How can I maintain a redpill frame when dealing with my sons Mom?

neveragoodtime · 2015-10-26T03:16:23+00:00

You should have some rights as a father, so I'd get a lawyer and start there. Then it's simply a matter of doing whatever the fuck you want to be the best dad you can be within those boundaries. She'll tell you not to take them there, they can't watch that movie, you need to cook them more vegetables. Her MO is control. Fuck that, no one controls you. And that means she can't piss you off when she does something stupid with the kids. She'll try that shit just to get a rise out of you, see if she can still push your buttons, get you to jump on the spot. Don't show her any emotions, don't let her upset you, don't give her any attention. You are in complete control of yourself and your time with your kids. That's how you maintain frame. If she wanted to decide if the kids can have ice cream after 8, she should have stayed in the relationship if she wanted her say.

These are all just shit tests, and if you were BP with her, she will assume she can win them. She's already put you in a box and she's not going to reorganize. She'll never really stop, but she'll play them less frequently when she doesn't get the attention she craves.

nuesuh · 2015-10-26T07:59:47+00:00

Being a bad parent is biggest failures possible. Do whatever it takes to be a good father for your son. If that means less control for his mom or a lessening of your pride, so be it.

While women do have an advantage when it comes to child custody, you shouldn't let that discourage you. Fight what needs to be fought.

Title	How can I maintain a redpill frame when dealing with my sons Mom?
Author	almightypacers
Upvotes	7
Comments	6
Date	October 26, 2015 1:04 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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