Hello, my question is, how do you command respect from women without being whinny or a bitch.

Situation 1: girl at university. Since I am going to the gym I need to carry a bag, everybody knows my bag, so we were sitting in the hallway on some chairs waiting for the professor to arrive. I say I will to the bath and put my bag on the chair, I go and I dont last 1 minute and this girl had arrived and put my bag on the floor and sat on the chair. I said nothing and took my bag and kept talking with the boys. But honestly I felt offended. This girls had been flirting with me a couple of days before(despite having a boyfriend).

Situation 2:

Okay this a whale from my job, I am almost sure she is in love with me. The problem she is too aggresive, she started with verbal offenses. At the christmass party I basically made everybody to stand up to dance, so we had a circle, she danced with me she then took my precious jacket from me throw it away into a pile of beers "because I use it too much".

Later that night we went to the disco, she of course came with us, I was a little bit worried I had lost some cash, so she came from behind and gave a "bro pat" on the back really hard and said "why the fuck you are so depressed?"

Help