How do I hande this situation?

vandaalen · 2018-02-07T18:53:25+00:00

I confirm that nothing happened, she just wanted to go to the festival with her friends (sure about this, believe me)

Ah no. I'll better go with my gut and say that she is a cheating whore. We don't know any better and the fact that she is blatantly lying to your face doesn't exactly scream: "You can trust me."

It doesn't matter anyways. Even if she didn't cheat, she did not not do it out of "love" for you, but just because she didn#t have an opportunity.

it's her first big mistake in 10 months

That shit is not a "mistake". A mistake is if I bring you a coke but you ordered water. This is a relationship ending fuck-up. You cannot trust her anymore ever and every time you try you will inevitably will be reminded of this incident and it wil nag and nag and nag in the back of your head if maybe this time she is lying to you as well.

basically communicating that what she did was okay if she says sorry

The only thing she feels sorry about is having been caught.

I have oneitis for her, in the way that I really do love her and she fulfills my needs as a man.

In order to call yourself a man you must be a man first, which subsequently means that you also act like a man and not like some beta chump that pedestalizes a lying cheating whore.

Immediate hard next. No further notice. Just delete all traces of her and block her everywhere.

tigertigar · 2018-02-07T21:34:11+00:00

Why are you trying to control her going to a festival with friends? Seems like a losing battle. Is it worth it? I’d see if you can see why you feel like controlling her events and friends at that level — if it’s insecurity on your part, then you’re the one fucking up at square one. It seems like it is, since you spent time investigating her actions and the festival — all a waste of time based on insecurity. Evaluate your control because it may actually just be controlling no one else but you. Also — yes, she lied, but punishing now is just going to make you look confused and weak. Set a new standard and take real control based on confidence.

redhawkes · 2018-02-07T18:50:44+00:00

Do your homework and stop spamming the sub everyday with your oneitis.

She's playing you like a sucker cos she knows that you don't have other options, hence her behavior and your neediness.

Your frame is nonexistent, the second she played the victim card, you sucked it up whole, then rewarded her behavior like a chump.

From now on, she's just going to hide her actions better. Demote to plate at most.

fnordsnord · 2018-02-07T18:59:36+00:00

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Title	How do I hande this situation?
Author	thro0owaw4y
Upvotes	2
Comments	16
Date	February 7, 2018 6:29 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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