So I almost had sex with this girl, it wasn't planned so I didn't have condoms on me and my housemates were out that night. She found it funny that I had the chance to but due to lack of preparation I missed out. We hangout for a bit and she made a comment about her and I hanging out behind closed doors is just a bad idea.

We've been cool since then, made out, flirty and stuff. She remembers the little things I tell her about me, and at times she goes out of her way to do things for me. We've shared a bit about ourselves. She's been single for 2 years and apparently her parents are worried about her when it comes to guys dating because she hardly talks about any other guy.

She comes across as your independent type, from a fairly affluent background. I on the other hand hustles on my own, aloof and not really serious about life. The day we almost had sex, she invited me over to a family function and she said if anybody asks, we've been friends for 3 years... I met her Grandma, and in her grandma's intoxicated state, she said if I'm her boyfriend and I should get intimate with her. I'm thinking wtf?

Fast foward, Later on I found myself really have attracted to her. She brought up the idea of being good friends to which I refused. This went on for a while and she said how she feels like she's begging to be my friend. I told her we can't be friends because I see her differently, I wana bang her, not as a friend. So she's like what happens now? I told her we go our separate ways. She then asked me if I'd say Hi to her if I see around? I said maybe. She said she felt hurt because that's the story of her life with guys.

So later on via text I made a joke about how I guess this is goodbye to which she asked me to not please do this and goodbye's are hard for her.

Later on she said she's a bit disappointed and hurt but she can understand and respect my decision.

Am I being an ass?

What gives? Why is she like this?