There are times I feel I get quite mean in order to not look like a pussy and this gives me a bad rep. I just had a convo with a girl who joked about me (not so serious shit) but I went all in and replied with a slightly insulting roast to which she replied she was hurt by it. Now I want go avoid doing this but I also dont want to look like a pussy- neither do i want to push people away by my mean persona. I just want to have some fun banter.