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Hate to say it bro but you lost frame big time. I’m not going to lay out every mistake but I’ll lay out the big ones. Agree with me or not, it’s my opinion. I understand you didn’t agree to pick her up, but if she asked over text- you could’ve said “Of course! What’s your address”. Play along with her fairy tale thing. You asked her out, it’s a date, you gotta pick her up. You want her to pick you up? I don’t think so, right. Then pick her up next time if you’re asking a girl out. Basics - you d…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/23 03:16 AM
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Good breakdown of a nuanced answer to rapport building. This would open up a door of conversation with anyone, thus opportunities - instead of a dead end of “I’m a lawyer.” It’s “I’m a lawyer AND passion_purpose_mission”. Another great one I’ve found is when conversations die down or it seems like you have nothing left in common with the person - is just to ask them: “Do you have any upcoming travel plans?” Most of the time people do or just recently went somewhere. Most people like travelling s…
/r/TheRedPill29/07/23 03:02 AM
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Original thoughts. Great writing. Quality post. Thanks for sharing it with us. Mini FR: I’m travelling abroad and met this dude a few months ago who’s similar to Chris - not in a situational leadership way but in a IDGAF way. He has an unbreakable alpha aurora of IDGAF, but he actually lives it. I don’t mean IDGAF in the “I don’t care about anything” type of way. This guy isn’t trying to “be” anyone. He’s just himself. Just says what he thinks, even if it’s stupid. Does what he wants, even if it…
/r/TheRedPill20/06/23 12:21 AM
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You’re not wrong. Canada is the same way. It’s all going to shit. Guys my age in Canada are either unhappy with low quality bitchy women in relationships or rolling the dice in the dating scene and coming up light. Side effect is more men are single now - why? Because huge standards women have and men don’t want relationships anymore. It’s not worth it with a western girl, she won’t make your life easier. Lived abroad for many years, in edition to higher quality women, life is also easier. If yo…
/r/TheRedPill13/06/23 10:29 PM
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I disagree with you about it only being possible within that age range. I think it's much easier for an older guy in his late 20's (if he is established, good looking etc.) to find younger women. Women want to date men who are older. Older guys have an edge. I'm in my late 20's and consistently get IOI's from younger girls. In my experience this has been the case for my friend group and experiences I've heard from other men on this forum.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 05:49 PM
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It's possible. Find them young (18,19,20) with a good father figure in their life. Then pairbond with one and she’ll be solid for the most part. The main fucking problem with these bitches nowadays is how often they sleep around. None of them have properly formed attachment to a man, and therefore have issues and a fucked up past. Save yourself a boatload of trouble and find yourself a young woman with a ~0 partner count. Young women are less likely to have done this (still possible though).
/r/askTRP23/04/21 05:12 PM
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Guy sounds like simpcity Seems like she handled the message fine
/r/askTRP13/04/21 06:46 AM
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Sidebar, lift and read!
/r/askTRP13/04/21 06:44 AM
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I think your splitting hairs here. There’s a time for the former and the latter. I would try not to focus on the granular stuff. It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. In general you should lead with persuasive and assertive language. But also know when you should use the words “we” and I. For example if you’re asking her out. I would steer clear from saying “you should... come out with me”. Instead say something you want. “I am going here Friday night, do you want to join?” Is much more di…
/r/askTRP13/04/21 06:42 AM
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If she’s attracted to you, doesn’t matter how you show up.
/r/askTRP11/04/21 04:33 AM
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Retain your semen. A side benefit of retaining your seed is your skin starts to glow. Other than that, wash your face with a exfoliating cleanser in the shower a few times a week. Try not to use too much soap on your face every day. Just use cold water. The oils will build up and your skin will look healthier.
/r/askTRP11/04/21 04:31 AM
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Rent a solo apartment if you can afford it. I always prefer to fly solo.
/r/askTRP30/03/21 05:36 AM
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Don’t apologize to me man. You owe me no apologies. You owe nobody any apologies. You owe yourself a massive apology though, for taking the hit for that framing bitch. Cut ties with that toxic cunt. Delete her number tonight. It’s on you that you did that, that’s your fault, that’s your responsibility. Learn from it. It’s cringe I admit that, and guys are gonna roast you for this, but it’s all good man. That’s in the past. Don’t worry about it. The important thing is that your cringing about it.…
/r/askTRP30/03/21 04:36 AM
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The brain does this sometimes. Don’t live an imaginary life in your head first, and rehearse every scenario that might happen. It’s better to follow your heart. What do you want to do? Just do that. Don’t worry about “should I text her this late, maybe she’s asleep, maybe it’s rude... etc etc”. Just do what you want to do.
/r/askTRP30/03/21 04:28 AM
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You need to realize something today. The past is in the past. The last 20 years of your life is a chapter that you’re closing today. That was old you. Those things have already happened, there’s nothing you can do. From today forward, you’ve changed. In front of you are blank pages, and today you will write the first one. The one thing you need to stop doing: Stop doing things for other people. From here on out, you will exclusively do things for yourself. Don’t even open a door for anyone else.…
/r/askTRP30/03/21 04:17 AM
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Shoot your shot bro. You’re anxious about this but women aren’t scary. You should always assume attraction. Assume she’s already interested in you. If you knew she was already into you, how would you play this? You’d probably be super smooth and ask her to hang out later. Don’t overthink this. Rejection is inevitable, and even guys like Brad Pitt have been rejected 100’s of times. No one is clowning you, but you gotta stop clowning yourself. Just lay back, relax and enjoy the ride.
/r/askTRP30/03/21 04:05 AM
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This is textbook passive aggressive. It’s really really toxic toxic behaviour because you can’t point a finger at it. On the surface it looks like they’re being supportive and ‘well intended’, but underneath the veil, it’s a calculated control tactic to make you feel a certain way. I know exactly what this is. My mom and sister are like this, so I have some experience. The best way to handle passive aggressive comments is to treat them at face value, honestly and draw attention to the absurdity …
/r/askTRP30/03/21 03:55 AM
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Journaling helps. You need to release these feelings somehow. If you repress something, it only creates more problems and bleeds in to other areas of your life, as you’re seeing with your amplified anxiety. What works for me, is talking to myself and recording it. I’ll go for a drive in my car, turn on my voice memo recorder, and I’ll just say everything that’s on my mind, no matter how stupid, weak, dumb, crazy or whatever. No one says anything back obviously, there’s no feedback from anyone. B…
/r/askTRP29/03/21 06:37 AM
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FWB: not exclusive. If it bothers you, you’re too attached. Be grateful you saw this red flag.
/r/askTRP29/03/21 06:32 AM
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This should be an auto bot, first comment on every asktrp post.
/r/askTRP25/03/21 05:55 AM
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The right answer. OP’s girl is doing this by nature. It doesn’t seem calculated or malicious - but it does seem capricious. You just need to hold frame, and just keep doing what you’re doing, at the end of the day she’s still fucking you. All women have orbiters. You can’t control others. Choose not to be harmed and you will not feel harmed.
/r/askTRP25/03/21 05:52 AM
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Main things I noticed from abstaining from porn and masturbation while practicing semen retention: Strangers (girls of all ages) compliment me on my eyes. They just say “they are so beautiful.” Or “you have really nice eyes”. Never used to get compliments about my eyes. This happens about once a week. Energy is higher, things seem easier. Conversations flow more effortlessly. I’m luckier? Maybe just tapping in to some unrealized skill. More dominant on and off the basketball court. Not afraid to…
/r/askTRP23/03/21 08:32 AM
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Wtf is wrong with asktrp lately. Listen up mr spearmint. Stop over thinking shit. You interested in a girl? She’s fucking you? She sends you some sexy pic of her hair. You can say “damn you look hot, come over later”. You reward with attention when she does something good. Don’t overdue it by blasting her with paragraphs of validation and professions of love... there’s a balance. Now you’re in a granular situation (comfort test, probably not shit test) because you acted disinterested in her new …
/r/askTRP08/02/21 08:16 PM
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Breaking up with a cluster b is like hitting a bees nest with a baseball bat. You should have a backup plan. I think a good way to go about this, is to blame it on yourself. “I’m just too weak. I’m going through so much. It’s not you it’s me”. Make some bullshit up. If she thinks it’s cause of her, she’ll go full crazy woman on you and she’ll try to ruin your life. Taking the ego hit is much more worth it.
/r/askTRP07/02/21 03:45 PM
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If you spend the day with her on Valentine’s Day, she’s now upgraded herself to LTR status.
/r/askTRP07/02/21 03:11 PM
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ASD. How do you combat ASD? Keep pursuing her but turn up the plausible deniability to like a 9 or a 10. Like "we're just watching a movie", or "it's just a drink. No motives. Cross my heart." What she says doesn't really matter. Don't bring it up anything relating to judging her, that'll likely trigger some unwanted ASD. It's only fun for her when theres plausible deniability. When she realizes she's a slut, then social shame sets in and the blame is on you. Give her hamster something to work w…
/r/askTRP05/02/21 04:23 PM
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LGTM
/r/askTRP03/02/21 06:36 PM
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Without drawing on the details, that sounds traumatic. Can you afford therapy? If not, I recommend reading some books on narcissism like "start here" and "out of the fog".
/r/askTRP02/02/21 11:07 PM
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That depends. What did your parents do? What are you holding them resentment to? What are you trying to forgive them for? I’ll leave one of my favourite stories below that I think sums up “letting go” really well: A senior monk and a junior monk were traveling together. At one point, they came to a river with a strong current. As the monks were preparing to cross the river, they saw a very young and beautiful woman also attempting to cross. The young woman asked if they could help her cross to t…
/r/askTRP02/02/21 07:50 PM
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You need more plausible deniability and the logistics have to be right. Depending on how secluded the nature is, it will be a real mood killer when you’re fucking on a bunch of tree branches and moss when Karen and her weekly jogging group runs by. Go for a run, build attraction, polarize, escalate... then take things back to your place or hers.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 04:01 PM
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Drake featuring drake
/r/askTRP02/02/21 03:55 PM
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I’ve noticed this on asktrp too. Guys like to act like what they think is alpha, only to lose good opportunities because of their facade. They trade in authenticity for a cheap ego boost. First time I’m heading it mentioned in this context though. If you have time I’d like to hear more about your take on the “fake trp”.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 03:54 PM
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Enjoy the BJ’s. Why rush to starfish bro? Blowjobs are the real W. You knooooow
/r/askTRP02/02/21 05:12 AM
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Taking a plate out on Valentine’s Day let’s her know she is no longer a plate. Every girl will see it this way. So keep that in mind. You take her out on Valentine’s Day, she’s your girlfriend now. No way around it. Sounds like that might be what you want anyway.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 05:07 AM
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I like to cry. After I cry I feel so good. It’s good for you. To feel sad, let out emotions. Anger. Whatever it is. If you feel like crying, just don’t over think it. Just cry. Your body is trying to release an emotion, you need to let it happen.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 02:12 AM
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Say, “I just called him a few hours ago. He said he approves.” Yolo, this bitch isn’t into you man.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 02:10 AM
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No you didn’t fuck up. You passed the comfort test. Women have a dualistic mating strategy. 80/20 alpha beta.
/r/askTRP02/02/21 02:01 AM
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Brutal truth right here OP ^
/r/askTRP24/01/21 06:46 AM
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nofap never worked well for me. I don't know why, it's not a community that's framed well on any sort of backbone. It's just "don't do x". That doesn't motivate me. On the other hand, I did try semenretention, and I can say that it's a much better method to abstaining. I have way better sleeps, a more positive outlook, stronger, skin is better, more energy. I would check that out and see if it resonates with you r / semenretention.
/r/askTRP13/01/21 03:12 PM
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Jump in the conversation. Most of what women say has no meaning and they just like to hear their own voices. So you can't really stop that or "handle" it. They're just gonna keep blabbing on, especially if the girl is already really chatty. If she is super chatty, I personally see that as an IOI because girls aren't chatty with guys they don't want to talk to. I normally just jump in, ask a question, or expand on something she's saying, while keeping the conversation light and bantery. Think a p…
/r/askTRP13/01/21 03:11 PM
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This seems like a closure deal, but she's obviously still into you. Maybe she's trying to seek some sort of "What are we??!" with you. Seems cordial enough though, not entitled sounding at all. I would respond to this.
/r/askTRP12/01/21 06:53 AM
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Limitless, The Gentleman, Fight Club.
/r/askTRP12/01/21 06:10 AM
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I have a story for you. Girls like guys who are older than them.
/r/askTRP12/01/21 06:07 AM
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This is oddly specific, but this could likely be the case. Truth is stranger than fiction. She could be trying to cover tracks so her ex doesn't find out. Either way don't mention it, and shrug it off.
/r/askTRP12/01/21 06:06 AM
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Semen retention gives you that glow up that you're looking for bruh. Stop trying to get laid. You're not outcome independent. Pussy will start flowing, when you stop giving a fuck if it flows or not.
/r/askTRP12/01/21 06:03 AM
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If she’s liking your posts, it’s a good thing to return the gesture. It shows interest as well. Little sprinkles of validation here and there, as long as she starts it, is fine.
/r/askTRP11/01/21 04:17 PM
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This is a comfort test. She’s an LTR. Yeah, you can text her. I’ve never seen any advice on LTR’s that say you can’t text a girl at night. You can’t follow this stuff too religiously, you gotta do what feels right.
/r/askTRP11/01/21 04:13 PM
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Don't be quick to make assumptions. You only see what they display "on-screen". Everything looks like butterflies and rainbows when you look at some couples travel instagram. "Wow they're sooo happy, they travel the world and shower in waterfalls. She is the perfect wife, how did he get so lucky?" Behind closed doors, I don't think everything is like that. It's a facade for the world. It’s the “highlight reel”. Instagram pulls it's ugly veil over your eyes this way. See things for what they are.…
/r/askTRP10/01/21 04:08 PM
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It’s not a black and white decision for either sex. There’s choice involved; and preference. Different mating strategies. Also not all men are alpha enough to fulfill their evolutionary narrative, so they’ll settle for being a beta provider. It’s in also in an alpha man’s favour to provide for their offspring to ensure their health and survival. Unless the man has a ton of resources, how would he do that if he’s impregnating a new chick every day?
/r/askTRP10/01/21 03:10 PM
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It’s not a single variable. It’s a combination of many variables. Evolution, brain chemistry, cultural factors, individual factors etc etc. I’ll focus on evolution. Evolution has evolved women to be very selective in their mating strategy. They want to find long term mates that stick around, pair bond and then keep him around to provide for her and her offspring. 9 months pregnancy investment isn’t something to take lightly, think about that. Women are the happiest when they find that alpha man …
/r/askTRP10/01/21 06:23 AM
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This is what swallowing the red pill feels like. You’re realizing your little princess, is not a princess... and she’s not yours it’s just your turn.
/r/askTRP10/01/21 06:19 AM
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'Enough' is up to you man.
/r/askTRP10/01/21 03:27 AM
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When you go fishing, and a fish gets away, do you spend your time trying to get that fish back? No. You go back fishing, because there's an ocean full of them. Let this one go. Do all plates need to be of higher SMV or is just getting comparable in good numbers enough? I always say quality over quantity, but that's just me. I'd rather drive a few nice Mercedes Benz than 30 Toyota corollas.
/r/askTRP10/01/21 03:23 AM
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Blocking makes you seem low value and butt hurt. Just ignore, or just say something aloof, like "no worries, take care".
/r/askTRP10/01/21 03:17 AM
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Girls who have to overcompensate for how they are "daddy's girls" are sometimes the ones with the most daddy issues. Not always, but sometimes.
/r/askTRP10/01/21 03:14 AM
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Absent fathers. Girls with lots of red flags usually have daddy issues. Unavailable or absent fathers. Never get emotionally integrated. Didn't have an available male role model in their lives, so they seek external validation. Healthy, available, masculine, integrated and emotionally stable fathers are so critical to young girls transition into a woman growing up (another RP benefit is it teaches men traits like these). Find me a feminine, happy submissive woman and I’ll introduce you to her al…
/r/askTRP10/01/21 02:52 AM
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It sounds like you girlfriend and your parents got off to a rocky start. There’s some unresolved conflict there. Not anything really major, but the little things build up quickly. And it’s almost too small to even begin to resolve it. It’s not as simple as saying “no I’m gonna call my parents whenever I want, bitch”. That’s not going to end well for you in this case. She’s not going to let up on this. But the way you tell the story, it seems like your girlfriend is the difficult one to get along…
/r/askTRP09/01/21 07:00 AM
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Good attitude. Don’t fear life. Embrace it. Run toward fear, not away from it.
/r/askTRP09/01/21 06:48 AM
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Just a bluff man. I doubt she’s sending her older brother. She’s just being a 16 year old girl. Dramatic. But it’s a good lesson. Women are fickle and hypergamous. In the future, don’t call her out on what you know, just hard next. It’s better.
/r/askTRP09/01/21 06:36 AM
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How often do you talk to your parents now? What does she think your parents do to interfere? What do your parents think of your relationship? If you concede to her demands, this will go from once a week, to once a month, to never. Don’t allow her to control your communication to your family. This will extend to your friends too. Give an inch and they take a mile. Could turn abusive really quickly. It’s a different story if your family is sabotaging your well being... then I would say that she ha…
/r/askTRP09/01/21 06:34 AM
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Just some ASD, just breeze past it. Agree and amplify. I think you handled it well, by saying you don’t do things like that. Gives her some plausible deniability when it “just happens”.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 07:30 AM
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She’s either really awkward or she’s not into you. I think it’s the latter though.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 07:27 AM
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Don’t do what the red pill says because the red pill said it. TRP is just a toolbox. Take what you want, but it’s just another lens to look at the world with. Marriage isn’t for everyone. But with some girls, if they’re submissive and sweet enough, they’ll make your life better. Rare with marriage, but it’s possible.
/r/askTRP07/01/21 07:24 AM
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No pussy is worth that first list for me. No pussy.
/r/askTRP06/01/21 06:20 AM
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This is everything you don’t want in a girl bro
/r/askTRP06/01/21 06:15 AM
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This is normal girl behaviour. They get their friends to screen/check things out for them. She likely told her friend your Instagram or sent her your story, and she saw it. End of story.
/r/askTRP06/01/21 06:07 AM
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What is your goal of giving backhanded compliments? That’s passive aggressive and leaves people with a bad taste in their mouth. There’s a big difference between teasing and being playful with a girl, and being passive aggressive.
/r/askTRP06/01/21 06:03 AM
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Agreed. *Most. Is the keyword here. There are some lower cost countries that give you a better life then you could dream of, for a third of the price of what it costs you in the west. It all depends on what you value of course. This is a good chart showing world cities cost of living x quality of life: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/D7XYUN0UIAARne0.jpg
/r/askTRP13/12/20 09:43 PM
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I would visit there, before you decide to retire there. There is many countries that have a very low cost of living. What you want to look for, is a low cost of living, but a high quality of life.
/r/askTRP13/12/20 09:05 PM
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Corruption makes it a shitty place to live. It has some of the worst air quality. "Don't go to Jakarta" is what people from Jakarta will tell you. Traffic. Bali, is probably the best place to visit in Indonesia, but even there, it's become an instagram island and a trash can for tourists and influencers. Commercialized place that was probably paradise 30 years ago. Now it's terrible. I was supposed to stay 6 months there, but I left in 6 weeks. It's a shit hole compared to Thailand. Don't learn …
/r/askTRP13/12/20 07:00 PM
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Because Indonesia is a shitty place to live (I travelled and lived there for a few months). Thailand on the other hand, is an amazing place to live. I would choose to learn Portuguese and Thai, over Portuguese and German.
/r/askTRP13/12/20 06:17 PM
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I understand your intentions are probably good. But think back to when you were 13. You probably just wanted to go light some shit on fire with your friends. Even if he reads it, it will go in one ear and out the other. Too young to comprehend the concepts.
/r/askTRP13/12/20 06:14 PM
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Portuguese and German
/r/askTRP13/12/20 06:09 PM
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13 is too early to be reading about PUA. The brain is still developing at that age, and those ideas are specific and nuanced, it's not going to make sense to a young man who is maturing. I would've gave him "the alchemist" or "meditations".
/r/askTRP13/12/20 06:01 PM
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I know I'll probably earn good and live a good life in the future but what good is it if I have nobody to fulfill my most basic need Your most basic need in life is not women. "Women are not the goal in life ... they are simply the by-product of a life well lived." - CopperFox3c Live your life well, and women will follow. COVID won't last forever, it's a temporary moratorium for you to improve yourself and get ready for the next chapter of your life.
/r/askTRP13/12/20 05:55 PM
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It's called mate guarding. But what you've described sounds like reverse mate guarding. I think she could want the guy for herself, and thus is trying to denigrate the other girl, so she can go in for the swoooop and steal him away.
/r/askTRP13/12/20 05:53 PM
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has given me a large sum of money I need to hear this story
/r/askTRP13/12/20 05:43 PM
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Each line is a new thought. It's an excellent way of writing, how he's split up the story thought by thought.
/r/TheRedPill13/12/20 05:39 PM
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Yeah I bet she is physically abusing him too. The way you describe this bitch reminds me of a Borderline that my friend was dating years ago. This woman probably has this guy by the balls, and threatens him with suicide if he leaves.
/r/askTRP11/12/20 06:44 AM
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Sounds horrible dude.
/r/askTRP11/12/20 06:41 AM
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Yeah you did good. She wants to bang bruh.
/r/askTRP11/12/20 06:39 AM
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Your friend is gone man. Sorry to say. But he’s fucked. Unsaveable maybe. Still young, but he’s got to wake the fuck up and take control of his own life. Nothing you can do to show him the light. He enjoys (or is indifferent to) the Stockholm syndrome. On another note, I’m getting BPD vibes from the way you described her. She will inevitably start abusing him, if she’s not already.
/r/askTRP11/12/20 06:36 AM
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Welcome to TRP on hard mode. LTR’s. Get used to the endless shit tests. Women do this to test your frame and strength. To test whether you’re an oak or not.
/r/askTRP11/12/20 06:19 AM
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It’s a test. Comfort or shit test, depending on how she says it. With my girlfriend it’s always a comfort test. Whether it’s a shit test or a comfort test, the answer is always the same. Just respond by kissing her right there.
/r/askTRP11/12/20 06:15 AM
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Girls do bruise really easily though. I slap my girlfriends ass even a bit hard, and she bruises the next day.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 07:02 AM
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There’s a lot of reasons. The main one is that being friends with a girl is almost solely only beneficial to her. Next to zero benefits derive on your end of things. But from you, she gets pools of validation, listening and attention from you. Basically she gets all the beta boyfriend benefits, and she gets to fuck chad after you drop her off at his house once you two are done “talking”. Don’t get me wrong, some girls are pretty chill to be around. But as a rule of thumb, do FWB or not at all.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 06:58 AM
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Yes
/r/askTRP10/12/20 04:13 AM
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Do something new and novel. Start writing, or playing music. Try to learn a language, practice every day for an hour, for a month and see how much you learn. Get out of your normal routine and do some new shit. Take up guitar, basketball or football. I wouldn't get a tattoo for the sake of becoming more adventurous. Only if you truly want one. When the borders open up, you should do some travelling. If you have the means to buy one, then I will say that buying a muscle car makes life more fun. I…
/r/askTRP10/12/20 03:35 AM
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Read The Alchemist
/r/askTRP10/12/20 03:25 AM
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"No worries, take care."
/r/askTRP10/12/20 03:23 AM
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​ Choose not to be harmed—and you won't feel harmed" — Marcus Aurelius You're conflating self respect with self sabotage. Why are you concerned with other people's respect? You cannot force people to respect you, you become a respectable man by doing respectable things and acting in a respectable way. And a component of that is having rock solid frame. What caring about trivial shit does in the long run, is it makes you look like a victim. There are people in life who try to get under your skin.…
/r/askTRP10/12/20 03:16 AM
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Sure. You might be telling yourself a story about how you have to finish college for x reason. Maybe you need to reframe that in your mind. Maybe you need to accept that you'll be ok if you don't finish college, and that you're alright with that outcome, maybe it's actually the one you want. Outcome independence isn't about being ambivalent about accomplishments though, quite the opposite actually. It's about not having a scarcity mentality and having abundance mentality. The universe is abundan…
/r/askTRP27/11/20 04:17 PM
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The way I understand it is this: Outcome independence is doing things without caring which way it goes. Doing things without a "goal" in mind (i.e. getting to fuck her). Which women can sniff out from a mile away. Good things happen, bad things happen, but you are a rock. The opposite of outcome independence is being forced/needy. You want things to free flow. Remove your expectations. Real world example: You're at a bar, you start with building rapport with this girl, little bit of teasing, ins…
/r/askTRP27/11/20 02:33 PM
2

You can't change the past. Neither can she. I don't know the full story, and no one else does either. she got back with her ex, while he was dating her friend, secretly on the side, breaking her friend's trust. To me, this sounds like normal girl behaviour. Like table-stakes women shit. Here's how I bet that it went: She was with John but she thought she could do better and broke up, but now her best friend Jessica is dating John, and now she wanted John back because "she had John first". Hyperg…
/r/askTRP13/11/20 10:16 PM
6

Shits tough right now man. But listen. It's only because you're in your bubble. Let's see some perspective here. You're a male, probably in North America, know about TRP, are educated enough to grow your own weed (saw your profile), own a computer and have your whole life ahead of you. That puts you ahead of 95% of the world. And 100% of women. The best thing you can be on earth is a Man. And guess what? You're a man. You won. There are some things you can't change. You have ADHD and you're unde…
/r/askTRP13/11/20 09:47 PM
8

Certain things are dealbreakers for people, and this might be one of them for you. But I have a perspective I think you should consider. In your case, it'd be different if she did this in this relationship. Seeing as though it was in a last relationship, before she knew you. Why should that matter to your current relationship? Character? Sure, but will you judge a person from a single action they have done? And even then, it's almost impossible to tell the entire truth anyway. There's no utility…
/r/askTRP13/11/20 09:37 PM
3

Wouldn't overthink it. Trust in your instincts and don't over-analyze this. You're the prize. Take it at face value, and say something like: "good idea, tomorrow works better — see you at 7."
/r/askTRP13/11/20 09:27 PM
9

Women forgive, but they never forget. Very surprised that this woman is still wanting to make it work with you. Your SMV must be pretty high. But damn dude, you broke her twice, and that's hard to regain that trust back. Like very hard. I can tell you know you fucked up, and I can tell you want this girl back a lot. I'll give you advice on what you want as your outcome — to end up with her (even though I'm not sure that is the best outcome here). Don't drink anymore. Cut that shit out starting t…
/r/askTRP02/09/20 02:35 PM
1

Those are good things to do. Keep doing them, but mix it up. u/ComplexProjection gave some sound advice about that. Women need some mystery/surprise in their life. They can't eat the same food every day, men can. Women "crave" things. A great book is called "the way of the superior man" that talks a bit more about the nuance of things like that.
/r/askTRP02/09/20 02:13 PM
40

She wants closure. In her mind, she isn't fully resolved in the relationship of what you two "could be". She's trying to solidify that you're a beta and she made the right decision. Do not give her this closure. This might be a smoothie of beta bait, validation, genuineness, breakup emotions, but mostly she is looking for closure.
/r/askTRP02/09/20 02:10 PM
3

The fact that she has never rejected sex in 2 years is a pretty good sign imo. I think you're probably a young buck. So here's a piece of advice. Women are not as horny as men. They don't have the same testosterone levels. Sometimes they just don't feel it. Maybe she's getting her period soon and has cramps or some shit. Who fucking knows with women. Nothing worse than her faking it too, which believe me, is worse. Try fucking a half wet complaining pussy. Not fun. She did you a favor by telling…
/r/askTRP02/09/20 01:33 PM
2

It sounds like she wasn't attracted to you. It also sounds like you had a "goal" in mind (getting up to her place). Which women can sniff out from a mile away. It didn't "just happen". Even reading your post, I'm feeling like you were a bit forced/needy. Let go of your inhibition. Try not to date these college girls with a "goal" in mind. Or to impress them. You don't want to do that. You want things to free flow. Start with building rapport- little bit of teasing, inside jokes, story telling, w…
/r/askTRP02/09/20 01:25 PM
24

Nah, you’re leading her. Here is the thing... with any woman, you don't know whether she is or isn't interested in you. And leading is the best way to find out. And if it goes wrong, and she’s not receptive, then the important thing is to recognize is, where you went wrong, then iterate and try again with a new woman. Main thing with dealing with ANY woman... is to lead. Boldness is a learned trait, and you can cultivate it. It comes with time. And if you’re not grasping it, that may be an impli…
/r/askTRP02/09/20 08:06 AM
6

H&M/Zara for basics, but there’s also some leftist modern bullshit sprinkled in there too. So tread lightly. Nordstrom rack has good prices, and good jeans too sometimes.
/r/askTRP30/08/20 07:34 AM
0

I think she is probably just talking too much, and agree that she shouldn’t have said that. Very confusing. Bitchy. But it is what it is. Whether she said it or not. Your fav sushi spot is closed, you go to your second fav. If you told the restaurant this is your 2nd fav spot, they wouldn’t think anything of it. If you show you don’t care then it shows you are not bothered by shit. You’re a rock. Nothing can hurt you.
/r/askTRP30/08/20 07:28 AM
15

Any man will always been a second choice to a better man. Are you Brad Pitt? Probably not. And even Brad would be a second choice to some women. Reframe how you think about this. You’re not a king, and second choice is not that bad. She’s fucking you tonight. Women will always be hypergamous. She’s always going to be willing to jump ship for a better ship.
/r/askTRP30/08/20 07:19 AM
2

Winners focus on winning Losers focus on winners That’s it. Crabs in a bucket. You find out who you’re real friends are once you get success in life.
/r/askTRP30/08/20 07:15 AM
20

Probably a weird variant of a shit test. Just move on from it. Nothing to think in to. Look at her actions, not her words. She’s not yours, it’s just your turn.
/r/askTRP30/08/20 07:13 AM
3

Girls sometimes hang with gay guys. This a normal thing.
/r/askTRP30/08/20 07:11 AM
2

The naked thing was out of place. Not plausible enough. Made you look stupid. Her delicate woman feelings are hurt and now you’re on the hook. No nudes for you. She’s literally crying right now bro. You’re a terrible person. Comfort failed. If she’s a good catch, you could say: “That came out wrong. Let’s meet tomorrow.” That’s it. Sure it’s bordering backtracking, but it’s also important to recognize when you fucked up, and not double down on being an autist. But this is a tough situation, not …
/r/askTRP30/08/20 07:05 AM
3

Airbnb bro. Just rent one for a couple days and play it off as you needed space from your parents as you’re searching for an apartment near the city. Or whatever backstory. It can still give her plausible deniability if you add a backstory that doesn’t involve you looking thirsty.
/r/askTRP30/08/20 06:56 AM
3

If there is attraction there, it doesn’t matter if you’re doing taxes, it’s fine, she’ll fuck you if she wants to. Lunch may have been a bit of a stretch. But you do you, it’s your life. Women do like to get to know a man before the cave. Just make sure lunch doesn’t turn into a friend date vibe. Escalate to your place after or hers.
/r/askTRP30/08/20 06:54 AM
22

Yeah that’s where I copped it from hahaha
/r/askTRP12/07/20 06:38 PM
206

Agree and amplify. This is just girl flirty banter. Back to the sidebar breh. Say “yea neither do I, that’s why I’m bringing my mom along”. Or some light low effort joke. This is basic pitch and catch conversation.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 05:42 PM
1

I think you’re complicating something really simple. Empathy is about balance, not about scarity. There’s enough to go around. There are times where offering empathic statements are the best move, but usually just listening, and giving her a hug is the best move. A wise man once said nothing at all. I see your point though, if you’re empathizing several hours a day, then you’re her therapist, not good.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 05:33 PM
2

Just say “hey {{ girl.first_name }} back. Then start the conversation. She’s reaching out because she’s a) interested in you. Or b) wants to hook you in with the orbiter net. Your job is to find out if your a or b to her.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 05:09 AM
36

Be a human, don’t overthink shit. You don’t have to cry with her, but you can empathize and say something like “oh shit, that must be really hard for you to go through that. What an asshole boss etc”. Pretty basic LTR textbook stuff. Just standard empathic statements (echoing the same things she’s complaining about). Show some understanding that she’s going through a mini crisis, and that you’re her rock. You don’t lose frame by doing that, you look stronger. Comfort tests. 80/20 alpha/beta.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 05:03 AM
2

It’s easier to play basketball when there’s a court nearby. It’s obviously easier to live in the main good areas of a city for 100’s of reasons. More options, closer in proximity to a larger pool of women. But nowadays modern transportation makes it incredibly easy to get around. I can drive my car from one side of town to the other in around 20 minutes. Crazy. If your living out in the sticks or the boonies it’s gonna be rough to get out and “slay” though. That’s going to be a big commute. Make…
/r/askTRP12/07/20 04:59 AM
3

Haha you’re different bro. Let me know how this one played out
/r/askTRP12/07/20 04:52 AM
5

Not much that you could have done here. ASD kicked in hard, especially since it was 11pm and there was no lead-up (i.e. you guys chillin beforehand). She definitely felt like she was a call girl, and didn’t want to look like a slut. Sounds like she’s actually into you though, the thing is there needs to be enough plausible deniability. In this case there wasn’t. That’s why she went walls up. You could’ve said: “let’s go grab tacos, I’m starving.” Then escalated to your place after for a drink/mo…
/r/askTRP12/07/20 04:44 AM
5

I can’t help read this question like “thoughts on buying this really nice car” Buy the car. Deep down you think you don’t “deserve” the car, that’s why you’re talking this way and posting this. As long as the car is sweet and submissive, then buy it. Lots of guys go through life like this. They drive a shotty beat up Toyota when they have more than enough for a Benz. They don’t think they deserve it. She seems like she has some qualities you find desireable. And you also seem like you’re a high …
/r/askTRP24/06/20 01:27 PM
1

10 years from now, will you still be shacking up with your parents? How about in 20 years? It doesn’t matter if they’re not happy about it. I’m assuming this is for cultural reasons, but in any case you need to put yourself first. Move out. There’s something in you that’s calling for freedom. Get out and find it. Sure, your parents might be mad at you for a month. Or a year. But soon they’ll visit you, and I think your relationship with them will grow stronger. You’re not put on earth to make yo…
/r/askTRP24/06/20 01:20 PM
1

Yes.
/r/askTRP18/06/20 05:19 PM
100

I think your question is rooted in thinking there is a point. Teleological thinking. Purpose driven thinking. There is no point. And that’s ok. Think about this: you can never become happy, you can only be happy. That’s true for everything you will experience in your life. There are only temporary states of mind. Glimpses. If you pay close attention, everything in life is this way. Every feeling, every thought, everything that has ever happened to you, has came and now has gone away. Yes girls w…
/r/askTRP17/06/20 06:23 AM
1

I don’t know your LTR, or you. But this rings a few bells. Had a buddy who had a girl like this. Constantly afraid of abandonment. Check out the book “walking on eggshells”. Read that and see if any of it rings a bell for you. She may be borderline.
/r/askTRP06/06/20 08:58 PM
2

Maybe those two are mutually exclusive. Maybe you can't do both right now. Heal first, then focus on your mission. But don't make women your mission. Women are masters at wearing men down. Capricious. And an LTR is TRP on Hard Mode. You left with your balls in tact as far as I'm concerned.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 09:15 PM
7

Most of the time, the jails we are in, are built in our own minds. Sounds like he built a jail in his, and kept everyone out. Not the alpha to aspire to be. Hero or not. Your ex will probably end up doing the same thing. But women do it in different ways. There's a lot to break down here. And it sounds like you're going through a lot too man. PTSD. Mother having covid and a stroke. Your uncle dying of covid in March. Massive breakup. 3 of these are on the list of the life change index stress sca…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 07:14 PM
24

Sure. I got involved with my ex because she was the most sought-after woman at the training facility for my sport. I brought her home the day I met her, and was amused to discover how many orbiters she had flying around the gym. She would show me guys I had just practiced with texting her, asking to hang out when I was spinning her and I liked having that over my athletic rivals. I was less amused to discover she was cheating on her long-distance LTR of 3 years when we first starting hooking up.…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 05:23 PM
28

Right man, wrong woman. Dodged a bullet my friend. Her clock is ticking and she wants security. To tie you down. Lots of red flags in your post. But I can see that you're a bit oblivious to them. It's all good man, breakups are tough, and getting out of one kind of makes you blind. You miss all the good things, and forget all the bad. For example, she wants to have full control over you and your finances, remotely before you're even engaged (not acceptable after either). Basically it sounds like…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 03:08 PM
2

I go by the rule of, if party a is asking party b out, then party a pays. This goes for buddies, friends, parents, girls, whatever. If she's redpilled and sweet, she'll offer to pay anyway. If she's a cunt she'll expect it. It's actually a great vetting test, to pay and see if she offers, even politely. If she insists (good sign), then you can just say something like "I'll let you get the ice cream later" or whatever. If it's an LTR, then of course the dynamic changes, and things should be split…
/r/askTRP28/05/20 02:31 PM
2

Tell her the same bad joke that she just told you.
/r/askTRP28/05/20 02:26 PM
27

asktrp is going so south lately. Think of this issue in perspective man.... 6 years ago you and this girl DIDN'T have a fling. You just knew her. Now she's messaging you about a government relief fund, and you're on asktrp trying to get alpha advice. Just deal with this situation. Who the fuck cares. Just message her back, "no I don't know about the FDAP". This is so funny to me, if someone messaged me after 6 years with that, I would just play it out because it's so funny.
/r/askTRP21/04/20 01:38 PM
7

Meditate, sleep, read something on your phone. Improve. Everyone is in the same situation as you right now. You're not unique. Be happy you're stuck with a girl you can fuck a lot instead of in a jail cell or some shit.
/r/askTRP21/04/20 01:30 PM
3

You may be cynical about life right now because everything feels like it's on your shoulders. It could be coming out in covert ways. And you've got a lot of anger built up. I think these problems are deeper than TRP, I would see a therapist or a psychologist. I have before, and it helped me battle some childhood shit, and now I'm over it. It helps.
/r/askTRP21/04/20 01:25 PM
1

Peter sounds like a orbiter who like to say the right things to earn beta points. If she's not getting comfort from you she'll go to someone else to find it. I wouldn't worry too much. Just proceed as you are, and sprinkle in some comfort here and there. 80/20 alpha/beta.
/r/askTRP21/04/20 01:13 PM
5

Don’t try to build a house on top of sand. That’s history you shouldn’t re-explore. I don’t see any way this will end well if you want to LTR her.
/r/askTRP21/04/20 12:37 AM
5

Yeah that throws me off. Lol it’s an insult. Whatever, don’t lose sleep over this man. Move on. Wasn’t worth getting your dick wet anyway. She’s more trouble than what she’s worth.
/r/askTRP10/04/20 06:48 AM
38

I wouldn’t have responded to her. Would’ve just left her on read. At most I would’ve said “put those tits on my dick”. Double down, but in a sexual way. This seems like disrespect what she said. But maybe it was a joke, and humour can be interpreted different ways sometimes. I don’t get how this could be serious disrespect, as it sounds like she was being a cheeky bitch (it came along with a tit pic).
/r/askTRP10/04/20 06:44 AM
14

Anything in STEM is good. Go with CS, gives you a lot of flexibility and pays well. Don't need to work from a desk in an office either. Lot's of remote companies out there. You can work remotely from Japan in the forest if you get with the right tech company.
/r/askTRP09/04/20 09:33 PM
7

She might have BPD if she is cutting and has irrational fear of abandonment. I would read "stop walking on eggshells" and see if any of that behaviour rings a bell to you.
/r/askTRP09/04/20 09:28 PM
6

It depends on the girl, I think. If it was my girl, it'd be simple. I just hug her, squeeze her, and say something like, "don't worry about those other girls, you're my only one" then kiss her forehead. She'd then proceed to tell me how it makes her feel, then I'd listen, and maybe FOG it and keep doing what I was doing. Call that beta if you want, but a little comfort in an LTR goes a long way. Sometimes LTR's just need to know that you're not going to get up and leave for some other bitch. Gir…
/r/askTRP08/04/20 11:51 PM
31

Looks like a comfort test to me... An LTR is a constant balance between comfort and dread. Since you're going over to other girls places and probably dreading her quite a bit, try and pass this with comfort. You're not "entering her frame" by doing this. You're being her rock. Comfort tests are arguably equally important as shit tests in LTR's. You're applying too much dread for this particular woman. There needs to be adequate amounts of both for it to be successful. A balance 80/20 alpha/beta …
/r/askTRP08/04/20 08:47 PM
5

This is a tough one. So the thing is, she kept being flakey with you about timings (typical women behaviour — nbd) but then you ended up actually looking flakey because you bailed on her and fell into her frame. I dunno. I disagree with the whole facetime date, but she set it up so she's probably trying to screen you for attraction. But the thing is, there's no attraction in that... unless you're chad — there's just orbiting. Especially if it turns into texting/video calling every other day. The…
/r/askTRP08/04/20 08:37 PM
18

Sounds like this is a concern with your self esteem. Your inhibition is amplified around others, you feel judged and inferior. You need to realize that you are a human, and everyone else you interact with are humans. We all have the same goals, we all eat, we all cry, we all shit, we all want more money, peace, to feel accepted. You're just another human in a room of humans. Socialize with the humans and lower your inhibition- there's nothing to lose. You are thinking too much about what is righ…
/r/askTRP08/04/20 05:35 PM
1

I think you're overthinking this. The goal of tinder should be to get off tinder as soon as possible. To arrange a meet, in person. High SMV helps, and if you do cool shit, in cool places, then cool — use those photos. But if you fake it, when you're not actually wealthy, for the purpose of appearing wealthy, it will shine through in your personality. And sooner or later it'll reveal itself that you're a fraud. If you're doing it for an easy lay, I think most women would get provider vibes, and …
/r/askTRP08/04/20 04:34 PM
19

Some women want more beta than alpha. Nothing you can do about it. She was pushing an LTR with you, you didn't concede, so she left. If you were higher SMV, she probably would've kept fucking you. But it looks like this was actually a shit test, turned real life test. So you both set your boundary on what you will/won't tolerate and now she got with someone who has weak boundaries. It could also be that her love language is "receiving gifts" and yours is "physical touch" or something like that. …
/r/askTRP08/04/20 04:21 PM
19

Usually increased social status. Remember: men desire freedom, women desire access. When women see a free man, they want access. It could be a combination of Arts too. Maybe women enjoy the arts (music) more than men do. It also just looks good when you're good at something, no matter what it is. It doesn't matter if you don't think it's "simply status", this goes against your intuition. Correlation doesn't equal causation though. That doesn't mean music = social status 100% of the time... but i…
/r/askTRP08/04/20 04:08 PM
9

Great answer.
/r/askTRP22/03/20 08:46 PM
1

No quick magic pill you can take for being charismatic and interesting. Read “How to win friends and influence people” to start with. “The like switch” is also a good start. Those books are both basic fundamentals. It all begins with internal frame though- that comes with time. Charisma on Command has a few good videos on YouTube.
/r/askTRP16/03/20 06:35 AM
22

Focus on you. Put yourself first, because nobody else will. Women will come and women will go. But you do you, and women will follow. Despite what people might think or say. Putting yourself first is one of the most selfless things you can do. Because you’re taking care of your own well being, so you naturally will show up better in the world, each and every day. Others will benefit because of this. Try not to self sabotage the whole effort with addiction (alcohol, drugs, porn) and pointless act…
/r/askTRP14/03/20 05:52 PM
3

/thread Now you’re on the internet posting questions and regretting it. Should’ve jumped outta line and chatted her up. Not a question of whether she was “worth it or not”. You have to reframe that.
/r/askTRP14/03/20 07:37 AM
4

This is your boundary that you laid down. She’s now testing your frame by giving you their responses to see if you’ll break. Best thing to do is watch her actions. Keep to your boundary, and watch if she crosses it. Billy beta would’ve said “oh then if they said they want that then I guess it’s ok”. She’s testing if you’ll keep to your boundary or not. She could rent to anyone and I’m sure she probably doesn’t give a shit about who. My bet is it’s a shit test to see if you’ll cave.
/r/askTRP11/03/20 06:44 AM
-3

I disagree, I think this is sound, good advice. The best way to learn to chop a tree down is to sharpen an axe and go out to the woods, find a tree and try to chop it down. You can read 100 books on how to chop a tree down, but most of them are going to say the same thing. Reading one book would suffice. The rest of the job is action. This guy is pulling 145K USD a year, a few hundred dollars on some trades isn’t gonna kill him. Try it. See what happens. Then go back to the library once you fail…
/r/askTRP10/03/20 06:58 AM
-3

I would download robinhood.com and start playing around with a few stocks. Lose a couple hundred, gain a couple hundred. Get your feet wet, learn to buy and sell. If there’s a term you don’t understand, then google it. That’s how I got into it. No formal training, just started trading a few penny stocks. Went from $50 to $700 in 2 weeks. Lost it all being an idiot, but that was my education. Surprisingly stocktwits.com is a very fun/lighthearted way to get going. Live feeds of guys who are day t…
/r/askTRP10/03/20 05:49 AM
3

Whisper in her ear as your fucking her. She’ll tell you the truth and it’ll turn her on. I wouldn’t approach it like a decision about which tacos you’re ordering. Keep it sexual, bring it up during sex.
/r/askTRP10/03/20 05:44 AM
4

Correct answer. Would’ve caught her off guard if you actually did open the door. Right move would’ve been “doing” instead of “talking”. After she said her sassy comfort test you could’ve said, “yeah, you’re right.” Then walked her to her car silently and opened her door then smiled at her. Would’ve been the charming, mysterious, and unexpected thing to do in this circumstance. Actions over words. Just when she thinks she had you figured out you gotta flip the script. Sometimes it’s the beta thin…
/r/askTRP24/02/20 07:32 AM
1

This is tough. On one hand you’ve got a ready and willing HB10 waiting overseas for you in a city of glitz and glamour. On the other hand you’ve got a solid 4 week fling with a (probably) sweeter girl, that you enjoy the company of a bit more too. It’s hard. There’s something that feels wrong to you about going to Singapore and fucking this HB10. If there wasn’t then you’d never write a post about it. Also there’s the off-chance your fling will find out too (instagram, friend, Murphy’s law). But…
/r/askTRP21/02/20 08:27 AM
155

I used to bust in a minute or less. I found the one thing that helped me, is keeping my excitement at a 7 instead of a 9 or 10. I did that by practicing breathing slowly. I literally counted my inhales and exhales in my head every time I had sex. In for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4. The reason your ejaculating quickly is because you’re too excited. Keep your excitement low by keeping your breathing and heart rate under control. First time I did this I lasted 15 minutes. Second time, it w…
/r/askTRP30/12/19 06:29 PM
1

Just reading these comments, some of you fucker’s are kinging shit tests. I need to brush up.
/r/askTRP30/12/19 06:07 PM
5

This is called “weaving”. Women try to subtly, but mystically weave themselves into your life. Next she’ll want to meet your family, suddenly she’s friends with your sister now, next she’s bringing you and your buddies over pizza after ball. She’s getting herself closer to you and your network. But also bringing you closer to hers. Weaving. If you go to the family event in her mind she is one step closer to LTR status with you.
/r/askTRP30/12/19 06:00 PM
4

When this happens, just calmly, without hesitation, just reiterate your point more clearly. Some people like to box others in, they like to separate them into black or white. For example if you said something like ”social media is a double edged sword.” And so and so said: “oh so you think social media is bad then hey?” You can calmly but strongly say, ”I think there there are social advantages to using it sparingly, but it also has a lot of downfalls when used in an excessive way. It all depend…
/r/askTRP30/12/19 05:53 PM
22

Hahahaha This is the shittiest of shit tests out there. Next she’ll flip it on you, to see if your dreaming of other girls too. Just handle as a normal shit test. It’s probably a good sign that she felt bad about it to tell you. I would say that’s kind of cute. A sign she’s truthful even about small things that you would never normally find out about. This is a good time for you to be a rock. Hold frame, just treat it like the shit test it is, and move on with your day. Nothing you can do or say…
/r/askTRP30/12/19 05:45 PM
6

She won’t respect you any more or less if you stay the night. Honestly it seems like the best idea to stay because depending on the context she might think something happened before she slept. Don’t want to wake up to any rape allegations. I’d stay.
/r/askTRP22/12/19 12:04 PM
1

Here’s what I mean by ‘making herself available’: By her liking a photo of him, she’s putting herself out there in a plausible non-commital way so he can start a conversation and pursue her. She’s doing it in this low risk method so she does not risk rejection from him, but she’s also not putting herself out there to look desperate either. Women have options, she can get dick anywhere. She’s just throwing out some nets Sunday morning to see who’s going to bite. Hunting for alpha fish. Unless he …
/r/askTRP22/12/19 11:44 AM
1

In my experience women communicate very covertly. If she wasn’t interested in him at all, liking any story he posted would be pretty well out of the question, unless she’s fishing for orbiters as I said above. Liking a photo of him would be about as overt as she’s probably going to get to “make herself available”, and that’s definitely an IOI.
/r/askTRP22/12/19 05:01 AM
20

Her disrespect should have been ignored and ghosted from that moment. You teach people directly how to treat you. What she did was wrong but it doesn’t make you returning that, any more right. It’s just a fucked up woman manipulation game. Eye for an eye, and the world goes blind. Don’t stoop to others levels because they’re assholes. Doesn’t mean you gotta be the same thing. Especially since this was a plate man, you gotta ghost this bitch.
/r/askTRP21/12/19 06:20 PM
14

Yeah I think you’re onto something about the soul thing. Low investment, casual pitch and catch deal. I like to reverse engineer the situation. For example: “would she have liked it if she wasn’t interested or wanted me to pursue her?” The answer is emphatically no.
/r/askTRP21/12/19 06:17 PM
68

Those ones might be trying to hook and sinker you with the orbiter net. Not sure the context though, sometimes it’s just bad timing with women. It’s a obviously more nuanced. Usually a woman replying to stories is an IOI, or an invitation to start a conversation or open her. Maybe next time say something like “beautiful out here, you free this afternoon for coffee?” Then see what the response is.
/r/askTRP21/12/19 06:11 PM
23

Be unphased. You’re an oak tree and no wind can blow you over. You’re used to failure. “No worries” is the correct response. Don’t fall into her frame. The caring vs. pushover is just thoughts blowing about in your mind. No such thing is actually happening in reality. These are just things your thinking about. Your frame can be anything... so it’s not caring or pushover. Now it’s unphased.
/r/askTRP21/12/19 06:05 PM
3

Sounds like you’ve answered your own question. Your actions aren’t aligning with your intentions and desires. You want to talk to girls in real life, but your conflicted about this tinder thing for some social conditioned reason. If you prefer approaching women in real life, then do that. Theres a reason you feel disinterested- when you have no desire or want to do something, it feels like a chore. You’re conflicted because it’s not what you want. Obviously texting them is less fearful then appr…
/r/askTRP13/12/19 02:59 PM
1

Lift, eat, sleep. A lot. In that order. Every single day.
/r/askTRP12/12/19 02:50 AM
1

Cute story. She probably likes you now. Lock her down like you locked that door.
/r/askTRP12/12/19 02:44 AM
3

You're thinking too far into this. Be decisive. Don't ask her when she's free. Tell her when you're going to get with her. You can say something like: "I'll pick you up on Friday at 7pm." She can counter with: "oh nooooo friday doesn't work for me bla bla excuse". Then if she's half interested she'll make herself available on another day: "but saturday night does". It's always better to be decisive about your decision, even if you get shot down. Let her be flakey. Rather than putting the ball in…
/r/askTRP12/12/19 02:29 AM
1

Never heard of a girl doing anal before normal sex. Actually seems a bit off to me after reading it. Usually it's the other way around. Maybe I'm the odd one out here, but I've never fucking heard of that. BJ before sex is totally normal though.
/r/askTRP12/12/19 02:17 AM
2

Lying by Sam Harris is a very short insightful book about these concepts.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/19 04:18 PM
1

The best height is the one you have. 4' is a great height. Mostly because you can't change it. There are hundreds of variables that play a role in mate selection. All of us have Uncontrollable variables. You can't control them. Height is fixed, no father figure is fixed, your shitty past is fixed. But the present moment, and who you show up as, that's not fixed. Focus on what you can change. Focus on your mind, your body, your relationships with friends. Read and get smart. Start programming. Le…
/r/askTRP30/10/19 02:54 AM
2

Yeah you could do that. She’ll probably want something from you to open at her parents house. Especially if she’s opening all gifts there. It might put you in an awkward place if you don’t have a gift that she can open. Get her a card and maybe something ~$50 that she’ll like... candles, some feminine shit. Anthropologie is good for that kind of stuff. My LTR loves that store. Depending on what your girl is into obviously. Then take the other $30 and pursue your plan of a beach day to celebrate …
/r/askTRP26/09/19 04:51 PM
2

Hmm. What’s your budget?
/r/askTRP26/09/19 04:42 PM
2

Is it a birthday gift? Or just a random gift? Depends what she likes. If she appreciates physical things or experiences. For my LTR, she’d rather me take her somewhere for a night or two or some experience rather than a dumb necklace. I’d also rather that as well. Really depends on the occasion.
/r/askTRP26/09/19 04:36 PM
1

Respond and schedule something else down the road. Ignoring makes you look butthurt in this case. I like the “wear this” attitude, but now she’s got you in a bit of a double bind because you’re invested now in this plan. I would hold frame and reschedule another time. Depends though, more context is needed. Is this a rando, or someone that you’re into?
/r/askTRP26/09/19 04:32 PM
41

The problem with stating the obvious is you are telling her what is going to happen. Instead of just letting it happen. You see, plausible deniability is a woman's best disguise. If she agreed to go to your place after you blatantly told her you two were going to have sex, she would look like a slut to herself, you and her friends/social circle in her mind. She doesn't want to give it up under too little guise for fear of this. It's ENGRAINED in women to be like this. Not going to change. What y…
/r/askTRP26/09/19 01:32 PM
1

A wise man once said nothing at all
/r/askTRP25/09/19 06:16 PM
8

Here’s some quick and dirty tips: Be respectful, kind, charismatic, bold. Speak up. Make eye contact. Don’t shy away from her father, speak to him man to man. On the same level. He may become a mentor to you. Try to steer conversations away from politics, religion or topics of general disagreement. Talk about life, travel, ideas, future. In terms of shit tests, I’m sure it’ll be things like: “what do you do, how did you meet our daughter, what are you doing with your life.” i.e. you good enough …
/r/askTRP25/09/19 05:17 PM
5

A woman’s relationship with her father is a big tell of her emotional stability and availability for another man sexually and romantically in life. This might sound fruedian, but she may have some emotional issues related to detachment with men. It sounds like as a younger girl she would detach from her dad and she felt helpless to feel safe with him. A similar narrative seems like it’s playing out. She gets detached when you “act like her father”... or do things that emotionally numb her. Might…
/r/askTRP25/09/19 02:51 PM
3

Shoot your shot. She'll make her self available for you if she's DTF. Set a time up and see what she says. You already have a foot in the door with her.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 01:52 AM
2

Text only for logistics.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 01:49 AM
8

Don't lose any sleep over this mate. Your fuckbuddy flaked on eating food with you. Eat your dinner with your buddy, go for a lift and get busy worrying about something that actually matters.
/r/askTRP25/09/19 01:47 AM
17

I would say your second list (of red flags/bad experiences) is mostly just normal women/LTR shit. Ups and downs. The only things on that list I would say are really red flags are not adding you on social media, that's just kinda fucked. And the progress, or lack of, in the relationship with her getting more affectionate. The green flags outweigh the red flags by a long shot. Most of all I get the sense that there's no "fire" between both of you. There's no chemistry. Especially on her end. No ti…
/r/askTRP25/09/19 01:44 AM
2

It's one thing to say that about his current girlfriend. It's another about his ex girlfriend of months/years ago. Buddy seems like he's still attached at the hip to his past self and anything attached to him. I'm sure he would also get offended if you said his favorite pizza spot sucked. Women are sensitive children that get upset when they have a bad dream, and anything targeted at them is a massive deal and you're an asshole/enemy if they feel that way. Your friend is acting like a woman. How…
/r/askTRP24/09/19 02:49 AM
5

The problem is, you're escalating over texting. Attraction can't be built over texting. The goal of tinder should be to get off tinder as soon as possible. To arrange a meet, in person.
/r/askTRP24/09/19 02:41 AM
3

No, this is a red herring. Women just become attached after they have sex with you. It's called pair-bonding.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 02:53 AM
19

"Choose not to be harmed—and you won't feel harmed" — Marcus Aurelius Don't enter this bitch's frame man. Some random says you got a small dick and you're going to let it ruin your week? Just put this situation in context. It seems like you've been struggling with some shit man, but don't let this be another thing to tear you down. Do something for yourself (work out, play basketball, read) and get this off your mind. Here's my advice: This is shit test 101. Agree and amplify, or tease her — you…
/r/askTRP17/09/19 02:04 AM
2

You can pretty well cancel out the situation where she was on her period. Assuming that's authentic and honest. The second situation could be a comfort test and in that case just escalate as normal and sprinkle in some comfort here and there. Girls want a way to feel free with you (not feel judged). They don't usually want to feel used, or like a cum dumpster, which she might be feeling like now by the sounds of it.
/r/askTRP13/09/19 03:16 AM
6

I think you’re overthinking this. Judging by your other responses, you need to take a step back and just listen to the advice. This is all wayyy too abstract for this circumstance. See the forest through the trees.
/r/askTRP12/09/19 05:17 AM
2

When a woman is mad at you or wants you to rectify something you did wrong, it's because she's having trouble trusting you again. You shouldn't be running into this issue with plates (too much drama), and TRP doesn't fare well with LTR advice, so I'll do my best to advise you here. You can also ask in MRP. You fucked up in her eyes, and despite you thinking you changed/remedied the mistake, she's can still be hurt about it. She may have trouble letting it go for a long time. Women never forget. …
/r/askTRP12/09/19 12:53 AM
13

Next time you bump into her, here's how to approach her. "Hi, I'm Rique" Then just let the conversation flow. Don't overthink it. She's not god. She's a girl in your class. Ask her out, see what happens.
/r/askTRP12/09/19 12:26 AM
28

Sounds like you're surrounded by some sweet girls who like you. Don't complain about it, bask in it. And reward (as necessary) with attention to the girls you like.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 02:25 AM
3

This is a really shitty situation to be in. I feel for you right now bro. You're sort of at the mercy of anything she wants to do. And she's a crazy person. So that's fucking shitty. Think of it this way though. Has she done anything yet? By the looks of your post, probably not. And if she does do anything, it will have to be authored by her... which will socially look terrible on her. Girls hate looking socially terrible. I think she's bluffing as a control tactic. I wouldn't provoke this kind …
/r/askTRP10/09/19 02:21 AM
9

"No worries, take care." Then move on. Plates spin, then they break.. don't be a bumbling beta. Abundance mentality. Be cool and fade away.
/r/askTRP10/09/19 02:12 AM
6

Ignore little bitches like this. Keep your cool. Hold frame. You never know the context, the white knight could have been her bf, could have been her brother. Who knows? Some club thot is not worth this drama. I remember a few years ago I was walking downtown on my way to the gym. Headphones in. And out of no where this drunk homeless guy comes up and pushes me. I didn't see it coming because he came up behind me. I stumble and almost trip and fall, and I stare back at him. It's 5pm so the sidew…
/r/askTRP09/09/19 02:29 AM
5

Solid man. Keep it up. If you don't have genes on your side, you may have other positives that are working for you. If you're not a 9 in looks, you can do things to improve your SMV like haircuts, dressing well, charisma... you get the picture.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 06:31 AM
6

These are all excuses. I don't care if they are valid or true— my suggestions are just that... suggestions. Do similar things that fit in the context of what your situation is. You, as a man, can have genuine interest and open a woman through your masculinity. Ask a girl that you like out for coffee. Simple.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 06:30 AM
14

It sounds like your CNS is drained. If you're always lifting heavy, always pushing yourself, then when the hardest workout day of the week comes along, your brain doesn't want to push any more. Give yourself a week off if that's the case — let your body rest. Or it could be that you don't have enough energy to get through your workouts. Try eating two bananas 2 hours before you workout so you have some carbs in you and don't feel gassed after a few reps.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 01:13 AM
3

Get ahead on your midterms and start studying for finals. Try to study at least 20-60 minutes a day. Do not wait until midterms or finals to study or read the textbook. Your brain consolidates information much better when it's absorbed over time. Meaning that reading/studying for 20 minutes a day, over the course of 2 months, is better than reading for 8 hours a day for 5 days. You won't absorb as much in the 8 hours. Long term retention is what you're after. Get good sleeps... 7-9 hours. Try to…
/r/askTRP04/09/19 01:11 AM
15

Walk up to them and introduce yourself. "Hi, I'm Joe." Then just let the conversation flow. Make eye contact, and judge using IOI's. If she smiles then approach her. If you've seen her a few times before in classes you'll build rapport and IOI's will be pretty evident at that point. Approach women that you find attractive and ask them to study. Usually women in college/university don't have their guard up as much. Approaching becomes more "plausible" as they can think they "were just studying". …
/r/askTRP04/09/19 12:56 AM
6

This will turn into you automatically becoming her boyfriend (in her mind).
/r/askTRP03/09/19 01:05 PM
1

In your case, it'd be different if you cheated in this relationship. Seeing as though it was in a last relationship I see it as no different then if you kissed/had sex with the woman in your last relationship. Would that matter to your current relationship? No. And is it's almost impossible to tell the entire truth anyway. There's no utility in that. There's worse things you've done in your life than sending nudes to some internet bot. Should you tell your current LTR of all the mistakes you've …
/r/askTRP28/08/19 03:09 AM
2

This gets into the moral domain of life more than anything for me — "is it wrong to lie?". It is wrong to lie— there's almost always a truth worth telling. Answering your question though, it is "ideal" to deny it from a utilitarian perspective, I think it's going to give you a lot of hassle if you don't deny it (might even break the LTR up).
/r/askTRP28/08/19 02:37 AM
1

Sure, you don't want to emit the energy. Agreed on that point. My main point is that in the end, if you genuinely do like this girl... showing interest in her (if she's not friendzoning you) is a masculine thing to do and the only way that she'll actually know you're into her. When your courting women, you do have to show your interested, hit on her, build rapport, escalating with touching etc... (and that does in turn, validate her to some extent). There's no way around it.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 02:28 AM
-5

I would follow your gut on this. No one knows except for you. On paper there's some red flags, but there could be many green ones that you're not listing. I would just stick 100% with your gut and your intuition.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 02:24 AM
5

Leave the past in the past. It would not benefit a long term relationship. Even hypothetically if it DID benefit the relationship, you still should err on the side of not bringing the past up too much. Everyone makes mistakes. Become a better man and stop drowning in something you did 3 years ago. Forgive yourself and let go of it brother.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 02:22 AM
17

The women that want to lock you down don't have options. It's analogous to a beta wanting to lock down the CC riding wall-hitting bitch that sometimes gives him the time of day.
/r/askTRP28/08/19 02:19 AM
1

I understand you've had experiences that shaped the way you're averted to give validation to women. In general it's not a good mating strategy. But one thing about validation you should know, is it's not all about "her perception" of validation. It's equally about yours. Illustrated with this example: Imagine a guy stalking a girl, looking at all her pictures, spying on her in his spare time, just total creep stuff... She doesn't know about any of this, so all is well, totally normal and no vali…
/r/askTRP26/08/19 01:05 AM
6

Comfort tests aren't good things or bad things. They're just things women do to get their needs met. They are as important to pass as shit tests are. LTRs need some comfort and care, the way women get that is to get you to "reassure her" about one thing or another that she feels insecure about so she can feel safe/secure/warm. If it is a comfort test, (BIG IF)... the correct response is something witty, charming and elusive. Something like "I like you in real life more than instagram. Let's get …
/r/askTRP23/08/19 03:52 AM
7

This is either a shit test or a comfort test, depending on how she said it. Was it over messaging or in person?
/r/askTRP23/08/19 02:52 AM
19

4-5 messages per day for an LTR is totally normal. Wouldn't overthink it. That's not a lot of messages at all if you're dating for a few months/years. Do you live in the same city?
/r/askTRP23/08/19 02:50 AM
4

Yeah it's clear she was using you as her orbiter for help with her work. Then when you put your foot down, she got butthurt about it. Just move on, don't try and understand the behaviour of a child. Embrace the child, laugh and see the child for what she is. She's texting you now to save face and check if "does he still love me after I was being a bitch?".
/r/askTRP23/08/19 02:48 AM
2

Don't call her — just see if she shows up. I think you're reading into this too much. It's been only a few hours, and your conclusions are just your insecure thoughts about the situation. (Am I too direct? Did I scare her away? Is there another guy in the picture? Should I call her and chase her?). These things aren't actually happening in reality, they're simply thoughts in your mind. Let those thoughts go, brother. Abundance mentality. Go do what you were going to do anyway tonight at 8pm. If …
/r/askTRP23/08/19 02:44 AM
16

What's your question?
/r/askTRP21/08/19 02:18 AM
7

It sounds like you're already becoming aware of your mom's attachments to you, but as soon as you can you should distance yourself from your mother. A man can only truly evolve when he detaches from his mothers emotions.
/r/askTRP21/08/19 02:15 AM
22

I can’t think of why she chose him over me. You just said it: "This guy was a tall 6’4, pretty muscular, white male, typical chad". It sounds like the dude is a natural alpha and she thinks she just hit the lotto. How do you beat chad? You don't beat Chad. Women are the choosers, that's the foundation of hypergamy.
/r/askTRP19/08/19 02:32 AM
15

If that's "naturally you" then just stick with that. I'm a calm guy myself, and don't tend to be over the top or attention seeking. If you try and fabricate a front, people will see right through it, and you'll look out of place. Just be in your calm frame, and talk with people. The action is only timid if you're timid. If James Bond was "calm and talked to some people" at a party, would he be timid about it? I hate to pull out the James Bond example, but it illustrates things well. It's about y…
/r/askTRP19/08/19 02:30 AM
1

If your methods seem to work, then that's definitely the exception and not the rule. If it's not broke, don't fix it. If you're seeing success this way, then keep at it. You could just be a very respectable dude, and that's the reason she's listening to you/respecting you. Not because of what you're saying.
/r/askTRP19/08/19 01:27 AM
18

There's a lot of nuance in "boundary setting". Essentially you need to dismiss or ignore bad behavior, and reward good behavior. Read Betas don't get to set boundaries
/r/askTRP19/08/19 01:05 AM
5

There are hundreds of variables that play a role in mate selection. I’ve listed some of the more common ones for each gender for brevity. Of course, facial symmetry, height, shoulder/waist (v taper) plays a role as well on women’s partner choices.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 10:36 PM
5

Mostly evolutionary psychology textbooks from university. Those are expensive and not worth the trouble in reading. “The origin of species” is an important book, it’s dry and difficult to read at times but the content is very good. “The selfish gene” is also a good place to start for background on natural selection.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 02:22 PM
2

Nothing to lose. Just hit her up and see what happens. Lots of potential "maybe's" in life are lost because one person didn't call. Businesses not started, sex not had, countries not visited. It pays to be the first to smile when you walk past someone else. Don't overthink life, just live MrYeahright
/r/askTRP07/08/19 07:45 AM
30

Evolution. Women select men based upon traits that show he can protect & provide for her & her offspring. She'll test him to see if he is a strong enough male to handle her- and put her in her place. If he's not strong enough to handle her, then how can he protect her? She'll find a new man if he's weak- hence hypergamy. Traits women look for: ambition, drive, wit, charm, social standing, SMV, financial standing, physical fitness, strong frame, sensitive, reliable, affluence. You get the picture…
/r/askTRP07/08/19 07:43 AM
12

Yea she needs to screen you a bit more. It's likely one of two things. She doesn't see your SMV as high enough and needs to see more of you at the gym or she is looking for an orbiter. I think it's the first one. You just gotta keep seeing her at the gym a few more times, and ask her out in person if you can. Build some attraction... if it was a cold approach she might have really low investment at this point as you said.
/r/askTRP07/08/19 07:37 AM
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When a girl says you frustrate her, that means she's invested. If she said it in a playful coy way, then she's definitely invested. I'd say it's a good sign that she mentions that you don't text much. Actions > Words as you said. The fact that she mentioned it and didn't put a negative spin to it, means she's not used to it and she likes chasing you.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 04:43 AM
2

Probably just fog it. Which may actually work for you in this case too.
/r/askTRP19/07/19 07:37 AM
22

Don't worry about others eye contact, worry about your own. Make strong eye contact with everyone, even if they aren't matching that. Never break eye contact with her until she does first. Stare into her soul like you're going to steal it and sell it to the red pill.
/r/askTRP19/07/19 06:24 AM
2

I'm not a plate spinner myself. So it's up to you how you want to play it. It looks to me like she's on/near her period and wanting some comfort from you. Girls are sensitive little things with feelings. But she's a plate, if you play into her little charade then you watch how quick she'll hold the cards. Spin and watch it break eventually though. If it were an LTR I'd handle it differently. Question. Is the play interested in being a plate?
/r/askTRP19/07/19 06:16 AM
5

She's already into you. But probably doesn't want to give her phone number because if you're not from here, she's wasting her time. She's also screening you very obviously: "where are you from", "what do you do". These are just basic shit tests, search the main sub. Just set up a meet as soon as you can. Say "earth, and I own my own business" (or whatever you do). Let's meet up tomorrow at 7, I know a good bar".
/r/askTRP19/07/19 06:08 AM
2

I think you're reading too close to the lines of what I was trying to get at. For a good reason though, maybe my language was too definitive/conclusive. Reading it now from last night, I was a few glasses of wine in at 3:00am and it shows. I agree with your points, as mine don't hold up well to the reductio ad absurdum you've challenged them with. The sentiment of what I'm saying is that generally, as a man, it's your job to lead any interaction to the way you want it to go, and women will gener…
/r/askTRP19/07/19 12:17 AM
9

Choose not to be harmed—and you won't feel harmed" — Marcus Aurelius You are acting like a victim. Why are you concerned with other's respect? You cannot force people to respect you, you become a respectable man by doing respectable things and acting in a respectable way. And a component of that is having rock solid frame. There are people in life who try to get under your skin. It's your decision to let them. Laugh it off with them. Stop taking it all so seriously, live and if other people want…
/r/askTRP18/07/19 08:05 AM
28

A feminine women won't often lead or initiate as often as you would want. Women aren't going to initiate sex with you. It's your job as a man to set that up. They'll make opportunities for you to "open" them (conversation, smiles, touching; body language). You can't expect her to pursue you, or initiate contact. That's not what she'll ever do. She will only make herself available to be 'received'. The fact that she initiates regularly is a green flag. Sexual attraction is best characterized as a…
/r/askTRP18/07/19 07:13 AM
8

Is this the same girl who keeps doing this? She sounds neurotic. Ask her why she put a “d” in “an”
/r/askTRP18/07/19 04:13 AM
7

Sounds like she's into you, but doesn't want to look like a slut (cheating on her boyfriend). It's an ASD thing. Guy sounds totally oblivious to all this- so it's your call on how to proceed. Doesn't seem like she's using you for attention- seems like she's proding for your attention. Seems like she wants a no-strings-attached setup but wants you to make it happen. Keep pursuing her but turn up the plausible deniability to a 10. Like "oh we're just watching a movie", and "don't worry, friends ca…
/r/askTRP18/07/19 03:55 AM
8

She's testing your frame man. This is shit test 101. Agree and amplify, or squeeze her and spin her around until she screams to stop. If you can get her giggling and in her feminine, 9/10 she'll cut this behaviour out. You could've answered something witty, might've escalated to some flirting, might've not. Pressure flip would've worked perfect here. Or Agree and amplify. Just treat her like the child she is. Laugh it off, smack her on the ass. A woman in her feminine will ALWAYS test your bound…
/r/askTRP18/07/19 03:51 AM
9

There's too little information here to tell. Is she into you? Is the boyfriend a FWB? Context is needed here. Not going to go into the morality of it— let the woman choose. Just be prepared for pushback once the boyfriend finds out.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 03:41 AM
17

Try to start conversations without a "goal" in mind. Just for the sake of chatting. Small talk first, then just speak what comes to mind- even if it's silly. What this does is it lowers your inhibition. Usually it's amplified in social circumstances, you feel judged and inferior. Wanting to appear a certain way, or not appear another way. A book that helped me with this was "The Charisma Myth", "The Six Pillars of Self Esteem" and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" Become interested in ot…
/r/askTRP18/07/19 03:38 AM
1

You're welcome. Rare to see a man on here who actually takes the advice and doesn't question it. Respect to you. Genuinely interested to know how this goes. So post an update or FR.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 02:41 AM
2

How tall are you?
/r/askTRP18/07/19 02:37 AM
2

The point is, you don't know whether she is or isn't interested in you. It comes with time man. Boldness is a learned trait, and you can cultivate it. It may be an implicit fear or rejection- or maybe a fear of success. u/morescoobysnacks gave you some good advice on being bold up there. Take your shot. be fun, outcome independent, and down for leading her. The important thing is to recognize it, where you went wrong, then iterate and try again with a new woman. Main thing with dealing with ANY …
/r/askTRP18/07/19 02:36 AM
1

Voicemail bro. Then she calls you back and the balls in your court, she’s chasing you. The reason I say to call her and ask her out is because it's bold, it's forward and it puts her on the spot to make a decision right then and there. No room to flake.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 02:25 AM
2

I actually thought this was funny — depending on who OP is, he could've pulled it off in a smooth way. Especially if it was call-back humor to something they chatted about at whole foods previously.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 02:17 AM
2

Call/text and be like "Hey Audrey back from your trip? Free tonight at 7?" Good way to gauge her interest. Seems like she was into you at whole foods anyway. Don't "wait for her to hit you up with plans". She won't. Women rarely initiate, even when you've left it open like that. Just call the girl to meet up. If she's interested then she'll arrange a time or suggest a different one. You'll see right there if she is interested. You could wait til tomorrow and then hit her up. Women act in the mom…
/r/askTRP18/07/19 02:10 AM
3

Your obsessing over this one woman, who is or isn't interested in you. One way to find out. Set up a meet and escalate. Women will never lead. They'll rarely initiate, and resent you if they have to. So get used to always setting up the dates, making conversation, approaching her etc. She may seem disinterested or ambivalent, but you have to take always take that role.
/r/askTRP18/07/19 02:02 AM
1

You need to realize that you are a human, and everyone else you interact with are humans. We all have the same goals, we all eat, we all cry, we all shit, we all want success. You're just another human in a room of humans. Sadness is a human emotion, just as happiness. Get over yourself. Be grateful you're in a position to be even complaining about this shit. I don't recommend doing it constantly, or when it's unwarranted. I cried so hard the other day, for like an hour. I felt great. I don't ev…
/r/askTRP18/07/19 01:54 AM
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I'd say if it happens a lot, it's an IOI. Perhaps pre-selection. It's probably not a shit test... but it might be a polite/casual conversational topic. It's all context dependent. You could always test it out and ask these girls "out for coffee" and see how it plays out.
/r/askTRP17/07/19 06:52 AM
9

Man. You're making this girl look like a slut to herself and to you. Don't talk about sex. It kills attraction because it amplifies ASD. Meet up & escalate. Also don't escalate on text. Also you botched her plausible excuse for you coming over in the first place, to smoke weed. She outright looks like a slut to you, and feels like one, as she knows what you already are thinking. ASD kicked up to 100. It's only fun for her when theres plausible deniability. When she realizes she's a slut, then so…
/r/askTRP17/07/19 06:33 AM
4

She wants closure. In her mind, she isn't fully resolved in the relationship of what you two "could be". She's trying to solidify that you're a beta and she made the right decision. Do not give her this closure. Ignore calls.
/r/askTRP17/07/19 06:19 AM
3

Time commitment. 24/7 for at least 18 years. Much of those years will be helpless/dependent years.
/r/askTRP17/07/19 06:13 AM
13

Tried it, it doesn't work like you think it will work. It's also a lot of work to keep up with it. Takes time, concentration, for no real benefit. Try taking deep breaths, or box breaths. You need to control your breathing, because that's where your excitement is coming from. Slow your breathing, and you'll slow your ejaculation.
/r/askTRP17/07/19 06:05 AM
1

There is a natural way to lead into sex. Starts with making out, then progressively escalated to higher stages of arousal. I think you’re overthinking this as “sex” being this aggrandizing thing that needs so much planning/attention. A little LMR is totally normal. In my experience... if she’s willing to blow you she’s willing to fuck you. Simple as that (usually). Since it’s only been 2 dates, I would expect maybe after a couple more dates she’ll be a little more free with you and let you in a …
/r/askTRP09/07/19 08:14 AM
8

Instagram, Facebook, Reddit, these are all things that take up bites of our time but we don't notice we do them because it's become a habit. Validation machines for women. I use instagram like my alarm clock. I check it about once a day, post a story or a photo a few times a week, then close the app, always keep notifications off. If you're worried about not getting girls because they ask for your insta, just understand that insta is a modern way to screen you beforehand. Girls just want to know…
/r/askTRP08/07/19 07:55 AM
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Your approach of directly asking for consent was a little too 2019 PC. You need some Plausible Deniability. Figure out some way or excuse to for her to feel free with you. Give her hamster something to run with. "Let's go to your place for a cup of tea". Bitches love tea. Or watch a movie on your "new couch" She needs to feel like sex is just "natural" and that it "just happened". Aka she won't feel like a slut if you don't directly bring it up. The problem is that you gave her no plausible excu…
/r/askTRP08/07/19 07:46 AM
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No big deal man, it's your first time around. Exciting stuff. Do what the other guys are recommending here, especially u/HedonisticCasualty's comment. That will typically work for the first couple times — after you may have mixed success with it. Some tips on lasting longer in the future: I used to have premature ejaculation issue a few years back. I cured it though. Here's how I did it: I took deep breathes. Breath in for 5, hold for 5, breath out for 5, hold for 5. Box breathes they're called.…
/r/askTRP08/07/19 07:37 AM
2

Then set a date!
/r/askTRP08/07/19 07:21 AM
16

Don't shit where you eat. Pursue your career and your women separately.
/r/askTRP08/07/19 07:15 AM
1

It’s a Kawhi Lenoard reference ;)
/r/askTRP30/06/19 10:07 PM
1

This is a solid answer. This is exactly what you should do.
/r/askTRP30/06/19 07:21 AM
1

I have no experience with your situation. My advice is don’t let it get to you or bring you down. It’s not the end of the world and obviously lots of shorter guys get with girls. Focus on what you can control... not the things outside of your control.
/r/askTRP30/06/19 07:20 AM
4

It’s a comfort test. Just give her a damn hug and call it a night. She’s just being insecure and wants you to make her feel safe/secure/warm.
/r/askTRP30/06/19 07:18 AM
2

“Hi I’m a fun guy, I don’t think I’ve met you yet.” This works because it gives her the impression that your a fun guy, know lots of people here (social proof and high social status).
/r/askTRP30/06/19 07:16 AM
0

I'd say: "isn't it obvious?" with a smile. This implies two things, the subtext communicates most of the message. First, it implies that you're a man who asks a lot of girls out, so it's obvious you would also ask her out. Second, she may decode that as "oh he's asking me out because I'm so pretty/great/he likes me, bla bla hamster". She might interpret that as a compliment... but fine, let her. It's evasive and mysterious, so doesn't matter anyway. Charming with a solid frame. Pitch and catch. …
/r/askTRP27/06/19 08:35 AM
2

The alternative is entitlement and having no remorse. OP's girlfriend is totally normal and sane with healthy guilt and shame.
/r/askTRP27/06/19 08:28 AM
7

If you're serious, I'm interested to know how this plays out. Steamroll your way on her insta and like all her photos from back in 2015.
/r/askTRP27/06/19 08:05 AM
3

She's plating you hard man. Or she's disrespecting you. Either one, you need to draw some clear boundaries and find out what you're in this for.
/r/askTRP27/06/19 08:02 AM
5

I can't even read this, it's unnecessarily dramatic. Cut to the chase. Ask this girl out or don't... she's got a boyfriend, but let her choose. Women are the choosers. You're overthinking it. You'll never understand what she could mean by all of this because she doesn't even know what she means. She just says what she's feeling! Let her be a woman, you be the man.
/r/askTRP27/06/19 07:59 AM
3

I'd say: "isn't it obvious?" This implies two things, but the subtext communicates the message. First, it implies that you're a man who asks a lot of girls out, so it's obvious you would also ask her out. Second, she may decode that as "oh he's asking me out because I'm so pretty/great/compliment. bla bla hamster". When the subtext communicates the conversation, things go better for you in life (with women that is).
/r/askTRP27/06/19 07:54 AM
3

Fatty, sweet, calorie rich nut mixed with ice cream. It's built into women to love peanut butter! Gotta put some fat on to protect those ovaries.
/r/askTRP19/06/19 07:43 AM
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Because of high Proximity of time spent around each other, high Frequency of seeing each other, high Duration of seeing each other, and medium to high Intensity of the interaction between each other. Those 4 factors are the key factors in forming relationships.
/r/askTRP19/06/19 07:41 AM
10

This is the right answer. ​ Some may disagree with me, but here's what I think. You should be honest. It's a coward move to ignore her, she's your LTR. You're supposed to be her rock, and you're looking like sand to her right now. How many women have you actually been with? Say it's 3. Joke around with her ("like including grade school?"). But be honest to her, in a strong way. You're simply telling her what happened in your life in the past. You don't need to get down to the dirty details. It'l…
/r/askTRP17/06/19 11:56 PM
12

This is so menial man. Precious frontal cortex real-estate being occupied by this insignificant manoosha. Delete this from your neural hard drive and don't ever think about it again. She's probably got 5-10 orbiters messaging her at any point in time on multiple platforms. This one snapchat guy is a drop in the ocean. It's all shit testing- hold frame and watch her actions. She'll give signals if she's going to jump ship. Don't focus on her orbiters. Focus on your bench press and getting a good …
/r/askTRP17/06/19 11:44 PM
2

Good question! Discipline and willpower take years to cultivate. You need to see things bigger than yourself and have a vision that's clear. Mostly you're fantasizing is out of non- necessity. It's not necessary for you not to. When something becomes necessary, you act differently. Like if you didn't have any food or shelter, you bet that you wouldn't be watching porn and fantasizing all afternoon- you would be outside chopping wood to keep warm. Because it would be necessary to stay alive. Huma…
/r/askTRP17/06/19 11:40 PM
12

It's not really bad right now, which is why it doesn't seem immediately alarming to you. Here's what's happening: You're slowly becoming conditioned to think your computer screen and your hand is sex. So when you go to fuck a real woman, your brain implicitly asks "where's my headphones? What's that smell? Why is there no keyboard in front of me? Where's the other guy?". Having access to more naked woman at the click of a button than most men would've seen in a lifetime 100 years ago fucks with …
/r/askTRP17/06/19 07:55 AM
8

With humor, you need to tune into an intuition. Humor isn't about a punch line or telling a joke. Context is a huge component with humor. It depends on the social context and situation. Funny with the guys is going to be different then funny with kids or women. If it doesn't make you smile before you say it, you probably shouldn't say it. Develop your own sense of what you find funny. Start speaking your mind about shit that you see. Like "hey that lady paid for her groceries entirely with chang…
/r/askTRP17/06/19 07:42 AM
11

Attention. In my experience, rewarding with attention, compliments, or positive affirmations reinforces good behaviour. For instance, if you like it when she works out. You might give her some more attention after her workout, call her sexy, tell her how you're proud of her that she's eating healthy. Don't go overboard, but noticing that she's making an effort is the key here.
/r/askTRP04/12/18 01:55 AM
3

This is the right answer. You can buy this stuff at any H&M or Zara in most countries.
/r/askTRP04/12/18 01:40 AM
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We can talk all day about the things that suck about you. Or about me, or about anyone. Embrace your strengths. You're alive, you can speak english, you have a computer! If you're making more than 34,000 USD a year you're in the top 1% of the world. I take it that you're younger, 16 or 17, maybe in high school. Go look at Elliot Hulse's channel on youtube. Great for young men.
/r/askTRP04/12/18 01:33 AM
2

Sounds like a plan to me. You've reached the main resource, TRP! The goldmine resource for cold approaching.
/r/askTRP03/12/18 03:12 AM
2

Being so forward, there's no time for her to make decisions. Just emotions. It's forward and bold, but you cut the small talk and polarize right away. Women don't want to put themselves out there to get rejected, you've already covered that base in a humorous way. Your response is also authentic. Doesn't sound like a pickup line, just sounds like a man interested in a woman.
/r/askTRP03/12/18 02:31 AM
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“you seem like you might be fun but im not sure. Wanna meet for a drink and see if we dont hate each other?” This is a great response and is probably working for you for a few main reasons. One, you're showing that you're going into the situation with apprehension about her (she probably is as well). Two, you're getting her to qualify herself (not agreeing to go out with you shows that she isn't fun, she needs to go out with you to show how fun she actually is). Three, you're leading and polariz…
/r/askTRP03/12/18 02:20 AM
1

It seems like you had the cognition to say otherwise though, since you knew immediately that it was wrong after you said it. You just need to calibrate that more. With humor, you need to tune into an intuition. If it doesn't make you smile before you say it, you probably shouldn't say it. Otherwise it comes across as try-hard. Like the sentence you said. There's no way anyone would say that out of the blue, without any context. With a guy, it's fine — (most) men have backbones. Women on the othe…
/r/askTRP03/12/18 12:05 AM
3

Yes, menstruation is when she bleeds, and ovulation is when her fertility is highest during the month. I would say you're doing fine with comfort tests. Just making sure to shift that frame after menstruation.
/r/askTRP02/12/18 11:58 PM
3

"we need to make it later, you need time to get ready" This would have worked had you built enough rapport with her. Or if this was an inside joke from a previous date, i.e. she was late and blamed it on getting ready. Otherwise it just comes across as you being socially haughty, and overweening.
/r/askTRP02/12/18 11:51 PM
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Here's the bottom line. If she's into you, she'll cancel her Tuesday hairfest. If Nick Bateman asked her out for Tuesday, would she mention her haircut? No, she fucking wouldn't, she'd have that shit rebooked for Monday so quick. If she's not into you, it doesn't matter what day of the week it is. You're not in it. She won't outright reject you. She'll suggest another time if she's interested in you. Which may be a hard truth to realize, she may not actually be interested in you. I wouldn't say …
/r/askTRP02/12/18 11:46 PM
3

Bookstores, colleges, gyms, streets, allyways, grocery stores, dance classes, McDonald's, airports, train stations. Go outside and look around. You can literally see women everywhere. You just need to approach them for them to develop interest in you.
/r/askTRP02/12/18 11:38 PM
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I think it varies from woman to woman. With my LTR, it happens about 1-2 days prior, she's 26. Saying things they don't mean is right on point — sometimes the things don't even make coherent sense. I find around menstruation is when the alpha/beta split seems to lean far right, as in there are waaaaay more comfort tests and passing them is all about. Comfort tests often come in question format, which makes them look similar to shit tests. How to detect: Her tone of voice will change to a "reassu…
/r/askTRP02/12/18 11:32 PM
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Insta is a modern way to screen you beforehand. Change the subject from insta to something else. Set up a meet first. Coffee or something that she won't bail on. Most guys make the mistake of inviting her over to their place right away. That rarely works because she needs to figure out if you're a weirdo or not. Pre screen before the cave. It's an evolutionary thing.
/r/askTRP27/11/18 11:51 PM
1

Asking is different than telling. If she asks if you drive a Porsche, that's one thing. Telling her you drive one out of the blue, when you actually don't, that's a completely different thing. Life is much more rewarding when people find the truth out on their own. If she asks, then it's a shit test and you can agree and amplify or handle as you want.
/r/askTRP27/11/18 11:42 PM
9

Wait til she brings it up. Then when she does, just say "I enjoy your company, and I like what we have right now"
/r/askTRP26/11/18 11:29 PM
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99% of the time this won't work for you. If you say you have a girlfriend, it gives her no plausible excuse for "going to coffee". ASD is high because she subliminally looks like a slut as she knows what type of girl she'd be if she goes to coffee with a guy with a girlfriend. ASD kicked in. There is also no reason to manufacture a lie to get a girl to do something that she would do anyways if you didn't lie. Women don't want to put themselves out there to look like a slut with another woman's m…
/r/askTRP26/11/18 11:23 PM
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Shits tough right now man. But listen. It's only because you're in your bubble. Let's see some perspective here. You're a white male, making a good salary, probably in North America, 30 years old, know about TRP, are educated and have your whole life ahead of you. That puts you ahead of 95% of the world. And 100% of women. The best thing you can be on earth is a Man. And guess what? You're a man. You won. There are some things you can't change. You have red hair, but that doesn't dictate you're …
/r/askTRP26/11/18 03:28 AM
6

Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. The TLDR was long enough. This will go horribly wrong if you continue with this woman and her fucked up friends and you should backpedal starting now. You are terribly deluded right now by a woman. It's not real, and you should definitely steer clear of this person. You need to hit the road now dude. Voice record every interaction with your new ex-girlfriend. And lock your fucking doors from these crazy people. Abundance mentality man. There's 3.5 billion wo…
/r/askTRP26/11/18 03:01 AM
9

Go to drop in basketball at your local court. YMCA or something. It's free and you meet tons of dudes that are into working out. Join a dance class - salsa or hip hop. Go to a meetup or read a book in public at starbucks.
/r/askTRP26/11/18 02:49 AM
3

That's a tough situation to be in. The logistics just didn't seem right. I can think if I were in your shoes, it was between telling her your visiting your parents house, or just bailing and saying another night. She was ready and willing it sounded like too. I would say you handled it well — obviously there were other options, but none that really made sense to you.
/r/askTRP26/11/18 02:40 AM
3

Women are fickle. This isn't the only one either. They're all like this, capricious. This is yet another example of the fleeting nature of women. Always assume attraction and assume the date. Don't let her drag you into her flakey frame. Take it lightly. If anything just tease her about it. It comes down to this: if you're confident in the man you are, then that's all that matters. Whether she comes with you or not, at the end of the day you're still going to have an awesome life. If she's going…
/r/askTRP26/11/18 01:46 AM
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An LTR is a constant balance between comfort & dread. There needs to be adequate amounts of both for it to be successful. I'm in a 4.5 year relationship with an HB9, & I can confidently say that you need to have rock solid frame & be on your A game. Testing doesn't subside, it continues- just in different ways. Always. A balance 80/20 alpha/beta works well. You shouldn't LTR a woman unless you're sure she is feminine, submissive, & has a good relationship with her father. Not always predictive, …
/r/askTRP26/11/18 01:01 AM
1

Take the complement humbly. It's a complement, don't drown in it. You're an introspective person, that's a good thing. No one here can answer the question about why your friends think you're deep, because we don't know you.
/r/askTRP26/11/18 12:16 AM
3

Women are masters at manipulation— especially when it comes to getting what they want. This is a game. They've evolved to know how to twist you around their little fingers, especially in your weakest times. I would wait to see what happens. My bet is they contact you, after a week or two. After a few weeks you could make one last ditch effort, then move on.
/r/askTRP26/11/18 12:09 AM
4

Discipline and willpower take years to cultivate. You need to see things bigger than yourself and have a vision that is clear. Mostly you're fantasizing is out of non- necessity. It's not necessary for you not to. When something becomes necessary, you act differently. Like if you didn't have any food or shelter, you bet that you wouldn't be watching porn and fantasizing all afternoon- you would be outside chopping wood to keep warm. Because it would be necessary to stay alive. Humans need homeos…
/r/askTRP26/11/18 12:00 AM
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Comfort test. The correct response is something witty, charming and elusive. Something like "I like you even when you're annoying. Let's get together tonight at 7 and I'll show you instead of tell you". You don't have to placate to do this. In LTR's it's a balance between dread and comfort. Alpha and beta. Usually an 80/20 alpha beta split. She doesn't feel cared for and that you're passing her comfort tests. "Does he still love me?" Kind of thinking. Don't placate, but search the main sub for c…
/r/askTRP23/11/18 12:53 AM
1

Yeah, agreed. Text is fine then.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 10:26 AM
1

Voicemail bro. Then she calls back and balls in your court, she’s chasing you.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 09:56 AM
1

I would say at this point, it needs to be done because it is a consistent thing. Best of luck, interested to see how it goes.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 02:43 AM
2

Yeah there's a balance you need to strike there. I'd be interested to see if you handled it like the example in the video I shared, what would happen. If you find it difficult to directly address him this way, maybe this is where the real issue is. Try following the directions in that video, even if it makes you uncomfortable. It's masculine, direct, and it's assertive. I wish I had seen that video years ago. I could've probably saved a lot of otherwise good friendships that ended because I didn…
/r/askTRP22/11/18 02:16 AM
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"Yea I've got instagram. Username is @yourusername". ​ Then wait for the follow, and don't follow back. There you go, another follower, one step closer to influencer status.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 01:48 AM
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Choose not to be harmed—and you won't feel harmed" — Marcus Aurelius You are acting like a victim. Why are you concerned with this boy's respect? You cannot force people to respect you, you become a respectable man by doing respectable things and acting in a respectable way. And a component of that is having rock solid frame. There are people in life who try to get under your skin. It's your decision to let them. Laugh it off with them. Stop taking it all so seriously, live and if other people w…
/r/askTRP22/11/18 01:45 AM
6

Cut this messaging out. Call her and ask her out. It's bold, it's forward and it puts her on the spot to make a decision right then and there. No room to flake. ​ She's probably never had that happen before. Women love direction. She won't flake. No contact before the date. Not your responsibility if she flakes. If she flakes, then she lost out. ​ Where's the win in not calling her? Call her and polarize. Stand out from the orbiters.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 01:42 AM
2

I read this as "How do you eat pussy". ​ Started typing "like a watermelon".
/r/askTRP22/11/18 01:38 AM
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Silence. ​ Attention is how you calibrate her status in the relationship. Distance yourself from her, go do your own shit for a week. She'll know what she did wrong and come around. Women know when they've done something wrong. They know when they're acting shitty. You teach people how to treat you.
/r/askTRP22/11/18 01:36 AM
3

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/98okub/i_enjoy_going_to_prostitutes/
/r/askTRP05/09/18 10:31 PM
3

It's case by case. ​ I think what u/CainPrice said also fits the bill in a number of instances. Women are amusing, be amused. I understand it's difficult to do that sometimes, especially in those cases where their behaviour is deplorable. You don't have to formally next them, you can be short and uninterested for a few days/hours depending on the circumstance.
/r/askTRP05/09/18 10:28 PM
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Calling her behaviour out will actually reward her bad behaviour because you're rewarding her with attention to the behaviour you don't want. ​ You see, women get rewarded by attention. Simple rule: Reward (read: give attention) to the behaviors you want. Punish (read: ignore) the behaviors you don't want. Psychological term is called Negative Punishment if you want to read up on it. Calling her out will produce the opposite effect you're after. Despite that feeling somewhat un-intuitive to what…
/r/askTRP05/09/18 05:35 PM
5

I'm not sure if you're trolling or not, despite you even saying you're not. I'll answer at face value though. This will go horribly wrong if you go through with this and you should backpedal starting now. You are terribly deluded right now by a woman's seemingly loving digital presence. It's not real, and you should not do this.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 11:56 PM
3

Block his number. https://support.apple.com/en-us/HT201229 https://support.google.com/phoneapp/answer/6325463?hl=en
/r/askTRP25/01/18 11:43 PM
1

"Choose not to be harmed—and you won't feel harmed" — Marcus Aurelius There's people in life who try to get under your skin. Laugh it off with them. Stop taking it all so seriously, live and if other people want to have some fun, then you have two choices. Be butthurt. Or don't be butthurt. Both are your choice. Agree and amplify man.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 11:40 PM
4

Depends if you're being completely celibate or you want to quit porn/masturbation. If it's the latter, then the answer is yes.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 04:10 AM
2

The shit tests must have been strong, but still focused on the same principles. Women select men based upon traits that show he can protect & provide for her & her offspring. She'll test him to see if he is a strong enough male to handle her- and put her in her place. If he's not strong enough to handle her, then how can he protect her? Meaning you have to say the same shit, act continuously alpha, and have rock solid frame. She'll expect that and test it every day and every chance she can. It's…
/r/askTRP25/01/18 04:03 AM
5

Absolutely agree. Porn is pacification. Our human brains haven't evolved to handle more naked women at the click of a button then we would likely see in a lifetime 100 years ago. It kills your most internal drive as a man. /u/Meat-on-the-table has written a good piece on this a while ago. http://archive.is/SglO1
/r/TheRedPill24/01/18 12:20 AM
11

It sounds like you have a promising future. Don't fuck it up. Keep doing shit & staying busy, it's easy to fall back into your old habits. You're a different man now, so keep doing what you're doing. Next steps: get some good friends that you can do things with. Humans are social creatures & having friends is one thing that is highly under stated on this sub. Good habits are the key to all success. Bad habits are the unlocked door to failure. Keep lifting, talking to people, focusing on hobbies …
/r/askTRP23/01/18 11:25 PM
6

I'm pretty sure she's just playing you. Cut this messaging out. Call her and ask her out. It's bold, it's forward and it puts her on the spot to make a decision right then and there. No room to flake. Here's where you fucked up. You said "It's whatever, I forgot about it anyway lol.". You clearly didn't. You're now so affected that you've posted on the internet about it for advice. You teach people how to treat you, and you just taught this girl that you're a man that can be flaked on. You're no…
/r/askTRP23/01/18 11:14 PM
2

"I'd prefer being asian." Doesn't matter what you prefer. You don't get a choice. Why will you let orange hair dictate the outcome of your life? Your SMV won't be fucked forever because of orange hair — it will be fucked because of that attitude.
/r/askTRP18/01/18 10:43 PM
6

Try and supplement with vitamin d. Most people are deficient and it's a low cost supplement. Sounds like those symptoms line up with Vitamin d deficiency. It is winter, so if you're not getting 30-45 minutes of sun per day, then you're likely going to be deficient.
/r/askTRP17/01/18 11:46 PM
1

Are you asking for yourself, or for a friend? Probably, depending on the area it was in and other factors like your visual appearance, status etc. But be careful and wear protection.
/r/askTRP17/01/18 11:44 PM
5

This is normal for western women, I wouldn't dig too deep into it. She's with her family, feeling sexy in her new bikini, let the girl take a damn photo and stop analyzing this. ALL WOMEN ARE ATTENTION SEEKING. It's what puts them ahead in life. More attention = more social status = better life for them. It's engrained in their biology... just expressed on instagram now. If I were you, I'd comment something light and witty: "damn girl, missin you already." or some other thing. Can't think of a g…
/r/askTRP17/01/18 11:34 PM
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Why is she calling me? She wants closure. In her mind, she isn't fully resolved in the relationship of what you two "could be". She's trying to solidify that you're a beta and she made the right decision. Do not give her this closure. Ignore calls.
/r/askTRP17/01/18 02:58 AM
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I'd like to ask a follow up question here, as I've never heard this advice. I don't have an issue with being connected to my gf, but some other shit has been plaguing me with motivation/passion for life. How would 'free-writing' help me boost out of this?
/r/askTRP16/01/18 05:19 AM
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A 9 at 21 years old, who is begging you to hang out. Man, you must be having an amazing 2018 so far. I can tell. The right time is when you make it the time, in my opinion.
/r/askTRP16/01/18 05:15 AM
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Also, if you don’t know shit about fashion, get yourself a t-shirt of your favorite color, black pants and sport shoes. You’ll look basic as fuck but you won’t look retarded. Great advice. H&M/Zara is a good place to start. Just hit up r/asktrp for fashion advice. We're pretty fashionable, you know.
/r/askTRP16/01/18 05:12 AM
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she did ask me if I wanted to hangout when I showed that I didn't care what she was doing. Boom, there you go. If she's a peach and sweet then make it exclusive if that's your ball game. Sounds like she definitely could be tamed still. How young?
/r/askTRP16/01/18 05:05 AM
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What's your investment so far? It's going to depend. How much value does she bring to your life? If this is a one off shit test/on her period bullshit, then pass it up. But if this is a toxic sandwich then move on YGand.
/r/askTRP16/01/18 04:33 AM
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Charisma on command has some decent advice. https://www.youtube.com/user/charismaoncommand
/r/askTRP16/01/18 04:31 AM
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Sounds like you're in high school. If that's the case, then girls in high school have a ton of options. And they're masters at playing games. The guy in the story could be an orbiter or rando/friends brother etc. She's testing you man— and all the other guys that are orbiting her as well (Marketing terms: known as a bulk a/b orbiter campaign). Shrug it off, act like you didn't see it/dgaf. Do not bring it up. <------------------- When you act like you care, you put the power in her hands. It mak…
/r/askTRP16/01/18 04:29 AM
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Elliott Hulse, How to create a deeper voice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P41ER1Wmkj0
/r/askTRP03/01/18 01:29 AM
6

Give her a call. She's probably got 100 messages on read in her inbox as well. No answer? Then stop calling or texting her til she reaches out. No attachment here and nothing lost, just a random girl from a lineup at a club.
/r/askTRP03/01/18 01:28 AM
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"So am I". She's trying to have a stronger frame than you. If you actually passed the shit test, she wouldn't say this because your answer would be good enough. Depends on the shit test though. Lots of guys just think everything is a shit test, when sometimes it's just a question. What was the shit test?
/r/askTRP02/01/18 11:51 PM
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”Dear precious, Thy heart swoons for thee breast of my love and heart. I wish for 1000 moments of love in thy kiss. Whisper me a text so I can really know your true hearts desire. I shall‘nt try to sleep til’ finally I’ll be complete with my question on asktrp.“ It’s fine to say shit if you mean it and feel it. Keep it to a min though. Can’t build attraction over text. Spend time with your family at Christmas and be present there. Not messaging your main squeeze.
/r/askTRP29/12/17 08:43 AM
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Maybe it’s not comfort man. Maybe your SMV isn’t high enough yet. Do you lift? Do you get haircuts? Do you take care of yourself? Are you polarizing? Are you a masculine man? If all your shitnis together, and it is comfort, then you’re not building enough rapport. Also, great book recommendation for you man. It’s called “the like switch.” Amazon it - happy new year.
/r/askTRP29/12/17 08:40 AM
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Lift. When you lift you get to know good looking guys who take care of themselves. Who do those guys fuck? Hot girls. Who do you hang out with? Those guys. Pretty soon, you’ll be fucking hot girls too. Or not, maybe you’ll just be hanging with a bunch of dudes playing dugeons and dragons. Up to you. Also. Great book recommendation for you man. It’s called “the like switch.” Amazon it
/r/askTRP29/12/17 08:37 AM
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Man, these are regular shit tests. She’s trying to shake you or break your frame. Just agree and amplify, (i.e. yea, get the razor out babe, shave it off for me right now) or let these minuscule things bother you and watch things explode into arguments. Slap her ass and go to the gym.
/r/askTRP29/12/17 08:32 AM
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Disagree and amplify puts you on the opposition, that’s why. It breaks your frame. Makes you seem like you care. Write a proper post and resubmit.
/r/askTRP29/12/17 08:29 AM
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“Hi (with a smile). I don’t think we’ve met before. I’m Sam.”
/r/askTRP29/12/17 08:24 AM
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Make strong eye contact with everyone. It's not so much about what you say, it's how you say it. With confidence, eye contact and open body language. Imagine 2 scenarios. If a salesperson approached you and wanted to sell you a pair of shoes with looking at the ground. Now imagine the same scenario, but them looking you in the eyes. Which scenario makes you feel better about that person overall? Hopefully the latter. If you've ever met the former you'll likely not think too much of them. With wo…
/r/askTRP05/12/17 01:04 AM
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Looks like a comfort test to me... Could pass this in a number of ways. Both your suggestions look good, I'd lean more toward the first one.
/r/askTRP08/10/17 10:37 AM
5

Any advice on how to get rid of her? Like permanently? There's a number of ways to go about this, but they all involve going no contact, despite the instagram DM's? Turn notifications off, ignore. Or just set some boundaries on communication for plates. If she's not already your gf, I would say this is going to turn into a gf situation really quick if you don't go cold. She might freak out for a few days, but all good... women do that.
/r/askTRP08/10/17 10:34 AM
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I know this seems like a big thing, but it's not. Relax, women are fickle. This isn't the only one either. They're all like this, capricious. You kind of slipped, because now she knows you care. Never let a woman know that shit bothers you like this, even if it does. Whenever you break frame, you lose... But moving on, your girl sounds really sweet and definitely seems like a keeper, feminine, beautiful, smart, funny, hypergamous... It comes down to this: if you're confident in the man you are, …
/r/askTRP08/10/17 10:30 AM
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Agree and amplify. If you're the butt of the jokes, then continue to be aloof about it. For example your friends say "Bolvyn_Venim is such a bitch he never does the dishes lol". You could the say "Oh yea, I'm the biggest bitch in this house, but I learn from the best eh man?" If that fails to work for a while, just pull back and become a more respectable man until there's nothing left to make fun of. The reason people treat you like a bitch is because you are a bitch. Stop being a bitch and voil…
/r/askTRP06/10/17 12:16 AM
7

"I know you do."
/r/askTRP06/10/17 12:13 AM
4

Next step is to just chill. She'll come around. Likely you're coming on too needy, just act like you DGAF and pull back until she reaches out again. When she does, invite her in a plausible way over to your place. Like "Hey stranger, haven't talked to you in a few days. Having pizza in the backyard over at my place tonight, care to join?"
/r/askTRP06/10/17 12:12 AM
1

Spot on advice.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 11:48 PM
4

This is only what you feel, not actually what is real. Understand the difference, there are some thing based in reality, whereas there are others that are fake and constructed in your mind. It may be simply because you're coming across as too "available" or needy. You need to have the warmth, the presence, and the power to be able to convey this kind of social respect you're desiring. It takes time man, keep it up and keep the focus on others. Laugh with them not at them.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 11:44 PM
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Not sure the context or background here. How long have you known her, what's the previous conversation? Waiting it out until she starts ovulating is highly unreliable because you won't know when that is, only she does. Plus she probably has a couple dudes on speed-dial for that.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 11:38 PM
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She definitely likes you, as she's bringing up the topic of sex. Women who don't like you won't do that. Just pass the shit test. Agree and amplify.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 11:36 PM
2

You need to start doing things. Do you have a job right now? You should be busy enough that you don't have time to keep track of 3 different women on social media... they should be keeping track of you. Since you mentioned the masturbation, that could be related to the lethargy you're experiencing. How often are you watching porn/jerking off a per week?
/r/askTRP28/09/17 04:03 AM
1

Agreed. This was a little forward as it sounds like there's been no romantic rapport building. However I commend you for trying. Also you gave her no plausible excuse for staying over. She subliminally looks like a slut as she knows what would go down if she stayed in your bed. ASD kicked in. What you should say next is (for a final coup de grace): "hey, if you need a place to chill for a bit, I'm getting pizza for 1 at my place. Movies, me, pizza- how could a Friday get better?" Likely she'll g…
/r/askTRP26/08/17 01:58 AM
2

Sure. Don't wait there for 20 mins like a puppy dog. Just politely ask your question. There's a way to do it in a strong, kind way. Don't do it rudely.
/r/askTRP26/08/17 01:53 AM
1

Hard no. Amplify the non-jealousness of the situation. Prove you're cool with it. For example if she says "oh yea wow that guy is so hot bla bla".... reply with "oh damn girl, I would totally date him". Show a strong frame.
/r/askTRP26/08/17 01:50 AM
2

Yea something like this or with a witty spin-off will do. "you never know where I'll dock my ship next" Note: works best when on the topic of sailing
/r/askTRP26/08/17 01:47 AM
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Sure, text her and say "had a great time tonight, did you get home safe?". Just so she can text back "Home. And yes thanks for the good night". Doesn't matter why she left... women do strange things all the time.
/r/askTRP17/08/17 06:59 AM
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That's 4.16 pounds a month. Of course that's possible, not unhealthy either. Just eat a lot man, and work out a lot as well. It's not going to be all muscle though, so be prepared for that. How old are you?
/r/askTRP17/08/17 06:52 AM
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Sex is a womans only element of control in a relationship. She contacted you because she wants to get back together with you, or she wants closure. She knows that you wouldn't fly for "hey can we meet for coffee", so she'll weaken you with some sexysex and see if you'll be up for a relationship again. There's no context here though, why did you leave her?
/r/askTRP17/08/17 06:50 AM
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Strange that she offered zero LMR. My hunch is it started to sink in that she felt like a massive slut... as women who aren't, don't do this. Either your SMV is very high, or she was getting over a breakup. I'd get some confirmation of a great time via text message so she doesn't go claiming some shit after the ASD sinks in post-coitus.
/r/askTRP17/08/17 06:46 AM
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In short, Porn is pacification. Our human brains haven't evolved to handle more naked women at the click of a button then we would likely see in a lifetime 100 years ago. It kills your most internal drive as a man. /u/Meat-on-the-table has written a good piece on this a while ago. http://archive.is/SglO1
/r/TheRedPill10/08/17 05:51 PM
3

Okay, firstly. Get rid of all that negative self talk. "I'm a basement deweller", "I'm an incel". You are what you see yourself to be. From now on you're the guy who is good with words and has great social skills. Talk to yourself in that way no matter how weird it sounds. Fuck the basement and video games. That shits not real. Create a life better than any one of those fantasy worlds. And sustain that. Keep lifting, talking to people, focusing on hobbies (basketball, coding, guitar), and approa…
/r/askTRP10/08/17 05:31 PM
1

Everyone is saying move on, but I disagree. Here's why. There are two possible outcomes. 1) she's looking for closure that she made the right decision by friending you. Orrrr 2) she's looking for more of the make out sessions/hookups in a discreet and plausible way. I'm leaning towards 2 here as there was no explicit reason for the break off other than going to two separate colleges (some time in September I assume). That leaves around a month of fooling around for you and her. She knows that bu…
/r/askTRP02/08/17 08:08 AM
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Solution: stop acting this way. The reason you're acting this way is because you started to act this way. This kind of psychological inertia happens when we behave similarly around the same people a lot of the time. Think about a night where you acted cool around someone you now know. It's likely that you'll continue to appear cool around that person and display a similar behaviour that you previously did before. It's like the rule of expectations. You just need to break the cycle by rising abov…
/r/askTRP02/08/17 08:01 AM
5

Sidebar my friend! >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
/r/askTRP26/07/17 05:29 AM
5

No, women are not intended to out-populate men by a 2-1 ratio. Like most mammals human sex ratio is 1:1, with men slightly beating women due to higher mortality rates at birth.
/r/askTRP26/07/17 05:29 AM
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Can you plot this dataset OP? I need to get a visual on current participation (N=1). In all seriousness, in a perfect world we could draw conclusions from a distributed random sample and test based upon those assumptions to draw conclusions. In the real world that's simply not possible. Be weary when you hear field reports, because a lot of the time, by definition, they're edge cases. The most you can do is try and optimize all stages of research by casting a wider net (read: more plates/options…
/r/TheRedPill21/07/17 06:49 AM
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For god sakes man, take the woman out on her birthday. Sounds like a sweet girl who deserves it, not another undeserving plate. If it costs you $50-100 to celebrate, so be it. She'll be gleaming by the end of it and will appreciate your efforts. Where did this idea on the red pill come from that we need to be cold, ruthless, non-birthday-celebrating men. True alphas bring the positive energy and celebrate their woman's successes as much as any others.
/r/askTRP15/07/17 03:47 PM
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Cut your losses at this point. You should've 100% asked for a paternity test if she chose to keep it. The nuances of not letting you see contraception date probably weren't signals that it wasn't yours. You did the right thing on not challenging the $910 and paying up. That may have put her on the defence and she could have talked herself out of the whole abortion to avoid looking like a slut. Congratulations for paying up and dodging a bullet. $910 is pennies in the scheme of things. You took m…
/r/askTRP15/07/17 03:34 PM
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You sure about this, or are you trolling? If so, you need to hit the road dude. Voice record every interaction with your new ex-girlfriend. Get a lawyer or talk to someone educated in law to get custody of your daughter if your ex is her mother. And de-friend your so called "friend" or else soon he'll be fucking you with your daughter in the room.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 04:57 AM
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That's the gist of it, there's also other methods to deal with shit tests, and some of these wouldn't apply to every context. Shit tests do not mean they're attracted to you. It sometimes does mean that. Especially if there's other IOI's involved as well. I don't understand OP's example at all, as it's poorly formatted and doesn't provide context.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 04:45 AM
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Read no more mister nice guy first, the other ones next in whatever order.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 04:40 AM
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Fuck it man. I don't drink either, never have, never will. If you have a strong frame, no one can break it unless you let them. Stick to your values here. Charisma on command has a great video for not drinking at parties: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=emIOjror9Ys
/r/askTRP14/07/17 04:37 AM
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Talk to everyone, girls, guys, dogs. Everyone is your friend here. Smile. Dress well, be stylish as fuck. Strong eye contact with everyone. Witty, social banter. Chat up the future plate girl and establish some rapport. Light touching, fun playful conversation. Go talk to other women, then go back to her later in the night and see if she wants to 'go for a walk' or head home to chill. Approach people and introduce yourself. Make light banter and build rapport. The way you flirt with a woman is g…
/r/askTRP14/07/17 04:31 AM
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Fair enough, there are exceptions to every rule and edge cases like this could fall on that line. Edited my response toward your question.
/r/askTRP03/07/17 09:31 PM
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now as we are texting each other There we go. Stop doing that. Meet up with her, texting her is only decreasing her attraction for you. Keep texting to a minimal for logistics. talked like crazy and kinda told her everything about me which I know is a mistake Yea, you can recover from this. Don't talk any more about yourself... keep in 80/20 or 70/30 in terms of talking. gaming a girl that is allready strongly attached to you She's young, and I'm guessing you are a bit older as well (18?), so sh…
/r/askTRP03/07/17 09:25 PM
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Yes. With some exceptions. Women are women, so hypergamy is always going to be a thing. But if you find a good girl when she’s young, she can bond to you healthily and not want to branch swing every other weekend for a guy with a cool Jeep. Pairbonding means being attached to one mate, and having loyalty/preference to that mate. Keeping up the sex life after marriage is entirely up to you. Want more sex, up the dread. She’ll naturally follow.
/r/askTRP03/07/17 01:28 AM
1

Have you fucked this girl yet?
/r/askTRP02/07/17 04:38 PM
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Steeeeer clear man!! Turn the ship around. why can’t I just find a girl with an acceptable past. You can. Find them young (18,19,20) with a good father figure in their life. Then pairbond with one and she’ll never leave you. The main fucking problem with these bitches nowadays is how often they sleep around. None of them have properly formed attachment to a man, and therefore have issues and a fucked up past. Save yourself a boatload of trouble and find yourself a young woman with a ~0 partner c…
/r/askTRP02/07/17 04:30 PM
1

Not entirely sure on this as you didn’t provide grounds for the relationship. That being said, she’s probably ovulating right now (makeup, craving male attention, reaching out to you). It’s your call how you play it.
/r/askTRP02/07/17 04:29 PM
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Move on. Not a big deal and no one will remember this in 6 months. Just don’t associate with your ex’s friends... they’re not your comrades and don’t bring you value. What you say or do to them is irrelevant. Going forward, keep your emotions together. Because some bitch doesn’t reply to you when you need help (why are you even asking her for help from her?!) don’t lose your shit. Hold frame and move on. Don’t bring it up again with her.
/r/askTRP02/07/17 04:23 PM
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You’ve got a long way to go. You’re on your way and you’ve got the right ideas in place man. Although it’s appealing to quit your job, don’t- until you get another. It’s easier to get a job when you have one. Focus on moving out of your parents house- being there is putting you in a certain mindset and coddling you in one way or another. You can lift, have hobbies, women and have a successful career. You need to time manage better and focus on keeping busy on the right things.
/r/askTRP02/07/17 07:48 AM
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It’s not the best idea. Women desire to be with a natural alpha, and at first glance won’t understand the education and work that goes behind it. I’d keep the kindle to yourself. Case closed.
/r/askTRP02/07/17 07:43 AM
1

Some of these flags are red, some are just flags, tinged a reddy-pink color. Most of these things are just odd. Maybe it's a cultural thing, but it doesn't seem normal to date your cousins. Not LTR material.
/r/askTRP10/06/17 12:20 AM
1

Are you telling me to ring the bell at night when everyone is home, ask the father (who will probably answer the door), "Is your daughter home? May I speak with her? Sure why not. Nothing to lose, everything to gain.
/r/askTRP10/06/17 12:17 AM
1

Alright man, this is a minor case of oneitis. I'd understand your pursuit of this girl if she was the last teenage girl on earth, but there are more in your area, probably many more. Either go and knock on this girls house and explicitly ask for her number, or go pursue other girls in your neighborhood/school. I only know of one opportunity where I can make contact with her, as I'm fairly sure shes a homebody: She gets off the bus 3 streets over and cuts through a yard that puts her right onto h…
/r/askTRP09/06/17 11:27 PM
1

Great progress man. Focus on eating right, sleeping 8 hours a night and lifting in the 10-15 rep ranges. You could stand to put on 20lbs but take it step by step.
/r/askTRP24/05/17 07:18 PM
1

Can attest to this app's efficacy. Worth the $5 install.
/r/askTRP24/05/17 07:00 AM
12

The problem with a man's mission lies therein this question; that there is no longer a right of passage for men. I was thinking about this driving on the way home from work today. Thinking how I was debating between getting a Starbucks or another boushy $7 craft coffee for the afternoon. What a sick fuck I am. Men no longer have a mission. We longer have a struggle. We no longer have to forge ourselves into rock and develop character. None of us have to run 50KM a day to get food and water for o…
/r/askTRP18/05/17 09:32 PM
12

It's being a weak dude if you hold your tears in. That means you're ashamed of the true emotion you're feeling as a man at that point in time. Strength is feeling that emotion of sadness mixed with love for your family and owning it. You don't have to sob uncontrollably, but knowing your own emotions as a man is something that you should adopt from an early age. Don't let it define you but you can be rock solid and still feel sadness and love for your family.
/r/askTRP18/05/17 08:07 PM
3

Stretch
/r/askTRP16/05/17 11:02 PM
1

A red herring is a decoy. Something that's intentionally meant to be distracting or misleading. Women pull this shit constantly.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 09:17 PM
12

... I mean, how much clearer can she be. There's a strong possibility that she's fucking her ex. Especially when she's getting these 'in context' emails out of the blue.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 08:13 PM
2

Okay, firstly. Get rid of all that negative self talk. "I'm bad with words", "I have no social skills". You are what you see yourself to be. From now on you're the guy who is good with words and has great social skills. Talk to yourself in that way no matter how weird it sounds. Keep lifting, talking to people, focusing on hobbies (basketball, coding, guitar), and approach some young ladies. Nothing really matters in life, even if it seems like a really big deal. Just let your guard down and do …
/r/askTRP10/05/17 08:09 PM
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Context wise, it's hard to believe that the email would come out of the blue. Especially since people text/fb/what's app now and not email. Emails for shit that's private and confidential. The email was clearly a follow up to something that was going down before. When you smell smoke you think of a fire. Not sure if she's telling the truth or not. What's her track record, ever caught lying before?
/r/askTRP10/05/17 08:06 PM
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She's testing your frame man. This is shit test 101. Agree and amplify, or squeeze her and spin her around until she screams to stop. If you can get her giggling and in her feminine, 9/10 she'll cut this behaviour out.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 08:03 PM
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Here's the deal. You have a daughter and you're obliged to support her as her dad. But you don't have an obligation to this crazy bitch- she's abusive in more ways than you probably shared with us today. If you have the funds, then go get a lawyer and evidence so you can get custody of your daughter. But whatever you do don't move back in with this bitch. She'll ruin you and castrate you. You're not strong enough to go through this shit man- I can see it. She knows it too and that's why she's ab…
/r/askTRP10/05/17 07:11 PM
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Like the other men are saying, it sounds like an honest mistake. I mean what does she have to gain from this, she's going to see you again. When trying to court a woman there's going to be walls, red herrings and shit tests. And you have act like it's no big deal and climb them. It's important not to become sensitive about small shit like this. Doesn't matter. Showing how upset you are over this demonstrates that you're over invested at this point.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 07:05 PM
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Tell her you wrote her a song, then proceed to play a song that's already really famous. When she clues in that you didn't write wonderwall, just keep playing along that you did and you wrote it. Do it until she believes it.
/r/askTRP10/05/17 08:11 AM
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How to handle this: don't respond back. It's likely you are over invested in her at this point. You fucked, she's a plate, she'll make herself available when she wants some more. Leave it at that, nothing more.
/r/askTRP02/05/17 08:33 AM
12

Agree and amplify. Or just don't hang around people who bring you down.
/r/askTRP30/04/17 10:39 PM
4

First of all man, Happy Birthday. You've come a long way. And that distance can seem lonely when you're travelling the road on your own. You've made a ton of progress, but clearly still have a ways to go. No man is an island, and it sounds to me like you need to get out and do things man. Get some sunshine, go shoot hoops or play football/soccer. Making solid friendships with other males involves doing things that other males do. Humans are social creatures, and I admit that it's hard as fuck to…
/r/askTRP30/04/17 07:50 AM
1

Come to think of it you raise a good point. Reading it with having that in mind, he did immediately put her guard up after he said " Yeah that's cause you sell shitty stuff.". He could've went with something more cunning and kept things lighthearted and fun. Good observations.
/r/askTRP30/04/17 07:47 AM
3

I've never tried Ethiopian food, but it sounds delicious. Any hot girl that asks you out for Ethiopian food, you can safely assume she's into you. Your call how you want to play it.
/r/askTRP30/04/17 07:38 AM
1

I disagree with you. Here's why: The conversation they had was clearly flirtatious in nature. He was in no way validating her, any more than she was validating him. There was clear interest shown by her from the beginning indicated by his friend (girl) by the bar in the beginning. As I said, there's no enough context. Maybe he did fuck it up if he acted all needy. Sounds to me like he was outcome independent and aloof either way.
/r/askTRP30/04/17 07:35 AM
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I don't think there's enough context here to tell. My hunch is you didn't fuck it up. There was clearly some playful banter at play- and you handled yourself accordingly and didn't fall into her frame when she flat out rejected you. Whatever tho, her loss- seems like you had a good attitude that reflected that anyway. When she said "Not really", that might've just been token resistance (too soon in knowing you) or just her being in a bitchy mood. Depends on her body language but it sounds like y…
/r/askTRP30/04/17 07:29 AM
1

Is there a way to defeat this first impression I think I made the second time around or am I confined to her box she put me in I mean, it's up to you if you want to be held to something she is or is not projecting on to you. No one can put you in a box that you didn't climb into yourself. If you climbed in, then climb out. No one can dictate the frame unless you give them permission. If you want to wake up a new man tomorrow, guess what? You can. And no one, not her, not me, or the rest of TRP c…
/r/askTRP30/04/17 07:24 AM
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It's safe to say that self-sabotage is a part of a mans life sometimes. You'll overcome it. You're an oak, and sometimes strong winds will storm, and you'll have strong roots that will prevail. A book that really helped me when I was struggling with something similar a few years ago, is "The Six Pillars of Self Esteem" and "Breaking The Habit of Being Yourself". Both those books changed my outlook on life.
/r/askTRP30/04/17 07:21 AM
2

Keep pretending like you like her without saying it explicitly. It's good you kept it plausible- as now she's really going to like you. Personally I would've gone a more elusive route, but that's just me.
/r/askTRP27/04/17 06:01 AM
14

Start calling him Ketchup crusher. It's just hazing man, get over it and revenge is never worth it. The guy's just looking to break your frame. Don't fall for it.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 04:34 AM
3

I don't think that qualifies as a flake as no meetings were set up, cancelled, or decided on. I'm pretty sure she's just playing you. Sounds like she's the flirty teasy latin-girl type anyway. Cut this messaging out. Call her and ask her out. It's bold, it's forward and it puts her on the spot to make a decision right then and there. No room to flake.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 03:11 AM
11

Here's the secret method to getting women to not flake. Call her. Don't message her, snap her, dm her, validate her or do anything else. Call her and ask her out. It's bold, it's forward and it puts her on the spot to make a decision right then and there. No room to flake.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 01:13 AM
5

Pretty much this. Unless you're ultra-chad and she's still happy with 'a piece' of you, then this isn't going to happen. Women habituate easily to the way you treat her and this is no exception.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 06:25 AM
21

A feminine women won't often lead or initiate as often as you would want. It's your pursuit as a man that enables you to penetrate the world, your mission and ultimately her. In her feminine she will be submissive and receptive to these advances. And that's the way the dance goes.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 06:23 AM
10

Thoughts is she wants to fuck you. The signs couldn't be clearer either. She sounds like a sweetheart. Dinner, wine, netflix and you rolled over and slept? Take the lead here man. It would be hard to fuck this up, even if you tried.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 06:12 AM
2

Options. Men desire freedom, Women desire access. More options means more opportunity for them to find a viable mate.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 06:10 AM
2

The best height is the one you have. 5'11 is a great height. Mostly because you can't change it. Stand up straight and wear snazzy shoes and you'll look taller.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 02:58 AM
1

Bookstores, colleges, gyms, streets, allys, grocery stores, dance classes, McDonald's, airports, train stations. In my experience women are everywhere. You just need to approach them for them to develop interest in you.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 02:57 AM
2

Here's a crazy one: 3 year LTR was lying in bed watching YouTube on her phone... I come in without saying anything, start kissing her neck from behind and then take off her clothes. We fuck and then watch YouTube together afterwards.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 02:38 AM
1

Let me guess where Johan is now...
/r/askTRP19/04/17 02:35 AM
1

Comfort test. Wanted to see you but pointing out that she's busy and won't have time. Good time to text her and set something up for tomorrow or the next day.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 02:33 AM
13

She's mad that you made her own up to her responsibilities like an adult. By reminding her she had to pay, you pointed to the fact that she doesn't get a free ticket in life because she's a woman.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 02:31 AM
34

Hahahhaa adorable man. She's acting like a child. Tantrums are things children have sometimes, as well as grown ass women. All women have these if you stick around long enough. The good ones at least. The reason she's doing this is because she doesn't fully respect you. That's your problem and I advise you to read up on u/Archwinger 's post history for past posts on boundaries and respect. Just hold frame through the storm. Not going to excuse her crazy behaviour- sounds insane. But as you elude…
/r/askTRP19/04/17 02:26 AM
14

3 asktrp questions in 1! trpception. Maybe to kids later in life- 30's. If anything leaning toward adoption. If the right woman and circumstances consummate, then I'll make that decision later. If they don't then ¯_(ツ)_/¯. And no, wouldn't be content with it, wouldn't date a girl with a high partner count to begin with. That's insane because: a) She wouldn't properly pair bond with you b) She's a slut c) a & b
/r/askTRP19/04/17 02:18 AM
4

Happy birthday bro. Don't worry about messaging her, that's not you anymore and you're over it. So is she. She's done with you 6 months ago. You're a better man now on a road to better things and higher goals. If she messages you, keep it short or ignore.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 02:13 AM
1

You can be happy WITH having a sense of responsibility. I would argue that responsibility is required for true happiness to manifest. A man can only be happy when he is achieving his goals. Whatever those goals may be. There's 3 types of goals: easily achieved goals, hard to achieve (but possible) goals, and impossible to achieve goals. The hard to achieve goals tend to make us the most happy long term, while the easy and impossible ones tend to make us miserable. A sense of responsibility is re…
/r/askTRP15/04/17 11:19 PM
2

Do one legged squats if it's to easy for you. Or hold some paint cans/other household item in your hands while you do it. You won't get a big ass don't worry. Lunges are also effective. Slow and controlled.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 11:16 PM
6

Confide in yourself. Sometimes I turn on my voice recorder on my phone and just talk for 30 minutes. I feel great afterwards. Really helps to work out some internal stuff instead of verbal vomiting to a friend. Get it out loud and speak it. You'd be surprised how well it works.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 11:14 PM
1

This is all true. Bottom line is, OP will still go see his ex one last time. He just came to asktrp for confirmation of his decision. The male hamster is strong sometimes. And despite all of this, if he knew he wasn't going to see her, he wouldn't have asked this question on asktrp. It would be an auto-no. He just wouldn't see her.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 09:58 PM
19

Airbnb.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 09:55 PM
5

This. Froyo is the perfect food to escalate with. You also learn a lot about a person after you see what they put on their froyo.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 09:55 PM
12

Here's the thing. It doesn't matter. She's a plate. Boyfriend or not, she's disposable. Her "boyfriend" could just be one of her plates as well, but it doesn't matter because she's a plate. Don't bring it up with her, that'll likely trigger some unwanted ASD. It's only fun for her when theres plausible deniability. When she realizes she's a slut, then social shame sets in and the blame is on you.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 09:52 PM
5

It's likely that you have a lot of blank space in your day but you're not aware of it because you do automatic activities. Instagram, Facebook, Reddit, these are all things that take up time but we don't notice we do them because it's become a habit. Start using the calendar app on your phone or computer to schedule your day. Once you do that you'll realize you probably have a lot more time then you think you have.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 08:33 PM
2

I personally internalize better by listening to the books. Like many guys here, I read 1 book a week on audible; and usually articles/e-books on the side. If a regular book takes 10 hours for you, an audible book should only take 5 (depending on the book).
/r/askTRP14/04/17 08:30 PM
9

You can't spot reduce (reduce fat in one area). Cardio, weights, and track your calories using MyFitnessPal.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 08:28 PM
6

What's the end goal for you here? Visual stimulation? Why eye-fuck when you can approach and actually-fuck? But side question: where are the best restaurants to go and look at food?
/r/askTRP13/04/17 07:29 AM
6

Underlying message was she was interested in you before and had saw you in the class. She was attracted to you and you made the right move by talking to her. or.... Just flirting and that's her line for every guy.
/r/askTRP11/04/17 07:41 PM
5

If you screw up once, you can almost ALWAYS make a comeback as long as you correct the issue that you failed on before. Exactly. The bounce back rate is insane. One minute my LTR wants to rip my head off, the next minute, she's on her knees. Small mistakes are easily forgiven by women. Just as long as you bounce back strong and correct the way you fucked up (without apology). She'll test you more if there's a continuous amount of mistakes and/or beta-ness shown long term. And eventually, as u/em…
/r/TheRedPill10/04/17 10:45 PM
44

Every day with a woman is a clean slate. Meaning you have to say the same shit, act continuously alpha, and have rock solid frame. She'll expect that and test it every day and every chance she can. It's not enough to do or say something once. You must do it continuously. Women are creatures of impermanence and their attention and memory are fleeting. They are always looking for the "best option", therefore they only want to be with a man who is continuously her best option. That cycle seems to r…
/r/TheRedPill10/04/17 02:41 PM
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This couldn't be more true. Women are the happiest when they are in their feminine. They can only be in that state when they trust that you're a man who can lead her. The childish behaviour she displays is reserved for her alpha male; When she knows you're not going to judge her (like a beta male would) and she trusts that you've got it under control (make decisions, pass tests, fuck her right). "The way of the superior man" is a great book to read on masculine and feminine energy. Takes a red p…
/r/TheRedPill04/04/17 07:07 AM
1

I feel like you could only pull this off if your SMV was really high. Depends on how you say it of course, but probably not the best line to default to.
/r/askTRP30/03/17 08:23 AM
2

This is so menial man. Precious frontal cortex real-estate being occupied by this insignificant manoosha. Delete this from your neural hard drive and don't ever think about it again. She's probably got 50 orbiters messaging her at any point in time. This one Andrew guy is a drop in the ocean. It's all shit testing- hold frame and watch her actions. She'll give signals if she's going to jump ship. Don't focus on her orbiters. Focus on your bench press and your GPA. The women will come. Girls your…
/r/askTRP28/03/17 09:14 AM
3

lietruth-playboy. I can feel this one catching on. Does Reddit let you change your usernames yet? Don't give her a choice. You're not google calendar. If she's into you, she'll cancel her Wednesday flakefest. If she's not into you, it doesn't matter what day of the week it is. You're not in it. She won't outright reject you. She'll suggest another time if she's interested in you.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 09:04 AM
4

Go easy because you're learning? All the more reason to go hard. If you're learning, you need to know the hard truth. Not the easy one. To the question: wait til Sunday to organize a date. Pick a time and a place and tell her what to do. make it easy for her to say yes. You could say something like this on Sunday night: "Hey you. Are you free Tuesday? When she says "bla bla bla Wednesday bla bla Thursday flakey flake flake flaka"... You say: "I'll pick you up at your place Wednesday at 7. Dress …
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:54 AM
3

Move on. Some people are boring and lame. No point in sticking around for their sub-par energy levels. Take your high energy to another human. You're not always going to vibe with everyone. Talk to a large sample of humans and you'll find ones you vibe better with.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 03:47 AM
6

You'll be good to fucking go when you're ready. In the meantime, read the sidebar and don't focus on posting. Focus on learning before you focus on teaching.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 03:42 AM
5

Gym is for lifting. Don't pass on chatting the hunnies up on the way out though. Chit chat, build rapport then get a number.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 03:40 AM
2

You could not respond for a few days... or just call her and ask her out hiking. Where's the win in not calling her? You gotta realize that some of these girls have like 20 dudes vying for their attention in their inbox. You might have just gotten lost in the inbox. Call her and polarize. Stand out from the orbiters. She's not going to pursue you. She's down for hiking, but you just gotta put her on the spot a bit.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 09:20 PM
1

Yeah I agree that after he probably shouldn't be backpedaling. Might still be able to make it work though. Depending on how he frames it. However from the get go, I think it would be effective to be up front.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 09:13 PM
1

What's your reasoning that you wouldn't? What do you think there to lose here from his perspective?
/r/askTRP27/03/17 07:46 PM
3

Fuck this friend. Life is too short for losers like this man. You and I both know that you don't have time for this shit. Why? What's the point of sticking around this low-life gaslighting you all the time when there's normal, healthy, alpha men that you can mentor. Toxic relationships need to be treated accordingly.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 04:57 PM
5

Go to Europe and hit up Prague. Amazing city all around. Cheap for Americans, beautiful women, great food, and rich culture. You'll have a good time. Stop in Barcelona on your way home too.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 04:54 PM
7

Don't play yourself OP. Scaricity mindset can set on when you've been with a girl for long enough. Just consider this. Would she be meeting up with her ex if she was with Brad Pitt (in his day). No. She's being shitty because your behaviour says that's okay for her to be shitty. You teach her how to treat you. You've got to decide if this is a deal breaker for you. And if it is, then act accordingly.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 04:51 PM
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Some guys will disagree with me, but here's the thing. How many women have you actually been with? Say it's 10. Joke around with her ("like including grade school?"). But be straight up. It'll work in your favour as light dread off the bat. Say "10". And nothing else. Keeps it honest, nothing to hide, and in any way she's going to see it as your an experienced guy who knows what he's doing. It'll work in your favour. Trust me.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 04:45 PM
157

Am I right to be a little thrown off by that? Yeah man. This is fucked. Normal women don't do that shit. Head for the hills, big red flag.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 05:06 AM
4

You could lose a bit of weight still. But the thing is, you can do that while approaching girls, lifting, and continuing to better yourself. The Michelangelo is never finished. Get out there and start approaching. Get a good haircut and either shave or grow out your beard. Lookin good man. Keep at it.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 05:04 AM
1

Too broad of a question. Ask a shitty question, get shitty answers. It all depends on what area of your life and what context.
/r/askTRP26/03/17 04:27 AM
1

She wants closure. Making sure she made the right decision. Still probably pair-bonded with you. Either that or she's just trying to stir some shit up.
/r/askTRP26/03/17 04:26 AM
1

What applies in NY also applies everywhere else on the earth. Become a high value man with integrity, work ethic, solid frame, good financial potential, muscular and intelligent. And don't become that for any woman, she'll see straight through you. Become a man worthy of fucking and the roles will be reversed. The women in soho will be asking questions about how to fuck you.
/r/askTRP26/03/17 04:25 AM
13

"Hey you, long time no talk. Let's get together tonight. Pick you up at 7."
/r/askTRP26/03/17 03:08 AM
3

Charisma on command has good stuff on YouTube
/r/askTRP23/03/17 01:35 PM
4

I have to admire your forwardness and boldness here. You'll have way more success with this strategy if you built some rapport first. Polarizing is good but make some small talk- chat for a bit, smile and then make a move. She needs to screen you beforehand. Being so forward, there's no time for her to make decisions. And are her friends around? If so, ASD might be higher.
/r/askTRP23/03/17 07:02 AM
1

Nope
/r/askTRP23/03/17 06:58 AM
1

I use [calm](calm.com) for meditation. And specific strategies I learned in "breaking the habit of being yourself - joe dispenza"
/r/askTRP22/03/17 11:54 PM
9

Meditate 1-3 times a day for bouts of 3-10 minutes. Fresh air and sunshine helps. Lifting and enjoyable activities also take your mind off of whatever is fogging it up too. Find a hobby and get in flow. For me it's basketball 🏀 and guitar.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 07:37 PM
1

Sounds like a plan. Play it out and see how it goes bro. You should be talking to, pursuing and flirting with more then one girl in high school anyway. Don't make women your mission.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 07:35 PM
3

Okay, you don't respond to that since you fucked up. Kissing, sexual attraction, and love is not to be outwardly talked about overtly with women. It's supposed to be a delicate dance of flirting and plausible deniability. When you mention sex or kissing and put conditions to it, she's not going to respond favourably. She's going to put you in the bucket of the men who "don't get it" rather then the men who "get it". Get it?
/r/askTRP22/03/17 07:33 PM
2

Sounds like your girl just needs a bit of direction from you. Lead by example. She's most likely needy and not respecting your time, because you don't fully respect your time. Start keeping a schedule. Tell her your available only in X hours because your pursuing your dream of working on your passion. Good women are generally supportive of a man that's after a goal, and will respect his time accordingly (only if he shows respect for his own time).
/r/askTRP22/03/17 07:29 PM
2

That's her making herself open to you. It's her asking you to lead. Early in a relationship a woman will rarely ask you to do things. That's your role. She will only make herself available so you can pursue her.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 07:26 PM
3

Women love drama, they live for having problems. Problems mean that they can feel again.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 07:24 PM
8

It's going to vary based upon plate or LTR. But generally this is what I go by: Listen, don't judge, and set a limit on it. Let her blab for 10-20 mins about whatever, if you have to give input- then spin it positively. Some empathy but don't go overboard. Whatever you do, don't provide solutions. Women don't want solutions, they want problems. They thrive on drama. Basically be her rock.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 05:08 AM
3

Right, over-investment off the bat. I see what you mean. Certain girls sure, treat like hoes (because they are). Sounds like you need to be more stringent with your screening process... don't cast such a wide net. Narrow it in, and only qualify women you would date/plate. Then treat those women with less investment. Lower inhibition, play back on the nice guy stuff. Be more assertive, dominant and charismatic.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 04:59 AM
2

The title of your post sounds like the next hit rap track. Naming my new Spotify playlist this.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 04:42 AM
13

You'll have very little success if you go 0-100 right away. Foreplay (kissing, touching, rubbing) builds tension and suspense. Warm her up first for 5-15mins; then go for the caveman/sex god method.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 04:38 AM
24

It means she wants to fuck you.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 04:36 AM
3

How is this a problem? See the end result. Vision it. Then go after it. If it's not what you want, re-evaluate. Sounds like you have down what a lot of guys should have down.
/r/askTRP22/03/17 04:35 AM
1

Way of life iOS
/r/askTRP21/03/17 07:29 PM
5

Touching. Light playful touching. Witty banter, eye contact, being a valuable man. Dressing and acting the part. There's no secrets. It's all out there to learn on TRP.
/r/askTRP21/03/17 06:44 PM
1

It's a bit slow at the beginning. Try and listen to it instead of read it. Audible or something. It's a short read anyway and would really benefit you if your having that kind of feeling where you're wearing a mask about things.
/r/askTRP21/03/17 06:11 PM
2

Great metaphor about dancing. Really put things in a different light for me.
/r/askTRP21/03/17 09:01 AM
1

Have you read No More Mister Nice Guy yet? This book would really benefit you.
/r/askTRP21/03/17 08:58 AM
7

Well there's two ways this could be looked at. If he legit looks like her ex, then be like "oh shit, he totally does. Look at that." If he doesn't, then it's a shit test, be like "oh shit he totally does. Look at that." I've learned to just drown out the paragraphs of nonsense that women speak all the time. Don't read to much into it.
/r/askTRP21/03/17 08:57 AM
2

That's a massive question. My daily routine consists of over 23 habits that I track using a habit tracker. Nightly routine consists of sleeping. Zzz
/r/askTRP21/03/17 08:53 AM
9

The question should never be "What does TRP feel about this" when evaluating decisions. It should always be, "what do I feel about this, regardless about how anyone else feels". Learn to trust your gut. Maybe not how you meant it, but made me think of when I used to ask others what they thought of something before I decided to do it.
/r/askTRP21/03/17 08:52 AM
1

All shit tests, just start treating her more like a child. Withdraw attention and affection. Continue dreading (step it up a bit). Hold frame, agree and amplify as much as you can. If she continues to do this, consider breaking it off with her.
/r/askTRP20/03/17 03:47 AM
5

Any advice??? Tie her down!!! In all seriousness, this is probably just her socially victimizing herself. For what benefit? Some women just like looking like injured birds. Respond with: "oh wow, sounds tough..." then change the subject.
/r/askTRP20/03/17 01:19 AM
2

I'd go with an "ok" and then set something up in the future. She was probably just bitchy on that day, and he lost frame/failed the LMR- which made her feel judged. She felt like she was "about to have sex"... instead of it just "happening".
/r/askTRP18/03/17 06:30 AM
1

Benjamin Hardy on Medium has some good stuff.
/r/askTRP18/03/17 06:24 AM
4

What am I doing wrong? You're not escalating enough. Women aren't going to initiate sex with you. It's your job to set that up. They'll make opportunities for you to "open" them (conversation, smiles, touching; body language). The reason you're still a virgin is because you haven't had sex yet. That's your fault and no one else's. Not a big deal either though... don't place your self worth on a single event. It'll happen as you develop into a man.
/r/askTRP18/03/17 06:18 AM
23

Whatever you do, don't call it out. Some women just like to keep you loyal. Nothing to hide so nothing lossed. Just change your password and you're good to go. I wouldn't encourage this behaviour in her, but in this case it was you being careless.
/r/askTRP16/03/17 08:49 AM
1

What field of marketing are you in? https://weworkremotely.com is great for remote work. Had a few friends apply and get hired off of there.
/r/askTRP15/03/17 07:49 PM
1

Gabor Mate has a good talk on this topic. I forget where I heard about it originally, but it's sort of formed into my own thing now. I didn't create it, but I don't remember where the genesis was. Definitely from a book I read in university.
/r/askTRP15/03/17 10:48 AM
1

This should be a whole post in itself. Too many guys trade in owning a Porsche for an occasional drive in an economy rental car. There are so many overlooked truths right here. You don't often hear this real of advice around here, but it's a good reminder why we have endorsed contributors.
/r/askTRP15/03/17 10:43 AM
-1

Say that you're "an avid contributor to a men's awareness and empowerment group"
/r/askTRP15/03/17 02:31 AM
10

Wait til Wednesday night- then say: "Hey girl, pick you up at 5 tomorrow. Wear your laser tag dress." Always assume attraction and assume the date. Don't let her drag you into her flakey frame.
/r/askTRP15/03/17 12:35 AM
7

Discipline and willpower take years to cultivate. You need to see things bigger than yourself and have a vision that is clear. Mostly you're procrastinating out of non- necessity. It's not necessary for you not to. When something becomes necessary, you act differently. Like if you didn't have any food or shelter, you bet that you wouldn't be watching porn all afternoon- you would be outside chopping wood to keep warm. Because it would be necessary to stay alive. Humans love homeostasis. We're ve…
/r/askTRP15/03/17 12:32 AM
1

I'd like to know more about the novel. What's the topic and storyline? How long have you been writing for? What are your challenges in sitting down to write every day?
/r/askTRP14/03/17 10:19 PM
1

Found it: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4dyz86/pornography_addiction_and_erectile_dysfunction/
/r/askTRP14/03/17 10:09 PM
3

What did you do wrong to apologize? There are certain instances where apologies are warrented. Like when you actually DID fuck up and you recognize your mistake. You don't owe this girl anything. Fogging might work well here.
/r/askTRP14/03/17 08:07 PM
1

It was a post about a year back, but I'll link you to it if I can find it.
/r/askTRP14/03/17 06:20 PM
2

You're over thinking it. It might not take a month, it might take a year. And masturbation isn't usually the problem- once a week is fine for that. It's porn that's the problem. Having access to more naked woman at the click of a button than most men would've seen in a lifetime 100 years ago fucks with your brain. There was a post on dopamine this week on the main sub- good precursor to understanding. u/Meat-on-the-table wrote a post on porn that broke it down in a brutally honest way. I read it…
/r/askTRP14/03/17 06:16 PM
4

What's the problem then? Drugs might be a deal breaker for me, doesn't have to be for you.
/r/askTRP14/03/17 06:13 PM
1

Bringing up her ex is a shit test (usually). Probably not worth it TBH. She sounds like she's not into the right things anyway, drugs and alcohol are a red flag to me. But to each their own.
/r/askTRP14/03/17 06:10 PM
20

Sounds like this girl is great. Why give up a 8 or 9 LTR that seems to be sweet, affectionate and hot for you. At the expense of spinning some 7's on the weekends? I have a feeling you think that spinning plates is a fantasy land and you live like a movie star. It's not and it can be a ton of work if your SMV isn't high enough. Nonetheless, a man has to make his own decisions. There's clearly parts your leaving out in the OP- you painted her and your relationship to be perfect. edit: The draw ba…
/r/askTRP14/03/17 06:06 PM
3

Not a TRP issue. Asktrp is a men's forum for sexual strategy, not investment advice perse. But I'll take a stab at your silly question anyway. Bitcoin is more established then one coin or lite coin or doge coin or any other crypto currency. The companies that are using bitcoin have millions in VC investment and a clear business plan for bringing it to the world. See 21.co and coinbase. It was crazy enough that bitcoin got adopted so well into the world. Unlikely it'll happen with another one as …
/r/askTRP14/03/17 06:03 PM
8

Do it when she's semi-alone. Otherwise she'll put up walls and sometimes ASD will turn on- especially if she's conservative. Don't think too much of this. You should be approaching and talking to women already. This is TRP 101.
/r/askTRP14/03/17 05:59 PM
13

Here's what's happening: You've become conditioned to think your computer screen and your hand is sex. So when you go to fuck a real woman, your brain implicitly asks "where's my headphones? What's that smell? Why is there no keyboard in front of me? Where's the other guy?". There was a post about this around a year ago. u/CrackityDiggity broke it down on a bio-psychological level. Here's the post. Try going off masturbation and porn for a month. Then post results.
/r/askTRP14/03/17 05:53 PM
0

What kind of question is this? I can easily find 100 YouTube videos on this exact topic. Obesity is related to many factors. Mostly comprising of affluent health conditions. Overeating, stress, excessive meat & dairy, alcohol, along with a sedentary lifestyle contribute greatly to this.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 09:54 AM
3

Personally I think in the right context that this is a good sign. Rather her be clingy then distant. At least she's still chasing you. Obviously if it's getting out of hand, then just wait a few hours in between replying to texts. Or message her something like "less talk more walk, let's meet tonight."
/r/askTRP13/03/17 09:51 AM
2

I was in Budapest a few months ago with my LTR. Great city. Would go back again. Can't comment on the day gaming, but seems like you know Budapest inside and out. Most of what you said here applies to other cities in Europe too.
/r/TheRedPill12/03/17 11:02 AM
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When you do too many things for a woman, you inherently demonstrate to her that you're not a man of value. Women want to serve a valuable man. They want to do things for him, suck his dick and clean his house. But when you switch roles, you end up confusing her and the woman questions whether she's with the right man. "Why would a valuable man supplicate to me? Is he even a valuable man?" She won't appreciate when you do that because that's her role.
/r/askTRP12/03/17 06:46 AM
7

Every time you smoke weed, burn a $100 bill along with the joint. Then tape a $100 next to your lighter and grinder. You'll stop out of neccessity for going broke. Our brains respond very well to punishment. Even when it's self induced.
/r/askTRP11/03/17 08:33 PM
1

Your welcome man! I just want to max out my chances and to prevent a case where she'll say no... That's why I was thinking about going out before, to "soften" her? Here's the thing. It won't soften her. If anything she'll think you aren't interested in her sexually. The reason you have hesitations about this is you live with roommates and you think she might not be down with that. Which is fair. She might not be. But she also might be- so give it a shot. It's very likely she won't care. If you'r…
/r/askTRP11/03/17 08:34 AM
14

Change locations frequently. The reason they're fizzling about early is because you're talking to much and not leading her enough. Switch up the setting often. Go different places. Less talk more walk. Tell her where to go, what to do, do something fun. Go outside, go inside, go around, leave the party, go to the beach, go to your house, go get ice cream. Women like to be seen. And you're the man that can take her places to be seen.
/r/askTRP11/03/17 08:24 AM
4

This kind of situation is the best one you can have. Wine and movie at your place. Best option. She's DTF already, so your place with some Plausible Deniability is a great option for her.
/r/askTRP11/03/17 08:19 AM
8

Hahahahaha Wow man. This is literally hilarious. Faking a flake and turning it on her. Some fresh levelled up red pill strategy. Well done. I'm not a fan of doing this, just because even though you might get a short term gain, (looking like you bailed and not her) she still bailed. And you're going to look like a flake now, not her. So zero benefit. No hamster spinner. No soft next. Just arrange another meet.
/r/askTRP11/03/17 08:14 AM
2

We can talk all day about the things that don't work. Sure, being a hipster might not work for an indian guy or an asian guy. But being the well-dressed indian guy with a sense of humor and a cool haircut will work. Embrace your strengths. Might matter more in inner-city US then anywhere else. I knew this guy in Eastern Canada who was a indian bartender and had crazy long hair. He was the coolest dude ever and chicks just flocked toward him (when he wasn't at work). Telling guys to lift heavier …
/r/askTRP11/03/17 07:59 AM
1

Depends on your own preferences. But generally a woman who is feminine, sweet, works on her body (lifts), doesn't drink or do drugs, respects you, good looking HB8.5+, low N count, young, submissive. The list goes on.
/r/askTRP11/03/17 02:16 AM
1

That's the way it should be in my opinion. Only pursue the ones your drawn toward. And only do that when you feel like it. I don't see anything wrong with not fucking women if you don't feel like it. 1000 years ago some men would go years and sometimes decades without seeing or fucking a woman.
/r/askTRP10/03/17 11:23 PM
3

Focus on you and building yourself to be a high value man first. While you do this, do things that the person you want to be would do. Go to the same places, gym, sports, and events. You'll be around those thinking the same and after a while you'll make friends with those males you want to make friends with. Make conversation with males you aspire to be like.
/r/askTRP10/03/17 11:06 PM
4

There's zero evolutionary reason for this. It's mostly just a porn fetish that has grown into a fantasy for some people. Some girls are just sluts and want double the d. Usually it's skanky ass girls anyway, never high value women. Seeing it on any other level will complicate things for you.
/r/askTRP10/03/17 11:02 PM
1

No I wouldn't say anything is wrong with you. Are you attracted toward women, or just have indifference about them?
/r/askTRP10/03/17 10:58 PM
3

Ignore them in public and ignore the attempts to contact. She'll eventually get the message. It takes two to make a conversation.
/r/askTRP10/03/17 10:56 PM
2

She wants an orbiter around for comfort and company man. That's all it is. She's not going to fuck you and she isn't interested. She likes the attention. You might... BIGGGG MIGHT. Get some duty sex in like 2-3 weeks. But only to keep you around.
/r/askTRP10/03/17 10:54 PM
11

Go to drop in basketball at your local court. YMCA or something. It's free and you meet tons of dudes that are into working out. Join a dance class - salsa or hip hop. Go to a meetup for something. Generally just approach people and make conversation. Small talk stuff. Talk about the weather. If you vibe, then get their number.
/r/askTRP10/03/17 10:20 PM
3

This isn't a red pill issue. But how many hours do you sleep? What time do you go to bed? What time do you wake up? Too much sleep is over 10 hours a night without reasonable cause. If you're sleeping that much you might have low iron, low vitamin D, or generally not eating enough.
/r/askTRP10/03/17 10:16 PM
1

Keep it playful and fun before then. Set up a meet first. Coffee or something that she won't bail on. Most guys make the mistake of inviting her over to their place right away. That rarely works because she needs to figure out if you're a weirdo or not. Pre screen before the cave. It's an evolutionary thing. You don't have to text at all actually. It's better if you don't. If you must, then keep it mysterious.
/r/askTRP09/03/17 03:06 PM
1

Yeah, see how it goes. Being bold works well with women.
/r/askTRP09/03/17 12:32 AM
-1

Call her. Quit this messaging bullshit. Put her on the spot with an answer. Call her and ask her over Wednesday. You can't expect her to pursue you, or initiate contact. That's not what she'll ever do. She will only make herself available to be 'received'.
/r/askTRP08/03/17 11:56 PM
5

You're trying to pass him a hint to a massive realization that takes months to overcome, without actually talking about the concept. Ignore it. He's butthurt because she's choosing you. Let her choose. He'll figure it out.
/r/askTRP08/03/17 11:27 PM
3

She doesn't seem that into it to be honest. Girls who are super into you, drop whatever they're doing and make their schedule completely open for you. Nothing you can do to lock it down, no point in prodding the subject any more. Can't convince her. Just be abundant about it. Wait til she texts you closer to Friday. If she doesn't, the take the 7. She's probably an easier lay anyways.
/r/askTRP08/03/17 11:38 AM
1

Counter it with better advice then. Contribute, don't denounce.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 11:05 AM
3

100% what you should do OP. This is standard hazing and a massive shit test. You're falling into this dudes frame like it's your job. Move on and start calling yourself the nickname. Then make one up for him. You two are best buds from now on- befriend the guy so much that he can't help but stop calling you the name. Play the game, don't be too sensitive.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 10:53 AM
0

Agree and amplify. If she makes shit up about you, just 10x it. She might say "all my brother does is play video game like 10 hours a day and spend his money on cheetos." You would reply with: "Actually I play video games 30 hours a day and I spend your money on Cheetos not mine. I've been using your bank card to feed my Cheeto addiction for months!" It'll make her look really silly and that her stories are simply inaccurate.
/r/askTRP06/03/17 10:46 AM
3

This woman has BPD. Some women are feisty and just need a strong man to level them out, but it sounds like this one has some attachment issues. She needs to be treated. It stems from a young age and not being able to form strong attachments. Her acting in this explosive unreasonable way is her way of getting attention every time she feels abandoned. Good on you OP for steering clear.
/r/TheRedPill06/03/17 10:35 AM
1

Fixed, thanks for pointing that out. I'm reading the effective executive right now, got it confused.
/r/askTRP05/03/17 05:15 PM
4

Start with these 3: The 10x rule by Grant Cardone. Hard thing about hard things by Ben Horowitz. Zero to one by Peter Thiel. The secret that no one tells you though... is you can read 1000 books... but unless you take action then it's all worthless. The man who knows little but takes action on what he knows, will be more successful than the man who knows a lot but doesn't take any action.
/r/askTRP05/03/17 07:46 AM
1

Great post. I'm joining in here on day 4, and am getting rid of a large garabage bag full of old clothes. Donating them to a local men's shelter in my city. In addition to old clothes, I'll also be getting rid of old files on my laptop that have no use at all. Just taking up space in my mind. Thanks again. Looking forward to tomorrow's.
/r/TheRedPill05/03/17 03:33 AM
1

Touching her. Getting comfortable with her. Welcoming her into your frame. Search polarization on the main sub.
/r/askTRP04/03/17 08:00 PM
8

Yeah, when they're dressed up or matching for no particular reason. Examples: Heels with a short dress to the mall. Usually ovulating. Implicitly they're getting ready for the right man. Also, women who are ovulating have a kind of 'glow' to them. Can't explain it, but after a while you can just tell.
/r/askTRP04/03/17 07:07 PM
3

Builds the tension and attraction. I have a rule that I never break eye contact with anyone until they break with me. She'll likely break before 11 seconds. But if she's really into him, then she'll keep her eyes locked on him. Because she feels that now she's trapped him under her ways.
/r/askTRP04/03/17 10:49 AM
1

Hit new PR this week on bench. 225 for 12 reps. Been working toward that for over a year. Down two pounds this week to 179. Doing a slow cut to aim for 173 by mid May. Took a break from reading asktrp and TRP for a week. Back with a new perspective. Put in hours after work this week and finally completed a new e-commerce business I'm starting. Launching next week. Finished "Essentialism" after seeing it being recommended it by a another man on asktrp. Great book. Great job to everyone else here …
/r/TheRedPill04/03/17 09:16 AM
1

How you normally act. Be charismatic, funny, mysterious. Like your always 'up to something'. Know what I mean?
/r/askTRP04/03/17 08:57 AM
11

Sounds like she was hot and heavy in the moment, feeling ready to give it up to you. And you killed her vibe and the tingles died. Next time be ready with a condom. Tell her to strip for you or hold something while you put it on. It takes like 2 seconds and doesn't kill the mood as bad. Giving her direction here works. Wow though. Innocence at its finest. Good mini field report.
/r/askTRP04/03/17 08:53 AM
3

Seems like you held frame and left. Good call on abundance mentality. Don't fall for the sunken cost fallacy with courting women. It's good that you split, I think staying would have been pandering.
/r/askTRP04/03/17 08:50 AM
1

Don't over think it. Act normally. Just call her and get together. Set up a meeting. Be like "hey you, long time no talk. Let's get together tomorrow at 7. I'll pick you up"
/r/askTRP04/03/17 08:47 AM
2

There's two types of feminism. 1. Equality Feminism: Humans deserve equal political, economical and social rights. Men are humans. Women are humans. Therefore men and women deserve equal political, economical and social rights. 2. Toxic Feminism: Usually the type that we refer to here on TRP. The toxic feminist. Entitled, man hating, manipulative woman who stop at nothing to destroy masculinity. And in turn create a warped reality around gender roles, and pretend they don't exist. Acting like a …
/r/askTRP04/03/17 08:44 AM
7

You need to polarize more. Don't have to kiss on the first date, but you need to at least be touching her. Before you kiss her, stare deep in her eyes. Like you're thinking of fucking her on the washing machine later. Do that for 11 seconds. Then stare at her lips for 2-3 seconds. Then back at her eyes. She'll smile or something, then go in for the kiss. Judge the moment too. Like you'll feel it when it's a good time.
/r/askTRP04/03/17 08:35 AM
1

She'll take it to court and win. Courts always side with the ex-gf when it comes to Spotify account issues. Seen it with uber accounts, airbnb accounts and many others. Sad.
/r/askTRP03/03/17 09:29 AM
16

Brad Pitt, fight club. Mark Walberg in the 90's. Muscular and lean. Think V taper. Google them.
/r/askTRP02/03/17 06:29 PM
4

Modern day break ups. Spotify account issues. Who has custody of the account?
/r/askTRP02/03/17 01:19 AM
1

I'd thought this as well before I tried it. In theory it doesn't sound like it would be effective, but in practice it's enormously effective. Burning the money seems to give your willpower a boost. I see your point of that what if you just throw in the towel and add this failure to the pile of shame. Sure, there's that option. But if you follow through on burning the money, it conditions your brain not to do X bad habit due to the punishment. I wanted to start getting up at 5am so if I didn't ge…
/r/askTRP01/03/17 08:55 PM
2

When you apply it, you'll remember. The best way to learn a language is to emerse yourself in that language and speak it every day. As for your friends, just own your positive changes. If they bring it up, just agree and amplify.
/r/askTRP01/03/17 10:02 AM
3

Intermittent fasting is what it's called. Works well for fat loss and raising your testosterone. Supposedly it's closer to our evolutionary eating schedule as humans. Having a shorter eating window. I normally do a 6-8 hour eating window and 18-16 hour fast.
/r/askTRP28/02/17 06:48 AM
1

Not to good to be true. Sometimes women aren't sluts. Could be a lie, could be truth. She has no reason to lie outright to you about not having past bf's. Is she LTR material? Since she's hesitating about sex it shows that she could be a virgin. One way to find out I suppose.
/r/askTRP28/02/17 06:45 AM
1

How long are the messages? Like 30 words, or like 300 words?
/r/askTRP28/02/17 06:40 AM
3

Try a cup of black coffee, and a litre of water. If not, preworkout works well for charging me up before the gym.
/r/askTRP28/02/17 06:37 AM
2

That would also work. Good suggestion. The stakes need to be high enough to make real, lasting life changes. Punishment just happens to be a great motivator for humans. Works very well. Even if it's self induced.
/r/askTRP28/02/17 06:35 AM
2

Yes. It legitimately works. The main reason people don't follow through on there goals are the "stakes" aren't high enough. It's not necessary to stop watching porn, eat healthy, or cut out video games. But what if every time you did that, $100 was taken from your bank account. You'd think much more carefully about your actions.
/r/askTRP28/02/17 06:28 AM
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Haha that's effective and also final. But probably won't work for most people- because suicide is something that most wouldn't follow through on. $100 is enough of a cost to solidify that if your going to watch porn, you'll have to burn that bill. If you don't do it, then you'll have to live with the reality that you are not a man of your word. Fundamentally, the human brain is wired for punishment and reward. Money is something most of us highly value, and works effectively in creating a habit …
/r/askTRP27/02/17 11:47 PM
12

Exactly. But if you don't burn it, then what kind of man are you for not keeping your word? You'd only be lying to yourself. By framing it in that sense, it gives a stronger sense of ownership.
/r/askTRP27/02/17 10:02 PM
1

Sounds like your building a ton of skills at the same time, which is great. Try and start a business or study in the meantime. Get ahead on your midterms and start studying for finals. Maybe turn that 20 minutes per activity into 60 minutes per activity. Meal prep, set 1 month, 3 month, and 6 month goals. Start writing, read a book. Join a drop in basketball league at your courts... or a meetup group. Getting out there socially will help fill a lot of your time.
/r/askTRP27/02/17 08:27 PM
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Good man. To make it concrete, write yourself a contract and sign it with conditions. Then tape a $100 bill and a lighter right next to it and put it up on your wall where you can see it every day. If you break the contract and agreement (watch porn or play video games), you have to burn the $100 bill. Great strategy and legitimately works.
/r/askTRP27/02/17 08:22 PM
9

Sounds like this is a concern with your personal self esteem. Your inhibition is amplified around others, you feel judged and inferior. Try to start conversations without a "goal" in mind. Just for the sake of chatting. Small talk first, then just speak what comes to mind- even if it's silly. A book that helped me with this was "The Charisma Myth" and "The Six Pillars of Self Esteem". Essentially you need to realize that you are a human, and everyone else you interact with are humans. We all hav…
/r/askTRP27/02/17 06:51 PM
5

No one can help you overcome your own quest. That's like asking another man, "help me deadlift this weight". If he helps, it's not my deadlift, and I don't get stronger, he does. The information is out there on TRP. You can choose to accept it or not. Be bitter at the truth, or smile because you're now smarter then you once were. "Swallowing the pill" is as simple as that.
/r/askTRP25/02/17 10:38 PM
1

If she's over 25, then it's wall approaching sluts that are looking to lock down a provider. Letting you know she's sexually promiscuous off the bat is a cunning technique to coax you into pursuing her. Red flag. Under 25 and she's just a slut. I find it very unattractive when women talk openly about sex. After reading TRP for 2 years I've come to enjoy the push-pull dance between the feminine and masculine energies. Plausible deniability, courting, leading etc.
/r/askTRP25/02/17 08:01 AM
1

It is legit. Some women have a very sensitive facial epidermis. Doesn't matter as much as you think it does though. She's probably just expressing herself. Just take it with a grain of salt.
/r/askTRP25/02/17 07:56 AM
21

Drake is referring to the oxytocin high after ejaculation. Oxytocin is a neuropeptide that releases during and after sex that helps us bond emotionally to other humans. Insert Drake the type... joke here In my experience it's certainly not the "realest point in a mans life" by any means. If it is, then you've got to start doing realer shit.
/r/askTRP25/02/17 07:50 AM
2

Wow. That's a long time man. Pays off! Wayne's work is red pill before the red pill existed. He takes the politically correct point of view a lot of the time (obviously). However his content and opinions reflect so much of the content in the community here. The 3% man is a breezy read, 2 hour e-book. Definitely like to hear your take on it if you get a chance to read it.
/r/askTRP23/02/17 05:37 PM
2

Wanted to point out that your writing style is very much like Corey Wayne's. Conversational, and easy to ready. He has a well known blog and is the author of the 3% man (which I'm sure you've read before).
/r/askTRP23/02/17 05:21 PM
1

That sounds like a flat out lie for a cop out to approach a girl. Almost like you're mustering up an excuse to talk to her. So badly that you have to lie to her about a dog dying. Can't a man have genuine interest and open a woman through his honest masculine integrity? Don't listen to everything on that Seduction sub. There's some good posts, but they're far in between.
/r/askTRP23/02/17 05:14 PM
12

Same goes for university level evolutionary psychology textbooks as well. Many of these books have blatant red pill truths backed by scientific evidence. There are entire volumes written solely on the topics of adaptable mating practices in humans. AF/BB
/r/TheRedPill23/02/17 09:37 AM
2

Create your own frame and attitude and live inside that. Be the guy that the girls and guys gravitate toward because you have an infectious enthusiasm and aura about life. The man who smiles whether it's raining or sunshine. Whether he's experiencing pleasure or in pain. Your friends will fall into a woman's frame to attempt to impress her. This will work for a little bit, but she'll get bored when she realizes he's a pushover. Despite what the other guys are doing- do you. Don't change your att…
/r/askTRP23/02/17 09:10 AM
6

Yes. Any physical contact initiated on her part is a good sign. She wouldn't do it if she was disinterested.
/r/askTRP23/02/17 08:54 AM
3

I have no experience with the online dating scene. Been in an LTR for the last 3 years. But from a core perspective, just have photos that explain who you are more. Not generic ones, but you doing things that you normally do. Photos that show you're the guy who "gets it".
/r/askTRP22/02/17 05:07 PM
6

Don't scold her directly here. Give her the benefit of the doubt this one time. Calling out her behaviour won't do anyone any favours. Women communicate covertly. Ignore she said it, and be like "coffee tonight? My place, 7pm." If she does it in the future, then withdrawal communication and pursue other women.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 04:57 PM
10

Explaining why I did X when I was hiking with a friend Don't take the literal meaning here. It means, don't DEER. Defend, Explain, Excuse, Rationalize. You don't have to justify a reason for every action you take. Let others make their assumptions. Your actions speak for themselves.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 04:54 PM
5

"You're nothing like I expected." She wouldn't have said this if she thought lowly of you after meeting you. She's surprised, "in a good way". Women usually put men in two buckets. The men who get it, and the men who don't. She thought you were in the second bucket. Turns out you're in the first. Pleasantly surprised... "you're nothing like I expected!".
/r/askTRP22/02/17 04:52 PM
1

You've got this block in your head that's stopping you from expressing your masculine instincts. Not sure if that's because of shame, anxiety, or confidence problems (could be all 3). I was you before. A few years ago I was the man boy who used to apologize to the clerk for her giving me the wrong change. This is no simple issue. It takes months of breaking out of your shell. Realizing that you are a man. And a man is the best thing you can be on this planet. Elliot Hulse on YouTube has a lot of…
/r/askTRP22/02/17 04:42 PM
1

Orbiter. All women have them. Good you held frame. There's nothing you can do. Watch her actions
/r/askTRP22/02/17 04:24 PM
1

That has nothing to do with you though. On your side, you're lending him 20K and your return rate is 150%. His fathers money is his, but the money you lend to him is yours. What he does with the money is irrelevant. Best of luck man.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 04:19 PM
1

True, or his inexperience which is more likely. Young guy, rich family, not a lot of deals behind him.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 04:15 PM
2

50% is correct. "Half for me and half for you bro!" He'll take it. Who's going to turn down 10k? It's insulting that he said 2%.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 04:11 PM
3

Good points. 80% seems high though. It's unlikely he'll go with that. Jumping from 2% to anywhere from 20-50% is more reasonable. He's got no other options, and either he takes the 1 day investment, and you both get 10K or he doesn't.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 04:05 PM
1

Everyone's telling you no, but consider this. Negotiate a higher payout. Say 50%. He has no other options. Also know the risk. He could walk with your 20K.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 04:02 PM
7

Is it common for people to have this mixed view of you? Or is it the first time? Seems like your current self is congruent with who you think you are. Women will say that when they're attracted to you. What it means is "I put you in the beta category, but you're actually in the alpha one. Good"
/r/askTRP22/02/17 03:58 PM
4

Official Trp career counsellor here. Take the job. It sounds better than your old job in every way. Don't doubt yourself. Take it.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 03:51 PM
1

Sure, it's good practice. Ethics isn't a concern here. If the action is within human will and it's not harming anyone, then usually it's a good action. Treat all women the same. Young girls, old ladies, kids, they're all children at the core of it.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 03:48 PM
2

https://reddit.com/r/theredpill is a great place to start.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 09:11 AM
1

Not sure how much more specific I can be without going into depth. That's two sentences. You asked for a general breakdown, and now you want specifics. I suggest you read through the 367 more pages if you want specificity.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 09:08 AM
1

Reclaiming your masculinity. Specifically as it relates to sexual strategy and self improvement. It requires work, lifting, and reading.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 09:05 AM
7

Depends what you choose to care about. If you don't give a fuck about what people think and live your own life, you'll do fine. If you stop giving a fuck about sleep, food and water, then you die.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 09:04 AM
5

If she's really into you, she'll come to dance class alone one day. When she does, approach her and gauge interest. It's unlikely she's going to cuck her boyfriend in public. And if you approach when he's around, 9/10 times she's going to reject you.
/r/askTRP22/02/17 09:01 AM
12

I understand your point, but correlation doesn't always equal causation. Surely we can attribute some of the testosterone decline to the eradication of the masculine man. But even though divorce/custody rates show a negative correlation to testosterone levels, it's not a causal relationship. Studies show that testosterone levels have been lowered through 2 generations from causes like: diabetes, sedentary lifestyle, abdominal obesity, sexual dysfunction, depression and other affluent health cond…
/r/askTRP22/02/17 07:37 AM
1

You've gotta be high value enough for her to not feel like a slut. She knows what's up when she's going to the motel, and she'll do it with Chad on the first date. It'll vary from girl to girl. Some girls might be down with it, others won't and will have high ASD. Probably works best with a FWB rather than a ONS.
/r/askTRP21/02/17 06:47 AM
2

You don't need motivation. You need dicipline. I lost 35 lbs in 6 months. Tracked calories every day using fitness pal. Strength and muscle gains went up. Cut out dairy and beef. HIIT cardio every day. 175 and shredded now. You can do it too. Start instead of thinking about it. Take action man. Analysis paralysis.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 07:17 PM
1

Re read your post. That's why I think she's playing games. She won't contact you. Call her and meet up at your place.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 07:12 PM
1

Yeah she's playing games. Play them back. Don't kiss her, but do everything else to escalate. Touching her everywhere etc. After I while she'll be the one wanting to kiss you.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 06:37 PM
2

Agreed, Duolingo isn't challenging enough. Even when you fail it, you pass. Yeah, pick up a French textbook from a university. They give the old ones out for free at the bookstore. Tim Ferriss has a great language learning strategy as well.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 06:36 PM
3

I've found it very helpful. Especially for free. You need to couple it with reading French, watching English movies with French subtitles, and writing/speaking.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 06:24 PM
3

Seems to be giving you some token LMR. Doesn't look like any shit tests are accompanying it though. Could have her period or a yeast infection. Try and play back a bit and let her come onto you. Push-pull your advances.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 06:20 PM
4

It won't translate in this context. Imagine me approaching a girl and pulling a knife out of my pocket saying "I will protect you!!". It wouldn't fare well. Why do you think your different then any other man? I know guys who are ugly as shit- then lifted for 3 years and now get approached by women (and men) all the time. Work hard in the gym, you'll get there.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 06:19 PM
3

Women are drawn away from terror and fear. Actually most people are. We have an Amygdala for a reason. To protect us from people with 8 inch knives in their coat. Not sure how this is going to help your game. Put the knife away and dress in a fashionable way and you'll do just fine.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 06:09 PM
5

This is usually people who aren't confident eating around others. No person in TRP will ever tell you not to eat in front of a woman. Who the fuck cares? You're a human. Are you both going to hold back your sneezes and coughs too? To what end?
/r/askTRP17/02/17 06:04 PM
14

Man, it sounds like your life has been very inconsistent. You need some stability. It's either a total high or a total low with you it seems. Get somewhere above water and stay there for a bit. Join a gym, get outside, breathe the air, roar like a man. Fuck the basement and video games. That shits not real. Do it on Friday nights with your friends. Create a life better than any one of those fantasy worlds. And sustain that. That dark side your seeing is your masculine energy needing to release i…
/r/askTRP17/02/17 08:59 AM
7

Delete the app from your phone. Change your password to an unknown combination of characters and numbers then deactivate your account. You'll never get back in. Then profit.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 08:40 AM
16

Ask yourself, what's your vision for the relationship? Then tell her your vision. Seems like you're not wanting marriage but still want to have her around. So say "I'm not thinking about marriage at this point. Just want to enjoy our time together."
/r/askTRP17/02/17 08:36 AM
2

What I see here is you explaining complaining about all this shit you can't change. Uncontrollable variables is what I call them. You can't control them. Height is fixed, no father figure is fixed, your shitty past is fixed. Focus on what you can change. Focus on your mind, your body, your relationships with friends. Read "Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself" and "Meditations by Marcus Aurelius". Those books will show you how to think differently and how to live a good life. You're a man. And a…
/r/askTRP17/02/17 08:31 AM
8

Well, I don't agree with your decision. But nonetheless you made it. As for the car ride conversation, be cool. Be sort of mysterious, talk slowly and clearly, make smirks, ask about her. Normal shit. I'd keep it light. Hope it goes as you expect it to.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 08:28 AM
2

Where's the loss? Give her a call. I mean don't spam her phone, but call her and invite her out for a good time. Nothing to lose.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 08:14 AM
2

Yeah that's the way it should work. You have that internal drive and confidence because your motivated as a man to procreate and spread your seed. You're not spilling it on pixelated women as frequently.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 06:54 AM
45

The way you handled it was perfect. You don't have to say the perfect one liner, act mellow dramatic and sad for 5 seconds then carry on and escalate at a different time.
/r/askTRP16/02/17 02:31 AM
3

Don't even bother having sex if your penis isn't at least 9" long. Not even worth it. She won't even feel it. Penis size is the only thing that matters in TRP. /thread
/r/askTRP14/02/17 09:34 AM
1

Anything by John Mayer is pretty groovy and people like.
/r/askTRP14/02/17 09:32 AM
1

That's the point. Women like to pre-screen you. Low investment, ASD is low, and it's just coffee if she feels like she's not into you.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 11:06 PM
2

I'll add that book to my list this month. Thanks for your insight man.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 07:38 PM
2

Can't put my finger on anything lately. But occasionally in the last 6 months it's been things like: "I don't like it when you don't text me all day." "I would really appreciate it if you made more time for me" "I don't like it when you go on business trips without me. You should take me" I think it's mostly attention based stuff. I've been prioritizing my business and haven't made time for her. It's fairly rare, but recurring so it's difficult to fog her every time.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 07:32 PM
2

Hahaha. Thanks for the field report. Almost spit out my coffee laughing. A good reminder that I need to brush up on my fogging with my LTR. There's times when A&A just doesn't cut it. The one gripe I have, is when she'll inevitably say "I don't like it when you do X... stop doing X". By just always acknowledging that on surface level, and pushing it under the rug- it'll keep repeatedly coming up. Just keep putting fog in these cases too?
/r/askTRP13/02/17 07:11 PM
1

Great explanation. Never heard this perspective before. Could you expand on your experience/struggle with it has been?
/r/askTRP13/02/17 06:59 PM
3

When you do this, do you do it in an apologetic way? Or expand on it all? Example "You're right, I don't listen to you". Then later add "That's something I need to work on.".
/r/askTRP13/02/17 06:54 PM
2

Spot on. This shows way less investment and plausible deniability then a drink. It's non-assuming. Move on and pursue younger, single women.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 06:52 PM
2

Hold frame. That's how you deal with it. Do not DEER. Defend, Explain, Excuse, Rationalize. You're making positive change, becoming a better man. Stick to the journey (don't talk to your wife about it). Read top level posts and sidebar for a few months before you post here or in the main sub.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 10:20 AM
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Don't go to university or college- instead, save your money and pursue that type of education you are interested in outside of an institution. Start a business. Whatever you fear the most, chase that. Lift. Learn a martial art. Read a book a week. Foster your male friendships. Lead your woman- make choices for her. Don't get into credit card debt. Stop watching porn. Sleep 8 hours a night. The list is a mile long. I'm 24 now, but had I known this when I was 20, I would've been a wiser, richer, b…
/r/askTRP13/02/17 10:14 AM
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99% not interested. The shit test "edge" would've been her saying: "okay but just as friends though" (ASD). Which you would've replied to with "best friends." (plausible deniability). In this case, option one would be to yank her orbiter-fishing-net out of the waters and put it all out on the line with: "Not looking for any new friendships. I'll see you when I see you girl. Take care." People are generally loss-averse. She may react to this. Or she may not. Either way, you have nothing to lose. …
/r/askTRP13/02/17 10:01 AM
3

It's possible. Not always the case, it's usually the exception to the rule. Some may disagree. She might like the new found you and learn to respect you. But she'll never forget the man you were. Women don't forget anything. Nothing.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 06:26 AM
1

Put your shoes on, your shorts on, then go outside and start walking. The motivation will come to you. Get in motion. Start acting and the motivation comes.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 03:06 AM
6

Get over it man. If you're a confident man in yourself, then who gives a fuck what she does. She's getting validation from orbiters, good for her. Be glad your not in that category.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 03:05 AM
4

Bottom two lines sound like you're searching for some sort of validation. Scrap those immediately. If you're getting negative responses and there are no IOI's then it's hard to judge what the issue is. Chalk is up to SMV if you're experiencing rejections. In general if your SMV is high enough you can open almost any woman. But be a happy go lucky, chill, masculine male and you'll do alright.
/r/askTRP11/02/17 11:38 PM
3

Breaking the Habit of being yourself - Joe Dispenza The way of the superior man - David daeda
/r/askTRP11/02/17 07:46 PM
27

Any job that hires after the first interview is a red flag. Usually companies that hire fast, also fire fast. Watch out for that. Stay with your current firm. You got a huge pay bump and way more cred and bonus from your boss. That big project will give you way more leverage in applying for another job later on.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 06:26 PM
4

She's not interested. Pursue other women. She's not the last one on earth. She's not interested, and has a bf. Minimal contact. She'll come around.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 06:23 PM
17

Lose weight.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 01:31 AM
1

Well. Suggest a date- sooner the better. You hold the cards because she flaked. Do it on your schedule. You could say, "wowwww girl. You owe me! Tomorrow. You. Me. 7pm. Starbucks." Keep it playful and fun. Not needy, but banter and flirting as much as you can.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 01:20 AM
3

Reschedule. Shit comes up sometimes. One time occurance, hold frame and let it pass. If it happens again, then don't be so understanding. You could tease her about flaking bla blah, "I waited for you for 5 hours, wore my favourite suit. That's not how to treat a lady!!" Take it lightly. You're an abundant man with all the time in the world. If she can't make it, another girl will.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 01:12 AM
1

Sure. Arrange the drink. What's the problem? See where it goes. She's wall approaching though, so watch for that. Go pursue women your age- younger, hotter, and probably easier to deal with as well.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 01:08 AM
13

Yes of course! Don't you trust her???
/r/askTRP09/02/17 07:14 PM
8

Yes. Usually by a few inches- slows down until you're 21. Sleep lots, eat lots, and exercise lots.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 06:57 PM
7

That's great advice. Judging by your post, you've already given up. If you hadn't then the apathy in the OP wouldn't be so prevelant. Get out of here and approach women. Get rejected. Stop staring at your ex. If you haven't given up, then get out and fucking prove it then.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 06:51 PM
2

My advice is to hold frame. Don't bring it up again. She's not going to jump ship for an intern, and if she does, then you saved yourself years of trouble. Ask the question again she meets up with twice.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 06:40 PM
26

Act mellow-dramatic, sullen and depressed for a period of 5 seconds. Then smile a shit-eating grin and move on.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 06:37 PM
3

Good for holding frame about it. Don't let her see that you're concerned. Mate guarding doesn't work. Seems like a professional meeting- obviously she was texting you throughout. If it was anything more than that, she would have hid it from you and told her she was "going out with the girls". How was she dressed that night?
/r/askTRP09/02/17 06:34 PM
1

Good for holding frame about it. Don't let her see that you're concerned. Mate guarding doesn't work. Seems like a professional meeting- obviously she was texting you throughout. If it was anything more than that, she would have hid it from you and told her she was "going out with the girls". How was she dressed that night?
/r/askTRP09/02/17 06:32 PM
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u/Archwinger is not saying this to insult you. But to evoke some emotion in you. To realize that this is a bitch question. You're worrying about shit way too much and not applying enough. Instead of negating the great advice he gave you, put your inflated ego down and follow it. You asked a question on asktrp and got a great answer. Feel blessed and fucking take action on the advice with a god damn smile.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 06:29 PM
1

Like anything worthwhile... there's no easy way out. Read books. It will increase your overall knowledge and make you more relatable. Psychology, philosophy, stoicism, self development. Get an Audible or kindle subscription and read a book a week.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 05:19 AM
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There's no point. Mostly it will label you as a chauvinist. It's like trying to convince a religious person there's no god. You'll just be going in circles because of the sheer denial and loss of reason.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 03:58 AM
1

Yeah either she has his best interest at heart, or it's a massive shit test/control game. OP, why doesn't she like it?
/r/askTRP09/02/17 03:40 AM
3

Yeah I agree. Saying "man up" and "be a man" has a loaded connotation around these parts. For a good reason: It's lost its meaning. It's not the duty as a man, but as you said- for a good LTR it's going to be necessary.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 03:37 AM
1

Agreed. If she knows your invested and pandering over her, she holds the cards and you'll always fall into her frame.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 03:29 AM
1

Remove "cheating", and my point still stands. He wouldn't be posting on asktrp is there wasn't an issue here. Don't have to see eye to eye on everything. But I'm curious, what's your perspective?
/r/askTRP09/02/17 03:25 AM
1

Certainly not. Looking at OP's past, it's not conducive behaviour to a good relationship (plate or LTR) with ANY woman. He's lost frame multiple times, cheated, and physically abused her. Not going to moralize that, but to me, that doesn't look like behaviour of an alpha male.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 03:16 AM
1

Judging by the tone of the post, OP wants to stay (he didn't mention leaving). OP is better off starting over with someone new Sure he is. 10/10 what he should do. It's going to be much harder for him to build himself in this relationship as she already doesn't trust him and wants him to change.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 02:27 AM
0

I'm talking principles. Whether a woman is 17 or 35 TRP will work effectively. There may be socio-cultural differences in your age group, sure- I'll give you that. Humans are humans though. And despite social media, high school norms, or anything else- mating practices remain consistent.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 02:13 AM
4

"What makes you think I like you?!" Shit test, pressure flip it. Now she's on her toes.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 01:57 AM
2

Don't buy her flowers because she asks for them. Only ever do acts of comfort because you truly desire to do so. She'll know the difference and one feels very contrived. Getting her a flower or a small gift once in a while will make her heart swoon for you. Women are gentle creatures and need a strong man to balance them out. Yeah you're right, it feels like an ultimatum. But consider this: you can frame all these changes gradually as your own. You don't have to fall into her ultimatum. What you…
/r/askTRP09/02/17 01:55 AM
4

Sounds like a great girl. Not all women are shitty. Some are better than others. Watch her behaviour though. What she says and what she does are very different. She is also a women, she is also hypergamous.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 01:49 AM
0

All TRP principles apply at most ages of a mans life. You're not an exception because you're in high school. Search asktrp for the keyword "high school".
/r/askTRP09/02/17 01:44 AM
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She's not asking you to be a "good little beta boy". She's asking you to be a man. You even admitted you've been shitty to her. Own up and realize you need to make some improvements. You don't have to placate to do this, but it sounds like you've got some work to do in growing as a man. Realize in LTR's it's a balance between dread and comfort. Alpha and beta. Usually an 80/20 alpha beta split.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 01:41 AM
1

What? There's no context here. No one is dehumanizing women on TRP. Females are humans, as are males.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 01:19 AM
11

Hug her. Don't talk or try and reason with her. Hold her and let her cry in your chest. She needs you to be her rock and hold frame. Don't cry with her. Don't try and explain or make it better. Just hug her. Within a few minutes of hugging me and crying, my LTR is smiling. She'll work it out in her own mind or with her gf's.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 01:16 AM
7

She's 30. Her clock is ticking. Of course she wants to settle down soon. Women want stability. Dualistic mating strategy. She's needs a provider soon. This might unpopular or considered moralizing... but if you don't want to marry her, then do the girl a favour and tell her that. She's got a window to have kids in. Don't lead her on thinking she's going to settle down, when you've got other plans. Fine when they're 20, but 30, her window is approaching. Let billy beta settle down with her.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 01:08 AM
1

If you want to see her daily, go ahead. But attraction is built when you're not around her too. It builds mystery and tension.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 01:06 AM
3

Yeah it's okay. You're doing way too many trump memes. I can't even see the reason to do ONE trump meme. Should've got her number or set up a meet instead of Facebook.
/r/askTRP09/02/17 01:05 AM
13

Be the best man you can be and you'll always have options.
/r/askTRP08/02/17 12:28 AM
3

Context is a huge component here. If it's a push pull banter type of conversation, then answer in an elusive mysterious way. "I'm just a sailor sailing the blue seas out looking for my treasure". Or whatever witty callback humor you can use. If it's an honest, open conversation then answer at face value. Tell them about yourself. Works for both male and female. Be genuine.
/r/askTRP08/02/17 12:21 AM
6

Nice work on the emails. That's a new approach. Looks like a classic case of "Plausible Branch Swinging Becky". Shopping around for a new BF while pretending not to look like a slut. Tread lightly around the topic OP, pretend it doesn't exist and keep it plausible.
/r/askTRP08/02/17 12:16 AM
2

Great answer. OP, listen to this man. I'm a philosophy grad, definitely don't have what it takes for Med School. Dicipline and the right habits will get you there.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 11:50 PM
3

Not in med school, but have a close colleague who is. Do your undergrad in sciences first. You very well might change your mind. Advice: Study for your MCAT's for at least 6 months. Learn about Modafinil. And be prepared for a long journey.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 10:45 PM
5

Okay, so do that then. Message your heart out to her. See how that works out. Then learn from it. Alternatively, you could set up a meeting, then escalate and see where it goes. She's with another man right now, but women are the choosers. She's interested in you, so let her choose.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 10:34 PM
1

Nope. Tell her what to do.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 10:07 PM
2

Why not? You've already got a reason. She doesn't need to know the whole game plan. Actually it's best if it's left to mystery anyway. For all she knows, you're in her city all the time, and your best friend lives on 6th street.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 09:38 AM
3

She's making herself available to you. Watch her actions, not her words. Doesn't matter what she says. She's clearly putting herself out there. Keep pursuing her; ask her out again. She'll likely say yes this time. Say something like "Hey girl, I'm grabbing coffee on 6th street, meet me there at 7". That's plausible enough for her to have a small risk of looking like a slut for potentially dating two guys.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 09:13 AM
8

Agree and amplify works best. Don't fall into his frame. Hold your gaze. If they're being passive aggressive then answer the question at face value (instead of the one he's implying without saying it). Smile and live your own frame. The person who holds their frame longer will always create reality around them.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 09:19 PM
1

This is the right answer OP. Don't apologize for doing nothing wrong. You don't owe them fast replies or anything else. I have friends I don't talk to for months- pick up where we left off.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 09:15 PM
2

Same way you deal with female shit tests.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 09:11 PM
2

Smile back. If you are attracted to her then approach her. She's smiling because she's opening herself for you. It's a window to go talk to her. IOI for sure.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 09:11 PM
4

There are many studies like this. There are many disproving it. It's important to look at a large range and make educated decisions. The consensus in the scientific community is IF raises your testosterone. There's always going to be a study here or a study there saying something different. Look closely at the variables in the study.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 06:14 PM
2

Did it work?
/r/askTRP06/02/17 09:56 AM
7

Sounds like she wants to bang to me. I mean, girls that don't want to bang usually don't walk into another mans cave who will surely bang her. But gauge her interest nonetheless. If there's no attraction there and she's not responsive to your advances, then play it back. You'll know if she wants to fuck by what she's wearing when she shows up. Sometimes it's a big giveaway. Not always, but sometimes.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 09:36 AM
1

Let me clarify. Show interest, (asking her out, touching, escalating, eye contact, building attraction) but don't explicitly state your interest. Remain aloof and mysterious about where she stands with you. Push pull type of thing. FB seems like the best bet here.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 09:25 AM
8

Are you interested in her sexually? Or is this a strictly travel thing? Any girl that invites herself over, is pretty interested in you.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 09:11 AM
1

Don't show all your cards. You can express interest without being pandering. Obviously keep the attraction mysterious and keep her guessing, but it's important to show some interest so she knows that you're into her. She's not going to make the first move. Attraction has already been established here- like you said, clock is ticking. Ask her out today, for tomorrow on your rest day. She sounds like she's always around beta men. So make sure you tell her what to do and lead as much as you can.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 09:09 AM
5

Right, but are all Indians creepy? Surely some are not creepy. Shah Rukh Khan wouldn't be creepy. You're not creepy either. Don't live the stereotype. Stand out. Polarize.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 09:02 AM
5

I am afraid to approach due to the fear of coming across as creepy. Ask yourself, why would you come across as creepy? You're a man, interested in pursuing a woman. This is how humans evolve. It's only creepy if you make it creepy. Don't create a bad frame around it. That's half the battle. Have an abundant attitude and carefree demenor and women will be drawn toward that. I've watched a homeless man approach a HB9 on the streets and he made it hilarious and funny. Had a crowd around him. Charis…
/r/askTRP06/02/17 08:53 AM
1

You did good. Scrap 1-5 and create a 6. Call or text her and meet up for coffee at your place. Don't make an excuse that she needs her stuff. You want to make it explicit that you're interested in her. Good way to gauge her interest. Seems like she was into you the second half of the night anyway. Sounds like you've been reading and applying TRP for a while. So you know the drill on escalating and all that.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 08:47 AM
3

So I'm understanding that she's great and all, super into you, total doll, but the sex is hell. She's pushing for commitment to go to "the next step". But you've got 2 other bitches on the line. Do you want to be exclusive with her?
/r/askTRP06/02/17 08:43 AM
2

This could be because she's gauging your interest. Shit test most likely. Hot and cold games man. Are you in high school? High school girls do this.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 08:11 AM
3

I can't give you a quick and dirty guide on how to succeed with women. You need to learn just like everyone else. TRP doesn't work when you take tidbits here and tidbits there. The whole is different than the sum of its parts. Spend an hour (read:week) or two, read top veteran posts on escalating, and the sidebar on ASKTRP if you haven't already.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 08:10 AM
3

She's playing a game. It's called push pull. She's super hot for you one day. Then the next she's cold. Play along. It'll be fun for her. Keep leading her on, sounds like she's crazy into you. Escalate next time, she's literally asking you to.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 07:48 AM
1

As long as your body has sufficient resistance
/r/askTRP06/02/17 04:46 AM
1

Good man. If you want to put on lean mass, start going in a higher rep range 8-15 reps and high volume workouts. Keep strength training 1-2 days per week.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 06:36 PM
1

Lift: for hypertrophy, 8-15 rep range, high volume workouts. Work in 1-2 strength days a week. Sleep: 8 hours per night. Stop eating at 8pm. Diet: Increase your calories by 300-500 daily. You weight multiplied by 20, is usually what you need to gain size. Tons of YouTube videos on lean mass phases. Omar Isuf is a good place to start.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 06:33 PM
8

Your excitement is probably at a 9, when it should be at a 7. Try taking deep breathes to calm yourself while you're inside her. Otherwise, just chalk it up to her being "so good at making you cum", and continue to pursue her.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 06:30 PM
3

Lean and muscular. At any age. Don't dirty bulk, you'll just end up looking fat for a few months. Do a lean mass phase and gain 5-10 lbs over the course of 2-5 months.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 06:27 PM
1

Great progress man. Try and get that weight up a bit. When you do- a lot of your lifts will increase. Bump your calories to 3000-3500. That's how much you need to eat to gain size.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 06:21 PM
1

I can attest to this. A few years ago when I was 19, I was taking them for PE. Couldn't ejeculate if my life depended on it. She would orgasm on top 3 times, and still nothing. Not worth the side effects and health risk though. Long term solutions are more efficacious.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 06:15 PM
3

First man on here who actually takes the advice and doesn't question it. Respect to you. Write a FR or post an update on what happens.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 06:04 PM
4

In this case I wouldn't get in touch with her. You've already told her what to do. She's probably cancelled all her other plans and is getting ready for you. If she does end up flaking, then she wasn't worth it anyway. If you're really worried, follow u/hecticchow's advice and say you're running a few minutes late.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 05:44 PM
1

You called her and told her what to do. She's probably never had that happen before. Women love direction. She won't flake. No contact before the date. Not your responsibility if she flakes. If she flakes, then she lost out.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 05:39 PM
3

Call her. Stop this messaging bullshit. Call her and say "hey tinderella, come to my place tonight at 10." You didn't fuck up. Keep trying to meet. If she flakes again, then re-evaluate.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 10:53 AM
5

This was a playful shit test. You could've answered something witty, might've escalated to some flirting, might've not. Pressure flip would've worked perfect here. Either way, move on from it. She wasn't going to fuck you anyway with all her friends there. Just playin' games man.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 10:50 AM
2

Chase after her bro!! It's an IOI if she slows down the car. Escalate to the car door.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 06:40 AM
1

STEM. How many times does it have to be stated on here? Go with engineering as u/drepe_thill says. You don't even need a university education for that either. Do a respected coding boot camp and ship open source on GitHub.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 06:36 AM
4

The female species seems to admire you. Smile and wink. Or approach when it happens. They've expressed interest already. The deal is done.
/r/askTRP05/02/17 06:34 AM
16

Shits tough right now man. But listen. It's only because you're in your bubble. Let's see some perspective here. Your a white male, good looking, probably in North America, 22 years old, know about TRP, are educated and have your whole life ahead of you. That puts you ahead of 90% of the world. And 100% of women. The best thing you can be on earth is a Man. And guess what? Your a man. You won. Saw your pics in your post history, and you've good facial genetics. Get a haircut (or grow out your ma…
/r/askTRP05/02/17 06:22 AM
1

There's certain instances when it's "sloppy seconds". I still think plating is fine. LTR, not so much. Preserve the male friendship over any woman always. Best friend vs acquaintance definitely changes things OP.
/r/askTRP04/02/17 11:55 PM
3

ASD man. She's being a princess. It's a test. If your high value enough then she'll blow you for hours. Despite what she says. Don't bring it up again. Just watch her actions.
/r/askTRP04/02/17 10:47 PM
2

Days man. Days. Yes. You control it. I wait til she's on the edge of orgasming, then about 3/4 way through hers, I'll let it go and she'll orgasm again. I'll say on average, like 20-45 mins. She's gleaming at the end always, because she thinks she did it.
/r/askTRP04/02/17 10:42 PM
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There's hard boundaries and there's soft boundaries. Hard boundaries are if she fucks another guy. Then you ghost her, no questions asked or exceptions. Soft boundaries are if she's testing how far you'll let her go. Like if she's being a bitch about some drama from tacobell in the car on the way home- then you hold frame, and withdraw affection. A woman will ALWAYS test your boundaries. It's the essence of femininity. She needs to know whether you're a worthy mate or not. In reality, you should…
/r/askTRP04/02/17 10:29 PM
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If she's explicitly doing this regularly (and it's actually flirting, and not just talking and being normal). Then you should consider this as a red flag. Once, sure, fine- dread or whatever. Continuous? You need to reevaluate the woman you're with.
/r/askTRP04/02/17 10:25 PM
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Days man. I can control when I orgasm. Because I control my excitement. Your physiological state determines your neurological state. You can effect your neurology by changing your behaviour. Also stop focusing on your dick (as you normally do in masturbation), and started focusing on fucking her. Start meditating daily for 5 minutes to practice your breathing.
/r/askTRP04/02/17 10:21 PM
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Alright I used to have this issue a few years back. I cured it though. Here's how I did it: I took deep breathes. Breath in for 5, hold for 5, breath out for 5, hold for 5. Box breathes they're called. It keeps your excitement at a 7 instead of a 9 (where it usually is). Stop watching porn and maturbating so much as well. That's a big part of the issue. When you masturbate, the goal is to ejaculate quickly. When you have sex the goal is to dominate- longer the better.
/r/askTRP04/02/17 10:15 PM
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I use "Way of Life" it's an iOS app for habit tracking. Similar ones for android as well. I wrote a post about it that I linked above.
/r/askTRP04/02/17 10:13 PM
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They're broken up. What's the issue? Women are the choosers. Let her choose. She wants you to fuck her, either do it, or another man will. Might be weird with your friend, but I'm sure it's going to be a casual thing with her anyway.
/r/askTRP04/02/17 08:46 PM
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Open the calendar app in your phone. Click on all the times and fill it with the things you need to do. If you find you have too much to do, then you're over committing (which it sounds like you are). Start saying no to things that are non-essential. Adopt proper habits to automate some processes. As you live your days, so you live your life.
/r/askTRP04/02/17 08:41 PM
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I am told to "stop being a pussy" on the regular Shouldn't be treated this way at ANY job. Complain to the labour board in your state and get that bitch fired. Get out of there as soon as you can. Keep the job for now, keep searching for an internship. Some good opportunities and places to start: https://www.producthunt.com/search?q=Internship Hold frame around everyone, even when they're losing it. There's beauty in staying calm within a storm.
/r/askTRP02/02/17 07:03 PM
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Talk to everyone. Approach people and introduce yourself. Make light banter and build rapport. Do that enough and you'll make friends.
/r/askTRP01/02/17 08:30 PM
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Could be all coincidental. But even to me, something odd seems up. Important thing is that you held frame. She hasn't explicitly suggested that she's doing anything- so stay oblivious. If you have a hunch about something it's usually right.
/r/askTRP31/01/17 09:04 PM
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I don't think it was ill-intended or malicious either. Despite her nature, she may have been also genuinely looking out for my friend. Or maybe not. Nonetheless I appreciate your perspective here.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 12:37 PM
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It's not one or two components that translate to success with women. It's a combination of multiple alpha traits. No job role is going to equal success with women. Take a holistic approach. Just as u/Thotwrecker pointed out, if you are even remotely alpha in that field you stand out from the herd.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 06:17 AM
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Haha, you betcha I did. True. Around the right man, any woman will turn her filter off. But she'll keep the truth hidden from the men who are oblivious to it- even when it's right in front of them.
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 03:50 AM
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Upvoted. I see your perspective, and in some cases this could be Self-AMOGing. The way I see it, another man's success doesn't take away from my own. I'm not afraid to lose her, so being friends with other alpha males and boosting another man's accomplishments doesn't drain from my own. If anything, it adds to it. If she does end up jumping ship because of that, then great- on to better things. Saved myself a load of time and trouble. Thus far, boosting another man's success around anyone, has o…
/r/TheRedPill30/01/17 10:52 PM
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Let's be clear. I respect my girlfriend, and she's always doing things to look out for me, and make my life better. A true sweetheart. There's a reason I'm with her- she's a feminine, happy and positive support in my life. Nonetheless, it's shocking sometimes (even for a man who has read and contributed to theredpill for 2 years) to hear some of this straight from the horses mouth. Not to be mistaken for disrespect, as I'm certain she sees me as an asshole sometimes, but also I value and respect…
/r/TheRedPill30/01/17 12:19 AM
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Good points. I suppose my lens is tinted a bit red at this point. Moreover I'm speaking about the best 'adaptive strategy' amongst mammals. Sure, multiple partners were (and still are) a thing- but is that the best way to advance the species? Maybe. But I argue it's not. it's important to look at the facts available to discern the real truths. The facts are certain primates and mammals are polyandrous in nature. However, the way our society is evolving, it self-selects for too many 'beta-males' …
/r/askTRP30/01/17 12:07 AM
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True. She may or may not be even aware of the manipulation at this level. To a certain extent, her hamster has probably fooled even herself into thinking "but not me boo. I'm happy with you". It's so engrained in women, that some of this manipulation lies below the surface- it's implicit.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/17 10:39 PM
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Maybe. She probably wouldn't admit it. And even if she did, does that make her different than every other woman who also would? So far she's been loyal, but any woman is always willing to jump ship for a better ship.
/r/TheRedPill29/01/17 09:58 PM
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The male hamster can be just as strong around these parts. "I'm too fat, I'm too skinny, I'm brown, I'm bald, I'm old." No, you're not any of those things. You're full of excuses. Every single man on planet earth has shortcomings. You either work on the things you can change, or embrace what you have. Be grateful that you have the chance to live as a man on this planet.
/r/askTRP29/01/17 10:23 AM
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Western Canada.
/r/askTRP29/01/17 09:40 AM
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I'm not an indian man. But I have some indian friends, and they seem to have no trouble hooking up with attractive women. They lift, work on themselves, their businesses and live interesting lives. no one wants Indian men I find that lot's of indian guys just handicap themselves because of the color of their skin. That leads to a vicious cycle of not trying because "no one wants Indian men"
/r/askTRP29/01/17 05:49 AM
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u/dr_warlock hit the nail on the head in my opinion. It's been 2 years. She wants to be integrated and see where you stand amongst your mates. Might be a bit of a comfort test as well- she feels you don't 'show her off enough' or include her. In that case, include her more.
/r/askTRP29/01/17 03:18 AM
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I mean, usually there's a line, and you'll know when you get near it. Like if she is visibly uncomfortable and your advances are clearly unwanted, then play back a bit. You'll know when it's too much.
/r/askTRP29/01/17 01:43 AM
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"killing_the_hamster"
/r/askTRP29/01/17 01:03 AM
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I gave her a slap on the ass and told her Chris will be installing new shocks and brakes on his track bike next week, she should bring pizza. Yup, you aced that shit test pretty good. Next steps: look forward to the pizza and enjoy the social proof from your mates when she shows up with food.
/r/askTRP29/01/17 12:56 AM
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Jesus Christ man. These women are toxic. Definitely higher value women in the world who take care of themselves and have respect for their man. Just gotta be looking in the right places. Not online- as women can be deceptive and "seemingly stable" in those areas.
/r/askTRP29/01/17 12:05 AM
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Could have just been a one off then. It's difficult to judge without context and background. Be more discreet about the bj's. Don't outright ask for it- that's playing into her frame. Make her want it.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 11:57 PM
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Escalate to abortion, politics, and feminism. Is this even a question? Agree and amplify til she leaves the room. Nah, but usually you can say something like "the universe has a plan for us all". Pretty ambiguous and keeps things elusive.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 11:48 PM
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Good to get it out somewhere man. Do some journaling, but do it in private. It's not always conducive to put it out there on the internet. Keep lifting, and realizing this stuff. Come to terms that your whole life you've been fed a blue pill lie, and you're waking up from a dream you never slept to.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 11:44 PM
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You're likely referring to some posts on LTR's and comfort. In TRP there's LTR strategy and Plate strategy. The two are opposing ends of the spectrum and can seem contradictory. It's all about balance. If you have a specific question to clarify, then ask it.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 10:40 PM
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What's the problem? She sucks you off regularly. Just keep pushing the envelope with plausible deniability. Some girls just have strict values and it takes more time. She'll want more after a while, it's just got to be the right time for her when it "just happens".
/r/askTRP28/01/17 10:30 PM
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This is her making herself available to you. She put herself out there and you shut her down. Women rarely put themselves on the line for any man- they avoid situations where they could get rejected/turned down. Best recovery is to invite her over tomorrow and escalate. She's probably ovulating and that's why she wants to see you. So expect some good Sunday sex.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 10:26 PM
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If you feel discomfort or pain, and you've got to let it out... then rub one out for god sakes. Once in a while is fine - once every 1-3 weeks. Don't watch porn while you do it. Link me to the study where not masturbating and watching porn lowers your testosterone. Everyone talks about it, but nobody ever references it.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 10:22 PM
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You said it best yourself, cancerous is the word. The future will look a lot like this. These men are silencing their masculine instincts and instead sharing some cum slut for hopes of average sex and a cuckhold relationship because "it's healthy". Propaganda at its finest. In the animal kingdom, you don't see this kind of behaviour. An alpha male doesn't need to share his woman with another man. He has enough women readily available that if she wants to leave him, he's got a loyal upgrade or re…
/r/askTRP28/01/17 10:19 PM
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This was a comfort test and you failed miserably. The correct response would have been something witty, charming and eluding. Something like "Too many ways to count. Let's get together tonight at 7 and I'll show you instead of tell you".
/r/askTRP28/01/17 09:37 PM
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My understanding is you want your girlfriend to take on a more masculine role to fulfill some sexual fantasy with her calling you degrading names and disrespecting you. The Red Pill is not the place for these questions.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 08:43 PM
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You're meeting these women because you hang around the places they hang around. Dress differently, and approach higher value women in more affluent areas (universities, book stores, gyms). If I spend all my time looking for cars at the junk yard, I'm going to always drive away with junk. If I walk over to the Porsche dealer, I'll always come out on top. (Assuming your SMV and bank account allow for it- respectively in the examples).
/r/askTRP28/01/17 08:40 PM
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Sounds like you're coming across as an asshole because you haven't built enough rapport or reputation with the team. I'm guessing this was one of the first interactions you've ever had with this woman. Had you done this after a week of being civil and demonstrated your value to the team, the outcome would have been way better. She would've laughed it off and it would've been more flirtatious. Same goes for men. When your sarcastic and snide before building a back and forth, it comes across as ru…
/r/askTRP28/01/17 08:36 PM
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It's true OP. If you're SMV was high enough, she wouldn't ever have an issue. She'd be begging to see you every night to do this. Either you're dealing with some anti-bj-feminist, or she also wants to get some tounge action.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 08:31 PM
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Kick him out. No time for losers like this in your life. No mercy, you set a boundary more than once. He doesn't comply, he's a slob and damages your car on purpose. Tell him to shape up or he's got to move out. If him moving out isn't an option, then find a new place with better roommates. That may seem harsh, but this guy is stepping all over you because you're letting him. You get exactly what you tolerate in life. Tolerate disrespect, then that's exactly what you'll get.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 08:20 PM
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Ask her for some help on your term paper. When she hesitantly complies, then start heavy kino while the other students are still in the room. ASD is high at this point (because she's probably married with kids)... When things feel right escalate to her office and boom, A+ on your term paper. Miserably fail at this, or just approach younger, more attractive women your age.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 08:14 PM
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Good man for starting early. I'm 24 and I wish I had knew what I know now when I was 16. Let go of your inhibition. You might be approaching these girls with a "goal" in mind. To impress them. You don't want to do that. You want things to free flow. Start with building rapport- little bit of teasing, inside jokes, story telling. It's not so much about what you say, it's how you say it. With confidence, eye contact and open body language.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 08:09 PM
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How much do you want to spend? Take them out for a pricy dinner with a nice bottle of something fancy. Or rent some ski-doos and go boating.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 08:06 PM
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Take up space. Shoulders back, stand up straight, wide stance, eye contact. Talk with your hands. Use expressions, open your body and palms toward her.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 07:58 PM
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I wrote a post about Way of Life that would be very helpful for you if your looking to develop new habits. Link to post on habits
/r/askTRP28/01/17 07:56 PM
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So I'm understanding you want to be an aquaintance with this girl (orbiter) and don't want to meet up with her and escalate. But looking for an exciting way to text her. I don't think The Red Pill is the right place to look for you. What do you mean by "her relationship is plausibly deniable?"
/r/askTRP28/01/17 07:55 PM
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Ahhh right. I gradded a few years ago and have been in an LTR ever since (3 years). I met her at university and literally just approached her and asked her to come to lunch with me. Being bold and polarizing works in these cases. Most men just aren't ballsy enough, women love it when you put it all on the line.
/r/askTRP27/01/17 12:38 AM
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It's possible that these girls see you hitting on other girls in front of them. You might think this is a prequalification, but it's not. It'll have her ASD up high, because she doesn't want to look like one of the other girls your gaming. Also it's a shit test too, and in that case, you could just say "Ya, I approach all the girls- moving on to the guys tomorrow". Just hold frame and eye contact when you say it.
/r/askTRP26/01/17 10:55 PM
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Take the job man. You don't have room for negotiation now. That's going to look greedy. Move up in the company in 3-8 months you'll be making 80.
/r/askTRP26/01/17 10:49 PM
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Approach women that you find attractive and ask them to study. "Hi, I'm sonderho, how's your latte tasting?" Make eye contact, and judge using IOI's. If she smiles then approach her. Having seen her a few times before in classes you'll build rapport and IOI's will be pretty evident at that point. Usually women in universities don't have their guard up as much. Approaching becomes more "plausible" as they can think "were just studying". Etc.
/r/askTRP26/01/17 10:45 PM
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Read anything on Plato. It's really basic philosophy. The article below should give you a good introduction to it. https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/principle-beneficence/
/r/askTRP25/01/17 11:14 PM
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Yeah. Social market value matters when talking to anyone. People want to be around others that are high value. Needy people usually have a goal in mind. Let the conversation free-flow. And turn off your inhibition.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 11:12 PM
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It's likely that you're SMV (social market value- in this case) is too low or your coming across as too needy. Read "How to Win Friends and Influence People". Become interested in others, ask questions, build rapport. You don't have to seek people out or generate a conversation if they're not into it. Just let it flow.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 09:05 PM
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Best thing to do with passive aggressiveness is answer the actual topic at face value instead of the perceived aggression. Good video on YouTube by Charisma on Command about passive aggressiveness.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 07:54 PM
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Who cares what this one bitch thinks about you. She's a waitress at some restaurant. I'm sure you have 3 more plates just like her. You need to detach from others emotional responses toward you. She's one woman in 3.5B. Not going to mean anything in the big picture of things. Best way to react is to ignore it. Or agree and amplify. Don't enter her frame. Say something like "Thank god I'm leaving, can't even take myself sometimes. You coming with?"
/r/askTRP25/01/17 07:38 PM
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Talk to Treat woman like you would a child. It's not so much about what you say, but about what you do. She's misbehaving? Ignore her misbehaviour and withdraw attention. She did something cute, pat her on the head. Getting bitchy, she probably needs a snack. You'll notice after some time that the things you naturally say to kids, work wonders on women. Kids love to test your limits and frame. A&A works wonders on kids too. Don't try and understand the child. Just hug the child and see her for w…
/r/askTRP25/01/17 06:44 PM
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You're missing the point. Nobody is moralizing your proposed behaviour. Above all, I'm not interested in the rightness and wrongness of it. Morals do overlap when you're talking about good strategies for mating however. If you're looking for a good plate strategy, this isn't the best one. Search the main sub for a good strategy. Maleficence is specifically talking about the harm or evil that your causing. Deception is fine, but usually won't pay off long term. One should strive for beneficence i…
/r/askTRP25/01/17 09:48 AM
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No point in playing these texting games with her. Meet up with her. Escalate. Find out if she's interested or not. If she is, then fuck her. If not, then fuck her.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 09:38 AM
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There's a reason that raising your SMV works and that AF/BB exists. Don't try and re-invent the wheel. There's successful plating strategies on the main sub, those will also work for you. Interactions with other humans are usually not manipulative. Yes, we may garner resources, or benefit from certain interactions. But usually not in a malicious way. I believe the word you're looking for is persuasive. I don't know what commitment really means. Commitment when talking about relationships usually…
/r/askTRP25/01/17 09:21 AM
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There are two types of males in my town. How many people are in your town? There has to be more than two types of men in your town. It's statistically improbable. Girls tell me that fuckboys don't commit to them. Did you see her complaining about it? Watch her actions, not her words. I don't think your strategy is going to work out as well as you think it is. Sounds like you're going to manipulate these women into thinking you want to commit to them, just for them to quickly find out that you're…
/r/askTRP25/01/17 09:08 AM
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Something feels off here. Despite the paper with the name on it. Seems like your going to get robbed. Or best case scenario have sex with another dude and some tinder rando.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 09:04 AM
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Great. Continue that regimen. Try joining a mens brotherhood group in your city. Might help you to be around other people going through the same things.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 08:23 AM
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It's the new lifting trend. Remove all compound lifts to focus more on lifting. Trade-named: "anti-lift". OP, just hit the gym hard minimum 4 times a week. Lift lighter if your bones are cracking. Try a de-load week.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 08:19 AM
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This is not a red pill issue. You're not a special snowflake. You're searching for sympathy, and for people to feel bad for you. Obviously this isn't something that's a minimized problem, and you should probably see a psychologist about this internal psychosis. In the meantime, empowering yourself and removing the victim mentality will be effective.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 08:15 AM
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I will practice Healthy masturbation according to No More Mr Nice Guy. Man, the last thing you need is more masturbation. That should be the least of your priorities at this point. Start lifting heavy, 4 days a week. Then join a martial art for the other 3 days. Your workout is 4% of your day. Take your masturbation time and cut it in half to make the time. Distance yourself from your mother, a man can only truly evolve when he detaches from his mothers emotions.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 07:40 AM
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Always initiating makes me lose my power and attractiveness and put the girl in a better negotiating position. The girl will always be in a better negotiating position, because women are the choosers in the sexual kingdom in humans. This is sidebar 101. I think this is because I'm not attractive enough. Women are way more keen to put themselves in situations to be received when they're interested in the man.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 07:29 AM
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Five movements. Squat, benchpress, deadlift, shoulder press, pull ups. Look up beginner routines on youtube regarding form and rep ranges. Tons of great fitness youtubers out there giving free workout advice. For building muscle, stick within the 8-15 rep range focusing on volume (amount of total sets) in your workouts. Lift fairly heavy.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 06:36 AM
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Not sure what to tell you. There's a lot wrong with the above OP. Your obsessing over this one woman, who is or isn't interested in you. One way to find out. Set up a meet and escalate. Women will never lead. They'll rarely initiate, and resent you if they have to. So get used to always setting up the dates, making conversation, approaching her etc. Also, start lifting man. Don't be "that guy" who reads theory then doesn't practice.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 06:25 AM
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Exactly man. It's important to not analyze if everything you do is red pill or alpha enough. If it feels right and masculine, go for it.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 06:21 AM
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I'm never a fan of discussions with women, as they're going to do what they want anyway. You establish the boundary by being abundant about it, and implying that she knows what will happen if she cheats. Light dread essentially.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 06:19 AM
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Light dread is a good move. But also don't seem butthurt about it. With her or without her, you're going to have a bomb life. Take into account what u/DonaldBaelish said. The reason she thinks this is okay, is because you subtly implied that it was. Women watch and mimic your behaviour/frame.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 06:07 AM
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Yeah I missed that. Actually a really good point. You teach others how to treat you.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 05:59 AM
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Yeah, no woman will see it that your appeasing her. Not before she's going to your house.. They naturally want a man to take the lead. By not picking her up, I'd say you'd be showing scarcity in your resources and disinterest in her. Pick her up. Post a FR later.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 05:57 AM
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I mean, a lot of guys here will tell you to ghost her. But you need to see the bigger picture. Is there any other red flags that indicate she's cheating? Likely it was similar to when you were messaging your ex. Hold frame about it- aka don't bring it up or discuss your feelings. But watch her behaviour and other signals that may indicate she's still messaging him.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 05:55 AM
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It's your opportunity to lead and pick her up. You should definitely pick her up for the date/fuck at your place.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 05:45 AM
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Yeah man, your the one being all butthurt about it. It's not disrepectful of her. And your creating a weird frame and vibe around it for some reason. Don't be so sensitive about things. Just let it roll.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 05:43 AM
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More context here. What was the message to her ex? It varies if it was "merry christmas" or if she said "I want to fuck you like old times".
/r/askTRP25/01/17 05:41 AM
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Amused mastery. Take part in it. Ask questions, become genuinely amused by the fact that this prof is a crazy person. It's likely everyone else is thinking it too, you'll just look like the one who's subtely calling it out. Or put up your hand and ask "how does this tie in with course topic"
/r/askTRP25/01/17 12:04 AM
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She forgot her wallet on purpose. Women do things like that so they have an excuse to see you again. No man, your not a beta for giving her a ride. If it's every day and she expects it, then reconsider. Once in a while, your being a good human.
/r/askTRP24/01/17 07:41 PM
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Sure. You have nothing to lose. Effort is low too... just approach a girl you find attractive and ask her to prom.
/r/askTRP24/01/17 01:42 AM
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I feel like "I don't cook" is a really complex shit test meant to weed out the betas. Like the modern day Disney princess shit test- that you have to con her into somehow. My LTR never used to cook. Same Disney shit test. But every time I was in the kitchen making my food- I'd tell her to do tasks like "cut the vegetables really small "or "get me the coconut milk" and "mix this for 5 minutes". She happily helped every single time. Not one complaint. This really helped develop the "captain/first-…
/r/askTRP22/01/17 10:58 AM
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Then looks like she's definitely trying. If you had fell into her frame and started profusely apologizing- it's unlikely she would've done that. Holding frame is essentially when she's getting emotional.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 06:20 PM
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That's great- then set that up. Or message her that you two are meeting up tonight to "prep for the movie"
/r/askTRP21/01/17 05:40 PM
1

Fair enough- she definitely could be. I have little background here and going off of my experience. She likely could be an outlier and improve and become less emotional.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 05:39 PM
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request receive your attention. Plus, she could be only moderately interested. By the IOI's during texting it sounds like she's putting herself out there enough. Try to set up a new date for the future- every time you meet up with her. Really good way to gauge her interest.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 05:31 PM
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You're expecting her to lead. A woman won't ask you out. They rarely put themselves in any situation to be rejected by a man. It's a huge social risk for them- evolutionarily it didn't fair well. Always expect to do the planning, the calling, the texting, everything. She'll make herself available to you by picking up the phone or replying back. It's not because she's not interested- it's because she's a woman. Wait 2-3 days if you want- but understand that you're not going to get a better respon…
/r/askTRP21/01/17 05:23 PM
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Ghost her! Awalt bro! Just kidding. Hold frame around her when she starts being emotional. Dont stray away from your inner 'center'. If she's happy, sad, angry, or confused- your mood doesn't change. Complete outcome independence. Side note: she has no intention of being less emotional. She might tell you that she does- but she can't control it.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 05:21 PM
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Well you want to fuck her. But it's clear she sees you as an orbiter. "your going to be running all my errands with me" gave it away. (Side note: also a shit test- so there could be interest here) Next steps: hang around til she fucks you. Probably never - or 3 months duty sex, whichever comes first. Or go pursue other interested women.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 05:17 PM
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Freelance website development. Software developer. Trades. Customer service at a tech company. Photography.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 05:14 PM
1

Take a sleep apnea questionnaire online and diagnosis yourself. From there you can choose the appropriate steps to take.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 04:42 AM
1

Go get a sleep study done. Maybe you have sleep apnea and that's why you're constantly tired and lethargic.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 04:00 AM
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Start supplementing with vitamin D. I noticed when I stopped watching pornography I was more energetic and inspired (dopamine levels we're depleted). Could also be your iron levels. You may want to get a blood test or start supplementing with iron. How do you sleep at night? Do you wake up tired?
/r/askTRP20/01/17 11:59 PM
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Firstly, show perspective jobs your dribbble. If you don't have one then get one. They probably want to see a work sample or a number of samples before they hire an employee. As for the meeting with your boss. Mention that you want to move into a more senior role and be more challenged. Go to them with a list of things you can start doing immediately to do this. Start doing all the duties of the job you want. Pretty soon they'll have no choice but to promote you.
/r/askTRP19/01/17 08:11 PM
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Very true. Been playing for 5 years and have realized there's no end game to reach. OP, 15 minute a day jamming on the guitar isn't going to break your schedule. Continue playing and sell some of your guitars.
/r/askTRP19/01/17 08:06 PM
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Are you hiding something, are you cheating? Both shit tests. Agree and amplify with something like "yeah, this month it was with a 16gb model. iPhone 6. She was more like a 7 though. Last month it was with a droid. LG lasted so long". Little too much, but you get the picture. Personally I don't have anything to hide in my phone, so when my GF says let me see your phone (she's only asked this twice in 3 years), I say sure- go for it. It's like her holding onto my tie or my belt. No difference to …
/r/askTRP19/01/17 07:59 PM
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Egocentrism. Most people think life revolves around themselves. It's self-consumption. It's easier to think "I'm holier than thou Because I swallowed the red pill and I'm super alpha now boyz!!" Then to work hard in silence- and let the results speak for you. Every single man I've met and considered an alpha male, never talked a word about the red pill- or self proclaimed himself an alpha. Come to think of it- never talked about himself at all either. He let his accomplishments and Charisma do t…
/r/askTRP19/01/17 07:47 PM
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If you have to ask. Then you already know. Seems like it's going to be the same thing again man. It's part of who she is. This will end in her being accidentally pregnant- because she's improving the baby for you. Normal women don't act like this. Give some examples of when she was crazy?
/r/askTRP19/01/17 07:45 PM
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Some chit chat is inevitiable. Escalating right off the bat isn't usually good- because women-safety-radar might kick in (even on this circumstance). Escalate to something fun within a few minutes. She's just making conversation day to day because she's boring and wants you to lead. "Hey girl. You, me. Tonight. Be ready at 7pm. I'll pick you up." After building some rapport- chit chat, then say that. Thats it. Then play it out. It's forward and bold, but you cut the small talk and polarize right…
/r/askTRP19/01/17 12:04 AM
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Comfort test. She knows she's high value, and wants commitment. She's going to break soon. Options: Commit to her in an LTR- seems like she's be a solid woman to have around. Or wait until she breaks and leaves. Inevitably that will happen. Better to make a decision now on your terms, then to come back from a lower position later.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 11:57 PM
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Even that though. Usually that's going to evolve into her also seeing other men and not telling you about it because she's bitter in her feeling like she has to share. This method will only work if your SMV is through the roof, and she see's you as a god. Very few men are in this position. And the men that ARE, are usually content fucking the high value woman who wants them every night.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 11:25 PM
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Stop looking for an outcome. Like literally, have no objective with going into a conversation, if it goes good or bad, it doesn't matter because it won't effect you in any way. I used to be in your position. But avoiding being uncomfortable or disapproval is the main thing you need to fix. Revel in discomfort.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 10:31 PM
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Good approach from u/SkorchZang. I would do this: Tell her that YOU are taking her to the Frat Party. That way, it doesn't frame it as her going just so she's your ticket. Since you haven't talked in a few weeks, message or call her and be like "Hey girl. You, me, Frat Party. Tonight. Be ready at 7pm. I'll pick you up." You're leading this way, and not looking like you're asking for a ticket in.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 10:26 PM
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I think you might be approaching conversation with "a goal" in mind. Try to just let it flow. Make small talk, boost your friends up, smile. Having a uplifting demeanour is hard to cultivate. The Charisma Myth is a great book to read up on for this.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 10:22 PM
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I can't see this as compatible. Because a big part of the definition of a beta male is one that let's his woman get fucked by other men- knows this, and approves of it. If you want to refactor this in your brain, and call it a "TRP frame", then sure, whatever helps you sleep at night. Women are ok with sharing high value men Agreed, but are you okay sharing a high value woman? I can see this as being very healthy I can see this as being very unhealthy. Especially in an LTR. You're going to have …
/r/askTRP18/01/17 10:19 PM
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She's not going to flake- don't worry. She's probably psyched she's going to fly to see you. Telling all her friends and shit. Keep contact minimal- message or call every few days. Yeah lots of guys will shit on you for paying for the flights. Honestly in some cases you can show abundance by doing this. You don't always have to be a stingy alpha- especially when you can afford it, and you're "hosting" her. You might end up looking like a God in her eyes by doing this. Or you might not... My opin…
/r/askTRP18/01/17 07:29 AM
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You're young man. But know something. Frustration is a long term thing with women. It's going to happen- and it doesn't go away. You just get better at holding frame, higher SMV and crushing shit tests. Sounds like she's not holding you back in life, and is actually a sweet feminine support throughout your mission. If she strays away from that role, then reconsider.
/r/askTRP18/01/17 06:10 AM
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Exactly this OP.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 09:56 PM
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Then it's a comfort thing. She doesn't feel cared for and that your passing her comfort tests. "Does he still love me?" Kind of thinking. Don't placate, but search the main sub for crushing comfort tests.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 08:46 PM
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If she feels like she's "doing all the work", it's clear that you're not taking on a leadership role. You're falling into her frame more than she's in yours. Lead your girlfriend. Take charge. Decide what you two are going to do. Pass her shit tests, and her comfort tests (this was a comfort test and you failed).
/r/askTRP17/01/17 07:15 PM
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An attitude of Amused Mastery implies to a woman that by virtue of your maturity and/or authority you've “seen it all before”, you already know what women mean when they say or do what she is, and it's amusing to you - u/Rollo-Tomassi Also, read all the top level posts using the search function in the main sub for this.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 06:37 PM
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Is it normal for women to act like this? Nothing ever surprises me about women anymore. It's normal for them to do anything. The more crazy the more normal it seems. Yeah it's clear she was using you as her orbiter for help with her work. Then when you put your foot down, she got butthurt about it. Just move on, don't try and understand the behaviour of a child. Embrace the child, laugh and see the child for what she is.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 06:29 PM
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It's a shit test. Agree and amplify. They're trying to shame you to make you fall into their frame. You could even say "Yea, I was going to marry both of you, but now I'm reconsidering. You lost your chance forever. It's over." I don't understand the point here. Don't waste your time in these asexual group chats anymore. You've got better shit to do.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 06:25 PM
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It's something you need to do consistently. I have ice baths once per week (long story), and usually practice the method in the ice bath. It's not a night and day difference, but there usually is a noticeable increase in energy throughout the day.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 06:16 PM
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Vitamin D, drinking a ton of water, whim-hoff breathing techniques, abstaining from pornography/masturbation, regular meditation, exercise, wholesome diet, matcha green tea, coffee, adderall, speed, cocaine, crystal meth, black tar heroin. The list goes on.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 11:01 AM
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These are only two cases. And both sound like they're edge cases. Most women giving you IOI's won't act like this. You need to polarize more. Like set up a meet right away with both. Then escalate physically. Lead the interaction. Message both women right now saying "hey girl, pick you up at 7 on Friday, I'm taking you out." You'll see right there if either of them are interested. If they both are, then boom- two plates for Friday at seven. Some intense u/OmLaLa strategy on hardmode.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 06:21 AM
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Hold frame. If your angry, then own it. Agree and amplify. "yeah I'm fucking pissed!!!!" with a wink. Let her hamster about what she did. Whatever you do, don't deny it. That will show that you're words are inconsistent with your actions. Hence why it's a test. Testing your strength and conviction.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 06:18 AM
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This might not work out as well as you want it to. Just because it does sound rehearsed. If you can pull it off in an amused way, with charm and Charisma. Do it casually and not like your just randomly crashing into people's carts to say this line.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 05:03 AM
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Take a stress leave off work. Or an injury leave. Depending on where you live and what job. Ask if you can take on a more sedentary role at your job temporarily (anything that's not standing). Not much you can do here. It's just damage control with keeping your job at this point. Rest and do physio exercises to rehabilitate it.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 04:59 AM
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What is this holy side-bar you speak of?
/r/askTRP17/01/17 04:56 AM
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Do lunch. The reason why she wanted lunch is she's getting a feel for you. She's making sure she doesn't feel obliged to fuck you if your not masculine or her type. Hence declining evening drinks to a more casual lunch. Protectionary thing built into women- they go with a safe alternative and an option to bail. Once she sees your cool and alpha and not a fool, she'll be open to you leading her.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 04:50 AM
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Yes, thanks for the correction here. My Biology is a bit rusty. It's usually about a year after they start menstration. As soon as they start ovulating. But the most fertile window as you implied are a few years after- usually 17-28 being the prime.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 04:41 AM
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Fortune favors the bold. It comes with time man. Boldness is a learned trait, and you can cultivate it. It may be an implicit fear or rejection- or maybe a fear of success. u/follow_that_rabbit gave you some good advice on being bold up there. Shows that your fun, outcome independent, and down for leading her. The important thing is to recognize it, where you went wrong, then iterate and try again with a new woman. Main thing with dealing with ANY woman... is to lead. As long as your making the …
/r/askTRP17/01/17 04:29 AM
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Exactly- that's what I meant. Leave that last message- all on the line. If she's not game- like you said, then don't pursue anymore because she's not interested.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 04:24 AM
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Great advice. I agree with you here. Boldness always wins- the "Me. You. Drink right now!!!" line is perfect for this situation. Nothing to lose. Boldness is putting it all on the line and not caring about the outcome. Don't give up here OP. Message her BOLDLY to meet. Polarize. Make her make a decision. The reason she's giving you one word replies is because you're not communicating your desire.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 03:38 AM
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No selfie.
/r/askTRP17/01/17 02:17 AM
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Even if it is the (trickle) truth, there's younger women who don't have these types of long term weird sexual histories right? You and I both know something odd is up here. How do we know this? Because you wouldn't have posted otherwise.
/r/askTRP16/01/17 10:13 AM
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Look around. Most men are this way as well. Sure, women are arguably more lazy. Mostly because of the culture we've designed promotes them to not lift a finger because a male will do it for them. Because why? Because woman.
/r/askTRP16/01/17 10:08 AM
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In the OP you are elusive about the hobby. Is this a more general hobby? What is the hobby? Despite the fact, 1-2 days a few times a year with a general group of people is pretty normal for business trips, sports teams, jobs, or conferences alike. If you're a strong confident male, then it shouldn't matter to you. If she's going to cheat, she's going to do it no matter what. Hobby or not.
/r/askTRP16/01/17 10:05 AM
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First, take her sexual background and times it by a conservative 3. So 6x3=18. Most men are much less conservative then that. She's withholding sex because she's approaching the edge of her fertility window. Women instinctively do this to find a mate that will stick around (she hasn't found one that would stay in her 15 year fertile window). If she gives it up too fast, you won't stick around- she knows that... hence the respect sanction. Reading the OP more closely, this woman sounds fucked up.…
/r/askTRP16/01/17 09:55 AM
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You're really pushing hard to help her pack. It's clear she doesn't want you to do that (for obvious reasons). Let the woman pack, she knows how to do things like that. You should wait til tomorrow and then hit her up. Women act in the moment. So tomorrow if she's feeling tingly, she'll want to meet you. Right now through text you're trying to coax her into it and she's not feeling it because you're coming on too strong. Message her tomorrow and say "hey girl. Let's celebrate your going away bas…
/r/askTRP16/01/17 09:50 AM
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Women are masters at manipulation- especially when it comes to getting what they want. They've evolved to know how to twist you around their little fingers, especially in your weakest times. A lot of guys here will tell you to ghost her (you should). But like you said, you've tried but she keeps on coming back. If you're not happy, you need to end it- despite her continuously attempting to come back into your life. You need to be firm on your decision. You're in high school, and self discipline …
/r/askTRP16/01/17 09:46 AM
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Okay, fair enough. As u/oldredder pointed out- build some muscle, and you'll fill out more. And stand up straight as you can. Possibly posture classes on youtube might help.
/r/askTRP16/01/17 09:39 AM
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Not sure what you want people on here to do. This is not a Red Pill issue. This is your genetics, it's how your built. Use it to your advantage.
/r/askTRP16/01/17 06:11 AM
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There's so many variables here to take into account. Duration of time in each state, amount & frequency of approaching women, your SMV in either state relative to men around you, subtle cultural differences between geographical areas. I could go on and on.
/r/askTRP15/01/17 10:54 PM
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If his desired field is computer science- I know for a fact that the largest companies hire based upon competency, not always education. Sure, if you went to MIT or Stanford, you'll get a good edge when applying to Google or Airbnb. But if your Github has multiple repositories and contributions toward open source programs, and show you can actually ship code. That holds more ground than education in most cases. Source: I have a friend who's an engineer at google who dropped out of high school. A…
/r/askTRP15/01/17 10:13 PM
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Your major isn't useless. Although it won't work for you as much as a STEM degree will, it doesn't hurt having a degree on your resume. Find out what your ARE interested in, then start doing that. Without going to school.
/r/askTRP15/01/17 10:03 PM
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No contraception method is 100%. Best to use two methods. Better safe then sorry. Use a condom even if she objects. She might "forget" to take her birth control- then your fucked!!!
/r/askTRP15/01/17 09:32 PM
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To each their own. It doesn't matter what you and I think. It matters about what actually happens. Read "The Origin of Species (1859)" for more context on this topic.
/r/askTRP15/01/17 09:30 PM
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I think your missing the point here. Women are "ready" to give birth between 13 & 17 (after their first period). It's not necessarily the YOUNGEST woman you can find... but the one that you're most attracted to as a man. The age variance can range from ~17-28 for the most fertile women. Our culture doesn't exactly promote procreating at such a young age (nor are women even good partners or mothers at that age). I'm speaking more from an animalistic evolutionary perspective here.
/r/askTRP15/01/17 09:12 PM
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Plausible deniability. Figure out some way or excuse to come in. Give her hamster something to run with. "I love dirty places- show me your new couch" or "Let's go to your place for a cup of tea". Bitches love tea. Especially the plausible flavor. Steeped with deniability. Harmless & let's the female think that it's "natural" & it "just happened". Aka she won't feel like a slut letting you into her cave.
/r/askTRP15/01/17 09:02 PM
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TRP top posts. Sort by "all time". This is a main theme of the red pill. It boggles my mind how you can ask this question without reading every single piece of top writing first.
/r/askTRP15/01/17 08:59 PM
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Evolution. Women select men based upon traits that show he can protect & provide for her & her offspring. These tend to be males that are older. Traits women look for: ambition, drive, wit, charm, social standing, SMV, financial standing, physical fitness, strong frame, sensitive, reliable, affluent. Older more established men tend to have these traits. Men select women based upon different traits: hip to waist ratio (best chance of successful births), submissiveness, caring, feminine, youthfuln…
/r/askTRP15/01/17 08:07 PM
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Good post. Grant Cardone also does a chapter on this in "The 10x Rule" that's worth reading.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 11:21 PM
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Man. If you aren't trolling, then here's what you do: Nothing. Your girlfriend is her own human with autonomy- she can go to a movie with whoever she wants. It's up to you to be reactive or abundant about it.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 08:30 PM
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Fair enough- good perspective. Didn't think of it like that.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 08:20 PM
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Keep pursuing her but turn up the plausible deniability to a 10. Like "oh we're just watching a movie", and "don't worry, friends can sleep in the same bed right?" Give her hamster something to work with.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 07:13 PM
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Listen to u/vandaalen. He's giving you great advice & you're dismissing it & creating new posts about the same thing.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 07:00 PM
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Good progress. Once again, some men on here are willing to put in the work & make great progress. Building a social circle takes work. What I do, is I talk to everyone that I would want to have as a friend in the activities I'm currently doing. Seems weird, but just approach guys & make conversation. Small talk, like "how's the workout bro?" Or something about the weather or their dunking form on the hoop. Build rapport. Those conversations will then segway & after a few weeks you'll find you ha…
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:55 PM
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Chuck gets it! Probably makes like 15 friends a day through this bulletproof strategy. A+
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:50 PM
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Don't say "yeah I have no friends". Because it's likely you do have friends, or have HAD friends. Just not in your current city or location. When she asks to meet your friends, say that you have lots of buddies but they're from x city I used to live in. On a different note- make some friends. Aka talk to everyone. Approach guys, make conversation, then get their number & hang out.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:48 PM
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I've lived plenty. Also gone to university, got my degree & realized after 1.5 years I couldn't get a job with it. So ended up creating my own company & employing myself. 20K+ student loan debt I'm paying off too. Sure, let yourself feel jealous. Wallow in your victimness- but set a time limit. Do it for an hour, then never do it again. Seems like you're just burnt out. Take a few days to yourself and relax man. Life's not so bad, you'll realize that soon. If you feel clinically depressed, then …
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:36 PM
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Who told you that life is 70% luck? Life is 70% hard work, & 30% opportunity and timing. Your jealous of your friends because you have scarcity mentality. You don't think there's enough success to go around. Life sucks sometimes, we've all been at low points- but you need to break free of this victim mentality. Empower yourself & be more like the people you admire. What would they do if life had them on the ropes? Do that.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:28 PM
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The men who are obsessed about one girl want to be. They enjoy living in victimhood. Change takes work, effort and the ability to put down your ego. Most guys here want a quick & dirty answer for them to keep "chasing her". Your oneitis doesn't want you because of the man you currently are. Educated, experienced men volunteer their time on here in order to help guys live a better life and most of you just spit in our faces. Read u/The_BitterTruth post history. A true up & coming writer on here.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:24 PM
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Tommy Hilfiger make a good 3 pack v neck. They fit to size and don't bag out in the arms.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:15 PM
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Weird situation. No experience with this type of thing, but I think you did good here. Showed abundance mentality & you weren't butthurt by the outcome of it. But just be weary that you "let" that happen. You could've easily just pulled the girl in closer & waved the guy goodbye.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:14 PM
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Sounds like she's into you, but doesn't want to look like a slut (cheating on her boyfriend). It's an ASD thing. Guy sounds totally oblivious to all this- so it's your call on how to proceed. Not going to go into the morality of it- let the woman choose. Doesn't seem like she's using you for attention- seems like she's proding for your attention. She wants you too "take what you want". Seems like she wants a no-strings-attached setup but wants you to make it happen.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 10:59 AM
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Ghost her man. She's done with you. She cheated on you with that other guy. Hypergamy, branch swinging woman. 100% radio silent- no contact. Wow, sidebar read. You. Much. Thanks.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 10:51 AM
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Great post, this is the kind of quality content that TRP needs. One thing I've noticed being self employed is no doesn't always mean no. No usually means try harder. If you keep pushing, you'll always get your way. It's hard to beat a man who never gives up.
/r/TheRedPill14/01/17 10:34 AM
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You included a link to protein powder by soylent.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 09:41 AM
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Not sure if your serious or not. If you are then you need to be consuming 70-80% real food. Veggies, grains, lean protein, and then supplement maybe 20% with this powder. Humans have evolved to eat real food over hundreds of thousands of years.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 09:17 AM
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Just came back from Amsterdam. Agreed about the Arab/London guys aggressively approaching 100%. Saw that happen at least a dozen times while I was visiting. Gotta stand out in some way or look in the right areas.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 09:11 AM
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Do you find putting your career in the title gets you women who aren't interested in sex- Classifying you more in the Provider category? What's been your experience?
/r/askTRP14/01/17 07:35 AM
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Picturing this like: "if I were a boy" "put a ring on it" "man it feel like rollin dice"
/r/askTRP14/01/17 07:34 AM
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Keep things in the same place every day. Your brain works off of familiarity and habits- especially with location. When you get home, put your keys in one place. Your wallet in the same place. Your phone right next to it. Repeat that process & you won't have this issue. Slowly this will make you more organized & in turn less forgetful.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:35 AM
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It's a way to keep in contact with you. When I first starting dating my LTR, she used to (purposely) leave her things at my place. Phone charger, shorts, bra, shopping bag. & sometimes would borrow small things from me like a sweater or a long dress shirt to wear to bed. Modern day expression of an evolutionary adaptive mating strategy. It's a pair bonding thing. Go with it.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:27 AM
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Cheers man, happy to help. Yeah after a second read, it looks like a comfort test to me. Especially since she's sick- probably feeling pretty low.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:22 AM
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Don't know the tone here, but since this an LTR it looks awfully like a comfort test. Since you're away & probably dreading her quite a bit, try & pass this with comfort. You're not "entering her frame" by doing this. You're being her rock. Comfort tests are arguably equally important as shit tests in LTR's. Try saying something like "how could I not call you baby, I'd miss your sweet little voice" or something like that. Only if this is a comfort test- if it's not then agree & amplify
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:10 AM
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When you see her Monday joke that you've been texting her all weekend. When she clues in right away that it wasn't her- play along & say that you must've been texting someone else all weekend. It'll become an ongoing joke. Good opportunity to tease her about not knowing her phone number. Light dread right off the bat baby! Alternatively just ask for her correct number on Monday.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 06:05 AM
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My error, was thinking of someone else in the industry. Thanks for the correction.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 02:46 AM
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Fine, some is genetics- but don't handicap yourself here. You don't have to compete with Chad or be the MOST alpha. Lots of guys on here are average guys but got a lot better by doing hard work. You can also do the same thing.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 02:45 AM
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why bother if you're not the best... Realize right now, that there will always be someone better than you. It's unlikely that this man is naturally like that. Confidence, happiness, and being good looking takes effort. Although is may seem like it comes easy, he probably works out 5 times a week, has a good social circle, reads and betters himself every day. AKA what you should be doing. My advice is to befriend him. Learn from him, mentor him. Instead of sitting on the sidelines and feeling jea…
/r/askTRP13/01/17 10:20 PM
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Welcome. You need to read the sidebar and required reading- top posts from the main sub before asking specific questions in asktrp. I read TRP for 12 months before I ever commented once. Cover the curriculum and 95% of your questions will be answered already. Including this one.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 09:53 AM
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Evolution. Women select men based upon traits that show he can protect & provide for her & her offspring. She'll test him to see if he is a strong enough male to handle her- and put her in her place. If he's not strong enough to handle her, then how can he protect her? She'll find a new man if he's weak- hence hypergamy. Traits women look for: ambition, drive, wit, charm, social standing, SMV, financial standing, physical fitness, strong frame, sensitive, reliable, affluent,. You get the picture…
/r/askTRP13/01/17 09:26 AM
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True. But Adding cardio & your normal weight lifting will burn more cals too - which leads to weight loss.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 06:55 AM
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He died of heart issues (related to diet). Ironically his eating strategy sought to solve this issue.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 02:52 AM
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Become a man worthy of respect. As in, work on yourself, your career, your body, your mind & the way you look & dress. All of this adds up. Women know when they're being shitty. They've evolved to treat the right man with respect. Women don't treat respectable men like this.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 02:48 AM
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This guy gets it.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 02:42 AM
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Low carb diet is one of the worst things you can do for your body. As u/pridebrah pointed out, carbohydrates are your brain & body's main source of energy. Your body converts carbs into glucose and you use that glucose to grow bigger, stronger & conquer.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 02:39 AM
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Exactly. You are what you think you are. The ego protects your identity & can light a fire of confidence & IDGAF mentality. On the other hand it can develop a false sense of self and can limit you in accepting the truth about reality. Example: Someone might think they're so great when in reality they're 20lbs overweight & act like a douche. But they call themselves alpha all the time. Big ego.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 02:36 AM
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I just finished "The Charisma Myth" on audible. That's been the best book to help me. Eye contact is a big one. When you're staring into someone's soul it's hard to think about other shit. They clue in that you're fully present & you exude that sought after charisma. YouTube Charisma on Command. He's got some great content on this stuff.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 02:31 AM
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Egocentrism. Most people think the world spins around them, they are the sun, the moon, the stars & everything they do is right & better than everyone else. This is simply the ego in our brain protecting us from uncomfort & dissonance. Relevant study on ego
/r/askTRP13/01/17 02:23 AM
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Big misconception here. Like most psychological theories, they can viewed on a continuum. Being extraverted or introverted 100% is unlikely & improbable. You usually sit somewhere along the curve, with some people being outliers & most being the average. Think of it as a spectrum.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 02:16 AM
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Yeah I agree with you. There's a balance you need to strike. With women you're courting, like you said, you need to take the lead & escalate it to something intimate. Doing this with body language, conversation, banter, touching etc. I take a step back & let things flow when I start losing track of time & getting into whatever the chat is about. That's when lower inhibition comes in & charisma raises up a knotch. Main thing is to be present. When you're present, leading, goals and effortless con…
/r/askTRP13/01/17 02:13 AM
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Caloric deficiet -200cals below maintenance. Continue to lift regularly (strength & hypertophy). Sleep 7-9 hours a night, do HIIT, boxing or running 3-4 times a week. Keep carbs & protein high. 40/40/20 carbs/protein/fat.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 02:01 AM
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An LTR is a constant balance between comfort & dread. There needs to be adequate amounts of both for it to be successful. I'm in a 3 year relationship with an HB9, & I can confidently say that you need to have rock solid frame & be on your A game. Testing doesn't subside, it continues- just in different ways. Always. A balance 80/20 alpha/beta works well. You shouldn't LTR a woman unless you're sure she is feminine, submissive, & has a good relationship with her father. Not always predictive, bu…
/r/askTRP13/01/17 01:46 AM
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Mind games man. How many times does it have to be stated here. Text for logistics only. Otherwise it works against you & kills attraction.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 01:42 AM
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I find when I enter a conversation with an objective, it always turns out weird. It seems almost contrived because I'm trying to reach a goal. Part of communicating with other humans is lowering your inhibition & seeing the conversation for what it is- a conversation. There's obvious exemptions, but for the most part letting things flow & building rapport leads to good outcomes.
/r/askTRP13/01/17 01:40 AM
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Confirmation bias at it's strongest. You see what you want to see.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 11:51 PM
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She wants to fuck you. Any women who invites a man into her space, is asking to be lead by a man & sexually taken. Her inviting another guy from work was a shit test. Should've said "Ya it's cool- see you soon". She probably wouldn't have even followed through. Just testing your frame. Women do that shit.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 10:41 PM
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How old are you? Assuming it's for an LTR: Skating, sex, hiking, laser tag, food, small venue concerts, sex, comedy show, beach, go karting, sex. I just go by whatever I feel like doing & it's always fun. Important part is to lead her.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 10:38 PM
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This can't be understated. The sheer victim mentality in this sub lately is off the charts. Empower yourself & take the fucking advice that educated men on here volunteer their time to give you.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 10:35 PM
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Nah, flake at the last 30 seconds. Go for sushi without her (all you can eat). Mail her the receipt demanding payment, then radio silent for 6-8 days.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 10:32 PM
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"Hey you, I'm coming over to your place at 7."
/r/askTRP12/01/17 10:04 PM
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Depending on how you measure your percentile (looks, femininity, submissive, sweet). Women are scattered everywhere. There's tons of them. The 5% don't gather in one place- but there are definitely higher concentrations in certain areas. University's, gyms, city centers, affluent locations. Anywhere but the club.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 08:50 PM
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Great advice.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 06:49 PM
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Don't seep down to her level. Take the high road. You don't gain from confronting her- you only look lower in her eyes because it shows you're falling into her frame.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 06:47 PM
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Your welcome, post a FR if you end up plating them or they come around.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 06:21 PM
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Refreshing to see a woman who is in touch with her biology and doesn't accept the feminist propaganda in the media today.
/r/TheRedPill12/01/17 06:18 PM
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"Hey you, come over to my place at 7." She'll know what's up or she won't come.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 06:10 PM
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She want's closure. Don't give it to her. She's contacting you to wonder if she made a mistake by leaving you.
/r/askTRP12/01/17 06:09 PM
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First mistake, you gave the bartender your number. You're asking her to lead by calling you. 9/10 times it won't happen unless your SMV is through the roof. In the future- get her number, so you have control of the interaction. Am I coming across too passively with these women? It's hard to tell without knowing you or having more context. I'm leaning toward yes. But then there's the element that it might just be these flakey women. So there's an exception there. I decided not to push further as …
/r/askTRP12/01/17 06:02 PM
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Man lay back a bit. First date. Don't give up when someone doesn't do everything you want right away. She's probably at work or ghosting you. Just chill & play the game.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 09:11 PM
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More context for a better answer. Depends if the rudeness or disrespectfulness is a shit test or not. Agree & amplify if it is If she's doing it because she thinks your a beta- then don't set boundaries. Just withdrawal affection.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 09:09 PM
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Never done keylogging. But I know my way around terminal. Find an app on the App Store. Try some different programs out and figure it out.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 08:49 PM
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Run it using terminal. Or google it. He gave the directions in the file. Or alternatively, search. https://www.google.com#q=key+logger
/r/askTRP11/01/17 08:23 PM
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Tell the truth then, and end it on your feet. Admittedly it would be the easier way to end it. But not the right way.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 08:19 PM
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Sounds like a cowardly way to end it. Just leave her high & dry with thinking that she lost her alpha forever. Aka break up with her & stick with it. It's not worth the time or degrading of your own self worth for the benefit.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 07:49 PM
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"Hey you, come over to my place at 7." Then reward as necessary.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 07:42 PM
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Attraction is variable and can move up and down depending on options, social status, SMV etc. If you haven't read this yet, then I would start there.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 07:41 PM
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Go for it. No doesn't always mean no. No sometimes means LMR or ASD. Nothing to lose by approaching her again.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 07:30 PM
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You're thinking too much into this. Be normal. Be a human- you're a social guy with options, act like it. Message her for her number & when it comes to driving on the date, say "let's take your car". No big deal. Then escalate with this woman- no matter what girl A or C or B or X or Z think. Dont fall into their frame.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 07:26 PM
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Usually when something doesn't work, it's because the person doing it didn't do it enough or correctly. Execution is everything. Try harder- try it for a month, then iterate. I would start by reading stuff other than the red pill. There's many books on red pill concepts like charisma, success, approaching, frame, etc. Sometimes you can miss the forest through the trees with too much time on this sub.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 07:17 PM
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Waste of time. What's the point? You know the truth already. Open source on Github.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 07:11 PM
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Your stuttering comes from the anxiety. I watched a documentary on Tony Robbins recently with his cure to stuttering. Worth a look. Try this: Scream at the top of your fucking lungs. For like 2 minutes. Shout like you're a lion. Roar. Get angry man. Do that 3 times a day (in your car or room or whatever) for a week. It'll help get some of your pent up emotion out. Try it.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 07:10 PM
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Go talk to guys at the gym and make some friends. Get a hobby. Guitar, basketball, reading books, coding, anything to propel you forward. Fuck the tinder online scene. You're grouped with every other guy hounding for one girls attention. Approach women in real life by saying "hi".
/r/askTRP11/01/17 07:07 PM
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You act normal. Like she's any other woman. You don't have to "face her" as your psyching yourself out to do. You're both different people now & you don't need to dwell on the past because she wasn't interested. Alternatively you could approach her again & get rejected again. Nothing to lose. Good practice too.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 06:41 PM
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Don't fall into her frame. You're inferring that she's going to start some drama before anything ever was started. She sounds toxic. Cut her out of your life- despite if she kicks & screams about it. No point in wasting any more time with her.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 05:52 PM
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Yes, smile back. Put your ego aside & stop being anxious of the outcome. When a woman smiles at you, usually she's opening herself to an opportunity to you. By not smiling, you're turning her down.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 05:48 PM
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Compiled advice of over 14,000 words of TRP wisdom. Thanks to u/OneInAZillion. Enjoy.
/r/askTRP11/01/17 08:04 AM
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There's too little information here to tell. You can't take this one fact & generalize it to the entirety. If you do, then you'll have to be consistent with only LTRing women who are virgins & never had a boyfriend. There's other elements in determining an LTR. What's the full story OP? Provide some details.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 11:04 PM
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Try for it anyway. Sometimes people surprise you. Maybe she just got a settlement from some thing you don't know about & was thinking of paying it back. Ask for it anyway. Nothing to lose.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 10:55 PM
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Doesn't matter if she has it. She needs to pay it back even if it's on a payment plan. If she has any decency then she'll start paying it to you.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 08:42 PM
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I have to disagree here. If you say "OK well Saturday works too" that shows you have no life, no options, and therefore no value. You don't have to frame it this way. Abundance mentality is also putting your ego behind you and arranging a date. "I may be busy Friday, if I am I'll be free Saturday though" This is her making herself available to you. Time to not ignore it and say, "Hey you, I'll pick you up Saturday at 7." We can both assume that she flaked in the beginning because of her other pl…
/r/askTRP10/01/17 08:37 PM
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Read "The Charisma Myth.". This will help you break out of your shell more.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 08:27 PM
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reactionary ideology to feminism and lack of traditional women. Big words for a simple concept. TRP at the core, it's a men's improvement forum to increase sexual interactions. Despite the sometimes crass terminology and dogma of TRP. Many of the teachings here are actually based in evolutionary psychology & biological mating practices in humans. No need to overcomplicate things here. Traditional Monogamy has been covered ad nauseam on the sidebar. Take a look and you'll find the answers you're …
/r/askTRP10/01/17 08:25 PM
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You behave normally. Unfazed by the breakup and her in general. Rock solid frame and demeanor. You're a changed man now, and she doesn't get access anymore. Also you should get your $700 back from her. That's quite a bit of cash to leave to an EX LTR, and she owes it to you. Great chance to get it back when you meet her for the insurance business.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 08:23 PM
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You need to express your interest in these ladies. Build some rapport with conversation in person. Then once you see some IOI's from them, message them to meet up. You could say something like "Hey girl D, I'm going to the basketball game tonight at 7, come with me.". By taking the lead here you get put ahead of 95% of males in your school.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 08:19 PM
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Read "The Charisma Myth.". This will help you break out of your shell more. Pick up "The six pillars of self esteem" and then read "the magic of thinking big" and "breaking the habit of being yourself." Classics like NMMNG and The Way of the Superior Man are also good reads. These books changed who I was, they will likely do the same for you. Improving your life takes effort and time. There's no easy way out. TRP can tell you what to do, but we're not going to do it for you. Take action on your …
/r/askTRP10/01/17 08:17 PM
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You're welcome.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 06:50 AM
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Fair enough. Then try and pursue this Airbnb woman. See how it goes. Post a FR if it goes well or doesn't- I'd like to see how this plays out.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 06:49 AM
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u/RPShitlord is correct here. Pay a lawyer or a notary to look over this. Might cost you $150 USD but worth it in the long run. I've been fucked over before and god I wish I could go back and pay whatever amount required to cover the right documentation.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 06:48 AM
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Approach people and make conversations. Talk to everyone. Become someone that's worth a fuck. Raise your SMV.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 06:45 AM
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Little bit risky and weird because you're renting from her on Airbnb she's the host. If you approach and escalate you run the risk of being flagged from her on Airbnb and equating to a possible felony or rape charge depending on how crazy she is. Worst case scenario, but it's women... so you know. Have abundance mentality here. This Airbnb host isn't the only girl in SF. You have a great job at a VC funded startup- SMV through the roof. Approach other women.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 06:43 AM
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I gave you the advice that has worked for me. I convert around 80% of my leads into customers. Sometimes I even get graphic designers to do work for free for me. It's all about framing it. I'd say listen to my advice (try it). Trust the process & see if it works. If it fails I'll send you a $5 Starbucks card. Win-win
/r/askTRP10/01/17 01:16 AM
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What I mean is there is enough evidence in support of one side to develop a universal consensus and understanding. Despite the sometimes crass terminology and dogma of TRP. Many of the teachings here are actually based in evolutionary psychology & biological mating practices in humans.
/r/TheRedPill10/01/17 01:09 AM
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Breaking news: Women find other men attractive. Don't let this get in your head. Do not confront her. Do not mention it. do not try and set a boundary. But I'm 90% sure it's a guy she told me about that she hooked up with before I met her. Then watch her behaviour on this.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 10:05 PM
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This is a great answer OP. Listen to this man. You'll continue to live the same life if you keep wallowing in your victim puke. Life doesn't happen to you. It happens for you. Those who get taken advantage of, continue to do do so because they enjoy living in victimhood. The weather is nice there- they can tan their fat on the beach year round. If it didn't serve them, then they would move to Ownership City- Governed by Mayor lietruth.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 09:55 PM
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Doesn't matter the order. Just matters about reading books. Start at the one that interests you the most. If you're on the fence, then read "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself" first.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 09:49 PM
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Sure. But why not skip the implicit, and offer it directly? Way more clear and upfront. People are more likely to see that as an offer and not just an implicit suggestion. Also, why would everyone be so optimistic as to think that this will make millions and they need to assure themselves a slice of the pie? I tell them that I'm working on it as a side project and that they should do the same. Right. But you're seeing it from your perspective here. People care about themselves. Their slice of th…
/r/askTRP09/01/17 09:46 PM
1

Seems like she's just doing damage control right now. People go through shit with their family, and there was obviously some emergencies going on. Who knows what the fuck's happening. Not your problem and it's probably not personal. I think you're technique is fine. No reason to think she's lying either. Wait til she reaches out again.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 09:39 PM
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Alright, so you lied and now you want to undo the lie. Here's what you do: It is your hometown, so you are actually from there, and you can make that clear to her. But you need to tell her that you're leaving back to University for another few months. Tell the truth and say you're going back to university in another city. Might not be the most comfortable conversation, but she's not your LTR. I think you're making this bigger than it is. Or do a cunt move and not say anything until I'm gone, the…
/r/askTRP09/01/17 09:34 PM
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Man, you're asking her to lead here. "Drop me a message when you're ready to make plans." Not her job to make plans. It's yours. You're asking her to lead. She just sent me a text today (Monday evening) with "How are you?" This is her making herself available to you. Time to not ignore it and say, "Hey you, I'll pick you up tonight at 7." We can both assume that she flaked in the beginning because of her period. No biggie, you probably got some extra gym time anyway. Her period is over now and s…
/r/askTRP09/01/17 09:29 PM
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Read "The Charisma Myth.". This will help you break out of your shell more. Pick up "The six pillars of self esteem" and then read "the magic of thinking big" and "breaking the habit of being yourself." Classics like NMMNG and The Way of the Superior Man are also good reads. These books changed who I was, they will likely do the same for you. Improving your life takes effort and time. There's no easy way out. TRP can tell you what to do, but we're not going to do it for you. Take action on your …
/r/askTRP09/01/17 09:26 PM
3

I would say your terms are the problem. Most designers don't work for free (I'm a web designer/developer and I wouldn't work for free even for a friend) unless there's promise of company stock etc. Maybe the cohort that you're drawing designers from has a bad attitude. Try looking on Dribbble or PMing someone in a designer subreddit.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 08:39 PM
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Most people tend to accept anecdotal stories before they accept hard evidence. It's funny that the exception to the rule is usually the story people choose to accept. Probably because it's the more comfortable fantasy and it avoids the facing truth and reality.
/r/TheRedPill09/01/17 08:34 PM
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If you want to ghost them for a while, just say you're busy and can't hang out. If you really want to divorce your friends, then you've got to tell them straight out that you don't want to hang out with them anymore. Full stop.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 08:29 PM
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Usually don't do humble promotions... but read my post on habits. There's everything in there for crafting a daily routine. Sounds like you're making big progress. Keep going at it. Adopt some you-time. Sounds like it's all about getting shit done right now for you. But you'll burn out quick and start asking "whats the point?" if you don't create downtime. I'm a freelance web developer if you want to PM me. I can give you some advice and mentorship.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 08:26 PM
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Enjoy yourself. Build attraction through touching, laughing, eye contact, banter and escalation. Kiss her at the right time when both of you are vibing and she feels comfortable with you. She's already into you, so don't fuck it up.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 08:23 PM
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This is not a red pill issue.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 08:21 PM
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Reminds me of one of my favourite quotes on TRP. "Women are not the goal in life ... they are simply the by-product of a life well lived." - u/CopperFox3c
/r/TheRedPill09/01/17 08:12 PM
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"I'll pick you up Friday at 7PM". Be forward about it. No room for her to assume that she has to lead. Pursuing a woman and being interested in her isn't thirsty. It's thirsty to sit on the sidelines and expect a woman to lead. If Friday works and she's interested, then she'll say sure. If it doesn't work and she's interested, then she'll suggest another time. If she's not interested, she'll either not reply or reply and not suggest another time. Trick is to watch her behaviour on this one.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 08:07 PM
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You're overthinking all this shit. Just call the girl to meet up. If she's interested then she'll arrange a time or suggest a different one. Don't "wait for her to hit you up with plans". She won't. Women don't want to lead & they get bitter when a man asks them to.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 06:18 PM
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Suggest to go over to their place. Not rocket science. If a woman is interested in you enough then she'll make that happen.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 06:16 PM
1

Where are you looking for women? & what kind of women are they? Most guys who have trouble finding worthy LTR material are usually looking in the wrong neighbourhoods.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 06:03 PM
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Sounds like you have lower inhibition when in certain settings & circumstances. This could be because of alcohol or just the time & place/sexual atmosphere. It's all about developing a strong internal frame with lowered inhibition. Just stop giving a fuck like you do at the parties... same you, same girls, same attitude. Frame it differently.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 05:38 PM
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That would be my suggestion, as there's no way of gaining back respect here. But it's your life, no idea about the circumstances.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 05:33 PM
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I want to regain control of things. I think you gave that chance away when you encouraged your wife to fuck other dudes. There's no gaining back control of this. She sees you as a cuck. Very little respect for you now. TRP is not a forum for Cuckhold relationships. At the core, it's a men's improvement sub to increase sexual interactions. Not the place for these questions.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 05:29 PM
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For sure, but it runs a risk as well. Not from a moral perspective but just from a safety one.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 05:23 PM
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Man. You're making this girl look like a slut to herself & you. Don't talk about sex. It kills attraction because it amplifies ASD. Meet up & escalate. Your not getting a better blowjob by talking about what she's going to do. Also don't escalate on text.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 05:22 PM
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Not going to discuss the rightness or wrongness of this. But watch out for her husband when he finds out. Be prepared. The nature of her behaviour and thinking is what is primarily discussed on TRP. Hypergamy. AF/BB.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 05:20 PM
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Seems like you cant sleep because of all this shit on your mind. Stop carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders man. Wake up. GF is being a bitch. Fuck her. Parents are in debt? Fuck em. Not your issue. Your a human, get some sleep & realize that these problems are small in the large scheme of life. Pop a melly (melatonin) tomorrow night then turn off all electronics, do a meditation (YouTube, Calm, or headspace) and relax.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 10:11 AM
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Just finished a book that really hit home on this subject. It's called "The War of Art". Essentially you're letting resistance overcome you. You're afraid of succeeding. So you protect yourself by never finishing or sticking to anything. When you never finish you cant fail or succeed. You protect yourself from change (positive or negative) in the process. It's not a two line solution on TRP. You need to work at this & figure out why you have this barrier. Read the book.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 10:04 AM
1

Don't jump into all that heavy talk. Keep it light. Use a one for me two for you approach. She shares something, then that'll segway into conversation and opportunity to ask more questions. Then touching, laughing etc. Don't get too hung up on the details here. It's not about what you talk about per say. It's more about how you talk about it (body language, eye contact, attitude, posture, social aptitude). You have a whole other conversation with your body. & that's mostly what women que in on.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 09:59 AM
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What problem do you wish to solve here? How I see it is you're just not interested in pursuing women as full time plates. This could be due to them just not being your type or being up to your standard. Try pursuing different or hotter women. Maybe take a break from club women as they're usually all the same. Things seem to be going great for you, but you don't want to put effort into women right now. That's cool. Take a break for a bit & see how you feel in a month.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 09:20 AM
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Go to the gym, talk to other guys. That's how you make friends. You go up and talk with people. It's likely that you could also make some friends through the company you work for as a dev. Lot's of those guys outside of work are probably pretty chill. Go to drop-in basketball at your local courts shoot some hoops. Usually you'll meet some cool people there. And then keep increasing your SMV and approach women you find attractive.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 07:41 AM
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I think you're waiting for her to kiss you. It won't happen. You need to polarize more. Escalate. TOUCH HER. Then get close to her physically. Hold her hips, then bring her in close and put your lips on her lips. She'll know what's up so don't talk or anything. We talk until the wee hours of the morning. I see the problem. I even choked her while we were watching a movie and her head was in my lap. You should've tried to kiss her instead of choking her. Her head is in your lap, escalate man. Esc…
/r/askTRP09/01/17 07:37 AM
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Sounds like you're cynical about living in general. Life gets better man. You're in a cycle and you need to break free. Start taking vitamin D and getting outside. Even a little bit of air will help clear this fog you're experiencing. The key to happiness is doing stuff. Get out there. Meet people. Practice something. It's easier said than done, and we all have low points, but it's time to stop victimizing yourself and break free brother. It's 2017, this year is your year. PM me if you need spec…
/r/askTRP09/01/17 06:58 AM
3

You can't? Or you won't? Track your calories in MyFitnessPal. Eat a caloric deficiet & exercise. Your human body is no different than anyone else's on earth.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 05:58 AM
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Don't let her bitterness get to you. You clearly still exist & she is oblivious to the definition of the word in itself. More of a reflection of her than of you. Keep approaching other women & bettering yourself.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 05:55 AM
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Follow up on your applications. Often jobs receive hundreds of applications & you're just a number in a Applicant tracking system. When you apply, do something other than a cover letter & resume to stand out. Build a website or write 10 ways you can bring value to their team etc.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 05:53 AM
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Most of the image of "pimps" you see are dramatized by the media. So the image is distorted by the sheer definition of the matter. If you met a real pimp in person he probably wouldn't be feminized.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 12:34 AM
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First things first, get a job. Second, move out of your parents place closer to the downtown. Keep lifting and escalating with women all while doing this. Otherwise go over to her place instead.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 12:31 AM
3

Ghost her if she farts. Hard next if she does it while you're talking.
/r/askTRP08/01/17 09:25 PM
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You know how you should react already. So do it & stop questioning it. She's not yours, it's just your turn.
/r/askTRP08/01/17 09:24 PM
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The man will make his own decisions. Let his decisions be his, & let him experience the repercussions of those decisions. His life will be lived, and he'll figure it out on his own time.
/r/askTRP08/01/17 06:38 PM
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Problem is you told her what was going to happen. Instead of just letting it happen. You see, plausible deniability is a woman's best disguise. If she agreed to go to your place after you blatantly told her you two were going to have sex, she would look like a slut to herself, you and her friends at the club. She doesn't want to give it up under too little guise for fear of this. What you should've done, is escalated at the club, then asked her to come outside with you to "get some air". Then fi…
/r/askTRP08/01/17 06:35 PM
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What? What is the context. Your writing isn't conveying the situation well.
/r/askTRP08/01/17 01:30 AM
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I'm not going to police you because it seems like you already see the problem. Take away the triggers that cause this behaviour. I.e. Drinking. Stop drinking; you'll stop being verbally abusive & hold frame better.
/r/askTRP08/01/17 01:27 AM
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I wouldn't read too much into it. Could be any number of variables. Important part is to keep escalating. Post a FR later & see how it goes
/r/askTRP08/01/17 01:26 AM
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Yeah doesn't sound like she's interested anymore. Women who are interested in a man don't go cold like this. They're always ON & accommodating of his advances. Do what everyone here is telling you to. Go no contact til she reaches out.
/r/askTRP08/01/17 01:12 AM
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Yeah it seems like she's in a relationship. So go pursue other women. The alternative is to keep pursuing her; but not sure if there's a worthwhile goal there.
/r/askTRP08/01/17 01:09 AM
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Amen to that. Glad it resonated with you. People try & decipher out this existential grand meaning to life. & the big surprise is that there is none. I find happiness and peace in that, & I think you have too.
/r/askTRP07/01/17 08:59 PM
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You've associated masturbating and porn with feeling aroused. As for the cuckhold stuff, you need some psychological therapy and to become a man. That's a whole nother issue.
/r/askTRP07/01/17 08:05 PM
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As I'm developing my personality, I decided I would appreciate some inspiration. I believe this was part of your request. Seduction is only one characteristic of a personality.
/r/askTRP07/01/17 07:22 PM
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Marcus Aurelius. Read his work. Maybe don't look for figures in particular, but read books & develop your own mindset about it.
/r/askTRP07/01/17 06:56 PM
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Yeah, maybe that's your problem then. Just too invested off the batt. I think you know the solution here.
/r/askTRP07/01/17 06:46 PM
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If you haven't already, then cut this woman from your life. You're on a mission & you don't need her mind games holding you back. Find healthy normal women who won't lie & play you like this. Easier said then done, but you need to vet girls before you commit to them. This is shitty but you need to move on from this. Take a few days to yourself. Then when you're up to it, keep pursuing women you find attractive & vet them stringently.
/r/askTRP07/01/17 06:38 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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