I've been mostly solo all of my life, occasionally was in a few BP relationships in my late 20's / early 30's. Now in my mid 30's I've been more selective, more independent and goal-oriented. I learned a lot of RP material in my 20's I was fortunate enough to have a lot of mentors in the PUA scene live in my city. I remember we would meet up on the weekends and go hit up the bars and clubs. Granted a lot of the material for PUA is not RP, but I understood the fundamentals and I think what clicked for me was what they called "inner-game" when I did well in that arena, nothing could stop me from a successful night.

There was even a point in my life where I was frustrated because I didn't make enough time for myself, I would be dating 2 to 3 different girls a day! From morning till evening. I think over time I got tired and got into a relationship, but I really miss those days, so much fun.

So now I'm in my mid 30's and I am successful in my personal projects, business ventures and have and do most things by myself. Travel alone, and do most of everything by myself. My days consist of waking up, going to work, hitting the gym after and coming home. Weekends are a bit different but mostly spend by myself.

Aside from the occasional plan here or there with my friend or a date with someone I met online I don't get much exposure to anything. I have a tough time connecting to people, even with meetup groups I feel like a majority of us hang out then part ways, there is no substance to our meetups aside from enjoying the activity at the moment together.

So in the friendship department, I have 1 person I can rely on. And I'm doing the whole online dating scene which no longer is the same as it was for me in my 20's. So much harder to get noticed.

I'm wondering if you RP can give me some advice in terms of how to make my life more exciting? I'm bored and occasionally sad, while I do know I am the captain of my ship, I just don't know where to steer the wheel. I don't mind doing things by myself, I almost love it too much. Going to Museums, and Traveling, doing tourist stuff in my city, going out to eat, that's all great but a part of me is sort of lonely.

  • Any advice on what parts of my life I need to build and how to go about it?