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"K" (or no reply at all) not a shit test. that is rejection, brother... onto the next.
/r/askTRP31/08/17 10:45 PM
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he has a lot of issues he needs to sort out with himself. its so hypocritical and stupid. he fucked up, knew he fucked up, and is now angry that she doesn't give a shit about him anymore.
/r/askTRP31/08/17 09:40 PM
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can't speak from experience. in fact, you probably should be careful. if he is oblivious to your tactics, he may just still beat your ass... then you will be laying there unconscious AND naked. might be embarrassing.
/r/askTRP31/08/17 09:16 PM
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be ready to throw some punches. when he comes at you, unzip your pants and drop trou... undies and everything, run towards him naked. he will be so mindfucked he will just run away. you win. this works especially well at parties.
/r/askTRP31/08/17 09:05 PM
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https://therationalmale.com/2012/09/14/amused-mastery/
/r/askTRP31/08/17 07:57 PM
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this is the right answer. don't expect her to and you should be the one reaching out and making dates the first few times (initiating a majority of the time). once she gets to know you a little better / you hook up / etc, she will start reaching out to you, in which you tone down initiation to about 20-30%.
/r/askTRP31/08/17 07:20 PM
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amused mastery.
/r/askTRP31/08/17 05:54 PM
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as corey wayne says... 'as soon as you stop dating/courting your girl, someone else will'. so if you really want to stop, be prepared for the beginning of the end. once a week whether its dinner or activities is plenty. i do maybe once every 2 weeks or so and she complains about it. but we both work, we both get busy, we both end up tired after a long day, so we end up chilling most of the time. point is... it doesn't matter what you do, try new things, enjoy the time spent together and she will…
/r/askTRP31/08/17 05:51 PM
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if you were a dickhead... own up to it and apologize like a man. nothing wrong with giving a sincere apology if you were in the wrong. and yes, with an LTR, they will need comfort. 2 steps forward, 1 step back. so if you noticed she was upset over it, you should have talked to her about it, simple as that, not ignore her. Remember, women are emotional and its how they feel IN THE MOMENT. a simple little talk and some comfort then some laughing/joking would have eased the situation... don't chang…
/r/askTRP31/08/17 05:35 PM
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step 1: read the sidebar. step 2: approach. there is no science to it. be congruent with what you feel in the moment. there isnt any formula or "lines" to learn for this shit. "hi" is usually good enough.
/r/askTRP31/08/17 05:30 PM
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you are a grown man... you dont need to get fucked up and party all the time to be fun or have fun. you are looking at this like a bad thing, you have grown up, matured, become a man... many women find that far more attractive than being a drunken clown. (while that may be seemingly fun for the time being, in the long run it only works against you).. look at this as a positive thing. just watch stand up, comedy, try to be more light hearted with not so serious things, work on being witty... that…
/r/askTRP29/08/17 10:44 PM
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how the hell were you supposed to talk to her if she went radio silent on you then told you all the shit about her ex?... fuck that nonsense. this shows how illogical women are, shes just voicing herself based on her current emotions. which seems to be anger (probably from the ex sitiation) probably just taking it out on you. handled yourself well from what you described. i wouldn't worry about it, neither should you, any response to this other than an "ok" would only be feeding her the validati…
/r/askTRP29/08/17 10:31 PM
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if you don't want people to comment, you shouldnt be posting on subs that are based solely on asking for advice, dipshit. if women's actions annoy you so much, do something about it, ON YOUR OWN.... i dont know, people don't waste my time, maybe because i don't allow them to. like i said, it is within YOU that you will seek change, not bitching about it and putting the blame on everyone else. (clearly its your attitude - its spelled out clearly in all of your posts and comments)
/r/askTRP29/08/17 10:22 PM
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is your mom a woman? if yes, no further explanation is needed.
/r/askTRP29/08/17 10:16 PM
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this post says it all, OP. you have a lot to learn, young grasshopper.
/r/askTRP29/08/17 10:14 PM
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the conversation between you two is hilarious. "i have to do most of the talking, setting up crap"...... ummm, well then, you should start dating dudes!! might be more inline with your feminine dynamic of wanting the other person to be alpha, cuz you surely are not. a lot of fixing needs to be done within yourself, OP, if you don't give a shit about anyone, then go be monk mode on your own and stop posting in a place where people are looking for advice about how to better themselves so they attr…
/r/askTRP29/08/17 10:12 PM
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start with the first part. get a response. then be more direct with a date/time. "lets do it again friday at 8"... the problem with 'grab a drink some time' is it is so open ended. its like want to, but aren't leading and waiting for her to plan it. she doesn't want to. the other side of that, is you can always say that you'd like to grab a drink some time, and when she says ok sure, then give the date/time that works best for you. escalate! you sound like you are in the right frame... less text…
/r/askTRP29/08/17 09:52 PM
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no harm in asking for the girls number the only way you can. you are probably not going to see her again otherwise. whats the worst that can happen? he says no or ignores you?.... you'll be in the same position anyway just waiting for her to get in touch with you. and as far as texting, keep the small talk minimal. the key is you want to do LESS on the phone and more in person. the more you talk/text via the phone, the more you will talk your way out of having a chance with her. you want to buil…
/r/askTRP29/08/17 09:31 PM
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i disagree with the poster that said things need to go back to normal tomorrow... as a dog owner myself, i know im going to be a wreck when my dog passes. it makes me sad just thinking about it. i know i'll be fucked up for awhile... dog got me through some tough times and they really are man's best friend. RIP doggie...... OP, give your woman as much time as she needs. everyone heals at different rates. just be there for her the best you can. she will come around once she mourns the loss. dont …
/r/askTRP29/08/17 09:27 PM
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nope, you won't get past it. you latch that emotion onto the woman. your post also screams of insecurity. "shes one of the most beautiful women i have ever known" - and yet you had her, committed to you, and you let a break for a few months happen. now you want things to go back to how they were?... fail. "she loves me totally and completely" - you sure about that? if that was the case, why was she ok with a break too? on top of that, if she was so in love with you, why did she fuck another dude…
/r/askTRP29/08/17 08:41 PM
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worry less about what you arent, and worry more about being happy that you are on track for success. looks really don't matter as much as people make it seem. the fact you aren't ripped isnt going to hurt you. but it surely would make things a little easier for you. a year strong is good, do another year. as a tall skinny myself, i can tell you i've made some pretty decent gains over the past year. really glad i stuck with it and i really think i will be satisfied in about another year. you shou…
/r/askTRP29/08/17 06:59 PM
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buying gifts in an LTR is not beta at all. the reason people preach about not buying gifts is because they are talking about girls they are DATING or TRYING TO DATE. you can't win girls over with gifts. so flaunting your money does nothing except attract the wrong types of women. you bought the gift because it came from you WANTING to buy your girl something nice. it is perfectly fine to do that every so often. they appreciate it. just as im sure you appreciate it if someone does similar for you…
/r/askTRP29/08/17 06:55 PM
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im sure it is to some women, either the attraction is there, or it isnt. some people like bigger, some people like skinnier. this goes for men and women... its best for you to fall into tall and athletic/in shape if you have a choice. so start working now and get yourself to a good place.
/r/askTRP29/08/17 06:38 PM
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an old friend of mine and me made plans to go swimming mistake number one. friends with her for a long time. obviously friendzoned. I asked if she was single, and she said yes but there was a guy that liked her (Let's call him Max) that she may or may not like back, she wasn't too sure. that's what she said because that's how she felt in the moment. and it means, "i might like you OP if you play your cards right, but right now itll take a little patience / i have options" That's when I made my m…
/r/askTRP29/08/17 06:31 PM
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it is perfectly fine to be nice and respectable. but, if you want something to happen with this girl, you need to lead and escalate. dont be a pussy! SHE IS INTO IT. she went for the walk with you, shes hanging on you, shes letting you get close...... just make the damn move. the reason nice guys finish last, is because they arent assertive with what they want. they care too much about what everyone else thinks about them and their actions. this is why assholes always win the girl and the girl s…
/r/askTRP29/08/17 05:20 PM
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if she left him first and then began something with you, what do you think would happen if some better alpha comes along? guess what... she'd leave you too (or cheat, or both)...... NEVER get into a relationship that starts with this type of shit. starts off with lies and shit... you are only going to hurt yourself.
/r/askTRP29/08/17 05:07 PM
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so much fail. i would turn your back on both and walk away. not worth the drama for a girl that is taken. she will protect herself first and throw you under the bus then you have to worry about the dude showing up with a shotgun... fuuuccck that.
/r/askTRP29/08/17 04:55 PM
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girls don't solve problems logically like men do. they are emotional beings, so they solve things by talking about them even if there is no good solution. all you should do is listen, repeat back some of what she says so she knows you are listening, basically acknowledging her feelings... if you are unsure about listening or giving advice, flat out ask her what she is looking for. if you sit there and try to solve her problems for her, she will feel like you aren't understanding her. that being …
/r/askTRP29/08/17 04:34 PM
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dont be that guy. plenty of single women in the world to have fun with. if i were in your shoes and one of my friends girls told me some shit like that, i would surely let the friend know about it. just me. because i am not about this kind of foolish bullshit.
/r/askTRP29/08/17 04:29 PM
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relationships and bonding are part of the feminine dynamic. it should never be up to you, the man, to bring up where the relationship is going. it is up to her. right now, you should have fun and hook up. when she starts bringing up the talks of being exclusive, or asking what you are together, (assuming this already happened as she told you she loves you), then you can decide if you want to move onto a committed relationship. from the sounds of your post, it doesn't sound like that is something…
/r/askTRP29/08/17 04:26 PM
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making a few mistakes here. firstly, even thinking about hooking up with coworkers. big no no. second.. when she made the comment about sexual toys, you brought it up again in a kind of creepy way (think how she would view that, considering you haven't had sex yet). lastly, you are getting flakey ass responses because you aren't being a man and leading. 'let me know any time you want to go to the gym and we can set it up'..... wtf is that? do you want to be her friend? work out trainer?..... you…
/r/askTRP28/08/17 10:47 PM
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Sure do!
/r/askTRP23/08/17 02:22 PM
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lol touche
/r/askTRP22/08/17 11:16 PM
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if you continue to constantly remind yourself, while its happening, then it becomes second nature after awhile. just like riding a bike. whatever you have to do to remind yourself, write "slow" on your hand when you go out. look at it. remind yourself. if someone asks what it is, just say some stupid joke. ha
/r/askTRP22/08/17 11:10 PM
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its a simple case of friendzone and negotiation...... do you want out? then man up, tell her how you feel and that you can't be friends. when she denies or says she cant, then you must be willing to walk away and never look back. when she denies what you want, and you continue to act like her friend and do friend shit together, you will never get out of the zone. walk away, stop initiating with her, stop doing friend hang outs, let her MISS YOU.. when she asks whats up, state your case again and…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 10:51 PM
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only issue is this kind of falls under the 'dont shit where you eat'... if this is an apartment or whatever and you are going to be there short term, then yes, escalate next time. fucking invite her over next time she comments about cooking "come over and check it out". whats the worst she will say? no. and then stay on her balcony?.. if you plan on living there for awhile, i wouldn't mess around with a neighbor. if stuff gets weird, you will feel like you can't get away. and if you have sex, th…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 09:35 PM
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if you want to stay in friendzone, proceed like you always did before and 'try to win her over'. what move did she do? probably going to determine the best way to respond. basically, any time you get friendzoned, the best negotiation is to state that it doesnt work for you and be willing to walk away and never look back. the second you walk back and try to win their attention again, you lose. so you need to have the mindset of not hanging out as friends, or just talking, if it isn't for somethin…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 08:31 PM
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this is one of those things that you will only learn by doing. just like speeches in front of a large group. you can read about it all you want (picture people in their underwear, stare at the back wall etc) but until you are in the moment, that is the only time you will gain the experience and start to get better at it... cant pick up a guitar and play a solo just by reading notes and not practicing... i used to have a problem like you have also, but what really helped me. working customer serv…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 08:21 PM
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you can't do anything about it. people need to be part of their own rescue. you can give some advice (like you did already), but ultimately he will have to learn by going through with it, then IF it doesn't work out like he had in mind, deciding if he would go through it again. this is the learning point for these types of events. they have to go through the shit to grow from it. its just like drug addicts/alcoholics. you can tell them they are killing themselves, hurting others, etc etc etc, bu…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 08:02 PM
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yes, beta. you are a man, you need to lead. come up with a date. girls don't want to make decisions on shit, especially plans like that. they just want to be part of whatever you want to do. so offer something you think is fun, be congruent with your feeling it is fun (even if she shit tests) and go with it. my first date with my current gf was bringing my dog and meeting at a park................ you really don't need to do a lot or have some extreme date idea to sweep them off their feet. if t…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 07:39 PM
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depends on what those emotions are. "The strong, silent type has been a manly ideal for a long time, embodied by the likes of Clint Eastwood, James Bond, and John Wayne characters. Tough and stoic, their lack of emotional expression has long been a hallmark of traditional masculinity." feminine energy is sharing feeling, emotions, bonding, relationships, etc. you def can share emotions and feelings, obviously you NEED to have a spine in your relationships. but if she makes you upset or whatever,…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 07:33 PM
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patience is a virtue.
/r/askTRP22/08/17 07:27 PM
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are you sleeping with said girls that you occasionally reply to? if the answer is no, you are an orbiter. sorry to break it to you. they are seeking validation, you gave it to them each time you responded. if its friends or whatever, then sure. be friendly, but why not just text or call. if they are friends, you'd surely have their number to chit chat on a more personal level.
/r/askTRP22/08/17 07:18 PM
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its pretty crazy when it all connects and makes sense... after reading all the theories, looking back on my life and what i did in the past, it was almost sickening. life has been so much better without being that orbiting sheep...
/r/askTRP22/08/17 07:13 PM
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you know if you enjoy someone's company you can extend the period in which you have fun together for a longer period of time. plates generally last months... LTRs can surely last years or even decades. it is what you make of it. just because you LTR someone doesn't mean you have to be depressed about your life being over. and you are in the wrong by saying once you LTR she will lose 80% of her attraction. if you LTR and go full beta, yes, its going to dry her up quicker than the desert. but, you…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 07:09 PM
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many guys in here are still getting redpill theories and are in monogamous LTRs. is it for you? well, you need to ask yourself, when you find that unicorn of yours, do you want to keep her as long as possible? if you answered yes, then you better start reading up to maximize your odds. Once she turns you into beta bitch (or you start off BP), she will stray and you will lose her. redpill is about learning to be the best man you can possibly be. which ups your value and gives you more chances to …
/r/askTRP22/08/17 07:03 PM
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that's what i would do. let her hamster work a little bit. you aren't going to lose her if you don't talk for a day or two. me personally, i'd wait a week. if you don't hear from her at all in that week, then reach out and proceed quickly to ask on a date.
/r/askTRP22/08/17 06:44 PM
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. I also probably wouldn't get attached to a girl that cheated on her BF with me unless she had a really good reason that she did so. good..... never forget that. I also don't want a girl who has no self control and gets drunk and has sex with any guy she sees. even better. You know what I'm saying? i get what you're saying. again, its just a rule i have because i have morals. to me, its just not something you (anyone) should pursue. you can still be a decent person while having an alpha mindset…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 06:35 PM
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ok, so she's countering.. thats a good sign. why don't you plan a normal date for next time then. early enough to escalate. (not a late night booty call). today, go on with your day..... would still wait for her to initiate a convo, especially because she kind of created a dead end topic anyway... when she does, assume she wants to see you, escalate convo to getting a date for your next avail free time (try to plan for 2-3 days out) if you cant for a week or two, don't ask yet. keep texting mini…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 06:29 PM
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its up to women to decide if things proceed to a relationship. if you don't want them to think that you will date them, then tell them you aren't looking for relationship when the topic comes up, otherwise keep your mouth shut. its on them if they continue to proceed. and yes, you should practice. if you aren't comfortable landing 5's, you are going to be scared shitless landing 8+'s
/r/askTRP22/08/17 06:26 PM
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OP, this is the best advice you will get. all social media is just validation for them. are you an orbiter? sounds like you are. you handle these events by getting off apps like that and not following the sheep.
/r/askTRP22/08/17 06:24 PM
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what were the reasons? if she didnt offer a counter shes not really as interested as you think. people that like other people would want to be around them, especially high value men that are hard to find.
/r/askTRP22/08/17 06:22 PM
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she flaked 3 times and you are saying shes still interested? that doesn't sound like interest dude... if she was, she would have counter offered and you would have hung out by now. normally, i would give the advice of being extremely clear with your intent and escalate all convo's to ask on a date. but if she has flaked that many times and you still haven't even gone out once, then i'd say you are trying too hard and are in the feminine dynamic of being the chaser.... i would wait it out and let…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 06:19 PM
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dont contact her............ NO. dont. you go, have a good time. you are making assumptions she will be there. who knows, maybe she wont?. so go...... have a great time. enjoy yourself. IF you happen to cross paths, just keep it short like meeting a stranger. you don't have to be a dick. you don't have to talk about the past. say hi if you want, ask how she is, then go on your merry way and enjoy the event. you owe her nothing. this would be an extremely stupid reason to make contact after none …
/r/askTRP22/08/17 05:41 PM
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its always been a rule of mine to not go after women that are taken. its just not cool. as a person that has been cheated on several times, i wouldn't want to put others in that position to do it. so its a rule i live by. with that said, there are 3.5 billion women on this planet. its pretty easy to find single ones. that is all the reason not to pursue someone that is taken. my issue with the chasing is that, say you do smash, say its amazing, say you start connecting more.. now you deal with a…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 05:33 PM
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to add to what other guys said already, you also have to remember that you can not force attraction. its either there or it isnt. you can't win it over even by proving how awesome you are. thats why its best for guys not to chase their unicorns if they aren't getting anywhere. girls that are attracted to you will make it extremely EASY to get together. no bullshit.
/r/askTRP22/08/17 05:23 PM
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they want the drama because they are trying to justify every reason that YOU are the reason for the split, not anything they did. they will not take responsibility for anything, ever... (this even happens if the girl cheats. to them, all of your problems/issues are the reason they cheated - its fucked up). so why even feed them any information? if things are over, its over. no reason to give them any more information or thoughts/feelings. its only used against you..
/r/askTRP22/08/17 05:12 PM
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be willing to take the loss and walk away. good chance you probably blew it. but you know, at this stage (or any in fact), when the guy starts pursuing/chasing more than the woman does, the power dynamic has shifted and she has all the control. you only look worse by chasing more/harder thinking you can win her back. sadly, it doesn't work like in the movies. remember this: the mirror technique. whatever attention she is giving you, mirror it back. if shes talking to you less, talk to her less. …
/r/askTRP22/08/17 05:01 PM
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you handled it OK.... here's why: when you get friendzoned. and you try to get out of it, you need to be completely OK with walking away and never looking back. its a negotiation. and when someone unilaterally makes a decision on the terms of the relationship and you don't like it, you need to be able to state your case and walk away. so you did good by stating how you wanted more. but you need to be much more direct. as in, something along the lines of 'i like you more than friends and i want m…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 04:42 PM
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its a plate... that means, you are having fun and hooking up. yet, you are describing her and your thoughts of someone that is in a relationship. dig deeper into your brain. if its just a plate, what she does on her own time away from you does NOT matter. its not for you to worry about. anything she says about other dudes, shouldn't even phase you... in fact, at this point, you should expect her to be seeing/sleeping with other dudes. no big deal. set your ego aside, or simply go date other wome…
/r/askTRP22/08/17 04:32 PM
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Boom... Have fun!
/r/askTRP17/08/17 07:49 PM
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doesn't matter.... if shes at least 51% attracted to you, you can send a . (period) and she would respond to you. hey. hi. some funny picture... makes no difference. the point is, after they respond, keep the convo minimal, escalate convo to ask her out again. none of this "let me know when you are free" shit..... more like "lets go out X night at Y time". LEAD IT. if she cant make it, and again, if shes interested in you, she WILL have a counter offer ("i can't make it that night, but how about…
/r/askTRP16/08/17 10:34 PM
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well sounds like you are SOL then. you should focus more on getting shit straight in your life first so you can actually make moves when girls give you the OK to take them out. you shot yourself in the foot. logistically you can't make anything work and you are trying to figure out to get them on a date... that's like having a phone with no service trying to figure out how to make a phone call.... fix the problem, then focus on the goal. whats the problem here? you either risk blowing a date wit…
/r/askTRP16/08/17 10:25 PM
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stop making excuses. go in your car and stop being a pussy... or take an uber so you can have a few drinks and not worry about driving afterwards. take it day by day, date by date... not sitting there worrying now about how you are going to be gone and you will lose the chance. you will always fail if you never take the first step. make moves sooner than later, and worry about yourself while you're away. if she reaches out and questions your being missing in action, say you are out of town for w…
/r/askTRP16/08/17 10:05 PM
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you failed? how.... amused mastery is the key to these inquiries. the more ridiculous the better.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 10:00 PM
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definitely over thinking. dont turn this into a oneitis prematurely. give it a few days, banter a little bit when she reaches out, but remember to escalate the convo to hang out again. action > words. lead where it goes. talking sex via text is not the same as escalating in person. if you are THAT good in bed, she won't need to be reminded. she would be begging to be at your place.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 09:57 PM
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failed comfort test. 2 steps forward, 1 step back. for every 3 times she initiates or says something like i love you, you can initiate it 2 times back. this is how you keep LTRs happy. without that comfort they will definitely feel like you give no fucks. you have to act like you care every once and awhile, the problem with beta guys is, they fall into the trap of caring 24/7 all day and get wayyy too needy about it. remember, for an LTR, it is OK to sprinkle in the comfort. they NEED it to stay…
/r/askTRP16/08/17 09:46 PM
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let her reach out. give it a few days if you don't hear from her. at this stage in dating (if you met somewhat recently) you should still only be going out about 1-2max times per week. so dont get needy with the texting.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 09:43 PM
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all these guys giving you shit about the text... yea, sure, maybe a little weak in the alpha perspective. but, at the end of the day, she didnt agree with the terms you wanted for the friendship/relationship. you voiced yourself that it wouldnt work.. you did OK... (this method generally works best when you are already BF/GF and they want to downgrade YOU - ie see other people or put you into orbit from previously hooking up). next time just text less, and do more. if you are saying her actions …
/r/askTRP16/08/17 09:40 PM
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like jb_trp said, thats actually why i prefer 7's / 8's (looks wise). they are attractive but need to use their brain most of the time like every other average looking person... which automatically ups their overall score to 9/10. the bombshells just get what they want with their looks, so they never learn how to be a decent human (generally speaking). or at least just expect to be treated special because they are hot. it ends up being extremely unattractive.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 09:34 PM
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22 and you are claiming late start? son... be happy you recognized it this early in life. i didn't realize all this shit until after 30 years old. now 34 i feel like i finally have a handle on myself and my life. i had a lot of fucked up situations in my 20's. had i accepted the fact i didn't know sooner, i would have been much happier this is the problem with 98% of men... they can't admit to being bad with women or not being a man... the ego always wins.. the man never learns... be happy you a…
/r/askTRP15/08/17 10:40 PM
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i used to workout after work... but i noticed i would make excuses about being too tired or lazy... finally took the courage to start waking up at 530am, get the workout done before work.... best decision i ever made and it was a lot easier than i thought. sure you wake up a little tired some times and really have to force yourself. but once blood gets flowing you feel much better. and then when you get home after a long day, you can just relax and not worry about the gym. win win.
/r/askTRP15/08/17 10:37 PM
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you are thinking way too much about this situation and you are thinking to handle it like a woman... stop. she isnt your gf. why would you get so wrapped up in the drama. dont text anyone anything. the friend, why even tell her 'dont contact me' ??..... just stop replying, block if it gets too annoying. that isnt your drama or problem. with the girl you are seeing, why tell her anything? do you want drama in your life? you do this with girls that you aren't exclusive with? you are bringing all t…
/r/askTRP15/08/17 10:29 PM
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if its a plate and you are non exclusive, whatever she does on her own time away from you means absolutely nothing... ex's/sleeping around/dating other guys... whatever it may be. if you aren't around, its none of your business what she does. just like its none of hers what you do. you are taking the entire situation too personally for a girl that isnt committed to you.
/r/askTRP15/08/17 10:25 PM
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let it go, you now have a $5 credit on her account. so make more bets... if you lose, you don't owe anything? yes, you are right, a bet is a bet. a bet with a gf will be viewed much differently than a bet man to man. take it with a grain of salt. and never pay her any money if she wins..... also, stop betting your gf dumb stuff about being right. this is right up there with arguing with women. its a lose/lose situation for a man. so its best not to engage. even if you are right in a bet over som…
/r/askTRP15/08/17 10:22 PM
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dumb question. this is going to be highly dependent on where you live. the cost to live in california is wayyyy more expensive than say kansas. google the median cost of living by state. that will give you a ballpark of what income levels are like in your area.
/r/askTRP11/08/17 10:18 PM
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so plate for 9 months, LDR type plate, then you tried to make it something more, for 2 weeks, and then done? still...... i personally don't see the issue. if it was only LTR commitment for a couple of weeks, it was still dating and open the rest of the time. that specific time frame, whether its weeks or months doesn't change the fact that if its not commitment, you can't worry about who they are seeing/hanging out with when its not with you.
/r/askTRP11/08/17 10:16 PM
3

look... if this is how you feel now, you should problem cut ties and move on. her past isnt going to change. so you can focus on what you want her to be in your life and move on, or you can live in the past and ruin everything you want to have. all good looking women are generally sexually experienced, even non attractive women can be experienced too. the thing that personally bothers me about her past.... dating a married dude... not cool. thats a red flag to me personally, a pretty bad one. lo…
/r/askTRP11/08/17 09:20 PM
2

of course they are going to affect your health and progress. as one trainer put it (this stuck in my head) "while its great you are hitting the gym for an hour everyday, and i applaude you for that, its what you are doing in the other 23 hours that's affecting the gains you expect".... you can work out as hard as you possibly can, but if you eat like shit, get drunk all the time (empty calories) then yes, you simple aren't going to see the gains you are expecting to get... you will get gains, no…
/r/askTRP11/08/17 08:54 PM
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i dont understand the issue here. you were upset/sad/angry? for what? you dated for ONLY 2 weeks? you were never bf/gf and in a committed relationship, both of you were still open to seeing other people. that's what dating is about. sucks the guy approached and asked you those questions. but this type of shit should leave you unaffected. its not like you LTRed for 5 years and found out she cheated on you... until things are communicated that there is a relationship/commitment, you should assume …
/r/askTRP11/08/17 08:37 PM
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thats my fancy way of saying TRP content. haha. just learning how women are emotionally based creatures. men are logical. all of our readings and suggested books touch the bases of this.
/r/askTRP11/08/17 08:33 PM
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you can't do anything. people need to be part of their own rescue. this is one of those situations where he must go through it, experience the pain and learn from it on his own. when that happens, if you are still buddies, offer him some books to read once he is on the road to healing... the only other way i got only ONE of my buddies to take any advice i had learned, was talk about all the self improvement i was doing to myself and the readings i did about feminine energies (so i could understa…
/r/askTRP11/08/17 08:21 PM
1

34 years young now.... been like this my entire life. could never gain an ounce... everyone told me the same shit.. "wait til you hit 30, it'll all change and you will be on diets to keep the weight off"..... nope. haha.
/r/askTRP08/08/17 11:00 PM
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yep. as they say... the golden rule of 2. never pursue more than asking twice. if shes at all interested, she would have said yes the first time. if she was legit busy on that first time, she would have immediately counter offered a date in fear of never getting the chance again.
/r/askTRP08/08/17 10:39 PM
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nothing...... she's smarter than you. the bigger question is why do you have poor grammar?
/r/askTRP08/08/17 10:09 PM
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or shes just not prone to shit testing as much. there's always going to be some girls dishing out more than others, depending on what their values are... but also think about it, if you have been researching and reading theories in here, maybe you are just at that point of subconsciously passing her tests? a lot of them aren't super obvious. you are definitely overthinking this status thing. women will ALWAYS shit test, it never ends, no matter what your status is. so i'd more say option C, you …
/r/askTRP08/08/17 10:00 PM
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haha right on. thanks for the insight. guess i have some mental barriers to break..
/r/askTRP08/08/17 09:50 PM
1

OP, i feel your pain. skinny guy here too. 6ft, 167lbs. been trying to bulk forever, thought my maintenance intake was about 2300 or so. started to get around 3000 per day. still just maintaining at this point... one dude in here said he was getting 4500-5000 a day... fuckin A, i wish i knew how to do that without feeling full all the time. i feel like its not even physically possible for me. any tips would be appreciated. also need to cut out more junk food. thought slipping a few burgers in wo…
/r/askTRP08/08/17 09:12 PM
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what kind of shakes are you making? jesus christ... lol. that can't just be a simply whey/protein shake..... adding fruits, and peanut butter?
/r/askTRP08/08/17 09:06 PM
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it might SEEM relaxed now, but the truth is, once you start messing with co workers, emotions get involved, and there will be drama! especially if you like the girl, or she likes you, or there's other girls/dudes in the picture.... jealousy, hate, etc etc etc... from what you described, it sounds like a shit ton of drama that isn't worth it. think this one through, young grasshopper... 3.5 billion girls on the planet. and you wanna mess with the 5 in your workplace
/r/askTRP08/08/17 06:23 PM
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this is why any form of text convos only HURT you... had you just text for logistics, like is always preached around here, you could have said "ok come over"... then escalated when she was there. instead, you talked yourself right out of hangout. definite fail. logistics only.... any text convos are for relationships, when they want a little comfort through out the day, even then, until you have been seeing each other for a lengthy time, should be kept minimal. if you were left on read.... you s…
/r/askTRP08/08/17 04:29 PM
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for me it wasn't even RP. i was on a path of self improvement so i was reading a lot books (found a few listed here through some of the RSD recommendations), started with a few eckhart tolle books about the mind and controlling my emotions... and i stumbled on corey waynes blog/videos when i wanted to learn more about relationships. after reading and watching those for several months, i was looking for confirmation about what he preached. so i started googling. somewhere in that search i found a…
/r/askTRP08/08/17 04:23 PM
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if they are your true/good friends, then agree and amplify. banter back. make ridiculous statements/jokes about it. this is one of those situations where you need to analyze your friendships. if they are so concerned with you and what you're doing, are they really your friends? who gives a shit what they say... do what you wanna do. its your life.
/r/askTRP08/08/17 04:08 PM
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Have you had sex with this one? If yes "come over with some sexy lingerie"... if no, "lets go out for drinks tonight" (then escalate). Any more talking instead of action will surely keep you in friendzone, if you arent there already. ESCALATE.
/r/askTRP07/08/17 09:47 PM
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yea, dont do that.... you will ruin your chances. dread in its best form, happens subtly. if you have to openly TELL her, "i took X girl home" (or whatever in that sense) it loses its entire purpose. point being, you have to let her create her own 'fairy tale' in her head as to what happened. you don't say anything. you have much less power, and you will lower your value in her eyes if you openly tell her shit like this. its a turn off. just say you had to leave. keep it minimal and mysterious. …
/r/askTRP03/08/17 11:04 PM
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everything you do in life is a negotiation..... if you are unhappy with your position, only you can negotiate better terms. if you want to get out of friendzone, you NEED to express what your intent directly to her, as clear as possible.. BUT, you have to be willing to walk away if she doesn't agree... if she doesn't want more than friends, you have to say ok and walk away, never looking back. otherwise, you will forever be in the same position. and you will be her emotional gay male girlfriend …
/r/askTRP03/08/17 11:00 PM
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"OK" , then... soft next for a few days/ a week... see if she initiates and tries to make it up to you. its not usually a good sign if they flake WITHOUT a counter offer day for another time. this just helps you determine her attraction level to you. IF she is in fact attracted, she will reach out and make another date happen. if she sends a text within a week, assume she wants to see you, escalate the convo to plan a date again. if she flakes again at that time, ghost and never look back... int…
/r/askTRP03/08/17 10:42 PM
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you could have went to the market and bought her a candle or some shit... its the thought that counts. you really don't have to spend a lot for them to FEEL SPECIAL. and yes, your gf isn't going to say anything about not getting anything, cuz she would probably feel like a gold digger in some sort of way. id watch her actions the next week or so. maybe it hasn't hit her yet. if she gets cold in a few days and is upset about something, it might be feelings from the bday. just keep an eye out. nex…
/r/askTRP03/08/17 10:32 PM
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LTR of 2 years and no gift?..... yea you are dick. the whole point of RP gift giving is not to trying to BUY your way into winning the girl during beginning stages... once you have the girl (LTR) its ok to buy her gifts (throw in some beta/comfort)), but ONLY because you WANTED to.... not because she asks for something or whatever. i can't imagine ANY LTRed woman being ok with not receiving a gift on their birthday. even though you took her out and did stuff, that's kind of a given as a complime…
/r/askTRP03/08/17 10:28 PM
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sounds like a waste of time? if you want something sexual, you probably won't get it here... considering the fact she HAD a boyfriend, whom also wasn't having sex. She will most likely want to lose that card to someone who is 'more serious' about being with her in something long term. that and the fact she is only 20 years old. she isnt going to be mature enough at that age to have a healthy committed relationship anyway.. so why bother. steer clear and go game up other women. there are plenty o…
/r/askTRP03/08/17 07:48 PM
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definitely don't want to LTR one of those... proceed with caution and verify..
/r/askTRP03/08/17 04:06 PM
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whore hôr/ noun derogatory 1. a prostitute.
/r/askTRP03/08/17 03:50 PM
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shouldn't matter. if you like her, and she likes you enough back to bring up the LTR (this is always a feminine position, you should never lock a girl down), then who cares? as long as you are mostly certain she isn't a whore...
/r/askTRP03/08/17 03:41 PM
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and to add to my post, YOU LOOK here, GUY..... if you are doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results, you are insane. why don't you try different things on your approaches and keep a mental tab of changes and reflect back when things start working better. thats how you improve. not preaching how confident, fit and tall you are.
/r/askTRP02/08/17 11:23 PM
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you are so fucking hostile. still in anger phase? christ... i think i know the problem... not very charming are ya? and no, its not a myth that low SMV guys get hotties... ive seen it first hand. thats actually what prompts me to tell guys that always complain about their looks, like that is the ONLY deciding factor in landing women. ITS NOT. get it out of your head. i have friends, who are at best maybe 4's on a 10 scale. without high income jobs, that get beautiful women all the time. so take …
/r/askTRP02/08/17 11:16 PM
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you are displaying something with your attitude. you say you are confident. but without seeing it first hand, none of us will ever know. if you are that FIT, and tall, those ONLY work in your favor. and honestly, regardless of how much people will preach otherwise, it isnt about your looks... why do fat/gross dudes who don't have a lot of money still land bombshells? it is probably the way you are communicating something when you engage/conversate with them. are you sure you are DIRECT. getting …
/r/askTRP02/08/17 10:49 PM
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you are only making it awkward and uncomfortable as you wish... if thats all you are going to worry about, then you better damn well expect it to be weird for you. just remember, its NOT weird. its human nature to kiss, hook up, have sex, etc. stop tricking yourself that its going to be awkward. its really not. be present in the moment and go with the flow. no big deal.
/r/askTRP02/08/17 10:09 PM
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shes waiting for you to ask her out on a date... be direct. no bullshit.. "lets meet at X place at Y time on Z night"..... go from there. try to plan it for 2-3 days out. if you plan for a week away, then you will probably start texting/talking too much before and fuck this up. dont be afraid to be direct and go for what YOU want. you are the prize, remember? be direct with your intent and things can ONLY go your way (if they work out). and since odds are in your favor (she reached out to you) t…
/r/askTRP02/08/17 09:15 PM
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no contact. if anything, (if you must cuz you are a pussy) send a goofy meme/picture or whatever. no shitty small talk via text, EVER. this is especially true while you are on vacation. (you should be enjoying yourself - not texting people - right? - well portray that by not texting). be congruent with what you said. if things ended on OK terms and you said you will be back next week, leave it at that. IF she reaches out in the next few days, small talk if you want, but keep it at a bare minimum…
/r/askTRP02/08/17 08:46 PM
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go to married redpill. you will get better advice there. and no you shouldnt leave. anger phase usually last a few weeks give or take, once you come to find all this new info. start reading. you'll live.
/r/askTRP02/08/17 08:44 PM
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she probably has some interest (good!)... your best bet is to do a lot of reading, as much as you can, for the next couple of days. keep texting to minimum, if she reaches out to you, small talk a few messages, then remember to escalate for another date. text for logistics. not to chit chat. you can come back from this, but you have to be a man. and you have to be direct. next time you see her, go in for a hug, then without thinking about it, just kiss her right from the get go. (start where you…
/r/askTRP02/08/17 08:41 PM
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came here to post this. and FYI, OP, post sex is the best time to open up with your LTR and give her a little bit of what she needs in the relationship (comfort). essentially you can be a little beta here and compliment and tease her back without being seen as a pussy... after sex is the BEST time and helps build a stronger relationship.
/r/askTRP02/08/17 08:26 PM
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women are emotional creatures. and their emotions can change in an instant... even with a committed girlfriend, they can tell you they love you one minute, and then 10 minutes later they can say they hate your guts and be cold. so for just a girl you are starting out with.. (assuming since you gave little information).. then there could be 100000 reasons she didnt want to... you were bad at it and she didnt want to hurt your feelings. she has a bf already and felt guilty. she liked you at first …
/r/askTRP02/08/17 08:22 PM
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this should be a lesson for many people looking for similar advice in here... THIS is why we advise to go no contact after you split with someone! most dudes that are ex-beta learning RP, can not let the bonding/connection feelings go away after a split, so sleeping together only triggers past feelings and always hurts.... OP, if you are still experiencing these feelings, you are, under your own will, allowing this to happen... you are still attached to your past relationship with her. if you do…
/r/askTRP02/08/17 06:21 PM
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like you said, the only way to get what you want out of these situations, is to be direct. she won't be able to read your mind, and if you expect her to "learn" based off rewards/punishment, you will be disappointed when they still aren't meeting your expectations. you can't be silent about it and expect people to know what you want/like. you will never be happy with covert contracts.
/r/askTRP01/08/17 10:43 PM
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sounds like you have found yourself a unicorn who has good morals! good for you... now, i might be against what a majority of the people here are going to tell you, but one trip with the girls? who cares? you can't expect to lock a woman and not let her do ANYTHING. if i were you, id be OK with it and just let her do her thing... while you do your own thing for a weekend. ie, dont you have a guys night every once and awhile? how insecure are you that you are worried shes going to cheat and fool …
/r/askTRP01/08/17 07:34 PM
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if she was the one that started acting cold. you definitely should back off... otherwise you will start chasing, which is the feminine dynamic. think of her as a mirror... whatever she is doing, you will reciprocate. if shes giving you lots of good attention, you give her good attention. if shes being cold and backing off, you back off. women are like cats, man. have you ever wanted to pet a cat so bad, but it didnt want you to? good luck catching it. you have to let them roam, because they take…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 10:43 PM
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your story doesn't line up.... you say she ghosted you.. but then you are asking for advice if you should cut contact or ask her on a date.... it sounds like you have been chasing her, even without getting responses from her. which means you already fucked up. why would you keep reaching out more if she continues to not reach out to you? back off and wait it out. if she reaches out again, on her own, you can quickly escalate the convo to ask on a date. IF she was in fact more than 50% interested…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 10:35 PM
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deleted and reposted because you didnt get the answer you wanted? let me tell you AGAIN. its all numbers. my HB10 could be your HB2. stop looking at women like this. do you not understand this question is all preference that will change from EVERY single guy in here?
/r/askTRP31/07/17 10:17 PM
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you should definitely express that you aren't looking for a relationship. this is exactly how you be direct with your intent. because if she says no, you still move on to others. if she agrees, then you know exactly where the relationship stands... stuff starts getting cloudy when people 'assume' their status with someone else. if there was conversation and she wants to see you, then the ball is in your court. i would def be open. but the truth of the matter is, if you felt that way before 6 mon…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 10:11 PM
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should have put a ring on it then newb...... plates don't spin forever. at some point, if things are THAT good, it has to transition into a relationship. otherwise the girl wont get the comfort they need... something you probably didn't do. now that she isn't "chasing" you anymore, your attraction builds (see how that works guys?). get over it, OP, she found another man that is probably offering her some stability.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 10:07 PM
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no different than any other cold approach/text for logistics/set up date situation. ZERO difference - keep the texting whatever shorter than longer... if she was ok with having the mutual contact give out the phone number, shes definitely attracted. send a text to introduce yourself as the man X talked about. send a few back and fourths to build a little rapport, BE FUN, then quickly setup the date... go out, have fun, if you are feeling good, escalate and see what happens. you are over thinking…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 10:02 PM
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she just liked the attention and validation she got from your buddy... the sad truth is, there are women like this out there that don't have good morals, regardless of what other types of relationships they have in their lives... he should ghost and cut all contact. sounds like he doesn't have the balls to walk away... which will only drive him deeper into friendzone.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 09:38 PM
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ok mister-know-it-all. not sure why you are asking for our opinions then. sounds like you have it all figured out already.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 09:16 PM
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this is all personal preference. what i think is an HB10 could be an HB2 for any other dude. best advice: stop using a number scale. by sticking with a scale like this, you will pedestal the 8-10's. they are all 1's (that should be your mentality)
/r/askTRP31/07/17 09:07 PM
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so hard to tell, man. could be 100000 reasons. the problem is, a lot of girls have trouble rejecting guys, so they 'let them down' nicely. by not responding... they would rather 'not hurt their feelings' and just stop responding all together. maybe she did in fact have fun, but you did some things that were 'red flags' to her. maybe she didnt have fun at all and it lied about it. maybe her EX was never out of the picture? we can go on about this shit all day. line up more dates and get your mind…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 09:05 PM
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ignore. you shouldnt want orbiters. thats a feminine trait. IF you become single one day, you have 3.5billion women to chase. you don't need to keep the 5-10 around for now. they will do nothing for you but add potential drama to your current life.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 08:53 PM
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keep it short. 3-5 messages back and forth... always want to be escalating the convo to get that other date planned. the thing you want to avoid is being that guy that sends 1000 messages a day back and forth, you want to do all the learning about each other in person. so if there is small talk, try to keep it playful and mysterious. remember, the more you say in between dates, the more your chances are of talking yourself OUT of them. don't think for one second, that you need to PROVE how nice …
/r/askTRP31/07/17 08:51 PM
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its all about mindset. stop focusing on what you DONT have (we can all hamster this shit for weeks on end and ruin ourselves). and focus more on what you WANT to create and where you want to be. sounds like you've made the biggest first step already, so just continue on the path to being a better person/man, and at the same, go for the women that you want.. they really do make your life better, by adding to it. just never forget, life will always be about becoming better... even if you get a car…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 08:40 PM
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thats awesome man, good thing the couples therapy is working more in your favor with the correct theories... ive heard more stories of that going the opposite, making it even worse for the men and turning them into the beta little pussies the girls were trying to do all along.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 08:37 PM
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could be multiple reasons. every girl is different and some are going to be much more strict about their rules of engagement. plus it could depend on religious belief. ie, think of those girls that don't have sex before they are MARRIED. just move on. some are going to be easier than others. it depends on how much patience you have.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 07:56 PM
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surprisingly, their needs are less than you think. sure they want providers, someone who can care for them, absolutely, but ive known and seen first hand, plenty of women that dated dudes that didn't have much of anything at first. never knew why... (until i started reading about feminine dynamics and what attracts them). its not all about looks, money, etc. - again that stuff certainly helps and will make it easier for you to get the girls, but its not everything.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 07:54 PM
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OP, listen to all the guys in here. its the truth. over reacted you blew your chances completely (if there was any remaining interest possibly left). you can't be phased by the shit girls will throw out at you. this has less to do with what type of girl you are going after, and more to do with how you are displaying yourself in their eyes. go read up on shit tests. certainly you shouldnt take disrespect. but this was a measly little comment she made as a joke you took the wrong way... not really…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 07:51 PM
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thanks for the confirmation, man. cool to see this shit working itself out, first hand.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 07:45 PM
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23 year marriage... nice man. seen some of your posts, didnt realize you were that far deep! so did she start working on herself after the comment she made?
/r/askTRP31/07/17 07:44 PM
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yes, you are doing it wrong. if women are clearly going after your attention, whats wrong with having a conversation? feel it out... you might not have much to offer now, but remember, women are emotional creatures... they thrive on bonding and relationships. if you can satisfy their emotional needs and give them those rollercoasters of feelings, it doesn't matter where you are at in life. (sure the career, apartment, etc etc all help - but you are working on that... shouldnt stop you from worki…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 07:39 PM
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you know, people are often generally happy and considerate.... not EVERYTHING is an IOI. they looked at you... whoa.. cool... if women are legit interested in you, they will open many DOORS for you to just walk right in with very little effort. do nothing. smile back if you want. if you don't see any boyfriend or dudes, then pursue.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 07:35 PM
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any time a man gets the 'lets just be friends' speech. its a negotiation. the problem is, most men go beta and think "yea ok, lets do this, fuck it, i can prove im an awesome guy. i will be nice and be there for her. this will win her over".... errrrr. WRONG. this is fairy tale movie shit that does not work in real life. your negotiation should be: "i want a sexual relationship with you because i like you more than friends" / "i have enough friends, i don't want you that way"... and WALK AWAY...…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 07:31 PM
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you have the wrong thought process on this.... especially with someone who is already in a relationship... change your mentality from: "how do i make her mine" to: "how will she make me hers" you can't force attraction. its either there, or it isn't. if it was, and she was with someone already, and she was worth 'being with', she would get out of relationship and want to pursue you... instead, you are being the chaser and trying to make it happen. its a feminine trait to want to lock someone int…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 07:24 PM
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you are posting here for a 'quick fix' from those of us who have done the digging and research.... sidebar. read it... read more books. read more stories. you already did the best thing you could do. accept the fact you are a bitch. now its on you to learn, research and grow as a man.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 05:27 PM
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thats on you, man. who gives a shit where you live. its YOUR place. its part of your life. why are you trying to hide it? you feel like she's gonna see your place and be like "man, fuck this guy, he lives in a crappy neighborhood"..... instead, you are feeding this in her mind: "this guy wont let me come over. he is so secretive about his place. what is he hiding from me. other girls? creepy/psycho stuff?"..... basically, you are making a bigger issue out of this and you will not keep her long i…
/r/askTRP31/07/17 05:15 PM
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yea it does matter. because where people live is their personal space. of course your LTR is giving you shit. its like you're hiding something if you don't want her to see your room. are you embarrassed or some shit? whats the big problem. i guess for me, i enjoy spending time at home and relaxing. my place is my kingdom.
/r/askTRP31/07/17 04:49 PM
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wtf...... how do you have an LTR and never ONCE been back to your place?...... roommates or not. it doesnt matter. you are the weird one here. not her...
/r/askTRP31/07/17 04:41 PM
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it is LTR based. and yes it is true.... you NEED to sprinkle in some beta to keep a girl long term.... 100% RP rambo's don't maintain long term commitments. as they fail comfort tests, the woman will NEVER feel they will be able to trust the man's commitment to her. TWOTSM is quite different to a lot of what is preached here, because a lot of the topics discussed here are how to game and get women in the early stages, to build that attraction of the alpha man to GET the girl... once you have her…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 11:19 PM
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fair enough. just wish these guys were smart enough not to pursue LTRs with said women... haha.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 11:09 PM
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appreciate it. maybe i went a little drunk captain in my expectations. thanks for putting it into perspective in a helpful way.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 11:03 PM
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i understand why you might feel that way, but again, just trying to get my point across without a wall of text. maybe you are right, pretty shitty of me to represent myself in such way.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 11:01 PM
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i understand why you might think that way, just trying to get my point across without having some long wall-o-text shit that no one wants to read.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 10:47 PM
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thanks man, i feel like i have maybe put in 70% of the effort of initiating/kino when im in the mood. but certainly, i wont lie, there is room for improvement.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 10:45 PM
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reading, becoming more of a man, AND LIFTING. shes complimented the gains ive made, phsyically (was super skinny guy, now getting toned up! - she grins from ear to ear when she grabs my pecs), so i feel like i am on the right path.
/r/askMRP28/07/17 10:42 PM
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she sounds like a nut case, if all this is true. i would ignore and stop contacting her. who is she to say you cant see other women, when YOU are single and she is in a relationship (which she is cheating on her BF)... and no, you are not in control. you lost this battle when you kept treating her like a gf while not having the title (because of your oneitis - ie, this 'one girl'). of course crazy chick is mad at you, you are her beta/emotional tampon. now that you decide to remove that attentio…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 10:01 PM
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stop it right there... she has a boyfriend, and shes doing all this with you? have you had sex with her? this is an important detail you left out... also, if she has a boyfriend, and is setting up 'dates' with you, you should NEVER LTR a woman like this. she will do it to you, just as she is doing to this guy. next time you post, don't leave out details like that, schmuck.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 09:48 PM
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you could have. but you can also stop being so available. you DONT have to respond to everything they say. if she gave you a wish-washy answer like 'we will see', then no answer from you is needed. hence the soft next here. she will get the hint by the lack of response.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 09:35 PM
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not your problem. sounds like rex did the right thing by asking jay about it. so that's all between them. my guess, Jay is going to get butthurt if anything happens. their friendship might dwindle in front of you and you may see both ends of them trying to devour each other while looking to the group to pick sides... stay clear. this is a learning situation for them both, but only the experience will teach them, not you giving your .02 cents. its not up to you to save their friendship if they ar…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 09:32 PM
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wait for her to initiate... she basically said she doesn't know right now. you offering any more again before, is needy/femanine behavior. if she is interested in you, she WILL let you know before Monday. if you don't hear at all from this girl. wait a full week, dont initiate contact, dont text/call. wait for her to reach out, as soon as she does, make another new date, don't mention anything about her flaking for coffee. if you don't hear from her at all after a week, try ONE more time. just v…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 09:24 PM
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keep calm and collected. no need to hold what happened a month ago and dragging that into current conversation. you are there to get your stuff, thats it. doesnt mean you have to ignore her or be a dick. if she asks questions or does small talk, reply back in a non-butthurt fashion, like shes any other stranger you talk to. you have to remember, at this stage you don't owe her anything, but you are the stronger person if you arent a complete dickhole to her, even if shes shit testing you the who…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 08:47 PM
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you are an orbiter, like the 100 other dudes. which is why anyone here will recommend to cut the shit and dont do this crap via social media. if there was any interest, you would get some better response. cold shit like that?..... good luck trying to "win" your way in, beta boy. if you want to see if there is real interest, cut the small talk and ask her to meet you out. you will find out really fast if this is worth your time or not. same rule as texting applies here..... logistics only.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 07:51 PM
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if she is in fact embracing YOU dating OTHER women... you should have nothing to do with this woman anymore. (if she is saying something like that, shes checked out of it - lost interest).. unless you can remove yourself from the relationship on an emotional level and plate only - most guys are NOT ready to handle that type of situation. move on. when she contacts you again in the future, saying she fucked up or ready to get back together or whatever, your answer should be NOPE. sorry, you snooz…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 07:25 PM
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just like with everything else in life, if you read or practice something (anything) but don't continually keep it in your 'to-do' list, it will eventually lose strength. its a long learning process, usually, and it sinks in slowly over time, that you yourself might not even notice the growth/change. (while others around you, that you don't see as much, can see drastic differences) examples: -reading RP theories, applying it, learning, experimenting, more reading, adjusting, its a constant thing…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 07:15 PM
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think of this logically....... can you change anything about what happened in your past history? (the answer is NO). so why let it fuck your current/future state? focus on learning from it, and become the better man you want to be TODAY, for tomorrow.... not the man you were yesterday. also, go read a book called The Power of Now.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 06:48 PM
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duno why dudes continually try to pursue chicks that are already taken. whats even worst, is guys do this type of shit and once they finally hook up with said girl, they themselves get attached... soon after, the girl does the same thing to them with another dude and they are heartbroken posting in the depression sub. my opinion. stop pursuing. when she isnt with the guy anymore, she WILL come onto you and make it known she is ready. go hook up with single chicks. also....... dont you ever LTR a…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 06:47 PM
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skinny dipping without you.... yea, red flag no doubt. saying she wants to "live" with drinking/smoking... easy... tell her 'no girlfriend of mine would do that" (no ultimatum - let her decide - if you are worth it to her, she will do what you request)...... if she still decides to behave like that, dump her... you are in charge here (or are you?). if people aren't meeting your expectations in a relationship you can easily leave and find someone who will... don't settle for shit behavior like th…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 05:37 PM
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what is there to discuss? would james bond run every meeting of his by his woman? if she asks what you are up to, say you are hanging out with a friend... if she gets upset, thats on her. dont get in the habit of having to 'run by' all your personal shit with your LTR. its your life...
/r/askTRP26/07/17 06:36 PM
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you could have said something yesterday and acted differently upon it a year ago..... whats your point? especially women.... they don't even know what they want sometimes.... look at her actions, not her words. she was like that. its in the past. if you enjoy her company now, let it go and don't take it so personally. if you don't like it, then why are you seeing her?
/r/askTRP25/07/17 11:20 PM
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you lost all control when you AGREED, by yourself, to an open relationship.... best to treat her as such (a plate). if you really want to regain her and be committed (not open), you have to address it and say that doesnt work for you. if she doesn't want to commit and make it work, then you bounce... say 'get in touch with me if you change your mind' then you go no contact (ie hard level dread) - its a negotiation. the strongest negotiation is being willing to walk away and MEAN it. if you don't…
/r/askTRP25/07/17 11:19 PM
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thats your problem. 'come off alpha-ish'...... ERRRRR, wrong... you want to BE alpha.... without having to 'act' it. BE IT. without thought.
/r/askTRP25/07/17 11:13 PM
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who gives a shit about what she did with anyone else. we always see these posts in here, and we always say the same thing... worry and focus on yourself. if you are that concerned with her past, you are already doomed... as you will look for every single fault to point the finger why you can't be with her.
/r/askTRP25/07/17 11:11 PM
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ask her out immediately and stop being a pussy (if you run into her and you are busy, stay congruent and be busy and on your way, but suggest that you would like to take her out soon and get the number).. the longer you delay, the more you show her you aren't man enough to talk to her and ask her out. if shes interested in you, she will say yes. the longer you wait the odds are less likely to go in your favor. ACT ON IT. also, for christ sake, if you are looking for an intimate encounter with th…
/r/askTRP25/07/17 11:07 PM
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just one of those woman traits we must accept huh
/r/askTRP25/07/17 07:54 PM
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constantly reading this sub, the main sub, mrp, and books... its just not sticking in my head. its like some times, i feel defeated, or maybe ive been reacting the wrong way (the RP way)... then other times i am fuming and wish i wouldn't have let my frame down... still learning i guess.
/r/askTRP25/07/17 07:46 PM
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There are a few posts about this beta-ization you speak of. So does that mean hold my gead strong and keep doing what im doing. Like am i doing things mostly right currently? If shes attempting to beta me down, that must mean im erring on the side of alpha?
/r/askMRP23/07/17 05:13 PM
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Thank you man. Will continue reading and accepting.
/r/askMRP22/07/17 12:59 AM
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Agreed brother
/r/askMRP22/07/17 12:58 AM
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Good shit man. Thanks for the words. Definitely still working on it. Need to give the book another read through. Never looked at it as you mentioned though. A game opposed to a competition of winning. You are right. Arguing with women is a lose lose.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 11:06 PM
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yea man, you are mostly right. im not so much concerned with her leaving. i have pointed to the door a few times and held my ground. definitely still have some work to do in terms of taking her feelings more lightly. she is a sensitive girl. which doesnt help. its hard to get past that feeling of walking on eggshells because i often times just don't want to deal with the drama that follows. if i need my space to think shit through, i dont get it most of the time. because she is the type to fix t…
/r/askMRP21/07/17 08:56 PM
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good point. it should make it easier. but yet its still a friggin challenge. def have to work more on this.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 08:29 PM
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interesting.. i get what you are saying. thanks
/r/askMRP21/07/17 08:27 PM
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i still struggle with this. no matter how much i read about not listening to her words and watching her actions etc... im getting better. but fuck some times the stuff she gets upset about is just so ridiculous... i can't help but react.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 07:41 PM
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clearly not helping.. haha. cuz i still never say shit in a way that she wants. whoopsie.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 07:40 PM
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So you are saying keep doing what i am doing and dont let her feelings, tear tactics, whatever else affect me.
/r/askMRP21/07/17 05:51 PM
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past is in your past. can't do shit about it to change what happened then. so there is absolutely zero reason to live there and dwell on it. live in the present moment. change and help yourself where you can NOW, and then better things will come in the future. it starts within yourself.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 11:17 PM
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ok, so you shes the ONLY ONE...... yea....... you are making excuses to talk to her again, because shes the only one you know. go make new friends, go find new people who are into the hobbies you are into and start meeting new people.... instead, you are attached to the 'only one' person you know and are in scarcity that there is no one else to hang out with... pathetic.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 11:01 PM
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no i wouldnt call.... look, if you happen to run into her in the city, great... act cool, like nothing ever happened, small talk, ask how shes doing, catch up, IF and only then if she says maybe you should meet up or asks for your number or whatever, then give it to her and then plan some sort of date. until that happens...... no, reaching out on the phone or whatever else is pathetic. if she "finds out" you are in the city, she may reach out. she might not. there is ZERO benefit to you waiting …
/r/askTRP20/07/17 10:40 PM
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you are putting her on a pedestal, man... like she is the prize. aren't YOU the prize? she told you flat out, "im not interested in you as more than friends"... and you said you arent interested in her as less than friends... now you want to reach out AGAIN, 1 fucking year later.... dude, are you being serious right now? thats pathetic.... if you stated your intent with where you wanted the relationship to go, and she didnt agree nor reach back out to you within a month or so, its DONE.... let i…
/r/askTRP20/07/17 10:30 PM
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smirk and ignore, move on to different conversation. you are taking this stuff too personally. also, find new friends to hang out with.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 09:57 PM
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yea, you feel that way because there is no strategy for this. (you are claiming because 'why not'... but we all smell the oneitis... get over it). she just wanted to be friends, you stated your case that you didnt accept LJBF (good move). BUT, unless SHE reaches out to you first, its a lost cause. there is no way going back into this regardless of how alpha you became... your only option is to let it go, stop thinking about it, and go get new women. the reality is, if she isnt contacting you at …
/r/askTRP20/07/17 08:55 PM
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aside to what everyone in here already said, you are also probably giving mixed signals. (doing bf/gf activities with them) and not realizing how you could be leading them on to FEEL there might be more to offer... be more direct in your intentions from the get go, and they will either leave or hang around until the attachment becomes too strong.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 08:33 PM
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stop being a woman and playing dumb games, are you a teenager? jesus christ...... the biggest 'fuck you' is not responding at all and completely ghosting her.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 07:32 PM
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well then just keep escalating. its only a matter of time. be direct. keep the kino up. get her back to your place after your dates. you know what to do.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 07:30 PM
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you should definitely keep escalating as long as you are getting dates. its either going to move forward, or shes going to start in with the 'we should just be friends' stuff, in which you withdraw all your attention and say you arent interested in that. if it gets to that point, you stop reaching out/initiating all together. she just doesn't want to feel like a slut, maybe especially because you two work together.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 07:20 PM
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this is how you gauge their interest... just set the date. if schedules clash or something comes up, and she is actually interested in you, she will be very quick to offer a counter to hang out with you. if you keep getting flakes, then you know there isnt much interest there and she is just using you for validation. also, keep in mind, you are the prize here. if she is already acting a little flakey, just back off a little bit and keep her chasing you. some times it takes a little time for thin…
/r/askTRP20/07/17 07:14 PM
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you had a great time with the girl, she went out with you and you are getting bent out of shape because she said 'i will think about it'. thats a challenge for you? lol. read more sidebar. amused mastery dude. its a statement that means nothing. and you are fucking up by saying "we should do X".... not giving a definite date.... be more direct dude. "lets make pizza on X night". she is giving you shit flakey responses because you arent actually making a date. just like the first time.. "lets go …
/r/askTRP20/07/17 07:04 PM
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the simple answer you are looking for is... you should not have gotten involved in a committed LTR if you want other girls. simple as that. you found a girl who is giving you commitment, LOYAL commitment on top of that, and you want help to get someone else in bed with ya'll. sadly, this type of girl will not do it. your only option is to state that you want an open relationship and be OK for her to walk away from the relationship... otherwise, you might as well get the ideas out of your head be…
/r/askTRP20/07/17 06:18 PM
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yes, dont do it. just keep it short and simple and somewhat positive.. "she was a nice girl, just didnt work out". leave it that. for reference. i made the mistake telling my gf of an ex, when she asked detailed questions (thinking, be honest about it, nothing to hide). and when i said she walked all over me and how i was an idiot for chasing her and changing my life to make it work out, etc, my gf broke down into tears and it followed with a ton of comfort tests. she then felt sad because i app…
/r/askTRP18/07/17 10:47 PM
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the less she knows about them, the better. always want to keep whatever little convo you have about them positive. "oh yea she was a great girl, it just didnt work out". (leave it at that) not this "oh she was super needy and insecure and fucked up..."
/r/askTRP18/07/17 10:17 PM
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you need to do a lot more reading around here. your frame is totally fucked up. we can tell a lot about what you are doing wrong just in the tone you convey in your message. your hamster is spinning, my friend.
/r/askTRP17/07/17 10:03 PM
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i am in agreement with /u/vandaalen here. plus, OP, if shes attractive, dudes are going to approach/orbit her regardless of any social media. dudes will still hit on her in person. and you know what, unless she has "im in a relationship" tattooed on her forehead, there is no way to ensure your security. if shes a good girl with morals for relationship, it'll be fine. if shes not a girl with morals to be committed, nothing about what her social media says about her 'status' will change anything. …
/r/askTRP17/07/17 06:36 PM
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your friend was a dick to his LTR. and this is more of a comfort test when speaking of GF. so he failed. he needs to read up on RP LTR. if shes saying this type of shit now, regarding a foot injury, i don't see that lasting very long with his attitude.
/r/askTRP17/07/17 05:17 PM
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My not even getting that sore like when i first started. So my gut tells me no
/r/askTRP14/07/17 11:03 PM
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be a man and own up to it.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 10:58 PM
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nah man, on a bulk right now actually... +7lbs so far. shooting for another 13.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 10:49 PM
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sounds good. pretty much everyone that chimed in was in agreement that deloading/less weight for a little while was the better option. rather than stopping for rest all together. appreciate the insight.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 08:02 PM
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would mixing up routine help at all? even if its the same exercises just in different order? or do i need actually switch exercises every few months?
/r/askTRP14/07/17 07:16 PM
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off/on for a little over a year. trying to get more serious and dedicated with it. so i dont remember really hitting a plateau before. but this whole week seems to be no gains of any sort. like i hit a wall.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 04:32 PM
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yea man, i have maintained good calorie intake to be putting mass on still (bulking) and sleeping hasn't changed. 7-8 hrs a night. i will probably do this deloading.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 04:18 PM
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cool thanks for the tips. makes sense..
/r/askTRP14/07/17 03:44 PM
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heard of it. will look into it. but im doing heavy weights/upper body Mon/Wed/Fri, and cardio on Tues/Thur.... so 5 days a week.
/r/askTRP14/07/17 03:42 PM
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its called Glossary of RedPill Terms. its literally the 2nd thing in the sidebar, right after RULES. so technically the first thing in the sidebar... jesus come on man...
/r/askTRP13/07/17 09:41 PM
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so then why are you so concerned about getting a girl thats going to be a long distance thing? that should be a next anyway.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 09:35 PM
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the general rule is you try TWICE. if she is denying your date requests and isnt offering a counter, shes just not that into you... dudes fail to realize and accept that. if she WAS into you, she would have rearranged her entire schedule and made the time to hang out. id say let this one go. but hey, no harm in trying one more time. "hey come over X day Y time"..... see how she responds. anything other than a 'yes', you have to cut all ties and stop initiating.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 09:30 PM
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lmao. this is exactly why you dont 'game' via text.... moron. learn from it and don't do this shit anymore, needle dick. and FYI, game via text is simple.... you only need to remember one line: "meet me (or come over) X place Y time". the more you try to "game" yourself via text, the faster you will talk yourself out of ever having a chance with her.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 09:27 PM
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she wanted to progress with you. you rejected her. you got your shit together months later, after she moved on and now you're wondering why she "suddenly" has no interest in you... its over dude. you blew it. if you wanted a relationship with her you needed to act on it a long time ago, when she gave you all signs and opened all the doors for you. your best bet, now that you confessed yourself to her. stop initiating and wait for her to reach out and open doors. you will have to accept this will…
/r/askTRP13/07/17 09:26 PM
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yep... OP, you need to strongly consider this. once an LTR gets to that level of emotion, you can expect more comfort tests than shit tests. and its OK to give her that comfort she seeks (by saying it) 20-30% of the time. otherwise, if you stay RP RAMBO, she will definitely leave you. if you don't feel like you care for her, then don't say it, but don't expect this to last long term.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 09:10 PM
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why are you asking dudes about this? tinder is about hooking up based on pictures (not bio's that have all kinds of thoughtful information about what you want to do in life). you are using the wrong tools to get what you want - since you said you are camera shy. go to redpillwomen instead. you will probably get better advice there, young lady.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 08:59 PM
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touche. thats a fair statement.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 08:57 PM
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to each his own... i would like to be able to continue wiping my own ass. unlike these jacked dudes you see that cant even keep their arms to their sides. that look is not for me.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 08:47 PM
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you delete everything... you are making excuses. you end up caving and finding any reason to contact her... delete social medias (and block) and delete number from your phone... instead, you can't. because you are a pussy with scarce mentality. no matter what you do, hobby wise, if the phone number is still present in your phone, you will FIND a way to contact her again. cut the shit. if you want to stop. then the only way is to remove EVERYTHING.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 08:38 PM
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haha, i am lifting... and i dont really wanna be linebacker size. i duno, im not looking to really be jacked. but im looking for tone and definition while having a little size... obviously, i need to train harder and eat more to get where i want to be. but i def don't want to be that jacked, personally.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 08:35 PM
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you already failed. you SAW her talking to one of your buddies and you didnt take action right then and there? instead, you acted like a scared little boy, and ask your friend what her name was. stop this nonsense. next time walk up and directly get a phone number. use this as a learning experience of what not to do. sadly, with this one, if you didn't act on it when you first met her a long time ago, she already put you in orbiter zone anyway (if she felt you were interested, you would have got…
/r/askTRP13/07/17 08:31 PM
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2-3 years? so you're saying im supposed to look like a fat slob while i gain mass for YEARS?... that doesn't sound right. i guess id rather err on the side on staying lean and building muscle slowly
/r/askTRP13/07/17 08:28 PM
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OP is using all this information to justify that her actions are OK and acceptable... it doesn't make it anymore OK if you are doing GF/BF stuff even though you aren't committed yet, and she didnt say no to her friends offer because she is on vacation with YOU, then she is NOT that interested in you. have a spine, dude. shes walking all over you. i hope you aren't paying for both you and her for this trip.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 06:40 PM
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there is plate then there is LTR. there is no in between. stop doing GF/BF shit if you aren't in a committed relationship. you are only fooling yourself here. you let her do whatever she wants. you shouldnt care what plates do while you aren't together. you are cucking yourself. planning a trip together where she is going to spend time with other dudes and shit. wtf.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 05:37 PM
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its true. most women don't go for looks. sure she will need to be a little attracted at first, but its definitely personality over looks for most women... unlike men, who go with the opposite. women are emotional and they bond through connecting/relationships/feelings/emotions.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 04:07 PM
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will look into it. thanks man! yea, everything ive been reading about bulking is 'dont worry about a little bit of fat - skinny guys NEED the mass'.... sucks. ive been upping my caloric intake quite a bit. i feel full all day. haha. even doing small meals and snacks... hopefully my body gets used to this soon.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 03:53 PM
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yea man, im 6ft hovering around 165 right now. been gaining muscle so slowly. i just started bulking a couple of weeks ago. (gained a few lbs already) but i am shooting for 180 right now. i have a super high metabolism, so ive never been able to gain weight my entire life. lifting strong though, so i think im on the right track now. thanks for chiming in.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 03:46 PM
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curious on your thoughts about time frame of bulk/cut phases... 2-3 weeks each? or is it dependent on gains you want? ie.. more muscle mass = 4 weeks+, then cut for similar time? i've had a hard time figuring out a good time frame for this.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 03:32 PM
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the problem for skinny guys like us, is there isn't much muscle to begin with. you will probably want to up your calorie intake a bit to gain weight and mass, so you can see gains faster, then when you start seeing gains, you do cuts to get the weight back down to SEE all the muscles. if you keep doing it the way you are doing, without much mass, you aren't going to see the gains you WANT to see for years. gains will happen, but itll be slow. if you want to get all ripped and shredded like the p…
/r/askTRP13/07/17 03:12 PM
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nothing wrong with you being yourself. she knows nothing about you and is judging you off what, a short interaction? who gives a shit. you shouldnt be worrying about what someone elses girl thinks of you. focus on what girls YOU are dating think of you. there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a kind man that has proper etiquette. and you can still be geared very RP and kind.
/r/askTRP10/07/17 09:01 PM
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not saying its every man's thing to continue and save their relationships. but some guys prefer the stability and monogamy. and usually the ones that are persistent with the self improvement are actually able to turn things around and be very happy in life. is it for you? no. is it for OP or some other dude in his situation? i duno. thats up to him to decide if he wants to stick with it. im all for LTRs, so if he legitimately has a good time with her and majority of the things in their relations…
/r/askTRP10/07/17 08:25 PM
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5 dates in 10 days? yea...... that is fast. for future reference, you should have other things going on in your life. try maybe 2 dates every 7 days max (at first). building attraction takes time, especially for women. you can surely escalate and get with the girl. but you definitely over invested extremely fast. something about this tells me you were on the needy side. soft next for now. reach out again later.
/r/askTRP10/07/17 07:59 PM
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RP rambo... it happens to all newbies. you go too RP and end up making your problems worse... find the happy medium. also, nothing wrong with relationships.
/r/askTRP10/07/17 06:46 PM
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this a plate or LTR? gonna guess LTR... in which, shes just looking for you to listen to her. thats all it means. you aren't listening. when a woman says stuff like this, it means, "hey somethings going on in my life and i want you to understand"... for a guy, that means, put down the ipad/phone/tv remote and give her your undivided attention... then ask her questions, let her talk/vent/whatever she needs to get off her chest. its called empathy. thats all she wants. repeat a little back of what…
/r/askTRP10/07/17 06:38 PM
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OP... go to askMRP. (married redpill) you will get better advice there. a lot of the guys in here don't do LTR's so their saying its not salvageable is just an easy out. you can change. but it has to be subtle and occur slowly over time (think of months - not days or weeks).
/r/askTRP10/07/17 05:21 PM
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if you just sit back, let her go, she comes back, you guys talk it over, work it out, whatever, she will respect you less and know this type of shit is ok behavior.. she will know she can walk all over you whenever she wants. that is not the frame you want being a man.
/r/askTRP07/07/17 04:45 PM
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you shouldnt consider it. it should just happen... listen to what you said... "i will not be happy about it and feel disrespected"..... once you feel that way, whats the point of continuing? have a spine. you are the prize. you are in control of where this goes. don't wait for it to work itself out. a worthy man can get any piece of tail he wants. and the woman would be thankful to have him (which means respecting him). this is basic LTR etiquette your gf is not respecting dude.
/r/askTRP07/07/17 04:44 PM
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sounds like you are doing some things right. dont even worry about it, and dont over think it... just give this flower some time to blossom and don't fall into that feminine chasing shit. have to wait for her to reach out now. thats all you can do.
/r/askTRP07/07/17 04:41 PM
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yea man, you could let her go and see what happens. but realistically, you would be fighting that conversation upon her return, with LOGIC. which women are not logical creatures, they are emotional ones. so it does literally no good... saying something like "so you're ok with me going on a camping trip without you, with a girl i used to date?"... logic based argument. that discussion will go nowhere. they might think about it for a second, but ultimately if you are at a point of saying shit like…
/r/askTRP07/07/17 04:38 PM
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it was one date. you offered another date while on the date (should have waited on that IMO). she says we will see... which generally means 'im not interested' (otherwise she would say 'yes'). don't initiate any texts/calls for a week. if she reaches out to you, assume she wants to see you, quickly escalate convo for logistics for another date 1-3 days out. if you don't hear from her for a week, you can try to hail mary one more date. if she responds, go from there. if not, move on... my recomme…
/r/askTRP07/07/17 04:18 PM
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in an LTR, she should know better than to go on trips like that without you. especially after 4 years together. if you can't go, then she shouldn't even WANT to go. i dont think you are controlling or sensitive, but you need to let her decide withOUT giving her any type of ultimatum. (kind of like a test for her) so... none of this 'if you go we are done' type shit. more like: 'not telling you what to do, but no gf of mine would go on a trip like that without me'..... if she goes, then you reall…
/r/askTRP07/07/17 04:13 PM
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umm... asking a woman out for drinks, who is initiating with you, doesnt escalate to sexual harassment, wtf..... worst shes gonna say is no. in which you move on... you aren't making advances at this stage dude.
/r/askTRP07/07/17 03:07 PM
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'abby' is trying to get himself out of friendzone... GF isn't denying him outright...... fail. (but cool to see convo like this where you see some beta try to get a girl he wants haha)
/r/askTRP06/07/17 10:37 PM
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dont be a cheating douche, man. cheating is not RP. if you aren't happy, end it, then move onto seeing others. if shes not in agreement with an open relationship you just need to say its not working for you. don't lead the poor girl on and fool around behind her back. this is why we have so many fucked up women in the world...
/r/askTRP06/07/17 10:29 PM
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haha. i am way more white. but i appreciate it.
/r/askTRP06/07/17 10:23 PM
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assume EVERY woman is interested if they are speaking to you. especially true if they are initiating. be the man and ask them out. you will find out right away what the answer is. and at the same token, you will be a man who won't friendzone himself.
/r/askTRP06/07/17 10:13 PM
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why not? you wake up, you think about her, you are in a good mood. nothing wrong with initiating SOME of the time. i remember our convo. and i think i said this: "two steps forward, one step back"... its ok to show/tell your woman things from time to time. (in the sense of initiating). remember, you are a leader. your thought process of "when they have it, they do not want it anymore"... well, thats is true... but only to a certain extent... example: you tell your girl you love her, once... she …
/r/askTRP06/07/17 10:09 PM
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you have posted literally no information for us to give you advice. so ill recommend reading sidebar. im going to assume at some point you chased too hard and pushed her away. and you probably also didnt make a definite date. those are usually problems people face from being ghosted. at the end of the day, you have to remember, you CAN'T force attraction. its either there or it isnt. when a woman is attracted to you, they will make it very easy for you to go out with that (changing their own ent…
/r/askTRP06/07/17 09:41 PM
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lol yikes... shes probably doing it for many reason. much of which you questioned already and are just looking for confirmation. women always feel the need to validate their decisions for leaving. so, based on how you reacted to her, shes confirming that leaving you was the right thing. SHE TOLD YOU TO LEAVE HER ALONE. you did good, for a few days. but you caved. when a woman says some shit like that, or they say they are done. you say ok. you DONT chase in these situations. what do you think ja…
/r/askTRP06/07/17 09:33 PM
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pretty much. this is what the dudes in MRP preach. some times you just have to STFU.
/r/askTRP06/07/17 09:24 PM
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a year together is a pretty good stretch of time. i say this in many of my LTR posts. RP Rambo. you are doing it. you will need to sprinkle in more comfort. thats what relationships are about for women. there is nothing blue pill about that. just like you convinced yourself you need to be more redpill, you need to convince yourself its OK to be 20-30% BP. the problem with most betas, dude, is once they are 50-70%BP. they turn into the women. do all the chasing, all the calling, all the texting. …
/r/askTRP06/07/17 09:17 PM
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came here to post this.
/r/askTRP29/06/17 09:40 PM
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you already fucked up. why did you schedule a date close to 2 weeks out? no small talk, no chit chat. maybe some funny stuff pics or whatever here and there (only if she is initiating texts). little rapport building from there. but if you text too much in the next 2 weeks, you are going to talk yourself right out of the date... next time, schedule dates 1-3 days out. you need to be building rapport in person, on a date... not over the phone or via text.
/r/askTRP29/06/17 09:30 PM
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thanks brother
/r/askTRP29/06/17 09:28 PM
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how long have you been together? after the dating and honeymoon phases, when you are a legit established LTR, you NEED to sprinkle in some comfort. If you keep going RP rambo they will not trust you or feel connected/safe with you long term. think of it like this: RP DATING - alpha alpha alpha RP LTR - alpha alpha beta BP DATING - beta beta alpha BP LTR - beta beta beta so as another poster mentioned, there's def nothing wrong with sprinkling in beta, in fact, you have to every once and awhile. …
/r/askTRP29/06/17 05:06 PM
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there are a lot of generalizations in here. take what benefits you (for improvement) and leave behind things that don't necessarily apply. you have to remember, A LOT of the discussions in this community is about pick up, hook ups and dating. which is essential for these guys to even get girls so they can potentially pursue LTRs (which is rightfully a different animal to handle). while some of the things in here can be applied to LTR's/wifey, there are a ton of RP rambo's in here that don't know…
/r/askTRP28/06/17 11:16 PM
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i think you handled the situation alright. but your problem is, you already let her get away with party like behavior locally, more than a couple of times. (not just a night out with the girls shit). she went out every weekend to drink it up? she sounds young. you might want to reconsider LTRing girls that haven't experienced partying/drinking life yet (20-23). and of course she would be mad at you going to a night club without her. and you don't go. so thats ok? nope. its a double standard. fuc…
/r/askTRP28/06/17 10:42 PM
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+1 on shady. fuck that. that's crossing a boundary in my opinion. this is no different than those girls that have to go out drinking (with dudes) but without their boyfriends... you are in a relationship for christ sake. you can't expect to party and leave your partner out of shit and expect to be trusted... doesnt work like that. you know what to do. no ultimatum. no next. just say 'any girlfriend of mine wouldn't do that'... if she goes. you have your answer. if she doesnt go, you can continue…
/r/askTRP28/06/17 10:31 PM
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only you can make that call. some dudes are ok with open relationships. others are not. if you are OK with it, then i would recommend you hook up with other women as you wish, but if you're saying shes bi and wants to be open/3somes/etc, then shes going to want to get other dick too... if you are ok with that, proceed... if you are not, you might want to think/step back from being in an LTR with a woman that is open to the ideas of it. if shes feeling OK with the idea of being open, if you are n…
/r/askTRP28/06/17 07:43 PM
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whats funny is, it was actually seeing the broken-looks dude first hand get gorgeous women that made me realize, women, most of the time, are drawn more to the emotional/bonding/FEEL that you give them, over how you look. after witnessing that shit, all of my insecurities went out the window.
/r/askTRP28/06/17 07:31 PM
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the problem when people swallow the pill, is they go RAMBO. you force all your newly learned RP traits down the girls neck and then you usually start failing comfort tests (once LTRed). you def want to sprinkle in some more beta, like the other guy said. you want to make her feel comfortable. and its easy... just say you know she has panic attacks some times, you are aware of them and are there to support her. you have to make her feel comfortable and give her a little bit of reassurance that yo…
/r/askTRP28/06/17 07:28 PM
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i duno if its just me, but back when i was dating (currently LTRed) i would talk to chicks on the phone. i remember wanting to be 'different' then other lame dudes since everyone is all about texting now. the times i made a phone call it worked out in my favor because i was different. the key, like everyone says, use the phone for logistics only. hear their voice. banter/laugh together. feel it out. then get them on the date. they will remember your phone call over the 100 other orbiters that ar…
/r/askTRP28/06/17 07:21 PM
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yep. ive seen worse than that land 9-10's. multiple 9-10's. not just a fluke... its you.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 11:14 PM
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new hobbies, forums of new hobbies, group events of said hobbies (go yourself, meet people at these functions). you can make friends everywhere and anywhere. this all depends on shit you like to do. do you like cars? go to car shows, mingle with people. do you like cameras? go to expos etc.... do you like cycling. go to some cycle forums, meet some locals, then participate in rides.. we can't tell you what you like. but there are literally events/forums for everything.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 11:01 PM
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douche bigalow. ha
/r/askTRP27/06/17 10:58 PM
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good luck with the surgery and $$$ you will spend for it. only to realize afterwards you still get nowhere. (because its your attitude, not your appearance) stop focusing on physical shit about yourself that you can not change. based on your post, you have a lot of other things to focus on and improve within yourself before you go get growth surgery, partner. keep reading. edit: even your user name...... seriously? its you. not your height. get your shit together.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 10:56 PM
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confRont? or coMfort? either way he typoed. sounds like he's trying to comfort her since he didnt really post anything to conFront her about. english is my first language, thank you.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 10:54 PM
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you are crazy. its you... not your face. continue your journey of self improvement.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 10:45 PM
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you are going to get mixed answers in this group. it does, if you do lots of cool shit and post pictures every once and awhile, especially with groups of people. but more often than not, the issue is guys start stalking girls they like and then create problems because they are worried about losing the chance, or feel like they are being wrong in the dating phase. fact of the matter is, you don't need it. people that are extremely social and actually busy don't have time to be posting/liking/comm…
/r/askTRP27/06/17 10:37 PM
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when you start with RP, going from 100% beta. there is the RP Rambo phase. where you go so hard, you end up creating a ton of comfort test failures and issues. it is a normal feeling. and fact of the matter is, LTR's NEED some comfort. its a fact. dont worry about toning down the RP in some areas here and there. that doesnt make you weak. if you continue to stay RP Rambo, she will feel like you don't care and you will lose her. the key is to find balance. and this will change from girl to girl. …
/r/askTRP27/06/17 10:32 PM
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thats childish. you should reflect and grow within yourself. men move on, with no hitch or drama. making someone feel bad for rejecting you is silly... what are you in high school? moving on without words is a stronger action than making someone feel bad. Mr butthurt guy.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 10:23 PM
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no big deal.... also, stop looking at her social media. that shit is cancer for relationships. cuz you will see all of her orbiters and shit commenting or liking and you create false positives in your head and you end up creating your own demise.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 10:21 PM
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if you are not close friends, then what are you? standard friends? or acquaintances? exactly...... like i said, you are friendzoned (or at the very least an orbiter) if you arent going on dates. no matter how close you are. why are you chasing a girl that is rejecting you? dont even answer that. just think about it. refer back to my original post. wait a week, try once more, if denied, cut ties and move on. note: girls that are interested in men make it very EASY for them to go out. they will re…
/r/askTRP27/06/17 10:12 PM
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agreed. let it go. shouldn't phase you. if you see a full nude on a post somewhere, then yes, maybe you should do something about it. haha.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 10:01 PM
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'i asked a friend out, told her we should "hang out", she stopped replying' -> followed by you saying, 'i dont want to enter the friend zone'... stop lying to us and yourself. if you don't want to be friends. be clear with your intent. say you want to go out with her and see if things go somewhere. if she denies, you would never have a chance anyway, cut all contact. just wait it out another week, try one more time. but dont ask friend shit like 'hey lets hang out some time' type of shit... you …
/r/askTRP27/06/17 10:00 PM
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wait a week then ask one more time. if she initiates convo any time in between now and one week from now, assume she wants to see you, escalate to schedule a date. don't act butthurt. think nothing of this. she gets one more chance. if you try one more time and shes busy and doesn't offer a counter, stop trying all together. move on. if you haven't heard from her since your last request, any text you send in the next few days will come off as needy and impatient. you don't want that. so give it …
/r/askTRP27/06/17 09:54 PM
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your first thought comment comes off as butt hurt to me. but if you want any chance to be more than friends with this girl. be very direct with what you want. if thats more than friendship, you should make it clear before you go do anything with her. otherwise you are gonna get your feelings hurt when things dont turn out the way you assumed they would.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 08:46 PM
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kissing leads to heavy petting...... don't do it.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 05:39 PM
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assume she wants to go out with you by any means of contact. snaps, screenshots, fb, texting, calling.... any time they reach out or do anything of that matter, assume they want to see you, escalate to plan date sooner than later, otherwise enjoy the friendzone.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 05:31 PM
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it doesn't help that much. ive been playing guitar since i was 12 (now 33). unless you are going to be actively in a band and doing gigs, but just doing it for fun in your home, you actually need to get the girls back there first... so, won't help your game. but it will aid in giving you a point to your already developed gaming skills.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 04:15 PM
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you should help her where you can, to get her back on her feet. but she is an adult and needs to learn the consequences on her own. yes she fucked up. yes her life is probably a shit show right now. but no, you are not her father. you have to remember, in all situations like this where people fuck up and you want to help them, you have to think of it like an addict. Things will only improve in their lives IF they want help and are willing to be better on their own. No amount of things you can do…
/r/askTRP26/06/17 10:55 PM
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relationships/bonding = feminine trait. until they bring it up, they don't want to be your gf. wait for them... keep having fun, hooking up. talk to other women in the mean time. usually for them to want an LTR, if you are doing EVERYTHING right, it takes about 8 weeks or so. keep that in mind.
/r/askTRP26/06/17 09:53 PM
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too many questions. not enough reading about shit tests.
/r/askTRP26/06/17 08:23 PM
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i recommend you go read a book called the power of now. by eckhart tolle. great read. helps tremendously to live in the present moment. "unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry - all forms of fear - are caused by too much future. guilt, regret, resentment, sadness, bitterness and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past." why waste your energy on negative memories? if you want to recall memories, think of the positive ones instead. you have to train yourself.
/r/askTRP26/06/17 08:19 PM
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no. dont do that... amused mastery. learn it.
/r/askTRP26/06/17 08:15 PM
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side bar. shit tests.
/r/askTRP26/06/17 07:58 PM
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there are no thoughts. its exactly that. you decide to cut them from your life, at the same time, you don't waste another minute thinking about them. why? because living in the past is unhealthy. you can't change any of the situations that previously happened, so you move forward and create new ones. why are you so worried that you may never potentially talk to someone who has disrespected you or uses you (or fill in the other fucked up shit people do in life).? why would you want to leave that …
/r/askTRP26/06/17 06:57 PM
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exactly this. OP, if you don't have time to meet up with her, don't think you will win her over by friendzoning yourself via text. sigh.
/r/askTRP26/06/17 04:48 PM
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thats why for most guys, its best to cut all ties with EX's. 98% of the time that is the only solution. the only thing you can do, is keep reminding yourself, what she does in her free time, away from you, is not for you to worry about. and same goes for you. go find new girls and hook up/date multiple women. basically, you are developing oneitis again. so unless you are completely over her (which you are not) id recommend not hooking up.
/r/askTRP26/06/17 04:47 PM
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thank you. lol.
/r/askTRP23/06/17 10:26 PM
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break up with her.... why are you LTRing someone that is constantly flirting and touching other men like that. NOPE... demoted. thats disrespectful shit. why would she want to be with anyone else but you? ("i should probably be with you instead")....... wtf...... response: ok, bye she should be rubbing and touching you, showing you off, you are the prize. arent you? GOOD LTRs dont do this. have a spine and stand up for yourself. or prepare your anus hole to be cucked.
/r/askTRP23/06/17 10:09 PM
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"shes a good girl and a keeper"...... yet, goes out of her way, late at night, for some other dude to deliver him a charger?...... jesus christ dude. no you didnt fuck up. she fucked up. if she knew in her right mind that it was late, she was with you, she wouldn't leave to delivery someone a charger. if anything, he could have came and picked it up if he needed it so badly or gone down to a store and bought one.
/r/askTRP23/06/17 09:53 PM
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you've gone too far. if you do that to an LTR you will break the 'comfort' portion of the relationship. she will no longer feel connected to you now that she has experienced being with you at this level.
/r/askTRP23/06/17 09:29 PM
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so in essence, you are saying you are 'one of the girls' ? sounds great!
/r/askTRP23/06/17 09:26 PM
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what the fuck is all this shit? no wonder you are friend zoned. if you want out, escalate. dont play these dumb guessing games with your meaningless texts. christ. seriously though, don't initiate anymore, next time she texts you, escalate the convo QUICKLY to ask her out on a date. if she denies. stop wasting your time, friend. the only way out of FZ, is to actually not text and talk to her like a friend. if you want more, be direct, and act on it. if she doesnt agree to your terms, then??? wal…
/r/askTRP23/06/17 08:47 PM
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ok, so again, confirmed. you didnt read the rest of my post. please go re-read. its obvious that a man needs to make the first move - thats a given. the OP stated he has already initiated dates. hence, he should stop chasing.
/r/askTRP23/06/17 07:55 PM
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did you read the rest of my post? you said basically the same thing i did. chasing IS a feminine trait, no doubt. and yes, the men MUST be direct with intent, so if thats a date. by all means, ask them out. if they are getting denied, there is only so many times one should ask, especially if she isnt countering (which means very little interest). if women are in fact busy, and they are interested in you, they WILL offer another day to go out. your saying that isnt true, geniune, completely goes …
/r/askTRP23/06/17 07:49 PM
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always hard to tell with customer service experiences. they HAVE to be nice. i guess it depends what type of IOIs she was giving you. i wouldn't worry to much about it either way. see what happens next time you see her. IF you see her..
/r/askTRP23/06/17 06:26 PM
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who gives a shit? thats their feelings and problems to deal with. not yours. keep a smirk on your face and fuck if they don't like it/get pissed. maybe they'll learn if they wanna dish it out they should be able to take it... i would keep doing what you're doing. not your problem. it could be they are getting pissed because even though you say you are controlling yourself, you may be coming off like a total bitch and reacting in a non-playful way. they may sense that. if you take things light he…
/r/askTRP23/06/17 06:21 PM
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you just need to escalate more quickly then at every opportunity you have. but again, usually 'day dates' (riding bikes, grabbing coffee whatever) doesnt work too well. if you want it... be fucking direct. be savage about it. tell her what you want and what your intentions with how you want the 'relationship' to be. she either accepts the terms, or doesnt. be prepared she wont and walk away. whats the worst that can happen, she says no and you continue to NOT get what you want anyway? on the fli…
/r/askTRP23/06/17 06:11 PM
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initiating comes with attraction... it might be there right now, but it needs to build. allow time for that to happen. the key of you not initiating as much is so you dont come off as needy. thats why, when dating, having multiple girls to date is the best options. because you don't just 'wait around' for this one to get in touch with you. you are busy with others. others that may be more attracted/interested in you that would potentially reach out sooner or more frequently.
/r/askTRP23/06/17 05:39 PM
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you let them chase you, thats a feminine trait. you ask for a date once, if she denies without a counter, you wait a week and then you try again ONCE more. the rule is 2. if you try again after a week, and she denies again without a counter, you stop wasting your time (shes not interested). girls that are into you, will want to contact you, text/phone, accept dates etc. keep in mind, in the beginning, contacting once per week is good, because it allows time for them to "think" about you, for the…
/r/askTRP23/06/17 05:28 PM
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you dont want to waste your time, but you are wasting your time. shes boring. looks after her mom and kid so she wont go out at night. occasionally offers a movie (which again, is bf/gf shit that couples should do way later on into a relationship, i wouldnt even recommend movies for dates - its useless and a waste of money). sounds like quite a catch dude. good luck getting intimate with her on regular basis. go find other women and make your time more useful.
/r/askTRP23/06/17 05:21 PM
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thats the point /u/mallardcove is trying to make... EVERYONE is using that shit. be different. ask for the dates in person. at very least, get a number. if a girl is denying you of a phone number but offers a snapchat/instagram/whatever, you're an orbiter just like the other 1000 she has. fuck that. or, you can get the snap and be like all the other dudes asking for it and hope your window will be a little brighter than everyone elses while you wait at the sidelines for your chance. this is kid …
/r/askTRP23/06/17 05:17 PM
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"she has a bf in the army" (whom she cheated on with you) then you say "according to her shes a nice honest person"..... yep.... red flagged... plate only. stop doing "friend" shit with her if you want more. bicycle riding during the day is something you do with friends. secondly, doing shit like this during that day makes it extremely difficult to escalate to sex. if you want her. stop riding bikes. be more direct. "lets go out X night at Y time". go out at night, grab a drink or a bite or what…
/r/askTRP23/06/17 05:13 PM
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people generally don't change for the most part. they can surely improve little things here and there. but overall, they can only try to make a better version of who they already are. without going into much detail (and without knowing too much about you and your situation) you might want to look at you & her as a whole, individually and as a couple. you are a little bit older, i am assuming she is around your age? i mean, once people get to 30, thats pretty much who they are. you can always try…
/r/askTRP23/06/17 04:27 PM
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firstly... stop with this "HB (insert number)" shit. so you are attracted to her. great. if you need to use numbers to tell everyone how GORGEOUS she is. use 0-1 0 - gross 0.5 - cute 1 - damn by using this 0-10 number scale shit, you are already put her on a pedestal and will be bound to eff this up. "she has really really high smv"... there you go again.... also, dont tell her you will be seeing other girls. go and actually see other girls and keep yourself busy. she needs to 'think and wonder'…
/r/askTRP23/06/17 04:00 PM
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dont reply. shes just using the exercise bands as an excuse to reach out and see where she stands with you. if you must bang......... reply with a date/time for a date, just like you would anyone else... no bullshitting. no small talk. extreme direct intent.
/r/askTRP23/06/17 02:57 PM
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because you are a pussy. its still all in your head. you can decide to think about something else (other women, hobbies, etc).
/r/askTRP22/06/17 07:52 PM
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and thats why you have a problem and are posting here for advice. i told you what you need to do. listen to yourself, brother. "she thanked me for an apology but still won't talk to me"...... well, i got fucking news for you, she isnt into you..... stop going after someone that doesn't want to talk to you. you are chasing (feminine trait) and trying to force communication. stop that shit. think of it like magnets. she is repelling you, and you are trying to force it.... you know what happens? th…
/r/askTRP22/06/17 07:36 PM
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life isn't over because one person stops talking to you. learn from this. move on with your life. you CREATE the future you want TODAY. not by living with a problem you faced an hour ago, yesterday, a month ago, a year ago, etc etc etc... put it behind you. move onward and try again. fact: its all in your head. recommendation: go read a book called the power of now, by eckhart tolle. the more you focus on the present moment, the faster you can accept that you can't go back and change any of your…
/r/askTRP22/06/17 07:23 PM
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every concept/idea/theory you are reading in this sub IS for improving your frame. once you have the right mentality and handle situations appropriately, your frame will strengthen. not much more to it other than studying, being prepared and going through the experiences.
/r/askTRP22/06/17 07:13 PM
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be more clear with your intent. shes getting mixed emotions. probably doesn't know if you want a relationship or just sex.
/r/askTRP22/06/17 07:06 PM
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this is some jerry springer shit... this is gonna get exciting. please post updates OP
/r/askTRP21/06/17 11:17 PM
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thats fine. but i was just stating the obvious. i see a lot of posts in here like "she has a boyfriend, should i pursue anyway".... this is a prime example of why you should let it go and not pursue. glad to hear you were calm through it. still shouldnt have given out your address. or even talked to the boyfriend. thats not your drama to deal with. let her worry about it.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 10:32 PM
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exactly why people shouldnt hook up with chicks in relationships... to avoid this kind of shit... with so many girls out there, its better to just cut ties and go have fun with someone who is single.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 10:26 PM
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she could be shy, submissive, maybe the way your direct eye contact is making her feel a lot of pressure? who knows... maybe tone it back a tad with this one. some people just aren't good at it. guys included. shes on a date with you, so obviously there's interest. i wouldn't worry too much about it. she will probably get more comfortable with you after a few more dates.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 09:55 PM
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oh, the way you made it seem, like you've done it before, makes it seem like you said that for disqualification purposes only. my bad. then yea, if you are really going, thats fine, but still, if you want the girl, you can bring that up later. after you are hooking up. i feel like you shoot yourself in the foot giving out that info before even getting a date... the relationship thing is a feminine trait. you are there to have a fun time, hook up. its up to them to do the whole bonding/relation t…
/r/askTRP21/06/17 09:45 PM
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i personally would let it go. if its complicated with her and main dude, even if you got the digits and things seemed OK one week, the next week she could ghost your ass if she works things out with him. you will be like the back up plan dude for when its not working with him. plenty of other girls out there. find one that offers you the attention you want. right now shes mostly probably using other guys to validate herself that shes wanted and attractive, so she can decide where she stands with…
/r/askTRP21/06/17 09:38 PM
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well, yea, you handled it seemingly OK on your part to get digits. but i dont think you should use the 'moving away' comment. probably was more of a deterrent than anything. a man would be direct with his intent of wanting a girl and being OK with the outcome, without making up something about moving away. would james bond say some shit like that? (she probably saw through it) anyway, you were denied digits, she asked for yours. the only thing you can do is wait. you cant force attraction, its e…
/r/askTRP21/06/17 09:28 PM
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dont respond. wait it out. if she text you later or in a few days, assume its because she wants to see you, proceed the text quickly to ask out on date. go from there. if she agrees then go for it. if she flakes one more time, ghost and stop wasting your time. if you don't hear from her for like a week, you can try one more time. see how she responds. again, no response she gets no more of your time. if she does, escalate quickly. there rule is always 2. the first flake is always a feeler... aft…
/r/askTRP21/06/17 08:04 PM
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OP - i know it seems counter productive. but thats how attraction works. you have to be willing to NGAF in situations like this and do your own thing. the second you start worrying, become needy and chase, you will push them away. like the opposites polarities of a magnet. if you want her to come to you, then you have to allow her to actually do so. by removing your attention.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 06:46 PM
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this is good advice. stop worrying about who or why shes just talking to people. unless its serious flirting right in front of you, dont worry. focus your attention elsewhere. i notice with my gf, even when we go shopping together, whether its a clothing or grocery store, when she notices me walking slower, or looking around (people watching), she gets my attention rather quickly and always like rubs my back. as to make it known to other women that i am not available. haha. point being, they sho…
/r/askTRP21/06/17 06:36 PM
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funnest way? ask for address and then show up at his house and create a massive scene. best way? "no girlfriend of mine is staying at any dudes house"... if she goes, you just cut all contact. no reason/explaining needed. if she can't figure out why you ghosted after that, then shes probably not LTR material anyway. no one in their right mind, who is in a relationship, would think this is acceptable behavior. good on you for having a spine and walking away.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 05:39 PM
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its actually an einstein quote haha.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 05:05 PM
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you are looking for a unicorn... lower your standards a little bit. sounds like you are trying to land the HB11. tone it down a tad. also, dont complain if you are just into work/cars/moto/nightclubs. those types of girls are surely all bad news, as you pointed out. but have you made any attempt to do something different? the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. go to new places. book stores. malls. (think of the type of women you want to …
/r/askTRP20/06/17 10:30 PM
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you are giving her an ultimatum. those never work. instead, you can address it along the lines of "any girl im dating wouldn't act like that" and then you let THEM fix their actions. if they are interested in being serious with you (you upgrading them from plate) they will correct their actions. if they continue to do it. they don't respect you or see you as a partner. you have to move on from that point as a violation of your boundary.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 07:07 PM
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thanks. you guys are all correct. im worried over nothing... im a catch.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:45 PM
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good point here... you said, "be ok with tension"..... i fucking hate it. and i hate confrontation (for the most part). i have always been a 'sweep it under the rug and hope it goes away' type of guy. i have gotten a little better, in some retrospects, but i definitely need to work on the areas i am going wrong... i duno, i felt like this situation was one of those 'own your shit' situations. i fucked up. rather than argue it out and have the nasty tension for days/or a week, i wanted to just sq…
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:32 PM
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"were you going to invite me"
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:19 PM
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she said the hot/cold thing after the call during our later discussion. how would you have handled this situation in general, so i have something to compare to.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:07 PM
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right, but you said to say things like i would not have the discussion right now. if she kept pushing it, i meant i should have kept saying that i wouldn't have the discussion now rather than hang up the phone like a jackass. that isn't exactly yelling louder, but more follow through in that the discussion wasn't going to held in that moment.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:05 PM
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just curious, how would you have handled the situation differently? walked away? soft next and not dealt with it? she did say something during her being upset that she doesn't know how i go from hot to cold so easily.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:04 PM
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good advice. thanks
/r/askMRP19/06/17 07:01 PM
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i did and i didnt. i wanted her to go and be part of the family, of course. but there was tension that i didnt want her to be a part of nor did i want her to see me in a pissy/grumpy mood because of what was going on within my family circle. so i don't believe she was manipulating in any way.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 06:56 PM
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so i should have just assert myself with more dominance. even if that would have made her more mad? i didnt follow through... even though i had the right intention.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 06:54 PM
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makes sense.. i feel that in my relationship too. i guess thats why i feel so guilty about being a dick.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 06:46 PM
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i tried that. well, not that exact phrase. but something along the lines of it ("can you give me a few minutes, please, i will call you back"). she just kept going... what do you do when you say something like that, and they continue to go on talking about the issue. like they aren't ok with not solving the problem right in that moment.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 06:45 PM
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i understand that. just when she explained she felt left out (especially a family function) i mean, im in a relationship, shouldnt that be a group ordeal anyway? shouldnt it be more about what we do together opposed to what i wanted to do myself, in this situation, where my entire family was together. (she feels like i isolated her). hence, i feel bad about it.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 06:36 PM
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told her i didn't want her to come to my family function. argued with her then hung up on her. i duno. haven't heard her cry in awhile. but i think if someone hung up on me id find it pretty disrespectful. especially if i was already upset about something.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 06:21 PM
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amused mastery or agree and amplify. someones opinion of your things or things you do shouldn't matter. you know the truth behind it, so anything someone says negatively to you about these things should mean nothing. sounds like your ego is kicking into protection mode. laugh/smirk and think nothing of it. don't ignore it. just banter back. be playful with it.
/r/askTRP19/06/17 04:46 PM
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damn thats discipline. good shit. looking forward to trying this out. thanks for the insight
/r/askTRP16/06/17 11:04 PM
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you can hang out on the nights you have work, just don't spend the entire night together. stop sounding like a 65 year old. 1-2 hours one day during the week isnt going to kill you.
/r/askTRP16/06/17 10:58 PM
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its dependent on the type of girl and what your schedule is like. the general rule of thumb for any new girl/dating scenario is 1-2 times per week. you have to let that attraction build... and for women, it takes time. but, at the same token, if SHES the one that keeps initiating, and you like her, no harm in hanging out a few times a week. if you have the means. just don't get attached too fast. and expect them to get attached to you MUCH quicker and push for LTR. its going to vary for woman to…
/r/askTRP16/06/17 10:47 PM
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its because they are probably spending many hours learning/studying/working whatever and not doing anything else... surely, when you pick a career field that is going to take a lot of your time, you need to make time to go enjoy yourself and get out of the house once and awhile. or do online dating. the sexless losers are probably guys that just play video games or sit in their room watching TV in their spare time. no girl is ever going to hear a man say 'im studying to be an engineer' and then …
/r/askTRP16/06/17 10:40 PM
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yea man, if i can't do it by 6pm when i get home from work, theres no way ill be able to find the energy to go later. my eyes are heavy and nearly closing themselves by 9-10pm. haha only option for me is to try mornings. gonna give it a shot for a week or two and if its too draining, then ill just quit my job and lift at 12 Noon. haha (kidding)
/r/askTRP16/06/17 10:36 PM
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yep, exactly right. any career you choose where there is lack of females means you wont ever find women.............. sigh. seriously though, you can meet women ANYWHERE. and you SHOULDN'T be hooking up with women in your career field or at work anyway. not even sure how you come up with this logic that your career field is the only way you can meet women...... that should be the last place you look.
/r/askTRP16/06/17 10:26 PM
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other than this statement he made, "you should be proud that all these bitches want me" i don't think he really did anything wrong. he was there, enjoying the show, someone started talking to him, insecure wife came up assuming shit... nothing happened. wife sounds like more of a problem then the OP. "who the fuck is this bitch".... good attitude hunny. only thing i would have done differently, is when wife walked up and asked who it was, say, 'i dont know, we just met, what was your name' then …
/r/askTRP16/06/17 10:12 PM
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good shit, and true man.. at least you put in the work!
/r/askTRP16/06/17 08:01 PM
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not directly answering your question... and while you should have SOME standards for an LTR (dont even think about it, you're too young) you should really lower your standards and gain the experience at your age. have fun with everyone. it will help you tremendously as you get older. something i wish i would have done when i was your age. i was picky as all hell. and you know what it got me? absolutely jack shit. i was lonely. and when i did finally land someone i was really attracted to, i had …
/r/askTRP16/06/17 07:22 PM
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its an LTDR. at least you guys are seeing each other weekly. thats better than those LDRs you hear about where the couple doesnt see each other more than twice a year. still, most people here will say any LDR won't work out. they are mostly right.
/r/askTRP16/06/17 07:18 PM
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its not a game. thats how a lot of women are. unless their interest level for you is like 80% or greater, don't expect any different. it takes them quite some time to build the interest to the point of them being eagerly responsive and feeling like they've bonded to you. as /u/coach-red-pill said, stop chasing, be a little more cold, and make her work for your attention. YOU ARE THE PRIZE.
/r/askTRP16/06/17 06:53 PM
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i hear ya. i think im gonna give the early AM a shot for a week and see how i handle it. worse case its too hard to adjust, i'll just have to make time after work and stop with the excuses. either way, i need to get back into routine.
/r/askTRP16/06/17 06:50 PM
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im on this side of the fence. polite with good manners. now had she held the door, and maybe said something OTHER than a 'you're welcome', or followed you around the store so she can be noticed again by you then mayyybe it'd be IOI. if girls are interested in guys, they will make it easy to 'open' them
/r/askTRP16/06/17 06:47 PM
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"works every time.. you responded, didn't you?"
/r/askTRP16/06/17 06:37 PM
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also to add to my post, remember. the past is the past. it happened. cry some more. but leave that shit in the past. may want to read 'the power of now' by eckhart tolle. great book.
/r/askTRP16/06/17 06:27 PM
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shes probably onto the next. restraining order, drug dealers, dudes in prison........... all red flags. fuck that. consider yourself lucky she didnt respond. also, for future reference. don't text that kind of shit so soon after they leave. let THEM reach out to you (even if they take days) then when you do respond, you can say 'i had a good time, lets get together X day Y time" (immediately escalate to the next date).
/r/askTRP16/06/17 06:25 PM
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party girls are never good for LTRs. live and learn. as for your DAY... don't expect to get advice and just bounce back so soon... 5 years to dedicate your feelings to someone is a long time. you can probably literally connect/tie everything you do in your daily life to that person. its tough... but honestly, only time can heal that... everything else you will do now (going out with friends/girls/etc) are just bandaids. one thing i can recommend to speed up the process though, is accepting your …
/r/askTRP16/06/17 06:20 PM
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how long did you give yourself to 'wake up' to when you started a workout. i wonder if i can roll out of bed and literally be pumping iron within 10 minutes. (not sure how quickly they make you do that shit in army/military). im not really a morning person either. haha. i might need a solid 2 hours just to 'wake up' hahaha. fuck.
/r/askTRP16/06/17 06:14 PM
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go online, make an invoice and mail it to her. give her 30 days to pay for it. lol
/r/askTRP16/06/17 05:28 PM
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yea man, im not really looking forward to it. but i don't see any other way. i had the discipline when i first started (forcing myself through being lazy after work - but its harder now, and time is becoming an issue). so its just a matter of forcing myself again. also, ive heard, you feel better through out the day if you get it done early in the morning.
/r/askTRP16/06/17 05:26 PM
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you shouldnt ever get married you feel obligated with a kid coming to this world. you should get married because you care and love the girl and truly want to, because you both agree to it. fact of the matter is, you can't go change your past. you can surely better yourself, but as most people might tell you, its takes MUCH more work to dig yourself out of a hole you created than starting with a clean slate. that doesnt mean you can't do it. there have been some pretty tremendous turnarounds in l…
/r/askTRP15/06/17 10:21 PM
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car. if no car, uber to motel. if no motel, walk to woods. if no woods, go behind dumpster in parking lot. ..... there are ways, dude. depends how desperate you are.
/r/askTRP15/06/17 10:04 PM
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take it as a compliment. no big deal
/r/askTRP15/06/17 09:14 PM
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you can fix it yes. you started out on the right path, you just have to be way more direct. be straight up "look i like you more than a friend, always have and i dont want to be just friends. come get a drink with me X night at Y time". if she declines, then you know you will forever be friendzoned. cut all ties, stop being her gay male girlfriend. if she accepts, then you go and escalate. the problem is, she just got out of a relationship. so shes going to be really emotional, still possibly ha…
/r/askTRP15/06/17 08:25 PM
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at that age. he has no reason to change. 'grumpy old men' (same goes for anyone really. you can't get anyone to be a better man unless they are already accepting they want to change and are then open to listening to advice... and that is rare, because, as you may know, 95% of dudes will NOT admit to being bad with women)
/r/askTRP15/06/17 08:07 PM
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its energy. you are doing something else to not make people not feeling comfortable/welcome around you. as you say, your employer tells you to lighten up. if you walk around with resting bitch face and grumpy looking, people won't want to associate with you. if you are legit happy with yourself, inside and out, you will emit a different type of confidence. you will smile. you will feel good because you give no fucks. people will notice. i suggest you work on your happiness first, then things lik…
/r/askTRP15/06/17 06:37 PM
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its only as awkward as you make it to be. if you DGAF and pay little attention to her, nothing has to be awkward for YOU. and yea, class, no big deal. eventually you will not be in the same class. this definitely isnt the same as work/career that could affect your whole life.
/r/askTRP15/06/17 06:07 PM
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oh. then yea, you're investing too much. escalate for the date quickly next time she reaches out. be direct on your intent. if she ignores you or doesnt offer a counter, or says some shit about being friends. then ghost and cut all ties.
/r/askTRP15/06/17 05:33 PM
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after he slammed the door. look at her, smirk, and then say "well ok, see ya later" leave smiling. act unaffected by this. sure the guy was being ridiculous. but if someone was talking outside of my door and it was super late, id be a little grumpy too. stop overthinking this one. definitely a situation not worth getting into a fight for and dealing with drama to try to look 'hard'. fuck that. he is an irrational peasant. that type of shit doesn't get me riled up or throw me off. by acting unaff…
/r/askTRP15/06/17 05:31 PM
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IMO, thats cool of her to apologize for her behavior. but i would use amused mastery here and take it as no big deal. she reached out to you, so its ok to give a response, but don't initiate as much in the future, especially if she continues bad behavior. you can probably see how the dynamic works now? you dont chase, now shes sending YOU an apology. its working. id say something like "no big deal." then escalate the text to get her out on a date again. by not getting super into details in a tex…
/r/askTRP15/06/17 05:20 PM
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i dont get it. what does ignoring an LTR have anything to do with being alpha. sounds like you're being an asshole?
/r/askTRP15/06/17 05:17 PM
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if this is a plate, then you should NOT be doing gf/bf/LTR stuff with her. because, as you are experiencing, her attraction is building and she is getting more attached. So yes... comfort test. if you are planning to progress this from dating-plate to relationship (since you like her) then you need to start transitioning from RP RAMBO, to RP with a sprinkle of beta. she wants to connect more now. thats what happens when you start doing relationship stuff. she wants more bonding. she wants to fee…
/r/askTRP15/06/17 05:11 PM
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im guessing you are in your early 20's. not giving a fuck comes with age. i stopped caring what my family thought when i closer to 30. at some point, you have to realize, at 18, you are an adult and can do things for yourself. its your life after all. even though your family might want the best for you, you need to realize that you should live your life FOR YOU. not anyone else. otherwise you are never going to be happy. hence, you are currently concerned and always thinking about everyone else.…
/r/askTRP15/06/17 04:02 PM
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son.................... dont tell her a time frame of how long you will be out together. you handle that as it goes. if its going shitty, you bounce. if its going great, spend some time together. and no..... you don't talk about yourself. you ask questions about THEM. a lot of questions. people love talking about themselves, especially women, you want to leave the date with her knowing little about you, and you knowing a lot about her (to decide if shes worth pursuing). this keeps you in the mys…
/r/askTRP14/06/17 11:26 PM
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absolutely dating the wrong types of girls. keep going out with new ones. eventually you will land some decent ones. although it does seem the younger generation is fucked, people are expected to wipe their asses at this point. at the same time........ stop letting it bother you. can you change the situation? NO... so its not your problem to worry about. all you are doing is wasting energy that could be used elsewhere in your own life. you are the man. you are going to be the one expected to wor…
/r/askTRP14/06/17 11:19 PM
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this is the correct info. good work OP. FYI, plates don't last forever. These chicks are just into you and wanting more. after you start texting them more (if you did decide to) the next question would be "what are we?"... unless you are wanting commitment, you are doing it right. or, if you want to meet in the middle and try to keep em around, throw in a few more texts per week. would it really be that inconvenient for you?
/r/askTRP14/06/17 10:59 PM
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i wish the mods would STICKY a 'dont shit where you eat' thread. since people often times don't search
/r/askTRP14/06/17 09:19 PM
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the good news is, the first step to overcoming fear and being a pussy is to admit it to yourself (which you achieved). good for you on looking into it and finding TRP. you are on the path. keep reading. keep trying. dont get discouraged. as you understand more concepts and see results, you will be utterly surprised. good things are on the horizon. wish i would have discovered this shit when i was your age (now in my 30's and seeing my problem with women has been me). consider yourself lucky and …
/r/askTRP14/06/17 09:10 PM
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LTR? tells me you've been hardcore redpill rambo for too long and are failing comfort tests. at some point you NEED to sprinkle in beta so your LTR feels that you care. the key is to sprinkle in small amounts, when their behavior is GOOD. if you stay the 100% rambo alpha that you were during dating, she will eventually leave you because she will never feel you care for her. think of it this way: RP DATING = alpha alpha alpha RP LTR = alpha alpha beta BP DATING = beta beta alpha BP LTR = beta bet…
/r/askTRP14/06/17 07:12 PM
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why would you be escalating in a GROUP text? thats silly. (she doesnt want to look like a slut to her friends) you should barely be texting, in general, even if its directly to her (unless you enjoy/want the friendzone). So yea, its no wonder shes making you look like a loser in a group message. stop that non sense. directly message her, and escalate quickly to a date if you like her that much. logistic texts only. no beating around the bush bullshit.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 06:27 PM
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"So we talked yesterday, and I know we're supposed to be on break, or whatever( In my experience that means breakup) but I think I'm going to end it here. The way you've been secretive, coupled with you feeling "weird" about things makes me think there's another guy in one capacity or another, and I'm not going to be worrying about something like that, this way you can do whatever you want, without worrying about me. I like you as a person, care about and I want the best for you, but I don't thi…
/r/askTRP14/06/17 05:33 PM
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thats good. a man on his mission... but fact of the matter still stands. if you like someone, you will always find time to get back to them, say after you were busy, right? look at her actions. not her words.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 05:28 PM
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you said way too much in your last text to her... and yea, something is going on with her. probably another dude in the picture. cut all ties. not worth the hassle. if she loved you, she wouldnt want space from you. dont initiate. and dont respond.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 05:26 PM
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the latter. go out, have fun, escalate, ask her back to your place if things are going well.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 05:19 PM
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you always allow time for them to respond. the only time its acceptable to double text is if you wait a week, and reach out ONE last time to ask for a date. in which if you get ignored again, you cut all ties and move on. if you were really interested in a girl, would you ever leave a girl on 'read' and not get back to her? the answer is no. you would always get back to her. probably within a few hours (if you were in fact busy). stop chasing.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 04:47 PM
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OP, listen to this stuff. its easy to fall into the trap of trying to win them over by 'conversation'. but a lot of dudes are in that mindset. be different. escalate and go for what you want. she will notice. and if shes even a little interested, she will take you up on it.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 04:34 PM
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you arent escalating to ask her out quickly enough. so shes probably getting bored. either shes interested and waiting for you to man up and ask her out. or shes just using you as a text friend and has no intent on anything going anywhere. only way to find out is to escalate and get out of that friendzone. be willing to walk away.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 04:22 PM
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you have friendzoned yourself and are now her text/chat buddy. good job. you are probably 1 of 20 dudes that just had her attention for the time being. she probably stopped because she started getting more attention from a dude that she is more interested in. so essentially, she talks to you when she has nothing else going on. .... stop chatting up this girl over text. if she reaches out to you and initiates, assume she wants to see you, quickly escalate the convo to asking her out. if she ignor…
/r/askTRP14/06/17 04:20 PM
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just like his earlier post, in which he deleted. how many more of these will he post today, to find acceptance from TRP.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 11:18 PM
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he is over thinking it already because he told her he was meeting up with friends, in which he lied and isnt. haha.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 11:16 PM
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'i can't tonight, but i'd love to get together soon. how about X night Y time for drinks' (in which after drinks you escalate)
/r/askTRP13/06/17 11:14 PM
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if you would have went into the situation not saying you were busy with other shit, id say just escalate and ask her back to your place. but like i said, congruence is key. you start saying you are doing X and then changing plans just cuz you met her, depending on the situation, you come off as weak/or full of shit. either of which isnt good.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 11:03 PM
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no no no... if you had plans already, you commit to your already plans. (which is good because it shows you have some social things already going on - even if you don't, but since you already said it you must stay congruent) - you NEVER move your schedule around to please a girl you just met.. NEVER. dont get head-over-heels for this girl you JUST met. you don't even know her. say you have to go and will talk to her later. stop worrying that you will lose out a chance with this girl. it takes th…
/r/askTRP13/06/17 10:56 PM
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personally, i think in any healthy committed relationship, there should be some compromise from both ends. after all, it takes two to make something work. but it does depend on the situation. so its a case by case. like /u/iheartcapitalism said, if you decide not to respect her boundary, its entirely ok for them to leave you. which is where the balancing act of finding that happy medium falls in (with the giving of alpha and comfort/beta). in your situation, where your posting and promoting thin…
/r/askTRP13/06/17 10:30 PM
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remember, you can never 'be nice and talk' or 'buy' your way into a girls pants. i mean, you might get some every once and awhile (think golddigger) - but if you are looking for a legit good thing, its not going to happen the way you perceive. "maybe if i give her a bunch of my attention, prove to her how nice i am, and start off with friends, i can win her heart" - nope. this is fairy tale movie shit. it doesn't work in real life.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 09:57 PM
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you'd have better results posting bathroom selfies of your body on tinder. at least everyone there is posting for the same reason (to hook up)
/r/askTRP13/06/17 09:52 PM
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thats good, but if shes initiating, you should assume she wants to see you and get her out on a date. not just being her 'text friend'
/r/askTRP13/06/17 09:51 PM
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if you want to be a validating orbiter and attention seeker like the rest of them, sure. you don't need it. if all your contacts walked into oncoming traffic, would you?
/r/askTRP13/06/17 09:18 PM
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rule#1 - keep texting to a minimum. stop chatting over text. use it to get the girl out where you can build attraction in person. ("we always chat at night"...this isnt your girlfriend, stop texting her like you're in a relationship - you are friendzoning yourself by doing this) rule#2 - unless you are in an LTR with her (doubt it, you say she has a boyfriend), you should be dating multiple women at once. what to do next? say "ok" and stop initiating. i, personally, have never messed with chicks…
/r/askTRP13/06/17 09:13 PM
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no worries. i think i will end it with this: continue to focus on yourself, your path, your mission and being the best you can be in the relationship. if you are up there, being the man, you will have success. worrying about anything less is just a waste of time.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 09:05 PM
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laugh and change subjects. at some point shes going to see it isnt getting a rise out of you and the fact you DGAF, she will stop bringing it up as much.... until you are in a bad mood, then she will throw it in your face and wait for you to lose frame haha.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 08:41 PM
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validation and attention seeking behavior. many women out there like this. and shes telling you because shes trying up her SMV and show you shes wanted. shes basically saying 'act like a man or else i have all these other options'. as long as you keep her attracted to you, on a higher level (think like 80% or greater), any good girl won't act on any of that. but its up to you to screen for those. and you can only gauge that by hanging around them and seeing their every day life actions. continui…
/r/askTRP13/06/17 08:23 PM
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you have boundaries, as anyone should have with any LTR. if shes being slutty, you can address it, sure. but do so in a way that doesnt give her an ultimatum... no: 'stop wearing shit like that or else we are breaking up' yes: 'not telling you what to wear, but any girlfriend of mine wouldnt be wearing such revealing outfits' (if she continues to do so, then you should question yourself why you are LTRing a girl like that AND be willing to leave if she keeps doing something you said was an issue…
/r/askTRP13/06/17 07:56 PM
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trust me (but you probably wont) its not all about looks (or money). while they can help. its not the top priority of what women look for in guys. there is something else going on that probably has to do with your congruence with confidence and the way you are portraying yourself. if you even think in your head that you looks are stopping you from meeting women, even if you 'fake' your happiness, you will emit that shitty feeling inside. work on being happy with yourself. the rest will fall toge…
/r/askTRP13/06/17 07:49 PM
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i see, duno why this topic has racked my brain today. this helps bring it into perspective. thanks.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 07:38 PM
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this. also its heavily populated. so the good news is you won't run out of possible candidates to try out. also, don't worry about someone elses experiences. it doesn't mean you won't have a good time and find good women. the dude saying he only found a few could be EXTREMELY picky. who knows.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 07:22 PM
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has this ever backfired on anyone? haha. is it possible to cuck yourself? i imagine if you said this to the wrong women you could have a potential LTR for at least a year or two.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 07:07 PM
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i understand the whole chasing dynamic. i duno, just seems weird to me that people get upset when their girl shuts down on them if the man wants to talk. but if the man doesnt want to talk or wants to shut down, its ok.
/r/askTRP13/06/17 06:42 PM
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feminine car > no car. if it gets you from point A to point B safely, who gives a shit if its a pink daewoo?
/r/askTRP12/06/17 11:18 PM
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thats what i was trying to get at... think we are on the same page now.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 10:43 PM
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yep. she tells you she loves you 2-3 times, you can tell her you love her, once.. it wont kill you. she calls you 3 times a day, call her once. surprise her with these things. you are doing solid by letting her initiate most of the time, but shes gonna need to feel you TRY every once and awhile dude. otherwise don't expect her to stick around for a very long time. after all, there are plenty of chads out there that will give her a ton of comfort.. which she will like, and will feel the need to g…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 10:41 PM
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2 steps forward, 1 step back for LTRs dude. trust me. initiate every once and awhile. itll go a long way in the 'comfort' department.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 10:38 PM
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LTRs are completely different than the redpill rambos in here that dont ever get past dating/plating. do some research. fact of the matter is, with the little information he gave about the situation, there could be A LOT more he is doing that we don't know about. and honestly, not every girl will want to cook/clean/do favors. some do a lot less than others. there are givers/takers/and inbetweeners.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 10:35 PM
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ahhh. i see what's happening, you are in an LTR and you don't do anything for her because she doesnt ASK (you're waiting for her to request, rather than leading, being a man and DOING). maybe you should do something nice for her every once and awhile (when shes treating you right) to show her you give a little bit of a fuck, then maybe she will want to start pleasing you with more little things. this is an LTR, right? not a plate. or a girl you just met. you will have to sprinkle in a little com…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 10:31 PM
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just curious. do you ever do anything for her? you should be in a relationship to give. if you are giving nothing, maybe thats why shes reciprocating it?. but mostly, honestly, there are girls that just aren't pleasers. whether its cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, whatever. some are better than others. you should consider if you want this LTR if she's never doing anything for you. to be fair, you may be struggling with the alpha role in other places, and its leading to this type of behavior. on…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 10:25 PM
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you just have to fake it. say you're busy and have other emails and shit open on your computer than you can click to if people come around. dont write EVERYTHING on your calendar... plus, who are they to judge you and your work day based on what your calendar says? i write stuff on my calendar too, but that equates to about 20% of what i have going on all day with many other tasks. get some balls. say no, if they get mad, say they can go talk to their boss about it. who gives a shit.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 10:10 PM
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for every girl that doesnt want to go out with you, there are another 100 out there that will enjoy who you are and will WANT to be around you. keep that in mind. you just have to put yourself in front of them. if this one doesn't want to be that girl, stop wasting YOUR time. you're better than that.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 10:03 PM
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dealing with a few alcoholics in my lifetime, let me be the first to tell you.... YOU cant help THEM. they have to be willing/wanting to help themselves. no amount of you trying to talk to them, point them in the right direction, etc, will help them if they aren't willing to better themselves. that being said. you can surely talk to your friend. sincerely. tell him you want to see him better, and if he's willing to better himself (which he must admit to), and you think he is being honest, you ca…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 09:59 PM
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yes. so dont do it. IF they ask for help. ask them to show you what the issue is (forcing them to still do the work). i dont understand what the issue is here?. let me ask you again... is that YOUR JOB? (to do their work). If the answer is no, then what is there to discuss? id say 'im busy' and never do it. if piles start to form, its ultimately their problem. what are they gonna do. tell on you?
/r/askTRP12/06/17 09:56 PM
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this. definitely not your problem. although, personally, i have some morals and have always stayed clear of those with BFs. not worth potential drama. also, dont you ever, EVER, get attached to this girl and try to LTR. she will treat you no differently than her current boyfriend, no matter how much they tell you they will be faithful... if she can do it to one dude, she will do it to the rest. you fuck up one time and shes out on the CC.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 09:54 PM
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lie. their jobs/problems aren't yours. unless its in your job description, their work getting done isnt your problem. its very black and white. only offer the help if it honestly doesn't affect your job. (say you have a few minutes to spare or something). and then when you do offer the help, try to do so in a way that you are making them do it themselves, so they can learn while under supervision. lastly, let them try and let them fuck up. its their work. they should know how to do it. and they …
/r/askTRP12/06/17 09:52 PM
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the best negotiation is to be able to directly tell this girl what you want (usually its to get out of a friendzone), mean it, and being willing to walk away if she doesn't agree. you will exude your confidence then, when you care a little less about the outcome. the only way to transition is to just start being that man. just go for it. you have nothing to lose. and as you may find out, you will actually gain a lot more than you think. set up a date. and go handle it. step back out of the 'nice…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 09:48 PM
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LOL. what.the.fuck. how about move. both you and your neighbors have problems.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 08:30 PM
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when a girl tells you she wants to be single AND kiss others for awhile... it means shes already got a dude lined up and ready. she just didnt want to be a cheater, so shes 'taking a break' with you to figure it out. chasing her to make it work at this point will surely drive her away for good. if you want ANY chance with this girl, back off, stop initiating contact, go enjoy and focus on yourself. dont listen to her words, but pay attention to her actions over the course of this 'break'. if she…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 08:29 PM
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if anything, these situations should make you even more confident. girls don't often approach men. so smile and enjoy it.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 07:44 PM
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normal? what other way is there to handle this?..... be scared. be beta. say you're not interested and run as fast as you can... be friendly. be yourself. if you are interested in her, go for a number and meet up another time for a date. no big deal.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 07:26 PM
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wait and give her the time to reach out to you and confirm. dont worry about thursday, you asked. let her tell you if shes interested. if she doesnt get back to you this week, try one more time next week. if she is a ghost again, then you have your answer. interest was too low to begin with... remember, any woman that is interested in you, will make it somewhat simple for you to get together. even if you ask a date and they happen to busy, they will quickly counter-offer because they dont want t…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 06:50 PM
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i thought you just werent supposed to OPEN with a bunch of compliments? you can certainly tell a girl she looks beautiful, especially one you've been seeing for awhile (say shes dressed up to go out on a date with you). why wouldnt you if you are attracted to her?
/r/askTRP09/06/17 11:14 PM
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right? lol
/r/askTRP09/06/17 10:37 PM
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you're dead to me. clearly, you have a lot more work to do on yourself than lifting, bro. good luck with that.
/r/askTRP09/06/17 10:08 PM
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damn dude. thats intense... good job for getting out and doing you/enjoying yourself in a time like this. if you do plan on turning your ex into a plate, i'd strongly recommend you wait awhile, to make sure all your emotional attachment/feelings for her as a 'once GF' are gone. only then should you decide to hook up or be FWB. otherwise you will risk of going through the same issue... being in an LTR with a girl that has already shown you shes a cheater. and honestly, the odds of you still being…
/r/askTRP09/06/17 10:07 PM
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lol....... you are female hamstering so bad dude... get a grip. you shouldnt worry because, no matter how big you are, or will get, there will ALWAYS be people bigger than you. no matter how rich you get, there will always be billionaires richer than you, no matter how famous you get, there will always be people more famous than you, no matter how fucked up your life is, there will always be people with way more fucked up lives..... how the fuck do you not see the trend here?
/r/askTRP09/06/17 10:01 PM
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stop comparing yourself to everyone else (whether its physical appearance, wealth, status, etc)... you should be lifting to better yourself. thats it. there is no other reason. aside to lifting, you should be working on your mentality. you won't be very alpha if you keep worrying about being bigger than everyone else.
/r/askTRP09/06/17 09:41 PM
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"we have been fighting and i been pissing her off". and you wonder why the V dried up? dont you know you shouldnt argue with women? fix that first, the sex will come when you resolve that stupid shit. without knowing what arguing/pissing off led up to this, no one can give you a solution. so be prepared for everyone to tell you 'next' 'ghost'. considering you said its an LTR, and not a plate, you probably failed to make her feel comfortable at some point. might want to work on that first.
/r/askTRP09/06/17 06:28 PM
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i too have quite vivid dreams. there's no reason behind them. when you are emotionally invested into people or hobbies, you will naturally have those thoughts in your subconscious, which you may see in dreams. eventually, as you get over your EX, the dreams will become less and less. nothing you can do except ride out the wave.
/r/askTRP09/06/17 04:01 PM
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you have to determine this yourself. its like an alcoholic... someone can tell them to seek help. but if they don't want the help, honestly, nothing will help them. that being said, if you know this is an issue, and you want to fix this... there's no harm in trying to self-help and work on making yourself a better person first. later, if you feel that its not working, because maybe you dont know what else to do, can then seek out professional help to get you on track. if anyone has the drive wit…
/r/askTRP08/06/17 11:21 PM
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you are texting way too much general convo stuff. these are all topics of discussion you should be having while out on a date. should have ended the convo after she said she was confused. would have had her hamster going. no you dont do anything. let her reach out to you. when she does, quickly escalate the convo to ask her out again. be direct. if she starts dodging the question or making excuses again, let the convo end... if she isnt agreeing to a date, her attraction for you is probably low.…
/r/askTRP08/06/17 11:15 PM
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young grasshopper..... "fun with some girls"...... ? like out on a date with them? or just hanging out? unless you have a GF. none of what they do should affect you whatsoever. you arent together. they have a life. you have a life. you should be talking to 10 other girls... instead, you are focused on the one or two you like, which you probably are only hanging out with and not even dating, so you are becoming attached and needy while they think you want to be friends. you are doing this to your…
/r/askTRP08/06/17 10:39 PM
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look... everyone in here will tell you not to waste your time talking to this girl. while i agree, to some extent. all girls are different. some will take a little more time to feel comfortable meeting up than others. my view: no harm in chit chatting a little bit to build some rapport. the general rule of thumb is to text for logistics and get them out on a date. (if you are attracted to her.) but you can just continue to meet/talk to other women while building this one up to a date? not saying…
/r/askTRP08/06/17 10:01 PM
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seriously? any woman that watches some youtube video like this and wants to break up... shes doing you a favor. let her go. "ok" - walk away and never look back. she will be contacting you in less than a month saying she fucked up. lol
/r/askTRP08/06/17 09:37 PM
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not game over. but be patient and stop chasing this damn girl. you keep sending more shit when shes not responding, and you will surely be ghosted by her. (because you are needy and impatient - you have only been on one date, stop texting like shes your girlfriend) let her reach out to you when shes ready. if you dont hear back for a week, then you can try ONE more time for a date. if she still ignores or flakes you, shes not interested. you then move on. my recommendation... go meet/talk to oth…
/r/askTRP08/06/17 09:22 PM
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OP, listen to this man. all truth. the fact she offered a specific date means shes interested and most likely genuinely busy. no big deal. if tomorrow works for you, go for it. otherwise its going to be on you to reschedule since she did offer a counter.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 09:20 PM
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/u/vandaalen is on point. no more texting/snapping/chatting... shes been waiting for you to take her out again and escalate. assume, any time you first meet a girl and shes reaching out to you for ANY reason, that she wants to hang out. make a date fast. what are you doing now is the best way to get friendzoned. keep it up if you don't want this girl.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 09:18 PM
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just say whats on your mind and quit bullshitting yourself AND them. also, why in the fuck do you not like girls coming to your place? the whole point of hooking up is to get them BACK TO YOUR PLACE. this chick is basically offering to to come to you, which means no work on your part other than bedroom olympics and you want to say no?... next time, say yes and to bring a bottle of wine. enjoy yourself. you can spend any other day chilling or having alone time.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 09:16 PM
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sounds like she just wasnt into you bro... could have been a number of things that caused it. (had other date/s in mind, since its tinder, maybe she just wanted a quick ONS and you didnt escalate fast enough, maybe you turned her off somewhere along your date, etc etc etc) no point in festering in the whys or why nots. its a lost cause worrying about it. fact of the matter is, you can't force attraction. its either there or it isnt... carry on, go meet more chicks. her loss... right?
/r/askTRP07/06/17 11:01 PM
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that explains a lot about her attitude... fuck that noise, dude, you are better than that.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 10:22 PM
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she just doesnt want to be pumped and dumped. obviously looking for some long term commitment. if you are really attracted to her/like her, id say go on more dates (but keep your mind open to dating others and meeting more women at this stage)... keep things upbeat, happy, try to escalate each time you are together. if you keep getting LMR after several dates, just be straight up and say that you enjoy hanging out with her and see this potentially going somewhere, but you are not ok with being f…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 10:19 PM
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good.... learn from this. go swallow more pills! ha.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 10:10 PM
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jesus christ...... how did you even manage dating this chick for a month? sounds like a damned nightmare. i guess to answer your question, yes you are smart for leaving. and no she will not ever have herself put together this far into life. at least not with the attitude she has toward everything. yikes.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 10:04 PM
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its an LTR dude. you are the captain, she is the first mate. treat her fairly. otherwise you shouldnt be captain of the ship. LTRs are about finding that balance of alpha/beta (usually a little more sided to alpha). this will change with each girl. some girls need a little more comfort. the key is to not be that full beta guy we all love to hate.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 09:14 PM
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she basically dreading you dude. shes setting a boundary with the comment "i wouldnt want to be in an LTR where you tell me dont talk to X or Y"... no different than you saying, "any girlfriend of mine wouldnt go out to clubs late at night"... she decides to still go, she disrespects you, you leave... flip it back to her statement, you tell her dont talk to X guys... she might say ok. continues to talk to him behind your back, or says shes not gonna stop talking to him... essentially, shes takin…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 09:12 PM
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all types of fail here, dude. hooking up with girls right in front of her, fail. asks you if you been with other girls and directly saying yes, fail. hitting on girls while being in an LTR (this one backfired on you), fail. sounds like you arent ready for a committed relationship, man. no wonder you are getting hit with all types of comfort/shit tests. yikes. get your shit together. or end the relationship if you arent ready. or... if you want to keep hitting on/hooking up with other chicks, tel…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 08:59 PM
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this should be your mentality single or taken. abundance should be your main focus.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 08:51 PM
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let me guess... you've gone full RP rambo on her since the beginning and now that you are in a committed relationship you are doing the same thing? you NEED to sprinkle in some beta and comfort dude. she just wants to feel connected to you, thats what LTRs do. some are worse than others, you might see this as overly insecure and needy. i can't comment on if thats ok for you or not. but to me, it sounds like you're failing quite a few comfort tests and so you are getting hit with them more freque…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 08:48 PM
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abundance mentality and outcome independence, mainly. you technically dont 'show' her anything. you let HER hamster spin so she creates the story in her own head that there might be another girl. when you are out. dont say, 'im out with my bros'... say, 'im out with friends'... she will start thinking, who is he out with, is it another girl, shit. eye contact with other women. when at a bar/dinner, and the waitress greets you, make eye contact and talk normally. i like to ask female bartenders i…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 08:36 PM
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yea, my recommendation, dont actively look for any opportunity. if you see her and SHE initiates, cool. assume she wants to hook up. act natural, basically start over, escalate when appropriate. dont get your oneitis tied up in here. cuz if you start chasing all over again she will disappear. as others said, abundance.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 07:06 PM
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this is good. make sure shes doing the same amount of initiating with texts/phone calls too. let her chase!
/r/askTRP07/06/17 06:54 PM
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nuclear option wouldnt change a thing. he already knows its happening. if he doesnt have a spine to leave this chick, knowing she is still messing around with chadT, then showing him evidence will do nothing. he will justify and skew all of why his feelings are right and why her actions don't make her a bad person.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 06:49 PM
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semi true... this should be the mentality for text/phone game during the dating process (while not hanging out)... so when you go on dates, you barely talk/get to know her? come on. what do you expect, dudes to go out and just kino themselves in silence until they get in their pants?
/r/askTRP07/06/17 06:34 PM
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still doesnt matter... say you intervene, at this point, and you tell him exactly how you feel... he is so infatuated with this girl, he will value her over you and slowly distance himself, eventually ending the friendship with you. sit him down and discuss all you'd like, just be aware, you'd risk losing the friendship. be willing to walk away from it. and when the time comes and he reaches out when shit went south, dont rub it in his face like "i told you so dick!"... be supportive and help hi…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 06:32 PM
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thats all you can do. until the injuries heal dont try to force any exrecise. give it the time it needs to heal right and then you can worry about getting back to the gym. you might fuck things up more if you try to rush the healing process. just sit back and continue the reading. thats about all you can do. even the strongest men get injured and have to sit out. dont let the feelings get to you. inside, you're still a man.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 06:28 PM
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then discuss open relationships before you LTR a girl, if thats how you feel. if she doesnt agree, then theres no need to lead her on. go find some other fish that would be ok with keeping things open.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 06:26 PM
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you cant help him. sadly. he needs to be defeated. and beaten down. if he doesnt see any of that shit as redflags on his own, buddies like you, won't be able to persuade his decision any differently. this is one of those situations of just let him go through it, and just be there for him when it comes crashing down. only then, can you introduce him to RP philosophy and give some advice.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 06:24 PM
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could be multiple reasons. she has things going on in her personal life, shes getting her validation fix from others shes potentially dating, etc... its not for you to worry or figure out. since you text her last, WAIT for the response. dont jump to conclusions... you should be busy with other women anyways. its only been 2 dates. doesnt mean anything yet. still too early, so don't treat her or think of her as a girlfriend. you have many many months to go before it gets there. have fun, hang out…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 06:21 PM
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thats fine. i am not saying she is perfect. but he should have ejected long before anything got physical. so its still on him. cheating is douchey on its own. dont be in an LTR if you don't want commitment. its not rocket science.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 06:15 PM
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well... you previously fucked up. pretty bad... abusive... cheating... fucking pathetic and weak dude. so yea. after that type of shit, ANY woman will need 110% more comfort from you because the entire relationship you need to continue to prove you aren't "that guy"... now you are sick of the drama?..... end it. nothing good will come of this. i almost feel bad for the girl. you are def in the wrong here buddy.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 05:44 PM
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tough call. as a man that is in an LTR, i understand how you probably feel. the problem is, you can't make this seem like an ultimatum of any sort. if you are really that unhappy with it, you need to say something more like "any girlfriend of mine wouldn't do that". and let her decide not go on her own. but its tough, because you say its been a dream of hers to do this. so if you don't let it happen, you arent allowing her to live her dream. and she will probably hate you/resent you for that. yo…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 05:24 PM
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yes, if you plan on being in an LTR you will need to communicate and they will expect that you talk to them when you arent hanging out with them. nothing wrong with a little bit of chit chat on the phone once you are committed. when it gets to that point, the dynamic shifts a little bit, you will need to sprinkle in SOME comfort. which means talking to them. im sure all the redpill rambos will disagree, but its the fact of having an LTR. if you don't talk to them, they will feel like you don't g…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 04:40 PM
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you tried to shit test her, got shit tested yourself as a response, and now you don't want to hear about it? she knows its a weak spot for you, because the first time it came up you told her to GTFO of your house. let it go, and dont bring shit up like this directly to her face. the point is to subtly show her you have options, cuz you are a catch, but not throwing it in her face. you are asking for trouble doing that kind of shit. you got it. and you couldnt handle it.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 04:26 PM
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put your ego aside and stop the nonsense. hooking up with anyone related to your company is always a no-go. it will never end well. no matter how much your egotistic self thinks so.
/r/askTRP07/06/17 04:21 PM
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right. you do need to keep some alpha frame. as you get further into an LTR though, you DO need to sprinkle in a tiny bit of beta (comfort) every once and awhile. otherwise, as you start passing/getting less shit tests, you start failing comfort tests and they end up feeling like you never care about them.. which leads to them leaving you. the thing about most of the posts in this sub, is its geared toward plates/dating... once you start a relationship, if you want to keep the girl happy, you ne…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 04:17 PM
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your approach should be NO different. the LTRs are just the screening process once you start getting out on dates and hanging out with them. remember, they are on probation too, while dating, since you are the prize, they should be meeting your needs of what you are looking for. so ultimately, the more girls you date, the more you can find potential LTRs. just keep in mind, LTRs are a feminine energy. they are all about communicating, bonding, fairy tale love stories etc. so when you find one th…
/r/askTRP07/06/17 03:42 PM
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this. you started off on the wrong foot OP... dont ever think a woman will treat you differently.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 11:22 PM
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no, because you aren't labeled as anything. so both you and her are expected to be seeing multiple people. why arent you talking to other girls? because in the beginning, she didnt know you too well, you were more of a mystery, then as she got to know you and your ways, you started doing things at some point which caused her attraction level to go down. the 'spark' isnt the same. look, you cant force attraction. its either there or not. there could be multiple reasons things are on the decline. …
/r/askTRP06/06/17 11:18 PM
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you are expecting too much from a FWB type of relationship. the roles are going to reverse now. you are going to do all the damn chasing and lose all your power. you should probably take a step back at this point.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 11:01 PM
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lol... what?.... what kind of restaurant is this?.... wonder if the dudes kiss each other too? thats friggin weird to me, personally. ultimately, shes a plate... probably should keep her as one if thats the type of stuff shes into and doesn't view it as a problem. especially if she plans on being exclusive with a dude.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 10:55 PM
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if you know CCW, then you should know it can take 8 weeks or more IF you are doing everything right. and thats to turn it into a relationship. which you clearly dont want. so im not sure how much better you are expecting it to get at this point.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 10:16 PM
1

yea, thats chasing.... just like if shes not responding to messages, you think its ok to send more messages... thats chasing. dont do that. if you are always the one reaching out to her, how can she miss you and think about you?
/r/askTRP06/06/17 09:58 PM
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"getting sexts from other guys and answering them while with me" well there you go. for one, thats disrespectful. her attention is elsewhere. just as yours should be too... stop chasing this one dude. stop making excuses as to why you should keep chasing dude... sigh.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 09:41 PM
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how long have you been FB's for? were the terms of the relationship predetermined or was it just assumed that you are only FB's? if the intent of the relationship wasnt clear to begin with, she could be assuming that it should be proceeding toward an LTR. and the lack of comfort/you escalating the relationship further is probably causing her to withdraw because she may feel you only want sex and NOTHING else. sounds like a plate thats about to break. stop chasing and get back into solid frame. y…
/r/askTRP06/06/17 09:35 PM
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probably didnt work out with the other dude and shes trying to open you back up for business. this is fine. thats what dating is all about. just be very clear on your intent that you want more than friendship. she either agree's and you can escalate again. or she denies and you can avoid friendzone. win win.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 09:29 PM
2

thats why you skip the small talk and asking all the bullshit catch up questions.... get right to the point... you are in control now. she reached out to you. you have the steering wheel james bond.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 09:21 PM
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stop putting her on a pedestal. go have fun, hang out, hook up. dont overthink the situation and treat her as you would any other girl. shes not anymore special because she wears a bikini and dudes stare at her. dudes will stare at most anyone in a bikini...
/r/askTRP06/06/17 09:07 PM
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so then it depends on what you want. if it wasnt your choice, and you want to continue to see her, then you can certainly get her out on a date and escalate. the key here is, at this point, assume shes reaching out because she wants to see you. move on it if you want. if she denies the date, then say 'good hearing from you, let me know when you are free to get together'... and then YOU go no contact until she reaches out again. key#2 - dont chase this... and dont initiate... continue to pursue o…
/r/askTRP06/06/17 09:05 PM
2

need more context to the post. who ghosted who AND WHY.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 08:32 PM
1

then go for it, dude. tell her what your intent is with the 'relationship'/friendship. you want more. if she says she doesnt feel the same way, just start distancing yourself. stop doing boyfriend shit with her and stop initiating contact all together.
/r/askTRP06/06/17 07:08 PM
1

if you want this girl, stop being a pussy and be direct on your intent. ask her out on a date. not as friends. (tell her you want more than that) and be willing to lose the friendship. if you care about keeping the friendship, you will NEVER have a chance with her. stop being her orbiter friend if you want more. she will either take you up on it (if her attraction is med-high) or she will say no thanks... its a win/win. also, your logic for saying you like her cuz you got friendzoned? (and not a…
/r/askTRP06/06/17 06:33 PM
1

yea, so he should wait and be a 40-50 year old still living with his parents? the only other option is renting, in which depending on where you live, you could be paying the same as a mortgage or more and not own jack shit. (unless you want roommates and such to split rent costs) its a wise investment. a big one sure, that many people make. OP. get the mortgage. if you buy/sell at the right times, you can make a pretty penny. example: buy a $200k home when the market is in a low, sell 6 years la…
/r/askTRP05/06/17 11:08 PM
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jesus that made me cringe.
/r/askTRP05/06/17 10:56 PM
3

pretty much almost everyone owning a home has a mortgage... (with the exception of baller ass millionaires). you just have to bite the bullet and do it dude. i did so myself last year and couldnt be happier. its really nice having your own place to call home. on top of that, rent where i live is more expensive than the mortgage payments i setup for myself. so its a win/win. plus a home is an investment you will get some return on. opposed to renting somewhere and throwing your money away. its bi…
/r/askTRP05/06/17 10:38 PM
3

i was downvoted because it takes too much work to click on 'what are shit tests and how do i handle them?' in the FAQ section of the sidebar. hashtag: newb-logic
/r/askTRP05/06/17 10:35 PM
1

not surprised. honestly. women dont love the same way men do. i wouldnt worry too much about it and overthink it though. its not your balls after all... (btw, sorry to hear about your coworkers ball sack)
/r/askTRP05/06/17 10:25 PM
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are you her boss? if so, fire her ass. if not, stop helping her. say you are busy with your own things and dont offer her help. if she complains, tell her she can go speak to her boss about it. the only type of help you should ever offer, is 'showing' her on her own computer. that way if she asks the same thing over and over again, you can bring it up later that 'she isnt picking this up and its taking away your time from more important things', 'ive shown her numerous times' etc etc etc. basica…
/r/askTRP05/06/17 10:20 PM
2

oh i might have read that a little wrong. my bad. but still, best for you not to THINK what type of jokes your gf makes about you and your small penis. haha.... just messing with you man. yea its a little fucked up to joke about the guys tiny balls while having a serious surgery... but come on, most guys go wayyy more extreme on jokes. usually its the girls that can't handle shit we have to say.
/r/askTRP05/06/17 10:16 PM
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oh young grasshopper.......... sidebar -->
/r/askTRP05/06/17 10:11 PM
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my gf is extremely empathetic about everyone. usually im the asshole when i try to joke (and knowing how sensitive she is, i hold back in most situations quite a bit - ie, not the same as joking with my buddies). sounds like its just her. also sounds like you are taking it way too personally.
/r/askTRP05/06/17 10:09 PM
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yea man, i am in a similar situation with my current gf. she has seen some of them and we have talked about personal growth... in which she has made some comments about seeing positive changes in me. luckily its always been in a place of me 'wanting to do it for myself'. even though its definitely improved our relationship at the same time.
/r/askTRP05/06/17 10:05 PM
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my red flags =/= your red flags. that being said. id rather have a girl that is barely on any social media than a girl that is scattered all over them posting selfies and crap. until you get to know her better and see why she isnt on those things, proceed with a bit caution. this is definitely not a 'time to ghost' situation. until you get more info regarding this, it shouldn't be a deal breaker for now. the guys in here will preach, YOU should also get off social media... (i have mixed emotions…
/r/askTRP05/06/17 08:45 PM
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the quickest way out of the friendzone is to stop being a pussy and tell this girl what you want. if she doesn't feel the same way, walk away and never look back. be thankful she was honest with her feelings, and then you can be extra thankful for not wasting time & money on a lost cause.
/r/askTRP05/06/17 07:19 PM
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you definitely should enjoy your life A LITTLE BIT. but don't blow everything. just try to save as much as possible, you don't need new clothes every month. so get some here and there, save while you aren't spending. if you always 'break even' at the end of each month, then you are spending too much. set aside some to save, and set aside a percentage for you to enjoy.
/r/askTRP05/06/17 06:53 PM
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be direct. be willing to take the loss... by being direct, its very black & white on your intent. so you either win by not turning into her orbiter friend that treats her like a boyfriend, or you get the girl. "im interested in more than friendship."..... then go meet other girls. if shes a 9, shes used to dudes doing EVERYTHING for her to prove they can win her over. don't be like everyone else. the safer route. since you probably don't want to take such risk. say ok, go on the date and try to …
/r/askTRP05/06/17 06:39 PM
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good advice here, OP. listen to the man. you ALLOWED yourself to be friendzoned. if you want her. you have to be able to risk losing her. if you don't want to go this route, as SkorchZang mentioned, you could be extremely direct. ask her out on a date, not as friends, because you see her as more. if she says yes, cool. if she says no, then you can cut contact a little more suddenly. this type of negotiation will be very black and white. you win either way. because you stop being her emotional or…
/r/askTRP05/06/17 06:31 PM
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you have to remember, even guys with high SMV and value still get rejected. women have values and perceptions too. example. guy has tons of money, has the DGAF attitude (seemingly high value to many) will still get rejected. reasoning - girls may have experienced that most of these guys are so arrogant they instantly label them as someone they don't want to deal with.
/r/askTRP05/06/17 06:25 PM
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you are taking my A&A saying way too seriously. point being, compliment anything you want. sounds like complimenting his soft looking hands would be more up your alley.
/r/askTRP05/06/17 06:22 PM
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she just wanted a little comfort from you. if you are really into this girl and are in an LTR (you said potential break up, but you didn't state the status of said girl) then yes, you fucked up. if its just a girl you are fooling around with, then its just that time. she thought you were more to her, you showed her you didnt care of anything more than sex, she probably felt used and will move on. how you handle it from here really depends on if you see this developing into something more (LTR). …
/r/askTRP05/06/17 05:39 PM
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compliment his ding dong bulge then, dude. if that is more appealing to you...
/r/askTRP05/06/17 05:36 PM
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general rule of thumb, with any new dating prospects... you should do once a week and keep small talk to a minimum in between. (this lets her think about you while shes not with you and helps with attraction). That being said, i have def started off on the more aggressive note and had success... it really depends how high their level of attraction is for you. try to keep it to 1-2 times per week. you want to maintain that you have other things going on in your life and your time is somewhat prec…
/r/askTRP05/06/17 04:00 PM
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OP - on monday, tell her you quit your job to spend every moment with her. she MIGHT be happy then.
/r/askTRP02/06/17 11:24 PM
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i wouldnt respond. go focus on your path. your mission. WORK. then hit her up on monday. "when are you free to get together" (let her pick a day).. she can't say its inconvenient for her if she picks the day? edit: i mean honestly, to complain about something like that only knowing each other for 2 months? (i duno how many times you have hung out in those 8 weeks) but jesus... she should be happy at any moment she gets to spend time with you and your busy schedule. if shes creating flak over som…
/r/askTRP02/06/17 11:10 PM
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take your pants off - no words needed.
/r/askTRP02/06/17 11:02 PM
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if you focus on what WONT happen, thats the outcome you will create. get out of your head and stop worrying about will happen. go get yourself out there, talk to people, join music/producer forums, talk to people, create music together, share tips/info you know. eventually good things will happen. friendships don't happen in an instant. you have to let it breathe and become a 'regular' with people. then you can start inviting out... 'hey lets go grab a beer or something and talk about music'...
/r/askTRP02/06/17 11:00 PM
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"ok....... so tell me what you're mad about?" (calmly) for the record, you didnt ignore her all day. she told you she didnt want to talk to you... so you could also say "you didnt want to talk to me" "you said you wanted space" she says "because i was mad!" "ok, so then what were you mad about?" (calmly) at some point in this relationship, shes going to need to communicate her feelings. women do this naturally because they are emotional beings. if she doesnt want to, then shes not ready to talk.…
/r/askTRP02/06/17 10:53 PM
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while i cant say i have been in this situation, i can say this should be a big learning lesson for you (which you mentioned you have learned - great, thats awesome). this just shows, no matter how much you care for people, there is usually an end of the road. whether its months, years, decades, or by death, there is an end. something i've learned over coping with things, is to not push away your feelings... ACCEPT them. acknowledge your feelings in that moment.. "ok, im feeling sad right now"...…
/r/askTRP02/06/17 10:28 PM
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through hobbies. dont have any? find new things that interest you. join forums, go to events held by groups, mingle. good on you to recognize this early on life. i didnt do anything about loser friends until i was in my late 20's. life has been much better with much less drama! wish i would have been able to recognize this shit sooner...
/r/askTRP02/06/17 10:04 PM
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i listen to metal music. everyone and their mother hates heavy music like this cuz its the devil and usually when people hear me listen to it, especially girls i date, get the most disgusted looks on their faces... i couldnt care less. im not looking for other peoples approval on what music, tv shows, hobbies i should have. its my life. you have a lot of other things within yourself to work on if you cant enjoy music you listen to. if that style affects you that badly to remind you of past peopl…
/r/askTRP02/06/17 09:34 PM
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lol. well played.
/r/askTRP02/06/17 09:33 PM
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always sarcasm/smiling/upbeat. basically treat what she said as not a threat
/r/askTRP02/06/17 09:27 PM
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how does this sound butthurt? you are agreeing and complimenting. "that guy is not fucking cute" <--- that is butthurt.
/r/askTRP02/06/17 09:15 PM
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"ok" try again in 30 minutes. they typically say this so they don't appear slutty. but would they say that shit to brad pitt?...... unlikely. keep working on kino/foreplay, if their attraction level is increasing, there is still a good chance things will advance.
/r/askTRP02/06/17 08:50 PM
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i don't advise doing this. def makes it seem like a butthurt game. (well if she can do it i can do it too!)
/r/askTRP02/06/17 08:45 PM
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if you're busy having fun, go have fun. call her back later and say you were busy with some friends. no big deal. you are totally overthinking this. your current mentality is like, let me go out with my friends, but hover by my phone and wait for her phone call. act as if you will NOT get a call tonight. go enjoy yourself. if she calls and you have a minute, pick up and ask how her outing was, then say you are with some friends and will call back later. then get off the phone. she will think abo…
/r/askTRP02/06/17 08:28 PM
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because. you are going out with someone new to get to know them and see if there's any chemistry... what good is sitting in a movie theater? where you cant talk.... you don't learn jack shit. if your intent is to kiss/hook up, why are you spending money on a movie you aren't going to watch.... movies are couples dates. if you are trying to meet a decent woman, this doesn't work. because feminine polarity is about bonding and connecting.
/r/askTRP02/06/17 08:25 PM
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OP - i wouldnt go this route. here's why: she was brutally honest and straight up told you she didn't to talk to you. which you pursued via text/phone, blowing up the situation to which she continued to blow you off (wonder why? hmm). so by texting her more, even just saying 'hey im gonna be at this place' shows as a sign of being weak. you're a man. she said she didn't want to talk to you... JUST GO. go be with your boys. do what YOU want. do you have to run everything by her and get approval?.…
/r/askTRP02/06/17 08:21 PM
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AA. "yea he is. he's got a tight ass" (then change topics) ultimately... who cares.
/r/askTRP02/06/17 08:15 PM
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question. are you making an effort to spend time with them? invite them to things YOU want to do? ask about things they are doing and see if you can join? i get the feeling you are just expecting them to invite you to every single thing they do... in which, yes, you will be disappointed.
/r/askTRP02/06/17 07:09 PM
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dude. STOP chasing this girl... go re-read your post a few times. "i called her a lot of times after she didnt respond to my text"... "In the morning I texted her good morning and all and she replied an hour later. Then I tried calling but she didn't pick up as well." are you serious? WTF is this shit... this woman is trying to HELP YOU OUT... she flat out told you, 'I don't want to talk / I don't feel like talking to you now'...... so you fucking stop. end of story. wait for her to get her shit…
/r/askTRP02/06/17 06:34 PM
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only thing you can do right now is to continue working on finishing uni and looking for more work (or better work which pays more). fact of the matter is, with no income coming in, what is there to save? you have to eat, you need gas to get around, you need clothes... it sounds like you arent treating yourself to gifts often (if you are you should cut back and focus on saving). dont compare yourself to what others are doing, instead, focus on what you can do better to put yourself in a better po…
/r/askTRP02/06/17 05:20 PM
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this is a good answer. no movies. first meet up is too early for dinner. however, you want to keep it to activities where you can talk and get to know each other. So paintball... while fun, not a good first date. you won't talk that much while you are focused on shooting people.. minigolf is good... but ultimately, it doesnt matter. i met my current gf at a park. brought my dog to play fetch. no money spent, we talked for a couple of hours, had fun with the dog, she called ME later that night an…
/r/askTRP02/06/17 05:14 PM
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if she wants to get drinks at 10am, you might want to ghost her...
/r/askTRP01/06/17 10:03 PM
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could be numerous things, unfortunately, most of the time we don't know what the underlying agendas are. she could feel guilty, she just wants the last word so she can validate her break up with you, she could regret her decision and wants to make it work.... who knows...... who cares.... if she wanted to explain herself, she should have shared those feelings before breaking up with you. if she cared enough, she wouldnt have want to split.. keep on the high road. you are doing well. stay strong,…
/r/askTRP01/06/17 08:05 PM
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young grasshoppers need to learn until you are consistently having sex with a woman, you are not "together"...... jesus. you barely kissed the girl and you are already making commitments? what the fuck. relationships are a feminine trait, dude. until they bring up being in a relationship and locking YOU down, you hang out, have fun, hook up. i'd suggest you meet more women...
/r/askTRP01/06/17 06:36 PM
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its good to have standards... but obviously if you are too picky its going to hurt you a little bit. i went through this same thing when i was in my early 20's. but as i grew older, dated different women, i began seeing that the 'girl next door' type (like 7-8's) - cute, but not a perfect 10, were becoming wayyy more attractive because they actually had good personality. Also, the 10's get treated like princesses their whole lives, so they are usually more fucked up in the head... i guess for me…
/r/askTRP01/06/17 06:31 PM
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ok yea, then dont ask. if you tried to make plans for the weekend and she said she would let you know..... id def soft next and wait for a response.... reaching out anymore at this point is going to get you back into clingy. my point is..... dont get her friends involved in some shit like this. if you have that big of a problem with it, you should be man enough to figure out on your own. and that would be directly asking her. just my opinion. doesnt have to be some wild game.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 09:46 PM
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no. you should ask her directly whats going on. if she doesnt want to share with you, then soft next and wait for her to come around. you have only known her for 3 weeks....... you sound attached already. you should take a step back at this point. thats probably why shes avoiding you, captain clingy. think about it from her perspective. imagine if she did this shit to you and your friends. say she did something to upset you. you back off and dread her a little bit. her hamster starts going and s…
/r/askTRP31/05/17 09:09 PM
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just curious what the logic is on not buying online? how is that any different than buying in a store. if some asshole is going to tamper with shit, they can do so at any point from when they are packaged to when they are sold, regardless of where you get them from.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 07:54 PM
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to add to this, if you happen to see her around anywhere, dont bring up why she never responded to asking her on a date. act as if nothing happened, be fun... definitely her loss...
/r/askTRP31/05/17 07:52 PM
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interesting. a lot of your advice is actually things he preaches about relationships. good shit.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 07:50 PM
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yea, thats natural, dude. men = logical / problem solvers. women = emotional / talking without 'fixing' problems. the problem lies in that men will try to FIX the problem, logically. this happened, so lets do this.... women just want to talk about FEELINGS. "you made me feel X way" "i feel like you..." etc etc etc. these emotions are in the moment. they change all the time. which is why you will experience a woman telling you she loves you, only an hour later, the same woman will say she hates y…
/r/askTRP31/05/17 07:22 PM
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you must follow corey wayne. i approve.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 07:19 PM
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winning strategy = build rapport on your date. obviously, this is the idea. but in reality, you might need to build A LITTLE BIT before a date so they know you arent some creep psycho. the key is to not overdue it and get into a texting battle where you learn each others entire life history before even going on a date. keep it short, vague and FUN. be DIFFERENT than all her orbiters thinking you will 'win' her by talking and being nice. be direct with your intent. getting them off the phone and …
/r/askTRP31/05/17 07:18 PM
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any LTR will see this as unstable... if some problem comes up in life, you will just run away, rather than just face it and deal with it. work on that. how will any woman feel comfortable with A MAN, who runs and hides.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 07:14 PM
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not a red flag to me, personally, a lot of people don't like feeling vulnerable. it takes most people time to build comfort with others.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 07:10 PM
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'we either talk or end it'..... ultimatum.... those never work. on top of it. you said that dumb shit to her, shes still not talking, and you still havent ended it... so... dont say crap like that. 'i dont know' -> you do know, because i can see you're upset. we can have an adult conversation about this. edit: basically, you need to keep trying to break down the barrier, eventually, she will crack and out will come a lot of information. (i give this advice because you said this is a girlfriend -…
/r/askTRP31/05/17 07:08 PM
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OP - this is the best advice. you need to open her up emotionally and be prepared to just listen. she probably needs some comfort at this point. ive been on both sides of these situations. going cold in return and saying she should leave. then waiting for them to come around. sadly, this only works some of the times. more often then not, they feel like you don't care and give up. but if they really care about you, they will come back... when they do, they will want to have 'a talk'... so as ment…
/r/askTRP31/05/17 07:03 PM
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be yourself and have fun with it. you can't force attraction. it is either there or it isnt.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 06:30 PM
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no attraction, another dude, personal problems/drama, death.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 05:35 PM
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women want to be in a fairy tale. simply put, bonding/connecting is a feminine trait.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 05:08 PM
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go read a book called The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle. Start living your life in the moment. fact of the matter is, you can't change your past, and you are focusing your anger on events you can't go back and change. Accept it for what it is/was, grow from it, move on and LIVE your life for you... RIGHT NOW. you come first. my dad left when i was young too. stopped seeing him around 14 or so. Eventually stopped talking to him completely... im now 33, and couldnt care less about my not-present …
/r/askTRP31/05/17 04:57 PM
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since it was her idea and you don't seem THAT interested. no harm done. you don't seem desperate, so that's good. but at the same time, you shouldnt expect much. Yes it might have been her idea, but you are ultimately asking a woman to plan a date with you. unless her interest level for you is extremely high, don't expect anything to happen, especially early on in the dating phase sounds like you have the right abundance mentality. but if you really want this girl, id recommend you make a move/d…
/r/askTRP31/05/17 04:19 PM
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she probably has something else in the works and is waiting to see how it pans out. saying she wants to in a month or something to keep you as a plan B. move on, and stop investing. if you are still interested IF/when she comes around, worry about it then. as others have said, if she was attracted to you, there wouldn't be that long of a wait period. she would want to be out with you sooner than later.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 03:41 PM
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rain checks are fine. she offered a new day, to which you were already busy. give this girl one more shot (its on you to make another date at this point). if she flakes again and doesnt offer a counter. you move on for good, never offer another date unless she specifically does and you are interested.. but from the sounds of it, sounds like shes semi-interested, she said she would like another arrangement. so make it happen. by holding off contact now you are only shooting yourself in the foot. …
/r/askTRP30/05/17 08:14 PM
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as /u/900PercentSaltIntake said, quit hitting on girls with boyfriends. common courtesy... as for explaining your feelings and moving on. that is good. if you like someone, this is exactly how you handle it to stay out of a friendzone. you present it very black and white. you should do this with all women, including single ones. this is exactly how you negotiate what you want, properly. now all you do is wait. pursue other women. IF you are single when she comes around, you deal with it then and…
/r/askTRP30/05/17 08:11 PM
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should have already done it before getting any social media crap. sooner > later, young grasshopper.
/r/askTRP30/05/17 06:59 PM
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not sure why you are getting downvoted for this comment. if someone asks someone else to go out, its generally on them to pay unless the girl offers to pay or take the tab... you ask, you pay... like /u/wittizer said, you can learn a lot about the type of girl she is after that initial date. my current gf, quickly picked up the tab on our 2nd date and demanded it was her turn. even now, after dating for almost a year, i will take her out, pay, she either picks up next time or she brings a bunch …
/r/askTRP26/05/17 08:04 PM
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i hate that women use it as an excuse to act bitchy.. its not right.
/r/askTRP26/05/17 06:39 PM
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another lesson learned. always be direct with your intent..... never "assume" they are on the same page as your indirect actions. you treat her like a gf shes going think things are exclusive. had you set things straight from the get go that you werent ready for a relationship, none of this would have been a problem.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 08:14 PM
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"biggest fuck up you can make in a relationship" "over at my girls house" all signs of post point towards exclusive? so is it an open relationship where you can both see other people? none of your words are congruent. which also is probably some of the reason things didnt work out.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 08:03 PM
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as far as this being the biggest fuck up?.... id say no. sleeping with other women while in a committed-exclusive relationship is the biggest fuck up. but the fact of the matter is, you got drunk, and hit on her friend. which is insinuating that you want to hookup. so in their eyes, its just as bad.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 07:56 PM
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nope. you're an idiot. you probably shouldnt be in any relationship if you are doing that kind of shit.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 07:47 PM
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he isnt ruthless. he is being honest. and he is correct. yes, you were too aggressive (in the sense of texting too much when she wasnt responding - you must give them time to respond to a text. any time you dont get a response and you send more, you are too aggressive). there could be 1000 reasons why she went cold. but thats not for guys to worry about. no point in wasting your time thinking/worrying about why... she stated she felt you guys were moving too fast, and yet you continued to pursue…
/r/askTRP25/05/17 07:14 PM
5

watch out, OP is gonna edit his original post and call you an idiot just like he did me! lol. but i agree with this.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 11:23 PM
1

if you think your problems are so bad, go seek professional help. someone who can sit down with you, talk to you about your life, evaluate all your problems and get you on the road to fixing them. without any information, no one on the internet will be able to help you.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 11:19 PM
1

why is /u/vodkamonsta an asshole? what kind of answers/support were you looking to get with such a vague post. no one here even knows anything about you.... we can only give advice based on information you provide, which you have provided NOTHING. "you have problems. you assume shit. you are an alien"..... im gonna say the problem is you are an alien based on the info given. be less alien.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 11:15 PM
3

how is anyone on the internet supposed to know what your problem is? the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results... so start tweaking things here and there, if things start to work better for you, you should be able to look back and evaluate where you were going wrong.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 10:15 PM
1

dont overly text before your date. keep it minimal. otherwise you will have a good chance of talking yourself out of it
/r/askTRP12/05/17 09:59 PM
11

"Ok! will stop!" (fuck around with her, be playful) as far as nexting her? you didnt lose yet..... schedules just havent jived up. you remained indifferent and unphased, perfect response so she started chasing you (thats exactly what you want). and she did offer another day to hang out - so that tells you there is SOME interest there.. if it works for you and you like her, go with it and give it a chance. what do you have to lose here? remain cool/busy until the day comes. you have done well so …
/r/askTRP12/05/17 09:32 PM
1

ok so? does that mean you want us to treat you like a child? man up... guys here are going to tell you how to be successful. you have a lot of other things to worry about at your age, danielson. go wax some cars.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 09:25 PM
1

how is your success with women? are you hooking up frequently? if the answer is no....... then yes, you are too serious. the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. maybe if you are less serious you will get better results. need to try different things to gauge what works best for you. and while you claim to be a 'solid 8'... if brad pitt looked serious, would he still get girls?. probably. while confidence is good, you may need to work on so…
/r/askTRP12/05/17 09:01 PM
4

first girl was just doing her job. stop being an asshole. second dude was probably joking (even though it was rude and id never respond to a customer like that) and you took it personally. stop being an asshole. - Next time, present the question better. 'Can i get your store hours'. sounds like you have a lot more to deal with personally, before you worry about handling others.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 08:44 PM
2

in my opinion, often times, swallowing pills (whether its TRP OR MRP) can AID in the man's dating life or LTR/Marriage life. like anything else in life, there are both sides of the spectrum. things that work and things that don't. every situation is different. the whole point... is while swallowing for TRP, it helps men better themselves and can aid in the dating/hooking up process. (gaining more positive results) with MRP, its can aid in those LTR and marriages where the man already got the gir…
/r/askMRP12/05/17 07:09 PM
2

Thanks brother.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 06:47 PM
2

never looked at it like this... women = emotional = bond through communication. thanks for the reminder.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 06:39 PM
2

"ok" have to be willing to walk away from any situation. if she likes you enough, she will continue the chase. watch her actions, not her words. if this was an LTR, plan of action would be slightly different (giving SOME chase from your end).... but plates will almost always break at some point.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 06:14 PM
1

it is def annoying... haha. but it make sense. so basically always be escalating without getting butthurt. eventually you will get what you want and they will get what they want. ultimately, just waiting for the stars to align for it to happen.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 06:04 PM
1

thanks for chiming in. looking back on previous situations, this makes sense. does it benefit me at all to ask her to be less passive on her advances in the future? or will that only make the situation worse? probably just up to me to be more sensitive to that and escalate more at literally any sign. lol.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 05:39 PM
1

also, to add to this. the previous two nights (night 1 / 2 where i was just holding her), were nights she was tired and fell asleep on the couch. so i couldnt even escalate besides just holding her while we slept.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 03:59 PM
1

You were supposed to notice that she was trying, and then take her savagely. She didn't put it on and display for you to go through the normal old motions and routine... thing is though man, aside from the outfit (which was covered in a robe), she wasn't pushing herself on me, she wasn't touching me. she was laying there with her back to me. so other than the outfit, she wasn't coming onto me AT ALL. i was the one that was attempting to escalate. i was ready to validate her right then and there.…
/r/askMRP12/05/17 03:35 PM
1

I feel like ive been passing most CTs lately. Early on in our relationship i failed quite a few. Recognizing that i have been sprinkling in more comfort and things have been going great for awhile. So this seemingly came out of nowhere.
/r/askMRP12/05/17 02:34 PM
2

this is the correct answer, OP. be very direct and tell her she won't win your friendship this way. and if she thinks her tactics will work, she is going to waste her money, since you won't hang out as friends. be firm if you want this girl. you might have a shot. funny how it works huh? withdraw attention suddenly shes chasing the shit out of you..... you have to always be willing to walk away. so be firm on what you want, and you might just get it. ultimately, if she moves on, herself, you sti…
/r/askTRP11/05/17 10:48 PM
15

obviously attraction is low and they arent getting the attention from the guys they like at the time. so they open up the doors for the bottom feeders when they are bored. if they were more than halfway interested in you, they would reply back. this day and age, its really quite impossible to ignore text messages or phone calls. people are glued to their fucking phones. not hearing back from them during normal hours of operation should tell you everything you need to know......... move on.
/r/askTRP08/05/17 11:16 PM
10

well.... depends..... the ones that go FULL beta, are whipped. but, for any LTR to be successful, you cant be full rambo RP. otherwise, she will not get the comfort she needs and she will leave you. the appropriate answer is to be 2/3rds RP. with a side of beta. if you want a happy woman... of course, the hardcore rambo RP'ers in here who just ONS and dont get exclusive, are going to disagree.. but that is the truth to maintaining an LTR. so i guess it depends on what you want. the key is to not…
/r/askTRP08/05/17 11:12 PM
1

then keep it playful.
/r/askTRP08/05/17 10:11 PM
1

That is why it's important to fuck them for at least sic to twelve months before considering exclusivity and commitment with one. yup. they say everyone puts their best foot forward for about the first 3 months. after that you really start seeing who they are, especially if you are spending more time together.
/r/askTRP08/05/17 09:40 PM
2

if a woman has a high attraction level for you, you can fuck up pretty good and come back from it. dont forget their FEELINGS change in the moment. so even if you are doing 100% right, suddenly she can become upset and you will have to deal with it then. nothing is over until you want it to be over. to key to success is to keep the fuck ups to a minimum... (all dudes will never do 100% right, ever)
/r/askTRP08/05/17 09:35 PM
1

need more information. someone you just met or started dating? definitely be playful and joke around. keep validation to a minimum. someone you've been exclusive with for a longer period of time? shes just looking for some comfort/reassurance. no problem telling her shes pretty and grabbing her butt.
/r/askTRP08/05/17 09:33 PM
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tease her back.... dont be so serious with anything. you have to be able to give the playful banter back and fourth. if you get butthurt, you lose.
/r/askTRP08/05/17 09:25 PM
2

you are dating... you arent exclusive..... she is to be assumed dating other guys (confirmed) and you are to be assumed dating other girls (get on it).... there is no issue here.. continue to go out/have fun/hook up. when her attraction builds for you, she will be the one wanting to lock you down (this can take up to 8 weeks or more for a woman)... until it reaches that stage, you can not be phased by this behavior, nor should you care/think about what shes doing in her free time. stop stalking …
/r/askTRP08/05/17 09:23 PM
3

i suggest not throwing in the towel, quite yet. continue to treat her like a plate for now. it is a womans decision when the dating moves into relationship phase. and its their job to bring it up to the men.. "what are we" "where do you see us going" etc.. until you start getting questions like that, you don't bring anything up.. you keep dating/having fun/hooking up. dont rush into anything. women need time. her attraction is still building for you if shes telling you shes unsure.. so if you li…
/r/askTRP08/05/17 09:12 PM
1

unless you are brad pitt, you are going to have to try/show some interest initially... she can still qualify herself for you, but ultimately, the key is to spark her interest with your being awesome, then after dates, NOT smothering them/chasing/being needy and giving them some space to breathe to allow their attraction to build for you.
/r/askTRP08/05/17 08:27 PM
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whats there to spin to your advantage? you are basically friendzoned and she wants to use you for a discounted rate. why would you do favors like this for someone you're not sleeping with? nothing good will come of this. as stdrp said, no reply is the best answer.
/r/askTRP08/05/17 05:25 PM
1

to add to this post. keep your goals small at first. so you CAN be successful. if you set major goals that are difficult to accomplish, all the failures are going to lead down the same path of hate and depression. good example: goal - say hi to a random girl...... boom done. good day. bad example: goal - go out, talk to girl at the club, get her back to my place, hook up and hope this turns into an LTR... (you need to work up to shit like this when you achieve smaller goals first).
/r/askTRP05/05/17 10:37 PM
2

you tried it before....... but did you marry her?. did it work out long term?...... hmmmmmmmm...... wonder why it didnt? to put this into perspective. read this: She’s nice, funny and owns an impressive college degree. Her ass is huge. Throughout the date, she peppers you with questions like, “Would you say you’re an ambitious person? Where do you see yourself in five years? Is it with me? And our children?” The next day, she’s mailed baby clothes to your apartment with your last name embroidere…
/r/askTRP05/05/17 10:26 PM
5

butthurt. GET OUT LADY!
/r/askTRP05/05/17 10:21 PM
2

also, as an experiment. why dont you go text and blow girls phones up all day everyday and see how far it gets you......... be the chaser. be clingy and attached. watch what happens.... because thats what the other dude is going to do himself. shes not gonna go blow him. he's gonna friendzone himself.
/r/askTRP05/05/17 10:15 PM
2

so let that other dude chase and talk his way right out of hooking up with her... this isnt fairy tale movie shit. be different than every dude that chases women to 'win' them. she will notice this, and she will then chase you instead (if she is in fact interested). stop worrying about other dudes with her.. worry about yourself dating/meeting other girls. edit: "if i wait 3-7 days before reaching out she will be like he doesnt like me!"......... read that to yourself, over and over a few times.…
/r/askTRP05/05/17 09:48 PM
4

you shouldnt have kicked her out. shes not your gf, and you're treating her like one by letting that hurt your feelings. so, the answer is: you dont react..... "ok" is good enough. you shouldnt care as you're hooking up with other girls
/r/askTRP05/05/17 09:42 PM
3

no, if you reach out and she declines without a counter. you say OK and dont reach out anymore. if she is at all into you, and shes declining, she would offer another day to hang out. you have to give them space and time. by chasing after them and saying some shit like you had in mind, you will push them away even further. you don't reason with a person who isnt giving you the time. thats it. 'we shouldnt speak anymore'..... NO..... you dont need to specify anything, if she reaches out in a coup…
/r/askTRP05/05/17 09:29 PM
1

nope. go do more research about mate guarding. this situation is not relevant at all.
/r/askTRP05/05/17 09:13 PM
1

who gives a shit... there could be 100000 variables to why it didnt work out. if her attraction level for you was high, she would put herself in front of you AND make it easy... so theres no point in wasting thoughts about how and what you could have done etc. every situation is 100% completely different (no one is the same). so whether or not you could have done something different, you could act the exact same way with a different girl and still get her. move on. if there's one thing you want …
/r/askTRP05/05/17 09:06 PM
1

touche. hence, he may want to re-evaluate his LTR.
/r/askTRP05/05/17 07:50 PM
-1

not really. i mean, yea, cheating can happen regardless. if any girl has shitty morals, they won't give a shit and do as they wish. but generally speaking, a woman of good value, if her attraction for YOU is high, the odds are in your favor, as long as you are being a man in the relationship and not giving her any reason to doubt you. at least from my experiences... that being said, i have also been cheated on a few times. lol.
/r/askTRP05/05/17 07:45 PM
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doesnt matter who she sleeps with or if she ONS'ed people she is still 'friendly' with or not. fact of the matter is, she can ONS any dude she wants ANY TIME. if your value is high enough, she wont, regardless of what happened. you shouldnt care. if she wants to go, let her go. if you don't trust her, well then... you probably should re-evaluate your LTR.
/r/askTRP05/05/17 07:15 PM
1

shes giggling and laughing. just as any other shit test, agree and amplify or amused mastery. go do more reading, young grasshopper. never take anything women say like this personally.
/r/askTRP04/05/17 10:43 PM
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have you known her for a day? have you been 'dating' for awhile?. with so little information, for all we know you could have been friendzoned already. where the fuck is the abundance dude....... jesus. why are you getting pissed off over being denied a kiss. laugh. go on with the date. escalate again in a little bit. if this is first date shit, some girls just wont do it. if this is 5th date shit, and you want more, why are you just going out with this one girl that won't do it for you? for the …
/r/askTRP04/05/17 08:09 PM
3

firstly, she was working... a lot of people in this environment are going to be friendly. its their job to do so and its their job to interact with people/small talk. fact of the matter is, you are totally overthinking this. get out of your head. next time you could literally say the same thing. 'got it online, dont remember where'.... then follow up with a 'hows your day going so far' or something like that. steer the conversation your own direction. but remember, picking up where people work i…
/r/askTRP04/05/17 07:47 PM
3

The golden rule is 2. Since she initiated convo again she may actually be interested. If you are, go for it. If she ghosts AGAIN, cut all ties.
/r/askTRP29/04/17 12:40 AM
1

prefer blonde men? omg, this reminded of a girl i went on a couple of dates with a long time ago. met online. (so obviously pictures/looks were disclosed up front). go out on a couple of dates. seemed to be going OK from my perspective. i go to take her home one night. (first time going to her place). she said i wasn't allowed to drop her off near her apartment (ok - doesn't want a dude to know where she lives, thats fine), but could drop her off nearby. thought that was weird... left her where …
/r/askTRP28/04/17 09:38 PM
2

text: "new phone. who dis?" hahaha.
/r/askTRP28/04/17 09:14 PM
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you'd be best off settling with a 7 (mayyybe 8). super cute, attractive, while having personality... best of both worlds. and yes, you are right. the hotter they are, usually the more fucked up they are. because they are used to having everything handed to them and every single dude chasing them to get a piece. these types are usually unappreciative of anything because they never have to work for anything. just stand there and look pretty.. fuck that. its funny, when i was younger, i used to jus…
/r/askTRP28/04/17 09:12 PM
1

she's allowing you to pursue her some of your advice would be true if they had met and maybe been on a few normal dates where he is looking to LTR this girl. (comforting her in some ways)... but the fact is, they quickly hooked up. so him pursuing this chick after a QUICK fuck is dumb. if she isnt initiating a text/phone call, or even responded to his offer of doing it again, shes NOT that into him. him chasing this girl this early on in the game will surely be a fail. OP, go about your business…
/r/askTRP27/04/17 11:04 PM
2

i know man. its not an easy thing to deal with and watch with your own eyes. but you have to look at the cold hard facts and ask yourself: is there something i can do to fix this? if the answer is no. you need to detach yourself from the feelings. people constantly make bad decisions for themselves. hell ive had a few, but it isnt until you go through enough shit and WANT to change for yourself that it happens. some times it takes years..... you just have to accept it there's not a whole lot you…
/r/askTRP27/04/17 10:43 PM
1

you can only do so much to help other people man. its like drug addicts... they have to be able to WANT to help themselves. no one else can do it for them. same like us dudes learning how to be better men... until they accept it and want to change, a majority of things people say to them will not motivate them. it is very sad.. but thats the truth. my only advice is to stop any shaming. making people feel 'bad' about themselves doesnt help motivate them... complimenting when they do things right…
/r/askTRP27/04/17 10:32 PM
7

agreed with going back. OP, you should specifically go back to that same location every day and enjoy your drink.. even better. stop by with other girls you are dating.
/r/askTRP27/04/17 09:19 PM
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you didnt do anything wrong. dont pin this in yourself. women are like cats, some times you have to let them roam. the best chances for you to meet up again, would be to not chase her. let her stroll back when (and if) she is ready. if she reaches out, assume she wants to hang out again, otherwise, let it be and go on normally with your life. also, next time use a rubber. any girl that doesnt know a dude and says you can bust inside is a danger zone.
/r/askTRP27/04/17 08:01 PM
2

then go for it man. be direct on your intent. stop pussy-footin' around. sounds like you have been on multiple dates already, so you need to start making moves before she loses interest. you are fucking this up by not escalating sooner... the attraction wont build anymore from here, by dating. only FEELINGS will build over time, which is essential IF YOU want LTR. which is why its best for men to never get overly attached too soon. (if they are pursuing a relationship). this is always a females …
/r/askTRP27/04/17 06:54 PM
1

my opinion is this.... you CANT force attraction. and you CANT win a girls attraction by courting and buying her shit. its either there, or it isnt.. That being said. be direct. go out with her. go grab A drink. One drink. then after about an hour or so, invite back to your place and escalate. she either goes with you, or she doesnt. this will tell you how attracted she is to you. if she goes back, cool, escalate and do your thing. if she doesnt, well...you HAVE to be willing to walk away regard…
/r/askTRP27/04/17 06:41 PM
3

you should never apologize for being YOU, period.
/r/askTRP27/04/17 05:17 PM
8

nope, you are the prize. even in your bad moments, you are valuable, not because of how you look. even if brad pitt is sick and looks like shit that day, he is still brad pitt. he knows who he is, still, at his core. there's so theres no need to apologize for that. think: "im sick and i still look fucking amazing"
/r/askTRP27/04/17 05:01 PM
2

no means no..... for 10 minutes. you def don't want to keep escalating in that moment shes saying no. but they live in the moment... so 2 steps foward, 1 step back, try again in a little bit. you have to pull back and not take it personally or be phased by it. go back to talking or whatever for a few minutes then escalate again. be playful, have fun. if you start getting butthurt by their resistance, you are going to dry them up even more. try focusing on your foreplay more if you keep getting L…
/r/askTRP27/04/17 04:52 PM
8

jesus christ...... lol, hopefully you wore a rubber.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 10:02 PM
13

sigh.. you start with Look I get bro's before ho's to an extent and end with I'm not gonna miss out just because a friend use to hit it there are 3 billion women on this planet, if you cant find another one, you have other things to worry about. you are a shitty friend. unless you wanna talk to your bro about it first and he is cool with it, why cant you go hook up with other chicks? if he is emotionally wrapped up in the girl, be prepared to cut your 'friendship'. dick.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 09:39 PM
4

keep it to a minimum. unless you are looking for a gf.. at this rate, pretty soon shes gonna be asking "what are we". your call. but the more you invest, the more towards LTR shes going to move.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 08:29 PM
3

lol... he is cucked... jesus...... prime example what not to do with an EX. (he is buying her gifts, calling, texting, trying to win her attention... shes out banging other dudes.) anyway, you don't do anything. you shouldnt be dealing with him. he is not your problem. a plate is someone you are sleeping with. not hanging around like a gf... (you aren't fooling us about this plate talk... she sounds like more than that).. so unless you are planning on sleeping with him too, you shouldnt be hangi…
/r/askTRP26/04/17 07:34 PM
2

keep it playful and dont worry how they take things. if they flip and get serious, continue to be playful. this reminds me of that saying: 'change their mood, not their mind'
/r/askTRP26/04/17 06:55 PM
1

depends on context. but both should be considered playful in the early dating stages. point in case: you can be dating/ltr/married and woman can go from 'omg i love you' to 'omg i fucking hate you' in the matter of 5 minutes, depending on what you say. without seeing the expression from the girl, its kind of hard for us to tell. but you are saying its banter, so if they are giggly and stuff, most likely its all good.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 06:39 PM
2

im more curious what it is exactly you are saying when you are asking them out.. also, this seems simple. they just have low interest levels. if a woman is really into a guy, she will work wonders to put herself in front of him and make it easy (doors open, you just walk through). keep in mind, a lot of girls will give numbers because they feel 'bad' or dont want to look like a bitch if you are in a social environment. its easier for them to give the number then ignore you later, rather than dea…
/r/askTRP26/04/17 04:35 PM
3

i dont understand. you seem extremely desperate and needy. you would have broken up with her in a month anyway?....... you just want to enjoy another month...... yea, sounds like a great LTR. you are better off just moving on at this point. you are going to beta yourself into getting back after admitting mistakes, then what? you are going to be in the same position again. stop playing games.
/r/askTRP26/04/17 04:15 PM
3

you set her on fire, apparently.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 11:08 PM
1

lol. seen plenty of first hand experiences with buddies of mine and other male acquaintances whom i shit you not, literally, have busted faces. and they also arent rich...... so. they must be gods gift to women then..... we have no reason to make up bullshit like this to you. but please, tell me how its "proven" wrong...... ive personally seen more cases proven right.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 11:04 PM
1

dont use any social media, honestly. all those things are what women use for orbiters and validation. you don't want to be lumped in with those dudes.... be the man. make a date. get them out in person. your intent will be much more forward. and you will have less chances of being friend zoned. once you progress through dating and her attraction grows for you, then you can text a little bit more (still only 2/3's rule though), since once you start getting closer to LTR, you will need to provide …
/r/askTRP25/04/17 09:41 PM
1

updated the end of my post. my bad
/r/askTRP25/04/17 09:32 PM
1

basically its to eliminate YOU chasing her. which most BP guys do. dude will text a girl. and when the girl doesnt respond for a few hours (or even days) they feel rejected and ignored, so they text again. they think, "fuck, shes not paying attention to me, better get her attention!" guys will end up texting 60%+ ..... which will come off as needy and scare them away. the key is to remain patient and to do 20-30% of the texting. (or 2/3) and let the girl chase you more. this will keep the mascul…
/r/askTRP25/04/17 09:27 PM
4

you always come first. always anything positive that comes with you bettering yourself is just a bonus to your already awesome life.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 08:48 PM
1

wait a day. then small talk for a message or two, then re-ask. or wait for her to initiate and ask you something. you have a lot of reading to do.......
/r/askTRP25/04/17 08:39 PM
2

no. it wasnt. go read my other post. then read a shit ton more sidebar, young grasshopper.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 08:33 PM
3

"Nevermind." dont say that. you sound butt-hurt bringing up the past incident that you created for yourself. have normal discussion like its a new day and a fresh attempt. start over.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 08:32 PM
3

she cant forget anything you didnt plan............... she was waiting for you to ask her out. you didnt. so she probably made other plans or went on with her day as normal.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 08:30 PM
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3. you werent direct and didnt imply anything other than leaving a vague 'maybe' style statement. doing that kind of shit will almost always get you a flake. its not up to women to plan dates. you didnt make one. be more direct next time. if you ask if shes free sunday and maybe you should do something, right then and there say something like 'pick you up at X time' or 'meet me at X time' whatever... until they confirm a direct time/date, you dont have one. doing any of the options 1, 2 or 4, wi…
/r/askTRP25/04/17 08:26 PM
2

why does it matter? you are trying to figure out a woman...... something no man has ever done before. obviously things are going just fine if you kept the flame alive for 3 years. dont think there's anything else you need to 'figure out' with her. the fact of the matter is, even if you categorize her down to something, women live in the moment. so you can say shes X type of girl now, tomorrow she will be Y type of girl (you are already seeing this with night and day communication). always love a…
/r/askTRP25/04/17 06:52 PM
3

if you care at all for your friendship, stay away. if he is an acquaintance you dont mind losing, its open territory. only you can make that decision. he doesnt sound like much of a friend if you are contemplating it... and if he is, you are an asshole.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 06:43 PM
1

hate to break it ya, but read the side bar? there are specifics on this already. FAQ - "how to use dating sites"
/r/askTRP25/04/17 06:42 PM
1

number and phone call > any social media crap.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 05:43 PM
3

elaborate, princess.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 05:26 PM
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its an ex. give her shit back. who cares about the lingerie. it would be even more weird when you get a new girl and have ladies lingerie around. its going to bring up a lot of questions if they accidentally see it. even though you are going no contact, you sound kind of attached still. "refuse to give it back because obviously she wants to wear it for another guy"...... who gives a shit? its an EX. what she does from this day forward means nothing to you. set up a day to exchange personal belon…
/r/askTRP25/04/17 04:25 PM
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absolutely 100%. your looks have very little to do with women. while it can make things easier for you, if you are brad pitt, its a guy trait to chase women for sheer looks alone. women are emotional beings, they are looking for connection, and how you make them FEEL. case in point, i know some disgusting looking dudes that have bombshell girlfriends. but, they are very confident, outspoken dudes who have zero hesitation going up to women. so yes, anyone can get a 10. continue reading about masc…
/r/askTRP25/04/17 04:18 PM
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yes you need to somewhat socially competent to meet women. usually, wealthy men compensate by throwing out $$$ for the women. the problem with this of course is attracting the wrong type of woman that is only going after your cash and not YOU. same basic questions and small talk that never leads anywhere. as for this, you are expecting different results while doing the same thing. try something different. ask questions, but let the girls talk about themselves. learn about THEM, while giving litt…
/r/askTRP25/04/17 04:03 PM
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same thing happened to me when i was 19 or so. was seeing a girl whom i thought we were getting close to relationship status with. we were hooking up, having sex, having fun. one day, she tells me shes going on vacation with her family to hawaii, for a week, i say ok have fun! call her a few times while shes up there. no answer. she calls me finally, a day or so later. crying. telling me that shes in hawaii getting married (to her 'ex'). i was completely in shock...... apparently, when she start…
/r/askTRP25/04/17 03:47 PM
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who gives a shit what they think? laugh and carry on. obviously these are the types of acquaintances you don't discuss RP theory with. find new friends who support your path.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 03:25 PM
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"let me know when your schedule clears up" (a lot of guys in here are going to say respond with "OK"... which is fine, but my first statement leaves the door open if she decides shes ready to go out in the future) after you respond with either route, move on and stop initiating. if they reach out at all, saying hows it going or whatever, assume they want to see you and make another date (keep the texting short). if you get denied AGAIN and they dont offer a counter, they are simply not intereste…
/r/askTRP24/04/17 11:16 PM
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you are an idiot.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 11:02 PM
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its not all about looking good (although this is an added bonus). when you workout, you generally will feel better, be more relaxed, be happier, all of which is going to boost your confidence at the same time, and thats only going to benefit your pick up. it improves every aspect of your life. which is the theory behind RP. being the best man you can be. you will only gain benefits from working out.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 10:48 PM
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lol... someone has a case of the mondays. says he will stop reading TRP. proceeds to post in TRP so he can read TRP responses. i can see where this dude is going wrong.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 10:35 PM
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truth. OP, think of it like this: RP dating = alpha/alpha/alpha RP LTR = alpha/alpha/beta BP dating = beta/beta/alpha BP LTR = beta/beta/beta sprinkle in some more comfort. can't go full rambo and expect them to stick around forever.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 10:23 PM
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a lot of dudes here will say dont do it... but in my opinion, it can definitely help in certain situations. winky face here or there. just don't overdue it.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 10:11 PM
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that just told us everything..... they are jealous old timers that arent getting the validation like the younger girls. so they are going to talk shit and cause drama. def dont give any shits.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 10:10 PM
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you made up some imaginary contract while being witty on the spot. you did just fine. its hard to sense emotions over text, which is why everyone will tell you to get her off text and on a date. just keep it going. keep it playful. remember its about how you are making her FEEL. if its good/funny/laughing, you will get the number. just try a few more times. however, there comes a point where you, being direct, keep getting denied a number, that you move on. if she isnt giving you digits, shes pr…
/r/askTRP24/04/17 09:53 PM
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reading books continuing your self improvement or going out on dates is all you should be doing. ok i lied, get some other hobbies too. you need to have a little fun doing things YOU enjoy. for me, its playing guitar, reading, photography and hanging out with my dog
/r/askTRP24/04/17 09:50 PM
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a) oneitis IS your issue. only YOU can fix that. b) shes being playful, so this is neither a shit test or a failure (yet).....continue the playful banter, then go for another number close. hard to say anything else based of the short back/forth. the point is to get her off tinder as soon as possible. phone number or date or both. so again, keep it light hearted and playful. doesnt matter what you say... id personally go with the austin powers line and say 'danger is my middle name'.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 09:38 PM
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she disrespected you. you broke it off and went no contact for a week. in that time, she hamstered like crazy and probably realized where she fucked up. she wants you back. if YOU want her back, then work on it. but only you can determine that. in my opinion, if you didnt want to get back together, it would be a very stupid move to go with her on this trip, regardless of it being paid for or not. you going, to her, means you are getting back together. and yes, its fucking weird to go on a trip w…
/r/askTRP24/04/17 09:21 PM
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go read up in askMRP. it will be more helpful to you then the guys who are just gaming/dating in here. your wife is looking for comfort from you. you have been by her side probably 24/7 prior to this trip and suddenly you are gone for 14 days. she wants to still feel your care and connection. you are going to have to do more than text or email once or twice while you are away for that amount of time.. LTRs, especially a WIFE, is going to need to feel you even if you are away. thats what you sign…
/r/askTRP24/04/17 09:15 PM
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you dont do anything. you can't control other people and what they say/do. remain unphased by this. (if you did in fact do nothing). if you actually remember fucking up, then yea, it might be good on you to man up and apologize while still cutting ties. but if you don't think you did, they are just being drama queens... no need to participate in that non-sense. think about it. even if you went and tried to talk your way out of it with her and her friends, do you think they are going to save your…
/r/askTRP24/04/17 09:10 PM
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nothing wrong with that dude. a lot of us in here have LTRs and are plenty happy. you create what you want.. the only reason people advise to dating multiple girls at once is to: a) not get oneitis for a girl and put her on pedestal and treat her differently b) when you have options its easier to see the things you like/dislike about the potential LTRs you are dating. you can still pursue one woman you like and be alpha. the entire point of swallowing the pill is to get you past the hurdle of yo…
/r/askTRP24/04/17 07:46 PM
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you are going to have to deal with it sooner or later. unfortunately, the longer you wait, and the longer you let the bad worksmanship go, the worst its gonna get.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 06:50 PM
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prime example of why people should NOT involve their business/careers with women they sleep with... there will be no easy way out of this one.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 06:32 PM
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absolutely. RP is about being a better man. Cheating doesnt make you alpha. if you have plates, that are non-exclusive. it is not cheating. if you are married however, you can still learn all and apply all RP theory while being monogamous. a lot of us in here have LTRs. its all about keeping that masculine/feminine polarity in check to keep the relationship balanced.
/r/askTRP24/04/17 05:42 PM
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it doesnt matter where you go. the whole point is meeting and having fun. you can do this anywhere. my current gf, our first date/meet up was at a park and i brought my dog... haha. she told me later (after months of dating) she thought it was weird. obviously not weird enough because she still wanted a relationship. she was expecting traditional dinner/drinks type of first date. find a spot close to your place. a place YOU WANT to go to... even better if its a new place you both don't know. you…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:58 PM
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baby steps dude. we have all been there at some point. it fucking sucks to talk to people. but, you have to start trying. start by training yourself to maintain eye contact first, without even approaching with the intent to get a date. you can do this everywhere. driving, sitting at a park, going to get food and telling the cashier your order... you have to really work at it until it gets easier. the fact of the matter is, you need to make yourself comfortable doing this shit. the end goal is me…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:18 PM
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talk a little bit at first to build rapport. sure. but you want to be playful. if she just met you and you keep asking her annoying questions, shes not going to want to go out with you. if you are playful, and witty... (being fun) when she thinks of you, shes going to feel good. the odds of going on a date with you increase. if she is talking to you at all, ASSUME she likes you. be confident. if she reaches out to you on her own, ASSUME she wants to see you. change your mindset. if you ask for a…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 09:04 PM
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its not about it being an alpha thing to do. its about being direct on your intent, since most guys will try to 'talk' their way into attracting the girl. you have to build a little rapport first sure. but obviously, most of the problems with beta's is they talk themselves into the friendzone. im not saying ask one time and then bounce. this guy claimed she has a lot going on and shes not giving him the time. so rather than chase/initiate convo constantly, he should wait and try again. if she ke…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:58 PM
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once a week or a random phone call to say hi and trying to plan a meet up sooner. keep it playful. nothing wrong with initiating 20-30% of the time. the problem with most dudes in here seeking advice and being beta, is they are initiating 60%+. and that turns into chasing. keep up what you are doing and maybe give another 10%. you'll be good.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:46 PM
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Yet if you're not the top 5% of males, she won't have high interest in you. not true. interest is initially based on attraction. if shes at least 51% attracted to you, she will make some sort of an effort, either by accepting the direct day you asked for, or at the very least countering a new day. you dont have to be top 5% anything.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:44 PM
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most girls are busy most nights? then why ask them out at all? if a girl has high interest in a dude, no matter how busy they are, they will move their shit around to go out with him. and in the event she cant free up her plans that day, because of something so important, they would offer a counter. thats why OP should wait a week or two. stop initiating. try another time like its a new day. and see what happens. if she keeps declining and not offering a counter and shes always SO busy, she does…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:37 PM
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dont ASK when a girl is free...... this pretty much sets up a 'i dont know' response. they want you to be a man and lead...... give it a few days, then say "x place at y time" type of offer. if she approves, good. if she says she is busy or whatever and doesn't offer a counter. say 'let me know when your schedule clears up' and STOP initiating. wait for her to reach out to you. no small talk "hey hows your day going" type of shit from you at all. if her interest level is high, she will call or t…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:24 PM
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fact of the matter is you should be talking LESS on fb or phone. you should be trying to get these girls out to have a good time. right now you are doing what every other beta guy/orbiter is doing for these girls... so like i said, you are friendzoning yourself. this is why 100% of the guys in here giving advice, will tell you text for logistics only. because all you are doing by trying to have conversations with these girls online is talking them OUT of liking you. work on your shyness first. t…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:21 PM
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get more phone numbers and if they stop responding to you, stop initiating.. give it more than a week and try again. ask questions and let them talk. im not looking in your brain, so i dont know what kind of conversations you are having, but the point is, you want them to FEEL like they are having fun talking to you... my recommendation, be more playful. if you are shy, it probably means you are coming off as 'serious' and you are turning them off.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:17 PM
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you walk away and let her reach out to you next time. if her attraction level is high she WILL put herself in front of you. doors open, and you walk through. if the attraction level is low, they will do this kind of shit. the problem is, if you continue to initiate and chase, it pushes them even further away! so stop. also, stop trying to meet girls on facebook/social media. you are probably trying to win them over by "talking" and "being nice". this tactic does NOT work, its fairy-tale shit. if…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 08:08 PM
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yea thats normal. keep dating. you are expecting 8+ girls off tinder........ apps like that are NOT going to be giving you excellent LTR results. tinder is basically low to medium quality hook up apps. not dimes looking for LTRs. less frequently you might get lucky with some 8-9's, but the odds of turning into something is going to be low. remember, the hot girls on their are getting like 1000 matches a day..... keep working on yourself, the rest is a numbers game. more dates = more chances to l…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 07:31 PM
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keep in mind, something like this happening EARLY on, is still fairly innocent. just a bra, no big deal. she had a wild moment. women's attraction takes time to build... weeks/months... if this would happen further into your relationship id be far more concerned. while dudes on the other hand, can literally be head over heels pre-first date. (think extreme BP). see how things go. no reason to split over something like that unless you really don't want the LTR anymore. i wouldnt overthink this.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 07:20 PM
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sounds accurate which is why you shouldnt game women on social media.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 07:16 PM
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by not chasing, or being clingy needed, it'll also help gauge her attraction level to you. if she is really attracted, obviously she would be throwing herself in front of you. if her attraction level is extremely low, she will ghost you. in both situations, the key is to not chase and allow some time for her to respond without sending multiple follow up messages. you cant force attraction. its either there or not (based on first interactions). also, with that being said, women 'fall' for guys, i…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 07:11 PM
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you didnt fuck anything up..... YET. women do this. if she was INTO you, she still probably is, just give them some space to allow them to think about you... (if shes a 10, unicorn, every dude she starts talking to, who isnt getting responses, starts thinking 'oh fuck, i need to try harder before i lose her!'..... dont be like all the others. she will be attracted to your calm attitude. if you are fearful she will forget about you, then you are going to fuck this up even harder. keep small talk …
/r/askTRP21/04/17 05:25 PM
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ummm what? so you are doing good by NOT getting shit tested and now you are asking for them? this is some new level RP shit. lol.
/r/askTRP20/04/17 08:58 PM
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fact of the matter is, she is into you. and you dont want to be exclusive. no problem with that, but to her, there's going to be bad blood no matter how you say it.. there's no way to let her down easy. just directly. if she is interested in you and wants more, anything you say would hurt her feelings. but, since you arent exclusive, her feelings pertaining to what YOU want in the relationship, aren't your problem. also... let her down easy because "she is very nice" / "she is a great person"...…
/r/askTRP20/04/17 08:05 PM
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i wonder if OP is seeing all these posts about 'plates' that he assumed its a suggestion of never getting into LTRs.
/r/askTRP20/04/17 07:58 PM
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absolutely nothing wrong with LTRs. plenty of us in here are in one. myself included. the point of RP theory is to better yourself as a man and not be treated as a doormat.
/r/askTRP20/04/17 07:46 PM
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you sound like quite a happy and content person... i guess it depends who you are referring to. legit friends and family, i always respond. because im not an asshole. girls you are dating/just getting to know. depends on context of said message really. but still usually not an asshole most of the time. not even sure how or WHY you have friends at this point. you sound pretty alright being a loner. no big deal if that works for you.
/r/askTRP20/04/17 07:11 PM
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also.......... to add to my post............ "i tried to ghost her, didnt work out" ??? wtf man. its no wonder you got friendzoned. you over pursued and were extremely needy, even when you were on the path to doing the right thing in the situation. nothing will drive them away faster. you have to be willing to walk away...... from ALL of them. at any stage of the relationship. if you arent. you will forever be used as a doormat.
/r/askTRP20/04/17 07:07 PM
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that is pretty cringe worthy. you shouldnt need to justify doing this for yourself, you should just DO IT. you don't make anything of that response. what did she even make of your message? ignore and move on. friendzoned = its over. she changed the terms of your 'hooking up'. if you don't like the terms you stop chasing. you won't change her mind. she is just looking for validation at this point
/r/askTRP20/04/17 06:44 PM
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you are explaining yourself wayyy too much. I like you and care a lot about you this is not good, because you arent being honest in her eyes. if you cared. you'd want the relationship. (so now the rest of your 'explaining' is all BS to her).. the better way to handle these things is simply saying less.... (less is more in these situations): "i enjoy what we have going on and i am not currently looking for a relationship"...... THATS IT. you have to be able to let them go. because thats how plate…
/r/askTRP20/04/17 05:28 PM
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so manage your time better and get rest at home.. 1 hour less of sleep > asking to sleep in a plates car.
/r/askTRP20/04/17 05:13 PM
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do you not have a house either? are you homeless? why in the fuck are you sleeping in plates car, especially if you are a side dude. you should be doing nothing with her but hooking up and having fun. not using her car as a temporary hotel room.. thats where you are going wrong. you put yourself in a dumb situation where she had all the control (your hotel room / her car) and then got butthurt when she told you the rules.
/r/askTRP20/04/17 04:55 PM
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still beta because of my height and frame no. you are still beta because of your mindset. gaining the attention of women you want (and deserve) has very little to do with height or looks. Is there any way I could still get the alpha fucks sex with money? yes... call a prostitute.
/r/askTRP20/04/17 03:55 PM
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haha, no stress dude... its funny, as i hit my 30's, my preferences for what i find attractive have changed quite a bit... even if the girl is a 7, looks wise, but knows how to have a good time and actually WANTS to chill. knows how to cook, etc... for me, it shoots her up to 9. thats far more attractive to me than a 10 looks wise that is hard to talk to and can't do anything except look pretty... her number drops and i become less attracted.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 08:34 PM
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it happens to all of us man. its always easier to see these things when looking at it happening to someone else. itll get easier with time. you will start noticing things happening to you, and in the moment, you will smirk and say 'i know how to handle this'. don't over think this. you are too invested. remember dude, buyer mentality. she needs to sell herself to you. not you selling yourself to her... you are the catch, she should be working for your valuable time. not the other way around. doe…
/r/askTRP19/04/17 08:16 PM
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if she never responded to your time/place message. she didnt acknowledge it, that means you have no date. do nothing. dont message her. if she remembers, and is interested in that day still, she will probably reach out to you to confirm. you shouldnt keep hammering in the date and try to force it. she needs to respond to you. not you keeping on the chase... if she randomly shows up and you arent there, she can get mad at you all she wants. you can say 'i never heard back from you, so we didnt ha…
/r/askTRP19/04/17 08:07 PM
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lol... you don't owe her anything. you barely know her. if its taken a month for her to get back to you, the interest level is obviously super low. i would let this one go and go find another one who is actually willing to meet up sooner than later. while its sad her friend went through a bad break up or whatever, a month of her time to ignore you to help said friend is BS. she has other priorities and things going on (probably didnt work out with another dude thats why she contacted you back). …
/r/askTRP19/04/17 07:41 PM
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regardless of whats going on in their life (could be a lie or not, you dont know), you have to remember women are like cats. they will show interest, then walk away and not want anything to do with you. the key is to let them walk. dont get butthurt and dont chase. kind of leaves the door open for them when they stroll back, and if you are available (or still interested) when this happens, you can escalate for a date at that time. no big deal.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 07:29 PM
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"she was super into me" followed by: "no response" NEWSFLASH - shes not that into you dude. low interest level. stop chasing and pursuing this one. too many variables to tell you what went wrong, you could have talked your attraction out of her with the texting, or she found better options or has other issues going on... but fact of the matter is, if she was into you, with a high attraction level, she would have worked out a meet up regardless of whats going on in her life. you are now concerned…
/r/askTRP19/04/17 06:43 PM
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to add to what others have already said, you didnt really make a specific date. you said "these 2 days, after 7"..... which means nothing. thats a non direct question that gives means for them to flake. because if they don't have friday, they can ignore you, then say 'well he said or saturday...'... its best to just be more direct. pick a day that works best for you. ask X day at Y time. make it a yes or no. they are free or they arent.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 05:09 PM
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you are desperate..... you ain't gonna find shit with that mentality. here's your problem. you are insane..... the definition of insanity is trying the same thing over and over and over... while expecting different results. keep reading up here. gain knowledge. apply what you learn (differently than what you've been doing) and results will come. you obviously arent trying hard enough. you shouldnt be SEEKING a girlfriend. you should be seeking having fun, dating, experiencing women and having a …
/r/askTRP18/04/17 10:20 PM
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you dont do anything. those are her friends and their problems with how they view others. like you said, most likely out of jealousy. girls are emotional creatures and they solve EVERYTHING by talking and gossiping. its their nature. you should view this as you're doing something right. regardless of what type of 'talk' is going on around you, positive or negative, you are coming up in convos... who gives a shit. you ever hear of those scenarios..... 'omg that guys an asshole'.... fast forward s…
/r/askTRP18/04/17 10:00 PM
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5 years is a long time to spend with someone. essentially, after a few years, its easy to get comfortable and associate EVERYday shit with your ex partner. it takes time to get over that hump. you are doing good though, keep doing you, keep enjoying yourself, itll get easier and easier everyday. my recommendation is dont run from those feelings you get. ACCEPT them. think of them when you feel them, let yourself embrace it... its ok to feel that way, man. its always harder to move on if you keep…
/r/askTRP18/04/17 09:30 PM
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good rule of thumb (if your interest is very high - like shes a 9/10), is ask her out once... if she ignores, wait a week and ask one more time. (just dont message day after day). things always come up in peoples lives, this gives them the benefit of doubt, maybe she was really busy with shit and forgot. if she declines or ignores again, definitely move on... you are doing good.
/r/askTRP18/04/17 09:25 PM
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essentially you have a plate here (same in her eyes - shes having fun - you should be too). enjoy it while it lasts and dont do 'girlfriend' stuff with her until she earns the spot. keep your mind open to dating others. if it bothers you shes still dating while hooking up with you, cut her off and continue your search. but, you'd be missing out on having fun and hooking up. right now you can have no strings attached.
/r/askTRP18/04/17 09:20 PM
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what do you do in a situation like this where she isnt texting back right away? (asking you specifically, OP). you better not be reaching out today. or tomorrow.
/r/askTRP18/04/17 09:13 PM
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you shouldnt be considering LTRs at early dating stages, period. even if its something you legitimately want with the girl, the WOMEN are always responsible for deciding when its to be exclusive - this is never a man's decision. accept that...and it always takes time for a woman to get to that point of wanting exclusivity.. (8 weeks is a good average). also, by dates, are you escalating with this girl, or just buying her dinner every time? if the latter, you have already lost and will never get …
/r/askTRP18/04/17 09:10 PM
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depends. generally, you dont want to wait too long. also, dont leave your number and have them reach out to you. always get theirs and reach out to them. many women won't want to be the ones to do the work to get a guys attention (in the early stages at least). - not through a dating app. if shes showing people IOIs in person, thats one thing, but its still up to the man to make things happen. unless she has ridiculously HIGH interest. (rare) also, keep in mind, a ton of the girls on dating apps…
/r/askTRP18/04/17 08:51 PM
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girls tend to take really long to answer texts even though they're generally glued to their phones read this to yourself over and over. like you said, its not hard. generally if they arent getting back to you, their interest level is low. and if the girl is really attractive, she probably has her texts/social media accounts blowing up with orbiters and dudes trying to get her attention... she will supply the dudes she likes with her attention. if you aint getting it, you are probably near the bo…
/r/askTRP18/04/17 08:43 PM
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as a pretty good dog trainer, you are wrong. lol. dogs learn best through positive reinforcement training. cant say its the same with women..
/r/askTRP18/04/17 08:37 PM
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well, yes, you need to pursue a BIT in the beginning. obviously you cant not chase if you want to get the girl. you must do so for the first week or so (but not overdoing it). you say hi. you get the number. you ask her out on a date that YOU plan. you DONT text her all morning and night. you ask again a week later. then as she learns about you and becomes invested, she will start reaching out more (chasing you - if her interest level is high). she wont ask you on dates (some might, dont expect …
/r/askTRP18/04/17 05:30 PM
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best advice... approach sooner... give yourself less time to actually move in from when you see a girl you like... the more time you sit back and allow your mind/ego/negative thoughts to take over, the harder its going to be... by just getting in there before all the thoughts come up, you eliminate all that bullshit by just doing. that... and constantly reminding yourself your LOOKS are not what attracts women... while it can help, if you are a don juan, its not everything. women are attracted b…
/r/askTRP18/04/17 04:27 PM
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you cant force attraction. if they arent attracted to you, nothing you do will create the addiction... if, however, there is attraction/chemistry... then, being as non-needy/clingy will be your best bet... dont rush into trying to lock her down. dont over pursue and over communicate via text... go out, have fun, hook up... the addiction builds with time, if you remain non-attached.
/r/askTRP18/04/17 04:23 PM
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absolutely. any workout > none. bunch of the dudes in here are going to advocate going to the gym though... that being said, i too work out at home. i do various pushup exercises (medicine ball, elevated legs, and weight vest - 20lb & 50lb), and pull ups / chin ups on a bar (even doing negatives) - 3 times a week. then 2 -3 days a week i do 25 mins of cardio/core exercises. (insanity - planking, crunches, etc). alternate days between the upper body stuff and cardio. works well for me and my sche…
/r/askTRP17/04/17 10:51 PM
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what kind of responses are you expecting here...... "go team cazzah, you can do it buddy!"........ NOPE. get reading. get experiencing... it comes with time, knowledge retention and application.
/r/askTRP17/04/17 10:24 PM
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right. thats what i mean... expect them to leave it at that? i mean they are going to have to communicate in some fashion about it.. but you're right.. they should keep it to the specifics and nothing else. def no going to the bar on a friday night. haha.
/r/askTRP17/04/17 10:20 PM
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its called going RAMBO. yes, i have done so myself. you can go a little overboard and over redpill yourself. what happens is, you learn and apply redpill, realize you are going a little too extreme because usually your girl starts lashing back at you. the key is to find that happy medium and balance. i did so when i applied wayyy too much red in my LTR, and wasn't giving any comfort. realized the mistake, applied the comfort when needed while keeping the RP mindset... worked out pretty well. rem…
/r/askTRP17/04/17 10:00 PM
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everyone is talking about the 'if her ex is a friend'... out of curiosity, what if there's something else involved keeping the connection between the ex and the girl? ie kid or something like that. like there is something besides just a friendship keeping them in touch.
/r/askTRP17/04/17 09:49 PM
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seriously this. and even if the OP did want a relationship one day. say ok (unphased by her comment), continue to be the alpha man - have fun - hook up - and guaranteed she will get attached within a few months. (if he would continue to do everything else right). at that point, it would be up to him if he were to proceed or not. this is a situation most men would be dying to hear from a woman.
/r/askTRP17/04/17 09:45 PM
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same boat here. doesnt mean shit. take it as a compliment.. should be amusing to you. i am 33 and still cant grow a beard (they dont run in my family). does it make me less of a man? Nope.... but it is nice to be in my mid 30's and hearing people say i look young. it makes me feel good. as you get older, you will find it satisfying when people ask for your ID when buying booze. it i enjoy and usually give a 'thank you'. id rather look younger than my age than the opposite. would suck dick to be …
/r/askTRP17/04/17 09:05 PM
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love the username. haha. -his dudeness
/r/askTRP17/04/17 08:18 PM
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you cheat. they cheat. you lie, they lie..... well, no fucking wonder you cant get a grip on all these negative thoughts. how can you expect someone else to be faithful with you if you cant be? also, believe it or not, there are people out there (men and women) with good moral values and actually won't cheat. ive been with plenty of cheaters myself, and have never cheated. but the fact of the matter is, it is partially your fault. either by a) not seeing the plethora of red flags during the dati…
/r/askTRP17/04/17 08:08 PM
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yea you fucked up. dont joke about breaking up. not sure how you could feel disrespected about her comment. you said the dumb shit and she reacted to it as any woman would... then you are blaming her for doing it? if you like the girl and want to save it, this would be a good time to man up and apologize.
/r/askTRP17/04/17 07:40 PM
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while i like the message being portrayed here, is your buddy actually looking for help? has he opened up to you and asked for advice? my only concern is, this is probably going to be extremely difficult for him to hear, if he isn't willing or ready. he needs to be WANTING to help himself first, before getting a massive storm of information like this. think of this like an addict... if they aren't willing to help themselves, they aren't going to make the changes and constantly fall back into thei…
/r/askTRP17/04/17 06:32 PM
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lol. holy shit, ive been going out with a loaded gun!
/r/askTRP17/04/17 04:46 PM
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its fine to ask about peoples past, sure. but if you want to go into extreme detail and find out exactly what count of dicks they sucked, then its only going to hurt yourself.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 02:27 PM
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This is not any 'look how alpha i am'. They slept together. She ghosted HIM. He sent out a feeler text. She still ignored. Wtf man... yup. Shes really interested bro. Keep on chasing and being in that feminine polarity. Ask her out in person and be a man.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 12:50 AM
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then ask her in that exact moment. "lets go out tonight".
/r/askTRP14/04/17 11:08 PM
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doesnt matter dude. people are NEVER too busy to text you back. she isnt even responding to you. shes not initiating on her own will... what does that tell you? when women are attracted to you, they will open doors right in front of you and all you have to do is walk through.. they will put themselves in orbit in front of YOU... not you jumping fucking hurdles and breaking your back to present yourself. how long does it take to text someone? 5 seconds maybe? you arent even worth SECONDS to her. …
/r/askTRP14/04/17 11:01 PM
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dont text. if she isnt getting back to you on text STOP CHASING. if you happen to run into her in person, again, next time just ask her flat out to go out. not something like "ill text you a plan later" or some shit. if she declines in person, then cut all contact and move on. glance at her when you see her in person and then dont give a fuck. no stare and smile shit. you are chasing by texting even when she isnt responding to you... what does that tell us.... LOW interest level. she would be ha…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 10:54 PM
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hey man, i work full time, monday through friday. it might be a little more challenging during the week, but you can still do it. even with my buddies, who have different work schedules, we still find time to hang out and do things. because the fact of the matter is, when people want to be social with others, they MAKE time. that doesnt mean going clubbing every single night. pick a night or two a week, go spend a few hours with some friends, no big deal. you can skip a work out ONE day a week, …
/r/askTRP14/04/17 10:02 PM
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this is interesting. just like the positive/negative thoughts... if you live in the negative, you will create it. you cant be happy living there..
/r/askTRP14/04/17 09:40 PM
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add more information to your post. did you see her on pornhub or something? is that why you're upset? its an EX... you shouldnt be talking to her, PERIOD. you shouldnt be communicating or telling her "no". No contact dude. none. by even saying no to her, this is contact. she may or may not be slutting around, unless she is sending you pics of dudes in her, you dont know. Nor should care. its not your problem anymore. she just wants to make you feel like shit. and you are allowing it to happen...…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 09:17 PM
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well, then face the truth and accept the facts.... you are going to be disappointed EVERY SINGLE TIME. especially if you are dating attractive women... you have some more self help to do, brother.... or, start dating women that are virgins and refuse to have sex until they are married and lock one of those down.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 09:07 PM
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i wouldnt say cancel and ruin the night. invite her in for a bit, then say lets go out. go for a drive and do your thing. you are missing the point of my post. the fact of the matter is, you can hook up other places besides your parents house. just because there is something going on at your place tonight, doesnt mean its game over. go make it happen elsewhere... NEXT TIME, when its more low key, get her to your room.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 09:05 PM
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realistically, you AND her are the problem. you are possessive, insecure and wanting all her attention. (shes not hanging out with them, they just like her pictures - her social media presence shouldnt phase you if her actions are still all focused on you...) she is heavy on the social media (ton of selfie shit) and attention whoring. (seeking validation from everyone) each of these on their own are bad enough, but both together are a recipe for disaster. if you have an issue with women like thi…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 09:01 PM
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lol. stop asking people about their past? you cant go back and change it.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 08:59 PM
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oh young grasshopper..... yea, go get some in the car somewhere. only bring her back to your place when there isnt a ton of family doing holiday shit. yea it sucks living with parents, but for fucks sake, you arent 15 anymore, you are a 21 year old adult. you should be getting some. they know you should be too. only bring her back to your pad when it can be more low-key. or, if you have a bit of cash and want to go wild, go get a cheap hotel room for a few hours.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 07:48 PM
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a lot of dudes can't pick up on any subtle cues... and then you have those guys that dont care and will pursue married women, even after being told flat out they are married. as for why the girls dont make enough effort? they are getting an ego boost from males. its flattering to them... it validates them... it helps them feel like their SMV is gaining some points. i mean, if a girl came up to you and started chit chat, even if you're taken, isnt that going to make you feel good and want to have…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 07:29 PM
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yep. good advise. learning through relating can be very helpful if you have a hard time with remembering the material. just have to associate the new information with things you already like/know about.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 07:12 PM
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how you say it will depend on how creepy it comes across... at the end of the day, they arent going to be too surprised. they are posting the shit online for the world to see. generally speaking, anything you do regarding social media, is going to be creepy if you don't really know them. but, i wouldnt even think about asking her to teach you. if you are really just looking for lessons (doubt thats the case) - go to a legit teacher. not asking some random girl who plays to teach you. a lot of pe…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 06:55 PM
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career > social life. focus on your goal first. worry about social life later. if studying were that easy and take little time, every single person would be a doctor or engineer. study more and stop being an idiot. nothing you can do til you get your degree, besides maybe, picking up on some girls at school as you pass-by or study.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 05:21 PM
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I think I've pedestalized you said it yourself. stop that. I got her to sleep with me on the first hangout despite not shaving (when I got her number she said she likes clean shaven) look at her actions not her words... she says she likes X... but obviously shes still attracted to you. dont shave your beard for anyone but yourself.. keep it if you like it. shaving for her will weaken you even more. "yes dear, what else do you want me to do"
/r/askTRP14/04/17 03:59 PM
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:insert laughing/crying emoji: so good.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 11:00 PM
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Edit: to add to YOUR edit - (nice of you to add the fact you cheated first AFTER your post)... SMH. you cheated on her and she forgave you. she then lost all respect for you. she didnt really forgive you, she just didnt have a better option at the time. simple as that. she was waiting on the opportunity to branch swing... and yet you have the nerve to want to be upset with her and point fingers for shit. a majority of this relationship is lies and deceit. this is karma 101, friends. don't fuck a…
/r/askTRP13/04/17 10:07 PM
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when you are in an LTR, its very easy to get complacent and comfortable with the things you get every day. (and some times take them for granted). when you spend any good amount of time with someone, you begin to associate everything you do with that person. so once its gone, of course it feels DIFFERENT. you are back to being just you, on your own. without someone influencing your decisions or experiences. which is what you are experiencing. the feelings will pass and it will get easier. you ga…
/r/askTRP13/04/17 09:49 PM
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probably woulda blown up in your face had you actually kissed the girl. you passed in the sense you didnt actually follow all the way through. better to not take those types of remarks from her seriously, and joke around with her back (without acting on it) - amused mastery. ignoring something like that doesn't make you weak. i feel the only reason you came out alive in this experience, is because you're not exclusive. dating for a few weeks only is still fresh. so remember, until its an agreeme…
/r/askTRP13/04/17 09:30 PM
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sidebar. do more research. plenty of threads on shit tests and how to handle these things.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 08:43 PM
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doesnt matter dude. she sucked on another guys neck. thats enough infidelity to drop her. cheating is cheating... also, any girl that wants to go to a bar and get drunk without you, is not LTR quality. live and learn. move on. dont start blame game and accusing and stirring up dumb drama. she blew it. nothing left for you to investigate, nor should you care. what is finding out all this extra info going to do for you anyway? maybe make you more upset? its safe to assume more happened. and if it …
/r/askTRP13/04/17 08:40 PM
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duno why everyone is so quick to jump to saying GHOST in this sub. why not leave the door open for yourself? its simple. chit chat when you feel like it, on your own time, (ie if you are busy with your day, dont rush on getting back to her, this isnt your girlfriend... but if you have a free moment here or there, are bored, respond to some of her messages - give her SOME attention - maybe 20% - let her continue the initiating). leave the door open, so when she returns you can handle it just like…
/r/askTRP13/04/17 08:35 PM
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fact: you landed and hooked up with a 10/10 before. what makes you think you can't do it again? you ALREADY DID. thats like saying, 'hey guys. i rode this bike before, but i dont think i can do it again'..... (of course you can...) leave your ego and mind games behind you dude. good job on bettering yourself overall, keep it up and there's more good things bound to come. get the unicorn out of your thoughts, she isnt that special, espcially if she didnt stick around. there are thousands more lik…
/r/askTRP13/04/17 08:01 PM
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easy girls are fun for a lot of guys, simply because they don't have to invest much. i personally prefer LTR quality women that arent easy. that's just me.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 06:58 PM
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ok? sounds like a nice place.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 06:35 PM
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i like corey wayne. he has a lot of valuable information. that being said. just go and do what feels right for you. if she approaches you and sits down, obviously shes trying to get your attention and shes initiating (high attraction level). you dont have to be a dick about it and start ignoring her and talking to her friends. talk to her like you would anyone else. if your (or her) friends chime in the convo, openly talk like you normally would. no reason to make anything awkward because people…
/r/askTRP13/04/17 05:41 PM
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whats wrong with that??? are you kidding me. shes using opening up her legs to get men. while many women use their privates as leverage IN relationships, this type of woman is not good quality for LTR. shes using herself to GET men. lots of them. do you see how the dynamic changes? shes not using her vagina to get an individually committed man to be beta for her, shes using her vagina to attract the men.. and has done so 10+ times before the age of 20. what would stop this women, whose already b…
/r/askTRP13/04/17 05:12 PM
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there is no answer to this question. way too many variables to discuss this with any accuracy. it's going to depend on you, the girl you are seeing, personalities, wants/goals in the interaction, chemistry, attraction, etc etc etc etc etc etc... you dont do anything except enjoy the ride while it lasts. have options available.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 04:56 PM
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no simple solution to an issue like this... this is one of those things you need to get out there, experience, and TRAIN yourself. force yourself to look and try to smile. sounds like you are a generally unhappy person. which is probably the root of why you can't smile at an attractive girl on the street. keep working on yourself and get to a place of happiness within yourself, then the smiles to others will surface on its own.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 04:07 PM
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her logic makes a lot of sense, dude. slept with 11 dudes. wont F the guy a second time unless its an LTR. so she uses her vagina to get the dude. then when they dont want to get immediately serious, she bounces?. run dude... RUN.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 04:05 PM
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Too many variables dude. Yea you continue reading and self helping and reflect back to think of things you maybe would have done differently. But the bottom line is, even if you dissect everything you could have done wrong, it comes down to chemistry man. She just didnt click. The attraction wasnt there. Doesnt mean it was all on you. You never know when people have their own shit going on in their lives either. Too many possible causes of why things dont ultimately work out.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 02:11 AM
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go back and read my original post. as i stated: attention-seeking behavior. a woman like this is not LTR material, unless she proves otherwise. the fact of the matter is he is exclusive with her. at some point of being exclusive you need to communicate. thats how a relationship works.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 11:21 PM
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lol. its a girlfriend.... aka LTR.... if you dont want to communicate with them, you shouldnt be in one. this is Relationships101, man.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 11:13 PM
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pretty much. i duno how much more direct a woman can present this... shes basically painting the picture in your head for you, OP. if that isnt an open door, i duno what is.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 10:42 PM
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yea, wouldnt LTR a woman like this. but have fun and enjoy it while it lasts!
/r/askTRP12/04/17 10:25 PM
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you can mail me a rolex bro. i'll accept that. PM for address. haha
/r/askTRP12/04/17 10:24 PM
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you have to be willing to walk away if shes doing something you find disrespectful. you need to communicate that to her and let her decide. but then hold true that you will walk away and not look back if she continues to disrespect you... "i find it disrespectful that you are doing X and no girlfriend of mine would do things like that"..... if she says 'too bad'.... well? show her the door and stop chasing shit like that. she obviously doesn't give a fuck about you. if she cares at all, she will…
/r/askTRP12/04/17 10:02 PM
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you arent supposed to mention seeing other people. just like she won't mention it either and you just assume thats the case. until there is ANY talk of being exclusive, you are not the only option for her. and if she brings up you possibly seeing other people. you agree and amplify and say yes, i see all kinds of people. men and women.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 09:48 PM
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yea that doesnt come across as sarcastic at all, especially with someone you barely know.. live and learn. best to avoid any statements like this in text game.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 09:39 PM
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until a women brings up being exclusive with you, its safe to assume any decent girl you are 'dating' is seeing other people. thats why everyone here is going to recommend dating other people too. while you work on building your attraction to this one, you can do the same thing with others. then you have options and you can ultimately decide which girl would be best for you, based on how much chasing THEY are doing to you.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 09:27 PM
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its hard to tell emtions through text, especially things like sarcasm unless its blatantly obvious... this is why everyone is going to preach to text for logistics only and get them on a date in person sooner than later. yea, you need to banter a little bit at first, but try to limit your small talk... the more texting you are doing prior to setting up a date, the more chances you have at talking yourself right out of the deal. hence, the situation you descibed.. depending on how you told her sh…
/r/askTRP12/04/17 09:02 PM
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shes trying to let you down without completing destroying your feelings... (in her mind).
/r/askTRP12/04/17 08:25 PM
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yep, the greatest power a man has in a negotiation is to walk and never look back..
/r/askTRP12/04/17 08:23 PM
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whats there to handle? she was direct on the terms she wants with you (nothing more than friends - which is actually pretty cool she told you sooner than later - no more investment needed from you - no more wasted money on dates)... so now its up to you if you want to friendzone yourself with a girl that you like more than a friend. advice: say "OK" and move on. if she reaches out later and changes her mind, worry about it then and be the direct one with your own terms for where you want the rel…
/r/askTRP12/04/17 08:18 PM
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continue reading peoples experiences, go experience situations on your own with the knowledge you learn, continue learning from that.. and really, just.. time. doesn't just happen overnight. its a mindset you need to create for yourself in your day to day..
/r/askTRP12/04/17 07:38 PM
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being alpha has nothing to do with being an asshole. you can still be a genuinely kind person and still assert yourself with some dominance. basically, having a spine and not letting people treat you like a doormat is how i see alpha.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 07:31 PM
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you cant tell... and quite frankly, if the girl is ready to swing or cheat, she will find a way even on her own time without a girls night out excuse. if shes good looking she could pick up on any dude off the street and make it happen that night without your knowledge. so its best to not even think about it. only thing you can do is focus on being your best to keep her attraction level high.. and continue building that til she has no desire to do anything to fuck up the relationship. its one of…
/r/askTRP12/04/17 07:28 PM
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doesnt matter...just dont go to the movies where you don't even talk or get to know the person. i never understood people who did this... as long as you are doing things you want, and asking them to join, you really don't have to come up with anything crazy to impress the girl. example: got my current gf by taking her for a mid-day walk in a park with my dog. she thought it was a little weird for a first date and she was expecting dinner/drinks (like every other guy does). low and behold, later …
/r/askTRP12/04/17 07:16 PM
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rapport is a good understanding of someone and being able to communicate well. basically, at the start of every interaction, it is usually a little awkward, doesn't flow well, etc, until you feel each other out... as you start talking (and building rapport) you get more comfortable, learn you have things in common, things flow and the conversation is easier. thats when women will feel 'safe' talking to a 'stranger'
/r/askTRP12/04/17 07:13 PM
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in my opinion, its a little silly to think they are or arent interested in you based off a name question response like that. example: if im out an about and someone asks me my name regardless of how attractive they are, or even if they are a man or woman, i will respond politely with my name back because thats who i am. has nothing to do with gauging interest levels. i could be 100% not interested but i will still give them my name (in your eyes you'd see this type of response as interest). No, …
/r/askTRP12/04/17 07:05 PM
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absolutely doing the right thing. just do you and enjoy you. you stated your terms and that you didnt want friendship. her feelings are HERS to feel. if she feels bad now, thats her fault. you dont have to do anything else to 'give her a hint'. and who gives a shit how she reacts to anything. not your problem.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 05:33 PM
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white girls = tryhard. asian girls = dont take seriously. outcome: gets asian girls... side note: attracting women you want has very little to do with height. final thoughts: act indifferent to all women. not just the asians.
/r/askTRP12/04/17 04:26 PM
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some dumb ass answers in here... anyway, since its your GF, you need to comfort her. you do this by NOT solving her problem. only she can. but you MUST allow her to vent about her problems and feelings. be empathetic towards how she feels. let her get emotional... dont solve this logically (ie, no 'you'll find a new job babe!'). make her feel OK that she feels down and sad. that you understand. that its difficult. let her talk and repeat back some shit she said to you so she knows you're listeni…
/r/askTRP12/04/17 03:15 PM
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try something different.... the definition of insanity is saying the same thing over and over and expecting different results. play on words. "im a professional typist." (this leads to them having to figure out what it is you do - be mysterious and playful)..
/r/askTRP11/04/17 11:10 PM
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highly unlikely... this is the type of dude you see on late night news for doing some weird shit to animals. (or people)
/r/askTRP11/04/17 11:03 PM
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i like you..... a/s/l ? :winky face: xo
/r/askTRP11/04/17 10:49 PM
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shit test... will not fall for this.
/r/askTRP11/04/17 10:46 PM
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lol. seriously? how is this even a question?. you messaged her to just chat on some other dumb social app. you entered orbiter status immediately then she completely deleted you. how in the fuck are you seeing this a shit test? yea. shes just testing you to see how serial-stalker you become bro. go for it. you will win the girl with ease if you find her on some other app.
/r/askTRP11/04/17 10:16 PM
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she told him she sucks dick like a goddess though..... thats not something you brag about with words. you brag via action.. and OP isnt getting any. how do you not escalate the second those words come out of her mouth... "prove it".... . congratulations OP...... you are friendzoning yourself as you speak.
/r/askTRP11/04/17 10:05 PM
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i see what you're saying.. fair enough sir. still very possible! and if the girl is submissive enough this could still be a win for him. only one way to find out. keep the communication and escalating moving while keeping an open mind to dating others. if it work out, cool. if not, you have some other options anyway.
/r/askTRP11/04/17 09:45 PM
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he isnt wrong, no. but if she is interested in him, he can come back from it. as long as he acts normal, like he did when they first met and doesnt bring up this relationship stuff any more. OP, until she closes the door completely and starts ignoring you outright, you should continue on your journey.
/r/askTRP11/04/17 09:38 PM
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good job. keep up with it. cool you are admitting and seeking advice at such a young age. back in my day no one would admit they were terrible with ladies. we'd rather die than seek help. now im 33, i have just recently accepted it.
/r/askTRP11/04/17 09:36 PM
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look at the bright side. she knows you're interested. if her interest level is high, thats not a total fuck up. just dont ever bring it up again. even if it takes more than a couple of months. you are still very early in the attraction building process. keep reading and improving and focus on your life goals. she will tell you when the time is right.
/r/askTRP11/04/17 09:32 PM
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why in the fuck are you bringing up wanting to be in a relationship after 2 dates?... relationships are FEMININE frame dude. you never ask that. you go on dates. have fun. hook up. then they are usually the ones to bring up being exclusive. it takes time for women to feel comfortable enough to be in a relationship with a dude (usually 8 weeks or more if you are doing EVERYTHING right). so, if you want to keep this one, forget bringing any of this shit up so you dont stifle yourself and keep dati…
/r/askTRP11/04/17 09:24 PM
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lol. good one dude. and agreed. i just dont get it, OP, so its OK for her to stop responding and ignore what you want, but she wants attention and you jump all over it and try to push for more? why are you even bothering at this point. be more clear in your intent. 'i want to be more than friends. if that's not something you want, this wont work for me. let me know if you change your mind'... then stop pursuing all together. ignore dumb links. ignore anything other than an invite from her for a …
/r/askTRP11/04/17 09:20 PM
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you need to refocus yourself.... you focusing on her leaving you will in fact make it happen. and wtf man... 'breaking up with a plate'..... that is not possible. continue to focus on having a good time / fun. if shes judging you for some dumb ass shit like a black eye and not nurturing you back to health, she doesnt deserve a relationship.
/r/askTRP11/04/17 08:05 PM
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remember. its an LTR...... at some point, shes going to comfort test you more than shit test. and the longer you are together with someone, generally the more comfort you need to provide (as long as her behaviors are good - ie rewarding). its ok to be sprinkling in SOME beta dude. if you dont, she wont trust you for a longer term deal because she wont feel safe that you will commit to her. you can still be quite RP while sprinkling in comfort. just dont turn into the 'yes man'. keep your balls a…
/r/askTRP11/04/17 07:46 PM
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depends on if you REALLY want to. if you do, wait a week or so and try to set up a date again. if you arent that into her, well, id say stop initiating and pursuing. if something is up, and she flaked like that, balls in her court to counter offer after a cancellation. should give you a pretty good idea of her interest level (if she isnt trying to hang out after cancelling, especially saying she feels bad, she interest level is LOW). dont put all your apples into this one. but you did the right …
/r/askTRP11/04/17 05:26 PM
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"burning dog poo and the human response"
/r/askTRP07/04/17 11:26 PM
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this girl would change clothes in front of him and he would be level 99 friendzone.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 10:14 PM
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right? just seeing some tracker software of where she went doesnt mean she went there to ride some CC. but i guess its a little too late for that.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 05:26 PM
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this... or if it makes you feel more comfortable, you can go out for a drinks somewhere and if things continue to go well, and you are escalating with make outs, just say 'lets go back to my place' (after a drink or two). don't drag it out and stay out all night.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 05:23 PM
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building attraction isnt about looks and money. while they can make things a little easier, its not the case. its all about knowing the masculine/feminine polarities and being a man. thats why its comical to see these posts of dudes that complain all day about how they cant get girls because they are ugly or not tall enough... it is very possible to attract the type of girls you only dream about being with. the main ingredient is confidence. the rest is understanding Edit: for the record.. men a…
/r/askTRP07/04/17 05:12 PM
1

doesnt matter. you forget it ever happened. if she says any comments about it or whatever, amused mastery. keep it playful.
/r/askTRP07/04/17 04:04 PM
1

here's the thing. if you want to escalate your current 'friends', you have to be willing to lose the friendship. just state that you are interested in them and want more. if they dont agree with you, or at least try to see how dates go, then you NEED to be willing to walk away and never look back (ie losing the friendship all together). why would you stay friends with someone who you want something more with? you are only hurting yourself. and they will continue to treat you like a second class …
/r/askTRP07/04/17 02:56 PM
2

baby steps... you already are on the right path. you admit and understand the problem and you want to work on it... (realize, a majority of men won't admit to having problem with women!) only place to go from here is up, dude. keep trying, things will get easier. remind yourself that the actual approach and your opener (even if its just saying hi) is the WINNING OUTCOME. regardless of what happens or where it goes, praise yourself for doing that. the confidence will come..
/r/askTRP06/04/17 11:12 PM
2

baby steps dude. cant run a 10k if you can barely walk a mile. your expectations are set too far out so you will always feels defeated... start with small goals. you said you lost some weight and are still doing it, great. 20 more to go. but achieve 5 first. focus on 5. your accomplishments will come more quickly and frequently, which will help you feel better. another example, with the making eye contact with people... are you in cars a lot? whether driving or a passenger?..... this helped me: …
/r/askTRP06/04/17 11:04 PM
1

i agree with this here. you should do nothing OP. she half-assed counteedr with a 'some other time' (chase me another day dude) bullshit response... let her initiate and reach out. that will tell you how interested she is. if she doesnt and you don't hear from her again, well youll know its not worth ANY pursuit. need to give it time to show itself. if she genuinely feels bad (who knows) give her a few days to week. she may come around when shes feeling better, but i wouldnt wait and expect it t…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 09:48 PM
1

doesnt matter....... for the same reason what my HB10 could be an HB5 for you.... its all opinion. if you notice the changes within yourself. (bettering yourself in all forms and you feel better) you can still be ugly but the confidence and 'good' feelings will radiate. thats what will attract the women. as a point of reference. i have buddies that id rate as 0.5-barely2 of 10, like fucking wrecked faces... but these fools are so fucking confident and experienced with knowledge, they are with am…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 09:30 PM
1

cant force attraction. so yes, thats why guys often get friendzoned. the chick isnt attracted to them for whatever reasons (whether its looks or how non-confident/needy they came across when they met, etc). and there are plenty of men, just as yourself, who thinks you can turn that around by doing 'nice things' for them, taking them out, never escalating, not being confident, but the fact of the matter is, its a lost cause. you can't buy their attraction. girls that ARE INTO YOU, will go out of …
/r/askTRP06/04/17 08:09 PM
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no big deal dude. what is "blank space between friends and something more"..... if you arent hooking up with them, (kissing, escalating) that means you arent dating them. you are friendzoned. there is no in between... there is no "we are friends, but she kind of likes me, but we dont hook up".... nope. you are friends until you escalate and prove otherwise. look... you won't win any girls by the disney fairy tale of doing a bunch of shit for them to win their love and attraction. it really comes…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 07:51 PM
2

yea, you are right. family comes first. look its fine you were busy. im not arguing against that... but to take a quick second (later when you had a chance) to reply for her to come over later isnt hard... she basically said she wants to play with your ding dong. not sure why you'd ignore that.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 07:45 PM
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people dont forget about you within a few days of not texting. people dont forget about others for life times. i can not talk to my best friends for a week or two at a time (because we got busy) then chat like there was never any break. stop worrying so much that you are going to lose people. and live your life for yourself. the people who want to be in your life wont forget about you. need to change how you're rationalizing this texting thing. and also, are you referring to girls that are frien…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 07:34 PM
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why would you ignore something like this? jesus man. shes basically escalating with YOU and while i understand you are busy, thats an open invitation to get her to come play with you and lead to other things. fact of the matter is, womens emotions are all over the place when they are on their periods. just like IBeMadToo said, she was probably just looking for a little comfort that day.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 07:29 PM
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find more hobbies and things that interest you (reading and continuing self help works and can kill time). other than that. shut your phone off or go leave it in another room. you obviously dont want to delete all the contacts. but the power all stems in your mind... like any other addiction, you have to fight it. the best method for this is to eliminate being around it... stop checking your phone. stop picking up your phone. stop looking at your phone. you will have to train yourself. if you ar…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 07:16 PM
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doesnt matter. unless you are exclusive this is always going to happen. thats something thats always going to come up with 'dating' or FWB. as soon as they feel like they found someone to be exclusive with, if shes a good quality woman, they are obviously going to stop fooling around with others... she wants to be 'nice' and keep you around as a friend in case it doesnt workout with whats his face - to keep things on 'good' terms with you (and sadly, most guys would fall for that and wait around…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 06:36 PM
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if you dont want to be friendzoned and you want to keep the possibility of hooking up at a later date, say you cant be friends with her after already having a sexual relationship. leave it with a 'hit me up if you change your mind'... dont look back and walk. stop hitting her up. stop chasing. never reach out to her again. this keeps the door open if her new beta dude fucks up, she will come back to you knowing your VERY clear terms. it wont be to hang out as friends.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 06:27 PM
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answered your own question. so you are going to cut all contact, and ruin a good thing because why? because she is on her period (and probably emotional) and didnt want to blow you once?...... why are you butthurt.. you sound like a child who didnt get the candy they wanted.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 06:18 PM
2

"i find it disrespectful when you _______"
/r/askTRP06/04/17 06:15 PM
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you have to be more direct in your intentions and be willing to walk away from the friendzone if she doesnt agree. (without getting butthurt - this leaves the door open in case she thinks about it and changes her mind). "look, i want something more than friendship. lets go grab some drinks at X place Y time" if she keeps you in friendzone, saying "no i dont see us like that" or "im not interested"... just say 'ok that doesnt work for me. if you change your mind give me a call' - go no contact. i…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 05:46 PM
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if you dont hear from her today, hit her up tomorrow with a simple 'still on for X time?' she ignores, its bad news and you shouldnt reach out anymore. never initiate again. she may or may not come around from that, but the key is dont chase or initiate. if shes still interested in you, it should be no big deal and she will agree.. but play it by ear. she might be upset by your butthurt failure. so she might say 'things dont feel right' type of shit and seek a little comfort before hooking up ag…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 05:41 PM
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dont chit-chat / small talk, unless she initiates. in which, keep it short. its still early, you don't want to talk yourself out of it. if she reaches out, assume she wants to see you, and use that to setup the next date. so keep it to logistics for now. if you dont hear from her (assuming you havent talked all week) for a few more days, reach out on your own and go for another date.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 04:47 PM
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cant do anything. without knowing the entire interaction, the fact you are saying you talked for a good amount of time and made her laugh/feel good, you make it seem like you did OK. next time, ask for her number. so you arent left in the dark. then you can do a follow up text yourself and see if she responds. now you are just left waiting. other than that, remember dude, you CANT force attraction. she was either into you, or wasn't... if she is interested, she will reach out. best for you to go…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 04:25 PM
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not right away. no. if you want to plan another hook up day, do it in a couple days to a week (or whatever you want with your schedule). but when you hit her back up, act like nothing happened, no big deal. dont act butthurt or weird. just go on as if that shit never happened. if shes into you, its likely she will reach out and initiate sooner than later. give her time to do that. if you plan another day and she declines without a counter offer, then you know you fucked up good and its over. fro…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 04:19 PM
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unless she told you why she canceled, it could have been a million things. but if you said you made other plans already, be congruent and stick to it. otherwise if you cancel you are going beta into her frame (moving around your schedule for her). just say everything is fine and dont act butthurt (if you want to keep her) then just proceed on a new day like nothing happened... no big deal dude. to answer your question, just dont initiate. let her reach out to you. if she feels bad for cancelling…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 04:16 PM
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yep. failed. should have just waited...
/r/askTRP06/04/17 04:12 PM
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so hit her up tomorrow or saturday. if its been a week and you haven't heard from her and you havent been chasing her, its good timing.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 04:03 PM
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if she flakes and doesnt offer a counter, her interest level is on the lower end... but, this could change. only if you stop chasing. if you REALLY like her, you can wait another week and try one more time. dont text or chat in between (unless she reaches out first - then conversate like normal - but not too much). then throw an offer out one more time without having an attitude or butthurt emotions (forget the last rejection). if she declines again without a counter. you move on for good and ne…
/r/askTRP06/04/17 03:36 PM
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the longer the LTR, the more comfort you need to sprinkle in to keep them satisfied in the relationship. if they wont get it from you, they WILL get it from someone else. and aside to what any single dude in here says, it doesnt make you a beta bitch. the 2/3rds rule bro.... for every 3 times she tells you she misses you, you say it 2 times to her. basically, what you want to avoid, is 3/3 rule or 4+/3 rule. where you are 50/50 with her or saying it more often than she is. as the relationship go…
/r/askTRP05/04/17 10:28 PM
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some times you have to take an L... any situation where its a 3-to-1, you are gonna get your ass kicked. just ignore em and move on. doesnt make you a beta to avoid getting jumped by a group of dudes. you are a smarter man for not engaging. dont worry about it.
/r/askTRP05/04/17 10:21 PM
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stop texting her.... when a woman tells you shes busy and doesnt offer a counter. her interest level in you is likely to be fairly low... women that are attracted AND interested in you will at the very least offer a counter, regardless of a busy schedule wait it out a week. dont chase her. let her initiate. if she doesnt and you REALLY like her, then after a week, ask for one more date (like nothing weird previously happened). if she denies again, you move on for good. cut all ties. if she rejec…
/r/askTRP04/04/17 11:15 PM
3

yep. im 6'1. and i like to wear those knee-high stilettos. you know, cuz ideally i'd like to be 6'5..... 6'6.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 10:53 PM
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dont pay attention to him. he basically says this to everyone in this sub.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 10:40 PM
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is this question for real? go back to school son, billy madison style. you should hit every grade again asking shit like this.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 10:15 PM
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this is true... good way to put it. def lacking discipline... which is weird, because i a very disciplined with other aspects/things in my life.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 10:05 PM
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yea, all mental. that helps though. never looked at it like a chore that just has to be done. (which is surprising - you'd think the willingness to want to work out would be just that). Thanks for chiming in dude.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 09:03 PM
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we had these cold/flu viruses going around my area quite a bit the last 6 months. not only myself, but multiple people in my family have been ill more than a few times. before this last string of events, i havent been sick in awhile. but i agree i could definitely improve my diet. working towards that as well.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:49 PM
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yea, you are investing too much in texting/phone while away. essentially this is like a long distance thing. which is always difficult. you can start slowly giving yourself a bit of space, without completely disappearing. try to keep the convo's to setting up times to hang out. tough situation for sure if you want to keep her.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:48 PM
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the most polite way is to be honest with yourself and be straight up... any type of way you try to 'let her down gently' is going to make you a bigger asshole. because its going to be some lame ass excuse. so go with "shes not my type" or "im not interested" then move on with your day.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:29 PM
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for sure man. you already defeated the hardest part... acknowledging AND accepting your mistakes. now that you are aware, things can only get better from here. keep reading the success/failure stories in here to help gain insight and things will get easier.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:28 PM
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damn dude... you are a beast. haha. good shit. this is the type of thing i need to hear.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:26 PM
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right on, described perfectly... i think i just need to mentally get over the hurdle.. thanks for the empathy.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:21 PM
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yep, agreed with all above. OP, you basically stated your case. soft next until she decides but dont write her completely off just yet... if she cares for you and is interested in you, she may decide on her own that its not worth the risk to lose you... her actions in the days prior to the concert are going to tell you A LOT... pay attention. dont chase and dont try to control her. let her actions decide her fate.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:19 PM
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this reply speaks a lot... why do you think that is? with the less attractive ones, you probably arent "trying" as hard. so you are building the attracting naturally, in a RP way (cuz you dont care as much)... you know, you are probably subconsciously pedestalling the more attractive ones and acting differently, which is why you arent seeing the same results. plus, not to forget, the more attractive they are, the more they are used to just getting things handed to them and having a ton more orbi…
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:13 PM
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if you dont wanna go and you are expecting to GET something in return, just dont fucking go. cuz you most likely wont get what you are looking for. otherwise, she would be going to your house to watch movies and drink wine.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:10 PM
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i work full time. i have a girlfriend. she stays over with me quite often, which means sex and fun times where i dont get much rest. i just find myself more exhausted lately. when im not with the girl, i get home and am extremely lazy after working all day and want to enjoy peace and rest. no doubt its only 30 minutes or so a day, since ive been fighting colds/flus off and on, i just find it hard to get back into the rhythm, ya know?
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:08 PM
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No.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:06 PM
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absolutely. any time a woman tells you she is busy, its up to her to counter or reinitiate contact. if she doesnt, her interest level is low and you should not chase. if you are REALLY into the girl, and she says shes busy after one attempt. wait a week and try again. no contact between. if she denies a second time, never talk to her again. women that are attracted and interested in your WILL make time to put themselves in front of you. thats a fact.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:05 PM
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yea..... dont be that guy.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:03 PM
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she invited you... technically if she was a good woman she should pay. i wouldnt bullshit, but if you want to go, go.. just be like 'sure ill go, you're payin right?" then buy yourself some skittles while you are there and share a few with her.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:02 PM
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probably. she isnt your gf. so why would you do relationship things with her? if you are bored as shit and she wants to pay, you can go waste a few hours, attempt escalation afterwards. but i wouldnt bother wasting time on this one. sounds like a lost cause.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 07:59 PM
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without having much background, its going to be hard for anyone to tell what happened... but... women do these things... thing of them like cats... they wander.... you have to LET them. especially when you just meet them and start seeing them. you put yourself in front of them, to initially hook them, but ultimately, you want to not chase after that... what happens when you try to pet a cat that doesnt want to be touched at the moment? good fucking luck getting its attention.. remain unphased, i…
/r/askTRP04/04/17 07:57 PM
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fair enough. i see your point. you arent entirely wrong, dude. what are you doing for motivation when you arent feeling it? thats the bigger question you arent answering.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 07:50 PM
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i primarily like the cardio and core conditioning because thats what actually benefits me personally for my riding. just looking to get a little tone in my chest at the same time. doesn't make sense to me to pay for a membership to go sit on a floor in a building to perform these core exercises, because i have a floor in my home.... thats just me. since that answer probably wont please you, here is what you want to hear: i am lazy. lol. hence the problem with motivation to workout in the first p…
/r/askTRP04/04/17 07:36 PM
1

if you were doing this to every girl that stepped in the gym, sure. might come off as the creepy dude. but you already know this girl. so its not like you're making it out to be. you are acquaintances from a previous event. plus... who gives a flying fuck what anyone thinks. if they want to be judgemental with little information about you or said girl, thats on them. like you said... worse case is nothing happens... which is where you are currently sitting. so you can only win if she says yes to…
/r/askTRP04/04/17 06:24 PM
1

thats right dude. people are either going to appreciate it or its not going to work with them. nothing you can do about that. like you said, no ones perfect. not everything is meant to last a lifetime. and sadly all relationships are like this.... whether its a mutual agreement to split, or sadly, death from old age, nothing lasts forever. enjoy the times while you have them, but then move on and start a new chapter.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 06:21 PM
1

no big deal dude. dont be shy, the odds of you running into this chick in the recent future is going to be slim if you are looking to catch her in a super private setting... screw what anyone thinks or if they are going to judge you. you hung out with this chick already. you already talk to everyone else? why are you treating her like a unicorn and not doing the same with her?. just make the move... like /oldslut said, "had fun the other night, whats your number"... seriously not a big deal. but…
/r/askTRP04/04/17 06:19 PM
1

whoops... my bad... LOL.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 06:13 PM
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nope. worrying about someones past (or even your own past) will do absolutely NOTHING for you. you cant change it. whats there to obsess about? focus on your present. sounds like you need to marry a virgin.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 05:26 PM
1

so you said you would say hi to her when you saw her again... then the time came and you just stared at her and didnt say anything? or did you just small talk?... the lack of escalating on the 2nd/3rd meeting could have very well told her you werent interested anymore. but that doesnt mean its over... next time you see her. just chat it up and escalate to asking her out for drinks then number close. no big deal. dont give up just yet. you didnt even really start
/r/askTRP04/04/17 05:23 PM
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absolutely dude. its never easy to suddenly stop seeing someone you gave years of your life to. try to look at things in a positive light... for example, im sure you grew as a person and learned a lot in that time with the girl. right? be thankful for that experience. and realize, once you heal from this, you're going to be even stronger.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 05:10 PM
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in my opinion, it depends on how much you like her. the thing is.... ALL women are emotional. they are emotionally based creatures while men are logical. they are all going to display emotions because they change every moment. some are going to be more severe than others, just depends on the person. if you don't want to deal with that, go find some new girls to hook up with. its a plate, so you technically dont have any ties to being her emotional support... if this was an LTR, id recommend the …
/r/askTRP04/04/17 04:48 PM
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honestly, (people in this sub may disagree with me)... ACCEPT the fact you feel depressed and sad and miss your girl. its OK to feel that way. dont run away from the feelings you have, recognize you feel that way, allow yourself to feel that way. it wont be until you accept it, that you can start to heal and move on. if you keep running away from the feelings, and never let them out, its like an injury that never heals. take the next couple of days, go cry in the shower, whatever you need. accep…
/r/askTRP04/04/17 04:42 PM
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you need to continue your self help/trp reading first. mostly, it comes down to believing YOU are the prize. you have to force yourself to become a little selfish. go read a book called 'no more mr nice guy' by robert glover. it helps put your feelings into a better perspective. basically, it all starts within yourself. when you realize you are the prize/catch when meeting people, and come from a buyer frame instead of a seller frame, it puts you in a position where people will start to qualify …
/r/askTRP04/04/17 04:37 PM
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Well then?.... say its not working for you anymore and be prepared to walk... sounds like you are allowing yourself to be a doormat. Not good.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 02:28 PM
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i actually didnt read his wall of words. just saw "married"... didnt want him to get flamed in here by a bunch of dudes that are single/plating. haha
/r/askTRP03/04/17 10:28 PM
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post this in askMRP you will probably get more realistic replies there dude.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 10:23 PM
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it doesnt stop..... women are emotionally based creatures. as you pass more tests and get better with the understanding of how they work, it becomes a little more manageable and the tests become a little less severe... but as soon as you start fucking up again the test come right back... trust me, as men, we will always fuck up on occasion. its to be expected. haha sorry to break it to you... but this is women, dude. get used to it.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 10:21 PM
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you fucking turn around and act on it... "oh hey".... then immediate close. not sure how you could hear a woman say that about you and walk away.... she was basically begging for you to talk to her.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 09:59 PM
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so you didnt even officially break up and shes already deleted everything off facebook?? oh my lord.... what drama... what are you, 12.. 13 years old? if this is how your woman reacts to 'rough times' (changing fb status to single, deleting everything) this relationship is never going to last, my friend. plus on top of it, you are so worried and clingy, you are stalking her social media to make sure she is behaving.. keep it low key dude, dont do anything. you got a lot of reading to do daniel s…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 09:52 PM
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this is different. its a plate. if you arent exclusive, you dont have SHIT to say about what she does... same goes for things you do, if she doesnt like it and you arent exclusive, she can take a hike... and being invited to a wedding is girl shit. they do these things. its their world. have to let them go experience that stuff... but the fact of the matter is, this is a plate = you're not exclusive = you have no say. you are exactly right 'go have a good time'... when shes out, you go out and e…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 09:44 PM
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re-read what you said to yourself...... "im worried im a back up plan".... if thats the feeling you get with a girl like this, why in the FUCK would you want to lock her down...... start reading more sidebar dude. and you arent exclusive..... she is allowed to date.... and you know what, you should be dating other girls too. nothing is GF/BF right now.. its all open territory.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 09:30 PM
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you dont ask to become official..... this is a woman's frame/polarity. you just keep asking them to go out. keep having fun. keep hooking up. the reason this often times doesnt work for men, is because it takes time for women to fall for guys (to the point they want to even be exclusive). guys more often than not fall for girls after a date or two and develop oneitis. so its best to wait it out, dont bring it up, eventually if you are doing things right shes going to start asking questions: "wha…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 09:15 PM
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i agree with the self sufficient comment. you shouldnt NEED a gf. they should only add onto your current happiness. nothing wrong with want to be exclusive though. while a lot of the RP stuff helps with the dating/beginning aspects of meeting women, a lot of this shit continues into maintaining healthy relationships. take what you will from this sub and apply what works for you. if you were some super beta in your past, improve yourself and apply what works best for you. nothing wrong with want …
/r/askTRP03/04/17 09:06 PM
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nothing wrong with it... just dont do this shit with a plate/FWB. if you're exclusive and care for someone, been seeing each other for some time, spend good quality time together, respect each other... nothing wrong with expressing that.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 08:52 PM
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doesnt matter if shes shy or not. if shes into you, she will open the door. if she doesnt, she will be a crazy cat lady when shes 50 years old. if she is as shy as you say, do you think trying 40 times will make it any better? if shes that closed off, every single thing you try to do with this girl is going to be a shit ton of work/resistance. ask yourself if its worth it. you asked for the number, you have a FB. let her come around when shes ready. stop initiating. pursue your goals. when she i…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 08:49 PM
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id go for the number again just before you leave. if she still denies you, interest level is low..... dont even message on FB after that. go cold... because the truth of the matter is, if she is into you, she has a way to message you (the FB), maybe you'll get a surprise number after you leave and go no contact. stop chasing. if you dont ever hear from her again, who gives a shit? if she isnt interested in you, the attraction is probably low anyway, you're gonna be paddling upstream to make that…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 08:41 PM
1

i still wouldnt do it. regardless of how much time is left at any job. you still open the door for sexual harassment claims if shit goes south... my opinion: stay friendly. get a number. then pursue hard as soon as you're no longer affiliated with the company.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 08:37 PM
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you should go to management. otherwise the coworkers will drive you out. stand up for yourself, and if voicing your opinion in a situation like this makes it worse, then take the L and find a new job... because you will forever be in a losing battle if management doesn't step in.. not worth the drama and headache.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 08:31 PM
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sigh, just search COWORKER in this sub and read the endless amounts of threads/post that say: DONT. SHIT. WHERE. YOU. EAT
/r/askTRP03/04/17 08:29 PM
1

ok... here's where im at: its one thing to decide to become a personal trainer and do dog-sitting on the side or whatever.... but its a complete different thing to decide to go play tennis with a 'client' you are dog sitting for... should treat it as a business relationship, not a friendship... that shouldnt have even been an option. not an LTR quality woman, IMO, OP.. i think you should voice yourself. thats a perfectly valid reason to state that you dont accept the behavior... just do it in a …
/r/askTRP03/04/17 08:24 PM
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yikes.... thats pretty shitty. question, before things got exclusive. did you guys have any talks about exes? like did she mention at any point she still talks to this guy? or was it just out of the blue? because thats kind of shady if it came out of right field..
/r/askTRP03/04/17 08:18 PM
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get new friends. stop hanging around it..... you are still making the conscious choice at the end of the day. if you want to stop, the only way is to beat the system within yourself. tell yourself you want to stop, then dont put yourself in situations where you are around it.... throw out all your pipes or whatever. say goodbye to that shit. if those things are laying around and just waiting to be used, you will find an excuse to use. its going to be a tough road, but it all starts with you actu…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 07:34 PM
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doesnt matter how many you currently have or how many you can handle. point being is keep your eyes open for new candidates and stop worrying so much about this one.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 07:30 PM
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yep you are right. stay positive. id still go for the fb number close, then try to get her out of the house. keep the messaging to logistics only. if shes into you, she will open the door, you just have to walk through. if she isnt interested, she will keep dodging questions, in which you should just take it as a loss and stop chasing.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 07:27 PM
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lol..... you are failing. amused mastery and agree&amplify..... shes getting under your skin with dumb humor jokes.... you are beta in her eyes..... why would that bother you? if your boy calls you some derogatory term, what happens if you get defensive? they poke even more fun at you.... "so i wear make up all the time. i like to match my eye shadow to my thong panties"....... jesus man. dont take things so personally, regardless of your 'status' with anyone. also, dont listen to her friends. l…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 07:13 PM
1

you failed when you didnt number close after meeting. then you went and found the FB and starting a convo there. (comes off a little creepy/stalkerish).. but to be honest, your opener message wasnt very confident. "maybe we should get together"....... errrrr. fail. instead 'hey i forgot to get your number. lets get together this weekend at X place Y time'..... (which you kind of did later.. but should have got to that point sooner). or.. "im going to X on saturday at 8. See you there" (go have a…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 06:58 PM
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give her a bit of dread... when she asks 'whats wrong' or something along those lines, just be straight up... "i value my time and i find it disrespectful that you invite me over and then immediately ignore me." you arent being a dick. you are just stating the facts. that if she wants to spend time with you to actually be available. if she takes offense to you standing up for your own value like that, she is NOT worthy of your time. the odds of her arguing her case are high.. "but, i didnt feel …
/r/askTRP03/04/17 06:45 PM
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Yep. Good call man. And dont listen to her words about you being mean to her. Its quite simple. You are a prize. And you value your time. This type of game isnt deserving if your attention. If she doesnt get the hint within a few more times of this type of bullcrap, just move on. Doesnt seem worth the investment. When a girl is into you, she WILL put herself around you and make things easy for you. Its a simple fact.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 06:25 PM
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stop doing anything and everything on her terms... she invites you over. decline. re-invite her on your own terms to your house when(if) you want. if she denies your requests, then you stop initiating all together. sounds like a waste of time. and im only saying this because of multiple offenses... if this was a one-off, maybe she really didnt feel good... in any case, its common courtesy to fucking say 'nevermind i am not feeling well'. its not hard. im sorry, but thats fucking dumb if she invi…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 06:15 PM
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nope. let her do as she wishes... go enjoy your own night. your lack of trying to communicate all night while shes out will also make her think about what you are up to that night. when she doesnt have a series of texts from you to respond to, she will probably reach out on her own. if its an LTR thats of good quality/value, she will do it by herself because she cares for you. the other side of the picture, if she is out with her girls and comes back to series of texts acting all controlling and…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 05:40 PM
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dont do anything. let her go do her thing.. cant be guarding everything they do 24/7 because its a club or whatever...nothing you can do to know anything for sure. pay attention to her actions AFTER the bachelorette party. if she becomes cold, distant, not acting like her loving self, something probably up. fact of the matter is, if she is low value and wants to cheat on you, she doesn't need to be at a club to make that happen. so you might as well start questioning EVERYTHING she does and lock…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 05:34 PM
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we are all humans dude. you can still have a RP mindset and have empathy for people without being a complete douchey asshole. just my opinion... will probably get downvoted in this sub because im not telling you to ghost the chick. haha.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 05:30 PM
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in normal circumstances, you could advise to being a date, sure. but since she re-initiated contact from friendzone with sob story, just go and treat it as one.. if she denies the escalation and then questions why you did it, or says she just wants to be friends... thats when you be very direct and say, look, i dont want to be friends with you, i like you and i want more. she either a) denies you, which free's you fully from being friendzoned and listening to future sob stories, or b) realizes w…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 05:26 PM
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yea, if this is a new girl and you are dealing with these types of emotions ALL the time, probably not a good thing. but in all seriousness, if this is a one-off....... i mean, people have bad days dude..... we all do. just because there is an episode or two, doesnt mean you have to run for the hills...
/r/askTRP03/04/17 05:11 PM
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you kind of answered your own question... 'how do you continue on the same path?'...... you be willing to walk away at any moment.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 04:47 PM
1

who says you need a girlfriend your age? stop being so picky.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 04:34 PM
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you are at work... simple as that. you don't drop everything at your job to cheer someone up. check up on her later in the day, when you actually have a moment (lunch break?) just say you were busy at work. no need to apologize for that. and, if you like her enough, ask her to go out later to get her mind off things. go do something fun together. also, dont over think this situation. shes contacting you because she felt sad or whatever and is actually reaching out to YOU. thats not a bad sign. s…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 04:30 PM
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so you got friendzoned.. you stood up for yourself and bailed. now she cries and whines and you are actually considering to go back to talking? you dont have to be a dick about it dude. look, if you really want this girl, go with option B. say something like 'its nice to hear from you, this sounds like something we should talk about in person. lets meet up on X day at Y time". then go out on a date and treat it as one.. not a hang out that you are just trying to comfort her the entire time. the …
/r/askTRP03/04/17 04:28 PM
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how long have you been together? the longer you go with an LTR, the more you need to sprinkle in a little comfort..... going dutch is great... when you are DATING... you know, when i want to do things with my girl, its because i want to. so i wont expect her to pay (even though she offers), it was my plan/idea to do something and so i just handle it. its not about money or who pays, its about having a good time together.. and honestly, in doing so, whenever i do this with my girl. the next time …
/r/askTRP03/04/17 04:20 PM
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firstly you can't fake attraction. its either there or it isnt. guys will often pursue the shit out of girls that arent really attracted to them. (ends up in rejection). and when you aren't really into the girl, you arent 'trying', so since you arent putting them on a pedestal, you will be displaying naturally more alpha behaviors. second... they are women.. they are emotionally based. and their emotions fluctuate ALL the time. they live in their emotions in the moment. just accept that they beh…
/r/askTRP03/04/17 04:05 PM
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varies everyday depending on how busy we are... but as i age, i have been talking less and less to my guy friends... rather than having a ton of acquaintances (quantity), i now prefer to only really chit chat with my really close buddies that ive known for a very long time, that i trust and value (quality). like someone else said, they are basically like brothers instead of friends.
/r/askTRP03/04/17 03:58 PM
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good points for sure. thanks for the smack in the mouth
/r/askTRP31/03/17 09:50 PM
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why in the fuck are you telling a 'plate' you love her? do you know what plating means?... you speak to her like an exclusive girlfriend saying lovey dovey shit, of course she is going to expect something more serious... jesus man. to answer your question. time to ring this chick up and get married. if you don't want to do that, stop preaching your love to this girl.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 09:27 PM
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for sure man. as with any women... shit tests dont stop. as soon as any man puts their guard down, they fail.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 09:21 PM
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yea man... you are taking yourself too seriously. you can 100% still be calm and smile and show emotions in situations while remaining deep in the RP mindset. take a step back, keep your robot self to your own free time and dial it back a tad.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 08:27 PM
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women lose their attractiveness with age... men gain it... the fact they are all 30-50 says a lot about why they are so bitter, AWALT... keep positive thoughts, girl hit on YOU, nothing more awesome than that. door opened.... walk through it brother.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 07:53 PM
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so a girl asks you out, meaning high attraction level, and you are concerned about what?....... older women poking fun at you?..... you don't handle anything.. ignore. and laugh. and then hook up with the young girl. they are jealous. plenty of silver fox's out there hooking up with young women. nothing wrong with it. maybe they secretly want your D and are just mad you arent pursuing them..... who gives a shit what anyone thinks you are doing. its your life. worry about that only.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 07:48 PM
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you should have rather than called her a bitch, calmly said "im talking to her, not you. shes a grown woman and can make her own decisions" and held frame that you were interacting with her. then actually maybe pulled her aside from her group, even a simple turning around to give yourself a little more one-on-one privacy.. if she would be interested in you, she would have let you do so. if she didnt like the pull, she'd go with her friends anyway. by reacting aggressively and getting mad at her …
/r/askTRP31/03/17 07:33 PM
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that should have deeper meaning to you if multiple people are posting the same thing......... and you are still looking past it. so....... dont shit where you sleep. read it again. we are telling you because we care. you came here for advice. everyone is on the same page except you and your ego. you don't want it to be true. so you don't want to hear the truth.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 07:27 PM
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yep, and OP, if she ever brings it up to you directly. agree and amplify in a jokingly manner.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 07:18 PM
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If all you are going to say is "Don't shit where you eat" then keep it to yourself thanks. so he knows its wrong right up front. but continues to want to pursue.... stop letting your ego take control dude.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 07:09 PM
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dont eat where you shit. wait....
/r/askTRP31/03/17 06:43 PM
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yea, for sure. like mentioned in another reply, i did reinstate that i am not the person i once was and wouldnt do that again. i stood my ground as to displaying this is the guy i am now. surely, this morning... she texted me she loved me. lol.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 06:32 PM
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understandable. but its too late now. i havent been the guy i was in my early 20's for years now. so regardless of who i was in the past, would she really pin that on me as being the man ive been the entire relationship so far? ie, i was young and dumb. i grew up to be a better man. then i met the current girl. in my 'better' alpha state. everyone makes mistakes in their past. doesnt mean im a beta today.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 06:30 PM
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i have never been one to get into situations like this and be 'that guy'. but regardless of my personal morals, if you are ok with her situation and can have non attached sexual experiences, then its really her problem... just dont ever LTR this girl. even if she leaves the guy, divorce, says she loves you, whatever, she is not a quality woman you want to be exclusive with. she will never be able to remain faithful with anyone.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 04:43 PM
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i did say something to that extent. this isnt a plate btw. its an exclusive LTR. so i know i need to add a bit of comfort.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 04:40 PM
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this. 100%. its like a drug addict. they have to be willing to WANT to help on their own. if they arent ready for that step, no amount of work anyone will do can fix them. the problem is... (especially with women). is 90% of dudes will NOT admit they have a problem with them. because itll hurt their ego. they will feel like they arent men if they admit they are terrible with woman. so they just dont put in the work... they will come around. when they are ready on their own.
/r/askTRP31/03/17 03:49 PM
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even when she drops the line. dont ask her to be your gf.. relationships are feminine polarity. its ultimately their choice when things are to be exclusive. if you are building the attraction properly, she will NOT want you sleeping around. she will say something about being together, because your value will be high.. you slow your role and let them decide when that happens. right now you are just having fun. remember. you are the prize.
/r/askTRP30/03/17 10:42 PM
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no shit. point proven. every single girl, especially on social media, has orbiters. still doesnt mean shes cheating. she might have possible replacements. but if shes 10/10, it doesnt matter. she could find a replacement that day on the street if she wanted to act on it. so what is snooping going to do for him besides make his own hampster spin?
/r/askTRP30/03/17 10:35 PM
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she doesnt want to feel like a slut. so continue to go out, continue to try to escalate. listen to her actions, not her words. if you continue to go out. and you escalate. kiss, fool around, whatever, then shes obviously into you. odds are, if you are still building attraction, she will still sleep with you. if you keep getting denied at the end of the night. give her less of your attention. apply some dread. make her chase you. make her WANT to satisfy you. you do this by creating the attractio…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 10:27 PM
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ok so? shes a plate. if she isnt your GF, you dont have to be exclusive... nor do you have to give reasons why. think about it... what good is explaining TRP gonna do for you, seriously?..... "umm hey, these guys told me how to be a man so im fucking 10 other girls to make sure i dont get attached to you so you can like me more"..... no dude. if she knows you're seeing other girls, and you like this one, shes probably going to say the words soon.... "what are we", "where do you see us going"... …
/r/askTRP30/03/17 10:19 PM
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nope. this is like fight club.... number one rule is, dont talk about that shit.
/r/askTRP30/03/17 10:12 PM
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you have to build the attraction bro. by NOT texting. you ask her out on dates. if shes going out with you. have a good time, thats where you build the rapport and fun times she will remember. dont text her. she will start to wonder about you. think about you. create stories on her own head - like fairy tale shit... you need to be able to let her create that. by becoming too available and texting all the time, you don't allow her to do that. with dating. you should be going out once/twice a week…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 10:09 PM
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shes a girlfriend... sorry to break it to you, any LTR is going to survive with sprinkling in some beta/comfort. thats just how it works. they need it to feel safe. even if its 80% alpha, 20%beta. you are still doing it right. also, for the record, dont EVER expect ANY woman to make you happy. if you arent happy with yourself, your purpose, your life, your hobbies, no one person will ever fill that void and satisfy you. you should be with women because they add to your already awesome/happy life…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 09:52 PM
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lol. you failed with your super vague request... this is how flaking happens... you should be more direct.. 'hey, X night at Y time". she either accepts or denies. honestly, with her response, sounds like shes going to be a problem even if you get a date (high maintenance). if she responds similarly to a very direct question. you soft next for a few days, see if she initiates any contact. try it one more time, she doesnt say yes and agree. her interest is too low and you are wasting your damn ti…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 09:27 PM
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stop texting her. she had already agreed to your date, which was good you were direct. she said its hard to say no to that. which means ok. you should have stopped texting her when she talked about just getting out of a relationship. shes trying to give you some early LMR. that she isnt going to sleep with you. (means nothing - it means shes seeing if you are strong enough to make her change her mind). you fucked up by saying you are going to setup something else... you talked yourself right out…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 09:21 PM
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like i said in my other post, if shes up to no good, there should be other signs than just walking around with her phone attached to her. come on. that on its own is no reason to get insecure and start going through someones shit to FIND something. the original post says nothing more..nothing that shes become cold, distant, doesnt respond to him as much anymore.... so its silly to go snooping through shit because of a phone. if shes out late at night, doesnt come home from work on time anymore, …
/r/askTRP30/03/17 09:14 PM
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however you feel comfortable bringing it up. non-direct version: "ok have fun, i wont be here when you get back" (this gives her time to hampster if she tells you in advance that shes going out on X day. if she still goes, you have to be willing to walk away from the relationship) direct version: "my girlfriend won't frequent bars without me. if she does, shes no longer my girlfriend" (pretty straight forward - her response will tell you instantly what you do) she is free to make her own decisio…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 08:59 PM
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you dont......... sigh. its a coworker. and you're married. double the fail, sir.
/r/askTRP30/03/17 08:42 PM
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yea, agreed with the last statement buddy. truth of the matter is, she has to be willing to want to change on her own. generally, a tough thing to do when they are young and want to go to bars/party. but, if she has any value, she will take the OP seriously, and work to stop. i think we are on the same page as far as handling it, just worded things differently.
/r/askTRP30/03/17 08:22 PM
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OP, dont do this. if you are in an LTR and you need to start snooping through their shit (phone, computer, social media) cuz you are concerned/paranoid/insecure/whatever, its doomed anyway and you should reconsider being in the relationship in the first place.
/r/askTRP30/03/17 08:19 PM
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absolutely waste of time. and this isnt a good quality of women to pursue anyway. has a boyfriend and shes sneaking around to cuddle with some other dude. who knows if you are the only one at this point. never LTR a woman like this. if she does it to him, she will do the same to you. make your intent clear on trying to escalate (if you really want to hook up) and if she doesnt want to, dont give her the attention she wants (ie cuddling and shit)... thats boyfriend stuff. you arent her boyfriend.…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 07:17 PM
1

RSD has some decent stuff. they also discuss self improvement topics too which is cool
/r/askTRP30/03/17 07:12 PM
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ok... so listen here. she denied the night out for drinks. BUT, she came back with a semi counter offer. (leaving the door open)... that is good. she has some interest.. BUT.. you have friendzoned her, for 9 fucking years..... thats an eternity dude. now all the sudden, you realized after 8 years that you became her friend and now that you are single you dont want that? play this cool. if you want her. just say OK or dont even respond. wait it out a few days, ask her for another date. she will a…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 06:54 PM
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shes got her finger around you. now you are entering the feminine polarity, with hampstering and becoming needy and chasing... let it go. you havent even been out on a 2nd date yet and already you are just waiting there, like a desperate cat, for her to get in touch with you. at this point, it shouldnt even matter if it takes a week for her to get back to you. stop texting anyway. this early in the dating, you should be only texting to make plans and get her out on a date. nothing in between. no…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 06:18 PM
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lol....... shes totally fucking 20 dudes...... jesus people. read this post over and over. can people not do anything with their own lives anymore without someone getting totally insecure and scared about it? maybe shes checking email? maybe shes shopping on amazon...... peoples entire lives are accessible on their phones now. unless shes doing other things in your relationship that are shady, let it the fuck go. not everything a women does means shes cheating on you.
/r/askTRP30/03/17 06:14 PM
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yes, you are being insecure. dating for a month and you are acting like you have been married for 5 years...... DATING...... read it again..... DATING. she can still go out and do her thing. until her attraction builds for you more, and you discuss being exclusive, you don't have much boundaries. you are trying to lock her down subconsciously, while shes still going to want to experience life. when she starts bringing up being exclusive and asks where shits going, there bring up some boundaries,…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 05:30 PM
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how often is she going out to the bar and drinking/partying? if this is something she is doing constantly, without YOU. then yes, fuck that. it should be addressed. if she is going out every once and awhile for a drink or two to socialize with her friends, whats the big concern? you go out with your friends too and do your own thing right? dont mate guard. but if this is something she is doing frequently and clearly it bothers you... then it should be addressed. not in a controlling way. just in…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 05:12 PM
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so no big deal. share what you wanna share. if the girls you are meeting are offended and wanna start drama over it, remove their friendship from fb and move on.. who gives a shit?
/r/askTRP30/03/17 04:56 PM
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yep. he will only learn when she leaves him. nothing you can do. anything you say to him about him spending less time with her will only drive a clutch between your friendship. people like this have to WANT to learn for themselves. if they cant help themselves, they will never change. just like alcoholics. no one can talk them into behaving differently. if he experiences shit like this a few times in his life, he may realize he needs to change. until that time comes, you cant do shit about it. (…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 04:35 PM
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do what you feel like.. a lot of TRP is in regards to dating/plating/hooking up. but surely, if you want an LTR, pursue it. just keep some of the RP knowledge and don't start changing how you acted with her... of course, with any LTR, you need to sprinkle in a little comfort over time, otherwise your they won't feel safe with you. nothing wrong with being exclusive with someone that treats you right. just remember, she isnt a unicorn. she is still a women. she is still going to get emotional and…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 04:05 PM
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you fucked up when you got mad and said 'im not taking this shit'. you showed that her change of emotions affected you severly. the better approach would have been to say 'ok' and just go silent for a bit. when in doubt, its always better to STFU. the more you start saying when you are angry, the worse its going to go. also, get used to it. womens emotions are rollercoasters... ALL WOMEN. nothing you can do about that. you need to learn how to ride out the storms and not let their change of emot…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 03:51 PM
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the bigger question is, what type of shit are you posting on social media that causes so much damn drama that you want to avoid sharing your sites completely? jesus man... stop posting stupid shit and then just share the crap. if they are giving you shit for stuff you did in your past, then thats not the type of person that you should be wasting time with anyway.
/r/askTRP30/03/17 03:46 PM
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meditation. i do think you might need to seek a therapist, like others have mentioned. i dont think my overanalyzing issues were quite as severe as yours, but you know, meditation really did work numbers for me.. now i can recognize when my thoughts get out of control and actually step back and stop them... it doesnt happen overnight, but with the right train of thought and practice, you can conquer it on your own. i also recommend reading the power of now, by eckhart tolle. great book. really h…
/r/askTRP30/03/17 03:28 PM
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you must have missed this post earlier. https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/628kz1/explain_this_shit_to_me_i_saw_a_fat_short_brown/
/r/askTRP29/03/17 11:28 PM
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lol ok...... well good luck then. just hearing your response, clearly its your attitude.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 11:20 PM
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you can get anyone you want.... with whatever physical features you have.... mindset, man... change yours before you do anything drastic. height and cock size has NOTHING to do with getting the type of women you want.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 11:05 PM
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it is possible. but its going to solely depend on the type of woman she is. many of them want to be exclusive. and once they have that, its hard for them to be in any type of open relationship. my opinion: be honest. tell her you are no longer interested in being exclusive and see if she is open to the idea of an open relationship. if not, she can walk away... she is probably going to be upset. and its likely you will lose this one for good. but IMO, its better than leading her on and cheating. …
/r/askTRP29/03/17 10:30 PM
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yikes... there's no coming back from this one unless she actually was the one reaching out attempting to make it work again. women control how the relationship progresses forward after dating. you blew it. learn from your mistake. if you land yourself a catch in the future you should think things through before just ending it. whyd you dump her anyway? if she did something to make you want out of the relationship, why are you second guessing yourself now? (ill give you the answer... its your ego…
/r/askTRP29/03/17 09:01 PM
1

'do you like doggy style? we don't have to go out on the lawn or anything.."
/r/askTRP29/03/17 08:49 PM
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what in the actual fuck did i just read? you got butthurt over a girl not sending you a specific picture you requested?....... get reading son. you have a lot of work to do on yourself before expecting to handle an LTR with a woman.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 08:28 PM
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i generally weaned them out over time. obviously didnt make anymore plans with them. but they would text/call to do stuff. would say i was busy etc... eventually stopped responding all together and they got the hint... some actually didnt and were very persistent. lol. did the same technique until eventually they stopped.
/r/askTRP29/03/17 07:04 PM
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33 here too.... darkness warshed over me when i read your post. fuckin-A
/r/askTRP29/03/17 04:12 PM
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not sure why this would bother you. the fact you are focusing so strongly on it is only going to kill your insides from overanalyzing and creating problems/worries for yourself that potentially dont exist. you are def being pathetic. basically you are going to start stalking her/watching her every move (mate guarding). if you want her to leave you, continue on the path. fact of the matter is, girls that are heavy on social media are going to have a ton of male orbiters and desperate dudes that a…
/r/askTRP29/03/17 03:52 PM
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so let me get this straight. you were invited over to her place since yours was unavailable, which was good that you were direct, but then got butthurt because your other friends from the inner circle were hanging out too? you should have had a good time regardless, she let you come over to chill. i think its a little weird she didnt mention other X people were also going to hang out and you should join, that seems like it would be a common courtesy, but hey, fact of the matter is she likes you …
/r/askTRP29/03/17 03:39 PM
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wayyyyyyy too much texting and not enough escalating to hang out. if you have so much in common, talking on a date should be no problem. you fucked up when she asked when she could see your stuff, you didnt reply with "why dont you come over X day and ill show you" (ie getting her back to your place or even out of the house)..... you have her number, she has yours, dont chase. let her come to you. if she is interested, she will... otherwise, keep fishing. you def dont want to follow up/pursue if…
/r/askTRP28/03/17 11:02 PM
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haircut is easy. skin is easy by actually showering and taking care of yourself more frequently. get contacts for the glasses?. these are all easy solutions. sounds like its all in your head. you just arent willing to make the changes. like i said, better attitude would go along way for you. change your username from sadjohn to happyjohn... wtf man. being all pouty and desolate about it isnt going to change shit. you arent even trying. stop being lazy. if you want to change, but in the fucking w…
/r/askTRP28/03/17 10:37 PM
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how can you be less ugly? die and come back someone else..... in all seriousness, all you mentioned is a good start... followed by a better attitude. if you keep calling yourself ugly, you will feel that way.... if you actually, deep down, feel you are happy with yourself, the confidence will radiate...... and fyi. women dont care as much about looks as men do, they are looking to connect on a more emotional level. so im sorry to inform you, your looks dont matter as much as you think they do.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 10:32 PM
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well... i feel ya OP... its a tough age. because when you first met, she probably wasnt too hardcore into partying (i could be wrong). but as they start nearing 21, they want to get out and experience the bars/drinking/clubs/etc... this is the age most people should be single and experience these 'fun times' of life. not in anything serious. fact of the matter is, you have to let them walk and let them experience that if thats they want. BUT, you have to be willing to do the same with your own p…
/r/askTRP28/03/17 10:23 PM
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LOL. jesus christ dude........ women.......
/r/askTRP28/03/17 09:59 PM
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touche... note made!
/r/askTRP28/03/17 09:58 PM
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pretty much nailed it bro. i just dont feel i/we arent ready for that step in our relationship. i am still bettering myself (ive been on this path for a good year now).. i bought my own home. i have my career in check for the last decade, own a couple of cars. but, i grew up with my mom raising me... she obviously couldnt teach me to be a man. i have been figuring out in my recent years, that i have been feminized, so thats what i want to improve before i introduce a woman into my household. i a…
/r/askTRP28/03/17 09:56 PM
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she says she wants to stop talking. so you comply and agree... and she talks to you....... funny how that works, huh? (noobies, take notes here... chasing always backfires) yes, as you know, you should have not communicated at all. but, it happened. its in the past. in my opinion, you got your balls back by standing up for yourself. not a beta move at all to voice yourself. since shes your ex, you owe her nothing, but hey... should be pretty clear from now on. if she tries again, no contact. mig…
/r/askTRP28/03/17 09:28 PM
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i have 3 tats, currently. one on each upper arm, and one on upper back. they are covered naturally by clothing. most people are shocked when they find out i have tats (apparently i dont look like the type). i like to show them off some times. but for the most part, since ive had them for several years, i kind of forget they are there a lot of times. if someone is going to judge you on having tattoos, which are now way more socially acceptable, it won't work out in the long run anyway, especially…
/r/askTRP28/03/17 09:24 PM
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you dont interact. walk by like its just another person on the street. she says hi first, say hi back, keep walking.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 09:05 PM
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i can see how this would work in earlier dating stages... but when its exclusive and you already built up the comfort with an LTR. disappearing for that length of time would make me feel like an asshole.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:55 PM
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until they show up to your house........ hahaha. fuck.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:43 PM
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thanks for the advice. makes sense. i actually did a little research about tantrums and how parents handle them. interesting stuff.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:42 PM
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interesting. so by ignoring i am taking away the power?
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:29 PM
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so its best i dont initiate upon return. (i have a feeling shes waiting for that). wait for her to reach out again. then address that i dont agree with the immaturity she has shown. then what? its pretty obvious im angry at the situation. (i feel like i have resting bitch face right now lol)
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:28 PM
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she wants to move in with me sooner than later. i explained my opinion of it (didnt agree with her) and said that i didnt feel that we are there yet. i explained it in a way that we don't handle conflicts well and i want to better myself as a man so i could put us in a successful position when the time comes - basically, she was expecting for me to welcome her in within months. i was thinking like another year+. (i know i will get flack for wanting to live with my LTR, but hey, this isnt a plate…
/r/askTRP28/03/17 08:12 PM
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with facebook or social media, you will never gain attention of women like that. they use that type of shit to boost their egos by all their male orbiters. all you do is fall into that category, which is why you wont get the attention you are looking for there. also, never, ever, pursue the women in your office. the rule is you get a hold of them zero times. even just once is one time too many. dont shit where you sleep.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 05:05 PM
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if she was into you, she'd initiate texting/phone calls. instead, you have filled the feminine roll and are doing all the pursuing/chasing... so stop lying to yourself. her interest level isnt as high as youd think.. stop chasing - you're being needy. she needs to decide on her own to go after you. you wont buy your way into this girls heart. so don't even think about doing that. you give gifts as acts of kindness when you are treated right.
/r/askTRP28/03/17 04:58 PM
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You put such a high importance on worrying about these girls fucking other dudes, seems like that was important to you. These are things you need to figure out within yourself. Not for anyone else. I was just giving examples of things i find valuable. Im not the one worried about someones N count.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 11:42 PM
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also dude, stop being so judgemental about what people have done in their past. have you not ever done anything stupid? people do dumb shit all the time. we all do things we regret. dont hold it against her because she was experiencing a normal human need (having sex) just because it wasnt with only you. look at what they are doing with their lives currently. are they bettering themselves? look at your own life.. you are here, bettering yourself too.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 11:29 PM
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discuss my values and things that are important to me? sure... thats how you get to know people. i want to know a woman has similar relationship goals as me otherwise we are both wasting time. i want to know she values monogamy. i want to know she values her family (because i want a family too, one day)
/r/askTRP27/03/17 11:26 PM
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so why aren't you discussing your values and beliefs with girls when you meet them? thats how you weed out the characters that won't work for you in the long run. by discussing things that are important to you. point in case, by 2nd date... "are you a virgin", if response is no, move on. not much time wasted.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 11:23 PM
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you are missing the point. stop fucking thinking about bullshit like that. thats what you do! reading the book will help drive a deeper understanding to why you shouldnt live in your past. look....... evaluate her past. is it something you can change? if answer is no, stop fucking thinking about it. her past is NOT your current problem to worry about. if her past is say, something that can be undone, 'she started smoking'.. can she stop? absolutely. worry about helping her quit. or lead her in a…
/r/askTRP27/03/17 11:10 PM
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stop living in the past. fact: you can NOT change what you or anyone else did in their past. why are you dwelling on it and letting it control your present?. you are making a conscious effort to focus on that shit, so until you take your focus off of it, you will forever cloud your thoughts with irrational bullshit. same goes for worrying about your future. (creating illusions that don't exist and worrying yourself for no reason). live in the present moment..... i recommend you go read a book ca…
/r/askTRP27/03/17 11:05 PM
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read a book called the 5 love languages. then ask her to read it. you can certainly buy gifts, IF YOU WANT TO, and you feel she deserves them because she does a lot of things for you, but not because shes asking you to show her how much you care for her. different frame there. (FYI, gift giving is one of the languages, so that might actually work for her - just dont fall into that unless you know thats what she needs from the LTR - also, dont get lost in this to spend $$$ on gifts. they can be s…
/r/askTRP27/03/17 10:40 PM
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i thought she said bye? LOL. winning...
/r/askTRP27/03/17 10:23 PM
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we have all been/still are inexperienced to some extent. thats why we are here. reading about situations. discussing. now you know... one extra notch to becoming a better dude. just stay strong bro.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 10:22 PM
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this. you started chasing hardcore when she said 'the hell with you'. you should have left it with nothing. given her a few days and then tried again... you absolutely did the right thing. your career > any woman. do absolutely nothing until she reaches out. the best negotiation is walking away and not looking back.. chasing any more, defending yourself or apologizing is just going to further seal the door closed. shes not even an LTR. so don't treat it like one. you don't have time for drama li…
/r/askTRP27/03/17 08:39 PM
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and the lesson of this story is.....?....... if some bitch is sending you screen caps from something like tinder of other dudes convos, shes not that interested in you.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 08:35 PM
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oh, so you play her little game better than her and now you're the asshole. got it..... NEXT. good move man.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 08:33 PM
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agreed. dont invest at all with that kinda bullshit... thats a little extreme for a shit test, especially if you are new to each other. no one wants to see other convos on an app like that... fuck that dude. at the same time, screen cap and send this chick some convo with another plate when she says you how good you boned her. (bonus points if she sends nudes along with it). also, good enough response... shorter would have been better. "ok"... then next/move on.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 07:59 PM
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nope, you are not fucked. several people over on MRP (married red pill) have changed their lives around. some times it works, some times it doesnt... but hey, thats also the gamble you are going to take with relationships in general, even if you already have the RP mindset. fact of the matter is, women live in the moment. so if you are bettering yourself as a person, you can certainly turn things around. you will ALWAYS be working to build attraction in any relationship. as soon as people get co…
/r/askTRP27/03/17 07:11 PM
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probably going to be very dependent on the extremity of the situation... but, walk away. for mild scenarios, soft nexting. if its severe. cut all contact.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 05:37 PM
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you are putting her on a pedestal. that is going to ruin your chances right there bud. dont do anything right now. men always fail to realize, when women like you/are attracted to you, they will put themselves in your orbit. the doors open, its just up to you to walk through the door. while i agree social media is a general no-no, you can certainly still send a friend request or whatever and strictly talk logistics on FB (just like you should be doing text game) to get her to go out. that would …
/r/askTRP27/03/17 05:34 PM
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just like any advice you are picking up from TRP, read, think, see what/how it applies to YOUR life, and adjust accordingly. the whole point of advice from anyone, whether its on a forum or in your personal life, is to see things from another perspective. so take it with a grain of salt. fact of the matter is... what one person says they feel is right in a situation, still doesnt justify how that applies to YOU. its your life. you are the only person who can decide what is right and wrong for yo…
/r/askTRP27/03/17 05:16 PM
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you are overthinking it. watch her actions for the next few days. if she starts becoming distant, you will have your answer. if things are seemingly normal, act like the situation never happened. in life, there are things both you and her will get angry/upset about. its human nature. move on from the situation and dont bring it up to her... no comments like "did i make you feel uncomfortable".. "do you not feel safe anymore because..".... none of that. forget it.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 04:37 PM
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you can be as stoic or angry as you want. but a GROUP of thugs > just you. its a losing battle either way. so you made the right decision to not engage. as much as you want to stand up to a group of dudes like that to look like a hero protecting your girl, you would have gotten your ass beat. some times losing is actually winning. they are just shouting words. no big deal. now if one of them laid a hand on your girl. then by all means, thats a reason to stand up and get your ass beat.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 04:11 PM
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simple one... you started chasing too hard via text. fyi, a joke is more of a statement. not something someone has to respond to (its not a direct question). you should have text a funny joke, because you wanted to. not expecting a response. by following up shortly after, it came across as needy. the correct answer would have been, text joke. go a few days without contact, if she doesnt initiate or respond, you just start over and go for direct date question.
/r/askTRP27/03/17 03:48 PM
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you can always try to escalate if you like the girl, man... the key is, if she shows last minute resistance, act cool and dont get butt-hurt over it. be playful. show her you're fun. the key is to build attraction. and you know what, if that is your intent with this girl (to escalate and be more than friends), and things get screwed up, better to find out months in advance so you can find a new prom date. last thing you want is to friendzone yourself in the next 3 months.
/r/askTRP24/03/17 09:57 PM
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i hate her... that being said, fuck this post..
/r/askTRP24/03/17 08:46 PM
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remember dude, every woman is different.. and every RP dude in here is going to be different on what they will deal with and when they push eject... so take what you will from the comments here. if you like the girl, theres no harm in taking things a little bit slow. if shes more shy and reserved, it just takes more time. the point people are trying to get across is just be real to yourself. if you want something, be direct. if shes not giving you what you are looking, keep an open mind with oth…
/r/askTRP24/03/17 08:44 PM
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i feel you man.. i have been dealing with this problem while handling my girl. when she explains her feelings and it turns into something that makes it confronting, my go to is flight... but remember, as humans, we are conditioned to do one of two things... fight back.. or flight. so don't be too hard on yourself. like others said, just need to practice. the fact you made yourself aware of whats happening is already a huge step. ive been like that my entire life (33 year old) and in wasnt until …
/r/askTRP24/03/17 08:28 PM
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this. you are pedestalling this unicorn and you are saying you dont have confidence problems.... ok dude. keep lying to yourself.
/r/askTRP24/03/17 07:53 PM
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it takes time man. once people bond and experience things with people, our minds correlate everything we do with that person. slowly, you will get back to being you.. and happy... just accept itll take a little bit of time to grieve, but most of all, try to keep yourself occupied with the hobbies you like. you'll get through it. and you will be a stronger/better person when you do. nothing you can do except go through the motions.
/r/askTRP24/03/17 07:50 PM
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he will be fine. just sucks he has parents that dont even give a shit about their own childs opinions on a matter like this. too bad. OP, get yourself a fan to circulate air in your room.
/r/askTRP24/03/17 07:21 PM
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well said my friend. ive been doing a lot of this myself the last 6 months, and the bonds have grown so much more solid because of it. as for the OP, sounds like you should go out on a date with some dudes. lol
/r/askTRP24/03/17 07:19 PM
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sigh.... you did one thing right, but fucked up immediately by adding more... women just want you to listen. not solve their problems. so instead of asking "do you want my opinion, or do you want to argue", you should be asking "do you want my opinion or do you want me TO JUST LISTEN" (in a calm respectful manner)... if she asks for you opinion and she doesnt like it, thats on her. you dont have to get defensive or even argue. you can simply agree to disagree. no big deal. Anyway, let her talk a…
/r/askTRP24/03/17 07:13 PM
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listen to a womans actions, not her words... if you like her. and shes giving you the time to hang out, escalate. its obvious if shes giving you time she has SOME interest in you.. if she declines, start dread and remove your attention (dont keep giving her attention while your feelings grow for her - you are going to friendzone yourself). then when she asks why you are distant, you can say you don't want friendship with her, you want _____, be very direct on what you want. if she doesnt feel th…
/r/askTRP24/03/17 05:23 PM
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