TL;DR: I have PE issues. Was married to my HS GF until a year ago. She was only girl I'd been with prior to that. Took RP after divorce started. The last year been with 5 girls and had PE issues every single time. No porn or fapping anymore (last 18 mos 3-4 times only) but was an issue since my teen years and is probably contributing. I want to be able to actually have normal sex the first time with a girl. Help me TRP.

I have a bit of a problem and I'm really not sure how to fix it. Here is some of my background story to help with solutions.

I'm in my late twenties, divorced for about a year after 7+ years of marriage, and took the RP about a year and half ago as the divorce was getting started. I met my ex in HS and started dating her immediately. We were together through college and got married after our sophomore year. Up until our divorce she was the only woman I had ever had any sexual contact with. Sex with her started out a little iffy since I was young and just excited to get going so PE early on in that case is understandable. It worked itself out and the sex with her was great most of the time.

Other then the first few times with her PE was never really an issue. But obviously the situation has changed:

I now find myself out in the world with this new knowledge and game to help me in the SMP and it is working great. I've been able to meet a lot of women, build attraction and escalate physically. Yet every time it comes to sex I find myself experiencing PE with these chicks. I'm really just not sure what to do about it.

Here is an example using what for me was my first ever same-day close/ONS. A few nights ago I met this gal while walking down the street in the late afternoon leaving the same venue as me. I strike up a conversation with her and since we are walking in the same direction we continue to chat while we move for a little bit. Eventually I'm getting ready to split off so I go for the close and invite her to this bar/social thing later that night I'm going to and get her number. While at the bar I'm working the crowd; men, women, the staff, groups, individuals. Just talking to everyone getting my social game flowing. She shows up, I say hi, flirt with her and her friend for a minute and then ignore her to go back to the crowd. Eventually I work my way over to her dragging a chic I just met along with me because rando girl "just has to meet this other girl I know (street girl's friend) . You two would totally get along." They both had color streaks in their hair so I used that as a common trait to be able to keep street girls friend distracted whilst I worked street girl. This all worked wonderfully.

Everything I have learned in Redpill came to full fruition and I owned to the night. Things progress, we Uber to another bar and on the way I escalate physically. Venue change again, continue physical escalation. We walk back to her place, I'm leading and not asking (other then how to get there). Front door I ask to use her bathroom to give her plausible deniability. Once in I escalate some more and get the whole "I've never brought a guy back to my place the same night before." "Oh? Me either, but your too sexy I can't help myself. (grab the hair and pull her in.)

Literally every sort of text book game and Redpill principle played out that night (Shit tests, IDGAF, LMR, etc.) and I thought to myself the whole time, "Wow this is everything I've read about." I was in the zone and shit was flowing perfectly. The clothes came off the sex started but it was like the moment of penetration I knew I was fucked because it just felt too excited. And it wasn't even a mental thing. I wasn't worried about it until moment of penetration when I could tell physically, "uh-oh, thats gonna end way to quickly," and there was nothing I could do about it.

So all that to get to the point. WTF do I do????

The problem I'm having is that there isn't that much nervousness or mental shit happening where I'm psyching myself out ahead of time, but physically it seems like once the penetration starts shit just goes off too quickly (like less then a minute). I honestly feel like my mental state is generally OK, but I really hate the sex is such a shitty short thing until I have shitty short sex on multiple occasions with a chick, then finally get some level of comfort I guess and it evens out.

It's like every chick I meet it is my first time all over again.

Here is some background b/c I know it will be asked.

  • I'm relatively porn free. I think I've fapped 3 times in the past 18 mos. Once I got on the RP train I started lifting and recognized that my testosterone was my life-blood. Giving that away to a computer screen was killing me so I pretty much stopped cold turkey. But before this I had a bit of porn problem and even had a little porn-induced ED that has cleared up. But my porn problem started at a young teen age and was almost a daily habit for a good number of years. I think this is very much contributing to my PE issues as porn sort of rewired my brain to ejaculate as quickly as possible so I wouldn't get caught watching it. It is just weird to me b/c it was rarely a problem with the ex.
  • I lift regularly and eat healthy. I've got some "dad-bod" I'm working to get rid of after I let shit go during marriage, but I'm happy with my progress and physical fitness level.
  • The PE issue has surfaced every single time I've slept with a new girl in the last 12 months. And with the exception of one where I kept at it a few more times and turned her into a plate for a little bit, it's stayed an issue. The thing with her was I explained my situation after the first time was less then fulfilling, (The whole only been with mostly my ex thing) so she understood and worked with me a little.

However, I do not want to have to do this or have this chat with every girl, because at some point it's bull shit. I've slept with 5 different women in the last year so I can't keep using inexperience as a reason. I need to kick this shit!!!

Help me ASKTRP!