and she failed. It should've been the last words you ever spoke to her. ME: Why did you go? Because fuck you, that's why. Next.
/r/askTRP16/09/15 01:21 AM
-1

Half your age, plus 7 years is the standard recommendation.
/r/askTRP16/09/15 01:18 AM
1

There is little need for them to be hidden, but yea get a surveillance system. Google is your friend. Pricing and features vary wildly.
/r/askTRP16/09/15 01:13 AM
3

Never compliment like this. Actually, at your level, you should NEVER compliment a woman. You are horrible at it. And, no, there is zero chance she is going to contact you for anything more than friendly bullshit, if that. Set up the date when face to face. "Let's grab a drink Friday night. Put your number in my phone."
/r/askTRP16/09/15 01:11 AM
7

She's not into you, like that. And, your intrusive text message about her availability was absolutely perceived as creepy.
/r/askTRP15/09/15 04:15 PM
7

I would recommend you do not move in with this girl. Your relationship is on shaky ground (perhaps, in part, because you are paranoid) and you should only ever move in with a girl you plan on marrying in the near future. Of course, saying you've changed your mind on the move in will likely solidify the end of your relationship. How old are you?
/r/askTRP15/09/15 04:12 PM
14

Next time (with a different girl), don't ask questions. Make statements. "Had a good time on that hike. Let's grab a drink Monday night, at TIME and PLACE." Your question sounds creepy or weird. "How is it any of his business" or "Why does he want to know." Just spit that shit out, right away. Anyway, your best shot was when you got the number. You were standing in her face and got a positive response about the number - set up the fucking date, right then.
/r/askTRP15/09/15 04:01 PM
1

Confirmation. Thank you.
/r/askTRP15/09/15 03:42 AM
1

Study "Plate Theory" and date other women. This one is not special and not close. You are young and starting school ...there is zero reason to commit to her. It would be foolish.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 07:17 PM
1

girls always crushed on the skinny white guys This is nonsense. The world's top celebrities are celebrities, in part, because they are physically fit.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 06:41 PM
3

Until you are committed to each other, she can talk to whoever she wants.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 06:34 PM
24

want to do something about it This is your weak beta mind talking. An alpha man moves on, because he knows he is the prize. Vengeance is for the weak. Never log into her account again, work on improving yourself. Forget her.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 03:30 PM
5

Imagine you asked her face-to-face and instead of responding, she just walked away. Doesn't it become clear just how rude and uninterested she is in you? You aren't even worth a response. ...and a week later you're going to try again? That is desperation, buddy. Talk to a dozen more women and forget this one.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 03:05 PM
1

Right, but Tinder is where she is looking for dick. She will see your face and either match with you or not. She is friends with all sorts of people on Facebook, including dudes she does not want to fuck. Sure, you can message her on Facebook. If you do, don't mention Tinder and get straight to the point - set up the date.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 03:02 PM
1

Whatever happens, wait until she is begging you to commit ...until she is about to give up hope that you will commit. Then, you consider it.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 02:59 PM
2

Become less available to meet up and communicate. Deflect all questions of why, explaining simply that you are busy, but still interested. Eventually, she will move on. If you straight-up tell her it is over, expect drama.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 02:53 PM
2

Women hate to hear/read the truth about relationship dynamics or our base nature. It conflicts with the feminist concept of equality. Don't take seriously her thoughts on TRP, the topic will only bring conflict.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 02:50 PM
1

Doesn't matter, at all. Continue moving forward.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 02:34 PM
1

I imagine you right-swiped her on Tinder, yes? If she does the same and you match, that is where the conversation should happen. Keep it brief, just set up the date.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 02:33 PM
1

The only problem here is your complete and total lack of confidence. What ANYONE else is doing better or worse than you doesn't matter. It only matters what you are doing. Focus on self-improvement, for your own sake ...not because of what anyone else is or isn't doing.
/r/askTRP14/09/15 02:27 PM
6

when should i initiate contact again? Never. If she doesn't respond or is in anyway vague, her answer is "No."
/r/askTRP14/09/15 02:23 PM
2

ME: "Saturday: drinks, cuddle, movie?" You don't talk about sex, especially in a weak way like this. Cuddling?! You failed immediately. Boys cuddle. Men fuck, but they never talk about it happening BEFORE it happens. After you've fucked her a few time, "drinks, movie, fuck" works perfectly fine.
/r/askTRP11/09/15 03:19 PM
1

How am I championing a woman? You're white knighting for the dude. He's blameless. This doesn't matter to the guy. The messenger is to blame, particularly if it was his dick in the girl. I don't live my life in fear. Self preservation isn't fearful, it's wise. That's some beta thinking right there... And I'm saying I'd stick it to her Wrong, this is beta. Vengeance is for the weak. I have my own code Ha!
/r/askTRP11/09/15 02:44 PM
2

I would have. A stranger's relationship is none of your business, White Knight. You would only be inviting unnecessary drama into YOUR life.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 04:12 PM
3

Don't compare yourself to others, whether you see them as above or below you. Focus on improving yourself and let everyone else do their own thing as they see fit. At the same time, be proud of your own success.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 04:09 PM
13

Seems perfectly executed. Tinder is a numbers game, message many more. This one just wants emotional validation, not dick. Do not respond. She may come back and if she does, you know it is strictly for dick.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 04:07 PM
1

My frame was way better when I had someone to share the issues Wrong. Your frame is shit if you are crying on your woman's shoulder. Proper frame is that of a leader. just broke my frame into pieces Great, congratulations. You have successfully expressed your pain, now it is time to move on. Because, guess what, none of us want to hear your bitch ass whine about life, either. It's fucking hard, get over it. Focusing your attention on working toward your goals will help occupy your mind.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 04:00 PM
1

I would smile and laugh, personally. However, this can send lunatics into a frenzy. Generally, don't poke the bear.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 03:57 PM
1

Take being stood up as a huge insult. Never respond, unless she straight-up begs to suck your dick.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 03:54 PM
2

Think of it as a score - how many unanswered texts and calls will she send? ...1, 2, 5, 10, 20?!
/r/askTRP10/09/15 03:52 PM
1

So far so good. No, actually, as soon as she considered room-mating with a single guy, you were in trouble. This isn't going to end well, which is fine. You all are young and going to fuck all this shit up. Don't be jealous and don't be foolish. Realize she is very likely to fuck him, but it will be after your relationship starts to feel shitty. Break it off with her, as soon as you are the least bit unhappy with her and feeling a desire to date other women. Don't attempt to hold on to her, at a…
/r/askTRP10/09/15 03:47 PM
1

You need to study "Plate Theory" ...you shouldn't be talking so much with your plates or getting emotionally invested in her opinion on ANYTHING. Laugh through conversation, fuck her and bounce. If she starts giving you shit, focus your attention moreso on another plate.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 03:43 PM
1

Just focus on determining what YOU truly want, then do that. There is no way in which you can gently break up with a girl. No matter what, they ALL hate rejection. It is going to crush her, but she will recover ...or she won't. Once you reject her, her emotions are not your problem. The best way is to be honest and direct - a clean break. But, who says you have to break up with her? Time is an illusion and just because everyone in society says after 3 years blah, blah, blah ...doesn't mean you h…
/r/askTRP10/09/15 03:35 PM
1

Your frame is and was shit. You need to work on developing self-confidence and value. You are the fucking prize, not her. Spend time developing a list of difficult, but achievable goals ...one week, one month, 6 month, 12 month, 2 year, 5 years. Then, FOCUS ON WORK. She will gradually lose value, in your mind. You will gain value, in your mind. Suddenly, you will find yourself surrounded by success and women pining for your attention. The one (as they all are) is easily replaceable.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 03:28 PM
2

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/r/askTRP10/09/15 03:23 PM
2

You simply reduce your availability to communicate and be in the same room. You discipline by removing your attention to her, by degrees.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 03:23 PM
2

If you can't answer why, you will lose people's respect. You need to be able to back up your decisions when challenged, if you give a shit about maintaining a positive relationship with that person.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 03:20 PM
1

Embrace the fact that shit may or may not go as you wish, and that that is okay. Failure (with women, in particular) is meaningless. There is always another opportunity for success. Care less, just enjoy the moment for what it is.
/r/askTRP10/09/15 03:05 PM
1

Quit fucking around. Me: Nah, not my thing. Let's go out someday Be aggressive and make shit happen ...or don't.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 07:29 PM
1

I told her I didnt know she would be here but since she is we should have a working relationship so things arent awkward. This is not necessary. Just act like you never dated, don't speak about any weird vibe, deflect all personal conversations and don't game her.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 07:23 PM
2

Don't type so much, don't ask so many questions and don't compare her to your previous failures. You need to increase your confidence - say less, definitively tell her to meet you and go for the kiss the moment it feels right. You're over thinking every step.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 07:20 PM
15

I'm afraid of looking stupid. That's the only hurdle in front of you. Looking stupid is meaningless.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 07:14 PM
2

I very much want some sort of justice. This is weak as fuck and externalizing an internal problem, yourself. You need to set and achieve goals. Work on improving yourself so that you are actually proud of who you are, so proud that you don't give a shit what anyone thinks ...much less an ex-fucking-girlfriend. Also, stop posting to social media. If you need help, hire a therapist.
/r/askTRP09/09/15 05:40 PM
4

Read the 48 Laws of Power
/r/askTRP09/09/15 05:38 PM
4

Her location isn't your problem. They have bathrooms at her office, I'm sure. I've had plenty of women send horribly filthy pictures and videos from their cubical, the bathroom, the supply closet, the parking lot ...the point is, she wants to play. If you have time, play along. Yes, don't validate her like a beta bitch, "You're so beautiful." Instead, say, "tame start, now lets see if you're wearing panties"
/r/askTRP08/09/15 07:06 PM
1

If you feel strongly that any one or two might fuck you, tell them to meet you while you're in-town. Don't "catch up" over email, IM or text. Otherwise, just game women face to face while in town ...the odds of success are about equal, perhaps even better with strangers.
/r/askTRP08/09/15 07:02 PM
10

Make a game of it, tell her to send something more daring.
/r/askTRP08/09/15 06:59 PM
2

As much as you tried to present it otherwise, it sounds like you played a submissive role.
/r/askTRP08/09/15 06:39 PM
1

Me: I'll be honest... You lied. You don't want to be friends with her. You want to fuck her. This deception is why other girls have called you gross or creepy. Be genuine with her, and yourself. You need to stop contacting this girl and learn from this failure. LESSON 1: You can't negotiate attraction. For all the talking you did in your text, you failed to convince her to fuck you. Instead, you sound weak, pathetic and lacking in self-esteem. You sound desperate for her "friendship" and everyon…
/r/askTRP08/09/15 06:18 PM
1

For a first kiss, I'd say you killed it. Good job! That said, be aware of how things are feeling and then react accordingly. You said you were bored with kissing and it wasn't excalating. That is the exact moment when you change shit up. Turn on music, dance. Change locations, make it adventure. BE EXCITING! Take a bike ride to a chill spot, kiss some more. Her saying she doesn't "feel anything special" is nothing more than her matching your "bored" vibe. Again, be conscious of the feelings arou…
/r/askTRP08/09/15 05:42 PM
2

You knew from the first time you fucked that she was reluctant about blowjobs. Later, she flat out told you she isn't into it. PEOPLE DO NOT CHANGE. You went silent on your needs. You committed to her, to the wrong girl. Yes, you should dump her. You are not a good match for each other. You seem fearful that the comfort and companionship you are experiencing in this LTR will not exist in your next LTR ...that is nonsensical oneitis-speak.
/r/askTRP08/09/15 05:30 PM
2

You should never feel compelled to check her phone. However, if ever you feel there is something to be found, take your feelings as a sign that you are not happy with your relationship. The problem isn't that she texts someone, it's that she feels the need to text someone. Fix the problem, not the symptom.
/r/askTRP08/09/15 05:19 PM
3

You owe nothing to the boyfriend. Never talk to him. Continue fucking this slut, if you want. Be aware that the boyfriend will likely find out and come after you, in some way.
/r/askTRP08/09/15 05:15 PM
20

And what do you usually say if a girl asks you for drinks? I pretend she offered to buy me a drink, not giving a shit if it goes anywhere further. I'm not buying random bitches drinks.
/r/askTRP08/09/15 04:21 PM
3

If you want her to continue this nonsense, by all means try to console her and convince her otherwise. It will fail, of course. No sweet words from you are going to make her believe anything different about her self image. If you don't want to hear this negative, self-deprecating bullshit, you should agree with her to an exaggerated level. Make a joke of it, to the point that there is no mistaking that you are kidding. She will feel ridiculous and gradually stop saying stupid shit like this.
/r/seduction03/09/15 06:30 PM
1

It doesn't matter who the fuck she is, what she does or any of that nonsense. As soon as you sense a good vibe, go for it. The longer you wait, the less likely anything is going to happen. That said, people in the service industry make money by being nice and flirtatious. She isn't really into you. She's into making tips.
/r/seduction03/09/15 06:17 PM
2

Stop asking questions. Make bold statements like, "Come over."
/r/askTRP03/09/15 06:09 PM
4

Responsible, healthy men are the woman's unicorn. Know your value.
/r/askTRP01/09/15 07:54 PM
2

"You're my friend" is the deal breaker. Game over.
/r/askTRP01/09/15 07:49 PM
1

I live in another city. What do do? I dump her and only date women in the city I live in.
/r/askTRP01/09/15 07:47 PM
2

It is possible, but the effort it would take outweighs the return. Save your energy, start fresh with someone new.
/r/askTRP01/09/15 07:41 PM
2

She's been very clear with you. She sees you as a friend. Women do not fuck their friends. Move on and don't make a big deal about it - don't talk to her about it. Pretend nothing has happened (because nothing has happened), but stop participating in conversation and doing shit with her.
/r/askTRP01/09/15 07:39 PM
1

True rape is defined by the lack of consent. Only the fucked-in-the-head want to be literally violated. Role playing, however, can certainly tap into rape fantasies. Again, the key is consent ...and safe words are good, too.
/r/askTRP01/09/15 01:14 PM
1

Stop asking questions. Make statements. "Meet me at place."
/r/askTRP01/09/15 01:11 PM
2

And you are correct. She knows why he wants to hang out, she just wants the validation. She got it and she is done. Silence would've increased OP's chances of a positive result.
/r/askTRP01/09/15 01:10 PM
2

Your height matters, to some - not all. Simply increase your attempts on goal, you will score eventually.
/r/askTRP01/09/15 01:08 PM
15

Embrace your inner pervert - be sexual.
/r/askTRP01/09/15 01:05 PM
1

I've turned down sex with my wife You know this is a fail, right? ...you followed up by explaining yourself. Ugh.
/r/askTRP01/09/15 02:49 AM
1

Really dumb idea, inviting drama.
/r/askTRP26/08/15 03:57 AM
2

google Plate Theory
/r/askTRP24/08/15 08:36 PM
1

in a group setting ...did something slightly bitchy (passive aggressive). I called her out on it If ever you reprimand an individual, you do it privately.
/r/askTRP24/08/15 05:30 PM
5

wife is divorcing him. Presumably for... ...the protection of her own fucking children. Fuck Jared. WTF is wrong with you, OP?!
/r/askTRP19/08/15 06:25 PM
3

Even better than better, don't acknowledge the empty apology.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 06:21 PM
1

she's either really trying to force me to take all the agency Do you want her to fuck you or do you want to fuck her? Someone has to be the fucking man in this situation. I vote you ...and so does she. "WTF do I have to do to get this guy to kiss me?!"
/r/askTRP19/08/15 06:17 PM
2

If you want sex, you have to touch her. I find couches (and any other side by side arrangement) to be awkward. Typically, I stay standing in my kitchen, pouring drinks and making them laugh. It is much easier (like standing at a bar) to increase and decrease physical distance, while you talk. It feels much more natural and it's super easy to escalate quickly, when face to face. Also, particularly with a friendship you hope to sacrifice, you need to be making suggestive and outright sexual commen…
/r/askTRP19/08/15 06:12 PM
9

Burn bridges ...with an ex? Who gives a fuck? Do what you want.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 03:58 PM
3

It should be made obvious through your words and actions that you have other shit going on. You don't have to be overt about it, just don't be available. For example, if she texts you Friday night, don't respond until mid-morning Saturday or Sunday.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 03:56 PM
8

It doesn't really matter. The idea of not paying is to limit your overall expenses and avoid gold diggers. You can limit your expenses by choosing cheap date activities. With Tinder sluts, in particular, just grab a couple drinks, relocate back to your place and fuck. $25 ...big deal. At the same time, notice how she acts when the check comes. If she offers to buy, split or pick up the next tab, assign higher value towards a potential LTR candidate. Another TRPer (long ago, I forget who) suggest…
/r/askTRP19/08/15 03:52 PM
2

Get better friends.
/r/askTRP19/08/15 03:47 PM
1

Being unique (in positive ways) is always an advantage, regardless of this cultural nonsense.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 05:27 PM
10

You should have (and now should) treat it as a non-issue. The more you initiate conversation about it, the less she is going to feel secure. When she brings it up, present it as meaningless. All other responses will add validation to her fears, regardless of what you say about the girl.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 05:26 PM
2

To complete this last stretch before she moves to you, you should try not to give a second thought to how she is spending her time away from you. It's possible she is going to fuck some dude, just as a farewell fling before moving. Very possible. It's also very possible she is 100% faithful. The point is, you have absolutely no way of knowing or affecting it in your favor. If you try to control her, she will be more inclined to drift away from you.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 03:50 PM
5

You're cool with her going out on dates with this dude? Too bad to you didn't set clear boundaries when you committed and she first asked to see him. Now, if you want to stop this, you're going to look very weak. You're going to have to do it though, or else your unhappiness will grow.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 01:16 PM
2

I would gradually increase your practice time to 2 hours per day. You need to develop a recognizable style, which you can repeat consistently. Post to a blog, twitter and instagram. Hashtag the shit out of your work. After a few years, you'll get better, you will need to post less and you might start getting paid. Keep your day job.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 01:13 PM
1

Just escalate ...gradually introduce kinks and intensity.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 01:08 PM
3

Um, have you read any of the questions here? Nearly every single one is a story of failure.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 04:17 AM
2

Just sounds like an off, lack of confidence vibe. Keep trying. You were very close.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 04:16 AM
1

When you order each of your drinks, pay immediately in cash. Don't offer to buy her a drink, don't ask her what she's drinking. Otherwise, the tab comes at the end of the date. If it is going well and you're gonna get laid, pay ...or don't. Do what you want.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 04:13 AM
11

How many times does she have to blow you off before you take a hint? You are orbiting. She doesn't want to fuck you. Forget her.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 04:10 AM
1

How much time are you planning to be apart ...when did you move? ...when is she moving?
/r/askTRP18/08/15 04:07 AM
1

Goes with the territory. They always want more than what you're willing to give. Just keep cleaning your place and tell her to take her shit.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 04:03 AM
2

If you really want to know the legal ramifications, talk to a divorce lawyer. Learn your liabilities from a local expert. You say it's obvious why you don't want her working downtown. It's not obvious to me. Location isn't going to make her more likely to cheat, but your insecurities will. When it come to advancing your relationship, tell her you're not ready. Eventually, she may grow tired of your game. Overall, speaking less (not more) about the "future" is in your best interest.
/r/askTRP18/08/15 03:55 AM
1

Her:You need to know that I'm not dating atm Cool. Let's grab drinks and have some laughs.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 08:57 PM
2

"Mom?" Love it!
/r/askTRP17/08/15 08:55 PM
22

Most people are terrified of being alone.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 06:09 PM
6

Tell her, asshole.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 02:46 PM
14

she didn't respond back That is rude. Whatever her excuse, she doesn't value you. Act accordingly, de-prioritize her.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 02:41 PM
1

It's a personal decision. One, I wouldn't be interested in. I'm not sure what exactly "serious" means, in your post. I assume you mean some level of emotional investment in the woman. I, personally, would find it challenging, allowing that person to fuck other dudes.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 02:39 PM
2

Broach the subject of a 2nd date at the end of the first ...if it is going well.
/r/askTRP17/08/15 02:35 PM
1

what if I don't care about the outcome? This is literally the definition of outcome independence. Just try to enjoy life, for christ sake. If you're all wrapped up in your own god damned head, what the fuck is the point of doing anything?! LIVE!
/r/askTRP17/08/15 11:32 AM
9

"I like dating." They don't know what the fuck to think of that one.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 07:46 PM
2

First date doesn't matter - ice cream is cheap. What matters is moving forward. If you find you are always buying, she doesn't offer or flat out refuses, you deal with it by focusing your attention elsewhere. Most women have their own money, can and will offer to pay. Others will offer to cook dinner or buy groceries. Other times, I've paid 100% for young, broke girls who are pure fuck toys - we just don't do much other than fuck.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 07:42 PM
2

The dominant and submissive roles still exist in homosexual relationships. Two alphas will fight. Two betas will get sick of each other. As fluid as an individual may be in their role, we tend to be more of one or the other. The two roles balance each other.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 07:37 PM
1

We agreed that we only had sex with each other You need to look at what YOU want out of your relationships. Exclusivity is a LTR. Plating is non-exclusive fucking. The gray area in-between (open relationships, FWB and whatever) are where confusion and jealousy live and how feelings get hurt - IMO. In the least, these sorts of relationships require an extreme level of confidence, which you simply do not have. Again, determine what you want and set the "rules" at the start. Be clear with yourself …
/r/askTRP16/08/15 07:33 PM
2

Just focus on having fun. Be outcome independent.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 07:29 PM
1

as we're walking out I ask her about them. Well, that was a mistake. You emphasized the scenario in her mind (perhaps inspiring her to message the guy) and you expressed pure insecurity. You should've laughed (to yourself) in the booth, and then forgotten it.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 03:48 PM
1

Nothing you've said indicates she is interested in you. However, it also sounds like you have been very passive. You need to be more confident and aggressive. Go to the party, make her laugh and touch her. You might have a shot. She claims to never reply to texts. This is bullshit.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 03:44 PM
2

Google Plate Theory and follow it. You shouldn't always be available. You should be busy on (one or both) weekend nights, in particular. Don't respond to texts until the next day. Basically, you communicate your lack of exclusivity by not being available to communicate or be with her.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 03:40 PM
1

Your only leverage is the business, which you do need to address. You need to communicate the affect on the business of him moving away. He will need to financially compensate you in some way. Once settled, tack on that he is a fucking idiot for falling for this girl ...not that he will care.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 03:32 PM
1

A key component in rape is that it is against the person's will, no? I dominate my women, savagely (at times) ...but, this is welcomed and only after they have determined I'm trustworthy/safe. Actual rape is a violation of safety, what they fear and what (I thought) your OP was talking about.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 04:53 AM
1

Found the feminist! lol From Wikipedia Thanks for the knowledge. Gonna have to cash in that gaurantee! women are thinking instinctively, not rationally I'm not sure science is going to affect their fears.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 03:41 AM
3

What could go wrong? You will be risking your career. Don't.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 03:22 AM
13

It's not a joke. She will lose all interest.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 03:21 AM
2

I'm 38 and regularly fuck my girl 2-3 times a day. I am happy & content. When not in a LTR, I very much enjoy spinning plates (dating) - up to 3 women at once, and still fucking 2-3 times a day. ...of course, I'm not hanging with women every day of the week - maybe 3-4 days out of the week.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 03:18 AM
2

seems fine
/r/askTRP16/08/15 03:07 AM
5

Yep, be vague. Just let her know you are enjoying your relationship ...as it currently exists and you're not really worried about the future. Whatever happens, happens.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 12:22 AM
7

Exactly. If she brings it up again, a simple "I'm diggin you" should suffice.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 12:12 AM
3

I date women no more than 20 minutes from me. Helps to live in a big city, for sure.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 12:09 AM
15

You should be touching hands, arms, back and more before going for a kiss. If she is responsive to all escalation, kissing is easy.
/r/askTRP16/08/15 12:08 AM
1

Exactly. I spend all day coming up with reasons not to workout. First thing, I have no excuses. Helps me, anyway. Good luck!
/r/askTRP16/08/15 12:05 AM
5

Perhaps try to be more direct about seeking clarification, rather than framing your question as a critique of what many of us already know to be true.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 09:01 PM
3

If your goal is a LTR, than you would assign higher value to a woman with a lower count because she is more likely to pair bond with you, increasing the odds of a solid, long-term commitment. If your goal is to get laid, you don't give a shit about a girl's number. All girls give it up rather quickly, within 1-3 dates. So, by your question, one sign of a potential good LTR candidate is a girl who doesn't date many men (at one time) or (even better) strictly limits her dating to just one man at a…
/r/askTRP15/08/15 08:48 PM
3

"Shouldn't" is a stupid fucking word, in this context. Sometimes we fail and there is no getting around that fact. It would be foolish to ignore our shortcomings and not address them as such. At the same time, we express confidence in knowing hard work pays off. If there is any positive message in your quote, it is to believe in yourself.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 08:41 PM
1

I'm not sure I understand. You were going out, she was going out and then you were questioning why she was all dolled up? It does sound like you're being bitchy about how she is spending her time. If you were more confident, you might not ask a single question. Just tell her how hot she looks and fuck the shit out of her, right?
/r/askTRP15/08/15 08:36 PM
1

It sounds like he wanted to fuck you. In the least, he is certainly not acting out of confidence, or from an alpha perspective.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 08:30 PM
1

Watch your calorie intake and exercise when you can. I find making exercise my first task of the day is helpful in keeping the routine. Get up earlier.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 08:27 PM
11

she cried and was really distraught from the entire thing You never formally drop a plate. You simply stop being available to meet up, you stop responding to texts/calls, you become vague with your plans to meet her. If ever you tell her it's over, you invite this drama onto yourself. Let them wonder (forever) what happened. They don't need to know.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 08:24 PM
1

You're foolish to think that anything other than physical touch will maintain sexual interest with a girl who has clearly communicated that she isn't interested. Texting, phone calls and social media communications (not coupled with physical touch) fill an emotional validation need in women. You are just one of many other guys she is doing this with. You are orbiting. nobody knows I fell this hard, neither she does. Of course she knows. She's rejected you multiple times and still, you are trying…
/r/askTRP15/08/15 08:19 PM
2

no other choice here You're very weak.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 05:23 PM
1

If you can't get her solo, get her number and part ways. Set up a one-on-one date for another day.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 05:19 PM
4

Im just going to DREAD the fuck out of her. This isn't going to work. If she didn't want to lose you, she would've told the guy off herself. If she was satisfied with you, she wouldn't be texting other dudes. She doesn't respect you. Hard next her.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 05:18 PM
3

My LTR's friends and family don't approve of me You shouldn't give a shit. Her friends are her problem. She is only telling you about it to see your reaction. Again, you shouldn't give a shit what ANYONE thinks about your relationship.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 05:14 PM
1

If you want to be platonic friends, keep talking to her. Otherwise, you should distance yourself from her. She doesn't want to fuck you.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 05:08 PM
1

One part obviously they have some fasinication/fantasy about it Come on, you lead with this bullshit? Rape is a very real threat and based simply on the fact that the average man can overpower the average woman, anytime and anyplace. I guarantee women represent an infinitesimal percentage of the humans who fantasize about rape.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 05:02 PM
2

Two hours away, 3 dates, mountain of texting and no sex. She liked you as a orbiter, but she doesn't want to fuck you. You were satisfying her validation needs, for a period of time. But, now she's bored of you. Most likely, she has her eyes on a stronger/newer man. You should be offended when anyone doesn't respond to your messages. She completely flaked on your "hang out" session ...friends don't do this to friends. She doesn't even consider you a friend. Wake up! What should you do? Hard next…
/r/askTRP15/08/15 04:50 PM
-1

She's communicating that fancy shit is fun, for her. She wants you to know that, so that you will act upon that knowledge. Think up a fancy date, if you care at all.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 04:42 PM
18

my LTR cheated on me This shows an incredible amount of disrespect, for you as a person. You should be highly offended, to the point that you never want to talk to this person again. She is trash. I want to bang her just to fuck her up. Vengeance is a weak, beta trait. A man of high value moves on from his past. Plainly, she is not worthy of, even, your consideration.
/r/askTRP15/08/15 04:39 PM
0

Is this high school?
/r/askTRP14/08/15 06:00 PM
3

I don't know where you're getting this wait idea. Set it up!
/r/askTRP14/08/15 05:59 PM
16

She's seeking emotional validation, she wants to know that he cares - regardless if the relationship is going to continue or not. The proper response is silence.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 03:30 PM
3

GO!!!
/r/askTRP14/08/15 01:01 PM
1

Eat less and move more. An excellent starting point for exercise is /r/bodyweightfitness
/r/askTRP14/08/15 12:47 PM
3

Why are women so eager to nag all the time? Because you have made it clear that you don't have any options. You're not going to leave, so you will suffer her bullshit.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 12:45 PM
2

Focus on having fun. Don't follow a script or timeline, just be aware of how it feels. If it is going well, stick around! Escalate.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 12:42 PM
2

I'm stuck in so many choices You can do whatever the fuck you want to do. Throw it all away, if you want. It's a big world, full of endless opportunities. Determine what YOU want and go for it!
/r/askTRP14/08/15 12:39 PM
2

I was asking her what's wrong, and she was worried I was mad. "I'm not upset, at all. I'm just wondering if you need some space. I can leave." This lets her know you're not going to suffer her emotional nonsense. If she doesn't want to lose you, she will break down and let it out - then you fuck her, hard. If she is thinking about another dude, she will let you leave. Either way, it is drama and the key is to make it clear you will remove drama (her) from your life, without hesitation.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 12:36 PM
2

she discretely asked for my number and told me to eat today together at 12 and ,not only this but also to go to my apartments to "play" cards. Sounds like "G" is good to go. "A" seems more of a challenge, and not really worth the effort. All things being equal, I'd go for "G."
/r/askTRP14/08/15 12:33 PM
2

We are not in the business of converting anyone, and generally advise against discussing it with others. They get upset.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 03:09 AM
2

Just start with a normal question or statement you might say to anyone. The hardest sentence is the first, but that doesn't mean it needs to be well crafted. "Hey beautiful..." is awful.
/r/askTRP14/08/15 03:06 AM
2

lol
/r/askTRP14/08/15 02:54 AM
3

Learn confidence by failing enough to know it doesn't hurt.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 11:52 PM
1

"Hey girl, good meeting you at PLACE. Let's grab a drink at TIME and PLACE." If she doesn't respond to this, her answer is no. Move on. Or do you mean If they stop replying mid text to leave you hanging This will never happen, because you are not participating in conversations via text. ...do you think you can annoy her into wanting to go out with you? If she isn't responding, she isn't interested. End of story.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 11:28 PM
1

Be less available.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 08:58 PM
3

I A&A that I'm old all the fucking time, using a grandpa voice. "I'm an old man!" I'm 10 years older than my girl. Who gives a shit - she came hard, I filled her up - I AM tired ...make me a drink, we'll fuck again in an hour.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 08:37 PM
6

Only assholes are going to give you shit about it. Next them.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 08:32 PM
1

You got the number, so set up a date. That's it. You are too busy with important shit to chat via text, phone, IM, email or whatever. "Hey girl, good meeting you at PLACE. Let's grab a drink at TIME and PLACE." If she doesn't respond, NEXT. If she responds positively, "See you then!" and halt all conversation. The date is where you learn about each other, make her laugh - when you can physically escalate. I, personally, do not confirm dates. I show up when and where I said I would. If she stands…
/r/askTRP13/08/15 08:27 PM
3

Always and forever, only roommate with straight men your own age.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 08:21 PM
2

Sorry for not saying anything. (I apologised. Maybe a mistake? Maybe you think you can't hold frame as well as admit you were wrong, I disagree. In most cases continuing to lie) Admitting you recorded her and apologizing are two different things. yeah I did, It was really hot. This was a perfect response. The unsolicited apology made you appear weak and was not necessary, as proven with... Her: hahaaa, kind of want to see it now... I could have done better! Be more confident.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 08:15 PM
1

Do something about it. Take a calculated risk.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 05:24 PM
5

...your post history is amusing. You misunderstand TRP, severely.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 03:35 PM
1

Are you tipping your fedora while you masturbate over this bullshit, here?
/r/askTRP13/08/15 03:28 PM
2

the main focus of TRP is sex False. The main focus of TRP is self-improvement - which is the only way a person can achieve their personal goals. It just so happens that a lot of men (surprise, surprise) have a goal of achieving a more abundant and satisfying sex life. how would you suggest I should progress The first step is to identify your personal goals. Typically, health and fitness is a common starting point.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 03:06 PM
1

You must not be doing it well enough. While it is certainly about giving her your undivided attention (for the moment), it is really about taking YOUR time and doing what YOU want. Tie her down. Shut her up. Beat her. Build her up, don't let her climax. Then, do as you wish. Wear her out. If she's cumming hard, telling her no (for another round) is inconsequential. Where else is she going to go to get such excellent service? Nowhere.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 02:18 PM
2

Bondage.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 01:38 PM
1

could never get her to hangout Because she doesn't like you. I got tired of dealing with the way we communicated The proper response is to stop initiating contact. Let her come to you, if she wants. Meanwhile, you move on with your life.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 01:03 PM
1

The problem is your lack of leadership. You're right, you didn't have plans, just a vague agreement to spend time together. However, it is your job to make shit happen. She's frustrated that you aren't leading and then you react by expressing disinterest. Your relationship is going to fall apart, if this continues. Step up and lead, or GTFO.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 01:01 PM
1

It's your first attempt, so don't worry about it. Too many teens, I mean. You know, you set the age you are shown. If you don't want to see teens, adjust your settings. With this statement, you appear stupid or just weird. M: I liked the ellipsis at the end... Clearly it was a hint, but you didn't need to point it out. Don't communicate that you are analyzing her words. Let her be playful and escalate. Like you did... Well, 'nice' I'll let you decided. I'm more towards 'interesting'. M: but In p…
/r/askTRP13/08/15 12:54 PM
2

WTF is your problem? Every single time you asked her out, she offered an alternative time and you were a bitch about it. You seem more like the flake, than her.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 12:34 PM
2

It depends on the relationship and the offense. Typically, saying less is the best decision. It's not passive aggressive to honestly move on to something more appealing, a better option.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 12:29 PM
9

Confidence. That's it. You are healthy, smart and successful ...and you know it. That is attractive to women, all women. You will find the women that call you creepy are old, fat and depressed or young, taken and (otherwise) not-interested. And, so what? You're confident and so, you forget them, instantly. Cold approach? Tinder? Dating sites? Yes.
/r/askTRP13/08/15 12:24 PM
6

I do not intend to LTR or Plate. The first step is to decide what you DO want.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 05:53 PM
8

You're exclusive and you've told her you love her ...you're not on the "brink" of a LTR, you are in a LTR. Anyway, you have to NOT give a shit about how she spends her time. You can't control her. If you get the sense that she has cheated or is going to cheat, then to take action.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 05:51 PM
4

Make them laugh a couple times, get the number, set up the date, show up, drink and fuck.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 04:36 PM
1

How would you say she is "low value"? You supposedly rejected her. If she's not low value, than you are a fool for doing so.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 04:33 PM
3

It has become perfectly clear that you are a lying beta orbiter, consumed with oneitis.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 04:32 PM
1

You're using people for your own entertainment (trolling), you're defensive, combative and insecure. It's boring. Granted, this is just a first impressed based on a few internet posts. Maybe you are different in person, I don't know. But, I will tell you this, first impressions are very important.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 04:22 PM
2

I'm a newbie to this. Don't waste your time and energy trying to "figure out" low value women. You've supposedly rejected her, so move on to the next one.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 02:48 PM
1

When you're not exclusive, she can hangout with and fuck whoever she wants. When you commit, you set the terms of the new relationship, which should exclude hanging out with previous sexual partners or orbiters. If you failed to set effective terms at the start, you look weak by changing the terms at a later date. However, your rules (old and new) need to be clear or else you will grow unhappy.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 02:42 PM
3

Your post reeks of oneitis and beta orbiting. You have personal knowledge of a girl who is actively dating men other than you. Either she is treating you as a friend or you assume too much, and still you pine for her commitment. Whatever you are doing, it reads as gross. Friend her, fuck her or drop her.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 02:39 PM
1

"word"
/r/askTRP12/08/15 02:31 PM
8

You can't save him. He has to save himself. You're only going to get frustrated with his lack of progress and he will grow to resent you. Enjoy your friend for who he is, or drop him.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 01:48 PM
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I DON'T WANT to become some beta orbiter Fortunately, you know that is exactly what she is proposing. You need to say goodbye and "of course we'll stay in touch" ...but, what is going to actually happen is you are both going to float away from each other. Don't fight it, don't prolong it. Just let the relationship change, as it will. I still get a random text messages from my first girlfriend (20 years later), reminiscing about our youthful relationship. She loves to fantasize about us being sou…
/r/askTRP12/08/15 01:44 PM
1

You talk way too much. Don't explain what you want, imply it with your actions. Be the man you want to be, don't talk about it. That man, wouldn't waste time engaging in conversation via social media with a woman who rejected him. Remove her from your life. Block her, if need be.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 01:37 PM
1

SMV is totally subjective, based on the individual's opinion of a variety of physical and personality traits. What is important to one person may not be important to another. However, that's the nuance of SMV. You'll find, at a high level, folks will tend to agree on general appearance and personality SMV. While you are physically attractive, your personality is shit = low SMV.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 01:29 PM
1

As I said in another response, you need to offer her options she can work with in her parenting schedule. If you insist on a specific time, you'll find she's not always available. If you leave it wide-open, you look weak. Either suggest nights 3-5 days ahead of time (she can plan for) or ask her when she will be available and respond that you will "try to make it happen."
/r/askTRP12/08/15 01:12 PM
2

I'm actually going to the uni library to study, but I was being low info because going to the library is boring as fuck, and hey, a lil bit of dread. The problem you're encountering is timing. This bitch has a gang of kids, whom she has to schedule her sex life around. Don't waste your time or her time with dread game. You've already fucked her - game over. A bitch like this knows she's a plate and just wants cock. If she is available and you are available, give it to her. She's not butthurt, sh…
/r/askTRP12/08/15 01:09 PM
1

My question is, what the fuck do I say to Kels "kk" and then proceed with complete disregard for her opinion.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 12:56 PM
1

Don't try to hold conversations over text, IM, email or whatever. Set a face-to-face date and go. That is where you learn about each other - when you can laugh and touch - escalate.
/r/askTRP12/08/15 12:52 PM
1

google Plate Theory
/r/askTRP12/08/15 12:42 PM
1

No, not at all. The only problem (for you) is that your new-found reality doesn't match your existing fantasy. Once you learn to appreciate reality for what it is and how to operate within it, you will gain great benefit from it. For all their flaws, women are amazing creatures. Men, too - we aren't perfect.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 08:35 PM
2

No one here advises others to fuck women to prove anything, including some imagined "alpha" status. Fucking the women you desire is a (optional) byproduct of self-improvement. You don't have to invite any women into your life, if you don't want to. Look up anger phase.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 07:52 PM
8

Nothing wrong with a person finding and standing by their limits. If boyfriend #2 needs to give facials and she says no, it's not a good match. Next.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 07:46 PM
6

What some of you seem to miss is where I stated that I can work from anywhere. But, instead, you are sitting at home, waiting like a puppy. You need to rebuild and maintain a level of mystery about who you are, what you do, the people you meet and under what circumstances.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 05:42 PM
8

"If you don't stop acting so cute I'm going to push you up against the wall and kiss you!" This is weak as fuck. You KNOW she doesn't want to fuck you. You KNOW it. Getting aggressive with her is only going to make you look like a fool. She is absolutely going to reject you. The alpha move, the man with options, he would quietly remove her from his life ...move on to better things, without any dramatic nonsense.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 05:37 PM
4

If you ask for help and your request is rejected, move on without that person. Don't ask for help again, and don't offer it.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 04:28 PM
7

she said there's "definitely something wrong with me" Yea, I'm wasting time talking to your dumbass.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 04:25 PM
1

Just set up a date for a few days after you text her. Don't have conversations via text, IM, email or whatever. Talk in person, only.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 04:23 PM
2

what the hell is wrong with this dude He's beta as fuck. Ignore all his relationship advice.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 04:21 PM
3

Great. My post was a response to your last sentence. Curious as to why she's now awkward.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 02:34 PM
5

Agree and amplify - make fun of her insecurity. It will make her feel like she is being ridiculous (which she is), but also indirectly assure her that you don't have any intention of cheating. Again, playfully communicate that she is being silly by not taking her concern seriously. If she flat out asks you, simply say, "Of course not" and move on.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 02:31 PM
5

She doesn't know how to tell you to fuck off without hurting your feelings. She doesn't like you like that. Next.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 02:26 PM
13

She has expressed her distress about with commuting with him, saying she was pissed he's the one going Just continue to (casually) pay attention to how she frames her time with him. Currently, she dislikes him. Great. But, don't ask about him, directly - as if you're worried. Continue to improve yourself.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 02:25 PM
2

edit: https://i.imgur.com/92TVlZe.jpg If you actually wanted to get with this girl, you fucked it up. After she said "That's pretty bad" you should've changed the tone of the exchange to something more playful, than shameful. Basically, you shut her down. That said, your July 17th conversation is enough to hard next her - she only wants validation, so I'd block her.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 01:37 PM
1

Unless she has been overtly sexually aggressive toward you, consider this - women do not fuck their friends.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 01:27 PM
1

I've mowed down my share of muslim girls from really strict backgrounds ...they are not unlike Catholic girls - they like to party, in secret. AWALT Anyway... "Do you think we're going to work out once we graduate?" I'm not worried about the future. We are enjoying each other now and I hope it continues for a very long time.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 01:24 PM
1

Sponsoring a woman? ...basically, a long-term, long-distance prostitute? That seems really fucking stupid. How about you talk to and date the women standing next to you at the grocery store? ...it's a lot easier and cheaper.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 01:19 PM
3

Its just sad this is what things have become these days. This is as it has ALWAYS been. She likes you fine enough to not want to hurt your feelings, but she also doesn't want to fuck you. Next.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 01:15 PM
1

Act like it didn't happen. Move forward with her (invite her over) and other women.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 01:09 PM
10

As much as you want everyone to believe you don't give a shit, it is abundantly clear that you care way too much. Move on with your life.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 01:08 PM
6

Please understand a plate is a girl you are ALREADY fucking regularly. A girl you haven't kissed, isn't a plate. A girl you've fucked once, isn't a plate. When you are able to text "Thursday 8pm, bring wine" and she shows up without panties, you can call her a plate. All your women are potential plates.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 12:56 PM
9

This girl is selflessly helping you in your time of need and you're worried about her previous relationships? Get a fucking grip! You need to focus on getting your shit together. Your confidence is shit. Wake up and get to work, bitch!
/r/askTRP11/08/15 12:52 PM
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When it comes to responses from women, the only answer you are looking for is "yes!" Either she is enthusiastic about going out with you or she DOES NOT want to go out with you. This girl is nice. She doesn't want to hurt your feelings by plainly stating "No." As helpful as that may be to your analytical mind, women never give clear rejections - simply because she doesn't know how you'll react - it's a base fear, you shouldn't try to confront. She is going to continue to be nice, approach you in…
/r/askTRP11/08/15 12:46 PM
18

Not all women are cunts, like your mom.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 12:38 PM
2

the possibility of molding her into something better. It is very difficult to change ourselves. It is impossible to change someone else. is there a reason a post upvotes itself after posting? Other users up vote and down vote posts and comments.
/r/askTRP11/08/15 12:35 PM
3

She sent like 3 texts apolagising, and I just answered "K". It seems rather cold, to me. I mean, if she has a legit reason and you dig this chick, why be so detached? "No worries, you'll make it up to me ;)" and then wait for her to initiate contact, again.
/r/askTRP10/08/15 09:05 PM
2

You wouldn't commit to a girl like her.
/r/askTRP10/08/15 09:01 PM
4

Pussy, duh.
/r/askTRP10/08/15 06:14 PM
1

Again, this fucker ... /u/coolcaptain2 You need therapy, man.
/r/askTRP10/08/15 06:13 PM
1

She isn't worth committing to. However, she is your friend's problem, not yours. Mind your own business.
/r/askTRP10/08/15 06:07 PM
2

God damn, man! How are you even considering this??? Plates don't even meet your friends. They absolutely never meet your children! I don't plan to introduce a LTR to my kids until after 8-12 months, during which I am looking for every possible reason to drop her. Clearly, you don't understand how attached (and vulnerable) our children become to the adults in their lives. Re-access what you are willing to expose your kid to.
/r/askTRP10/08/15 06:04 PM
4

wat?
/r/askTRP07/08/15 01:06 AM
2

Can I get this shit to go away or will it just go away over time (the more I date)? yep
/r/askTRP07/08/15 01:05 AM
4

False commitments are a waste of time and energy. What are you committing to, exactly? You'll be this chick's emotional tampon while she fucks every dude that comes around? Oh, good, you can fuck other chicks ...so why are you "committed" to this one? Need a mommy to come home and cry to? Be a man - spin plates until you find one worthy of truly committing to.
/r/askTRP07/08/15 01:04 AM
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She has been pretending to be in charge and finds it very stressful. You challenged her and proved you are stronger. An actual leader would've fired you. Instead, she is submitting to you. You can likely pretend to be her friend and reap unique (minor) benefits from her (limited) position of power.
/r/askTRP07/08/15 12:59 AM
1

A book isn't going to change this dude's nature. If he really wanted to change, he would've by now. Generally, people don't change...and never because someone else wants them to change. The wife either needs to appreciate what she DOES have or leave.
/r/askTRP07/08/15 12:53 AM
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didn't think I was "that guy" The proper response is silence, until she changes the subject or you set up the next meetup. Still, this is typical, funny shit said by a girl who has never had the game flipped on her. Suddenly, she's competing for you. It's hard for some of them to deal with.
/r/askTRP07/08/15 12:46 AM
1

You need to ease into it, for sure. Start by (as has been said) be less available when not within arm's reach. When in arm's reach, touch her. Make inappropriate comments. Joke around. Have fun. Then, escalate ...get vulgar, get physical.
/r/askTRP07/08/15 12:43 AM
1

One guy in particular just says "I'll be in that area with some friend, wanna drop by?" which I might be overthinking this but doesn't give me a sense of "I'd love to see you". Maybe offer to suck his cock? I began attempting to reconnect with people I haven't seen for years. Seriously, though - here is your problem. These people know you as a certain type of character. They let your friendship float away, for a reason. Start fresh, with new people.
/r/askTRP07/08/15 12:38 AM
2

This belongs in /r/relationships or /r/justneckbeardthings
/r/askTRP06/08/15 10:06 PM
2

Don't try to fix him or your parents. Be there, for your family, in a supporting manner, but don't try to change them. They are who they are.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 10:00 PM
3

Have I swallowed the red pill? You looking to earn a new label? ...who gives a shit. Just focus on learning.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 09:57 PM
3

2 months is nothing. Keep at it.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 09:55 PM
1

Depends on the type of workplace. Generally, I'd avoid the question.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 08:50 PM
1

don't make an ordeal if I don't text back. Also, take a hint - don't text her back.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 08:47 PM
1

She is exploring other options. You are not #1. It sucks, but all you can do is focus on self-improvement. You know once you're back to 100%, other women - better women - are going to be lining up. I would stop initiating contact with her. If she contacts you, apply Plate Theory. Soft next. But, also realize, she is not a good LTR candidate - she has proven that she is nothing more than a plate.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 08:30 PM
1

She has to meet you eventually because you have something on her. What is this? You have some kind of leverage on her which you think is going to build attraction? And yet... Ignoring her completely doesn't work since she doesn't crave for your attention right now and the withdrawal of attention doesn't make her feel like she is missing out. WTF are you talking about?
/r/askTRP06/08/15 08:21 PM
1

No, disinterest in LTRs does not equate to angry beta.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 08:10 PM
1

You so alpha, bro! Why you even ask questions???
/r/askTRP06/08/15 05:25 PM
1

Of course you should announce your successes, but wait until after Day 1 on the new job. You don't want anyone attempting to sabotage the offer before you actually start.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 05:23 PM
2

What do I as a man gain from it other than sex? Comfort, companionship, caring, support... there are benefits to a quality LTR. I have no emotional connection with them, and to be frank they're not good for anything besides sticking my dick in them or keeping my house clean (bitches these days can't even cook). I don't feel angry torwards women I'd say all you have for women is anger and resentment. I guess my question is, is this sound and agreeable logic? IMO, you just ranting from the Anger P…
/r/askTRP06/08/15 05:08 PM
6

You think walking out was the alpha move, but it was pure bitch-ass beta. You should've simply, without emotion, corrected her behavior and then moved the fuck on. You also don't need a verbal acknowledgement to know she took you seriously. I reacted and called her on it. Whatever you actually said, it was really bitchy - not assertive.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 02:17 PM
2

This is probably /u/coolcaptain2 with his daily "can brown guys get blonds" question.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 02:12 PM
5

Seems like a specific response to a specific statement or action. WTF were you doing that lead to their responses?
/r/askTRP06/08/15 01:47 PM
1

Once you get the number, focus on logistics. Don't waste time conversing over text. You got the number, now set the date.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 01:44 PM
1

A LTR is a commitment with conditions. It is all about how you set the new rule, not the plain act of setting a new rule that is going to affect your frame. "If you do ____, I am out." is not insecure, it is a matter of fact. She can bounce. He can bounce.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 12:19 PM
1

Just make sure it is a genuine friendship, in that there is equal give and take - equal contributions to the friendship. If either of you are sexually interested in the other, it will not work for long.
/r/askTRP06/08/15 02:02 AM
6

Can we ban this asshole? Everyday, he posts this shit.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 07:25 PM
3

Your personal health and well-being should be your #1 priority, always. Somewhere lower on your list of priorities is socializing and women.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 07:24 PM
1

I have never seen... Does that mean it is impossible? Does that mean you give up? I don't know what you hope to get out of this thread. If you want something, go for it.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 07:20 PM
2

She and her shit are not your problems, except in that you have to clean out the place. Take what you want, leave the rest by the dumpster and send a short text. "I've moved out, cleaned the place and left your shit by the dumpster." Then, block her number.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 05:41 PM
1

Shit like this NEVER happens when Im sober. This is true, only because you believe it. id do whatever I have to if its possible Simple. Don't do drugs.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 05:37 PM
1

very needy/jealous There is simply no way to avoid it. If they want you to commit, everything will be up for scrutiny. Hell, I've posted a picture of sandwich on my kitchen table and one plate is like, "Who's this bitch liking your lunch?" It's ridiculous. You can't control it, so social media is best minimized or avoided entirely.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 05:31 PM
2

You're not wrong. This is most appropriate as part of the exclusivity negotiations, as it were. New issues do come up, though. And, I would say, she needs to know the new requirement, if he wants to continue ...happily. This late demand will damage his frame, this is true. I just don't see her connecting the dots between her specific action and a subtle reaction on his part. It sounds like a deal breaker for OP. If he gives a shit about her, he has to (IMO) give her the opportunity to adjust or …
/r/askTRP05/08/15 05:24 PM
2

It's fine, at first. Then, as the plate starts catching feelings, the drama begins. Anytime you post anything, expect to hear shit about it.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 03:37 PM
1

We all have to live our own lives and he is free to chase any woman he wants. However, he asked how I would continue the chase and my answer is, "I would not." He got stood-up on the first date. That is a hard next ...for me. Then, she lied, "hey you bailed on me monday." Then, she rejected him again, "maybe another time" before unmatching him. It's pretty clear (to me) that she is not into him. Still, he wants to try again??? Why? Seeing her as a "challenge" is putting her worth above his own. …
/r/askTRP05/08/15 02:55 PM
1

The message is, you're making unbelievably horrible beta decisions. Stop yourself.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 01:59 PM
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I message her a few days later to set up another one A mistake made by a desperate man. How would you guys re-initiate contact through POF? I wouldn't. I have other plates This has to be a lie.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 01:25 PM
1

Enjoy your success - you need your girl to feel like you would be perfectly fine if the relationship ended, at anytime. If anything, agree that you have options, but that you have chosen to be with her.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 01:23 PM
2

It's simple. All women want to be your number 1 priority. She knows she is not your priority and she is upset. Just because she is upset doesn't mean her priority status should improve. In fact, it should go down. You can not reward this behavior. Pull away from her.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 01:17 PM
1

If/when you become confident in your self, you will encourage your haters to be more vocal.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 01:13 PM
1

when I mentioned that I went to lunch with the guy from work your face changed. Please tell me when this kind of thing bothers you because I don't want these things to build up and cause resentment and explode some other time "I'm not comfortable with you socializing with other men, when the circumstances are anything other than strictly business." It is entirely acceptable for you to layout your expectations for the relationships you are participating in. She's absolutely right. This shit bothe…
/r/askTRP05/08/15 01:08 PM
2

I need to counter You counter with silence because you don't give a shit about this non-issue.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 01:03 PM
2

she cheated on me with two different guys in the first three weeks of the relationship She is shit. Do you cry when you flush your poop down the toilet, too?
/r/askTRP05/08/15 01:02 PM
1

She's a slut. You fuck her when she's nearby. End of relationship.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 12:59 PM
1

There is money to be made in film, but it's a long road and all creative avenues are subjective. You will be making art for other people, not yourself. So, if your film career goal is to make the next big, action thriller ...realize you'll likely start (and spend many years) fetching coffee, making wedding videos and shitty commercials. I'm all for following your passion, just do it with open eyes. Either option you are considering is going to take many years of very hard work.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 12:57 PM
1

lol
/r/askTRP05/08/15 12:53 PM
2

Agreed. Blond bitches ain't nothing special.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 12:53 PM
1

While there is a certain degree of pair bonding, for a woman with her first partner, she knows (for certain) that there will be other men after you. Basically, don't think you got her locked down, just because you took her virginity.
/r/askTRP05/08/15 12:35 PM
2

I haven't seen these stories. Got links?
/r/askTRP04/08/15 09:50 PM
1

First, there is a big difference between getting fired for poor performance and getting "let go" for staffing/budget reasons. Do you know why the 6 are being dropped? Second, it is a job anyone can get, with no experience. You can get another bullshit job without mentioning you ever worked at this place. Even if you do mention it, no one is going to give a shit about why you left.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 09:46 PM
4

Strange questions and strange responses. You both are over-thinking. She (like all of them) is insecure and you are trying too hard. Don't try to manipulate her thoughts - mentioning a brothel. It's a strange statement, for a man with abundance mentality. You can get pussy anywhere, anytime ...and you want her to think you have to pay for it? Strange. snap some pics ha Done.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 09:43 PM
1

it absolutely matters How? How does it matter?
/r/askTRP04/08/15 09:34 PM
5

Thanks to the sub, every time I see a ripped Indian dude, I imagine they were once one of the many desperately insecure fucks posting this shit-ass question once or twice a week. "Is it worth it? Should I try? What will happen?" OP, your race doesn't matter. Her race doesn't matter. Just focus on being a better version of you and good things will come to you.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 07:39 PM
11

You feel like you know the answer. Trust your gut. how can I show my ex I am now an Alpha again? Don't waste your time and energy. Or should I just forget about it and move on. Of course, this.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 07:34 PM
3

You were just her first. She knows that, too.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 07:00 PM
1

When in doubt, remain silent ...with women, with business, with police. Just shut the fuck up and let the other person make the move. She will (hamster) imagine all sorts of shit, which builds anticipation and excitement. Personally, I don't even confirm dates. I show up where I said I was going to be and I expect the same of others. I've had some women seek confirmation the day of. With them, you know you got it on lock. If they don't show (which has only happened once), I still have fun.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 06:57 PM
5

I've talked to/dated a lot of hockey players Yea, I've heard that.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 04:05 PM
3

Possibly. But, a bigger problem is your BP behavior. If you're rock solid in all other ways, she'll work with your PE.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 04:04 PM
8

Step 1: Break up Step 2: Date other women Step 3: She begs to "not lose you" Step 4: Set the terms of your new relationship
/r/askTRP04/08/15 03:56 PM
1

Touch early, touch often. Start with a hug. Gently lead her by her elbow into the place. Order your drink, then place your hand on her lower back, inviting her to order ...all this and more is called escalation.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 01:02 PM
1

Firstly, she has to chase you and then you can set the terms.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 12:59 PM
1

You are powerless, except in what you offer to do for her. Stop putting gas in her car.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 12:55 PM
2

actually i'm a terrorist, ever heard of 911? that was me Maybe that was too serious sounding. It's rather intense. but ok where would you rather meet? Then, you back peddle. It seems weak. If you're going to make a joke, don't soften it. You should've ended at "that was me." sorry? Next.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 12:50 PM
3

I need to one up her HAHAHA! Why am I such a fucking loser? You care way too much.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 12:46 PM
2

Send to a few mates if you want. ...if you want to risk criminal charges. Who knows where the pics will end up. If they get on the internet, back to her, then you're in real trouble.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 12:42 PM
3

a cop You done fucked up, son.
/r/askTRP04/08/15 12:41 PM
1

Stay the course. You need to continue handling business and when you are able to focus on her, you do. Just let her vent and then punish her in the bedroom.
/r/askTRP03/08/15 04:54 PM
4

I'm really into this chick Great. Just don't be surprised when she cheats on you, too.
/r/askTRP03/08/15 12:37 PM
1

Stick to the more liberal parts of town - Decatur and East Atlanta Village ...I only say so because you're trying to get with white girls. You'll have worse odds, elsewhere.
/r/askTRP03/08/15 12:31 PM
1

she tells me she has a boyfriend There are an infinite number of way to navigate this soft rejection successfully. However... I ask her later if she really has a boyfriend, she says she does This is not how you do it. You have to act like you don't give a shit and continue forward. Realize she is only mentioning him because she is actually interested in fucking you. You have to agree & amplify, or redirect. "No worries, we're just having fun." You definitely don't take it seriously and ask for c…
/r/askTRP03/08/15 12:27 PM
3

You are rationalizing your beta behavior. You are fulfilling her emotional needs, plain and simple. Your wanting to LTR a chick who is juggling orbiters (you included) is insanity.
/r/askTRP03/08/15 12:23 PM
3

Every single woman in her 30s has fucked a mountain of dudes. If you find one who hasn't, she has problems all her own. If you are determined to find a LTR, you are either going to have to ignore all the dicks falling out of her vagina or date younger women. Your best approach is to spin all the plates, forget your past, forget their past and just focus on enjoying life. One day, one of those plates just might turn out to be the shit. That's the one you LTR, if you still want to.
/r/askTRP02/08/15 01:26 AM
5

I would've thru-hiked the AT. I will, eventually.
/r/askTRP02/08/15 01:20 AM
2

I tried to clearly convey to her that I have by telling her I don't wanna see her anymore. Next time, you can avoid the drama by simply not telling her anything. Instead, simply stop showing interest and responding to communications.
/r/askTRP01/08/15 06:10 PM
1

Sounds like you're doing it right, to me.
/r/askTRP31/07/15 03:13 PM
1

It sounds like your schedules aren't syncing up. You should continue to express your interest in him, if you are interested ...let him know another time you are available. Anyway, there is no way to tell if you two are a good LTR match, after a single date. Slow down the pressure on yourself. Focus on having fun.
/r/askTRP31/07/15 01:29 PM
2

For me, it was more about seeking self improvement that brought me to TRP, rather than a response to an experience with any one woman.
/r/askTRP31/07/15 01:23 PM
12

Who gives a shit? You can still hide your own status, on your profile.
/r/askTRP31/07/15 01:22 PM
1

Same reason you don't start business with friends ...the friendship affects business decisions.
/r/askTRP30/07/15 06:01 PM
2

I doubt that she offered up a rape excuse and an early end to her vacation because she feels guilty about cheating. I am inclined to believe she is telling the truth, that she was raped. She may not want to report it because 1) it is very near impossible to prove a drug-induced rape when she had likely been drinking and 2) she just wants the entire experience to be in the past and not have to deal with the reality of talking to the police - who will likely ask if she had been drinking and what p…
/r/askTRP30/07/15 05:55 PM
1

I feel insulted that I was rejected by her You feel what you feel. That is fine. Just be a pleasant person, to her. Kindly decline her invitation and talk to other women.
/r/askTRP30/07/15 05:43 PM
1

That obviously pissed me off If you were actually confident in yourself and your actions, then you would've laughed or A&A'd.
/r/askTRP30/07/15 05:40 PM
1

No where, did he say cheat on her. I would, personally, be upfront about the relationship coming to an end and that I am hopeful it may (potentially) resume upon my return.
/r/askTRP30/07/15 01:44 PM
2

You need to express supreme confidence, regardless of how you actually feel.
/r/askTRP29/07/15 04:38 PM
4

Don't worry about trying to label her. You are your biggest obstacle, not her. The trick is to not worry about anything, just enjoy yourself. "You seem nervous" is a shit test. Your response should've been in the realm of amused mastery - laugh it off and dominate her. She is basically saying, "You seem like a pussy." You have to prove otherwise.
/r/askTRP29/07/15 02:41 PM
7

Just try to be comfortable with the fact that you are going to fuck this up. Don't worry about it. Consider it a learning experience. "You seem nervous." is a clear indication that you have much to learn ...and that is okay. She is absolutely going to pick up on your masked beta tendencies. Again, that is okay. Simply fake it, 'till you make it. I think the biggest potential downfall is that if you do end up fucking this girl, you are going to fall into a LTR trap. Do not commit to this girl.
/r/askTRP29/07/15 01:50 PM
6

I wouldn't say, "TRP says...", but the principles of dominant and submissive roles in a relationship are not new concepts.
/r/askTRP28/07/15 06:17 PM
1

I would go get an updated opinion and advice, before TRP.
/r/askTRP28/07/15 05:10 PM
1

If you're willing to risk your business, mention your interest to the father before attempting to date your employee. Personally, I think it is a horrible idea, for many reasons. Anway, whatever your supposed rational, you are putting this woman on a pedestal. She's not as great as you imagine.
/r/askTRP28/07/15 04:53 PM
1

Are you self-diagnosed or by a doctor?
/r/askTRP28/07/15 04:50 PM
7

A professional therapist helps you understand your own thoughts, without judgement. You should feel free to discuss anything and everything with your therapist. Otherwise, you are wasting your money on a shitty therapist.
/r/askTRP28/07/15 04:47 PM
2

If she had attempted to reschedule, then making the demand for her to pay is an excellent response. The suggestion here, though, is pure desperation ...she flatly bailed on the date. Consider it an insult and act accordingly - dismiss her.
/r/askTRP28/07/15 01:14 PM
3

As friends? This was the proof you were so desperate to find. If she doesn't respond, she isn't into you. Why do you want to go a step further and hear the words? Don't torture yourself, next time. Just send the logistics text and then move on to the next one. If she is into you, she will text back.
/r/askTRP28/07/15 01:08 PM
3

Same principles apply, IMO. One man is going to be the leader (alpha), the other the follower (beta). Two alphas create tension. Two betas will get sick of each other.
/r/askTRP28/07/15 01:03 PM
3

It's simple, really. When they say they are thinking about sex, say "Prove it."
/r/askTRP28/07/15 02:58 AM
2

so its entirely her choice Use condoms, idiot.
/r/askTRP27/07/15 05:39 PM
2

try google, "Plate Theory"
/r/askTRP27/07/15 05:35 PM
2

Stop making excuses, start generating income.
/r/askTRP27/07/15 05:31 PM
1

Hard work brings success. Set goals and achieve them. The more you succeed, the better you'll feel and the greater your motivation to work even harder. Start small.
/r/askTRP27/07/15 05:29 PM
1

It really is as simple as setting goals and working toward achieving them. Health is the first one, because it teaches you long-term discipline and also results in a body that ATTRACTS women to you. You'll find, in time, good times simply fall into your lap. Stop posting here. Don't pine over the potential results of success (power, money, women, friends, etc.) and don't worry about failure. Simply focus on working (hard) toward your goals. All else will fall into place.
/r/askTRP27/07/15 05:27 PM
2

hitting the gym seems like a good alterative Absolutely!
/r/askTRP27/07/15 05:19 PM
1

I have to keep frame 100% of the time Unfortunately, this is absolutely correct. It's not just with women, it is true for business, as well. You may find some relief in venting to a therapist, or perhaps your parents and (maybe) your closest male friends. And, here.
/r/askTRP27/07/15 05:01 PM
1

I guess I have to come up with reasons other than "I'm lonely" and strongly believe in them, is that what you're talking about? Correct. It's all about your reasons for going out. Instead of going out to make friends or find a woman, go out to achieve a goal and better yourself. The more you kickass, the more people will be drawn to you. You're a programmer? ...write a book or blog, speak at conferences - advance your career. You like to cook? ...take or teach a class. You like hiking? ...join a…
/r/askTRP27/07/15 03:41 PM
2

Yes, it sounds like you fucked it up, beyond repair. You forced her to assess your entire relationship and convinced her that you are not a good match. The only avenues back are pure beta, IMO - you would have to apologize, admit your weak frame and submit to her acceptance - beg. If she comes begging for you to take her back, act like nothing happened and hope she forgets. You say you've been here two years, so you should know better than to initiate relationship discussions. This "biological c…
/r/askTRP27/07/15 03:28 PM
2

The problem is you are relying upon others to fill an internal void - a girlfriend to motivate you to get up and out of the house. Instead, you need to learn to be an independent MAN - a leader. Everyone here encourages folks to begin with personal health - lose weight, gain muscle and learn to cook healthy. These 3 "simple" activities will send you down a path of infinite self-improvement that doesn't require another person ...but can easily be socialized. "I want to do _____ because it is impo…
/r/askTRP27/07/15 12:07 PM
1

what takes me out of my comfort zone then? It sounds like being in a healthy, not-codependent relationship will be something new, for you.
/r/askTRP27/07/15 02:03 AM
1

Social, yes. Codependency is something else, entirely.
/r/askTRP26/07/15 08:30 PM
2

I'd say you made a huge mistake by jumping from one LTR to another. Either don't date anyone or date many ...you need to become comfortable with being ALONE.
/r/askTRP26/07/15 08:17 PM
4

Women do not fuck their friends. Believe it. Know it. Move on with your life. Either be an honest, platonic friend to her or hard next her.
/r/askTRP26/07/15 08:15 PM
11

Avoid emotional statements, such as "want to see you." Just suggest a good time, your desire is implied.
/r/askTRP26/07/15 08:11 PM
0

Eliminate your feelings for your plate. Don't give a shit.
/r/askTRP26/07/15 08:07 PM
2

Exactly. Feel free to cut the date short, "I gotta go."
/r/askTRP24/07/15 02:11 PM
1

grab a drink at a bar as friends. sounds like she doesn't want to fuck, but you would know better
/r/askTRP23/07/15 06:27 PM
3

/r/bodyweightfitness
/r/askTRP23/07/15 06:24 PM
2

I would expect more of this negative attitude during the date - not fun.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 06:20 PM
3

I think he means she doesn't want to fuck, now.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 06:18 PM
6

I've only read this one post and I don't like you, either.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 06:17 PM
1

Don't understand the downvotes, here.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 02:14 PM
-7

TRP advocates that the individual do what is best for himself. If your husband determines he doesn't want to care for his sick wife, than so be it. It's his life to live.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 03:18 AM
1

Shut the fuck up and do what you're told with a smile on your face and an obvious interest in learning how to do the job right. If they see you trying your hardest, you'll win them over. They know you're going to fuck up, don't worry about it.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 03:11 AM
6

Let's not forget this is a comedy skit, an exaggeration. In reality, it's assault and a man who would do that is a fucking lunatic, someone to be avoided and reported to the police. Otherwise, guys hitting on your woman should be treated with amused indifference. If she's into it, she can go.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 03:09 AM
1

Women get messaged constantly. You have to strike while the iron is hot. You can salvage it, but the thing to do is complete ignore the fact that she deleted you - otherwise, you appear upset. "Wow, you forgot me." "Yea bitch, I forgot you. Bye." A better response would've been, "TerryYockey. How's the botox treating ya?"
/r/askTRP23/07/15 03:05 AM
17

You just don't want to talk, at all? ...it seems extreme, to me. I mean, you don't have to dive into topics you don't want to, but come on. I might be just fucking a girl, but I also like to laugh and talk.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 02:59 AM
7

I personally believe in honoring my commitments. If a man can't do the job, he should step aside. TRP wouldn't judge him for that decision. It's personal. Really, you should talk to him about it.
/r/askTRP23/07/15 02:54 AM
2

There is a way of speaking from a position of authority - providing direction and feedback - that isn't belittling, condescending, short tempered or sarcastic. Learning this will bring you improved results.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 06:18 PM
1

I simply asked her if this is exclusive or not. And that simple question is all it took to totally fuck up this casual relationship. Asking about exclusivity is exactly as /u/archwinger said... something done by desperate, needy guys who don't have options.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 05:12 PM
2

You shouldn't have to say anything. They should already sense that you are not committed to them - because you are not readily available to them. "He's probably fucking someone else." If, on the other hand, you have been implying you are exclusive, you are going to have to deal with that when they start asking direct questions. However, as others have said, you should not bring that shit up ...ever.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 05:01 PM
1

Hire a divorce lawyer and GTFO. You may be 45 years old, but you are not dead ...yet. Whatever your new life leads you will be infinitely better than suffering in your current prison of a marriage. Get super healthy, get ripped and you will not be lonely, for long. Your friends and family don't want you to divorce simply because they fear change - any kind of change. Divorce also forces people to think critically about their own marriage. People want the current reality to continue simply becaus…
/r/askTRP22/07/15 04:35 PM
1

she also has something over my head. Well, that's an interesting comment.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 04:22 PM
1

Lies ...all lies are a huge deal breaker.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 01:50 PM
1

Get straight to the point. Hey, this is monkxae. Let's grab a drink at place and time.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 01:43 PM
1

This is why you don't get sexual with girls through any communication device BEFORE you actually have sex. They are looking for basic validation and a rush - and you gave it to her. Now, she's done with you. Soft next - never contact her again. If she contacts you, insist on a meet up and don't message about anything else.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 01:40 PM
1

Complete and total waste of time and money - but, can also be fun. Don't go in there thinking you're going to learn anything more than money buys women.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 01:35 PM
1

Personally, I would record her insanity and share it with a divorce/custody lawyer. She is a potential danger to your child.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 01:34 PM
1

Don't worry about it and definitely don't listen to what women tell you about your emotions. There is a distinct advantage to not being controlled by your emotions. That said, perhaps you could enhance your emotional development through raising a puppy ...just an idea.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 01:32 PM
1

Let that be a lesson to you. Keep your mouth shut. Key point. Deflect all serious discussions with sex, humor or disinterest.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 01:29 PM
15

She's clearly not worthy of committing to, because she is committed to someone and flirting around with you. If, as you imagine, she becomes your girlfriend, she will do the exact same shit to you. If you want to fuck her, fuck her. But, never tell her your (ridiculous) feelings and definitely don't try to "win" her as your girlfriend.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 01:25 PM
1

You're trying too hard. Just relax and have fun, no matter where you are. It sounds like she wasn't having nearly as good of a time as you want to believe. my seduction spot Come on, man.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 01:04 AM
6

You don't need proof, you already know. Coldly and cooly cut her out of your life. You'll be much better off.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 12:57 AM
5

just Next her The actual first excuse was "busy with work." It was then that you should've dropped contact. If she wanted to be with you, she would make herself available.
/r/askTRP22/07/15 12:49 AM
0

Women are excellent at worrying about the future, regardless of what that future might hold. You need to be the rock. You'll handle whatever comes, whenever it comes. In the meantime, there is nothing you can do, so there is nothing to worry about. Wait the wait and then get the test. If she is pregnant, you deal with it - abortion, adoption or parenthood.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 08:03 PM
1

By focusing on what you want to talk about, logistics. You don't have time for games or get-to-know-you nonsense. That's what the date is for. Hey, this is StrangeStart ...just met you on the bus (or a reminder related to your conversation on the bus). Let's grab a drink Thursday at 8pm, at Shitholes. Think of it this way - she should enjoy being around you much more than she enjoys texting you.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 06:06 PM
2

I'm an asshole for trying to do what's right. Helping a partner in need is the right thing to do, always. TRP only encourages you to be aware of whether that need is genuine or not.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 06:01 PM
1

So, to be clear. She asked you to do something. You agreed. She threw a tantrum. If this is the case, fine. The idea of carrying a girl's purse for her just seems so shameful to me. If, instead, you implied this sentiment, than it makes sense that she blew up. Your's is a ridiculous position - that a purse is anything more than a bag of shit.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 05:58 PM
4

"Sure, I know stairs are hard for you, just come inside and I'll carry it for you up the stairs." Your post isn't clear. Were you being sarcastic or genuine. Regardless, you handled her tantrum well. there's no reason for a guy to carry a purse WTF are you talking about? There are plenty of reasons why you might carry something for someone you give a shit about.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 05:37 PM
1

It different for everyone. The only point that matters is that you aren't doing something right. Perhaps you can change, if you want to. Or, perhaps, you two are simply not a good match. And then, some people will never be satisfied, because they are looking externally for something that grows internally - validation.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 05:30 PM
2

Let's play the name game This is horrible. You've quickly and clearly set yourself up as being too available, so much so that you actually want to waste time fingering your phone. Not only that, but you're playing a childish game. Your goal in texting needs to be focused on negotiating logistics that will allow you to get within arms reach of this girl.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 05:24 PM
1

No, you don't need to. Do you want to?
/r/askTRP21/07/15 05:20 PM
2

We've kissed on the first date. But I though it was really bad, so I told her she's got to make it up to me. Then we kissed on on the second date, but with reluctance from her. A shitty kiss reduces the likelihood I'll see a girl on the 2nd date, as you implied with your (appropriately) giving her shit. However, escalation should have gone much further than a kiss, on date 2. The fact that date 2 was worse than date 1, means you should have hard-nexted her after date 2. Offering date 3 was a was…
/r/askTRP21/07/15 05:14 PM
3

You validated her fears by taking them seriously, explaining your perspective. You guys haven't even kissed and she's worried about some kind of distant future, where she may or may not feel like a fool. Instead, you should've made fun of her serious tone or otherwise deflected the conversation. "I don't know ...I like hanging out with you, we have fun. Serious conversations aren't very fun, though ...particularly since we're just getting to know each other. Anyway, I gotta get going." Then boun…
/r/askTRP21/07/15 03:14 PM
1

Or, maybe I misunderstand, entirely. Did she start the exclusivity conversation and suggest some kind of imagined "exclusivity" that includes fucking other people?
/r/askTRP21/07/15 02:52 PM
1

I'm not sure why the potential duration of the relationship matters, here - long-term vs short-term. The only thing that matters is you want exclusivity (now and for the foreseeable future) and she doesn't. That means she is (or is planning to) fuck other dudes, because you are not her #1.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 02:49 PM
1

don't want her fucking anyone else don't want my LTR fucking anyone else I fail to see the difference. Either she's exclusive or not, right? Exclusivity equals LTR, right? Or, are you suggesting that she not fuck anyone, while you're free to fuck around?
/r/askTRP21/07/15 02:13 PM
5

They sort of just drift away. There is no need to announce an official end to friendships, or communicate any difference in lifestyle or opinion. Relationships are fluid, they come and go. Let them.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 01:19 PM
1

Sure, sure. All my posts will live on, as I stand by them. Myself and others have donated our time and energy here, in an attempt to help you and yet, like all the women who have rejected you, we are the problem in your eyes. "You just don't understand, I am a nice guy!!!" Clearly, you are incapable of seeing fault in yourself. One day, perhaps you'll grow up. Good luck.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 01:15 PM
1

I will delete everything I have said on this subreddit to avoid further annoyances. Good idea. Your lies are too easy to piece together, right now.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 01:07 PM
1

she works in customer care in a store Do you realize that she is paid to be nice?
/r/askTRP21/07/15 12:58 PM
1

2 weeks This is WAY too soon to commit. We had a discussion about monogamy Be clear, you started this discussion. You want to lock her down. This is a mistake. ALWAYS the man should have options and woman should want to lock the man down. If ever the man asks the woman to commit, she gains the position of power over the relationship. Like this... she claimed that being in an open relationship was more effective She rejected you. She is fucking other dudes and it is going to continue. You are not…
/r/askTRP21/07/15 12:51 PM
1

Look idiot, I read through your Reddit profile - your post history, your comment history. You're a 21yr old, Brazilian virgin man-boy, into WoW, astrology and front-end development. You obsess over female "friends" and they (rightfully) think you're a creep. You repeatedly blame them and your environment for YOUR personal failures. You've posted all other /r/relationships and /r/askwomen, among others. You haven't fucked a single girl, much less spun a plate. You can't even comprehend what that …
/r/askTRP21/07/15 12:35 PM
1

I have my plates, but not here. This is a lie. You have zero plates.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 12:30 AM
1

Do you guys only have other dudes as friends? Very few. But, a big difference between me and my female friends and you and your female friends, is we all know none of us is interested in fucking each other.
/r/askTRP21/07/15 12:26 AM
5

I am similar. I will add that the more adamant a girl is about wanting me to wear a condom, the safer I feel it is her normal practice.
/r/askTRP20/07/15 07:56 PM
7

Never trust her to take a pill.
/r/askTRP20/07/15 07:54 PM
1

When would you cut someone out? The older I get, the quicker I cut people loose. I have no interest in negativity. "Either do something about it or STFU."
/r/askTRP20/07/15 07:48 PM
3

I don't get why she gets this message in a different way than the others. Women exist by reading between the lines. The exact words you say mean very little. You have made your intentions perfectly clear. You want to fuck her. The ONLY PROBLEM is she doesn't want to fuck you. You could delete everything you posted and instead ask, "This girl I want to fuck doesn't want to fuck me. Why?" and it would perfectly summarize this entire conversation.
/r/askTRP20/07/15 05:46 PM
7

Good dads are responsible, providers. They represent security and stability. All women want this, at different times in their life. 20-somethings may be looking for a sugar daddy, or simply a more mature dating experience. 30-somethings are looking for the beta bucks. Knowing this, allows a dad to play a rather large field. BTW, I'm a 38yr old, divorced father to two young girls, 50/50 custody - make bank, nice ride, great place and pull dates easily - ranging from 22-33 year olds.
/r/askTRP20/07/15 05:40 PM
3

makes no sense to me at all Well, I've tried to explain it. You refuse to listen to reality. I'll boil it down for you, one last time. Don't try to fuck your friends. Girl or guy, as soon as you violate that "friend" relationship by trying to make it something more intimate, they will reject you. You are telling this girl you are "just" her friend, but you are acting like you want to fuck her. And, you're going about it in the most beta way - you're lonely, needy, possessive and sensitive. Women…
/r/askTRP20/07/15 05:32 PM
1

Does that matter? No, not at all. She let you touch her pussy, in public and then accepted a 2nd date. As long as you don't fuck it up, you are getting laid. Which venue do you recommend? You really need to understand this girl is not a LTR candidate. You do not need to impress her with your "provider" abilities. You simply need to be fun and exciting. As /u/throw_em_all said, just focus on that, knowing she wants to fuck. Don't try too hard, just enjoy an easy night out and lay.
/r/askTRP20/07/15 05:17 PM
5

bitch behavior and shit test SHE DOESN'T LIKE YOU!!!
/r/askTRP20/07/15 04:17 PM
2

She may have genuinely like you as a friend, at some point. But, YOU fucked that friendship up by PRETENDING you only wanted friendship. You have been lying to her. This entire time, your goal was to be her boyfriend. The more your feelings get hurt, the more she understands you want more than what has been agreed upon. It is a gross experience, for her. This is why she is becoming more and more distant ...using you for base validation. say it to her face What is there to say to her? You are the…
/r/askTRP20/07/15 04:07 PM
2

expected us to see each other first as friends and then we would escalate our way up This only works in the movies, not in reality. The truth is, she doesn't like you - not even as a friend. A friend doesn't sleep through a coffee date. The power struggle only exists because she KNOWS you want her, desperately. You'll forgive being stood up. You'll be patient with her. You do whatever she wants, if only she'll see you ...kiss you ...have sex with you. But, she won't. At this point, she just like…
/r/askTRP20/07/15 03:49 PM
3

Failed appointment? Does this mean she missed a date? If yes, you should have never contacted her again. Apologized for what? Never rationalize yourself into apologizing. If you don't immediately feel like you fucked up in a major way, most likely you should not apologize. "request to talk," "having a good time," and "we need to see each other." What the fuck are you doing? You are trying to talk way too much. Men express themselves with action. Women talk. You "need" to talk to her? ...every wo…
/r/askTRP20/07/15 03:04 PM
3

Rebounding women are an easy lay. Nothing more to it. They want to fuck.
/r/askTRP20/07/15 01:16 PM
3

I managed to make out and finger her on the dance floor. Unfortunately I got cockblocked by her friend. I asked her out a few days later. She said yes. This is not a first date. You've already had fingers inside this slut. You are 90% certain to be fucking, after dinner. I will happily buy dinner for a girl I am / will be fucking, without a 2nd thought. Otherwise, your plan is too elaborate. Take her to dinner, then maybe to get 1-2 drinks at a bar and then take her home. Hell, get her to buy dr…
/r/askTRP20/07/15 01:11 PM
2

You then find out that at some point you've been dealing with her she has done stuff with another guy, do you: Don't care, at all. Plates are free to do as they please, as are you. This is casual dating. They WILL be fucking other guys. If you want to make sure she keeps spinning for you, strive to be the best fuck of her line up. Do you seriously think you're going to be fucking virgins?
/r/askTRP20/07/15 01:04 PM
1

My advice to myself in this situation would be "just do exactly what you want to do to her, when you want to, go in for the kiss the moment you feel like kissing her. If you fail, who cares, learning experience, it will get me to eventually be comfortable." You play sports ...it is exactly the same. Simply go for the goal. Don't worry about missing, focus on scoring.
/r/askTRP20/07/15 01:01 PM
2

No matter what you do, you are going to be answering to someone - parents, boss, clients, investors, bank - someone is ALWAYS going to have some level of influence on your personal decisions. In your younger years, you need to learn to how to find quality leadership and how to be a good team player.
/r/askTRP20/07/15 12:56 PM
2

If you're not fucking, it's not a relationship. Even if you are fucking, 1 month is way too soon to spend any kind of money (more than dinner) on her. Your parents just want to see you married, as soon as possible.
/r/askTRP20/07/15 12:54 PM
2

"no worries. hit me up if you want to have fun" ...and then never contact her again.
/r/askTRP20/07/15 12:51 PM
2

You are never going to be anything more than a friend to this woman. If you want more, look elsewhere. She is not into you - she knows exactly who you are, it is accurate and pathetic. She will never be into you. There is no trick you can perform to change her perception of you. You can not talk your way into her heart or pants. Overall, your actions here are disgusting. The fact that you let your son see you be this woman's bitch is unsettling. Read the fucking sidebar and be a fucking man. You…
/r/askTRP20/07/15 12:42 PM
5

No bitch wants to hear a speech about how satisfied you're going to make her and you can't talk her into fucking you, anyway. Get in there and show her how it's done.
/r/askTRP20/07/15 12:36 PM
2

It also serves to shut this shit down. I don't want to hear negativity, making fun of her for it will instantly reduce her tendency to vocalize this bullshit.
/r/askTRP18/07/15 12:14 AM
3

I'm not thinking about what I'm sub communicating This is a mistake, regardless of who you are communicating with.
/r/askTRP18/07/15 12:12 AM
1

Limit chatting in the office - do NOT initiate, except to set up dates. Make the lunch happen. Do it away from the office. As soon as you are on your way to lunch (and during), escalate hard and have fun. Be sure to end the lunch by talking about something fun you want to do, and how it would be cool if she joined you. Make that something at night, involving drinks - near a bed. You are the rebound (little-to-no chance of a LTR). Show her a good time and you'll get in.
/r/askTRP18/07/15 12:02 AM
21

"Glad I didn't have to tell you." "True." "We agree, then." "That's the consensus."
/r/askTRP17/07/15 06:31 PM
2

The problem is that you're explaining yourself. You don't owe anyone an explanation. "Thanks, but I'm not interested." Done.
/r/askTRP17/07/15 03:24 PM
1

It's likely you didn't start and persist with escalation early enough. It really needs to be immediate physical contact and progress. For me, if I don't (at least) kiss a girl on the first date, there isn't a 2nd date. If you like this girl as a friend, continue on that path and don't bother escalating. Otherwise, ghost her.
/r/askTRP17/07/15 03:19 PM
6

Whether with a LTR or plates or friends or business relationships, you need to realize that all relationships are temporary. Enjoy them for what they are, while they exist. Don't try to force or control the evolution of a relationship, beyond adjusting your availability to and compassion for the other person.
/r/askTRP17/07/15 03:15 PM
2

Too vague.
/r/askTRP17/07/15 03:13 PM
1

I'd say it's the decent thing to do, giving a shit if your partner gets off.
/r/askTRP17/07/15 04:28 AM
9

Don't be available.
/r/askTRP17/07/15 04:26 AM
1

Ex-wife can work, and earn, but chooses not to. My ex doesn't work either. And why should she, she gets a fat (court ordered) check from me, one from her mommy and another from daddy. It's the good life. here I am, telling the judge Have you hired a lawyer or are you doing this on your own?
/r/askTRP16/07/15 05:33 PM
1

ordered to pay support based on what you "should be" earning This was not my divorce experience. Lucky, apparently.
/r/askTRP16/07/15 05:28 PM
1

Respond much less to her communications.
/r/askTRP16/07/15 12:54 PM
3

exaggerated my earnings How is this possible? ...it's a black & white number in your accounting records / paystubs.
/r/askTRP16/07/15 12:53 PM
1

Moderation is key.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 09:20 PM
3

There is probably a better subreddit to post this.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 09:18 PM
2

Your last text is out of left field, like you're trying to start a conversation after she failed to confirm the date. I would've just waited until Thursday at noon and confirmed, "I'm wrapping up my morning, then headed to coffee shop. See you soon."
/r/askTRP15/07/15 09:16 PM
1

I found 5mg of Xanax to be extremely helpful in taking the edge off my most extreme panic attacks.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 07:17 PM
1

I wasn't thinking about the social dynamics, at all. I just thought it would be fun to live with a couple bitches, experiencing a friendly sort of intimacy. I would have avoided it, entirely. Again, it's relatively easy to find a roommate on craigslist. There is ZERO reason to see these women as your only option. Post an ad and interview candidates - avoid drug addicts, bums and dirty people. Try to see where they currently live and work. Talk to references.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 03:00 PM
1

I feel like I can mitigate a lot of these issues by... Work. It's a lot of work, with no reward. With guys, this shit simply doesn't exist. Fights happen, then they end. Women never forget. Anyway, it's your life. Good luck.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 01:03 PM
3

It's simply about enjoying life. How do you make a trip to the grocery store more fun than it being a chore? Going to a fancy restaurant isn't going to make her tingle, if you're still boring as fuck while sitting there. Do you talk about interesting shit? Do you laugh? Do you notice how pretty the world is around you? You are the leader, you have to lead. The bigger point is, this isn't a problem specific to the girl - the problem is you. Any girl will say this, as soon as you stop trying to im…
/r/askTRP15/07/15 12:50 PM
1

It is exactly like a sexless girlfriend relationship, because that's exactly what it is. They have access to and intrude into all your personal shit. They drag you into their's. So, you have to put up with all their emotional bullshit and overly communicate with them, but then don't even get to fuck them. If you do fuck them, you're bypassing a whole lot of steps in the relationship process, skipping straight to live-in girlfriend ...that relationship can then quickly be seen (by a court of law)…
/r/askTRP15/07/15 12:43 PM
4

The way to turn a LTR into a plate is to break up and hope she "doesn't want to lose you" from her life. If she says this, go silent for a week or two and then implement the Plate Theory.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 12:36 PM
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What she means is you aren't exciting. This is a problem you need to address. The good news is there is an infinite number of ways in which you can make her tingle. Surely, you put forth a bit of effort to improve the quality of your relationship, in a way that is also pleasing to you. If you don't give a fuck, you don't give a fuck. Dump her.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 12:32 PM
1

Sure, I'm only sharing an opinion based on my experience of living with a couple female friends, when I was in my early 20s. Good luck.
/r/askTRP15/07/15 12:19 PM
1

Still, don't waste your time until you are near her ...wait until you are in the country to match and chat on Tinder. Your distance is simply filling an emotional void for these girls - you are safe to flirt with because they have no intention of actually meeting you.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 05:55 PM
2

Follow the advice here, but going forward don't have such in-depth conversations with Tinder sluts. Get their interest, make them tingle and set the date. You should avoid sexting and personal shit - that is what the date is for. The more you do message before the date, the less likely the date is going to actually happen.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 05:37 PM
2

This DSWYE concept applies to careers, more so than jobs a felon can get.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 01:04 PM
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It's not your relationship to judge. Mind your own business.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 01:01 PM
2

I fell for it and vented You have to be careful about what vulnerabilities you expose. They will be used against you, always - by everyone. Anyway, you're young and inexperienced. This is just how life goes - ups and downs. It sucks it's fucking with your vacation, but realize you're in the perfect environment to distract yourself - on vacation. Go approach every single cute girl you see. They are all looking for a vacation adventure, give it to them.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 12:57 PM
1

Why are you scared of breaking up with her?
/r/askTRP14/07/15 04:09 AM
1

She is thirsty, that's for sure. Wait to respond until late tomorrow and just focus on setting up a 1on1 date.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 04:04 AM
1

i'd like to have back up plans readily available I don't understand this. Do you feel like you couldn't bare the time after breaking up with the LTR and finding your next piece of ass? Seems (to me) the risks of cheating outweighs this momentary dry spell.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 03:59 AM
1

Yea, soft-next and see what happens. It does sound like she could give a shit if you disappear. These sort of relationships don't last forever.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 03:53 AM
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ABORT! This is a horrible idea. You will be pushed to the extreme and the fact that you are here, asking this question, means you will not be the extreme Alpha, fucking both these girls. No, you will be their beta bitch (at best) or they will murder you.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 03:51 AM
3

Don't text anything. Go to bed. Why do you feel like you need to update her with your every move? Are you hoping she gives a shit? The more you tell her, the less she will care. You sound incredibly insecure.
/r/askTRP14/07/15 03:48 AM
2

Good start, focusing on health.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 09:12 PM
1

Don't participate in text conversations. Make correspondence short and to the point, logistics. Set up dates and fuck.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 08:58 PM
2

Sluts gonna slut. She's looking for a particular mix of security and sex. What's the question?
/r/askTRP13/07/15 08:55 PM
2

Best bet is to delay the plate drop as long as possible, but realize they all drop. She is going to insist on a relationship, more and more. If you don't see her as a LTR, refuse and resist. Eventually, you will part ways.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 08:53 PM
1

Cognitive therapy will be helpful.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 06:34 PM
0

You should not be in a committed relationship. Spin plates until your late 20s, at the earliest.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 04:36 PM
3

She's done with you. We decided to take a break. What makes matters worse is the fact that during the break, shes abroad on holiday with her friends She is definitely fucking Chad, lots of Chads. "Taking a break" is code for she's wants guilt-free permission to fuck. The fact that she is recently graduated and abroad w/ girlfriends is a 100% guarantee. When i told her that i used to come visit her a lot and if she is insinuating that she never appreciated it her response was "I never asked for i…
/r/askTRP13/07/15 04:31 PM
1

Also, how old are you? ...if you're in your early 20s, stop committing to women, spin plates.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 04:23 PM
2

She was correct to break off the long-distance relationship. LDRs never work, unless she is actively planning to join you or you have a clear (and relatively soon) return planned. While away, you need to be maintaining communication. The fact that she suggested the break means she was ALREADY fucking or planning to fuck this other guy. Understand, she will not separate from you without an active or potential replacement already lined up. Your current situation is painfully obvious. She is spinni…
/r/askTRP13/07/15 04:14 PM
2

Right idea, except the friends part ...plates are not meant for mixing with friends.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 03:18 PM
2

Act like you don't give a shit, until you don't give a shit.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 01:54 PM
2

There is a ton of online "pickup artist" material for you to research, but the point is to get her smiling, laughing and talking. Avoid asking question after question. You might ask one or two, but whatever she says should be used as a launching pad to telling her something funny and flirtatious. Specifically, never ask a question that allows for a negative answer. Instead of "is this ok - no" or "do you have a boyfriend - yes," ask where they are going, what they are doing and then tell a funny…
/r/askTRP13/07/15 01:51 PM
1

Set up another session. Either tell her to come over or meet for drinks, near your place. Difficultly level: easy.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 01:05 PM
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You are projecting - talking about plating a girl who already knows you as a co-worker, going so far as fantasizing about an LTR with her and jealous of how she spends her free time - ONEITIS. The odds of your dreams coming true with her are 0%. Have you ever spun plates? ...start with sluts, not co-workers.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 01:03 PM
1

Whatever your fears are you have to rationalize them. The reality is, if you're a good person and not a white knight, you're not likely to get into a fight. If you do manage to get into a fight, you are basically prepared to defend yourself. If you lose in a fight, you probably won't die. So, who gives a shit? Enjoy your summer.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 12:58 PM
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Plates come and go, they spin and crash. There is no need to formally break a plate, just stop paying her attention and she will slowly disappear. If she confronts you, you deflect and avoid.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 12:55 PM
1

Your conversation lacks confidence. Also, notice that as soon as you started asking questions, you got negative reactions. Never ask questions which might result in a negative response - Not possible - Boyfriend - you don't (shouldn't) give a shit? You're innocently meeting someone.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 12:51 PM
2

No one is going to (or should) change because you insist they do. Nor should you want them to. Demanding she change and then slowly (again) realizing she isn't changing is just going to be painful for both of you. Find a woman with whom you are a better match.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 12:45 PM
1

100% Guaranteed.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 03:19 AM
1

It sounds like you are already treating this girl as something more than a plate. If you want to truly treat her like a plate, you simply reduce your availability. Cancel plans. Don't offer to reschedule. She'll get the picture. If she confronts you, you deflect and distance yourself. She will be upset, no matter what.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 03:17 AM
1

This is a mistake. 20 years from now, you will be infinitely more happy with your life if you invest in your passions. I would suggest you read a few biographies of successful people you admire.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 03:01 AM
1

Shitty people have a shitty time, no matter their career. They blame the system, the boss, the industry. When really, the problem is they suck.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 03:00 AM
1

The Pros are greater opportunity, higher pay and longer term careers that allow for (require, more accurately) personal growth. The Cons... I don't know, you tell me. The specific degree is a highly personal decision ...follow your passions.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 02:58 AM
2

I have 17 years of experience. I earned a 2-year associates degree in computer science, in which I took a 2 month class on web design - which was basically a crash course on Adobe software (meaning, even after graduating, I didn't know shit). Through the course of my career I evolved from an illustrator > designer > front-end developer > art director > experience director. Currently, I am at a big agency, helping big clients solve design and development problems from a UX perspective. I love it.
/r/askTRP13/07/15 02:50 AM
2

Honestly, who gives a shit. As long as you and your girl are happy, he can go fuck himself. Absolutely do not talk to your girl about it. It is her fight to have with her father and (in fact) the more he dislikes you, the more attractive you become. "Parents just don't understand." Continue on as if you had never seen the email, making the most of the time you spend with her family.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 06:31 PM
2

Put down the video games, pick up a girl. It's better to ask for forgiveness than permission. Have fun, they are.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 06:27 PM
5

It sounds like you spend way too much time talking. Start fucking.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 06:19 PM
4

She will be attempting to keep you in the BP frame she is used to, while enjoying your new image. You're going to have to work hard to assert yourself, break her preconceived notion of who you are. And, you'll have to work hard not to fall back into oneitis. Can you fuck her without falling for her? If you go for it, start by taking the lead on asking her out, planning the date and being sexually aggressive.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 06:18 PM
1

No matter what field you enter into, you're going to start at the bottom. Realize and learn now how to follow and support a leader. But, you're right, you should follow your passions.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 06:13 PM
2

STEM / computers. I'm in marketing and design.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 06:11 PM
1

I am a big fan of TRP, but let's not kid ourselves and pretend we are scientists. The vast majority of what is posted and discussed is anecdotal.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 05:17 PM
1

Little to none.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 02:33 AM
6

I think you're literally allow to shit where you eat, in a strip club.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 02:30 AM
2

Pro-lifers tend to have a strong passion for a right to life, but then give zero fucks for the actual quality of that life.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 02:28 AM
2

SO "SaintMarinus" ,, why are you being a White Knight (Joan, is that you?) /SJW for this woman? By his comments here, I would assume he is pro-life.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 12:15 AM
2

Yea, why wait? ...relieve your anxiety, get the test done.
/r/askTRP11/07/15 12:08 AM
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