Avoiding Arguments - The technique... HOW??

abdada · 2017-02-13T18:03:08+00:00

You have three options:

Ignore and if they are just that way, next hard.
Fogging -- this is my favorite because it's so easy
A&A -- this is tougher and can take pro-level skills

I fog all the time when it comes to people who disagree with me.

harkrank · 2017-02-13T18:40:07+00:00

Stay one step ahead and make up arguments about things that don't matter. Or take it to the next level and fake a gambling or drug addiction.

That's how you argue on your own terms. She won't start arguments over ridiculous stuff of you're already doing it and she won't start arguments over the important stuff is she thinks you have issues with gambling or drugs. Or getting into trouble or whatever.

youcantdenythat · 2017-02-13T19:26:45+00:00

You will never be able to avoid arguments and should stop trying. Trying to avoid them makes you look like a pussy and will cause her to attack harder.

How you handle them is what's important. It takes alot of practice to stop giving a fuck what she thinks, but basically that's what you have to do. Amused mastery is the key. She is acting like a child so pretend she is one and treat her accordingly.

If a 5 year old came up to you and called you an asshole would you take it seriously? Probably not. It might even be kinda funny. If the kid was part of your family and pitching a fit you would probably try to distract them with humor or something else. The same things work on adults.

Most of the time you can distract them or get them laughing or even turn their attitude around and draw them into your frame. Turn it into a game. Tell them to stop or you're going to take off their pants and spank their bottom.

Rarely they might have such a shitty attitude that they won't let it go. After 5-10 mins if they still being an asshole then tell them you don't want to be around their shitty attitude and go do something else. Or if it's at your house, ask them to leave.

Don't ever appear too angry, and next time you see them pretend like nothing happened. Don't give attention to their bad behavior because that is exactly what they want.

poochman · 2017-02-13T20:47:17+00:00

Grab her close and kiss her passionately. Problem solved.

Title	Avoiding Arguments - The technique... HOW??
Author	SkimSTi
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Date	February 13, 2017 6:01 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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