How do I remove the thoughs that not being the best equals being shit

lietruth · 2017-01-13T22:20:08+00:00

why bother if you're not the best...

Realize right now, that there will always be someone better than you.

It's unlikely that this man is naturally like that. Confidence, happiness, and being good looking takes effort. Although is may seem like it comes easy, he probably works out 5 times a week, has a good social circle, reads and betters himself every day. AKA what you should be doing.

My advice is to befriend him. Learn from him, mentor him. Instead of sitting on the sidelines and feeling jealous, look at what you can do to be like him.

DiggerClam · 2017-01-13T22:29:44+00:00

Guess what. This guy was probably like you a few years ago.

empatheticapathetic · 2017-01-14T00:13:33+00:00

I've never found a real answer to this. There's nothing you can do.

You can't always be happy. You can't always win. Be grateful that you're better than a lot of other people. Set reasonable expectations and make the most of what you have. If you're a happy grateful interesting dude who enjoys life, that's the best you can do with what you have.

I was cucked by my oneitis for someone (presumably) more alpha than me. That was my first realisation that despite being happy with who I was and doing the best I could, you can't always win. It made me have a quarter life crisis and really question everything about my life and who I am.

The conclusion I have come to for myself is nothing. All you can do is make the most of what you have control over and stop spending time thinking about dudes like that. You'll never win.

It's nice to read sometimes on here about hot guys who turn out to be betas. That makes me feel good about myself.

My friend is incredibly good looking and a natural alpha. His gf made sure she got pregnant by him and locked that shit down. He's slowly turning more beta by the day. Be grateful for everything you've read here and that you have more control over your future.

Triadis3 · 2017-01-14T13:22:48+00:00

" If you ain't first, yer last!"

Ricky Bobby's dad

Seriously? Life is a spectrum. There's always somebody better/ worse than you at every metric.

The trick is figuring out what is important to you.

Nucka574 · 2017-01-13T23:32:54+00:00

I don't feel jealous to be honest

You sure do sound like it though. Read No More Mr. Nice Guy.

You are way too focused on this dude and things you can't change. Focus on yourself and things you can change.

Title	How do I remove the thoughs that not being the best equals being shit
Author	mehdreamer
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	January 13, 2017 10:05 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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