Girl and I make plans to hang out on friday. I like her so make plans that are communicative of my intent to date or upgrade her to a girlfriend status (we are fucking about 3 times a week). Friday rolls around and neither of us are feeling the plans because we had shit weeks. She says "lets just fuck off and watch adventure time" I say cool. I get home she says "lets go to expensive ass french place with my two sisters and their boyfriends." I say "no. too expensive not a special occasion, and I am not putting on pants tonight." Already cracked a beer cleaned my place and expected her over.

She says "Ill be over around 9"

11 oclock rolls around and I get a knock on the door. I open it she comes in while talking on her phone to a friend, rolls into the bathroom takes off her make up gets into one of my tshirts and hops on the couch. Ok thats fine, if we were a shitty married couple.

I escalate shes "too tired." I say fine im going to bed.

She asks if she can lie in bed with me a bit. I say yeah move to the bed put on some tunes, start kissing on her in my bed now. she starts talking about her day. OK fucking mood killer. MENTIONS SHE TALKED TO HER EX. I remain calm act a little disinterested and let her vent. She says some shit about how cold it is in my apartment (no shit that way we cuddle up.) Agree and amplify to "warm her up" Sex is BORING AS FUCK. I do all the work she planks a missionary. 15 minutes later I bust she was "almost there" (Bullshit you wouldve gotten yours 5 minutes in like usual)

We cuddle a bit I walk her to her car.

But something feels off. The change of plans the lateness, the lack of enthusiasm in sex, its just annoying. NO fucking effort from her at all. Normally we would bang all night but this shit was just old married bullshit.

I invited her to hang out today but got some shit about her sisters going to another town.... then i get a text asking what im up to because surprise her sister flaked on her now she wants me to entertain her. Im not responding, I feel like shes using me for something but I cant tell what. Do you think she sees me as an orbiter now? Going radio silent for 24 hours while I ponder this. If i dont get an offer to bang i think this is going to become a soft next. Which is a bummer because we were banging for about 2 months and i kind of liked her.